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Why Does My PartnerStay Upset When I Try to Repair?When we talk about repair, we’re talking about a whole lot more than saying you’re sorry. Sometimes jumping to apologize right away can actually be counterproductive. On the other hand, letting something stay unresolved in a relationship leads to festering hurt and resentment. With today’s listener question, we talk about what happens when one person wants to engage in repair after a conflict, and the other person just isn’t ready to go there.Plus, we’re now officially celebrating 100 episodes of WDMP! We’re so grateful to each and every one of you who have lis...2024-02-0627 min
Why Does My Partner[BONUS] Is there something wrong with me for not wanting physical contact?For this final episode of our bonus series on boundaries, our listener question is about struggling to say no to physical touch from their partner when they don’t feel like it, and wondering “is there something wrong with me when I want space?”No, dear listener, there’s nothing wrong with you, and that goes for anyone listening who’s ever felt the same. It’s okay to want space sometimes, it’s okay to express what kind of touch does or doesn’t feel good to you, and more than anything, it’s ok to talk about these t...2023-12-0530 min
Why Does My Partner[BONUS] Push Me Until I Lose It?Y’all, this episode is jam packed. We’ve got not one but TWO questions from listeners that get us diving straight into you-turns, compassion practices, times out and times in, and so, so much more. Both questions start similarly: “why does my partner push me until I…” but once we scratch the surface, it’s not too long before we discover the real question: “When I feel pushed, why do I end up acting in ways that don’t feel good to me?”That’s what boundaries are all about, folks. Keep listening for some practical tools that will help...2023-11-2838 min
Why Does My Partner[BONUS] Why do I feel so bad when my partner gets disappointed or mad at me?This is a really special episode of WDMP to share with you! Our regular listeners know that we don’t shy away from sharing examples of our own relationship work on the show, but today Vickey takes it even further, signing herself up to do some psychological boundary work of her own right here, on air. As you follow along with Vickey, you’ll learn how to discern what really is or isn’t about you in a conflict, as well as how to listen with acceptance, allowing and valuing your partner having their own feelings and process, without feelin...2023-11-2129 min
Why Does My Partner[BONUS] Respect My BoundariesIt’s episode 2 of our mini-series on boundaries, and we’ve got a listener question that we think a lot of our listeners are going to relate to. Have you ever been this person? You told your partner that you wanted something from them, and then they just don’t do it. You’re upset, of course, because they didn’t respect your boundaries! You communicated them clearly enough, so they should have to follow through, right?…right?Here’s the thing. Boundaries aren’t about getting other people to do what you want. Actually, what they are ab...2023-11-1437 min
Why Does My Partner[BONUS] Intro to Boundaries Miniseries: 6 Steps to Setting BoundariesGuess what, Jules wrote a book! It’s called Setting Boundaries that Stick: How Neurobiology Can Help You Rewire Your Brain to Feel Safe, Connected, and Empowered, and to celebrate, we’re doing a five-part mini-series all about setting and maintaining boundaries that actually work. In this episode, Jules talks us through her 6 steps for setting external boundaries, or the boundaries that communicate to others what is and is not ok for you, the boundary setter. Join us to hear about why boundary setting is really all about you, not the other person, and stay tuned for more in epis...2023-11-0927 min
Why Does My PartnerNever Want to Celebrate Holidays or Major MilestonesIt's our final episode of season five, and the question we’re answering today is “Wouldn’t it just be easier if we were all the same?” Okay, that’s not exactly true, but we are talking about navigating differences within your partnership, especially when kids are part of the picture. The question starts off with a disagreement about how to mark holidays and important life events, which gets us wondering about the role of ritual and tradition in each of these partner's lives growing up, and the meaning they’ve taken from that into their lives together. What are the need...2023-09-1924 min
Why Does My PartnerFeel Okay With Getting Close When She's Leaving in Six MonthsWhat if a relationship ending didn’t mean it was a failure? It’s our second-to-last episode of season 5. We’re answering a question that takes us inside some complicated relationship dynamics, from open relationships and polyamory to long distance and relationships with a time limit. We offer a big YOU-turn for you when you’re wondering what your partner is thinking or feeling about an issue and offer some compassion for your protective parts that want to “get you out of hard.” Finally, listen until the end to hear what each of us really thinks about open relationships. Spoiler: it’...2023-09-1228 min
Why Does My PartnerHave Trouble With My FeelingsIt’s another two-fer episode today, with a pair of questions that have to do with partners interrupting or getting annoyed when the other partner wants to talk about feelings. Plus, we’ve got WDMP producer/music therapist Al Hoberman back on as a special guest!When is it a good time to bring up 'feelings talk' in your house? During dinner? Before bed? While watching TV? A big part of having these kinds of conversations is knowing when your partner has the capacity to be there with you. And for the listener, it’s so much easier...2023-09-0526 min
Why Does My PartnerAccuse Me of Invalidating His FeelingsToday we have an extra special episode of Why Does My Partner, as we welcome our special guest, Al Hoberman! Besides being the sound editor and producer of WDMP, Al is a music psychotherapist in private practice. He’s joining us for this listener question, which takes us down the rabbit hole of asking “Just what is a feeling anyway? How do you know when you’re having one, and what counts as ‘talking about them?’” We get into socialized gender roles, communicating without words, learning to tolerate disagreement, and creating a pausing practice to up your self-compassion.Plus, fina...2023-08-2929 min
Why Does My PartnerLet Go of Focusing on the Relationship When Things in Their Life Get StressfulWhat happens inside of your relationship when things in other parts of your life start to get stressful? Maybe it feels like you have less time to dedicate to your partner, or that your energy is just completely spent after a long day, and you just don’t have it in you to be present and relational. That’s the topic of today’s question, and it takes us into a conversation all about integrated vs. unintegrated brain states, windows of tolerance, and why scheduling your spontaneity is such an important part of cherishing your relationship.Quotes:“...2023-08-2222 min
Why Does My PartnerWhy Does Everything My Partner Does Irritate Me?Congratulations! You’ve been working hard on this relationship, and it really feels like you’re getting to the next level. So why is it that everything your partner does is so darn annoying? If that’s happening for you, you’re not alone. In today’s episode, we’re discussing why we always seem to pick a partner who knows exactly how to push our buttons, and what that can tell us about our own psychological floor. Keep listening to learn about inner fix-it protectors, why we don’t believe in finding “the right one,” and how if everything your pa...2023-08-1528 min
