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Finding Traction: Recovery from PornEp. 207 - Plateaus and Tipping PointsFor most guys, the porn recovery journey does not represent a straight line but is more like a series of plateaus and tipping points. In this episode Vern explores why we hit plateaus (resistant points) and how new tipping points can further the sucess we are finding in our recovery.To download a copy of the diagram Vern refers to in this episode signp for the free circle learning app below. If you are already on Vern's circle learning app - you can find it under Free Resources.https://bandofbrothers-care.circle.so/join?invitation_token=84c412c...
2026-06-1013 minFinding Traction: Recovery from PornEp. 206 - Living with your Charlie's AngelIn this episode Vern explores how porn affects our ability to grow older with the wife of our youth. In case you didn't realize it, you get older every year! Is porn robbing your ability to grow older and still be contented with your wife who is also growing older?If you want to get access to a host of free recovery resources, I invite you to to sign up for Vern's Circle learning platform. Just use the following link to get started. if you are using a mobile device signup using the link on your web brow...
2026-05-2516 minFinding Traction: Recovery from PornEp. 205 - Is Your Porn Recovery Stalling OutIt is not uncommon to get off to such a great start in our recovery journey but then find ourselves stalling out or "losing traction". In this episode Vern talks about some ways to get your recovery back on track if that is what you are experiencing.If you want to get access to a host of free recovery resources, I invite you to to sign up for Vern's Circle learning platform. Just use the following link to get started. if you are using a mobile device signup using the link on your web browser BEFORE you down...
2026-05-1121 minFinding Traction: Recovery from PornEp. 204 - Recovery Path to JoyToday Vern shares an inspiring couple of bible verses that have recently encouraged him on his recovery journey and makes up his own new verse!If you want to get access to a host of free recovery resources, I invite you to to sign up for Vern's Circle learning platform. Just use the following link to get started. if you are using a mobile device signup using the link on your web browser BEFORE you download the circle app) - (white circle on a blue background)https://bandofbrothers-care.circle.so/join?invitation_token=84c412c67f81c7a...
2026-04-2716 min
Cinema RecallThe Vern's rant on A24's Mother Mary(2026)Vern from Cinema Recall Podcast shares his insights on theupcoming film 'Mother Mary' from A24, criticizing its lack of music from the band mothermary and exploring the deeper story of the band members'background. He discusses the importance of authentic representation and the potential missed opportunities in the film's approach.Check out these links for more informationmothermary's greatest hitsMothermary the band speaks out about eerily similar ‘Mother Mary’ film: ‘Felt like we didn’t get invited to the party that’s about us’https://www.goldderby.com/film/2026/mothermary-band-mother-mary-movie-anne-hathaway-explainer/
2026-04-2511 minFinding Traction: Recovery from PornEp. 203 - When Killing Time is Killing MeWhat do you do when you get bored? What do you do when you want to just "kill some time". In this episode Vern talks about how being unskillful in this area often leads us to negative results and some ways to "redeem this time" (or at least make it less problematic!)If you want to get access to a host of free recovery resources, I invite you to to sign up for Vern's Circle learning platform. Just use the following link to get started. if you are using a mobile device signup using the link on your web...
2026-04-2016 minFinding Traction: Recovery from PornEp. 200 - Looking Back at Helping MenHard to believe its been 200 Episodes of Finding Traction! In this episode various men share about podcasts and lessons (from the Finding Traction course) that have been helpful in their recovery - here's to the next 200 episodes!If you want to get access to a host of free recovery resources, I invite you to to sign up for Vern's Circle learning platform. Just use the following link to get started. if you are using a mobile device signup using the link on your web browser BEFORE you download the circle app) - (white circle on a blue background)
2026-03-2934 minFinding Traction: Recovery from PornEp. 199 - Do You have a Spank Bank?Are you able to see images in your mind? Do you struggle with fantasy as a result of carrying your own porn library betweeen your ears? In this episode Vern talks about differences between people around these questions and how it effects our strategies of recovery?Here is the link to the TED talk that Vern referenceshttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ojttMNOW6zM&t=1sIf you want to get access to a host of free recovery resources, I invite you to to sign up for Vern's Circle learning platform. Just use the...
2026-03-1625 minFinding Traction: Recovery from PornEp. 198 - Are You a Pervert?Do you ever think you may be a pervert or used that term to describe someone else? In this episode Vern explores that term particularly in reference to the describe how big of a role sex plays in your thinking and behavior. A diagram of this talk can be found on the circle learning app under free resources. To access this diagram use the information below.If you want to get access to a host of free recovery resources, I invite you to to sign up for Vern's Circle learning platform. Just use the following link to get...
2026-02-2618 minFinding Traction: Recovery from PornEp. 197 - Are you a Broken Boy? - with Dr. Patrick MorleyMany men get into recovery and eventually start asking the question "How did I get here?" One of the things that begins to crop up are questions around their formative years. One of the books that has been so helpful for Vern and the men in his alumni groups is the book "From Broken Boy to Mended Man" Today Vern is thrilled to be able to interview the author of that book - Dr. Patrick Morley.Here is a link to Dr. Morleys resources https://patrickmorley.com/If you want to get access to a host of...
2026-02-1637 minFinding Traction: Recovery from PornEp. 196 - Re-engineering ArousalIn the last episode we talked about the statement that "Arousal is not something that happens to us but something we engage with". In this episode Vern talks about why that sometimes doesn't feel true and how we need to move from passive mode to active mode when it comes to experiencing arousalIf you want to get access to a host of free recovery resources, I invite you to to sign up for Vern's Circle learning platform. Just use the following link to get started. if you are using a mobile device signup using the link on you...
