Shows
Optimal Relationships Daily - Dating, Marriage and ParentingLove Vs. Attachment by Tonya Lester on Healthy RelationshipsDiscover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2890: Tonya Lester challenges the common misconception that intense emotional entanglement equals love, revealing how unhealthy attachments and trauma bonds can masquerade as romantic connection. She outlines clear signs of emotional maturity versus toxic cycles, encouraging listeners to choose relationships that support well-being over those rooted in fear and dysfunction. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.tonyalester.com/blog/love-vs-attachment Quotes to ponder:
2026-02-0208 min
Rebel TherapistA Couples Therapist In Couples Therapy With Tonya LesterTonya Lester, LCSW, is the author of Push Back: Live, Love, and Work with Others Without Losing Yourself and a Brooklyn-based psychotherapist and writer. Her essay, "Couples Therapist, Heal Thyself" was published in the Modern Love column in The New York Times, and she has been writing the popular Staying Sane Inside Insanity blog for Psychology Today since 2020. Tonya is a well known couples therapist, so it's particularly juicy and important that we're going to talk about struggles Tonya faced in her own marriage, and how she and her husband worked through them in couples therapy. Here...
2026-02-0148 min
thERINpy with Erin WashingtonTonya Lester, psychotherapist and go-to relationship expert, on how to 'push back'Tonya Lester, psychotherapist and author of 'Push Back: Live, Love, and Work with Others Without Losing Yourself', discusses how to stand up for yourself in a relationship and break old patterns of choosing romantic partners based on anxious tendencies.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
2026-01-2659 min
The KORE Women PodcastThe Cost of Staying Silent and How to Push Back with Tonya LesterThis week on the KORE Women podcast, Dr. Summer Watson is joined by Tonya Lester, who is an LCSW, Brooklyn-based psychotherapist, New York Times Modern Love essayist, and author of Push Back: Live, Love, and Work with Others Without Losing Yourself to talk about why so many of us stay silent, stretch ourselves too thin, and struggle to ask for what we need. We unpack what it means to be a “shock absorber” in relationships, why perfectionism is really anxiety in disguise, and how women can learn to set boundaries without guilt or apology. If you’ve ever been called...
2026-01-1323 min
This Is Woman's Work with Nicole KalilDiversity Isn’t a Strategy - It’s a Leadership Result with Aiko Bethea | 378Leadership is already messy. Add culture, identity, power dynamics, and a workplace that rewards sameness… and suddenly you’re not leading—you’re surviving. In this episode, Nicole talks with Aiko Bethea, founder of RARE Coaching & Consulting, about what actually creates diversity (spoiler: it’s not a checkbox) and why diversity is the outcome of great leadership.
We get into:
Why “diversity” isn’t a skill set (and why treating it like one makes you a worse leader)
Power-sharing vs. power-hoarding and how that impacts belonging, equity, and performance
The real reason leadershi...
2026-01-1241 min
Optimal Relationships Daily - Dating, Marriage and Parenting[Part 2] When Your Partner Isn't Sure They Want a Future With You by Tonya Lester on Relationship UncertaintyDiscover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2858: Tonya Lester explores the painful uncertainty of being with someone who can't commit, offering a grounded, compassionate roadmap for reclaiming your voice and agency. Listeners will gain clarity on when to wait, when to walk, and how to protect their self-worth in relationships that feel stuck in limbo. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.tonyalester.com/blog//when-your-partner-isnt-sure-they-want-a-future-with-you Quotes to ponder:
2026-01-0506 min
Optimal Relationships Daily - Dating, Marriage and Parenting[Part 1] When Your Partner Isn't Sure They Want a Future With You by Tonya Lester on Relationship UncertaintyDiscover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2857: Tonya Lester explores the emotional toll of loving someone who can't commit, revealing how unresolved childhood dynamics and early romantic experiences can shape our patterns in adult relationships. This honest reflection helps listeners recognize anxious attachment, stop settling for emotional breadcrumbs, and start reclaiming their self-worth. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.tonyalester.com/blog//when-your-partner-isnt-sure-they-want-a-future-with-you Quotes to ponder: "Never...
