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Divorce Your Story Podcast194. Losing the Marriage, Finding the Man: Beyond Performance, Provision, and Pressure w./ Jerry VavalWhen divorce happens, the focus often centers on women, their stories, their pain, and their healing. And while that’s important and necessary, we also have to acknowledge this truth: Men go through it too.They hurt.They question their worth.They wrestle with identity, guilt, and the quiet pressure to keep showing up even when their world feels uncertain.In this episode, I sit down with Jerry Vaval, father of four, career professional, and co-host of The Giant Fundamentals Podcast, for a real and vulnerable conversation about life after divorce fr...
2025-10-211h 32Divorce Your Story Podcast192. Intentional Parenting: Raising Emotionally Healthy Kids, Rebuilding Trust, and Making Space for Joy in Motherhood w/ Destini AnnMotherhood after divorce can feel like a maze of guilt, responsibility, and uncertainty. But what if there’s still space for joy, softness, and emotional connection even in the messiness?In this episode, Destini Ann invites us into a real and heartfelt conversation about what it means to parent on purpose especially when you're rebuilding after loss, navigating co-parenting dynamics, or questioning whether you’re getting it right.This isn’t about getting it perfect. It’s about being present. It’s about learning to see beneath the surface of your ch...
2025-09-021h 14Divorce Your Story Podcast191. Redefining Life After 40: Divorce, the Courage to Lose, and the Boldness to Dream Again w/ Patrice WashingtonThere’s a script the world tries to hand women at 40, especially those who are divorced.It says your best years are behind you, that you're less desirable, that you're too old to start over, that if your marriage ended, you must have failed. It tries to convince you that dreaming, dating, and even redefining your life isn’t for you anymore.But what if that script is a lie?In this powerful and deeply honest conversation, I’m joined by Patrice Washington; transformational speaker, author, and founder of The Institute for Redefining Wealth...
2025-07-291h 16Divorce Your Story Podcast190. The Mask of the Good Christian Woman: Hyper-Religious, High-Achieving, and Hurting in Silence w/ Vernique Esther, LCSWFor so many women of faith, the desire to honor God in love and marriage runs deep—especially when the faith you hold so dear starts to feel at odds with the reality you’re living.When unhealthy theology is taught in the name of God, it becomes hard to separate what’s true from what’s been twisted.You start to question:Is suffering a part of being faithful?Is silence really strength?Is staying—no matter the cost—what God actually wants?Does submission mean self-abandonment?Am I supposed to endure everything?The truth...
2025-07-091h 27Divorce Your Story Podcast189. Divorce Isn’t Just Paperwork: Why Custody, Support & Co-Parenting Agreements Can’t Be Taken Lightly w/ Family Law Attorney Maiya SafikovsWhen most people think of divorce, they think of courtrooms, documents, and signatures. But let me be clear: divorce is more than just paperwork. The decisions made around custody, support agreements, and co-parenting aren’t just legal steps — they have lasting emotional, financial, and relational consequences.In this episode, I’m joined by Family Law Attorney Maiya Safikovs — a powerhouse legal mind known for her strategic insight and deeply compassionate approach. Maiya helps individuals navigate the divorce process with clarity, strength, and care. Together, we break down the legal realities of divorce, from parenting plans and custody structur...
2025-06-251h 23Divorce Your Story Podcast188. God Doesn’t Hate You: A Real Talk on Divorce, the Power of Singleness, Forgiveness, and Trusting Him With What’s Next w/ Dr. Dharius DanielsWhen you’re a person of faith—someone who honored your vows before God—going through a divorce can shake you to your core. It’s not just the loss of a marriage; it’s the lingering question many struggle with silently: “Does God hate me because I’m divorced?”Scripture has often been misquoted or misinterpreted in ways that leave people feeling condemned, ashamed, and distanced from God—especially in Christian communities that emphasize marriage as the ultimate goal.In today’s episode, I’m joined by Dr. Dharius Daniels for a real, grounded conversation about wha...
2025-06-171h 04Divorce Your Story Podcast187. Divorce Without Regret: Why Your Voice Matters & How to Advocate for Yourself During the ProcessWhen navigating decisions in divorce—whether financial, legal, or related to co-parenting—every choice has long-term effects. Being an active voice in these decisions is necessary to ensure that your next chapter and your children's future remain secure and intact. Failing to be involved in these decisions can leave you vulnerable to outcomes that don’t align with your best interests.Decisions may be made for you that don’t reflect your needs, values, or long-term goals.You may agree to terms that create financial strain or unnecessary hardship.Your co-parenting arrangement may not fully support...
2025-03-1324 minDivorce Your Story Podcast186. Divorce Prep 101: 7 Key Steps to Prepare & Take Control of Your JourneyLife-altering events like divorce can shift your entire life plan. It’s crucial to recognize that this process requires active participation and effort. Divorce doesn’t automatically become smooth, easy, or organized by chance—it takes intentional preparation. While deciding to divorce is an act of courage, it’s equally important to get clear on the steps you need to take to ensure you’re educated and equipped for this journey. Being informed empowers you to: Make informed decisions with clarity on your direction. Take control of your journey, reducing overwhelm...
2025-02-1930 minDivorce Your Story Podcast185. 10 Mindset Shifts You Need to Make to Thrive After DivorceA common statement I hear from those who have experienced divorce is the strong desire to build a better life afterward. However, what often gets lost after the process of uncoupling is the ability to reclaim control and intentionally design a life that allows them to thrive.
It’s easy to slip into autopilot mode because:
You’ve spent so much time navigating the emotional and logistical aspects of divorce that creating a new vision for yourself feels overwhelming.
You’re accustomed to prioritizing survival over intentional growth.
Old patterns, limiting beliefs, and self-doubt make it diffic...
2025-02-0645 minDivorce Your Story Podcast184. Moving Forward Stronger After Divorce: Giving Yourself Permission For 20252025 is here, and my personal message to you is to give yourself unapologetic permission to show up for yourself this year! So much can unfold in a single year, and while experiencing a divorce or breakup can bring challenges, it also opens the door to new possibilities. This year, I encourage you to embrace change, trust your journey, and step into your true potential without hesitation. You have the power to create the life you desire, and it starts by giving yourself the permission to take bold, intentional action.
In this episode, join me as I explore...
2025-01-1632 minDivorce Your Story Podcast183. It’s Scary to Remarry: A Man’s Journey Through Divorce, Healing, and Embracing Love Again w/ Shon HynemanExperiencing divorce, navigating its aftermath, and opening up to the possibility of love again—these steps carry a profound significance for men, often requiring them to face emotions they’ve long buried. It’s more than just rebuilding; it’s about redefining who they are as individuals and as partners. For many men, the journey to healing involves embracing vulnerability, overcoming fears of repeating past mistakes, and rebuilding trust in themselves and others. This transformation is essential for establishing genuine connections and rediscovering love.
The end of a marriage can trigger intense feelings of shame, failure, and deep gri...
