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When Depression is in your bedConscious Connected Partners In Real Life: The Mirrors That Shape UsHave you ever had a moment of startling clarity about how the people closest to you actually experience you? That's exactly what happened when my six-year-old daughter observed my husband and me dancing in our kitchen and declared we were "in rare form." Those three words stopped me in my tracks.As someone who considers herself playful and lighthearted, I was struck by the realization that my children rarely witness that side of my relationship with my husband. Our playful moments typically happen late at night after they're asleep, while our days are consumed by the practical...2025-07-3012 min

The Relationship Blueprint: Unlock Your Power of ConnectionWhen Depression Shares Your Bed: A Therapist's Journey with Trish Sanders, LCSWSend us a textWhat happens when depression isn't just in your head, but in your relationship? Certified Imago Advanced Relationship Therapist Trish Sanders takes us on a deeply personal journey through the landscape of depression, connection, and healing in this captivating conversation.Drawing from her 20+ years of clinical experience and her own marriage, Trish reveals how depression creates profound disconnection—even when lying next to someone you love. "When depression is in your bed, it affects everything," she explains. "It affects how you sleep, it affects how you dream, and it certainly affects every pa...2025-07-2953 min

When Depression is in your bedSex as Nervous System Co-Regulation: Depression in the BedroomSix months into the "When Depression Is In Your Bed" podcast, I realized I'd barely touched on one of the most significant aspects of depression in relationships—the impact on sexual intimacy and physical connection. The bed isn't just where we sleep; it's where we dream, where we struggle with insomnia or can't find the energy to rise, and where we reach for connection with our partners.Physical intimacy becomes particularly fascinating when viewed through the lens of nervous system regulation. Our nervous system can be in one of three states: ventral (safe and connected), sympathetic (fight or...2025-07-2321 min

When Depression is in your bedStaying Out of the Stories: Transform Relationship Conflicts Using this Top SkillDiscover the relationship-transforming power of "staying out of your stories" - a skill that can fundamentally change how you navigate conflicts with your partner. This episode reveals how our nervous systems create automatic narratives during tense moments that feel absolutely true but often lead us astray.When conflict emerges, our brains instantly attach meaning to what's happening, creating stories that feel justified and accurate. But these narratives are heavily influenced by our current nervous system state, past experiences, and limited information. By recognizing when you're deep in these stories without either believing them fully or trying to...2025-07-1629 min

The RCWR Show with Lee SandersCM Punk’s Gauntlet War! Naomi’s Big Night! Rollins Injury Update! WWE RAW 7/14/25 | RCWR Show 1167🔥 WWE RAW 7/14/25 Review! CM Punk runs the gauntlet in a brutal test of endurance! Naomi celebrates her championship win in style, while fallout from Seth Rollins’ injury sends shockwaves through the roster. We break down every major moment! 👊 Who earned the right to face Gunther at SummerSlam? Naomi’s first title defense is announced—and it's massive! Plus: what’s the latest on Rollins’ condition, and how long will he be out? We unpack all the twists, turns, and standout performances from this women’s-heavy edition of RAW! Also discussed:Lee uncovers why Bill Goldberg didn’t get a big SummerSlam sendo...2025-07-151h 38

The RCWR Show with Lee SandersWWE Evolution 2025 Review: Surprise! Naomi Cashes In! One Hell of a Night for Women’s Wrestling! (The RCWR Show 7.13.25)WWE Evolution 2025 Review is here! This all-women’s premium live event brought huge surprises, and unforgettable matches like Iyo Sky vs Rhea Ripley and Trish Stratus vs Tiffany Stratton! From championship clashes to surprise comebacks, this night delivered from top to bottom.Lee breaks down every match result, gives his reactions, and talks what this show means for the future of women’s wrestling. We also touch on who stood out, what shocked the crowd, and who could be next in line for a title opportunity heading into Clash in Paris.🔥 Highlights Covered:– Iyo Sky vs Rhea Ripl...2025-07-141h 30