2026-01-0406 min
Soulfull Sound Podcast121: Tonya Lester on Push Back: Live, Love, and Work with Others Without Losing YourselfIn this rich and honest conversation, psychotherapist and author Tonya Lester joins us to explore why so many women struggle to express their needs, articulate boundaries, and honour their truth in relationships and everyday life. Drawing from her clinical work, her book Push Back, and her own personal experiences, Tonya unpacks the deeper social conditioning that teaches women to be pleasing, agreeable, and conflict-averse — even when this silence slowly erodes their sense of self. She also sheds light on the emotional “weather-vanes” such as resentment, envy, and flattening that signal when a woman’s voice is going underground, and how foll...
2025-12-171h 04
It’s Okay to Be Difficult: Asking for What You Need in Your RelationshipListen on Apple. Listen on Spotify. Listen on YouTube.If you’ve ever been told you’re “too emotional,” “too much,” or “starting drama,” take a deep breath. This one is for you.On a recent episode of the podcast, I sat down with psychotherapist and author Tonya Lester, whose book Push Back: Live, Love, and Work with Others Without Losing Yourself should honestly be required reading for every woman who has ever bitten her tongue to keep the peace.Tonya’s message is bold, liberating, and deeply needed: it is okay to have needs, it is ok...
2025-12-1000 minThis Is Woman's Work with Nicole KalilHow to Push Back: From People-Pleasing to Power with Tonya Lester | 369If you’ve ever swallowed your needs, kept the peace, and then randomly lost your shit over something tiny (hi, dirty spoon in the sink), this episode is for you. Therapist and author Tonya Lester is here to talk about conflict, boundaries, and what it really means to be “difficult” in a world that still rewards women for being nice, accommodating, and endlessly available. Tonya is the therapist women call when they’re done being walked on. A Brooklyn-based psychotherapist with decades of clinical experience, she specializes in women’s emotional health, conflict skills, and relationships.
We dig into w...
2025-12-1036 min
Optimal Relationships Daily - Dating, Marriage and ParentingWhen Is It Time to Leave a Relationship? by Tonya Lester on Healthy DetachmentDiscover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2812: Tonya Lester explores the deeply personal and often painful dilemma of knowing when to leave a relationship, offering thoughtful questions that prompt self-reflection rather than black-and-white answers. Her compassionate yet direct framework helps listeners distinguish between temporary discomfort and long-term incompatibility, empowering them to recognize whether staying is costing them more than leaving ever would. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.tonyalester.com/blog...
2025-11-2607 min
The Daily Helping441. “Speaking up is how we become known.” | Building Emotional Intimacy Without Losing Yourself with Tonya LesterLicensed clinical social worker, psychotherapist, and author Tonya Lester joins us to explore one of the most pervasive issues she sees in her practice: what happens when people stay silent for too long. Known for her Modern Love essay in The New York Times and her popular Psychology Today blog, Staying Sane Inside Insanity, Tonya has spent years helping individuals and couples navigate communication, conflict, and the fear of speaking their truth.In our conversation, we dig into the patterns that inspired her new book, Push Back: Live, Love, and Work with Others Without Losing Yourself. Tonya...
2025-11-2426 minThe Daily Helping441. “Speaking up is how we become known.” | Building Emotional Intimacy Without Losing Yourself with Tonya LesterLicensed clinical social worker, psychotherapist, and author Tonya Lester joins us to explore one of the most pervasive issues she sees in her practice: what happens when people stay silent for too long. Known for her Modern Love essay in The New York Times and her popular Psychology Today blog, Staying Sane Inside Insanity, Tonya has spent years helping individuals and couples navigate communication, conflict, and the fear of speaking their truth.In our conversation, we dig into the patterns that inspired her new book, Push Back: Live, Love, and Work with Others Without Losing Yourself. Tonya...
2025-11-2426 min
Alternative Talk- 1150AM KKNWThe Loretta Brown Show - 11-20-25 - Are You Ready to Push Back?Today, Loretta welcomes Tonya Lester, LCSW, who is a highly respected Brooklyn-based psychotherapist, author, and relationship expert whose groundbreaking work centers on communication, emotional boundaries, and self-advocacy — particularly for conflict-averse women who have been socially conditioned to prioritize harmony over honesty.