2024-11-1351 minDivorce Your Story Podcast182. Escaping Domestic Violence: Planning Your Way Out, Building a Thriving Life, & What Victims Wish Others Understood w/ Lisa ThiombianoAs we close out the month of October, it’s essential to shine a light on an issue impacting millions across the globe—domestic violence. October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month, a time to recognize the profound impact domestic violence has on individuals and families and to support survivors in their journey to healing and freedom.
The statistics are staggering: in the United States alone, nearly 1 in 4 women and 1 in 9 men will experience severe intimate partner violence in their lifetime. Every minute, 20 people fall victim to physical abuse by an intimate partner—amounting to over 1...
2024-10-281h 06Divorce Your Story Podcast181. Breaking Up Without Breaking Your Kids: 7 Key Parenting Mistakes to AvoidDivorce can be a challenging and emotional time, not only for the parents but especially for the children. While there are many concerns parents have regarding their children's well-being, what can easily get overlooked are the subtle emotional impacts this transition can have on them. Parents may focus on practical aspects like custody, finances, and new living arrangements, but it’s essential not to lose sight of the emotional and psychological needs of the children during this time.
In this week's episode, I highlight 7 critical mistakes parents should avoid before, during, and after divorce to ensure their ch...
2024-10-0331 minDivorce Your Story Podcast180. Feeling Like You Stayed Too Long in Your Marriage/Relationship? 4 Ways To Let Go and Move ForwardWhen someone spends a large part of their adult life in an unhealthy marriage, feelings of regret often surface. They might feel as though they sacrificed what society deems their "best years" or "youth," and this regret can become overwhelming, leading to emotions like guilt, shame, embarrassment, and even anger.
When dealing with the grief of a divorce, regret is a common feeling to experience. However, what becomes problematic is when that regret starts to dominate your thoughts and actions, preventing you from moving forward. It can keep you stuck in the past, replaying decisions over and...
2024-09-1922 minDivorce Your Story Podcast179. Live Q&A: Leaving a Cheating Boyfriend Behind, Exiting a Long-Term Marriage, Financial Abuse, and Keeping Tabs on My Ex OnlineWe officially wrapped up our 7-Day "Beyond The Breakup" Workshop, and during that time, we hosted a Live Q&A to address some of the most pressing questions and challenges our participants faced. In this episode, we discuss the realities of moving on from a cheating boyfriend, the preparation of exiting a long-term marriage, and financial abuse. We also touch on the temptation to keep tabs on an ex-partner through social media, exploring the impact this can have on your healing process.
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2024-08-2937 minDivorce Your Story PodcastRe-Aired Episode! Moving On: 5 Signs You’re Healing From Your Previous RelationshipWhen it comes to "healing" from a previous relationship, questions such as:
"How long will this take?"
"Will I ever get through this?"
"When will I feel better?"
Often come up, but the answer isn’t always straightforward.
The truth is, everyone’s healing process is unique, but there are signs that can indicate you're making progress.
In this week’s podcast, join me as I discuss common misconceptions about healing and share my top five signs to help you determine if you’re moving forward on your journey.
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2024-08-2226 minDivorce Your Story Podcast178. Moving Beyond Survival: A Journey of Finding Peace & Getting Unstuck After 11 years of Marriage w/ LaNita Dennis-RamseyWhen a marriage ends, you're often encouraged to "live your best life," but what does that really mean when your identity has been deeply tied to your marriage?
When you're used to a certain dynamic, the idea of redefining your best life can easily get overlooked. It's not because you don't desire something better; it's because anything outside of your familiar routine can feel unnatural, making it easy to fall back into the safety net of survival mode.
To truly live your best life, you must be intentional. This requires deep reflection on your decisions...
2024-08-151h 00Divorce Your Story Podcast177. Divorce Recovery: 7 Essential Tips for Your Healing JourneyWhen you first start the journey of healing from a relationship, it's common to have many concerns.
You might ask yourself: How long will this take? Why isn’t it happening faster? What will my life look like after this? Will I ever feel like myself again? Why do I feel good one moment then the next moment, I feel frustrated, sad, and overwhelmed?
This is because, in the early stages, healing can be unpredictable and emotionally intense. On this week's podcast, join me where I'll share my top 7 ti...
2024-08-0924 minDivorce Your Story Podcast175. [Movie Review] - 'Divorce In The Black' - My Top 5 Real Life LessonsJoin me this week as I share my top five takeaways from Tyler Perry's new movie "Divorce In The Black" and explore how they relate to real-life divorce situations.
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2024-07-1830 minDivorce Your Story Podcast174. Breakup Burnout to Balance: Four Steps to RecoveryWhen discussing "burnout," it's often associated with work; however, burnout can also occur in relationships, especially after the end of a marriage or partnership.
The emotional stress, imbalance of efforts, unhealthy dynamics, adjusting to a new normal, and a constant cycle of fight or flight can lead to physical, mental, and emotional exhaustion.
Recovering from burnout is not an overnight fix; it is a process that takes time. However, with the right routines, strategies, and habits, you can gradually regain your strength and well-being.
On this week's podcast, join me as I discuss...
2024-07-1230 minDivorce Your Story Podcast173. Letting Go of Others' Opinions: 6 Questions To Break Free & Live Your Life After Divorce/BreakupWhen divorce happens, judgment inevitably follows. Whether from culture, religion, or societal expectations, everyone seems to have an opinion on your decision.
This judgment can lead to anxiety and depression, causing you to feel stuck and unable to move forward into the next chapter of your life.
While you can't prevent others from judging your decisions, you can be intentional about how much significance their judgment holds in your life.
In this week's podcast, join me as I discuss the burden of others' opinions...
2024-07-0422 minDivorce Your Story Podcast172. Thriving Post Divorce/Breakup By Having An Exit Strategy - Interview w/ Sonia Hamlin of Grown & Growing PodcastRegardless of popular opinion, divorce marks a significant life transition where the importance of having an "Exit Strategy" often goes unnoticed. Moving on from one phase of life to another involves more than just dissolution; achieving thriving in your next chapter demands a well-thought-out plan and deliberate actions.
Join me this week on the podcast for an insightful interview with Sonia Hamlin, host of the Grown and Growing Podcast. In this episode we discuss crucial topics such as the necessity of strategic planning post-divorce, challenging the narratives we hold onto, recognizing signs of progress...
2024-06-271h 00Divorce Your Story Podcast171. Beyond The Mask of Men: Their Emotional Struggles & Being Misunderstood w/ Jonathan Gustave, LMFTOver 6 million men suffer from depression per year, their suicide rate is four times higher than women and they're more likely to turn to substance abuse as a coping mechanism for mental health issues.
These statistics raises a question: "Are men misunderstood?"
The notion that men are exempt from pain, emotions, or empathy beyond themselves has shaped a distorted view and narrative about men, resulting in being overlooked and misunderstood.
This misconception extends from their closest relationships to societal and cultural norms, creating a...
2024-06-201h 15Divorce Your Story Podcast170. Summer Break Co-parenting: 5 Tips for Your Child's Visit With The Non-Custodial ParentSummer is here, and the school year is coming to a close.