2026-02-0926 minFinding Traction: Recovery from PornEp. 195 - My Favorite Porn Free TripletsToday I lean on a bit of my bible teaching background to share some insights from the book of Romans - in fact two "triplets" which encourage me that this pathway of recovery of porn is good - not in fact it is REALLY good!If you want to get access to a host of free recovery resources, I invite you to to sign up for Vern's Circle learning platform. Just use the following link to get started. if you are using a mobile device signup using the link on your web browser BEFORE you download the circle app...
2026-02-0313 minFinding Traction: Recovery from PornEp. 194 - 15 Years of Freedom - with Matt DobscheutzOne of my recovery heroes (and recovery friends) is Matt Dobschuetz. I recently heard a great episode on porn free radio where he spoke about being porn free for 15 years. I loved it so much I wanted him to come on the podcast and talk a bit more about some of the concepts he shared.Here is the link to the episode on his podcasthttps://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/365-the-one-thing-that-made-15-years-porn-free-possible/id872329779?i=1000745328888If you want to get access to a host of free recovery resources, I invite you to to sign up...
2026-01-2641 min
Finding Traction: Recovery from PornEp. 194 - 15 Years (NOT) A Slave - with Matt DobschuetzMatt Dobschuetz is both one of my recovery heroes as well as a recovery friend. Recently I listened to an amazing podcast he did on Porn Free Radio (see link below) where he spoke about one of the key components he practiced in getting to 15 years porn free. I thought I needed to have him on the podcast and explore a bit more of some of the concepts he shared on that podcast. Here's Matt!Here's a link to Matt's most recent episodehttps://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/365-the-one-thing-that-made-15-years-porn-free-possible/id872329779?i=1000745328888If...
2026-01-2641 minFinding Traction: Recovery from PornEp. 193 - Ozempic RecoveryRecently I heard some interesting information about the benefits of taking drugs like Ozempic and what happens when you stop. It got me thinking about all sorts of interesting parallels with our recovery journey from embedded porn use.If you want to get access to a host of free recovery resources, I invite you to to sign up for Vern's Circle learning platform. Just use the following link to get started. if you are using a mobile device signup using the link on your web browser BEFORE you download the circle app) - (white circle on a blue back...
2026-01-2020 minFinding Traction: Recovery from PornEp. 192 - Your Worst DayWhat do people like Bill Buckner, Steve Smith, Scott Norwood, Andres Escobar, Steven Gerrard, and Tyler Loop have in common. They are all professional athletes who made major screwups that cost their team success - in front of millions of people.Most of us won't have that level of public screwups but the question is how do we learn from our mistakes - our screwups - our relapses - in this episdoe Vern discusses our response to having our version of "our worst day"If you want to get access to a host of free recovery r...
2026-01-0621 minFinding Traction: Recovery from PornEp. 191 - A Daily Recovery Exercise for 2026As you head into 2026 - rather than looking at the whole year why don’t you start with one day - one day at a time! The following is a simple exercise you can do daily to be proactive in your day and set yourself up for the best day possible!To download the worksheet for this episode follow the instructions for the learning platform circle below. (the worksheet will be found under "Free Resources")If you want to get access to a host of free recovery resources, I invite you to to sign up for...
2025-12-2719 minFinding Traction: Recovery from PornEp. 190 - Men Midlife and PornThere are a number of challenging seasons of life where porn can re- emerge from the corners of our life. One of these seasons is the season of midlife where we begin to re-evaluate (often negatively) some of the decisions we have made and the places we find ourselfs. In this episode Vern talks about his own experience in this season and gives pointers on how to navigate through this seasn and come out the other side successfully.If you want to get access to a host of free recovery resources, I invite you to to sign up...
2025-12-0827 minFinding Traction: Recovery from PornEp. 189 - What does it mean to be P*rn Free?When a lot of us started out on this porn recovery journey we had a very limited view of what it was to be porn free? In this episode Vern talks about the expanding understanding that he underwent and that a lot of guys go through as they move toward greater freedom in their life.If you want to get access to a host of free recovery resources, I invite you to to sign up for Vern's Circle learning platform. Just use the following link to get started. if you are using a mobile device signup using the lin...
2025-12-0113 minFinding Traction: Recovery from PornEp. 189 - What Does it mean to be Porn Free?When a lot of us started out on this porn recovery journey we had a very limited view of what it was to be porn free? In this episode Vern talks about the expanding understanding that he underwent and that a lot of guys go through as they move toward greater freedom in their life.If you want to get access to a host of free recovery resources, I invite you to to sign up for Vern's Circle learning platform. Just use the following link to get started. if you are using a mobile device signup using the lin...
2025-12-0113 minFinding Traction: Recovery from PornEp. 188 - From Passion to PurposePassion is good - purpose is better. In this episode Vern talks about a change he has made to how people checkin their weeks and why connecting people with their purpose is a better metric than helping (often unsuccessfully) men find something they are passionate about.If you want to get access to a host of free recovery resources, I invite you to to sign up for Vern's Circle learning platform. Just use the following link to get started. if you are using a mobile device signup using the link on your web browser BEFORE you download the circ...
2025-11-2419 minFinding Traction: Recovery from PornEp. 187 - Inside Out Porn Recovery (from Down Under)In this episode, Vern is joined by his Australian buddy Matt who talks about inside out recovery.In a desire for a wholistic model of behavior change, it is necessary to recognize that the most sustainable version of change comes from a deep sense of belonging which informs our beliefs. Out of that core, comes deep lasting change that can stand the test of time.If you want to get access to a host of free recovery resources, I invite you to to sign up for Vern's Circle learning platform. Just use the following link to...