Her forthcoming book, Push Back: Live, Love, and Work with Others Without Losing Yourself, offers a transformational framework for assertiveness without aggression. With a rare blend of clarity, compassion, and practical tools, Tonya helps readers understand the emotional traps that keep them small — and teaches them how to reclaim their voice, needs, and personal power. With over two decades of c...
2025-11-2054 min
The Original Loretta Brown ShowAre You Ready to Start Pushing Back?Today, Loretta welcomes Tonya Lester, LCSW, who is a highly respected Brooklyn-based psychotherapist, author, and relationship expert whose groundbreaking work centers on communication, emotional boundaries, and self-advocacy — particularly for conflict-averse women who have been socially conditioned to prioritize harmony over honesty.Her forthcoming book, Push Back: Live, Love, and Work with Others Without Losing Yourself, offers a transformational framework for assertiveness without aggression. With a rare blend of clarity, compassion, and practical tools, Tonya helps readers understand the emotional traps that keep them small — and teaches them how to reclaim their voice, needs, and personal power. With over...
2025-11-2054 min
Last First Date RadioEP 687: Tonya Lester - How to Love Without Losing YourselfHow do you love without losing yourself? Tonya Lester, is the author of Push Back: Live, Love, and Work with Others Without Losing Yourself and a Brooklyn-based psychotherapist and writer known for her work with relationships and communication. Her essay “Couples Therapist, Heal Thyself” was published in the Modern Love column in The New York Times, and she has been writing the popular Staying Sane Inside Insanity blog for Psychology Today since 2020.In this episode of Last First Date Radio:• Why so many women have trouble asserting themselves in their relationships• Wh...
2025-11-1846 min
The emPOWERed Half HourPush Back to Power: Creating Empowered Relationships with the Author of PUSH BACK Live, Love, and Work with Others Without Losing Yourself, Tonya LesterSend us a textIn this inspiring episode of The EmPOWERed Half Hour, Becca Powers sits down with psychotherapist and author Tonya Lester, whose book PUSH BACK: Live, Love, and Work with Others Without Losing Yourself is helping women reclaim their power without losing their compassion.Key Moments You Won't Want to Miss:When Tonya explains the real meaning of “shock absorbing”Becca’s reflection on how physical pain revealed deeper stressThe power of noticing when you’re “rehearsing” conversations to keep the peaceAbout TonyaTonya L...
2025-11-1831 min
Finding Your BlissTonya LesterOn this episode of Finding Your Bliss, Celebrity Interviewer and Bliss Coach Judy Librach is joined by Tonya Lester, Brooklyn-based psychotherapist, couples counselor, and author of the new book “Push Back: Live, Love, and Work with Others Without Losing Yourself!”
According to author Tonya Lester, at a time when their rights and voices are under increasing scrutiny and challenge, it’s more important than ever for women to be able to speak up for what they believe in. Too often, women are encouraged to be nurturers and peacemakers, which carries the implied message that they shouldn’t rock the boat — when in fa...
2025-11-0856 min
Insights from the Couch - Real Talk for Women at MidlifeEp.72: The Power of Being Difficult: How to Reclaim Your Boundaries and Your Voice with Tonya LesterWe are beyond excited to welcome the brilliant Tonya Lester to the couch this week! As a psychotherapist, writer, and author of the new book Push Back: Live, Love, and Work with Others Without Losing Yourself, Tonya joins us for a raw and resonant conversation about how women lose their voices in relationships, how to reclaim them, and why it’s never too late to start showing up fully for yourself.We dig into some of the most pressing issues we see with women in midlife—emotional labor, resentment, perfectionism, and the dreaded “burned out pursuer” dynamic. Tonya sh...
2025-11-0546 min
Optimal Relationships Daily - Dating, Marriage and ParentingTime For Marriage? Ask These Three Questions First by Tonya Lester on Marital Advice and Commitment DecisionsDiscover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com.