Why Does My PartnerWant to Hurt MeWe talk about hurt a lot on this podcast, so much so that we released a whole mini-series called “Discord Builds Trust...No Really!” (Check it out if you haven't already!) So when this question came along, we had a lot of angles to cover. We discuss making YOU-turns on the stories we tell ourselves about what’s happening, and when lashing out is really about a deep desire to connect. We also talk healthy distance, and how sometimes compassion means taking care of yourself, not sticking around for the hope of relational safety. The resource mentioned in this...2023-08-0824 min
Why Does My PartnerExpect FairnessWhat do apes, grapes, and celery have to do with each other? They’re all on today’s episode of the WDMP podcast! Our listener question brings us to exploring what lies beneath the desire for fairness, and what’s really being communicated when one partner is feeling resentful or underserved. Topics include what it means to attack from the victim position, inherited expectations, and flinging poo. No, really!Quotes:"As an interdependent species, we equate fairness with justice seeking. And it’s in our wiring to feel upset…[so] when we’re in our couples and...2023-08-0122 min
Why Does My PartnerWant to Get Back Together After Breaking Up With MeWe’re not going to lie, today’s question hit home for a lot of us here at Why Does My Partner HQ. We’re sharing our stories of relationships where it was hard to let go as we respond to this listener, whose partner keeps breaking up with her and getting back together...now more than seven times.There’s some big YOU-turns to be made in this story, and at the center of it all is the question, “What would happen if you said: ‘No, I don’t want this?‘” Would there be grief that you’ve been avoidi...2023-07-2520 min
Why Does My PartnerUse Sex as a WeaponHere we are with Season 5 of the Why Doesn’t My Partner podcast! This episode is about mismatch, but don’t let the title fool you - it’s not just about sex. It’s about the discomfort of experiencing mismatch in your partnership, and the shame of wanting something that maybe somewhere in your life, you’ve learned is not okay. Starting with this You-turn, we cover topics like discovering your psychological floor, and how to notice the subtle cues that tell you you’re nearing it. How do we open up about our ingrained beliefs around what’s okay when it...2023-07-1827 min
Why Does My PartnerWhy Am I the Only One Who Raises the Red Flag and Has to Say This Marriage Is Not Going Well?Is there one person in your partnership that always brings up the issues? Whether that’s you or your partner, chances are there are some real feelings of disconnection and loneliness all around. On today’s episode, it’s all about how our attachment styles guide our gut instincts to either distance ourselves from conflict or try to smooth it over right away. We discuss what might be happening when there’s a mismatch between those two styles in a partnership, and how stepping up and learning to raise issues is an amazing way to show your partner that they’re...2023-07-0431 min
Why Does My PartnerWant Me to Just Get Over the HurtOk, so maybe we’ve convinced you that Discord Builds Trust (No Really!). You’re on board, you’re practicing sitting with your learned beliefs, and you're cultivating curiosity. Now the moment arrives. There’s disconnect, hurt, something went wrong. What do you do? How do you get out of this place and into the trust (no…really!)On today’s episode of our mini-series, the question is "Why does my partner want me to just get over the hurt?" We start off flipping the question on its head and pointing out some unspoken feelings inside of that questio...2023-06-2723 min
Why Does My PartnerBring Up Safe Topics to Solve a Problem When There Are Hidden Issues Not Being DiscussedHello and welcome to episode two of our mini-series, Discord Builds Trust…No Really!It’s such a natural, human thing to want to avoid conflict. We all do it! But when we do, we’re missing the chance to have a new experience of trying something hard with someone we love, and finding out that we can do it. That’s why we call it earning trust.Our bodies and our brains are primed to remember past struggles and do everything they can to protect us by avoiding the same thing happening again. That doesn’t...2023-06-2038 min
Why Does My PartnerFeel Most Comfortable Connecting on a Surface LevelWe’re back, dear listeners, as promised with a bonus mini-series: Discord Builds Trust…No Really!Really, it does! We’re not kidding with you on this one. So then why are we sometimes more comfortable with superficial, surface level topics? We’re opening up this conversation by acknowledging that intimacy is hard, and vulnerability can be scary, and wait – just what is a surface level topic, anyway? The truth is, if you’re feeling like there’s a mismatch between you and your partner on how deeply you’re connecting, there’s a lot of reasons why that could be...2023-06-1321 minWhy Does My PartnerDiscord Builds Trust...No Really! (Bonus Series Teaser)Hello dear listeners! We're popping into your podcast feed today to let you know that our next Bonus Mini Series, Discord Builds Trust...No Really! will be launching on June 13, 2023! To get things going, we're sharing a message from one of you, following up on the question they asked in Season 4. Thank you so much to that couple for sharing their story, and thank you to all of you for listening. See you all again in a few weeks!Share your questions with us at whydoesmypartner.com/contactIf you want to dive in deeper...2023-05-2304 min
Why Does My PartnerBecome More Needy the Healthier I Get and the More I Try to Establish Healthy BoundariesHere it is folks, our last episode of season 4! Today’s conversation sums up so much of what we’ve been talking about this season, from slowing down and having the tough conversations, to building trust, to what does it really mean to practice boundaries, anyway?As we discuss this listener’s question, we’re thinking about how people exist together as part of interconnected systems. When one part of the system changes, it resonates in the whole web, and inevitably creates change. In relationships, that means that when your partner senses you making changes in yourself, they’ll...2023-04-2528 min
Why Does My PartnerNeed Sex to Feel Connected While I Need to Feel Connected to Have SexWelcome back to the WDMP Podcast. Today’s question leads us into exploring what we each understand sexual intimacy to mean, and what we can do if that understanding doesn't seem to line up with our partner’s. We’re encouraging you, dear listeners, to start to learn about and understand your own sexual templates: what are your likes and dislikes, what are some of the beliefs you have about what those preferences mean, and what in your history has led you there? When you and your partner each engage in that personal work, then there’s an opportunity to talk...2023-04-1820 min
Why Does My PartnerTell Me What Upsets ThemWelcome back to the WDMP podcast. Today’s listener question asks about a partner who says there’s nothing wrong, but the asker is worried he’s holding back. We take this into a discussion about trust, and how embracing discord gives you an opportunity to strengthen a relationship. We cover what it means to repair after discord, what the research is telling us about conflict and repair, and how often we can really expect that repair to happen…at least in the way we were expecting it.Today’s Resource is The Power of Discord by Ed Tronick...2023-04-1118 min
