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Durable Dad with Tommy Geary095: 5 Things a Kid Should See Their Dad DoOur kids are watching. In this ep we cover five essential things our kids should witness their dad doing. Apologize and admit you're wrong.Let them catch you reading instead of scrolling on your phone.Speak kindly about people. Don't gossip or talk low of someone behind their back. (Or to their face.)Respect your wife – Don't talk condescendingly to her or about her.Ask for help.To learn about upcoming outdoor adventure trips with Tommy, go to tommygcoaching.com and join the email list for announcements about new challenges beyond the sold-out Grand Canyon trip...2025-04-2920 min
The Quit Vaping Podcast64. Vaping and Becoming a Better Dad with Tommy GearyIn today's episode, I have coach guest Tommy Geary on to talk about relationships and vaping. Tommy is a coach that helps men/fathers (an underserved group of people in the coaching space) improve their relationships with their families and with themselves. He helps guys understand what they are feeling and why they are taking the actions they are taking. He also helps them to show up the way they really want to as husbands and fathers.In today's episode, we are going to talk about the specifics of how our thoughts, emotions and substances affect the...2024-09-2542 minDurable Dad with Tommy Geary079: How to Stop Nagging Your KidsI was talking to a buddy the other day about his son’s cleanliness (or lack of), and he said something that I think every dad can relate to. He said he just wants his kids to be decent humans. When our kids go off into the world, we wanna know that we’ve raised a decent person. And this desire can lead us to correct our kids at every opportunity. If we let something slide, we’re not doing our job as a dad to guide them.But actually t...2024-09-1013 minDurable Dad with Tommy Geary078: Get Ahead of the Blow-UpWhen we snap, it seems to happen suddenly.Like it's the last straw, and there's no stopping the volcano eruption.But there are ways to stop it. Today's episode will do a quick review of the thinking cycle – the triad of the only aspects you can control in your life: your thoughts, emotions, and actions. This thinking cycle is the key element in getting in front of the blow-ups and choosing a better way to communicate when you're mad. This is how we slow down time and see the world...2024-09-0313 minDurable Dad with Tommy Geary077: Unwind with a Net Positive ImpactCan watching Netflix or scrolling through social media really help you unwind? Today's episode will look at common strategies men use to unplug at the end of the day, and you'll walk away with better options. Imagine you're an archer, and you have a quiver of arrows on your back. Each of these arrows is a strategy to unplug for a moment. Some of these arrows leave you with a net negative impact (aka less energy), and some leave you with a net positive impact (aka more energy.The struggle is, most net negative arrows a...2024-08-2716 minDurable Dad with Tommy Geary076: Gain the Courage to Screw UpAre you screwing up enough?We’ve seen all the memes about “failing forward” and “using failure as a stepping stone.” But STILL, subconsciously, we let the fear of failure hold us back. That fear is hardwired into us, and until we put ourselves out there and fail over and over, that fear will lock us down. Because deep down, we believe failure is a problem.But failure is not the problem. What we make failure mean is where we’ll find our problem. Today’s episode gives three real life examples of fail...2024-08-2013 minDurable Dad with Tommy Geary075: Influence vs ControlWhile we can’t control other people, we CAN influence them.In fact, we’re influencing others at all times, whether we want to or not – Especially our kids.Our influence happens because of a function in our brain called neuroception.Neuroception is constantly reading the room – assessing the people and surroundings to evaluate: safe? Or not safe?Neuroception takes in another person’s body language, tone of voice, eye movement, every micro-expression. And it all happens subconsciously, without effort so we can read whether another person is calm and in cont...2024-08-1312 minDurable Dad with Tommy Geary075: Influence vs ControlWhile we can’t control other people, we CAN influence them.In fact, we’re influencing others at all times, whether we want to or not – Especially our kids.Our influence happens because of a function in our brain called neuroception.Neuroception is constantly reading the room – assessing the people and surroundings to evaluate: safe? Or not safe?Neuroception takes in another person’s body language, tone of voice, eye movement, every micro-expression. And it all happens subconsciously, without effort so we can read whether another person is calm and in cont...2024-08-1325 minDurable Dad with Tommy Geary074: Empower Your TeamWe have impact (not control) over our employees. And as their leader, THE most IMPACTFUL thing we can do, is clean up our thoughts about them – especially if it’s an employee that can get under our skin. Here’s why: When we’re mildly annoyed by an employee, they feel it. Humans can tell if they’re wanted in the room, or not.And if they’re not wanted, they aren’t able to open up to their best, most authentic self. And they’re not set up to do their best, most in...2024-08-0612 minDurable Dad with Tommy Geary073: Dismantle Your PlaybooksA playbook is a set of expectations we have for another person.If you were the coach of a football team, you’d have a set of playbooks, and you’d expect your team members to play the game accordingly. We do the same thing in life with ordinary people, except they rarely play according to our expectations. And that’s why our kids’ can be friggen frustrating. Or our wife, employees, or parents…The helpful thing to do is to take a look at your playbooks.For example, if you’re ho...2024-07-3014 minDurable Dad with Tommy Geary072: Master the Worry MatrixMen have a list of things to worry about. Take your pick:- Are you saving enough money?- Will your kids turn out okay?- Will your kids have fond memories of you?- Are you failing in your career?If you really pay attention and listen to the voice in your head, it’s probably worrying. A lot. Yet, worrying is the most useless action we can take. Today’s episode will teach you how to use the worry matrix – a series of three questions that’ll snap you o...2024-07-2313 minDurable Dad with Tommy Geary071: Control your Anger like a StoicSchool probably taught you how to read and write, but skipped over how to handle bad news, failure, or disappointment.This is where stoicism comes in. Stoicism teaches us how to handle the difficult things in life. One of THE hardest skills to develop is to focus on what’s in our control rather than what’s out of our control. It’s a core principle of stoicism, and discerning and focussing on what you control will free you of the bulk of your difficulties.Listen to today’s episode for...2024-07-1617 minDurable Dad with Tommy Geary070: Confront your ExhaustionOne dad told me, “I wake up at 4:57 each morning, put on my pants, and go nonstop until 9pm when I watch 30 minutes of Netflix and crash. Then I wake up and do it again.”And I think 99% of dads can relate.The list of todos is exhausting. At least some days. That feeling’s not going to go away unless we make a few changes. The first is to take ownership of our situation. There is no “have to,” or “I got dragged into it.” We’re there by choice.The secon...2024-07-0912 min
The Quarterback DadCastAdoption, Parenting, and Personal Growth: Tommy Geary, Host of The Durable Dad PodcastSend us a textWhat happens when you combine a love for sports, family adventures, and a passion for personal growth? Join us as we sit down with Tommy Geary, The Host of the Durable Dad podcast, who shares his exciting journey as a football enthusiast, surfer, skier, and dedicated father. More importantly, we explored the powerful adoption journey like we did with John Ruffini. This episode is a heartwarming reminder of the importance of being present and savoring the small, meaningful moments in parenting.Get ready for an exhilarating ride as we e...2024-07-031h 08