Episode 2695:
Tonya Lester challenges the traditional timeline of relationships by unpacking the emotional and psychological layers behind the question “Should we get married?” She offers a deeply reflective guide for couples to explore their inner motivations, values, and past wounds, helping them make a conscious and grounded decision about commitment.
Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.tonyalester.com/blog/should-we-get-married
Quotes to ponder:
2025-08-1608 min
Optimal Relationships Daily - Dating, Marriage and ParentingTime For Marriage? Ask These Three Questions First by Tonya Lester on Marital Advice and Commitment DecisionsDiscover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2695: Tonya Lester challenges the traditional timeline of relationships by unpacking the emotional and psychological layers behind the question “Should we get married?” She offers a deeply reflective guide for couples to explore their inner motivations, values, and past wounds, helping them make a conscious and grounded decision about commitment. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.tonyalester.com/blog/should-we-get-married Quotes to ponder:
2025-08-1606 min
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan#503 Radical Self-Confidence + A Different Take on Perfectionism; Best of Lisa Bilyeu, Katherine Morgan Schafler, and Tania LesterFor Women’s Month, I’m sharing insights from three powerful women; Lisa Bilyeu, Katherine Morgan Schafler, and Tonya Lester, on personal growth, healing, and transformation. The episode explores key themes of building radical self-confidence, overcoming perfectionism, understanding manifestation, and developing self-compassion. It provides listeners with strategies to rewire their mindset, tap into their intuition, and create meaningful change in every area of your life.In This Episode You Will Learn
How often to check in if your actions still match your goals.
Ways to practice self-compassion and intentionally build resilience and personal powe...
2025-03-1226 min
Optimal Living Daily - Personal Development and Self-ImprovementOn Self-Compassion by Tonya LesterDiscover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com.Episode 3495:Tonya Lester shares a heartfelt story of a timid rescue cat to illustrate how we instinctively offer patience and kindness to others but struggle to extend the same compassion to ourselves. She challenges the myth that self-criticism drives success, advocating instead for self-soothing practices that foster resilience and clarity. With a simple yet powerful exercise, she encourages us to treat ourselves with the same understanding we’d offer a frightened ch...
2025-02-1409 min
Optimal Health Daily - Fitness and NutritionYou Probably Need More Sleep by Tonya Lester on Physical & Mental Well-BeingDiscover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com.Episode 2770:Sleep is a non-negotiable element of physical and mental well-being, yet too many people still underestimate its importance. Tonya Lester shares transformative strategies, from embracing wind-down routines to the empowering effect of naps, to help you prioritize sleep, boost your mood, and reclaim energy in our overworked culture.Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.tonyalester.com/blog/you-probably-need-more-sleepQuotes to ponder:
2024-11-1311 min
Optimal Living Daily - Personal Development and Self-ImprovementDeal With Anxiety By Making a “Dread” List by Tonya Lester on Resiliency & Taking ActionDiscover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com.Episode 3327:Tonya Lester shares a transformative strategy for dealing with anxiety by creating a "dread list" of all the tasks you've been avoiding. By confronting these sources of anxiety, seeking support, and making the process easier, you can alleviate the heavy burden of unresolved issues, improve your mental well-being, and regain control of your life.Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.tonyalester.com/blog/deal-with-anxiety-by-making-a-dread-list
2024-09-2011 min
Optimal Health Daily - Fitness and NutritionAlcohol and Anxiety: Does Drinking Really Help You Relax? by Tonya Lester on Healthy LivingDiscover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com.Episode 2707:Tonya Lester challenges the common belief that alcohol relieves anxiety, explaining how it can actually exacerbate stress and disrupt sleep, leading to a harmful cycle. By exploring the brain's response to alcohol and offering practical steps to assess and reduce drinking, Lester encourages a more mindful approach to alcohol use for better mental health.Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.tonyalester.com/blog/alcohol-and-anxiety-does-drinking-really-help-you-relax
2024-09-1914 min
The Self-Love Club®Ask a Psychotherapist (re-release)On the show we're joined by New York Psychotherapist and Author Tonya Lester.Tonya has 16 years of experience as a Therapist and is also a Licensed Clinical Social Worker.What is psychotherapy? How does it work?Bel asks Tonya the questions you may have wanted to ask a therapist.What's the most common thing that happens when couples are in therapy?We discuss setting boundaries, break-ups, assessing if your relationship is healthy and taking good care of our mental health.We also talk about Tonya's upcoming book...