Why Does My PartnerHave a Secret World and Not Let Me InWould you know everything about your partner? Like, really, really everything? There’s a delicate balance in every relationship between the intimacy of knowing each other deeply and keeping the magic alive with a bit of mystery. In today’s episode, we get into how intimacy comes from knowing a lot about our partner, which makes us feel safe, while mystery – leaving some things unknown – brings the thrill of discovery, intrigue, and passion. Too much safety, and you might not have enough passion, but too much mystery can lead to feeling unsafe and insecure. That’s where we find today’s qu...2023-04-0423 min
Why Does My PartnerAlways Have to Get Their WayWelcome back to the WDMP podcast! Rebecca is bringing the question today so that we can go deeper on the language of “power over, power under, and power with.”We live in such a hierarchical, win-or-lose society, it's no wonder that we learn to think of power as a zero-sum game, where we compete for who has more control, more influence, more freedom to act. But when we learn to switch to power-with thinking, where power is an abundant, shared resource, all of a sudden it’s a lot more messy, a lot less black and white, but th...2023-03-2825 min
Why Does My PartnerWhy Do I Take Care of My Partner When They Apologize To Me?Can remorse be empowering? Spoilers for today’s question, which comes from a listener who finds themselves doing the comforting, when it’s their partner who was doing the apologizing. What’s up with that? Realizing that you’ve hurt someone can bring up feelings of shame and guilt, especially when it’s someone you love. But letting that shame take over can take the focus off doing the repair work you and your partner need after that hurt. We discuss where that shame comes from, and how the alternative – remorse – actually helps you get out of feeling social threat and lets...2023-03-2122 min
Why Does My PartnerComplain When I Play GolfIt’s a fun one today on the WDMP podcast as we answer a question that’s sounds at first like it’s about hobbies and taking time for things we enjoy, but really gets down to how we distribute resources in our relationship. We discuss how conflicts over fairness can come up when one or both people in a couple are feeling depleted, anxious, or envious, and how to get out of that trap. We’re talking skills like getting curious, making You-turns, and direct requests. Quotes: "if you're catching yourself in your part...2023-03-1416 min
Why Does My PartnerInterracial RelationshipsWelcome back to the WDMP Podcast. Instead of a regular question, today we're answering a listener's request to talk about the dynamics between interracial couples and the conflicts that arise from their cultural differences.We take it as an opportunity to slow down and acknowledge that there's so much that comes with this big, heavy topic. There's the weight of inherited hurt and oppression, the weight of silenced voices and marginalized bodies. Of trying to do things differently - maybe even better - than those who came before us. We discuss how this situation can be ripe...2023-03-0724 min
Why Does My PartnerGet Defensive and Justify a FriendshipWelcome back to the WDMP podcast! Here in our second episode of season 4, a listener brings us his concerns about his wife’s friendship with a lesbian coworker. We get into topics like feeling dismissed, building trust, and navigating bumpy conversations with your partner where there are lots of tender feelings on both sides. We discuss how healthy boundary-setting isn’t about controlling your partner, it’s about knowing your own limits of comfort, and talk about a way of negotiating boundaries with your partner that helps you both slow down, stay curious, and turn this conflict into an opport...2023-02-2823 min
Why Does My PartnerHave No Interest In Being More RelationalWe’re back with season four and starting off with the big ones. Today’s question gets Jules, Vickey, and Rebecca asking, “what the heck does ‘relational’ even mean?” It’s a word we use all the time here on the WDMP podcast, so could it really be that you and your partner could have totally different ideas of what it means to be relational? And if that’s true, how do we turn that discovery into an opportunity to co-create our shared relational space?In true WDMP style, the answers we explore are equal parts brain science, you-tur...2023-02-2120 min
Why Does My Partnermake this a lover's day with yourselfHappy Valentine's Day! Are you ready for more Why Does My Partner? More is coming soon. Season 4 drops next week. We had to wish you a Happy Valentine's Day. Our hope is that at least some of you out there will make this a lover's day with yourself. Your relationship between you and you is a huge foundation for any other love relationship that you have. So even if it's only 5 minutes, send yourself a little love today. Take good care, we'll meet you back here next week. Share your questions with us at whydoesmypartner.com/contact2023-02-1401 min
Why Does My PartnerNot Want to Make Love to MeWelcome back to the WDMP podcast and to the third episode in our Mini-Series on Choosing, Being Chosen and Belonging. This episode covers the topic of sexual intimacy in relationship, if that affects how, when, or if you choose to listen we want you to know that ahead of time. In this episode we're answering the question "Why Doesn't My Partner Want to Make Love to Me?" We're discussing rejection, expectations, and vulnerability. We're inviting listeners to wonder what happens in your body, or floating in the back of your mind, as you think about how likely...2022-12-1422 min
Why Does My PartnerLook Outside for Things to Make Them Feel Good About ThemselfWelcome back to the WDMP podcast and to the second episode in our Mini-Series on Choosing, Being Chosen and Belonging.In this episode we're answering the question "Why Does My Partner Look Outside for Things to Make Them Feel Good About Themself?" In answering this question we're discussing self-worth and how self-worth is buoyed up if you have an inner sense that you're not-enough. We explore the ways we may replace our absence of experiencing belonging with attempts to "fit in" and explain the difference. Belonging celebrates us for all of the different aspects of ourselves, allowing...2022-12-0718 min
Why Does My PartnerPrefer to Keep the Status Quo of Distance in our RelationshipWelcome back to the WDMP podcast and to the first episode in our Mini-Series on Choosing, Being Chosen and Belonging.In this episode we're answering the question "Why Does My Partner Prefer to Keep the Status Quo of Distance in our Relationship?" We're talking about vulnerability, safety, and taking emotional risks without guarantee of outcome. We discuss how vulnerability is embedded in listening and receiving just as much as it is in sharing, the difference between provocative and responsible distance taking, and how to incorporate time-outs by developing a shared relational language. We also talk about a...2022-11-3022 min
Why Does My PartnerMood Influence My Mood So MuchDoes your partner ever give off an energy, even without saying anything, that rubs off on you? Maybe it makes you feel like they’re mad at you, or you simply adopt the mood that they’re in. In this episode, Jules, Vickey and Rebecca discuss the concept of “emotional contagion” and why we are affected by the unspoken moods of others, and how to navigate and communicate about this issue in your relationship with your partner.This is our final episode of season 3, thanks for listening for 3 seasons! Stay tuned for our mini-series on worthlessness and belongin...2022-09-2726 min
