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Cheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and DenéEp 234: Friendships & GoodbyesEp 234: Friendships & GoodbyesIn this emotional and reflective episode of Cheaper than Therapy the Podcast, we discuss the cycles of relationships, touching on our personal friendship dynamics and the upcoming conclusion of Cheaper than Therapy the Podcast after an incredible 4 years. What You’ll Gain from this Episode:✨ An emphasis on the importance of prioritizing friendships over romantic relationships, which often get placed on a societal pedestal, and how our friendship has thrived because of our commitment to this mindset✨The cyclical nature of relationships, using the metaphor of a sp...2024-09-1847 minCheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and DenéEp 224: Boundaries, Abandonment, and Personal GrowthIn this episode of Cheaper than Therapy the Podcast, we address listener questions around boundaries and dealing with significant changes in your relationships. We discuss themes around abandonment, setting boundaries, and accountability vs blame in relationships. What You’ll Gain from this Episode:✨How a fear of abandonment can make setting and maintaining boundaries challenging/unclear, often leading to negative responses from others✨The importance of accountability vs blame in relationships, and not personalizing others’ actions✨Distinguishing between someone’s capacity to show up in a relationship and their desire to do...2024-07-1026 minCheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and DenéEp 223: Live Coaching Session: Redefining Yourself Post-BreakupIn this episode of Cheaper than Therapy the Podcast, we sit down with Joy, who is navigating the complex and practical life challenges following the end of a long-term relationship. We explore the difficulties of fully moving on when there is significant overlap in social and professional circles, and how to handle lingering feelings especially during potential future interactions. What You’ll Gain from this Episode:✨The importance of self awareness in recognizing and validating your feelings of discomfort and jealousy, and why radical acceptance of these emotions is a key part of the h...2024-07-0319 minCheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and DenéEp 222: Transforming Trauma with Empathy with Dr. Jody CarringtonIn this episode of Cheaper than Therapy the Podcast, we sit down with Dr. Jody Carrington, psychologist, speaker, and three time author known for her expertise in trauma, connection, relationships, and mental health, to discuss emotional regulation, how to be emotionally available in what Dr. Jody calls a loneliness epidemic, and the transformative power of leading with kindness and compassion. What You’ll Gain from this Episode:✨The importance of emotional regulation as the foundation for healthy relationships and effective leadership✨The need for more supports for first responders and the effects...2024-06-2654 minCheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and DenéEp 221: Finding the Right TherapistIn this episode of Cheaper than Therapy the Podcast, we delve into the complexities of the therapeutic process and how to trust your inner voice as you navigate the challenges of finding the right therapist for yourself. If you have a question for Dené and Vanessa, click here. Or, if you’d like to apply for a live coaching session, click here.What You’ll Gain from this Episode:✨The importance, as a therapist, to understand individual client needs and examine your own reactions and countertransference during therapy✨How i...2024-06-1920 minCheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and DenéEp 220: Live Coaching Session: Navigating Calm Amidst ChaosIn this episode of Cheaper than Therapy the Podcast, we sit down with Veronica, joining us for a second live coaching session, to discuss her experiences with social anxiety and navigating calm environments after growing up in a chaotic household. If you have a question for Dené and Vanessa, click here. Or, if you’d like to apply for a live coaching session, click here.What You’ll Gain from this Episode:✨Why growing up in chaos can lead to feeling uncomfortable and anxious in calm environments, and how to begin to...2024-06-1226 minCheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and DenéEp 219: Humans Loving Humans with Todd Baratz, LMHCIn this episode of Cheaper than Therapy the Podcast, we sit down with Todd Baratz, LMHC, a certified sex therapist, licensed individual and couples psychotherapist, co-host of the Our Diagnonsense Podcast, and writer who specializes in relationships and sex. We talk about relationships, his philosophy that “you aren’t fucked up - our culture is,” and his first book, How to Love Someone Without Losing Your Mind which is available now! Todd is one of our favorite people and we had so much fun during this conversation. We know you’re going to have so many take-aways and love this con...2024-06-0542 minCheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and DenéEp 218: Is a Societal Shift toward Celibacy the Answer?In this episode of Cheaper than Therapy the Podcast, we talk about a conversation we’ve been hearing around celibacy as a form of activism and a way to shift the often challenging landscape of modern dating and traditional gender dynamics.Some Takeaways from this episode:✨ How a recent controversy around the new Bumble ad-campaign has a seemingly tone-deaf message toward women in 2024✨ The 4B Feminist movement happening in South Korea advocating for non-hetero relationships, hetero-celibacy, and child-less lives, and how the awareness of it is shaping conversations around relationship dynamics worldwide ✨...2024-05-2929 minCheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and DenéEp 217: Q&A: Finding the Middle Ground In this Q&A episode, someone wrote in to ask: as I’m starting to do recovery work around codependency, I find that I sometimes swing into hyper-independence. How do I find a middle ground? We talked about:✨What it looks like to move out of the space of enmeshment into a differentiated sense of self.✨Realizing that we staying present with ourselves is a practice that we all have to continuously come back to.✨The evolution of relationships that are co-created by the people involved instead of looking to society t...2024-05-2221 minCheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and DenéEp 216: Parenting and You with Dr. ShefaliWe’ll be back with all new episodes of Cheaper than Therapy starting next week! But we’re so excited about the launch of Dr. Shefali’s new podcast, PARENTING & YOU, that we wanted to do a throwback episode to when we had her on the podcast to talk about her most recent book, The Parenting Map. Dr. Shefali is not your typical parenting expert and PARENTING & YOU is not your typical parenting podcast. There are no guest experts or celebrities. Every episode has 2 parents being helped through their parenting journey.It’s raw, real and to...2024-05-1529 minCheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and DenéEp 215: Embracing the Liminal JourneyIn this episode of Cheaper than Therapy, we sit down to discuss transitions and the concept of liminal spaces, and how these transitional moments challenge existing paradigms, inviting personal and societal transformations.Some Takeaways from this Episode:✨ Why these phases of major transition can feel deeply unsettling but are necessary for for growth and true authenticity to Self✨ How traditional life scripts and societal norms are being questioned and dismantled, offering a unique opportunity to redefine values and ways of living in more authentic and fulfilling ways✨ The importance of sta...2024-05-0844 minCheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and DenéEp 214: Episode Rewind - How Therapy Can Mirror Our Innate Goodness with Ashley TorrentIn this episode, we go into our archives and bring back one of our first episodes EVER with our good friend, Ashley Torrent. Ashley is a psycho-spritual counselor and intuitive medium, Co-Host of “The Blue Butterfly Effect” and “The Practice of Love” podcasts, and recurring guest on the “Single on Purpose” podcast. Dené and Vanessa sit down to talk with Ashley about her journey and insights into holistic therapy, and her practice of blending clinical psychology with spiritual practices to help clients navigate their emotional and spiritual well-being and challenges. Some Takeaways from this Episode:✨ The im...2024-05-011h 03Cheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and DenéEp 213: Liberated Love with Mark GrovesThis episode of Cheaper than Therapy the Podcast is from an Instagram live with Vaness and Mark Groves, Human Connection Specialist and founder of Create The Love. Mark works as a bridge between the academic and the human, inviting people to explore the good, bad, downright ugly, and beautiful sides of connection. Join us as we talk emotional armor, the necessity of integrating bodywork with talk therapy, relationships as the jump off point for our deeper internal work, co-regulation and of course codependency!