For dynamics where the parents are no longer together, children maybe spending more time with the non-custodial parent. During this time, there's a lot of mixed emotions for the custodial parent, including concerns for their children's well-being, the challenge of co-parenting, and feelings of loneliness while the kids are away.
While it isn't always easy to adjust, when parents prioritize their children, it leads to happier kids and smoother transitions.
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2024-06-1327 minDivorce Your Story Podcast169. Purposeful Changes: Podcast Rebrand, Strategic Shifts & 3 Universal Lessons For Growth After Divorce/BreakupWelcome to the newly updated "Divorce Your Story" podcast, named after my book! This title aligns perfectly with our podcast's mission: to help you break free from any limiting narratives in your mind and emotions in your heart that are holding you back from thriving in your next chapter.
Join me as I discuss the reasons behind the new name and share three universal lessons that can support your growth and healing after a divorce or breakup.
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2024-06-0620 minDivorce Your Story Podcast168. Emotionally Unavailable Partners: Recognizing the Signs and Exploring Four Reasons Behind the AttractionWhen you find yourself consistently engaging with individuals who appear to be closed off, distant and emotionally disconnected, it's imperative to reflect and get clear on what this means for you.
While it may be much easier to label them as "emotionally unavailable" and move on to someone else, it's crucial to recognize that if this pattern persists, there's likely something deeper at play that needs exploration and understanding.
Join me on this week's podcast as we discuss the signs of someone who is emotionally unavailable, explore potential reasons b...
2024-05-3028 minDivorce Your Story Podcast167. Dating After Divorce: Being Confident, Knowing When You're Ready, and Leading with Your Core Values w/ Sade CurryThe topic of "Dating" is widely discussed, with much advice on how, when, and whom to date.
Following divorce, you frequently get asked "When are you doing to date again?" that brings much pressure to just "put yourself back out there" however, is that the best approach?
It's important to recognized that re-entering the dating scene post divorce is different. This involves the people you meet, yourself and even your life experiences.
From being too vulnerable, dating similar people to even relationship bouncing can...
2024-05-151h 31Divorce Your Story Podcast165. Four Key Approaches to Protect Your Mental Health During a DivorceNavigating the divorce process can significantly affect your mental health. The legal proceedings, financial changes, shifts in living situations, custody and co-parenting arrangements, lifestyle adjustments, and changes in social circles can all contribute to persistent stress and impact a person's quality of life for a period of time.
This can trigger anxiety, depression, and potentially harmful coping strategies, which can intensify mental health issues and hinder your progress.
In this week's podcast, join me as I talk about the potential mental health challenges during a divorce and explore four ways to protect your mental health...
2024-05-1429 minDivorce Your Story Podcast166. Becoming The Best Mom You Can Be: My Top Six Insights!Motherhood is a multifaceted journey that encompasses a variety of roles, experiences, and emotions. Striking a balance between family, work, and personal needs can be quite demanding.
So, what happens when divorce is added to the mix? For mothers facing this change, their children's well-being and their ability to parent effectively in this new situation become major concerns.
Worries about not doing enough, overextending themselves, and comparing themselves to other parents can lead to mom guilt, resulting in overwhelm, doubt, increased stress, fatigue, burnout, and exhaustion.
2024-05-0932 minDivorce Your Story Podcast164. Are You Self-Sabotaging? How to Identify and Four Steps to Break FreeIt's natural to want something better for your life, but what happens when you're faced with the challenge of pursuing it?
Do you make excuses for why you can't achieve it?
Do you focus on what's wrong out of fear for yourself?
Do you convince yourself not to try?
Do you withdraw as a means of self-protection?Do you resist embracing change?
Do you revert to familiar patterns?
Following a divorce, self-sabotage can become a real concern. Making better choices, nurturing...
2024-04-2527 minDivorce Your Story Podcast163. Your Questions Answered: When Your Partner of 31 Years Decides To Depart"Moving On" can be much harder than it sounds, specifically when dissolving a partnership of 31 years. The process to disentangle yourself can be emotionally and logistically challenging, compounded by the weight of shared history and intertwined lives.
After spending the majority of your adult life with someone, picking up the pieces and creating a new one can seem dauting, overwhelming and uncertain.
On this week's podcast, join me as I answer a question from an email I received from someone in regards to her partner leaving after being together...
2024-04-1733 minDivorce Your Story PodcastRe-Aired Episode! Post-Divorce/Breakup Healing: 3 Essential Inner Work PracticesWhen you hear things such as:
You need to heal OR
You need to do your inner work
You could be left to wonder "What does that mean?", "What does that look like for me?"
And when you're unsure on what it means, it becomes ignored due to the lack of understanding on why this is necessary and how it can enhance your quality of life.
Although everyone's journey of doing their own inner work looks different, there are similar activities that "inner work" involves for anyone.
On this week's podcast, jo...
2024-03-2125 minDivorce Your Story PodcastRe-Aired Episode! Trailblazing Forward: 3 Important Things to Remember After Divorce/BreakupAs women, no matter the role or position you're called to fill...we celebrate you!
From our mothers, our sisters, our leaders, our educators, those in healthcare, to entrepreneurship, athletics, politics, etc...your significance is acknowledged!
The month of March is dedicated to honoring the bravery and contributions of women, spanning from the past to the present, who have paved the way for today's generation of women.
Understanding the history of recognizing the contributions that women have made encourages our current and future generations to mirror that success in a way to blaze t...
2024-03-1326 minDivorce Your Story Podcast162. Choosing Myself in Divorce: A Journey of Parenting Four Kids, One with Autism, While Being a Caregiver and Managing Two Jobs w/ Kaysha GriffinWomen are known for wearing multiple hats. From motherhood, marriage, working, taking care of the home, and being there for others selflessly. However, what gets lost in all of those roles is herself.
When an life-altering event such as divorce takes place, the need to advocate for your well-being takes more of a back seat. The default setting shifts to autopilot, and survival mode becomes the new normal.
While conventional wisdom advises self-care, the question arises: How is that possible when managing so many roles in your life?
In this week's podcast episode...
2024-03-061h 27Divorce Your Story Podcast161. Being Misaligned In My Marriage, Breaking Free of People Pleasing, & Becoming Liberated from Perfectionism w/ Jernise YoungWhat often goes unnoticed is the significance of sharing core values when making the decision to get married. While people are frequently advised on various aspects, such as societal expectations, fear of loneliness, or the notion that one's identity is solely defined by relationship status, the crucial factor of alignment in values tends to be overlooked.
These misleading influences can lead individuals to engage in relationships that lack the essential foundation of shared values. Consequently, people may find themselves compromising their authentic selves and entering into marriages that feel forced or incompatible. Recognizing and addressing the importance...
2024-02-281h 09Divorce Your Story Podcast160. Thriving Beyond Divorce: 3 Key InsightsOne of the most challenging yet essential pieces of wisdom when navigating life after a marriage or relationship is envisioning a brighter future for yourself and your children.
Divorces and breakups reshape the trajectory of your life, disrupting carefully laid plans. However, it is crucial to recognize that these changes, though difficult, offer opportunities for personal growth and the creation of new possibilities.
Join me on this week's podcast, as I discuss three key insights about the transformative effects of living beyond divorce and the positive impact it can have on your life.