Why Does My PartnerSay I'm Therapizing ThemIn this episode, Jules, Vickey and Rebecca answer a listener who asks the following question: “Recently, when my partner and I have been having conflict, I try to come from a place of curiosity, talking to them and saying things that I've noticed and then asking why that might be. They tell me they feel I'm trying to be their therapist. I can understand why they could see it that way, but it's not my intention. I've told them it isn't my intention that I'm just trying to understand their point of view, but they say it feels like I...2022-09-2025 min
Why Does My PartnerSet Me Up To ReactIn this episode, Jules, Vickey and Rebecca answer listener question: “Why does my partner set me up to react when he makes controversial statements that are hurtful or mis-representational and expects that I don't react? And then when I react, he tells me that I'm being angry and that I'm wrong. And I always create a fuss about everything when I feel that if he had not said what he said, there wouldn't be an issue.” Is it about wanting to feel “right”? Can someone even make you feel a certain way? Is your interpretation about your partner’s tone, word...2022-09-1324 min
Why Does My PartnerInterpret Disagreement As CriticismDoes it seem like your partner gets defensive and/or hurt most times when you disagree? Have you ever wondered what could be behind that feeling for them and how to create a space where you are still connected and feel safe even in moments of disagreement? In this episode, Jules, Vickey and Rebecca discuss what could be happening internally with your partner, ways to examine your own words and intentions, and how to diffuse potential conflict and hurt feelings in these moments using compassion and communication.Share your questions with us at whydoesmypartner.com/contact2022-09-0620 min
Why Does My PartnerWant to Open Our RelationshipHave you or your partner ever wondered how about opening your relationship? In this episode, Jules, Vickey and Rebecca cover not only some of the many reasons partners might explore non-monogamy, how to communicate in a connected way about it, how to explore it carefully—and how to express if it doesn’t feel right for you. They share their experiences in working with a variety of partners in open relationships and offer resource material to help guide you through the world of consensual non-monogamy. Books referenced in this episode:Open Monogamy by Tammy Nelson2022-08-3021 min
Why Does My PartnerDo Things They Know Will Hurt MeHow can you connect while communicating to your partner when they say things that they know (or may not know) will hurt you? Are they trying to be mean and malicious? Are they just trying to get your attention? How do you request that they stop doing it without escalating the interaction? In this episode, Jules, Vickey and Rebecca analyze possible reasons why your partner might be doing this and how to ask them to stop doing it in a way that increases your understanding of each other.Share your questions with us at whydoesmypartner.com/contact2022-08-2619 min
Why Does My PartnerAct Like Their Mother/FatherDoes your partner ever act like their mother or father? (Hint: we all do it sometimes.) In this episode, Jules, Vickey and Rebecca dive deep into this question and discover some truths that will make us rethink about not only why our partner does this, but how to interact with them when they do—and most importantly—how to use it as a chance to see your partner with more compassion and enhance connectedness.Share your questions with us at whydoesmypartner.com/contactIf you want to dive in deeper, consider registering for our online Esse...2022-08-1621 min
Why Does My PartnerTreat Me Like Their Father/MotherDoes your partner ever make assumptions about you that are more aligned with their mother or father than they are with you? Or do they react to you sometimes the way they would to their parent? In this episode, Jules, Vickey and Rebecca tackle the topic of mimicking and modeling what a person grew up with and how extensive that mimicking can affect them on all levels—especially in romantic relationships. And be sure to tune in next week for the flip side of this question: “Why does my partner act like their mother or father?”Share your q...2022-08-0924 min
Why Does My PartnerSee How Much I Do for ThemWhen we do something “for our partner”...why are we doing it? Are we really doing it for them, or are we doing it for ourselves? Do you end up blaming your partner and calling them “ungrateful”, etc? Or do you sink into a shame pit and believe you’re not doing enough for them to be appreciated? In this episode, Jules, Vickey and Rebecca pull back the curtain and reveal some of the real reasons why this question is often self-focused and what we can learn about our relationship and about ourselves when we explore it.Share your...2022-08-0523 min
Why Does My PartnerMake Me Feel WorthlessFeeling worthless is always an awful experience no matter where the feeling originated, and it’s never okay to try to make someone else feel worthless. But are your partner’s actions causing you to feel this way? Are they abusive, or could there be other factors at play? In this episode, Jules, Vickey and Rebecca get deep into some neuroscience to explain how our brains and bodies process emotions and thoughts to create stories in our heads—including those stories we carry around that determine how we feel about ourselves.Share your questions with us at whydoe...2022-07-2624 min
Why Does My PartnerSay They Are Focusing On Their ‘Stuff’ But…Why does my partner say they are focusing on "their stuff" but it doesn't seem like they are from the outside? Why do they point the finger back at us and tell us to just focus on our own “stuff”? In this episode, Jules, Vickey and Rebecca talk about several different reasons why you’re not seeing your partner’s internal work, how different people go about doing their internal work, and how to use sharing about each other’s “stuff” instead of judging as an opportunity for vulnerability and deeper connection.Share your questions with us at whydoesmypa...2022-07-1917 min
Why Does My PartnerWhy Do I Have So Many Expectations of My Partner?We all want to avoid grief, but how do you handle it when your partner doesn’t meet your expectations? Do you silently resent them? Do you take the chance of making a request? Or do you grieve and accept that you’re not going to get what you wanted? In this episode, Jules, Vickey and Rebecca discuss how to look inward to identify the possible sources of our expectations in relationships as well as better ways of communicating wants and needs to our partners.Share your questions with us at whydoesmypartner.com/contactIf you...2022-07-1217 min
Why Does My PartnerStill Fight With Their ExWhat is it that sucks us into the ex-partner dynamic? Is it a need to be “right”? A fear of being vulnerable? Or repeating old patterns from your childhood because that’s where you are most comfortable? In this episode, Jules, Vickey, and Rebecca answer the questions: “Why does my partner keep fighting with their ex? Why is this difficult dynamic such a draw for my partner?” and “How can I help my stepchild who is being affected by their parents arguing without overstepping?”Share your questions with us at whydoesmypartner.com/contactIf you want to dive i...2022-07-0519 min
Why Does My PartnerPick Their Parents Over MeAfter money, sex, kids, time and cleaning, in-laws are another topic couples most commonly fight about. “Why do you talk to your mother more than you talk to me? Your mom is in the middle of our relationship.” What could be behind this conflict? In this episode, Jules, Vickey and Rebecca discuss the several reasons why these issues occur; cultural differences, different families’ expectations of what a family relationship should look like, differences between what your new family wants you to do vs. your family of origin, and the fear of not belonging. Explore what “belonging” can look like for each p...2022-06-2816 min