🎙 This podcast is definitely Cheaper than TherapyConnect with Mark:2024-04-2430 minCheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and DenéEp 212: Complex Connections: Navigating Feedback with AuthenticityEp 212: Complex Connections: Navigating Feedback with AuthenticityThis episode of Cheaper than Therapy the Podcast is part of a series where we answer questions submitted by listeners. We dive into the complexities of accountability in all relationships. Some Takeaways from this Episode:✨Recurring Themes in Society: Many of the topics addressed in the show are themes that have come up repeatedly within therapeutic spaces, reflecting collective societal trends and healing journeys indicating a widespread desire to evolve past self-abandonment and the cultivation of healthier relationships ✨Staying Authentic: The i...2024-04-1728 minCheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and DenéEp 211: How the Body Releases Trauma and Restores Goodness with Dr Peter LevineIn this Cheaper than Therapy episode, we sit down with Dr. Peter Levine for a deep dive into the complexity of trauma, and the transformative possibilities within therapeutic practices. Dr. Levine holds a doctorate in biophysics and a doctorate in psychology. He is the developer of Somatic Experiencing and Somatic Experiencing International, a naturalistic and neurobiological approach to healing trauma, Founder and President of the Ergos Institute for Somatic Education, dedicated to community outreach and post-advanced somatic experiencing training, and author of several best-selling books on trauma. His work has been taught to over 30,000 therapists in over 42 countries. 2024-04-101h 06Cheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and DenéEp 210: Impermanence and the Transformative Power of Love with Rainier WyldeIn this special Cheaper than Therapy episode, we sit down with our friend Rainier Wylde in person to talk about the often painful truth of love’s impermanence and conditionality, and how love can lead to personal growth. Rainier is a highly sought after mentor and consultant to authors, athletes, business professionals, coaches, healers, and ordinary radicals who want to see change in their world. He is known for his unique blend of spirituality and in depth strategic coaching and is the author of “As You Are: Meditations on Self & Other” and the co-host of Love Like Hell podcast....2024-04-031h 13Cheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and DenéEp 209: Balancing Love and Boundaries: Supporting Loved Ones Through Abusive RelationshipsThis episode of Cheaper than Therapy the Podcast is part of a series where we answer questions submitted by listeners. Today’s listener writes in concerned about a loved one’s abusive marriage, asking how to balance personal boundaries and navigate the challenges supporting a loved one in an abusive relationships. If you have a question for Vanessa and Dené, click here.Some Takeaways from this Episode:✨Supporting without Enabling: The importance of offering love and support without enabling or trying to rescue your loved one✨Challenging and Honest...2024-03-2717 minCheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and DenéEp 208: Embracing Change: Navigating a New Perspective on RelationshipsThis episode of Cheaper than Therapy the Podcast is part of a series where we answer questions submitted by listeners. Today, we’re addressing the discomfort some listeners have talking about relationships, specifically when discussing the evolving paradigms of love and partnership and our ownership template of relationships. If you have a question for Vanessa and Dené, click here.Some Takeaways from this Episode:✨Shifting Perspective: While uncomfortable, it is important to shift your viewpoint of relationships in a way that prioritizes personal responsibility and growth over controlling others, as a way...2024-03-2027 minCheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and DenéEp 207: Beyond Control: Embracing Personal Growth in RelationshipsThis episode of Cheaper than Therapy the Podcast is part of a series where we answer questions submitted by listeners. A listener writes in expressing concern about her boyfriend checking out other women in public, despite repeatedly expressing her discomfort to him. We dive into relationship dynamics, and how sometimes fixating on others’ behavior can be a distraction from your own personal growth. Some Takeaways from this Episode:✨Self-Focus Over Partner-Surveillance: When you notice yourself becoming focused on a partner’s behaviors it’s a clear sign that your energy should be redirected inward an...2024-03-1325 minCheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and DenéEp 206: Boundaries 101 with Nedra Glover TawwabIn this episode of Cheaper than Therapy the Podcast, we sat down with Nedra Glover Tawwab, MSW, LCSW - author of three bestselling books, licensed therapist, and renowned relationship expert with 15 years of experience in relationship therapy. She is the founder of Kaleidoscope Counseling, where she aids individuals in cultivating healthy relationships through boundary implementation. Nedra's approach is grounded in the belief that many relationship issues stem from a lack of boundaries and assertiveness.Some Takeaways from this Episode:✨Boundaries are Positive: While boundaries are often seen as a way to keep people ou...2024-03-0655 minCheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and DenéEp 205: Unlocking Inner Safety: Overcoming the Need for ReassuranceIn this episode of Cheaper than Therapy the Podcast, we sit down to address two questions submit by listeners with similar “energies.” One listener wants to know how to stop comparing themselves to their partners ex and feeling insecure in their ability to trust due to past relationships. Another listener is looking for clarification differentiating between an anxious attachment versus being a human seeking safety, consistency, and reassurance in a relationship. Some Takeaways from this Episode:✨ Safety in Self: Having an internal sense of security and interdependence will help to ease the insecurity of self-co...2024-02-2820 minCheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and DenéEp 204: Live Coaching Session: Grief and Self-DiscoveryIn this live coaching session episode of Cheaper than Therapy the Podcast, we sat down with Jess, who is approaching dating for the first real time in her life while simultaneously navigating being a young widow. Some Takeaways from this Episode:✨ It’s all about Self-Discovery: When approaching dating for the first real time and/or after a loss, you’re really on a journey of self-discovery and self-exploration, which is really all being a human is, anyway. ✨ A Balancing Act: Being open-minded to what the universe has to offer and taking your time...2024-02-2131 minCheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and DenéEp 203: Relationship Anarchy Pt. 2 with Annie UndoneIn this episode of Cheaper than Therapy the Podcast, we sat back down with Annie Undone, a visionary artist and writer working to normalize diverse relationship styles and varied sexual experiences. She is a queer, kinky, relationship anarchist on a mission to incite individuals to experience personal revolutions. Get ready for an exciting and revolutionary conversation about deconstructing not only your romantic and sexual relationships with others, but your relationship with Self. Some Takeaways from this Episode:✨ Decentering Romantic Relationships: The importance of an autonomous relationship with Self and the pursuit