When Depression is in your bedBeyond Blame: Creating Partnership When You Feel Constantly DisappointedFeeling constantly disappointed by your partner—or feeling like you're always the one disappointing them? This painful dynamic shows up in nearly every relationship, creating a loop of frustration that can feel impossible to escape.As a therapist and someone who's lived this pattern in my own marriage, I can tell you there's a way out. The breakthrough comes from understanding what's actually happening in your nervous system during these interactions. When you feel disappointed, your body moves into a "fight" response—you take over responsibilities, complain, or try to "fix" your partner. Meanwhile, your partner's system resp...2025-07-0925 min

When Depression is in your bedBreak the Cycle: Uncover Hidden Relationship DynamicsDiscover the relationship dynamic that may be silently sabotaging your connection with your partner. In this eye-opening exploration, I reveal how well-intentioned efforts to help our partners often create a painful pattern where one person feels chronically disappointed while the other internalizes being the disappointment.Drawing from my personal journey through marital separation and reconciliation, I share how this revelation transformed my approach to conflict. When my husband struggled with depression, I threw myself into "helping" – researching therapists, sharing resources, and offering constant suggestions. From the outside, I appeared to be the model supportive spouse. Yet beneath th...2025-07-0222 min

When Depression is in your bedDepression in the Bed, Partnership on the PathThe path to a transformed relationship rarely follows a straight line. Most couples encounter significant challenges when trying to work together toward positive change, often finding themselves caught in familiar cycles of frustration despite their best intentions.This episode explores two pivotal moments where partnership efforts commonly derail: at the very beginning when trying to establish teamwork, and when discovering you and your partner want different next steps. Both challenges reveal something profound about how our nervous systems interpret differences as threats, creating protective responses that block genuine connection.Drawing from Polyvagal Theory and Imago...2025-06-2532 min

When Depression is in your bedConscious Partnership: Taking Steps Together Towards the Relationship You Desire and DeserveWhat if the secret to relationship transformation isn't trying harder alone, but working smartly together? That's the revolutionary concept at the heart of this episode, where I challenge the common myth that one person can (or should) do all the heavy lifting in a relationship.Whether you've been carrying the relationship load by yourself or you've stepped back while your partner handles everything, this episode offers practical pathways toward true partnership. I share specific, actionable steps both partners can take together to create the relationship you deeply desire and genuinely deserve.Communication stands as perhaps...2025-06-1824 min

When Depression is in your bedThe Partnership Problem: When Your Relationship Feels Like a One-Person JobFeeling like you're carrying the entire weight of your relationship while your partner seems to be coasting? You're not alone—and the solution might surprise you.Most of us have been fed a harmful myth that if we just work hard enough on ourselves and the relationship, everything will improve. This message is particularly strong for women in heterosexual relationships, who are often encouraged to keep putting in the work while their male partners are implicitly let off the hook. But this approach isn't just exhausting—it's fundamentally flawed.The truth is that relationships require both...2025-06-1118 min

When Depression is in your bedStep Towards Hope and Safety: Creating Your Path Out of DepressionDepression can trap us in an exhausting cycle of waiting for better days that rarely last. We feel stuck, disconnected, and increasingly hopeless as we search for the magical formula that will finally break us free. But what if moving forward doesn't require having it all figured out first? What if the key lies not in grand plans but in learning to take one attuned step at a time?Your nervous system holds profound wisdom about what you truly need in any moment. When we feel depressed or detached, our biology is signaling that we're in a...2025-06-0425 min

When Depression is in your bedStep Towards Your Senses, Movement, Rest & Play: Creating Your Path Out of DepressionAre you caught up just going through the motions each day? Stuck in a cycle that doesn't feel terrible but certainly doesn't feel good either? That familiar static place can become surprisingly comfortable, even as it drains our sense of aliveness and meaning.Today we explore how to break free using what I call the "Take-a-Step Approach" – a gentle, biology-based method that works with your nervous system instead of against it. Instead of forcing massive change through willpower (which rarely works), we focus on accessible micro-steps involving your senses, movement, rest, and playfulness that create sustainable shifts to...2025-05-2823 min