Why Does My PartnerNot Validate What I'm Feeling When I'm Upset“Why doesn't my partner validate what I'm feeling when I'm upset?” The short answer is, because it’s really hard to do. Oftentimes in the moment, one or both of us is too upset to make a responsive choice rather than a reactionary one. But of course there’s more to it than that. The key is in the ask itself. Is it a question of what is true? Or is it about being heard and understood? How do we validate our partners without invalidating our own feelings and subjective truth? But the magic in the ask is that often, when we...2022-06-2115 min
Why Does My PartnerHate Every Way I'm Different From ThemThis week, a listener asks, “Why does my partner hate every way that I am different from them?” Difference is what makes us human, and how we respond to difference is such an integral part of the human experience. We experience it in our most intimate relationships–with our partners or between siblings, for example. But it’s also at the forefront of our political climate and policy-making, culture clashes, religious wars, racism, sexism, you name it. There is a desire for ease and harmony in the question, but also an undercurrent of grandiosity, loneliness and disconnection. Listen in as Rebecca, V...2022-06-1418 min
Why Does My PartnerNot Want to Work on Our RelationshipRelationships can be hard, even healthy ones. They take work. So, what does it mean when one partner doesn’t want to work on the relationship and the other does? Is it a sign that they care less than the other partner? Does it mean their efforts are being overlooked? How much effort and energy should a relationship take anyway? Putting forth extra effort to take a relationship to new places involves a certain amount of risk. Because what if it isn’t reciprocated? Will one of you evolve faster than the other? What if, after all your efforts, the relatio...2022-06-0716 min
Why Does My PartnerWhy Can’t I Decide To Stay Or Go?Have you ever been stuck in a place of indecision over what to do in a relationship? So many of us have. And for living in such a relational culture as we do, we aren’t offered much modeling or wise guidance. Often, we absorb messages like “when they’re the one, you just know” and “when they’re the right person, even the hard stuff is easy.” We beg to differ! These adages might be true for some, but the reality is they’re just not helpful for the rest of us, or worse, they can cause us a lot of confusion, f...2022-05-3123 min
Why Does My PartnerHave an AffairWhen we think of the concept of cheating, typically a sexual affair comes to mind. But that is only one form of cheating out of a myriad of ways. Ultimately, cheating is a betrayal, a breach of agreement. And too often, our agreements aren’t well communicated. The risk then is that there are differing ideas of the agreements in place–in other words, an unspoken disagreement in place, with a high chance of someone feeling betrayed sooner or later. But sometimes, our agreements are clearly communicated and we still fall short of expectations. It happens. We have all done it, ev...2022-05-2421 min
Why Does My PartnerCorrect (Almost) Everything I SayWe all have had the experience of being corrected by someone else. Often, it doesn’t feel so great. It can make us wonder what’s inherently wrong with us or why they can’t just let us own our thoughts and feelings. It’s also very likely that we’ve been the one correcting another before and might not have even noticed that we’d done it. Why do we correct others? And what are we to do with their correction when someone puts it on us? Turns out, there’s quite an array of reasons why we might correct someon...2022-05-1720 min
Why Does My PartnerSHUT DOWN MINI-SERIES: Why Does My Partner Shut Down When Big Feelings are Present?Last week, in this miniseries on shutdowns, we talked about shutting down in the middle of an argument. This week, we’re talking about shutting down from a slightly different angle: When one of us in the relationship is having big, vulnerable feelings. It can feel scary or vulnerable to express a need or emotion we have, even outside of conflict. So, let’s dig deeper. In this episode, we discuss some differences in why you might shut down when you have big feelings versus why you might shut down when your partner has big feelings, and what these look and...2022-03-3117 min
Why Does My PartnerSHUT DOWN MINI-SERIES: Why Does My Partner Shut Down During an Argument?If your partner tends to shut down in the middle of an argument, the reason why is simple. However, often the simplest things are also the most complicated. This week, let’s dig into the varied reasons underneath the simple surface layer and discuss what can be done about it. Shutting down can become embedded in the relational dance between us and our partners, a spiraling chain of events in which you both circle back on repeat patterns while traveling forward at the same time. But with some tracking and self-awareness, you can begin to change the steps of your...2022-03-2421 min
Why Does My PartnerSHUT DOWN MINI-SERIES: Why Do I Shut Down When Things Get Heavy?Shutdowns can look and feel different for each of us. Sometimes deep and immediate, sometimes a slow drip toward isolation. Numbness, wordlessness, sometimes seething, sometimes out-of-body. We all shut down sometimes, even if it isn’t our usual modus operandi. But why do they happen in the first place? And what can we do about them? It all starts with noticing. In Part One of our series on shutdowns, we talk about trauma responses in the body and our developing brain throughout the life cycle—it turns out our brains don’t stop developing after adolescence. We share our personal expe...2022-03-1629 min
Why Does My PartnerSHUT DOWN MINI-SERIES: IntroductionDear listeners, we have a little surprise for you while we’re in between seasons. We have created a 3-part series on “shut-downs” in relationships and will roll out segments of the series over the course of the next few weeks. To start, this week, we have an introduction for you on shut-downs: We discuss why shutting down during hard conversations might be the worst thing you can do in a relationship over the long term. We discuss different types of shutting down (perhaps one or all of them will sound familiar?) And, because shutting down is so common i...2022-03-0817 min
Why Does My PartnerNot Talk About What is Good Between UsDon’t we all just want to hear a little good news, a little “thank you”, or get a high-five once in a while? Why do so many of us focus on what's not working, rather than what is? Rounding out season two, Rebecca, Vickey and Jules discuss one of their most favorite relational skills—cherishing. In this episode, you'll learn how to do it, when to do it (hint: often and in the moment!), and why it's so important for all of the relationships in your life. You'll also learn why it can be very hard for many of us to...2022-01-2740 min
Why Does My PartnerWant Me to Tell Them What's Happening in My TherapyAsking your partner about what happened in their therapy session is, regardless of their reason, basically an ask for more vulnerability. It’s normal for partners to be interested in what’s going on for the other. Often we just want to know that one of us isn’t outgrowing the other. The potential for boundary crossings is great here, but so is the potential for relational growth as a couple. This week, Rebecca, Jules and Vickey discuss the nuanced differences between curiosity and a need for control, how and why you should have a meta conversation around this, and the ke...2022-01-2019 min