of your most aut...2024-02-141h 24Cheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and DenéEp 202: Relationship Anarchy Pt. 1 with Annie UndoneIn this episode of Cheaper than Therapy the Podcast, we sat down with Annie Undone, a visionary artist and writer working to normalize diverse relationship styles and varied sexual experiences. She is a queer, kinky, relationship anarchist on a mission to incite individuals to experience personal revolutions. Get ready for an exciting and revolutionary conversation about deconstructing not only your romantic and sexual relationships with others, but your relationship with Self. Some Takeaways from this Episode:✨ Decentering Romantic Relationships: The importance of an autonomous relationship with Self and the pursuit of your most authentic lif...2024-02-071h 01Cheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and DenéEp 201: Daring to Feel with Alexandra RoxoIn this episode of Cheaper than Therapy the Podcast, we sat down with Alexandra Roxo (@alexandraroxo), a bestselling author, artist, spiritual seeker, and teacher and mentor in the space of feminine embodiment, sacred sexuality, and spiritual transformation. Alexandra has mentored thousands of women in embodying the fullness of their authentic, magnificent Self, and seeing it as sacred and necessary medicine for the planet. On her retreats around the world, she has spoken about the modern sacred feminine spiritual path, and helped many women heal their relationships to their body and their sexuality. Her latest book Dare to...2024-01-1756 minCheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and DenéEp 199: Q&A Session Why do Women Tear Down Other Women?In this episode of Cheaper than Therapy, the Podcast, we talk about the history, the why, and the way forward surrounding the societal norm for women to tear one another down. We talk about using this practice as a point of entry to examine and excavate our inner misogyny and begin to heal our inherited sister wound.Some Big Takeaways from this Episode:✨ Support not Competition: Patriarchal foundations have created societal norms that condition women to view one another as competition, rather than form secure attachments and create community✨Inner Healing is C...2024-01-0324 minCheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and DenéEp 198: Cultivating Authentic Connection with Alexandra BallensweigIn this episode of Cheaper than Therapy the Podcast, we sat down with Alexandra Ballensweig to discuss modern dating, the importance of approaching dating with awareness and slowness, and the drawbacks of online dating and dating apps. Alexandra Ballensweig is the founder of HumHum (short for human to human) a dating experience for people seeking meaningful and authentic connection with others, while simultaneously discovering themselves. Alexandra is a certified Kundalini Yoga teacher, Reiki Master Teacher, and practitioner trained in the Usui Method, and a Vipassana practitioner. She holds an M.S. of Industrial Design from Art Center College of...2023-12-2759 minCheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and DenéEp 197: Live Coaching Session: Re-Parenting while Co-ParentingThis episode of Cheaper than Therapy the Podcast is part of a series where we coach one of our listeners through a topic or question. In this coaching session, we sat down with “Jane” to discuss moving forward with ending a 12 year relationship stuck in an unhealthy cycle, while attempting to co-parent a child together. If you’re interested in joining us for a coaching session, click here. 🌟 Some Big Takeaways from this Episode:Breaking the Cycle: Recognizing that every time we say we’re ending the relationship but stay we trust yourself a lit...2023-12-2031 minCheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and DenéEp 196: Finding Safety in Spirituality After Religious Trauma with Dr. Laura Anderson, PhD.Dr. Laura Anderson, PhD. is a psychotherapist, trauma resolution coach and consultant, writer and educator specializing in complex and developmental trauma, dynamics of power and control and religious trauma. In this episode of Cheaper than Therapy the Podcast, we sat down with Dr. Anderson to discuss all things spirituality and religious trauma, and about her book “When Religion Hurts You.”🌟 What You’ll Gain from this Episode:Religion vs Spirituality: Addressing the role of religion and/or religious trauma in your upbringing is a personal spiritual journey that doesn’t have to create anti...2023-12-131h 07Cheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and DenéEp 195: IG LIVE - Reclaiming the Untamed, Messy Parts of OurselvesIn this episode of Cheaper than Therapy the Podcast, we sat down for an IG LIVE to talk about reclaiming the feminine aspects within ourselves, as well as why this is the basis of so much of the relational work that we feel so strongly about as therapists.🌟 Some Big Takeaways from this Episode:Alone Not Lonely: What to do when you know your longing to be in a relationship is rooted in feelings of loneliness Disconnected Partnership: How to navigate whether to stay in a relationship or go when a partner is regularly numbing with...2023-12-0645 minCheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and DenéEp 194: Live Coaching Session - How Much Sharing is Too Much?In this episode of Cheaper than Therapy, we sit down with “Veronica” to discuss how much sharing is too much in friendships and romantic relationships, especially in the early stages. How do you bond and create authentic connections through vulnerability when your past feels like it’s too heavy for others?If you’re interested in joining us for a coaching session, click here.🌟 What You’ll Gain from this Episode:You Are Not What’s Happened to You: It’s easy to fall into the mindset that the things that have happened to you me...2023-11-2945 minCheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and DenéEp 193: Live Coaching Session - Conquering CodependencyThis Cheaper than Therapy episode is part of a series where we coach one of our listeners through a topic or question. In this coaching session, we sat down with “Spencer” to talk about conquering codependency within romantic relationships, and finding self-worth and sourcing validation from within, rather than external relationships. If you’re interested in joining us for a coaching session, click here.🌟 Some Takeaways from this Episode:Proving Your Worth: Recognizing that you may begin the dating process by going above and beyond in a subconscious effort to find validation and self-wo...2023-11-2235 minCheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and DenéEp 192: Men’s “Clarity” After SexAre cis/hetero men biologically programmed to experience a type of “post-sex clarity,” or have both men and women fallen victim to the societal norm of objectifying one another and dealing (or not dealing) with the repercussions later? In this Cheaper than Therapy episode, we discuss a recent episode on Vanessa’s partner, John’s, podcast discussing whether or not men have a biological predisposition that makes them interested in dating a specific woman until immediately after having sex with her. 🌟 Some Takeaways from this Episode:Clarity or Shame: Sitting with yourself to ask the hard questio...2023-11-1542 minCheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and DenéEp 191: Q&A: How Do I Make Sure I’m “Doing it Right” in Dating?In this Q&A episode of “Cheaper than Therapy,” a listener finds themself ready to begin dating after a long post-divorce hiatus, but finds themself overwhelmed with worry about choosing “wrong.” We discuss getting vulnerable to find the real information you need when dating, and get real about expectations in relationships.🌟 Big Takeaways from this Episode:Silence the Noise: Sometimes we have too much information and rely on our rational mind to protect ourselves from heartbreak, forgetting that true connection requires authentic vulnerabilityKnowledge is Power: Remember that how you feel physically and emotionally when you’re with a per...2023-11-0826 minCheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and DenéEp 190: Q&A: Longing for Partnership Outside the Box of Societal NormsWhat do you do when you find yourself craving a secure and trusting monogamous relationship but don’t want to contribute to the societal expectations, rooted in patriarchy, that traditionally influence the foundation of relationships? In this Q&A episode of “Cheaper than Therapy,” a male listener writes in, asking, “Where do I go from here?”