When Depression is in your bedStep Towards Connection and Breath: Creating Your Path Out of DepressionFeeling stuck in a numbed-out state, just going through the motions day after day? Longing for something more but unsure how to find your way forward? This deeply compassionate exploration offers concrete, accessible steps that can help you to begin moving out of a mild, moderate or even severe depression.Through understanding how our nervous systems become trapped in what experts call the "dorsal vagal state"—that shutdown, collapsed experience of depression—we gain insight into why recovery often happens more slowly than we'd like. The good news is that there are gentle, manageable actions anyone can take...2025-05-2123 min

When Depression is in your bedTake a Step: How to Work With the Biology of Depression and Disconnection to Create Real ChangeDepression creates a profound disconnect in relationships that can feel impossible to bridge. The path from where you are to where you want to be might seem unclear or overwhelming—but what if crossing that distance requires just one step at a time?In this illuminating episode, I share the invitation that concludes each of my podcasts—an invitation many listeners may miss but that contains the most transformative message for anyone impacted by depression. By understanding how our nervous systems function during depression, we can break free from the harmful "just try harder" mentality that keeps us s...2025-05-1427 min

When Depression is in your bedWhen Helping Your Partner Hurts You Both: A Nervous System Approach to SupportHave you ever noticed that your attempts to help your partner through depression, work stress, or life challenges often backfire? There's a reason your well-intentioned support sometimes lands as criticism or pressure—and it has everything to do with your nervous system.Drawing from both professional expertise and twenty years in a relationship with a partner who experienced depression, Trish Sanders reveals the hidden dynamic that transforms our genuine desire to help into something that actually increases disconnection. That urgent need to fix your partner's problems isn't just about compassion—it's often your own nervous system in surv...2025-05-0732 min

When Depression is in your bedTuning Into Your Nervous System: Relationship Guidance Through Body WisdomFaced with the crucial question of whether to stay in or leave a relationship? Your body holds wisdom your mind can't access. This episode completes a seven-part journey through conscious relationship decision-making with arguably the most powerful question: What does your nervous system tell you when contemplating staying versus leaving?Many of us live disconnected from our bodies, missing crucial guidance hidden within our physical responses. Even those drawn to somatic practices may struggle to maintain this connection. Drawing from personal experience, I share how tuning into my body revolutionized my understanding of my relationship needs. When...2025-04-3026 min

When Depression is in your bedCan You Love Yourself Deeply and Still Stay? The Question That Could Change EverythingWhat happens when your relationship requires so much of you that there's nothing left for yourself? For two decades of my marriage, I poured everything into caring for my depressed partner, losing myself in the process. But a profound shift occurred when I finally asked: "Can I deeply love and care for myself and continue in this relationship?"This question emerged during a perfect storm in my life—turning 40, my father's illness and death, pandemic isolation, and the mounting responsibilities of motherhood and my therapy practice. I reached a breaking point where I realized that unless I fu...2025-04-2326 min

When Depression is in your bedYour Problems Aren't The Problem: Why Understanding Your Relationship's Strengths Are Key to ChangeAre you caught in relationship limbo, seeing all the problems but unsure if you really want to leave? The very focus on what's wrong might be precisely what's keeping you stuck. When we're in pain, we develop what I call "stubbed toe syndrome" – one part hurts so badly that we forget the rest feels fine. Similarly, in troubled relationships, especially those affected by depression, we become fixated on problems while neglecting the perfectly good connecting parts that still exist.In this illuminating episode, I continue exploring my seven-question framework for making conscious relationship decisions by del...2025-04-1624 min

Divorce DialoguesStructured Communication Methods for Healing Relationships Post-Divorce - with Trisha Sanders"Mirroring slows down the communication process. It really helps us to be able to tune in and listen in addition to be able to hear the information." - Trisha Sanders Trisha Sanders is a licensed clinical social worker with nearly twenty years of experience, specializing in guiding families through the challenging transitions associated with divorce. Recognized for her expertise in expressive therapies and imago relationship therapy, Sanders places a strong emphasis on the development of emotional intelligence and effective communication as essential tools for healing and strengthening relationships. She underscores the importance of these skills in divorce, particularly when co-parenting...2025-04-1032 min