Re...
2024-02-2122 minDivorce Your Story Podcast159. Your "Single" Season: 4 Essential Pieces of AdviceThe perception of "being single" is frequently clouded by misconceptions, including judgment, pity, and the misguided belief that there must be something wrong with an individual in this status. Society commonly presents being in a relationship as the ultimate accomplishment to validate one's significance in the world. This is a poor representation of many individuals who are single however feels "less than" because they are. What often goes unnoticed is the importance of embracing the unique aspects of oneself and recognizing the sacredness of this phase of life.
On this week's podcast episode, join me as I d...
2024-02-1422 minDivorce Your Story Podcast158. Navigating Valentine's Day After a Divorce/Breakup: 5 Helpful TipsValentine's Day can pose challenges for those who have gone through a divorce or breakup. It can be a reminder of the memories you've shared, a shift in your relationship status, to even feelings of perceived failure accompanied by emotions of disappointment, sadness and loneliness.
In this week's podcast episode, join me as I discuss five helpful tips on managing Valentine's Day after a divorce/breakup.
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2024-02-0721 minDivorce Your Story Podcast157. Why Women Initiate Divorce More: My Top Four ObservationsResearch reveals that a significant 70% of divorces are instigated by women. While common discussions often attribute this trend to notions of women not needing a partner or seeking independence, the underlying data suggests a more nuanced reality. The decision for women to end their marriages is complex and varies from person to person, yet there are shared reasons that resonate across the spectrum.
In this week's podcast episode, I'll discuss the top four reasons why women often take the lead in initiating divorces, going beyond surface-level explanations. Join me as we explore the multifaceted dynamics influencing women's...
2024-02-0128 minDivorce Your Story Podcast156. Strategic Endings: 3 Crucial Questions to AskContrary to what many may believe, your divorce is a big deal. It's not about dwelling in shame, guilt, or a sense of failure, but rather acknowledging the profound impact it can have on various aspects of your life. Some downplay its significance while other remain in so much criticism that there's no room to identify what steps can be taken next. It's pivotal to navigate this phase with self-awareness and openness to understand the path forward for personal growth and recovery.
On this week's podcast, join me as I present three questions to determine whether you...
2024-01-2524 minDivorce Your Story Podcast155. A Year From Now: 3 Questions For Moving On After Divorce/Breakup2024 is here and although January is known for new beginnings, it's also the closing of many marriages/relationships. Yet, what often goes unnoticed is the crucial importance of actively progressing forward and leaving the past behind. The dissolution of a marriage or relationship can significantly impact your psychological well-being, potentially influencing your self-perception, emotional state, and mental health.
Once the decision is made that it's in the best interest of both parties to part ways, the key is the intentional effort to move forward. Join me on this week's podcast episode as I provide three essential questions...
2024-01-1725 minDivorce Your Story Podcast154. Navigating the Holidays After Divorce: 5 Essential Tips for ParentsThe holiday season after divorce can bring much added stress and overwhelm for both parents and children. Moving away from established traditions towards new arrangements can trigger a range of emotions including loneliness, sadness and anxiety.
A primary concern for parents remains centered on safeguarding their children's welfare. Providing reassurance, emphasizing emotional stability, and preserving a sense of normalcy are paramount during this period of transition. Although it may seem unrealistic, it's crucial to remember that small steps can make a significant difference.
On this week's podcast episode, join me as I give five essential...
2023-12-0624 minDivorce Your Story PodcastRe-Aired Episode! "Three Approaches of Being Thankful In a Season of Uncertainty"The attitude that a person should just be grateful even in difficult times can become burdensome due to the current conditions that they're in.
When a person is "forcing" themselves to just be grateful it strips away the genuineness of it's authentic purpose.
Does this indicate to not be grateful? of course not! However, in displaying gratitude even in seasons of difficulty, the trade off shouldn't be to avoid what's going on around you and within you.
On this week's podcast, join me as I give three things you must do to cultivate...
2023-11-2222 minDivorce Your Story PodcastRe-Aired Episode! "Overcoming Tiredness After Divorce: Three Transitioning Tactics"Feeling worn out? Not just physically, but mentally, emotionally, and spiritually drained? Divorces or breakups often usher in a level of exhaustion that leaves you functioning on autopilot, unable to fully engage with life and struggling with hope for the future. You might experience a sense of emptiness, your thoughts and emotions scattered, grappling with uncertainty about what lies ahead.
This weariness can manifest as mental fatigue, emotional numbness, and spiritual depletion. Over time, it might evolve into depression, isolation, bitterness, cynicism, a negative outlook, and even regret.
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2023-11-1522 minDivorce Your Story Podcast153. Overcoming the Feeling of Failure After Divorce: Three Key Reminders to Move ForwardExperiencing a sense of failure and the belief that you've disappointed your loved ones is a common emotional response during a divorce. However, when these feelings become a lasting, permanent emotional state, it can develop a unhealthy self-perception about an individual resulting in self-sabotage, fear, a loss of trust, and even a pervasive pessimistic outlook.
Persisting in this state of perceived failure can drain your motivation and result in a feeling of defeat, making it challenging to move forward. It's crucial to acknowledge that while feeling like a failure is a natural initial response, allowing it to...
2023-11-0821 minDivorce Your Story Podcast152. T.H.R.I.V.E & Date With Purpose After Divorce - Podcast Interview w/ Sade Curry of Dating After Divorce PodcastReentering the dating scene is a familiar concept for those going through the divorce process. Yet, putting yourself out there encompasses more than just meeting new people; it's fundamentally about your internal state.
The process of divorce inevitably transforms you but the key question is how it transforms you? Despite the societal and cultural emphasis on dating, when considering post-divorce dating, the focus should be on approaching it with intentionality rather than allowing pain to steer the course.
On this week's podcast, join me as I was interviewed with Sade Curry, host of Dating After...
2023-11-0156 minDivorce Your Story PodcastRe-Aired Episode! "Five Relationship Types to Stay Away From"There are just certain types of relationships that should be avoided at all costs! When you decide to "entertain" someone, you're giving them your time, energy and other resources which overtime results in constant investing of a relationship.
It's important to be mindful and considerate of who gets that level of access to you because the person that you choose to entertain impacts the quality of your life.
On this week's podcast episode, join me as I give five types of relationships that you should avoid entertaining!
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2023-10-2526 minDivorce Your Story Podcast151. Walking Away Strong: Leaving My Abuser and Reclaiming My Life w/ Janelle HuntOctober is Domestic Violence Awareness Month which aims to raise awareness, support survivor's, break the silence and work towards the prevention and elimination of domestic violence in all its forms.
Domestic Violence can be physical, sexual, psychological, economical, and/or spiritual.
These patterns are designed to manipulate, isolate, frighten, terrorize and hurt someone in ways that will leave lasting scars, both visible and invisible. By the time, the victim has the courage to leave, the after effects such as depression, self-esteem, anxiety, and post-traumatic stress can continue to impact their lives.
On this...