🌟 What You’ll Gain from this Episode:Collective Shifts: An in-depth discussion about society’s new desires within relationships and what we want in a partner, as well as the generational societal norms that we are moving away from as a collectiveLo...2023-11-0137 minCheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and DenéEp 189: The Life Brief with Bonnie Wan“When you have the clarity of your essence - who you are, what you stand for, what you believe in, and then also your ambition distilled in a way that sticks, in a way that you remember it, you can call it in and call upon it whenever you need” - Bonnie WanBonnie Wan is an author and a speaker as well as Partner and Head of Brand Strategy at the world renowned advertising agency, Goodby Silverstein Partners. Alongside her new book, The Life Brief, Bonnie helps people live with greater clarity, creativity, and courage by t...2023-10-251h 07Cheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and DenéEp: 188 Live Coaching Session - What Does My Inner Child Need?What happens when we find ourselves so engrossed in society’s standards that we lose touch with our Self and inner knowing? In this live coaching session, we sit down with Catherine to talk about what it looks like to reconnect with our inner child and break codependent patterns.Some big takeaways from this episode:Recognizing that we are not there to fix others’ emotions, but to support them and hold our own emotional boundariesFinding where we feel an anxious attachment in our body, and how to reconnect with ourselves to soothe our nervous system back...2023-10-1831 minCheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and DenéEp: 186 Live Coaching Session: Is Society's Path the Right Path?What happens when you don't follow society's expected relationship timeline? In this live coaching session episode, we talk about what it looks like to navigate walking a non-traditional path and taking the road less traveled. Alana opens up about her transformative decisions—whether it's breaking off a long-term relationship, returning to graduate school, or challenging societal norms around marriage and family.🌟 What You'll Gain From This Episode:Empowering Choices: How Alana took charge of her destiny by ending a significant relationship and opting for further education. Learn the dynamics of making such monum...2023-10-0430 minCheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and DenéEp 174: Cheaper Than Therapy Rewind - Compassion is Half Sadness and Half Joy with Buddy WakefieldIn this episode, we go into the archives and bring back one of our incredibly wise guests, Buddy Wakefield, from one of our first episodes ever on July 15, 2020!Buddy Wakefield is an American spoken word artist, a three-time poetry slam world champion, and the most toured performance poet in history. In this unbelievably powerful conversation, Vanessa and Dené talk to Buddy about the dangers of tranquil states of existence, how we can benefit from exploring our “scary thoughts,” and the victim, villain, and hero archetypes we’re being asked to question in our current climate.C...2023-07-2157 minCheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and DenéEp 159 Speaking Up When You’re Afraid of the ResponseHow do I speak up when I’m afraid of the response? How do I show up as my most authentic self and what does that even mean? These are just some of the questions that Dené and Vanessa get asked frequently addressed in this episode from sn IG Live. If you’re ready to dive deeper into topics like these, we have ONE MORE SHARED ROOM LEFT for our upcoming retreat in Costa Rica June 3-10th so if you’ve been on the fence this is your last chance to join us! We’re offering a...2023-05-1932 minCheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and DenéEp 158: How to Trust in Self-Love with Danny MorelWhat happens when a world-renowned business powerhouse awakens to his life’s highest timeline, causing him to shift gears and dive into the spiritual realm where his true sense of purpose lies? Vanessa and Dené sat down with Danny Morel to explore his transformative journey from real estate mogul to spiritual guide - prompting us to rethink our definitions of success and the positive impact authentic self-love has in our relationships. 🌟 Big Takeaways from this Episode:Heart Centric Realizations: Asking if it’s possible to allow yourself to be loved in relationship before you’ve done the wo...2023-05-171h 13Cheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and DenéWhat It Means to Self-AbandonedIn today’s episode, we’re answering your questions around the topic of self-abandonment, and what it means to self-abandon in various areas in your life.We’re discussing:
How to not lose yourself in relationships and why we may begin a relationship with strong boundaries but gradually lose confidence as we become more attached
What healthy attachment in relationships looks like and how to discern the difference between wants vs needs within those relationships
Recognizing and working to break codependency patterns, and how to have compassion for yourself in the pr...2023-04-281h 03Cheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and DenéEp 142 Conscious Parenting with Dr. ShefaliWe had an opportunity to do an Instagram Live with Dr. Shefali, three time New York Times best-sellers author, including her two landmark books The Conscious Parent and The Awakened Family. We sat down to talk about her most recent book, The Parenting Map, and:1. The importance of raising our children to be sovereign beings, rather than a possession that fit into our idealized parenting fantasies2. Shifting our parenting paradigms from being in control to being in charge, and what that tangibly looks like3. The difference between e...2023-03-2229 minCheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and DenéEp 141 Q&A: Trauma Bonds and AddictionTrauma Bonds and Addiction is part of a series where we discuss topics and/or questions submitted by our listeners.In this episode, we’re discussing:1. The longstanding concept that drugs, alcohol, and other types of addictions can be a way to feel more in touch with Self/Source and numb the feelings of inadequacy2. How safety in chosen relationships can initially come from a place of societal conditioning of needing/longing to be accepted and fit in, and how we can dig deeper to examine how our subconscious mind re...2023-03-1834 minCheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and DenéTrauma Bonds and AddictionTrauma Bonds and Addiction is part of a series where we discuss topics and/or questions submitted by our listeners.In this episode, we’re discussing:1. The longstanding concept that drugs, alcohol, and other types of addictions can be a way to feel more in touch with Self/Source and numb the feelings of inadequacy2. How safety in chosen relationships can initially come from a place of societal conditioning of needing/longing to be accepted and fit in, and how we can dig deeper to...2023-03-1736 minCheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and DenéEp 140 Talking Sexual Entitlement with Jeremie LotemoJeremie Lotemo is a Transformation Coach who supports both men and women with cultivating tools to create radical, lasting changes in their lives and relationships.We are thrilled to have Jeremie joining us for a second time after the incredible response we had to our first conversation with him (ep. 118). We sat down to talk about:1. The insights he gained after making the conscious decision to be celibate for over a year2. The ancestral trauma that is often being perpetuated in the unconscious sexual patterns that have b...2023-03-151h 02Cheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and DenéEp 139 What it Means to Feel SeenIn this solo episode, we take a look at a Buzzfeed opinion article that examines the idea that kissing and cuddling can feel like a contract for sex.In this episode we discuss:1. The unspoken expectations for sexual intimacy that, many women feel come with any physical contact from our partners2. The common differences in how men and women get to a place where they feel emotionally safe enough to express themselves sexually3. How to find an integrated balance between our inner masculine and feminine, where both...2023-03-1040 minCheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and DenéEp 138 Getting Social with Therapy JeffJeff Guenther, (also known as Therapy Jeff) is a licensed professional counselor from Portland, Oregon who has created a huge social media following by offering relationship advice, tips, pep talks, and other resources to maximize your mental health.We sat down with Jeff to discuss:1. working to be realistic about who people are, and the capacity they have to show up in certain ways 2. the challenges that come to the surface when we look for our partner to do our reparenting work for us3. the challenges and b...2023-03-081h 03Cheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and DenéEp. 