2025-11-1733 minFinding Traction: Recovery from PornEp. 186 - Should I do a Dopamine FastThere is a lot written these days about the role of dopamine in our addictive struggle with porn. One of the books "Dopamnine Nation" talks a lot about dopamine and seems to give some fairly straightword system to hack the system of recovery. In this episode we talk about how this book and a pure "dopamine approach" can be helpful in our recovery and where it presents an incomplete picture in regards to the process of recovery.If you want to get access to a host of free recovery resources, I invite you to to sign up for Ve...
2025-11-1021 minFinding Traction: Recovery from PornEp. 185 - Your Guided Tour Out of PornLast week we popped the baloon that said that the recovery journey is simple or quick. We spoke about how long it takes to break a habit in a sustained way. Today we talk about some of the highlights we will experience on a guided tour away from porn. This guided tour explains the roadblocks we need to overcome, what are the challenges we face, and what are the benefits we will experience along the way.If you want to get access to a host of free recovery resources, I invite you to to sign up for Vern's Cir...
2025-11-0320 minFinding Traction: Recovery from PornEp. 184 - How Long Does it Take to Quit PornThere are a lot of claims on the internet about helping you quite porn in just a few weeks. Sounds great - right? In this episode Vern takes a bit of a deeper dive into the real issues (and the amount of time) that is usually needed to quit a compulsive embedded behavior such as porn.If you want to get access to a host of free recovery resources, I invite you to to sign up for Vern's Circle learning platform. Just use the following link to get started. if you are using a mobile device signup using the...
2025-10-2720 minFinding Traction: Recovery from PornEp. 183 - Procastination and Quitting PornOne of the things I have noticed in working with guys who struggle with porn is - - they also struggle with procrastination. In this episode we look at this connection and discuss some simple strategies to overcome compulsive procrastination!If you want to get access to a host of free recovery resources, I invite you to to sign up for Vern's Circle learning platform. Just use the following link to get started. if you are using a mobile device signup using the link on your web browser BEFORE you download the circle app) - (white circle on a bl...
2025-10-2014 minFinding Traction: Recovery from PornEp. 182 - Learning Warfare - Lessons on Fighting PornThe metaphor of war is used a lot in recovery for the reason that it often feels like we are in a battle!! In this episode Vern talks about principles of warfare and applies them to our recovery battle.If you want to get access to a host of free recovery resources, I invite you to to sign up for Vern's Circle learning platform. Just use the following link to get started. if you are using a mobile device FIRST download the circle app) - (white circle on a blue background)https://bandofbrothers-care.circle.so/join?in...
2025-10-1426 min
The Covenant Eyes PodcastPastor Vern Tompke on P*rn Recovery, Accountability, and Church CultureIn this powerful episode of The Covenant Eyes Podcast, host Karen Potter sits down with Canadian pastor and recovery advocate Vern Tompke, creator of the Finding Traction and Pastors on P*rn podcasts. Vern shares his deeply personal story of overcoming p*rn*graphy addiction while serving in ministry — and how God turned his healing into a mission to help others.Together, Karen and Vern discuss:• The unique challenges pastors face when struggling with p*rn• How shame and burnout can fuel addiction• Why accountability and community are essential for recovery• How technology...
2025-10-0834 minFinding Traction: Recovery from PornEp. 181 - The Porn Recovery Journey with Nate LarkinOne of the forerunners of the porn recovery field is Nate Larken. His book - Samson and the Pirate Monks is a classic read for anybody starting out on this journey. Today I am pleased to have Nate on the podcast as he talks about his recovery journey, missteps along the way, and how he wants the end of his recovery journey to be remembered. He also shares information on the Samson societies that he has started around the world to give men a safe place to come and talk about their struggles.To find out more about the...
2025-10-0630 minFinding Traction: Recovery from PornEp. 180 - Porn Relapses Ripples and ResetsA relapse is always possible but never inevitable. There are inescapable ripples that follow a relapse but how do we prevent a slip from becoming a slide! In this episode we discuss how to get back on track when we fall off the wagon!If you want to get access to a host of free recovery resources, I invite you to to sign up for Vern's Circle learning platform. Just use the following link to get started. if you are using a mobile device FIRST download the circle app) - (white circle on a blue background)http...
2025-09-2919 minFinding Traction: Recovery from PornEp. 179 - Marriage Hacks Pt. 3In this third and final episode of Marriage Hacks - Vern explores some of the ways to explore why you hit a wall on certain topics with you partner as well as the idea of recognizing when you have a filter on that you need to communicate with your spouse. Your marriage is not your recovery but working towards a better marriage can help in reducing the stress and friction in your daily life that often leads you to want to act our or use escape behaviors.If you want to get access to a host of free r...
2025-09-2231 minFinding Traction: Recovery from PornEp. 178 - Are You a Deep FakeIt seems that deep fakes are everywhere these days. My question for you is this - are you a deep fake? Are you a person with a deep disconnect between the public and private you. In this Episode I talk about how that happens and how to experience the benefits of living a life of integrity.Todays episode is summarized in a diagram that you can find on the Circle learning platform. So...If you want to get access to a host of free recovery resources, I invite you to to sign up for Vern's Circle le...
2025-09-1514 minFinding Traction: Recovery from PornEp. 177 - The 5 W's - Examining a porn relapseIn a recent television episode of The Paper the new boss teaches his employers what it takes to be a local report. Toward that end he talks about the classic rules for reporting called the 5 W's. In this episode Vern talks about this in helping us learn to be better reporters of our relapse events.If you want to get access to a host of free recovery resources, I invite you to to sign up for Vern's Circle learning platform. Just use the following link to get started. if you are using a mobile device FIRST download the circ...
