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We're Not FineWhy Can't We Shake off the Memory of Our First Love? A WNF Mailbag EpisodeIn this episode we address a listener's concern that he can't stop fixating on his first love, even though he is happy in his relationship and his ex is married with children. Doug and Dr Talia look at the power of first love from many angles. Are we obsessing or just nostalgic? How can we make our warm memories fuel a warmer current relationship? How can we reclaim the parts of us we have lost that were merely highlighted in those early relationships? And is there a pattern in when we feel that longing? Could it be when we...2025-03-2522 minWe're Not Fine"My Close Relationship with My Work Spouse has Created a Marriage Nightmare For Me” a WNF Mailbag EpisodeIn this episode, Doug and Talia discuss the complexities of workplace friendships, particularly those involving the opposite sex, and the impact these relationships can have on romantic partnerships. They explore themes of jealousy, trust, and communication, emphasizing the importance of transparency and emotional intimacy in relationships. The conversation also touches on the role of couples therapy in addressing insecurities and fostering healthier dynamics between partners. The hosts provide insights into navigating these challenges while maintaining fulfilling friendships and relationships.Chapters00:00 Navigating Workplace Friendships02:51 Understanding Jealousy and Trust in Relationships2025-03-1127 minWe're Not FineJust replace 2023 COVID with the 2024 Election and you will have the same Thanksgiving you had last year! Cheers!Happy Thanksgiving WNF Family! We got great feedback about this Turkey Day episode from last year, so we are airing it again. In this episode, Dr Talia and Doug respond to some very relatable Thanksgiving mail bags. Then we tackle the most common stressors of the season with humor and one or two harsh slaps of seasonal realism. We also offer some suggestions about creating your new holiday traditions. Whether the holidays are a time of great heart warming joy and anticipation for you, or dread, loneliness and obligation, we embrace you and want to share it with you...2024-11-261h 05We're Not FineWhat you don't realize about ADHD in relationships - featuring executive ADHD Coach Elle O’FlahertyDear WNF listener, if you have listened to our show, you will know that ADHD is a topic so near to our hearts we wanted to find just the right person with just the right knowledge base and approach to do this complex and relevant topic justice. In this episode, we hear from federal attorney and trade negotiator turned founder of Interlace Solutions, a coaching firm helping professionals and executives to fulfill their potential. Elle O'Flaherty coaches both individuals with ADHD and couples who would like to partner better around ADHD. If you or your loved one has ADHD...2024-08-061h 25We're Not FineWant to be less angry at your loved ones? Boundaries 101In this episode, Dr Talia and Doug talk boundaries with Dr Catherine Cleveland. Boundaries really get a bad rap. We think of them as entitled, cold, rejecting, and whiny. Well, the joke is on us. The fewer boundaries we have with our loved ones, the more those relationships are fraught with irritation, resentment and even bubbling rage. "They should already know they are asking too much", we say to ourselves. "They should intuit that I hate when they drone on about my day." "Can't they see I am overwhelmed and can't take another thing on?" And then we say "...2024-07-091h 25We're Not FineWE DID IT! Our 100th Episode Reflections and Team SecretsWNF Family, we did it! And we couldn’t have done it without you! Our 100th episode marks two years of growth, amazing connections, brilliant guests, so many great topics hi-lighting the interplay between mental health and relationships, new learnings and much wisdom imparted. Join us as we reflect on our 2 years, share BTS drama, bumps and bruises along the way, and honor our beloved team Alex, Geoff, Jon and Digg as we ask them their secrets to a healthy relationship and their greatest insights about relationships. You don’t want to miss this one!00:00 Introduction and Disc...2024-06-251h 13We're Not FineToo early for divorce? Too late for therapy? Where is the line?In this mailbag episode, Doug and Dr. Talia hear from two people completely fed up with their spouse and ready for a divorce, but we feel that their decisions might be