137 Q&A Session: The Real Talk of MotherhoodThis week’s episode is part of a series where we discuss topics and/or questions submitted by you, our listeners. In this Cheaper than Therapy conversation, we get into the nitty gritty realness of motherhood and the societal shortcomings to support moms. If you have a question you’d like us to discuss, click here. 🌟 What You’ll Gain From this Episode:Accepting the Twists: The journey of accepting the ebb and flow of motherhood, after an initial resistance to having children, is a moment-by-moment process that requires patience an...2023-03-0325 minCheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and DenéEp 136 Live Coaching Session: Be The Chooser, Not the ChosenIn this live coaching session, we sat down with Jane to talk about some struggles she’s been having with infidelity in relationships and her own self-trust. We explore:1. How to create safety within ourselves and what that looks like, so that we are able to recognize safety, or lack thereof in relation to others2. The opportunity to love ourselves so fully that we won’t allow anyone in our sphere who doesn’t mirror that same love back to us3. What happens when we remove our negativ...2023-03-0137 minCheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and DenéEp 135 Trusting in Your Wisdom with Imani TuttImani Tutt is a Marriage and Family Therapist, an Intuitive, a Content Creator, and an incredibly powerful conduit in supporting those she works with in tapping into their innate wisdom and power. Imani specializes in working with those who are committed to exploring their journey through the process of self examination. She believes that everyone has the power to change when they give themselves the opportunity. We sat down with Imani to talk about:1. How her experience of the differentiation process and stepping into her gifts mirrors what so many of us have be...2023-02-221h 12Cheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and DenéEp 134 Growing Through Self-SabotageThis week’s episode is part of a series where we discuss topics and/or questions submitted by our listeners. This week we’re discussing:1. What it means to self-sabotage and the different ways this can show up in our lives and relationships. 2. How we can challenge ourselves to confront our shadow-self in order to pinpoint triggers and self-limiting beliefs and behaviors so that we can practice new patterns, even in a society that conditions us to quiet our self-love.3. The freedom that can come from the possibility that self-sabotage is no...2023-02-1523 minCheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and DenéEp 133 Being in Right Relationship with Truth with Kelsey GrantKelsey Grant is a teacher, writer, musician, wisdom keeper, and creatrix who loves the magic of love and believes in the power of cultivating a sense of healing through fulfilling relational experiences. We sat down talk with Kelsey to talk about:1. The importance of being honest with ourselves as we attempt to construct the relationships we most desire 2. How shadow work can serve as a tool to work with the activation our relationships inevitable bring up for us 3. How relational dramas often serve as a distraction from the...2023-02-081h 06Cheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and DenéEp 132 Amplifying How We Love with Preston SmilesPreston Smiles is a teacher, a transformational thought leader, a conscious content creator, and a man on a mission to empower others by amplifying a multi-generational movement of radical love on the planet. We sat down talk with Preston about:1. The unspoken war of the sexes and the challenges that arise for couples during the early stages of parenthood 2. Some of the blind spots that we’ve held as women around the felt experiences of men3. How our relationship dynamics instantly shift when we attempt to be mind...2023-02-011h 00Cheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and DenéEp 131 Setting Ourselves Free with Kelli MooreKelli Moore is the co-founder and CEO of Soulfire™ Productions: the premiere podcast network for thought leaders, free thinkers, and visionaries. She’s been the host of two top-rated podcasts, The Kelli Show and OK, Babe., and is deeply passionate about helping people see themselves more clearly. Kelli believes in setting ourselves free from expectations, people pleasing, and the stories that hold us, hostage, in our own lives. Kelli is also an Emmy Award Winning former Sports TV Host with an eye for truth, and an ear for bullshit. She loves creating life-changing experiences for audiences and h...2023-01-251h 01Cheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and DenéEp 130 Defining InterdependenceIn this solo episode, Vanessa and Dené passed a miniature microphone back and forth in the car to record a conversation they were having on the way to their New Year's retreat.They talked about:1. How their perspective on interdependence differs from the ways others describe it in several personal development and psychology spaces. 2. How a woman’s experience of safety in a relationship can have a lot to do with the emotional load she is carrying.3. Why most of us are actually taking on way more in ou...2023-01-1857 minCheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and DenéEp. 129 Self-Expansion Without A PartnershipThis episode is part of a series where we coach one of our listeners through a topic or question. In this coaching session, we sat down with “Anne” to talk about the internal struggle that comes from the societal norm to feel incomplete without a partnership.If you’re interested in joining us for a coaching session, click here.Some Takeaways from this Episode:Differentiating Between Comfort vs Ease: There’s comfort in choosing the societal norm to be in partnership, but ease can be found when we accept that maybe this point in...2023-01-1138 minCheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and DenéEp 128 Understanding the Feeling you Want to Feel with Flynn SkidmoreFlynn Skidmore is a therapist, content creator, and business mentor who specializes in helping people create lasting change in their lives, faster. Through Flynn’s courses, community driven content, and work with individuals he finds that clients deepen their self-acceptance and start taking tangible action steps toward getting unstuck. We sat down with Flynn to talk about:1. Figuring out what it is we actually desire to feel in relationships so that we can come up with the best strategy for accomplishing that desired feeling.2. The resistance that often accompanies the rea...2023-01-041h 02Cheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and DenéEp 127 To Control or Not to Control - Live Coaching SessionIn this live coaching session, we sat down with May to talk about some struggles she’s been having with codependent tendencies.We explore:1. how to know the difference between looking out for someone because you care about them and controlling them2. the opportunities for building resilience that are lost when we protect those we love from difficulty3. how important it is to hold ourselves with compassion in the moments that we’re being controlling, understanding that the need to control is usually linked to our desire to cr...2022-12-2825 minCheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and DenéEp 126 Dipping into the Sugar Jar with Yasmine CheyenneYasmine Cheyenne is a writer, speaker, and self-healing advocate, born and raised in Brooklyn, NY. She helps people create and strengthen their individual self-care practices