2025-09-0821 minFinding Traction: Recovery from PornEp. 176 - Sexless Marriages - A Marriage PleaWomen Please Note: This episode is not mean to shame you if you are struggling with the after effects of the disclosure of your husbands porn use. It is meant to encourage you not remain stuck in your pain, anger and grief and get the help to see your marriage restored to the dream you had when you walked down the aisle. If you are a woman looking for a great organization to help you process the reality of being married to a recovering porn user - check out https://apsats.org/Men Please Note: This podcast is n...
2025-09-0126 minFinding Traction: Recovery from PornEp. 175 - More Marriage Hacks Pt. 2We had so much fun last time I thought we would do it again. Actually I realized there was a number of marriage tips and hacks that didn't make the last episode so I thought we would do a part 2! Heres to having a great marriage relationship!If you want to get access to a host of free recovery resources, I invite you to to sign up for Vern's Circle learning platform. Just use the following link to get started. if you are using a mobile device FIRST download the circle app) - (white circle on a blue back...
2025-08-2826 minFinding Traction: Recovery from PornEp. 174 - 5 Marriage Hacks Pt. 1Relationships can be hard work - especially maintaining a marriage over the long haul. In this episode Vern shares 5 marriage hacks that can make that challenge be a little bit easier!If you want to get access to a host of free recovery resources, I invite you to to sign up for Vern's Circle learning platform. Just use the following link to get started. if you are using a mobile device FIRST download the circle app) - (white circle on a blue background)https://bandofbrothers-care.circle.so/join?invitation_token=84c412c67f81c7a9fa2da0...
2025-08-2517 minFinding Traction: Recovery from PornEp. 173 - Dating Honesty - Why When and HowWhat should I tell my girlfriend about my porn history (or other sexual history). Should I hide it? What if honesty will end the relationship? In this episode I talk about why it is important to be honest but also nuance when and how this could be done.If you want to get access to a host of free recovery resources, I invite you to to sign up for Vern's Circle learning platform. Just use the following link to get started. if you are using a mobile device FIRST download the circle app) - (white circle on a blue...
2025-08-1829 minFinding Traction: Recovery from PornEp. 172 - Welcome BackSo how did your summer go? Vern has been away for the last month and shares somes up and downs from his summer holidays including a recovery lesson that he is working at integrating into his life.If you want to get access to a host of free recovery resources, I invite you to to sign up for Vern's Circle learning platform. Just use the following link to get started. if you are using a mobile device FIRST download the circle app) - (white circle on a blue background)https://bandofbrothers-care.circle.so/join?invitation_token=84c41...
2025-08-1227 minFinding Traction: Recovery from PornEp. 171 - Porn and Men's Health - A ConversationIt's fun to talk to people outside your circles who dont' necessarily share your experience or assumptions. The following is a conversation I did with Jeremy Longpre from the North Star Podcast around men's health and problematic porn use.The following is a link to the North Star Podcasthttps://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/north-star-podcast/id1660393769If you want to get access to a host of free recovery resources, you need to sign up for Vern's Circle learning platform. Just use the following link to get started. if you are using a mob...
2025-07-091h 01Finding Traction: Recovery from PornEp. 170 - Breaking the Acting Out CycleBack in Episode 73 I introduced the idea of the Acting Out Cycle using the picture of a Stopwatch. In looking back I felt I could give a more robust explanation of how to actually stop ourselves from just repeating the same cycle over and over. To do this I add a new step - PREEMPT - and share from some of my recent examples how to put this into practice.If you want to get access to a host of free recovery resources, you need to sign up for Vern's Circle learning platform. Just use the following link to...
2025-06-2526 minFinding Traction: Recovery from PornEp. 169 - Anxious vs Confident RecoveryIt is not uncommon in our early recovery to feel anxious that a next relapse is just around the corner. Is there a way to grow in our confidence as we start out on this journey?If you want to get access to a host of free recovery resources, you need to sign up for Vern's Circle learning platform. Just use the following link to get started. if you are using a mobile device FIRST download the circle app) - (white circle on a blue background)https://bandofbrothers-care.circle.so/join?invitation_token=84c412c67f81c7a...
2025-06-1927 minFinding Traction: Recovery from PornEp. 168 - I'm Good (Until I'm Not)One of the reasons we are unsuccessful long term in porn recovery is because of some of the ways of thinking we practice. One problematic thing that guys tell themselves is that "they are good" or 'they are strong" which is experientially true at the time. The probem is that we are good (until we are not!)If you want to get access to a host of free recovery resources, you need to sign up for Vern's Circle learning platform. Just use the following link to get started. if you are using a mobile device FIRST download the...
2025-06-0517 minFinding Traction: Recovery from PornEp. 167 - Disappointed in SexWhat is the difference between real sex and our porn binges? The differences might explain why some people confess that real sex is hard and less exciting than our porn world. In this episode Vern explores that uncomfortable question and how we can grow towards real intimacy with a real person.If you want to get access to a host of free recovery resources, you need to sign up for Vern's Circle learning platform. Just use the following link to get started. if you are using a mobile device FIRST download the circle app) - (white circle on a bl...
2025-05-2919 min
Cinema RecallThe Vern reviews Mission Impossible: The Final Reckoning (Non Spoiler)The Vern does a quick review on the latest entry in the Mission Impossible franchise. Thank you to Minnesota Film Critics Association and Paramount Pictures for the Press Passes. https://mnfilmcriticsassociation.com/2024/09/25/jasonhemming/Cinema Recall is moving to a different hosting site in June. Please follow us on all of our social media channels for updates and if you like our show. Please become a Patreon Member to get access to episodes first.https://www.patreon.com/c/cinemarecallpod
2025-05-1606 minFinding Traction: Recovery from PornEp. 166 - Relationships on the LineWhat if positive feelings toward your wife were a powerful motivator to move away from porn. In this episode Vern builds on a recent book he read called "Cherish" by Gary Thomas.If you want to get access to a host of free recovery resources, you need to sign up for Vern's Circle learning platform. Just use the following link to get started. if you are using a mobile device FIRST download the circle app) - (white circle on a blue background)https://bandofbrothers-care.circle.so/join?invitation_token=84c412c67f81c7a9fa2da045d969...