2023-10-1853 minDivorce Your Story Podcast150. The Journey To Your Best Self After Divorce/Breakup: Four Key StepsWhen divorces/breakups take place, being your "Best Self" is a common objective. However, what can get overlooked is the transformative steps required to make this happen.
In this week's podcast, join me for a conversation as I discuss essential elements for becoming the best version of yourself in the aftermath of a divorce or breakup.
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2023-10-1225 minDivorce Your Story PodcastRe-Aired Episode! "Coping With Relational Hurt and Betrayal: Four Strategies to Recover After Divorce or Breakup"When someone you love hurts you, so much gets processed internally:
• The disbelief and shock of it all
• Your self-esteem gets compromised
• An overwhelm of shame, guilt, and/or self-blame
• Your perception on relationships and people
The impact of feeling betrayed can begin a wave of questions and emotions regarding themselves, the person who betrayed them, and the entire relationship.
On this week's podcast episode, join me as I give four things you need to do to get past hurt and betrayal
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2023-10-0425 minDivorce Your Story Podcast149. Nurturing Body Confidence: Feeling Safe & Secure In Your Own Skin w/ Jasmyne ReynoldsYour beliefs about your body can determine whether you perceive yourself as deserving or undeserving of love and acceptance.
Influences from movies, media, magazines, and our families have embedded messages that can foster an unhealthy narrative, suggesting that bodies not conforming to societal standards are inadequate and lack appeal. Consequently, individuals may develop eating disorders, consider cosmetic surgery, experience suicidal thoughts, or engage in unhealthy dieting.
The mindset that there exists a single, universal body standard compels people to believe that their bodies are either lovable or unlovable.
In this week's podcast, join...
2023-09-271h 19Divorce Your Story PodcastRe-Aired Episode! "Holding On When They're Ready to Let Go"What happens when one person wants to exit out of the relationship and the other one doesn't?
Even though the logical solution is to respect the other person's decision, it's not always the easiest conclusion to come to when you're the person who wants to work it out.
When you're in this cycle of wanting to make the relationship work while the other one doesn't, you're only keeping yourself in a space of denial, shock and the inability to accept that this has happened so you can continue to forward with your life.
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2023-09-2037 minDivorce Your Story Podcast148. Your Questions Answered: Choosing Self-Care Over Self-NeglectWhen it comes to caring for yourself aka "self-care", its significance can easily diminish when it becomes a trendy buzzword and loses its authenticity. However, in its genuine form, self-care serves as a means to honor and demonstrate self-respect, ultimately enhancing your overall quality of life.
Frequently, self-care is reduced to a method of "treating oneself," where it causes a person to only indulge in occasional and often costly acts. Yet, the essence of self-care transcends these occasional indulgences. It is a daily practice, a lifestyle that encompasses various aspects of your well-being, from your mental and...
2023-09-1319 minDivorce Your Story Podcast147. Another Year Wiser: Turning The Page After Divorce/Breakup - 10 Ways To Start Celebrating LifeThis past weekend, I celebrated another birthday. Every year, I take a moment to contemplate the various factors that have played a role in my personal growth and development. One significant aspect of this reflection is the notion of celebrating life.
Life frequently presents us with disappointments that lie beyond our control. Often, when our carefully laid plans do not unfold as expected, it can limit our perspective concerning ourselves and our future.
As I've matured over the past eight years, my outlook on life has profoundly shaped my self-perception, which in turn has had...
2023-09-0624 minDivorce Your Story Podcast146. Your Questions Answered: To Date OR Not To Date at 56?When it comes to dating, specifically after divorce, it involves much more than simply "re-entering the dating scene."
Contrary to what many believe, it takes a lot of courage to step back out in the dating arena when plans to spend the rest of your life with someone has changed.
One of the most complexed and complicated questions is "When will I be ready?". Now although no one can tell you a specific timeframe, a level of personal readiness is essential to approach the dating landscape with greater insight.
On this week's podcast...
2023-08-3128 minDivorce Your Story PodcastRe-Aired Episode! "The Habit of Always Trying to Please People"When the priority becomes pleasing others at the expense of your own well-being and quality of life, it's likely that you've ingrained a tendency toward being a "people pleaser."
This surpasses mere kindness; it has evolved into a pattern where you modify your true self for the sake of others.
Over time, this persistent need to satisfy others transforms into a self-sacrificial inclination, leading to consequences like compromising your core identity, harboring resentment, experiencing stress, facing burnout, and undermining relationships.
On this week's podcast episode, join me as I discuss this topic in...
2023-08-2318 minDivorce Your Story Podcast145. Your Questions Answered: I'm a Woman Who Cheated...How Do I Move On From The Guilt & Regret?When someone in a relationship decides to "step out" it violates the relationship's exclusivity as well as jeopardizes the overall well-being of the relationship.
While public conversations about infidelity often revolve around men, what unfolds when a woman finds herself entangled in such actions? Research indicates that approximately 13% to 15% of women engage in infidelity, driven by motivations distinct from those of men.
In this week podcast, I invite you for a listener's Q&A as we discuss a situation where infidelity was involved on the woman's part and how to move past the pain she...
2023-08-1628 minDivorce Your Story Podcast144. "Situationships"....Save Yourself The HeartbreakThere are many gray areas around entertaining "situationships" a term that is characterized around uncertainty and undefined boundaries. These types of connections can often have a significant impact on individuals both mentally and emotionally. The blurred lines and lack of clear commitment can lead to confusion and unease, potentially causing emotional turmoil.
Although there isn't one "relationship standard" for everyone, it's important to get clear on what works for you and your quality of life.
When you're someone who has difficulty around relational dynamics that lack commitment yet still find themselves entangled in such scenarios...
2023-08-0926 minDivorce Your Story PodcastRe-Aired Episode! "Managing Trust Issues in a New Relationship"Expressions like "I don't trust anyone," "No one can be trusted," "Loyalty is scarce nowadays," and "Opening up will only lead to pain" may appear straightforward, but beneath their surface lies profound implications that hinder genuine connections, vulnerability, and living authentically. When an individual has experienced betrayal in the past, it can substantially affect their current and future relationships. Although you yearn for meaningful connections, you find it challenging to embrace authenticity. The desire for profound bonding contrasts with a tendency to withdraw from vulnerability.
Now, the question arises: How can someone rebuild trust after it has...
2023-08-0228 minDivorce Your Story Podcast143. You Couldn't Have Saved The Marriage All On Your OwnIf you find yourself stuck in a repetitive cycle of mentally and emotionally questioning what you could have done to "save" your marriage, it's essential to ask yourself: Were you inadvertently seeking to play the role of the savior in the relationship?
While it is natural and beneficial to reflect on your past marriage, this introspection can become detrimental if it leads to excessive self-blame and self-criticism due to being overly accountable.
On this week's podcast episode, join me as I discuss the burden of assuming the role of a savior in a relationship, three...
2023-07-2622 minDivorce Your Story Podcast142. Your Ex Is A "Non-Factor" To Your HealingContrary to popular belief, your "ex" holds minimal relevance to your journey of moving forward.