2024-05-2044 min
Optimal Relationships Daily - Dating, Marriage and ParentingAre Your Working Too Hard in Your Relationship? by Tonya Lester on Shared Responsibilities & Self-AcceptanceDiscover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com.Episode 2119:Tonya Lester illuminates the perils of over-functioning in relationships, emphasizing the hidden costs of unrealistic self-expectations and the imbalance it creates. She offers insightful strategies for breaking the cycle of over-functioning, encouraging a balanced approach to shared responsibilities and self-acceptance. Lester's guidance promises a pathway to healthier relationships and a fuller appreciation of life's true priorities.Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.tonyalester.com...
2024-03-3009 min
Optimal Relationships Daily - Dating, Marriage and ParentingAre Your Working Too Hard in Your Relationship? by Tonya Lester on Shared Responsibilities & Self-AcceptanceDiscover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2119: Tonya Lester illuminates the perils of over-functioning in relationships, emphasizing the hidden costs of unrealistic self-expectations and the imbalance it creates. She offers insightful strategies for breaking the cycle of over-functioning, encouraging a balanced approach to shared responsibilities and self-acceptance. Lester's guidance promises a pathway to healthier relationships and a fuller appreciation of life's true priorities. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.tonyalester.com...
2024-03-3007 min
Optimal Living Daily - Personal Development and Self-ImprovementCreating a Sense of Possibility by Tonya Lester on Creating Magic in Your LifeDiscover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com.Episode 2996:Tonya Lester explores how creating a sense of possibility isn't confined to vibrant cities like NYC; it's about fostering growth, adventure, and awe in any setting. She emphasizes that nurturing curiosity, wonder, and engagement with life's surprises enriches our existence at any age or location.Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.tonyalester.com/blog/creating-a-sense-of-possibilityQuotes to ponder:"Find a...
2023-12-0509 min
The Meaningful Life with Andrew G. MarshallDr Susan Heitler: Forget ”Fair Fighting” and Learn How to Do Win-Win Problem-SolvingForget fair fighting, what you and your partner should aim for is win-win problem solving. According to psychologist Dr Susan Heitler, If you can learn to investigate and share the deep-seated emotions behind a particular argument, the two of you can emerge stronger and more connected as a couple.
In this week’s episode, Andrew and Susan explore how childhood patterns can be replicated in adult relationships, and discuss a case-study in which a couple is able to overcome a disagreement over food waste that had brought them to the brink of divorce.
Dr Susan Hei...
2023-10-1651 min
Optimal Living Daily - Personal Development and Self-ImprovementFeeling Confused, Overwhelmed, or Lazy? by Tonya Lester on Pursuing Your Dreams and Getting UnstuckTonya Lester helps you if you're feeling confused, overwhelmed or lazyEpisode 2934: Feeling Confused, Overwhelmed, or Lazy? by Tonya Lester on Pursuing Your Dreams and Getting UnstuckTonya Lester, LCSW, is a psychotherapist in Brooklyn, NY. She graduated from New York University with a Master's degree in Social Work. Her post-graduate training includes a fellowship at Psychoanalytic Theory at the Institute for Psychoanalytic Theory and Research (IPTAR) and supervised practice in Psychodynamic Therapy under Drs. C.E. Robins and John Broughton. She completed training in IFS with Dick Schwartz, Nancy Sowell, and Pam Krause. Her...
2023-10-1212 min
Optimal Business Daily - ARCHIVE 1 - Episodes 1-300 ONLYProductivity Tips: Ideas For People With Too Many Things to Do by Tonya Lester on Creating More Time For YourselfTonya Lester shares productivity tips for busy people Episode 1105: Productivity Tips: Ideas For People With Too Many Things to Do by Tonya Lester on Creating More Time For Yourself Tonya Lester, LCSW, is a psychotherapist in Brooklyn, NY. She graduated from New York University with a Master's degree in Social Work. Her post-graduate training includes a fellowship at Psychoanalytic Theory at the Institute for Psychoanalytic Theory and Research (IPTAR) and supervised practice in Psychodynamic Therapy under Drs. C.E. Robins and John Broughton. She completed training in IFS with Dick Schwartz, Nancy Sowell, and Pam...