2025-05-1531 minFinding Traction: Recovery from PornEp. 165 - Is Your Door Closing?Country songs are known for their - "if only I knew then what I know now" regret songs.In this episode we ask a sobering question - is the door to your marriage closing and share a principle that Vern has practiced and taught for 40 years.If you want to get access to a host of free recovery resources, you need to sign up for Vern's Circle learning platform. Just use the following link to get started. if you are using a mobile device FIRST download the circle app) - (white circle on a blue background)
2025-05-0116 minFinding Traction: Recovery from PornEp. 164 - What Set Me Up for Porn (with Tim Fletcher)Have you ever wondered what set you up for your struggle with porn? In this interview Vern talks with Tim Fletcher who is an extremely popular Youtube expert on the subject all things trauma and attachement.In addition to Tim Fletchers Youtube Channel you can find some of his helpful information on his website https://www.timfletcher.ca/If you want to get access to a host of free recovery resources, you need to sign up for Vern's Circle learning platform. Just use the following link to get started. if you are using a mobile device FIRS...
2025-04-2431 minFinding Traction: Recovery from PornEp. 163 - When Porn Crashes Your Marriage (with Barbara Steffens)When porn use is disclosed (or found out) in a relationships it often comes with a thudding crash. In this episode expert Barbara Steffens talks through the impact this can have on a woman and steps that both men and women can take in their navigating a path forward.What can we learn from a relapse? In this episode one of Vern's coaching clients bravely shares what he learned from a recent relapse in the hopes that it can also be instructive to other listeners. The song at the end can be downloaded in the circle learning platform belo...
2025-04-1436 minFinding Traction: Recovery from PornEp. 162 - Lessons from a Relapse (with Hercule Flambeau)What can we learn from a relapse? In this episode one of Vern's coaching clients bravely shares what he learned from a recent relapse in the hopes that it can also be instructive to other listeners. The song at the end can be downloaded in the circle learning platform below...If you want to get access to a host of free recovery resources, you need to sign up for Vern's Circle learning platform.This is how sign up for the free circle learning resources Vern has to offer. If privacy is of concern to you - s...
2025-04-0334 minFinding Traction: Recovery from PornEp. 161 - Wave Go To's Part 2In this episode Vern goes back to the topic of dealing with a wave of temptation and craving. In this episode he argues that we need to strengthen our understanding of connection and also introduces a couple of "Go To's" that he uses when he is in the middle of experience a Wave.The first reading is based on the Bible App (Psalm 119 - the Message)The second reading can be found here:A Liturgy for One Battling a Destructive Desire (read by Doug McKelvey)https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EQ_o...
2025-03-2620 minFinding Traction: Recovery from PornEp. 160 - Waves of CravingDo you ever feel that craving hits you like a big wave? In this episode Vern provides hope that the next big wave doesn't need to overwhelm you!If you want to get access to a host of free recovery resources, you need to sign up for Vern's Circle learning platform.This is how sign up for the free circle learning resources Vern has to offer. If privacy is of concern to you - simply use your first name and last initial (like Vern T.) Your email will remain hidden from other users. The following link wil...
2025-03-2014 minFinding Traction: Recovery from PornEp. 159 - The Hidden Costs of Porn UseMost of us are tempted to think that our porn use is free. Sure we may not be "paying" for porn but you are paying in ways you many not even realize it. Today we talk about the "hidden costs" of our porn use.If you want to get access to a host of free recovery resources, you need to sign up for Vern's Circle learning platform.This is how sign up for the free circle learning resources Vern has to offer. If privacy is of concern to you - simply use your first name and las...
2025-03-1021 minCinema RecallThe Vern's Accurate Oscar Predictions(2025)The Vern gives his picks for who and what will win at the Academy Awards for 2025.For the full complete list head to our sitehttps://www.cinemarecall.net/
2025-02-2818 minFinding Traction: Recovery from PornEp. 158 - Dial it InDid you ever start a day feeling "off". Today's podcast is all about "dialling your day" in to maximize the chance of the day going well.If you want to get access to a host of free recovery resources, you need to sign up for Vern's Circle learning platform.This is how sign up for the free circle learning resources Vern has to offer. If privacy is of concern to you - simply use your first name and last initial (like Vern T.) Your email will remain hidden from other users. The following link will get you...
2025-02-2021 minFinding Traction: Recovery from PornEp. 157 - Ten Rules for LifeThis episode is a bit different. One of the benefits of recovery from constantly battling with porn is that you can now start to think more clearly about how you want your life to go. In this episode Vern shares 10 principles he has landed on to guide his thoughts and actions.A summary of these principles is found on the circle learning platform under Free Resources.This is how sign up for the free circle learning resources Vern has to offer. If privacy is of concern to you - simply use your first name and last ini...
2025-02-1030 minCinema RecallThe Vern's Golden Globes Predictions & Reactions (2025)
On today's episode . The Vern talks about who will win in the film categories at this year's Golden Globes Award shows. Is he right, is he wrong. Listen in and marvel at how he picked the correct winner or laugh in his face for choosing the wrong one. Hey it's a lot faster than watching the show for three hours.