Why Does My PartnerWhy Isn't My Partner the Same as When I Met Them?If you’ve been with your partner for a while, you’ve probably already noticed that they’re not quite the same person they were when you first fell for them. They might even seem like a completely different person from the one you met so long ago. So where did they go? Because you know them so intimately, you can still kind of track remnants in their face or get a brief flicker of that former self in an expression, a gesture, a laugh. But, seriously, what’s going on here? Who is this person now and what happened to t...2022-01-1318 min
Why Does My PartnerNot Try to Understand When I'm UpsetThis week’s episode is a companion to last week’s conversation, where we talked about why our partners might not share when they’re upset. This week, a listener asks: Why doesn’t my partner try to understand when I’m upset? What it ultimately boils down to is listening, really listening, is actually really hard! Vickey, Rebecca and Jules break this all down for you to explain what the goal of listening actually is, how to do it well, and how to know when you’ve stopped listening. And for the speaker, they’ve got some tips for how and why y...2022-01-0619 min
Why Does My PartnerNot Tell Me When They're UpsetThe thing about conflict is that very few of us were given a model of how to work through it in an effective or healthy way. Some of us grew up in a home where conflict just didn’t happen, and so we grow up at a loss for what to do or assume that any conflict means a relationship is doomed. Some of us grew up in homes where there was a lot of conflict and it wasn’t handled in healthy ways, leaving us with a set of bad relational habits or some defense mechanisms and fear that m...2021-12-3025 min
Why Does My PartnerLove Seem ConditionalIs adult love conditional? This is one of those deeper questions we all encounter at some point in our lives. It’s one that we all might have our own answer to, but we don’t have to agree on a shared answer in order to be in relationship with each other. This week, our asker wants to know, “Why does my partner’s love seem conditional?” Jules, Vickey and Rebecca respond to this question by addressing the conditionality of adult love and what that might mean, and also what it means when “seem” is the operative. This is a question that en...2021-12-2317 min
Why Does My PartnerNot Accept Our DifferencesPerhaps one of the loneliest existential questions we can ask is whether or not we can ever truly be known by someone. There’s grief in there, when we realize that this desire can never be fully met. Sometimes we avoid or deny this truth, which is what this week’s question touches on: “Why doesn’t my partner accept our differences?” Certainly, we can bond over our similarities. That’s easy. But the real adventure and the real risk is in our differences. Perhaps the irony lies in that by simply being curious about our differences, for a mere moment and thr...2021-12-1620 min
Why Does My PartnerThink I’m Useless, No Good, Unhealthy When We FightThis week, a listener asks, “When we fight, why does my partner think I’m useless, no good, unhealthy?” When you and your partner fight, you might have your own list of adjectives that come to mind. Whatever they are, the answer to this question applies to all of them. The response is hefty but so worth it, because when we are able to upend this with a new skill, the results are so incredibly profound. Rebecca, Vickey and Jules explain a bit of the brain science behind our Core Negative Images of our partners and how our implicit memory sy...2021-12-0926 min
Why Does My PartnerMake Hurtful CommentsWe’ve all likely said something hurtful out of anger to someone we love at some point in our lives. There’s a slew of reasons why we do it, but “because it’s the truth” is only sometimes one of them. Being on the receiving end of a hurtful comment, the sting can make it hard to respond well. But if we can pause just enough before responding to check in on our psychological boundaries, then we can filter what’s true and about us from what’s not true and about them. We can set limits when appropriate. We c...2021-12-0222 min
Why Does My PartnerNot Get We’re Not Actually ConnectingWe believe everyone who's ever been in a relationship has experienced this question! Maybe it's a lack of observation about the dynamics between you. Maybe they do know, but you don't know that they know. Really though, it’s probably just that you have different connection styles and haven't yet decoded the different ways each of you experience what connection is. Jules takes us deep into brain science to help us understand how our history-colored glasses affect our experiences of what connection is. And once again, we're encouraging you to have meta-conversations. Observe what connection feels like to each of...2021-11-2529 min
Why Does My PartnerCut Me OffWhen it comes to the topic of interjecting or cutting someone off in a conversation, we all know which side we tend to fall on. Some of us are serial cutter-offers. Some of us are the ones getting cut off. For those in the latter group, it can be incredibly frustrating at times. We might feel like we aren’t being listened to or that we are being dismissed. But for those doing the cutting off… Well, there’s not always a clear simple reason for why they do it. In fact, there are a lot of reasons why someone might...2021-11-1814 min
Why Does My PartnerRefuse To ApologizeThis week’s question “Why does my partner refuse to apologize?” is a big one. Partly because we’ve all found ourselves in the position of not wanting or outright refusing to apologize to someone. We’ve all been that person, probably more than once. And we’ve all been the person on the receiving end of an apology—or the absence of an apology. We’ve felt that vulnerability in calling attention to our hurt, and hopefully, we’ve all experienced the repair and connection from an apology well-stated. So, why is such a basic, everyday thing so complicated and infrequ...2021-11-1125 min
Why Does My PartnerNot See They Are Being HypocriticalWhy is it so hard to see when we are being hypocritical about something? Some say that humans are contradictory by nature, so perhaps we are all hypocritical from time to time. It’s just hard to see outside of our personal vantage point. It takes a little imagination, curiosity and maybe even a little effort toward trying a different approach. And when we are calling out the hypocrisy in one another, we need to understand what the desire underneath it is. Ultimately, if both sides can drop the defensiveness, the conversation transforms. Listen in as Jules, Vickey and Rebecca...2021-11-0414 minWhy Does My PartnerNeed To Fix MeSometimes in a relationship, one of us thinks we need to fix the other. There are a few moving parts here. In terms of social conditioning, often women learn that this is how they get what they need in a relationship. But it’s not always or only that. There’s also a piece around how we deal with trauma and a piece around the partner’s response to being fixed. What often lies underneath is a feeling of “What does he/she think is wrong with me?” If this rings true in your relationship, Vickey, Jules and Rebecca are ready with a...2021-10-2823 minWhy Does My PartnerNot Comfort MeThis week, find out what we mean when we say sometimes you just “can’t magic the milk”. Comfort means different things to different people. In this episode, we discuss the many nuanced reasons why we might not get what we need when we are stressed and in need of comfort and what we’ve come to expect from others in those moments. There’s a bit of attachment theory in here, but forget what you think you know about