Too much credit is given to someone who no longer holds the same level of significance in your life and when that's the case, the focus needs to change. When the decision has been made to dissolve, it's important to be mindful on how much you're giving "life" to this story.
While reflection is important, it is equally essential to avoid excessive rumination on this story, which can hinder your ability to process the experience. Striking a balance between introspection...
2023-07-1923 minDivorce Your Story Podcast141. The Power of Releasing the Need for an Apology From Someone Who Hurt YouWhen we experience harm from others, it is common to expect an apology as a form of resolution. However, it is crucial to understand that while an apology holds power, it should not be a requirement for our own personal progress.
The reality is that some individuals may choose not to apologize, and this decision is often beyond our control. Nevertheless, we have the ability to seek our own closure independently of their apology.
By finding inner strength and embracing our personal healing journey, we can attain closure and move forward in our lives. Instead...
2023-07-1325 minDivorce Your Story Podcast140. Accepting and Understanding Their Capacity To Be UnavailableOne of the hardest things to understand, specifically when you were available in your relationship, is coming to terms when the other person wasn't. There are numerous reasons as to why this could be however, what gets many in a cycle of attempting to understand is that they the other person's lack of presence personal to their value.
When you continuously allow this to be the reasoning for someone else's behavior, you give away your ability to move forward as well as undermine your own worth. While it's necessary to seek understanding, it's equally important to recognize...
2023-07-0518 minDivorce Your Story Podcast139. From Boys To Men: Exploring Male Childhood Trauma & How It Impacts Them As Fathers w/ Shon HartAccording to fatherhood.gov, research studies indicate that children who have involved and loving fathers are more likely to achieve academic success, develop healthy self-esteem, display empathy and pro-social behavior, and avoid engaging in high-risk activities such as drug use, school absenteeism, and criminal behavior.
While there is extensive discussion surrounding uninvolved fathers, it is important to recognize that the assumption that absent or uninvolved fathers lack the desire to be present oversimplifies the complexity of their situations.
Various factors from their childhood contribute to the absence or limited involvement of fathers in their children's...
2023-06-281h 21Divorce Your Story Podcast138. Redefining Masculinity: Escaping Stereotypes and Embracing Authenticity w/ James HarrisWhen masculinity is often discussed, the focus on predefined characteristics and expectations overlooks the individuality and complexity of men's experiences.
By reducing masculinity to a narrow definition based on traditional ideals of strength, emotional suppression, dominance, and a reluctance to seek help or support, we limit the potential for men to fully express themselves and navigate their challenges in a healthy and authentic way. This can lead to feelings of isolation, internalized pressure to conform, and an inability to address mental health issues effectively.
It is crucial to recognize that men, like anyone else, are...
2023-06-221h 01Divorce Your Story Podcast137. Second Time Around: A Man's Journey From A Shaky 1st Marriage to a Phenomenal 2nd Marriage w/ Quest GreenStudies indicate that second marriages have an even higher rate of divorce than first marriages. When you hear this statistical data, one why think "Why would I get married again if the chances of it ending in divorce are even greater?" However, it's important to consider various factors that contribute to this trend and understand that statistics don't necessarily dictate individual outcomes. While the higher divorce rate in second marriages may seem discouraging, there are several reasons why people choose to embark on this journey once more.
Join me in this week's podcast episode where I have...
2023-06-141h 20Divorce Your Story Podcast136. A Man's Perspective on Navigating Divorce: The Power of Creating Space for Healing and Moving Beyond the Expectation of Forever w/Joseph WilsonContrary to popular belief, divorce poses challenges for both men and women. While it is commonly assumed that men handle it better, studies reveal that men actually face greater difficulties in coping with divorce.
Men encounter a range of obstacles, including internal conflicts, emotional pain, identity issues, and heartbreak. Gaining insight and perspective from men is crucial to understanding how the dissolution of their relationships impacts them.
In this week's podcast episode, I invite you to join me in a conversation with Joseph Wilson. We will delve into his personal journey of ending his seven-year...
2023-06-0858 minDivorce Your Story PodcastRe-Aired Episode! "How Heartbreak Affects Your Mental State"Research suggests that encountering any type of life challenge can affect an individual's mental well-being. Experiencing the loss or termination of a relationship can pose a challenge and potentially impact a person's mental health.
As a relationship dissolves, various aspects such as children, finances, families, friends, time, and memories undergo significant changes.
Neglecting and disregarding your current emotions and thoughts regarding this situation will only delay your healing process and neglect the importance of your mental well-being.
In our latest podcast episode, I invite you to join me for a discussion on the...
2023-05-3119 minDivorce Your Story Podcast135. Breaking Free: Overcoming Guilt About Your Divorce/Breakup - 5 Essential StrategiesWhen couples split, the emotion of guilt can arise and have a significant impact on both individuals involved. It is natural for feelings of guilt to surface during such a challenging time, as people may question their actions, decisions, or the consequences of the separation. However, it is equally important to recognize that dwelling on guilt may hinder the healing process and prevent individuals from moving forward.
It is essential not to internalize what is known as "unhealthy guilt," where one becomes consumed with excessive blame and self-condemnation. Instead, it is beneficial to cultivate a healthy sense...
2023-05-2528 minDivorce Your Story Podcast134. Rewriting Your Story After Divorce - Podcast Interview w/ Jenelle Tremblett of Ebb & Glow PodcastStarting afresh after a divorce can be a time filled with emotional challenges and uncertainty. It's completely natural to experience feelings of being overwhelmed, confused, and unsure about what steps to take next. Amidst the complexities of thinking about your children, finances, co-parenting, and establishing a new sense of self, you are also navigating the emotional aftermath of the divorce.
However, within this difficulty lies an opportunity to embark on a new journey and shape a life that resonates with your values and aspirations. Embracing the process of starting over allows you to redefine your direction, rewrite...
2023-05-1753 minDivorce Your Story Podcast133. The Journey of Courage: Walking Away, Navigating Abuse, Forgiveness, & Trusting Yourself to Love Again w/ Jermeika BurksWhat gets misunderstood quite often is that it's easy to leave a marriage, however it's one of the most challenging decisions to make even when it was the safest option to choose.
When marriages dissolved all kinds of questions arise. You wonder what's next, you wonder if you made the right choice, and you wonder if you could have done more to save the relationship.
It's a difficult decision to make because it often involves letting go of a significant part of your life and accepting a new reality. In addition, social and cultural norms...
2023-05-101h 22Divorce Your Story Podcast132. Finding Strength and Resilience: Rebuilding Life After 50 and a 28-Year Marriage w/ Wendy Telatko"No one gets married to get a divorce"...that's hardly the plan. However, what happens when those plans change? What happens when your life is disrupted in ways that doesn't seem possible to move on?
My client Wendy and I worked together back in 2021 where she was 52 at the time and dissolving a 28 year marriage. The emotional turmoil of infidelity, betrayal and debt weighed heavily on her. She had to sell her home, move out of state, and leave her job to go move in with her sister.
Through hard work, determination, and perseverance, Wendy...
2023-05-0457 minDivorce Your Story Podcast131. Breaking Up and Breaking Free: The Cheat Code to Moving ForwardIn many cases, we are not taught how to intentionally move forward after a breakup, even though relationships commonly come to an end.