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2025-01-0623 minFinding Traction: Recovery from PornEp. 146 - Before the Day AfterNovember 5th is a big day - its Guy Fawkes Day, Vern's Birthday and yes - the American election. How deal with the big feelings that will follow the election can make us truly vulnerable to relapse. Vern walks through how we navigate these strong emotions.We are starting new finding traction groups this fall to help 5-7 guys at a time connect around walking away from porn and moving towards a better life. We have a a group for young guys, a group for older guys in or near retirement and a few guys waiting to sta...
2024-11-0216 minFinding Traction: Recovery from PornEp. 139 - Signs of a BaaaaD Recovery GroupfrEver been in a bad recovery group? Ever felt nervous about joining a group because of the many ways it could go wrong? In this episode Vern explores how to tell when a group is toxic and when it is healthy.We are starting up new Finding Traction groups in September 2024. Normally groups are $149/month but if you sign up by August 31 - Vern is offering them at the old price of $99/month. The cost includes all 52 videos plus handouts to guide our time together. To get more information about these groups email Vern at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com...
2024-08-2714 min
Cinema RecallRandom Thoughts of a Movie Insomniac: Episode 1
Hello Everyone.
The Vern and Ashley or sometimes just Vern will give you thier random thoughts on what they have seen recently or just talk about whatever is on thier minds. These episodes are unscripted and unedited so you never know what will happen.
On today's episode, Ashley and Vern give you their thoughts on Inside Out 2, Joker 2, The Boys season 4, Anyone but You, a drama involving a missing phone, and much much more.
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Please note that after this episode. All of our...
2024-06-271h 09
Pastors on PornEp. 88 - Father's Day - How to Be a Good and Safe ManThis last Sunday Vern spoke on Sunday morning on how men can move from being an *ss to being good and safe men - something women, our churches and our communities desperately need more of.If you are looking for a safe person to talk about your Sexual struggles - Vern gets it - as a Pastor for 30 years Vern has battled porn as a pastor and didn't have a safe place to go to or someone to turn to.To connect with Vern you can reach out to him at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com
2024-06-1844 min
Cinema RecallThe Vern's Audio Drama Sampler Plate.
Hello everyone.
I the Vern have a new episode of sorts for you all. This is a collection of all the audio dramas that I have edited for Cinema Recall and other places for many years in the past. It was a lot of fun finding clips to share and I hope you enjoy it.
This episode contains selections from
Night of the Living Dead
https://www.iheart.com/podcast/256-cinema-recall-53671383/episode/night-of-the-living-deadaudio-drama-99921358/
Clue
https://rabbitholepodcasts.com/2024/02/03/rhp-theater-presents-clue-the-audio-drama/
Four's a Crowd ...
2024-06-071h 00
Cinema RecallHoward The Duck (1986) w/ Cayley of Once Over with Cayley
Howard The Duck was met with both critical and audience hatred when it was relased in 1986. But is it as terrible as everyone says it is.
The Vern brings on his friend, Cayley of Once Over with Cayley
https://www.youtube.com/c/OnceOverwithCayley
to talk about this cult classic in great duck tail, woo hoo. That is the only pun I will put in this entire episode
Before that they each have a Rage Corner brought to us from the great gents at Film Rag...
2024-04-261h 23Cinema RecallThe Vern reviews films from MSPIFF 2024.(raw and uncut)In this bonus episode. The Vern recaps many of the movies he saw at The Minneapolis/St. Paul International Film Festival.
https://mspfilm.org/mspiff/mspiff-films/?
It's unscripted and unedited. Just yours truly speaking into a microphone for under thirty minutes on some movies he saw.
You can read full reviews of the movies featured on this episode on our website.
https://www.cinemarecall.net
Films being reviewed are
Working Class Goes to Hell
Day Dreaming
2024-04-2326 minCinema RecallPearl & Switchblade Sisters( The Vern's guest spots on The Podcast That Wouldn't Die and Making Tarantino)On today's bonus episode of Cinema Recall. The Vern is posting small sections from his guest appearance on two great film podcasts that you should subscribe to.
First he is joined by Erin and Kevin of The Podcast That Wouldn't Die to talk about the classic horror film, Pearl.
You can actually watch us talk about this flick on YouTube
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DpJIXp7_YFQ
After the break, The Vern meets up with Phillip of Making Tarantino to discuss the classic exploitation...
2024-02-231h 45Cinema RecallOscars 2024 Predictions & Rage Corner.
Ashley and The Vern are back together for a new episode of Cinema Recall. First, they go over the main nominees of the 2024 Oscars and predict who will be the winners. After the break, it's an extended version of Rage Corner (brought to you by Film Rage https://www.filmrageyyc.com/). In this section our two hosts react to a show called Who Are These Podcasts whose main premise is just to make fun of other podcasts. That's it, there is nothing more to it than that. You can look them up if you want to find the full episode...
2024-02-0939 minFinding Traction: Recovery from PornEp. 115 - Do You Have a Yearly Focus?As we head into 2024 Vern shares about a tool that has been helpful for him as he starts out a brand new year. It just so happens that this one leads Vern into making changes that are long overdue!To contact Vern you can reach out to him at bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com.As he mentions regularly - he loves to connect with guys who are looking at making changes in their life around their problematic porn use!You can also check out the website for further recovery resources https://www.bandofbrothers...
2024-01-0928 minFinding Traction: Recovery from PornEp. 108 - Recovery Rules with Mark DenisonVern loves the new book that Mark Denison has written Recovery Rules because it gives simple one page reminders to help any porn struggler re-orient themselves on a daily basis. In this podcast Vern interviews Mark as they dive into some of these rules (at least the ones that Vern especially loves!)If you want to connect with Vern directly - you can contact him at...email: bandofbrothers.care@gmail.comIf you want to check out more about him or the finding traction course go to the website:
2023-11-1323 minCinema RecallAshley's Haunted Horror Nights and Vern's Top 10 Films of 2023..so far
Hello everyone
Ashley and Vern are back together for a fun filled episode of Cinema Recall. Ashley talks about her time at Universal Studios Haunted Horror Nights and The Vern lists his top films of 2023..so far.