by teaching them the tools that empower lasting positive changes in their lives. An Air Force Veteran, Yasmine now focuses on her self-healing workshops as well as her writing. Her book, The Sugar Jar: Create Boundaries, Embrace Self-Healing, and Enjoy the Sweet things in Life, is available for preorder and releases on December 27.We sat down to talk with Yasmine about:1. Using self-healing language as a means to...2022-12-211h 00Cheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and DenéEp 125 Back in the Dating Pool - Live Coaching SessionIn this live coaching session, Dené and Vanessa sat down with Pam to talk about her experience of anxiety within a new relationship after a prolonged period of singlehood.They explore:1. How to cultivate a toolkit for self-soothing some of the inevitable discomforts that comes to the surface when we’re opening ourselves up to love.2. Sitting with the difficult truth that we cannot experience love without vulnerability 3. Why the skills Pam cultivated while she was ‘Single on Purpose’ are still important to carry forward with her into her new rela...2022-12-1425 minCheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and DenéEp 124 Transmuting Our Trauma with Quentin de CampQuentin de Camp is a relationship coach, a therapist, and a healing teacher who’s spent the last decade searching, analysing, learning, and modeling the most efficient techniques and tools for self-development and human psychology. and communication, key success factors and more recently neurosciences, well being in workplace, trauma informed and leadership.He supports others in removing what is holding them back, so they can thrive in what they want to achieve in their lives.We sat down with Quentin to talk about:1. the trouble with attaching labels to our id...2022-12-071h 13Cheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and DenéEp 123 Pathologizing Relational Needs with Taune LyonsTaune Lyons is an integrative therapist, writer, and coach in the San Francisco, Bay Area. She specializes in understanding our attachment sounding, intentional relating, sexuality, unraveling our conditioning, and the integration of our painful experiences.We sat down with Taune for an IG LIVE to talk about:1. straddling the line between the “disconnection dance” in relationships and acknowledging the inevitable ways our actions end up impacting those around us2. how we can reframe our relational challenges as learning experiences 3. the ways that “Instagram therapy” often misses the nuance of our relat...2022-11-3058 minCheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and DenéEp 122 How We Process PainEp.122 How we process pain In this solo episode, we sat down to unpack some of the feedback we got on one of our recent episodes.We discuss:1. The differentiation between allowing ourselves time to fully feel the most challenging moments in our lives vs letting those moments define us.2. How what we’re grappling with on an individual level is so often mirrored by what we struggle with as a collective3. Our perspectives on how therapy is currently being utilized and how self-help can...2022-11-2340 minCheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and DenéEp 121 Bringing the Focus Back InwardIn this live coaching session, we sat down with Steven to talk about the issues of betrayal and differing levels of desire within a marriage. We explore:how our attachment wounds inevitably start to play out in our adult relationships and how understanding our codependent tendencies becomes the first step we take toward our own healingwhy the people in our lives often start taking us for granted if we’re not treating ourselves with love and respect firstthe importance of maintaining a sense of autonomy - our own interests, communities, and practices of...2022-11-1638 minCheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and DenéEp 120 How to be Loving with Danielle LaPorteDanielle LaPorte is a member of Oprah’s SuperSoul 100—a group that, in Oprah Winfrey’s words, “is uniquely connecting the world together with a spiritual energy that matters.” The former director of a future studies think tank in Washington, DC, where she managed a team creating global scenarios. She now speaks about the intelligence of the heart. Her most recent book, How To Be Loving… when your heart is breaking open and the world is waking up, is also an audiobook + eBook, with a companion deck and journal. Danielle is also the author of The Fire Starter Sessions, The Desire Ma...2022-11-0952 minCheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and DenéEp 119 What does it mean to be spiritual?In this solo episode, Vanessa and Dené hit record on one of their conversations during a recent trip they took to Hawaii. They explore:how each of them has defined their own relationship to spiritualitywhy it might not be helpful to demand perfectionism of ourselves and others when attempting to understand our cultural differenceshow the work of spiritual seeking is ultimately about staying in the space of curiosity and remembering that each of us are always doing the best that we can with our current understanding Dené and Vane...2022-11-0246 minCheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and DenéEp 118 Living from Your Deepest Core by Integrating Your Deepest Shadows with Jeremie LotemoJeremie Lotemo is a poet, writer, and coach who utilizes his insights on relational dynamics to help men live from their deepest core. Through his writing, his podcast, 1:1 coaching and building community, Jeremie supports others in the integration of their deepest shadows. We sat down with Jeremie to discuss: 1. The invisible initiation society puts young boys through, where they are socialized to sever their authenticity in an attempt to maintain a sense of acceptance and connection to other men. 2. How women can support the men in their lives by seeing them in the...2022-10-261h 11Cheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and DenéEp 117 The Rise of the Feminine is Good for All of UsCheaper than Therapy is back for Season 3! In this solo episode, Vanessa and Dené talk about what they’ve been up to during the podcast’s hiatus and some of the patterns they’ve noticed coming up lately in conversations. They discuss: 1. What it feels like to be witnessing a massive reclaiming of the feminine energy that the current patriarchal structure of society has conditioned us to suppress. 2. What it means to shift from the practice of looking outside of ourselves for answers to beginning to live a life governe...2022-10-1944 minCheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and DenéEp 114 Screaming To Be Heard - Live from the TAT LabIn this episode, Dené drops in on a TAT Lab session on codepency led by Vanessa. We discuss the differentiation between intentions and outcomes, the codependent survival strategy of making ourselves and our needs smaller to maintain connections, the importance of not deciding for others which truths they can tolerate hearing, and asking ourselves, “what do I imagine it would feel like if I actually felt like I was heard?We loved having the opportunity to bring our TAT LAB community in on one of our conversations, and we know you’ll have some of your own t...2022-07-2149 min
Cheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and DenéEp 64 Practicing Self-Love with Melissa Wood TepperbergMelissa Wood Tepperberg is a powerhouse mama, wife, digital entrepreneur, founder of Melissa Wood Health, and creator of The MWH Method. Melissa has created a digital movement of women supporting women through her willingness to show up authentically and share the tools she’s used in her own life to heal and thrive. We talk with Melissa about what it was like growing up in Syracuse with Vanessa, the practices she utilizes to combat negative self-talk when it inevitably creeps in, what the last year has taught her to value most, and some real talk about the struggles we al...2021-07-0744 min
It's Not Me, It's YouEp 11 Two Types of DesireSexual Desire. It’s a topic that is always coming up, for us and our clients. How much sex is enough? How come I always want it and they don’t? What’s wrong with me / with them?
We break down the two distinct types of desire and why understanding them both can be a massive shift in your relationship. This was a huge lightbulb moment for Vanessa.