2023-10-1006 minOptimal Business Daily - ARCHIVE 1 - Episodes 1-300 ONLYProductivity Tips: Ideas For People With Too Many Things to Do by Tonya Lester on Creating More Time For YourselfTonya Lester shares productivity tips for busy peopleEpisode 1105: Productivity Tips: Ideas For People With Too Many Things to Do by Tonya Lester on Creating More Time For YourselfTonya Lester, LCSW, is a psychotherapist in Brooklyn, NY. She graduated from New York University with a Master's degree in Social Work. Her post-graduate training includes a fellowship at Psychoanalytic Theory at the Institute for Psychoanalytic Theory and Research (IPTAR) and supervised practice in Psychodynamic Therapy under Drs. C.E. Robins and John Broughton. She completed training in IFS with Dick Schwartz, Nancy Sowell, and Pam...
2023-10-1008 minOptimal Work Daily - Career, Productivity and EntrepreneurshipProductivity Tips: Ideas For People With Too Many Things to Do by Tonya Lester on Creating More Time For YourselfTonya Lester shares productivity tips for busy people Episode 1105: Productivity Tips: Ideas For People With Too Many Things to Do by Tonya Lester on Creating More Time For Yourself Tonya Lester, LCSW, is a psychotherapist in Brooklyn, NY. She graduated from New York University with a Master's degree in Social Work. Her post-graduate training includes a fellowship at Psychoanalytic Theory at the Institute for Psychoanalytic Theory and Research (IPTAR) and supervised practice in Psychodynamic Therapy under Drs. C.E. Robins and John Broughton. She completed training in IFS with Dick Schwartz, Nancy Sowell, and Pam...
2023-10-1006 minOptimal Work Daily - Career, Productivity and EntrepreneurshipProductivity Tips: Ideas For People With Too Many Things to Do by Tonya Lester on Creating More Time For YourselfTonya Lester shares productivity tips for busy people Episode 1105: Productivity Tips: Ideas For People With Too Many Things to Do by Tonya Lester on Creating More Time For Yourself Tonya Lester, LCSW, is a psychotherapist in Brooklyn, NY. She graduated from New York University with a Master's degree in Social Work. Her post-graduate training includes a fellowship at Psychoanalytic Theory at the Institute for Psychoanalytic Theory and Research (IPTAR) and supervised practice in Psychodynamic Therapy under Drs. C.E. Robins and John Broughton. She completed training in IFS with Dick Schwartz, Nancy Sowell, and Pam...
2023-10-1006 minOptimal Work Daily - Career, Productivity and EntrepreneurshipProductivity Tips: Ideas For People With Too Many Things to Do by Tonya Lester on Creating More Time For YourselfTonya Lester shares productivity tips for busy peopleEpisode 1105: Productivity Tips: Ideas For People With Too Many Things to Do by Tonya Lester on Creating More Time For YourselfTonya Lester, LCSW, is a psychotherapist in Brooklyn, NY. She graduated from New York University with a Master's degree in Social Work. Her post-graduate training includes a fellowship at Psychoanalytic Theory at the Institute for Psychoanalytic Theory and Research (IPTAR) and supervised practice in Psychodynamic Therapy under Drs. C.E. Robins and John Broughton. She completed training in IFS with Dick Schwartz, Nancy Sowell, and Pam...
2023-10-1008 minOptimal Work Daily - Career, Productivity and EntrepreneurshipProductivity Tips: Ideas For People With Too Many Things to Do by Tonya Lester on Creating More Time For YourselfTonya Lester shares productivity tips for busy peopleEpisode 1105: Productivity Tips: Ideas For People With Too Many Things to Do by Tonya Lester on Creating More Time For YourselfTonya Lester, LCSW, is a psychotherapist in Brooklyn, NY. She graduated from New York University with a Master's degree in Social Work. Her post-graduate training includes a fellowship at Psychoanalytic Theory at the Institute for Psychoanalytic Theory and Research (IPTAR) and supervised practice in Psychodynamic Therapy under Drs. C.E. Robins and John Broughton. She completed training in IFS with Dick Schwartz, Nancy Sowell, and Pam...