They also introduce a new segment called Rage Corner brought to you by the fine gentlemen over at Film Rage
https://www.filmrageyyc.com/
We also talk briefly about an upcoming sponsor called Magic Mind which is The World's First Productivity Shot. We will give more inf...
2023-10-201h 15
Cinema RecallThe Vern & Ashley & Barbie & Josie & The Pussycats
On this fun filled episode, Ashley and Vern first visit with some amazing people, Jeanette Ward, Matthew Simpson, and Richard Kirkham on The LAMBcast to talk about the number one movie in the world, Barbie.
You can listen to full episode by visiting the link below
https://largeassmovieblogs.com/2023/07/lambcast-695-barbie.html
After the break, The Vern is back with guest Daniel Lackey of Muscially Ignorant to talk about the best movie ever made( There is a book that proves it. Click HERE for more details)
Of cours...
2023-07-282h 15
LetsArguh!Daddy's Baby, Momma's Maybe Ep. 36Could you be a stay at home dad? Why or why not?On this week's episode we debate if rap music will continue to be the leading genre of music, or will another surpass it? Vern and Bricks make a case for Latin music and Afrobeats, and Kash is hearing none of it. Why don't more men have primary custody of their kids, and why do women who allow their children to live with the dad receive such backlash? Kash says more men should step up in general, and Vern doesnt like the insinuation that they don't. Are most men...
2023-07-041h 28
Cinema RecallInterview with Director Deborah Twiss
The Vern is here for a special episode where he gets to interview Deborah Twiss. The writer and director of such features as, A Gun for Jennifer, Sebastien, and the recent erotic drama, Sapiosexual, (Click name to read Vern's review) Listen as Deborah discusses her love of Dogme 95, how intimacy coordinators are more hurtful than helpful when filming sex scenes and even calls Vern by his real name during the show. It was a really great time recording this interview and we hope you enjoy listening to it.
Watch these Movies by Deborah Twiss
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2023-06-1631 min
Cinema RecallRandom Thoughts with Ashley and The Vern.
Due to some techincal issues we don't have a full episode but we still bring you a fun one that you will very much enjoy. Ashley and The Vern talk about some movies and shows they recently watched and spend some time talking about the panels they will be attending during Convergence in July. As a special bonus, Ashley will be singing a special theme song for our Patreon Members
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2023-06-0938 min
Cinema RecallHow to Market Your Podcast with The Vern (Theatrical Version)
The Vern is going solo this time to give some tips on how to best market a podcast. In no way should you consider him to be an expert but we hope that he can give you some good tips to help you and your show be more successful.
(An Alternate version is available for Patreon Members
https://www.patreon.com/cinemarecallpod)
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2023-06-0225 min
Cinema RecallVern and Ashley Watch Recent Movies and TV: Vol 1
Ashley and The Vern are back for their monthly recap. They each take time reviewing things they saw alone. Then have a lot of fun talking about two movies they saw, together, Renfield and Polite Society.
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2023-05-1249 min
Cinema RecallAshley and The Vern Visits Some Podcasts. (Theatrical Version)We are back( sort of) to bring you a newish episode. Ashley Jirak and The Vern are back but not together. However, they were great guests on these other amazing podcasts.
(extended version is availaible for Patreon Members )
The Vern was on an episode of Whatever with Jason Soto where he talks about a prank he pulled at McDonalds. Than Ashley takes a turn on the same podcast to talk about fast food jingles, musicals and more. You can find the episodes and so much more by clicking the link below
2023-05-051h 01Finding Traction: Recovery from PornEp. 90 - Recovery False StartsIt is quite common for Vern to hear from a guy who emails him with a frantic - "I need help NOW" regarding their porn struggle. Yet a funny thing happens. Vern replies to the email and hears nothing back - apparently the emergency has passed. In this episode Vern explores a number of ways that people "false start" their recovery from problematic porn use.If you want to connect with Vern directly (and you know he loves to connect with guys!) you can email him at email: bandofbrothers.care@gmail.com...
2023-04-2617 min
Cinema RecallThe Vern Shows Ashley his G.O.A.T.s
It's been a while but Ashley and Vern are back for a full episode of Cinema Recall Podcast.
On today's show they talk about a fun action comedy and an 80's TV theme song written by Chat GPT . DIscuss a bit about the recent Oscars and the controversy on our Facebook Group page. Get into what they have seen recently and than Vern talks about some of the movies he loved watching in theaters and still think these movies are still amazing to this day
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2023-03-311h 01
Cinema RecallAshley and The Vern Predict the Oscars (2023)On today's bonus episode. The Vern and Ashley talk about who they think will win the 2023 Academy Awards. They are not experts but they are extremely fun and very attractive hosts. So their opinions matter the most.
Get the Full list of 2023 Oscar predictions below
https://www.cinemarecall.net/2023/01/the-vern-official-list-of-oscar-winners.html
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2023-03-0933 min
LetsArguh!Step Daddy Season Ep. 25On this week's episode we talk about the effect Gen Z is having on the job market. Are companies responsible for taking care of employees? Or Is it up to employees? Why would they rather lose people than pay them. We debate Pleasure vs Happiness. We try to convince Vern to try standup. Then we have a deep convo on parenting styles as fathers, being a stepdad, and mixing parenting styles with a new partner. Is there such a thing as a "child's place" and should kids stay in it? Are you your kid's friend? On #ThisAndThat Vern asks...