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Cheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and DenéEp 41 Navigating Impossible ParentingVanessa and Dené sit down to talk about some of the most difficult realities parents have faced in the last year.They discuss the trouble with parenting as a course correction for what we longed for in childhood, how to cope with parenting burnout during a pandemic, and identifying where we are in terms of our stress levels so that we can give ourselves a break before we reach our breaking point.If you love the conversations we’re bringing you as much as we do, please subscribe, rate and write a review so we can...2021-01-2742 min
Cheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and DenéEp 37 A Year Of AlchemyIn the season 1 finale, Vanessa and Dené reflect back on their greatest takeaways from starting a podcast in the year 2020. They acknowledge the opportunities for growth this year has presented - both individually and collectively, and express how moving it’s been to process the highs and lows with this growing podcast community.Cheaper than Therapy returns for season 2 on January 6, 2021. We’re so excited for our incredible lineup of guests next season! If you’ve got a question for Dené and Vanessa you want them to answer in an episode, or you’d like to join us for one...2020-12-0225 min
It's Not Me, It's YouEp 3 How Our Codependency Shows UpWe take a different approach in this episode with a deep dive into codependency and how it affects our relationship. In working through her own codependency, as well as with clients who almost all struggle in some way or another, Vanessa has made it a personal mission to speak openly with whoever will listen about the different ways it can show up.
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It's Not Me, It's YouEp 2 The Whale Under the WaterIn this episode, John and Vanessa explore what’s happening underneath their relationship. John not feeling desired, Vanessa not feeling good enough, and patterns they were not aware of.
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It's Not Me, It's YouEp 1 The Three Year ItchWelcome to It’s Not Me, It’s You - the podcast. In this episode, Vanessa and John explore the evolution of their relationship, love languages, how flirting differently can mean we miss each other, and John’s avoidance of his 3 year relationship pattern.
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Cheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and DenéEp 25 Creating our own Fairy Tale with Brandon G. AlexanderBrandon G. Alexander is a dynamic speaker, a thought leader, and a man on a mission to support men and boys in the discussion of what it means to be a modern day gentleman.We talk with Brandon about outdated gender expectations making it difficult for men and women to connect, why men often shut down after attempting to be vulnerable, and how we start to formulate a "Happily Ever After" that takes into account what happens for Prince Charming as he's attempting to learn how to be King. Honestly, Vanessa and Dené felt like they went t...2020-09-0955 min
Cheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and DenéEp 24 Finding our Way Back to our Highest SelvesDené and Vanessa sit down together to process some of the emotional fatigue that 2020 has left us experiencing on a collective level. They talk about sitting in the discomfort of the liminal spaces of becoming, how we might start to step outside of our echo chambers to find common ground, and how meeting fear with compassion might be the greatest lesson for us to take away from this time.If you love the conversations we’re bringing you (as much as we do) please subscribe and review the pod so we can get it out to even mor...2020-09-0232 min
Cheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and DenéEp 23 Rock Bottom as our Invitation to Healing with Sheleana AiyanaSheleana Aiyana is a writer, visionary, and healing conduit for a community of close to 2 million people through her platform “Rising Woman.”Vanessa and Dené talk with her about moments of crisis that serve as our invitation to healing, the freedom that comes from finding compassion and forgiveness for our flawed caregivers, how we continue to evolve through autonomy in our partnerships, the power of healers who walk alongside us through our struggles, and so much more!You can find Sheleana on Instagram @risingwoman and @sheleanaaiyana or dive deep into your own further healing work throu...2020-08-2655 min
Cheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and DenéEp 22 Hiding From Ourselves in Relationships - Live Coaching SessionIn this live coaching session with Simone, we explore the challenging work of being alone when we’ve used relationships as a distraction from feeling difficult feelings, and how some of the inner work we’ve been doing can actually resemble spiritual bypassing. *These live coaching sessions are meant for entertainment purposes only and are not to replace therapy. **If you have something you are struggling to work through and would like to be on the podcast for a free live 30-min coaching session, DM Vanessa or Dené on Instagram! (We’ll change your name for confidentiality.) And, if you lov...2020-08-1936 min
Cheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and DenéEp 20 Finding the Truth in Stillness - Live Coaching SessionIn this live coaching session, we talk with Rachelle about the power of trusting our inner wisdom during times of uncertainty. We explore our tendency to use productivity as a defense mechanism, and the ways we can use stillness to identify the experience of trust.*These live coaching sessions are meant for entertainment purposes only and are not to replace therapy.**ANNOUNCEMENT: We’re putting out another call to anyone who wants to be on the podcast for a free live 30-min coaching session. We’ll change your name for confidentiality. DM Vanessa or Dené on In...2020-08-0528 min
Cheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and DenéEp 19 Unpacking Trauma with Mary Catherine McDonald, PhD“The trauma response is born of strength.” - Mary Catherine McDonald, PhDDr. Mary Catherine McDonald (MC) PhD, is an expert in trauma with a passion for changing the way we think about, define, and treat trauma.In this episode, Vanessa and Dené talk with MC about what exactly constitutes trauma, the importance of bringing awareness to the narratives we are holding about traumatic events, and how connection is the key ingredient required for healing. She unpacks the science behind how we all experience trauma in such an accessible way.You can find MC on...2020-07-2953 min
Cheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and DenéEp 17 Compassion is Half Sadness and Half Joy with Buddy WakefieldBuddy Wakefield is an American spoken word artist, a three-time poetry slam world champion, and the most toured performance poet in history. In this unbelievably powerful conversation, Vanessa and Dené talk to Buddy about the dangers of tranquil states of existence, how we can benefit from exploring our “scary thoughts,” and the victim, villain, and hero archetypes we’re being asked to question in our current climate.You can find Buddy on Instagram @buddywakefield and you can find his newest book of prose and poetry “A Choir of Honest Killers,” at writebloody.com.And if you love th...2020-07-1557 min
Cheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and DenéEp 16 Healing is Continual - Live Coaching SessionSo often we can feel frustrated by the fact that we haven’t “conquered” whatever struggle drove us to doing our own healing work to begin with. In this live coaching session, Vanessa and Dené sit down with Kristyn to explore recurring activations that come up as a child of divorce, juggling two different family systems. We discuss coming into an awareness that even as we’ve accumulated lots of tools for navigating tough emotions as they come up, they may continue to arise for a lifetime - but our relationship to the emotions may change. Learn m...2020-07-0831 min
Cheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and DenéEp 15 How Therapy Can Mirror Our Innate Goodness with Ashley TorrentAshley Torrent is a Psycho-spiritual Counselor, an Intuitive Medium, and someone who played a pivotal part in Vanessa’s journey. Dené and Vanessa talk with Ashley about how learning to embrace our challenges can be the pathway to finding hidden treasures, being “good enough” parents, and the intuitive gifts we all possess if we allow ourselves to be still and tap into them. Ashley embodies so much wisdom, and we know you’ll find this conversation with her as valuable as we did.You can find Ashley on Instagram @ouisie1And if you love the conversat...2020-07-011h 04
Cheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and DenéEp 14 Reparenting Ourselves As We Revisit Our Childhood - Live Coaching SessionRam Dass famously said, “If you think you’re enlightened, go spend a week with your family.” In this live coaching session, Vanessa and Dené talk with Elle about this very relatable struggle. Elle moved home during Covid-19 and is finding it challenging to stay centered in her sense of self. We strategize ways to set boundaries that honor our own needs while also attempting to keep the peace with parents we respect and love. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for mor...2020-06-2430 min
Cheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and DenéEp 13 The Unspoken Struggles of ParentingIn this episode Vanessa and Dené discuss some taboo topics of parenthood: the importance of normalizing conversations around the extent to which we are struggling, how hard it is to bring up children without the support of extended community, and tools that can be useful for parents when we feel like we're at our whitts end. This episode was taped at the height of the covid-19 quarantine, so it really acknowledges the additional stressors families were (and are) facing during this time. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices H...2020-06-1736 min
Cheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and DenéEp 12 Defining Our Own Lives - Live Coaching SessionIn this live coaching session, Vanessa and Dené talk with Murphy about the empowerment that comes when we start to define our own version of a successful life. This episode explores the societally imposed pressures around dating and career, how to identify what we want to prioritize for ourselves, and how we start to practice standing in our own truth.*These live coaching sessions are meant for entertainment purposes only and are not to replace therapy. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices Hosted on Acast. See a...2020-06-1029 min
Cheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and DenéEp 11 Showing Up for Your Community with Rene WileyRene Wiley is a running coach, a group fitness instructor, and someone creating a major impact by challenging his community to show up in a more conscious way.Vanessa and Dené talk with Rene about the magic that happens when we finally find our authentic voice, the importance of being of service, and how he’s inspiring people on a global level to show up for themselves through his 101 mile running challenge.Through his social media Rene also contributes to eliminating the stigma by discussing our mental health and is such an inspirational voice at a t...2020-06-0353 min
Cheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and DenéEp 10 The Power of Empathy with Nōn WelsVanessa and Dené sit down with Nōn Wels, creator of the You, Me, Empathy podcast and founder of the collaborative mental health community, The Feely Human Collective. Nōn is doing such important work to help eliminate the stigma surrounding mental health struggles (particularly for men) and having candid conversations to create a deeper sense of empathy.We talk about the challenging work of creating boundaries, the power and strength we find through vulnerability and creating a community where we feel safe to be the fullest expression of ourselves.You can find Nōn on I...2020-05-2757 min
Cheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and DenéEp 9 No Space to Let Go - Live Coaching SessionIn this live coaching session, Vanessa and Dené talk to June about moving through betrayal, grief, and fear in her transitioning marriage, while still living in the same house because of the COVID-19 quarantine. We also discuss the importance of finding time and space for yourself as the parent of a young child.*These live coaching sessions are meant for entertainment purposes only and are not to replace therapy. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.2020-05-2032 min
Cheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and DenéEp 8 Physical Transformation as Spiritual Initiation with Lauren Weisman“Whatever spiritual transformation you’re going through, there’s so much that correlates to that physically.” Lauren WeismanVanessa and Dené sit down with Lauren Weisman who is the founder of Mama Method, which is custom movement for expecting and new mothers.They talk to Lauren about the synergy between physically and emotionally moving through the experiences that make up the transitional time of becoming a mother, and how this time correlates to so many other, sometimes traumatic, processes of initiation we go through.You can find a Lauren on Instagram at @mamamethod 2020-05-131h 01
Cheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and DenéEp 7 Trusting Our Intuition - Live Coaching SessionIn this live coaching session, Vanessa and Dené explore the concept of “trauma bonding” with Pat. This conversation is a beautiful example of how often the real work becomes about learning to trust our intuition by paying attention to how interactions with other people make us feel.*These live coaching sessions are meant for entertainment purposes only and are not to replace therapy. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.2020-05-0633 min
Cheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and DenéEp 6 Owning our Story with Suzy Favor Hamilton“I own my story, I embrace it. It’s made me who I am today.” -Suzy Favor HamiltonIn this episode of Cheaper Than Therapy, Vanessa and Dené sit down with Suzy Favor Hamilton. Suzy is a 3 time Olympian, Sex Positive Life Coach, and Author of the New York Times bestseller Fast Girl. They talk about the triumphs and struggles Suzy faced on her journey to becoming an advocate for mental health, sex positivity, and letting go of what we’ve been conditioned to believe so that we can find our own truth. You can find Suzy on Instagr...2020-04-291h 00
Cheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and DenéEp 5 One Breath at a Time - Live Coaching SessionVanessa and Dené talk to RD about a tremendous loss she suffered a few months ago. As she struggles to wrap her head around what the grieving process means for her, she is faced with the reality of contending with the COVID-19 crisis and isolation at the same time.*These live coaching sessions are meant for entertainment purposes only and are not to replace therapy. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.2020-04-2234 min
Cheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and DenéEp 4 Dating During Quarantine with John KimIn this episode of Cheaper Than Therapy, Vanessa and Dené bring listeners in on a conversation with Vanessa's boyfriend John Kim, aka "The Angry Therapist," about the effects they are anticipating quarantine will have on dating and relationships. John is known as a pioneer in the field of self-help; humanizing the therapist by showing himself, practicing transparency, and cutting through the bullshit, and also well known for his relationship insights. This episode is a snippet of an exploration around how the coronavirus outbreak will ultimately impact the way we connect. As well as being a therapist, John is...2020-04-1542 min
Cheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and DenéEp 3 The Healing Process Isn't Linear - Live Coaching SessionIn this first live coaching session, Vanessa and Dené talk to Marissa about healing from betrayal, heartbreak, and the non-linear process of grief.*These live coaching sessions are meant for entertainment purposes only and are not to replace therapy. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.2020-04-0833 min
Cheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and DenéEp 2 Choosing Compassion Over FearDuring the early days of COVID-19 Social Distancing, Vanessa and Dené hit record and connected over the fear and uncertainty that we’re experiencing on a collective level. They talk about tools for alleviating anxiety, increasing self-care, and taking an opportunity to connect with each other even during this time of isolation. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.2020-04-0233 min
Cheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and DenéEp 1 This Is UsWelcome to Cheaper Than Therapy! In this first episode, Vanessa and Dené talk about their love affair with depth filled conversations, their sacred sisterhood, and nerding out on all things psychology. This episode gives you a little taste of what you can expect ahead including live coaching sessions, interviews with people who challenge us all to dig a little deeper, and conversations between two therapists dedicated to continuing to do their own inner work. This is Cheaper Than Therapy. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices Hosted on Acast. Se...2020-03-2438 min