2023-10-1008 min
Psych2Go On the GOHow To Stop Caring What Others Think Of YouAre you looking for advice on how to stop caring what people think of you or how to be confident? Our desire to impress others has been distorted by social media. Social media has set wildly photoshopped expectations of who or what we should be. Our lives have been commodified and assigned values through likes, share, or retweets, so we live with the constant pressure of what will they think of me. As a result, our desire for validation and our sensitivity to criticism increased. Granted, our insecurities are also formed due to trauma suffered in early childhood or...
2023-07-1506 minThe Meaningful Life with Andrew G. MarshallTonya Lester: How to Have Healthy ConflictPsychotherapist Tonya Lester believes it’s OK to be difficult. This doesn’t mean being rigid, domineering or unkind. It means making sure that your partner has a sense of who you are and what you need. Of course, you won’t get there without learning how to disagree productively.
In this episode Andrew and Tonya discuss how to develop mutually supportive relationships, including 8 ingredients for healthy conflict.
They also discuss Tonya’s recent New York Times article, “Couples Therapist, Heal Thyself”, about what it’s like to go into marriage counselling as a therapist.
Tonya Les...
2023-06-0545 min
Schein OnTherapist Tonya LesterThe guest is Tonya Lester, a psychotherapist in Brooklyn, New York. She's the author of the essay 'Couples Therapist, Heal Thyself' in the modern love section of the New York Times.
More on Tonya at https://www.tonyalester.com/
2023-05-3054 min
The Self-Image Experience Podcast57. Take back control of your lifeMost of us never learned the art of managing our emotional lives, which leaves us feeling powerless and out of control in certain situations. We lose our power when we give away our responsibility for how we feel, how we behave, and for where we're at in life. Blaming others or our circumstances feels good and feels right in the moment, but it leaves us without any control in the matter, and that doesn't feel good at all.
Gaining back control of our lives is a journey of taking radical responsibility and choosing how to m...
2023-05-1920 min
Thank You Heartbreak with Chelsea Leigh Trescott255: What's Worse Than Heartbreak with Tonya LesterPsychotherapist, Truth Teller, and advocate for being a "difficult" woman, Tonya Lester joins Chelsea 9:10 minutes in to talk about the upside of being difficult (the good kind of difficult, that is), what's worse than heartbreak (spoiler: it doesn't involve a relationship ending), the masks we wear and the self we forfeit in order to attract and keep partners, freeing ourselves from the spiral of "if-only" I had been/done/or behaved like XYZ, the healing powers of curiosity, self-compassion, and vowing to use our past to change our future, internal family systems methodology, the motive of the...
2023-03-211h 00
2023-03-1533 min
Sexy Marriage RadioBe Difficult | Tonya Lester #615Tonya Lester joins me as we dive into the idea of how we should all be difficult. It's an interesting way to look at the concept of people pleasing and relationships.
We also look at 2 concepts that are often present in relationships, gaslighting and love bombing.
To learn more about Tonya, go here https://www.tonyalester.com/
On the Extended Version ...
We keep the conversation going about the 3 kinds of dynamics we can take in our relationships. Difficult, impossible or shock-absorber.
Which one are you?
Enjoy the s...
2023-03-1533 min
Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And GuideERP 360: How Being "Difficult" Can Assist Growth & Development In Relationship — An Interview With Tonya LesterBeing difficult in relationships is a topic that is often misunderstood and shunned as the term "difficult" is usually associated with negativity, but what if it could be a catalyst for growth and development in our relationships? In this episode, we'll challenge the common notion that smooth sailing is the ideal in relationships, and instead, explore how speaking up, having honest conversations, and being vulnerable can lead to deeper emotional intimacy and stronger relationships. Join us as we dive into the power of being "difficult" and how it can assist in the growth and development of our...