2023-01-241h 24
Cinema RecallKnock Knock(2015) with Em of Verbal DioramaOn today's show The Vern is joined by Em, the creator and host of Verbal Diorama to discuss a Keanu Reeves movie she has never seen before. When she found out it was directed by Eli Roth she got a wee bit nervous. But Vern advised her that it wasn't going to be like his other movies.
Knock Knock is a tale about Evan(Keanu Reeves). A married, family man who one night while alone, meets two beautiful women Genesis( Lorenza Izzo) and Bel (Ana de Armas). Throughout the night the two girls shamelessly flirt with Evan and...
2022-12-201h 32
The Snap On Sight Podcast015-Welcome Home Vern- We 4 UsWelcome Home Vern!!!- The family connects for this therapy session. Introducing some old school guests to debate sports and discuss some social issues and current events. All honest, from a place of love, learning as we grow. Family Business!! https://thesnaponsightpodcast.buzzsprout.com
2022-12-101h 29Finding Traction: Recovery from PornEp. 75 - Win Lose vs Win LearnIn the previous episode - Vern (and Jeff) talked about some of the connections between the martial art of Jujitsu and porn recovery. In this podcast Vern continues to pull on what a difference Win/Loss vs Win/Learn has to do with how we deal and learn from our setbacks.If you want to connect with Vern directly (and you know he loves to connect with guys!) you can email him at email: bandofbrothers.care@gmail.comIf you want to check out more porn recovery resources or learn more about...
2022-11-1421 minFinding Traction: Recovery from PornEp. 74 - Fight ClubVern's friend and pastor Jeff is somebody who is heavily involved in the martial art of Jujitsu. In this episode Vern talks with Jeff about how some of the insights he learned from this martial art can be applied to porn recoveryIf you want to connect with Vern directly (and you know he loves to connect with guys!) you can email him at email: bandofbrothers.care@gmail.comIf you want to check out more porn recovery resources or learn more about the 52 Week Video course Finding Traction go to the...
2022-11-0328 minFinding Traction: Recovery from PornEp. 64 - The Thrill Returns - 7 Ways to Welcome JoyLast episode Vern explored the topic of Joy and how it can be so elusive. Today Vern gives practical advice to how to practically invite joy back into your life!If you want to connect with Vern directly (and you know he loves to connect with guys!) you can email him at email: bandofbrothers.care@gmail.comIf you want to check out more porn recovery resources or learn more about the 52 Week Video course Finding Traction go to the website:https://www.bandofbrothers.careAre...
2022-07-1532 min
Cinema RecallTop Gun: Maverick or The Vern & Ashley enter the danger zone.Hello Listeners
On this episode, Ashley and Vern talk about random things including the box office and their thoughts on Top Gun: Maverick plus other long time sequels.
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2022-06-231h 14
Cinema RecallLive with Chuck Staton of The Chuck and Brad Podcast Back once again, Ashley and The Vern return with yet another live show. This time their special guest was Chuck Staton of the famous Chuck and Brad Podcast amongst many other great podcasts. The link to all of his great content can be found on his Twitter page.
On today's show, Chuck, Ashley and Vern react to underrated musicians, talk about if it's cool for trailers to reveal spoilers, Ashley's prank on Vern when she first met him and much much more. All while enjoying a shrimp cocktail.
Listen to the show below or watch the...
2022-02-2256 min
Two Hot MessesThe not-so-perfect life of Eunice and Wei VernEvery teenager has their own interests and problems that sometimes not everyone understands. Every Sunday, join two teen best friends Eunice and Wei Vern as they navigate through different aspects of a teenager life from high school to movies and shows. Each episode will be filled with a new topic that can help listeners to understand how teens work as human beings. Come and join us on this adventure of navigating a messy teenage life.
2021-06-201h 04Finding Traction: Recovery from PornEp. 32 - 9 Types of KidsContinuing on from the last podcast, Vern in this episode explores, Vern explores 9 different types of childhood experiences, and explains how each scenario often leaves that type of child susceptible to certain key emotional triggers that activate their inner child.If you want to connect with Vern directly (and you know he loves to connect with guys!) you can email him at email: bandofbrothers.care@gmail.comIf you want to check out more porn recovery resources or learn more about the 52 Week Video course Finding Traction go to the website:
2021-04-2719 min
Brothers to the EndEPISODE 29 - DMCApocalypse, Borat 2, Vern's Delusional Basketball Hopes, & Guilty Pleasure Movies!Vern & Goldy are back again for episode 29 of BTTE. In this week's episode, they discuss the current climate of copyright infringement, DMCA takedowns, & go into details about behind the scenes of Twitch business. On top of that, Vern gives his incredibly unbiased opinion on the future of the Detroit Pistons & the boys talk a little about the newest Borat movie.
Thanks for listening & catch you guys again in 2 weeks!
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2020-10-2700 minFinding Traction: Recovery from PornEp. 18 - Lifehack #5 - The Power of TechnologyThis podcast is based on a summary of a lesson found in Vern's Finding Traction Course. If we are going to be successful in porn recovery we will need to deal with the challenge of technology. In this episode Vern gives some ideas how to do that.If you want to connect with Vern directly (and you know he loves to connect with guys!) you can email him at email: bandofbrothers.care@gmail.comIf you want to check out more porn recovery resources or learn more about the 52 Week Video course...
2020-10-1303 minBrothers to the EndEPISODE 25 - ONE YEAR ANNIVERSARY, Competitive Nature in Gaming, & Vern's Sugar GammyIt's already been one year since we rebooted Brothers to the End! Time is flying by & so much has happened/changed in the last 365 days. In today's podcast, we talk about our competitive nature in video games, our NBA 2K addiction, & the possibility of Vern sucking objects for money. As usual, things get a little messy. ENJOY!
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