The way the dissolution of relationships is often viewed can be problematic, as it may not be recognized as a difficulty, setback, or hardship. This can result in negative consequences, such as being left to figure things out alone, using a rebound relationship as a coping mechanism, neglecting self-care, involving children in the conflict, or seeking revenge.
This podcast episode delves into the cheat code for breaking up and moving forward, highlighting...
2023-04-2730 minDivorce Your Story Podcast130. Don't Postpone Your JoyWhen you're always living in a state of believing that something external must take place in order to have joy, then you're merely going through the motions instead of living a fulfilled life.
Overtime this leads to a life that lacks meaning and purpose, missed opportunities to create memories and connections, and your mental/emotional wellbeing gets compromised.
When you become completely "dependent" on external circumstances to dictate how you always "feel".....you'll find yourself in a constant state of chasing fulfillment from external outlets.
On this week's podcast join me as I...
2023-04-1920 minDivorce Your Story Podcast129. Can You Forgive Your Ex? 7 Questions To Ask YourselfForgiving your ex can be a difficult but important step in moving on from the past and finding peace within yourself.
Oftentimes, forgiveness can seem pressured, forced, or even rushed where a person doesn't make the choice themselves, they suppress their emotions to even minimizing and ignoring the hurt and pain.
Studies have shown that not forgiving can prevent you from moving forward, compromise other relationships, and be harmful to your mental and emotional wellbeing.
On this week’s podcast, join me as I discuss forgiveness, the perspectives that maybe holding your back as...
2023-04-1227 minDivorce Your Story Podcast128. Are You Loyal To An Extreme?Being "loyal" is often a word that many use to define an important quality that people should have however, when "loyalty" becomes the unconditional exchange at the expense of one's own detriment, has the word lost it's true meaning?
Has the expectation of this word become so misused and manipulated where "being loyal" should be at a fault regardless of treatment?
What happens when the quality of being loyal causes you to compromise your boundaries, values and self-respect?
What facts and flaws gets overlooked when blinded by being loyal to this extreme?
2023-04-0527 minDivorce Your Story Podcast127. Authentic Femininity w/ Adrianna Mason OnuboguWhen it comes to dissolving a relationship, a person can easily switch into a state of what looks as protection only be less receiving, less attentive to themselves, as well as the belief that they have to do it all! This approach is normally praised and glorified however, what does it do to a woman and her ability to just "be".
The word femininity in pertaining to womanhood has been a conversation that many have weighed their opinions and thoughts around online. Oftentimes if this attribute is misunderstood, misinterpreted or even misused, it can cause a woman...
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Divorce Your Story Podcast121. The Courage to Love Again w/ Sheri A. & Glenn P. Brooks Jr.According to statistics, the likelihood of divorce increases in 2nd and 3rd time marriages.
When marriages dissolve, one thing that can shift is the conditioning of your heart. Based on the impact of what took place, it can fill a person's heart with pain, sadness, coldness, apathy and hurt with little to no courage to give marriage another chance.
They may wonder:
"Is it worth the risk?"
"Would it be better if I just shut down this part of my life to avoid getting hurt again?"
"I don't want to take the chance and...
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Divorce Your Story Podcast95. Are You Planning For An Intentional Life? - 10 minute talk w/ TonyaDivorces/Breakups hurt, however, what perception has been developed from this experience? What story are you constantly rehearsing, rehashing and replaying in your head and heart?
One thing many overlook when relationships dissolve is developing a new plan. It's easy to become powerless after something doesn't work out and/or go as expected.
We're in the 2nd half of the year and you don't need a New Year to develop and strategize how you want your life to be and who you want to become.
On this week's podcast episode, join me for a...
2022-07-0415 minDivorce Your Story Podcast92. Are you questioning your value? - 10 minute talk w/ TonyaWhen you've displayed support, unconditional love, and a 110% effort in a relationship and it didn't work out, one of the most challenging things is not questioning your value.
When we become attached to the outcome and it didn't come out as expected, you may be in season of asking yourself questions such as: What did I do wrong? What's wrong with me? Why weren't they able to see my value? Only to develop a unhealthy belief system about yourself.
On this week's podcast episode, join me for a 10 minute talk about as I talk about...
2022-05-3012 minDivorce Your Story Podcast90. Q & A w/ Tonya - Surviving a Narcissistic RelationshipDissolving a relationship with someone who's a narcissist can leave a person feeling powerless, drained, emotionally intoxicated and mentally confused.
These relationship dynamics aren't your typical relationship structure. It's filled with control, disrespect, lack of empathy, and manipulation.
By the time someone exits out of relationships such as these, long term effects such as anxiety, depression, trust issues, self-hatred, low self-worth, to even physical symptoms has taken place.
Physically leaving is one aspect, but there's a recovery process that must take place.
On this week's podcast, join me as I answer...
2022-05-1638 minDivorce Your Story Podcast85. Q & A w/Tonya - How Do I Overcome The Fear Of "Being Used" Again?When you've been used in ways that your kindness has been mistaken for weakness, it can cause you to live in isolation and self-sabotage, therefore not experiencing the fullness of life and being open-minded to new relationships.
On this week's podcast, join me as I answer a question in reference to overcoming the fear of being used again. This clips talks about where this fear could be coming from as well as three things to help ease this fear.
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2022-04-0417 minDivorce Your Story Podcast84. Q & A w/ Tonya - "Should I leave My Emotionally Abusive Spouse?"Emotional abuse is one of those "hidden types" that maybe harder to notice. This form of abuse impacts many areas of your life as well as the overall quality of your life.
Emotional abuse magnifies overtime and develops long term effects such as emotional instability, fear, confusion, depression, anxiety, low self-esteem to even extreme codependency of the abuser.
On this week's podcast, join me as I answer a question in reference to leaving your emotionally abusive spouse. This clips talks about what emotional abuse does overtime and the impact it will have on the victim...
2022-03-2821 minDivorce Your Story Podcast80. Do Healthy Relationships Exist? w/ Dr. Patrice BerryThere's heavy awareness and conversations around relationships that involve things such as narcissism, trauma, toxicity to even different types of abuse. However, where does this lead us to think when it comes to healthy relationships? Does it exists? Are healthy relationships even "a thing"?
On this week's podcast episode, join me as I have a conversation with my guest Dr. Patrice Berry, a licensed clinical psychologist with over 15 years of clinical experience to discuss what is a healthy relationship, the characteristics and signs of one, the misconception of healthy relationships, and advice on what to do when you...
2022-02-2859 minDivorce Your Story Podcast79. The Courage to Love Again w/ Kiesha & Marvin RichardsonWhen relationships dissolve, one of the misinterpretations is to get involved in another relationship. However, what many fail to see are the different layers that a person encounters once a relationship ends and one of those layers is the courage to love again.
The conditioning of your heart after a heartbreak can alter where you shut the possibility of loving again out. You take a look at your past experience and wonder "Is it even worth it?"
On this week's podcast episode, join me as I have a conversation with my guests Kiesha & Marvin Richardson...