attachment theory. We’re breaking it down into easily digestible terms and reflect on the ways in which our expectations shi...2021-10-2147 minWhy Does My PartnerNot Accept What They Did Was WrongThis week, Jules, Vickey and Rebecca talk about what’s really going on when we or our partners can’t admit wrongdoing. It turns out that we all have unique, complex personal histories with what happens when someone admits they made a mistake and why we might refuse or withhold that admission. This succinct yet powerful conversation offers a U-turn for both parties in a relationship that can shift the trajectory of the disagreement toward connection and safety, while ultimately asking the question, “Is forgiveness possible if we don’t agree that you were wrong?”Share your questions wi...2021-10-1412 minWhy Does My PartnerExpect Sex In The MorningWhat is sex about? What is it for? Many things, of course—pleasure and connection just being two of them. So what happens when there is an expectation or a mismatch in preferences? Can we talk about it with openness and curiosity? Or do we get pouty, irritable or retaliatory? It is inevitable that there will be times when our partners want sex when we are not in the mood or vice versa. When that happens, it is important to make the distinction that this rejection is not a rejection of the person. It’s just not what feels right in th...2021-10-0726 minWhy Does My PartnerNot Understand The TraumaHow is it that two people can live through the same thing and one person experiences it as traumatic and the other person experiences it in a completely different way? The answer is often a combination of personal history, the language we use to process it, and DNA. But perhaps the stickier question regarding trauma and relationships is, Why don’t you understand that this was traumatic for me? It’s such a vulnerable ask and there is a root skill that is absolutely key here: It requires us to cultivate our “second consciousness”, which is where our relational skills live...2021-09-3024 minWhy Does My PartnerAccuse Me Of CheatingThis week, Jules, Vickey, and Rebecca consider the many reasons why our partners might worry that we are cheating on them. The question really is just the tip of the iceberg when it comes to how our thinking brains handle unknowns--fears, worries, insecurities. Our partner’s implicit memories can be triggered by an action without them even being aware of it. Or we may not know how to handle their insecurity, so the things we do out of a desire to protect them may come off as sketchy instead. Whatever the reason, the silver lining is always the opportunity for a...2021-09-2315 min
Why Does My PartnerMarry MeSooner or later, everyone reaches a point in their relationship when they ask, “Why did my partner even marry me at all? Why are they with me?” It’s a question that typically comes up when things have been hard for a while, which--surprise!--is completely normal. Modern committed relationships are a spiritual journey. There is a reason why we choose partners that stir up our stuff. This week, Jules, Vickey and Rebecca share what comes up for them with this question, the wisdom they’ve accrued from making it through the other side of this tough phase in their own mar...2021-09-1618 minWhy Does My PartnerNot Want To Go To TherapyLet’s talk about different options when it comes to therapy, get honest about what therapy feels like and help support you in going after what you want if therapy is right for you. We also get curious about the differences between requests and demands and look at practices that would support both options.That wraps up season 1 of the Why Does My Partner podcast. We’ll be working behind the scenes on season 2, and enjoying time off with our loves. Expect season 2 in mid-September 2021. In the meantime, do continue sending us your questions for future episodes and e...2021-07-1520 minWhy Does My PartnerBlame Me For EverythingDoes your partner blame you for a ton of stuff? Whether you are the blamer or the blame this episode is sure to help. In this one we help you think through assessing what’s blaming and what’s not. We hope to inspire you to trade in loving firmness for harshness. Let’s look at how blame hurts the person holding it as well as the person receiving it. We’ll talk about not taking things personally, boundaries and clarity with love. By the end of this one you’re gonna want to carry Qtips in your pocket.Share your...2021-07-0820 minWhy Does My PartnerSay They Don’t RememberWhat happens when a situation is feeling unfair? What if there are skills and deficits in each of you that are different...what if those differences drive you crazy? We’ll face grief, talk about direct requests and face how hard it can be to live with each other and negotiate shared space. What can we do to embody love towards ourselves and each other even while we face these challenges? We have answers, thoughts and ways to stoke the ambers of your own curiosity in this one.Share your questions with us at whydoesmypartner.com/contact...2021-07-0119 minWhy Does My PartnerGet So EmotionalIn this episode we take on the question "why does my partner get so emotional? Emotions are annoying and they don't serve a purpose anyway." And our answer begins with the science behind why emotions do matter and why they will run your life. Humans are meaning-making creatures and emotions play a vital role in that process. We are feeling beings, the question is: are we conscious of it or not? We nerd out on the fascinating brain science, including how logic and emotion work together to calm the brain. The skills lie in how to best get the...2021-06-2422 minWhy Does My PartnerWhy Don’t I Compliment My Partner More?We love this question from someone wondering about what’s going on inside them when they don't compliment their partner. And we take it as an invitation to explore Us Consciousness: Are you ‘Me focus’ or ‘Us focus’? Do you know if your agenda is connection or protection? It's a knowing that — how you’re doing, how I’m doing, how we are together — are all of equal importance. We also take a look at how compliments are received, what happens if your compliments fall into a black hole, and if withholding the compliment is a retaliation move. We discuss skills to...2021-06-1713 min
Why Does My PartnerSuckCan we talk about normal marital hatred? Yes, that’s true it is normal. We explore the three phases of a long term relationship, look at how to hold each other in warm regard even as we suck and get curious about why our partner gets up our bum so badly. Can you hold yourself and your partner in love even when you do sucky human things? We explore what makes it so hard and give tips on how to get better.Share your questions with us at whydoesmypartner.com/contactIf you want to dive...2021-06-1015 minWhy Does My PartnerSmack My @$$Let’s talk about touch, intimate touch, fun touch, how we communicate to our partners what touch we enjoy. This is a light and fun episode and yes, we do talk about sex. We’ll get into how to learn about your own and each other's touch preferences, communicating about touch and enthusiastic consent. Share your questions with us at whydoesmypartner.com/contactIf you want to dive in deeper, consider registering for our online Essential Skills Relationship Bootcamp. Open to individuals, couples and therapists. Learn more at whydoesmypartner.com/eventsThis podcast is not a...2021-06-0311 minWhy Does My PartnerPast Bother MeIn this one, we look at layers of how this might be an issue. We share a few different things that might be coming up for you and we talk about ways to soothe yourself and trust yourself. We all struggle with the stories we create about each other, lets dive in and