2023-02-2156 minThe Self-Love Club®Ask a PsychotherapistOn the show we're joined by New York Psychotherapist and Author Tonya Lester.Tonya has 16 years of experience as a Therapist and is also a Licensed Clinical Social Worker.What is psychotherapy? How does it work?Bel asks Tonya the questions you may have wanted to ask a therapist.What's the most common thing that happens when couples are in therapy?We discuss setting boundaries, break-ups, assessing if your relationship is healthy and taking good care of our mental health.We also talk about...
2023-01-3045 min
The Soft Life with Candy Washington | Self-Love, Manifestation, and Healthy RelationshipsEpisode 187: How to Create Healthy Romantic Relationships with Psychotherapist Tonya Lester✨ Self-Love Courses: https://candywashington.com/courses
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2023-01-2441 min
Relationship AdviceGiving Up Too Much To Make Everyone Happy?Are you a people pleaser? It's not the worst thing in the world to identify as one, however, you may be sacrificing your own happiness in the name of keeping everyone around you happy. You may also grow resentful and have a lot of anxiety around keeping those around you happy. Listen to today's show to learn how to create boundaries, communicate your needs and live a more fulfilling life. In this episode with Tonya Lester, we discuss relationship advice topics that include:
Traits that may indicate you're a people pleaser and need to create better bou...
2022-12-1439 minRelationship AdviceGiving Up Too Much To Make Everyone Happy?Are you a people pleaser? It's not the worst thing in the world to identify as one, however, you may be sacrificing your own happiness in the name of keeping everyone around you happy. You may also grow resentful and have a lot of anxiety around keeping those around you happy. Listen to today's show to learn how to create boundaries, communicate your needs and live a more fulfilling life. In this episode with Tonya Lester, we discuss relationship advice topics that include:
Traits that may indicate you're a people pleaser and need to create better bou...
2022-12-1439 min
The Broken BrainRelationship Counseling with Tonya LesterTonya Lester is an LCSW, therapist, blogger for Psychology Today, and author. She is also an expert in relationships, family systems theory and couple's counseling. She joins the Broken Brain today to share her insights working with relationship difficulties and successes. Learn more about Tonya's work at www.tonyalester.com, including the progress of her book and her writing for Psychology Today. Support The Broken Brain and get awesome extra materials by becoming a patron Brainiac today at www.patreon.com/brokenbrain, or make a one-time donation on www.buymeacoffee.com/brokenbrain
2022-10-061h 03
The Self-Image Experience Podcast20 - Emotional MaturityMany of us never learned how to manage our emotional lives, and we end up not taking responsibility for our feelings, our behaviour, and our lives in general. Blaming others for how we feel, how we behave, or why we are in our current situations puts us right into emotional childhood.
Being in emotional maturity is such a better place because it means that you get to decide how you feel, act, and live, no matter what!
If you want to learn how to take control over your life back, you have to listen to...
2022-08-2619 min
Beg Your PardonBeg Your Pardon Friends Torn Over PoliticsTonya and Lester have been friends since childhood. Lester has been an ardent Trump supporter and Tonya the exact opposite. They’ve gone back and forth at parties and get togethers since 2016 and this last year has been the worst. They recently got into a heated debate during a zoom happy hour with their friends and made the entire party uncomfortable. Lester is seeking a pardon for letting his politics get in the way of their friendship. Will Tonya give him one?
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2021-01-2807 min
Revival League PlayhouseFrank Dietz and Brian Howe in "What About Blob?"Get ready to make the clingiest friend you’ll ever meet! It’s the most absorbing Cross-Stream from The Revival League & Damn Dirty Geeks yet: “What About Blob?”
A satire inspired by Irvin Yeaworth's 1958 film “The Blob” and Frank Oz's 1991 film “What About Bob?”, this radio play tells the story of a neurotic ooze monster (Brian Howe, “Westworld”) who comes to Earth and envelops the life of his new psychologist (Frank Dietz, “Zombie Nightmare”).
Also featuring Trace Beaulieu & Frank Conniff (“MST3K”), Carolina Hidalgo (“SiriusXM”), Jackey Neyman-Jones (“Manos: The Hands of Fate”) and of course, The Revival League as The Not Ready For Slime Time Players! Wi...
2018-10-301h 47