2022-02-211h 20Divorce Your Story PodcastRe-Aired Episode! "Queenology" - Royalty Is Your Destiny w/ Bishop R.C. Blakes, Jr.This week I've decided to reair one of my most popular episodes!
Divorces and breakups can leave residue of inadequacy, lack and confidence and even the mindset of believing that your worth as a woman has diminished.
Tying your worth to a relationship will always leave you in limbo on your worth as an individual.
Your "Queen" isn't based upon past or current circumstances, it's based on the fact that as a woman, you were already given the gift of being a Queen. However, there are many women who has either forgotten this...
2022-02-141h 04Divorce Your Story Podcast78. Dating Thyself w/ A'Jos-Lyn BrailsfordDoes "Dating Yourself" seem like a weird concept?
Does "being single" make you feel left out?
From society, family, friends, to even relationship experts, there's much emphasis on "being in a relationship" where "being single" seems more of a disadvantage. However, if the relationship we have within ourselves impacts the relationships we bring into our lives then how important is "being single"?
On this week's podcast episode, join me as I have a conversation with my guest A'Jos'Lyn Brailsford aka "The Date Thyself Coach" on the advantage of being single, what you need...
2022-02-0758 minDivorce Your Story Podcast69. When Loving Hard Is Hurting YouHave you ever felt like displaying love is a waste of time when it goes unappreciated and/or taken advantage of?
Do you feel like because you're a loving person that you're always getting burned by others?
People who have the capacity to love hard often lead with their heart. When this happens, things such as lack of boundaries to even compromising their self-care takes place.
Does this mean that a person should stop loving hard? No, this means that there are things that a person must know and implement to still have...
2021-12-0617 minDivorce Your Story Podcast68. Releasing The Mom Guilt w/ Kim Williams"Mom Guilt" can be pervasive amongst mothers where you may feel like you're doing enough to even feeling like you may not be doing things "right".
Are these feelings normal? Yes, they are but overtime, constant mom guilt can lead to other issues such as anxiety, depression, to even being mentally and emotionally absent with your children.
On this week's podcast episode, join me as I talk with Kim Williams of Single Black Motherhood on ways to overcome mom guilt and create the life you want for yourself and your children.
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2021-11-291h 06Divorce Your Story Podcast59. Knowing Your Numbers w/ Catherine ShanahanThe emotional overwhelm of going through a divorce can be very taxing on a person. There are many areas to consider when the dissolution of a marriage takes place and one of those areas is a person's finances.
When you're unclear of your numbers, your decisions moving forward are unclear, the divorce process becomes more stressful than necessary and both parties involved aren't on the same financial page.
On this week's podcast episode, join me as I talk with Catherine Shanahan of My Divorce Solution, as we discuss the severity of knowing your numbers and t...
2021-09-2754 minDivorce Your Story Podcast28. When They Couldn't See Your ValueI get asked this a lot "Tonya, why didn't they see my value?", "What's wrong with me?"
That question will keep you in an endless loop to find an answer, question yourself, and believe that they're inability to see your worth makes you unworthy....
Before you know it, you're connecting the way you view yourself based on the success of the relationship..
We can come up a million reasons as to why someone is unable to recognize the value you have however, It's important to understand what you need to know for yourself...
2020-08-0629 minDivorce Your Story Podcast11. 5 Ways To Manage Divorce StressDivorce can bring a lot of stress and trigger a lot of emotions which causes you to frantic and lose control. The reality is, divorce is a process that takes time to get through. There's the emotional, financial, as well as mental side of things that must be processed at different times. Fear of the unknown scares you and you don't feel like you have the information to move forward. The truth is, nothing changes overnight. Even though you may cannot change what is currently happening as soon as you would like to, being prepared and proactive will put...
2020-03-1838 minDivorce Your Story Podcast9. Celebrate all of you!March is Women’s History Month and as I think about all the women who’ve made an impact in the world and even in our homes and families, it only indicates the tenacity and boldness that we have always had. The reason why we love the women who have been an influence in our lives was not because they had a “problem free” life but the ability to become resilient by not running from life challenges. Have you even thought about how phenomenal you are? Or have you been so concerned about what you don't have, what has happened or w...
2020-03-0432 minDivorce Your Story Podcast8. When starting over seems to muchAny change is challenging, especially the change that you haven't quite prepared for. Rebuilding your life after a departure from a divorce or relationship can almost seems too much to bear. This brings anxiety, frustration, anger and even avoiding the necessary daily duties that is required to rebuild a new life. How does a person handle this while keeping themselves sane? How can a person continue to move forward despite of all the things that need to be done? Join Tonya Carter as she discusses 3 tips that will help you when starting over seems to be too much!
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2020-02-2641 minDivorce Your Story Podcast7. You are enough! PERIODT!Here's the reality: Many will judge you.....When you're doing well and even if you're at your bottom! Knowing that you are enough no matter what season you're in is essential if moving forward is your goal! Every voice will not speak of wisdom, love and necessary correction to move forward. Some voices will be of judgement and criticism. Those voices can overpower the necessary steps you need to take to move forward.Join Tonya Carter as she discusses what you need to know and understand about yourself in order to make this a season of your life and...
2020-02-1931 minDivorce Your Story Podcast6. Handle Valentine's Day like a BOSS!Valentine's Day can be one of many reminders of what you're currently going through. From the endless marketing, the constant Valentine's Day posts on social media to even seeing other couples enjoying themselves out, a weekend getaway and/or getting engaged. Looking at this day in a certain lens creates depression and feelings of failure. Should someone really feel this way because of one day? Have we forgotten the meaning of love? Is love only determined by your relationship status? Join Tonya Carter as she discusses five ways to handle Valentine's Day and the days ahead!
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2020-02-1229 minDivorce Your Story Podcast5. Relationship RecoveryDo you ever wonder will this pain from the relationship ending be over? Will the crying, hurt, anger and frustration ever end? Recovering from a relationship is very similar to recovery from a physical injury but what must be done to recover from this hurt? Join Divorce Coach Tonya Carter as she discusses the ONE major factor to start your relationship recovery journey.
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2020-02-0531 minDivorce Your Story Podcast4. Grieve Your RelationshipEnding a relationship is equivalent to losing a loved one. If moving forward is the end goal then how is that possible when you're not facing your feelings? Society teaches us to be strong and mask any potential emotion that shows vulnerability. Join Divorce Coach Tonya Carter as she discusses what you need to do properly to handle your emotions so that you can thrive.
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2020-01-2935 minDivorce Your Story Podcast3. Getting your life together after a divorce/breakupGetting through the legal part of divorce is half the battle but what about the “life after” process? How can someone start putting their life back together from this experience? How does a person start? What is required to intentionally travel a road that will lead them to live a thriving life? Join Divorce Coach, Tonya Carter on this episode as she shares three different things that you must do to get your life back on track.
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2020-01-2236 minDivorce Your Story Podcast1. About "The ReInventU" PodcastHost, Tonya Carter welcomes you to her new project to help women thrive post their divorce or breakup. This is a brief introduction of the podcast and why it was created.
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