think about how to radically love ourselves and trust ourselves as we journey into the vulnerability of partnership.Share your questions with us at whydoesmypartner.com/contactIf you want to dive in deeper, consider registering for our online Essential Skills Relationship B...2021-05-2717 minWhy Does My PartnerGet So UpsetHow do we handle differences with our partners? Are we excited by them? Are we drawn to them? Are we repelled by them? We explore the stress we are under, dealing with loneliness and looking at one of the difficult catch 22’s of partnership. We share tools about how to not take things personally and learn to expand our understanding and compassion of each other and our differences.Share your questions with us at whydoesmypartner.com/contactIf you want to dive in deeper, consider registering for our online Essential Skills Relationship Bootcamp. Open to indiv...2021-05-2012 minWhy Does My PartnerNot Think About Everything That Needs To Get Done The Way I DoWe talk about over functioning and under functioning in this episode. This is a common dynamic in many partnerships. We tackle invisible work, emotional labor and gender roles. Yes we will weigh in on patriarchy and talk about relational health and power dynamics. Do you know how to function in your relationship in a stance of sharing equal power with your partner? This episode we share ideas about how healthy “power with” thinking is and share ideas about how to create a healthy dynamic with empowering each other in your relationship.Share your questions with us at: whyd...2021-05-1327 minWhy Does My PartnerPick A Fight When They Want To ConnectWe don’t shy away from the complexity that is human beings in this episode. Buckle in for an extended episode, we’ll dive deep into the science and into what relational skills will work. How can we take in things when they are good? What does compassion have to do with calming my feelings? Can rage really be a bid for connection? We talk about many levels of the subconscious mind and how many ways we can answer this question. We will share practices that will help you develop 2nd consciousness, how to track yourself as a practice and cr...2021-05-0648 minWhy Does My PartnerLaugh With Their Friends More Than MeIn this episode, we’ll explore humor, the stories we tell ourselves and how fast those stories lead to reactivity. Do our stories about what’s happening in our love lives help us or cost us or both? Let’s explore how to find our stories, come into relationship with them and be more vulnerable and close with each other. Plus, we’ll cover compassion and why it helps calm us down.Share your questions with us at: whydoesmypartner.com/contactIf you want to dive in deeper, consider registering for our online Essential Skills Relationsh...2021-04-2921 minWhy Does My PartnerTell Me What To DoIn this episode, we talk about Boundaries and so much more. Do we absorb too much? Or is nothing getting through? If our Boundaries are in place, we’re able to be curious and see the deeper needs under our partner’s behavior. You’ll hear us learn more about each other and model curiosity, rather than defensiveness. And we review one of our favorite skills, moving from Demand to Direct Request…because the simplest answer to this question is that it’s vulnerable to make a direct request.Share your questions with us at: whydoesmypartner.com/contact2021-04-2224 minWhy Does My PartnerNot Follow ThroughWhy do we say yes when we don’t mean it? Do we know our own answers? Can we be vulnerable and can we allow our partner to be vulnerable? This episode is chock-full of skills: not saying yes when we mean no, making direct requests, not demanding, speaking truth, using psychological boundaries and creating your own boundary images, differentiating between agenda, strategy and needs, allowing for a No. Don’t be fooled, this is not a fully serious episode, in spite of all of those skills. Join us for tons of giggles too.Share your questions with...2021-04-1528 minWhy Does My PartnerGet So DefensiveDefensiveness in relationships is normal and something all of us experience at one time or another. In this episode, we discuss the things that could be behind that defensiveness. Are you communicating with your partner in a way that is coming off judgmental or attacking? Is your partner feeling hurt or scared? We explore the common root of defensiveness, hurt and fear, and learn healthy ways to navigate our relationships through these moments of discord into greater intimacy.Share your questions with us at: whydoesmypartner.com/contactIf you want to dive in deeper, consider...2021-04-0816 minWhy Does My PartnerKeep Forgetting My Love LanguageCan we go deeper with love languages? Your hosts have 3 different views on how helpful love languages are and we discuss it with no holds barred and collaboration. Today we focus on skills that come out of this space: directness, making agreements and meta conversations. These are advanced skills for any couple.For those who don’t know what “The 5 Love Languages” are, it is a concept and book by Dr Gary Chapman. His premise is that everyone has a primary “language” and that if you speak one language and your partner speaks another, you cannot understand each other...2021-04-0114 minWhy Does My PartnerAct Like A Child SometimesNeuroscience will bring compassion to us all! Let’s learn what the brain does and what to do in response to the brain doin’ what it does. We’ll be talking about learning to watch our minds and bodies in real time. And we’ll be hitting these topics: Relational Health + Compassion + Equal Worth + Right Responsibility- boom!Share your questions with us at: whydoesmypartner.com/contactIf you want to dive in deeper, consider registering for our online Essential Skills Relationship Bootcamp. Open to individuals, couples and therapists. Learn more at WhyDoesMyPartner.comThis podcast...2021-03-2514 minWhy Does My PartnerNot Read My MindThis is one of the most common questions we get in our offices. If my partner really knew me wouldn’t they get me? This episode we consider being known, grief, checking our expectations and finding vulnerability. We’ll be trouble-shooting ways to get met and go deeper with your partner.Share your questions with us at: whydoesmypartner.com/contactIf you want to dive in deeper, consider registering for our online Essential Skills Relationship Bootcamp. Open to individuals, couples and therapists. Learn more at WhyDoesMyPartner.comThis podcast is not a substitute for the...2021-03-1814 minWhy Does My PartnerLie About Little ThingsIn this episode, we’re tackling the question “Why does my partner lie to me?” We look at both sides of the issue: "why might I be lying" and "what might I be creating that leads my partner to lie?" It is always a good idea to look at your own behaviors as well as your partner’s. We also talk about the importance of accountability. And we introduce different stages of a relationship, how to work through the times of disharmony, and why disharmony is actually beneficial and mandatory for a healthy relationship.Share your questions with us...2021-03-1114 minWhy Does My PartnerWDMP Your Questions = Relational GoldWhoo-hoo! This is our inaugural episode of the Why Does My Partner podcast and we are super excited to share it with you. We're your hosts, Jules, Rebecca, and Vickey. We are all couple therapists and we met just before (literally) the pandemic shut down while training in Mexico with our mentor, Terry Real. In this trailer episode we're sharing the story of how we met, how we've come to work together, how this podcast came to be, and what you can expect in future episodes. We're calling this podcast Why Does My Partner (or Why Doesn't...2021-03-1115 min