When Depression is in your bedFamiliar Love vs. Conscious Love: How the Unconscious Can Guide Our Relationship ChoicesWhy do we stay in relationships that don't fulfill us? What invisible forces bind us to partners even when our conscious mind desires change? The answer lies beneath the surface of awareness, in the powerful realm of unconscious attachment patterns formed decades ago.This deep-dive exploration uncovers the second question in my seven-question framework for making conscious relationship decisions: understanding the unconscious factors keeping you tethered to your current partnership. Drawing from Imago Relationship Theory, I explain how our earliest experiences with caregivers create an internal "image" of what love should look and feel like—and how th...2025-04-0924 min

When Depression is in your bedNavigating the Hard Choice: Clearing the Path to the Next Step in Your Relationship DecisionHave you been thinking about ending your relationship but something keeps holding you back? You're not alone. This raw and thoughtful exploration unpacks the invisible barriers that keep us stuck in relationships we're contemplating leaving.Drawing from 20 years of personal experience in a relationship complicated by depression, I walk through the first of my seven-question framework designed to clarify relationship decisions. By examining the real obstacles that prevent us from moving forward, we can transform seemingly impenetrable walls into challenges we can address with compassion and strategy.Financial fears often loom largest when contemplating separation...2025-04-0223 min

When Depression is in your bedHolding Hope: When Your Relationship Feels BrokenWhat if those recurring thoughts about leaving your relationship aren't actually telling you to leave, but instead signaling something deeper happening in your nervous system?In this vulnerable exploration of relationship indecision, I share my own experience of contemplating divorce "more times than I could count" over twenty years of being in a relationship affected by depression. Through this journey, I've discovered that thoughts of leaving often serve as safety signals when we're feeling trapped or powerless—not necessarily indicators that ending the relationship is what we truly want or need.Drawing on polyvagal theory an...2025-03-2627 min

When Depression is in your bedShould I Stay or Should I Go? 7 Questions for Making a Conscious Decision About Break-Up, Separation or DivorceCaught in the mental tug-of-war between staying in your relationship or finally walking away? When depression complicates an already difficult decision, finding clarity can feel impossible. Drawing from both professional expertise as an Imago Relationship Therapist and deeply personal experience navigating a 20-year relationship affected by depression, Trish Sanders offers a transformative framework for making conscious relationship choices.This episode introduces seven powerful questions designed to help you move beyond indecision and into clarity. You'll discover how to identify the obstacles keeping you stuck, recognize unconscious patterns from your past that might be influencing your choices, and...2025-03-1939 min

Good Neighbor Podcast: BergenEp. # 96 Healing Through Dialogue: A Therapist's Journey to Whole Family WellnessWhat does healthy connection look like in today's fragmented world? Therapist Trisha Sanders reveals powerful insights from her 20-year journey helping families, couples, and teens rebuild meaningful relationships through a holistic lens.Drawing from both professional expertise and personal experience, Trisha shares how her own marital separation and reconciliation transformed her approach to therapy. This vulnerable story illuminates the power of Imago Relationship Therapy – a structured dialogue process that creates safety and allows partners to be heard beyond their differences."Incompatibility is the grounds for a healthy relationship," Trisha explains, challenging the notion that differences ar...2025-03-1530 min

When Depression is in your bed(Depressed) Boy Meets (Depressed) GirlWhen I met Ben on Match.com, it was the early 2000s and online dating still carried warnings about meeting axe murderers. Both lonely in New York City, we connected over coffee that turned into a nine-hour adventure across the city. That meeting launched what I fondly call our "Summer of Love" – those magical first months where we experienced what Imago Relationship Therapists call "joyful aliveness." The phase of Romantic Love in which we felt completely seen, valued, and understood by each other.But when Ben started a high-stress tech job, our dynamic shifted dramatically overnight. The per...2025-03-1226 min

When Depression is in your bedThe Nervous System: The Missing Piece to Creating Greater ConnectionAre you exhausted by how much effort you've put in trying to figure out how to help yourself or your partner move out of depression? Are you sick of the struggle? Are you longing to finally figure out this seemingly impossible puzzle?? Look no further, the missing piece that will help your whole picture come together is here! This episode invites you into the transformative world of Polyvagal Theory, a concept that reveals the intricate ties between your nervous system and mental health. By unpacking the dynamics behind emotional regulation, listeners will discover how our biological make-up affects our inte...2025-03-0533 min