premature! We share the ingredients necessary to determine whether or not it’s time to throw in the towel. Is there willingness on both sides to work through this issue? If so, divorce might be further down the list of solutions than you think.We're Not Finehttps://werenotfine.comShop the Pod: https://werenotfine.com/shopInstagram: @werenotfinepod ...2024-04-3059 minWe're Not FineBad Dates, Red Flags, and other Cautionary TalesYou know the saying that when you wear rose colored glasses, red flags just look like flags? Well, in this episode, Dr. Talia and Doug respond to listener voice notes about first date horror stories. These stories are full of cringe, red flags, and lewd tales of hook-ups and dates that have gone horribly wrong. Prepare yourself with a bowl of popcorn because you will be screaming NO! Run for the hills! Don’t do it! Enjoy at your own risk and not with your children or your grandma!2024-04-231h 06We're Not FineGive up the ghost. The reason they ghosted you is...In this episode, Doug and Dr Talia respond to two mailbags, both from people that explain why they have ghosted someone they cared about. And once you get inside the minds of the ghoster, you will see why they are disappearing, even if you could have sworn there was a connection and chemistry. Why oh why didn’t they just tell you the truth? It will all make sense, tune in!We're Not Finehttps://werenotfine.comShop the Pod: https://werenotfine.com/shopInstagram: @werenotfinepod 2024-04-1652 minWe're Not FineYour friend hurt you, is your friendship salvageable or do you need to move on?In this episode, Dr Talia and Doug talk to Minneapolis based, friendship-focused writer and podcaster, Nina Badzin. Your friend hurt you badly. Until now you have never needed to have a difficult conversation about your friendship, but if you don’t, the friendship won’t survive. What do you do? To determine whether your friendship is salvageable, think about these three things. How meaningful is this relationship to you, was the deep cut a sign of the person’s character or an off day, and how are they responding to you sharing your hurt? Romantic relationship betrayals are more obviou...2024-04-091h 08We're Not FineMy late wife’s sister tried sleeping with me...In this episode Dr Talia and Doug look at two very relatable issues. In the first mailbag, a young father grieves his wife while his wife’s sister, who has been the greatest supporter to him and his kids, tried to sleep with him a month after his wife’s passing. And he hates the way he reacted. And in the second mailbag, a young man says he’s incredibly uncomfortable with the way his girlfriend presents herself on social media; bikini pictures that give thirsty and single. Can we help them address these delicate issues? Of course we can!2024-04-021h 09We're Not FineMailbag episode! “I gave myself a total makeover with zero results in the dating department.”In this episode, Doug and Dr. Talia tackle two heartfelt mailbags. In the first letter, a gentleman who has had no luck with women feels he did everything he could to revamp his look; fitness, wardrobe and haircut, check… but is still having no luck in the dating department. All of his friends tell him he just hasn’t met the right person but he is losing hope fast that he is anyone’s type. In the second mailbag, a young mother is struggling with resentment and anger towards her fiancé for wanting to help his sons’ mother financially. Is she be...2024-03-261h 08We're Not FineNot the Man I Used to Be; Getting to Know Yourself Again After a Brain Aneurism with Guest Andrew DavieIn this episode, Doug and Dr Talia talk to Andrew Davie, a true Renaissance man. He is an author of crime fiction novellas, short stories and memoirs about dating, managing OCD and recovering from his brain aneurysm. He is also a fellow podcaster as the cohost of happy hour with Heather. Join us for this fascinating conversation as Andrew shares his experience of surviving a ruptured brain aneurysm and subarachnoid hemorrhage in 2018. He was trying so hard to get back to himself and the future on which he needed to press pause that it took him quite some time...2024-03-191h 15We're Not FineLoneliness is the Silent Killer and the here is the Antidote; LIVE episode with guest Anna BonavitaLoneliness is a global health crisis. In this episode Dr Talia and Doug have a moving conversation with Anna Bonavita, a former physicist with a passion for culture, cuisine, and the natural environment. While grieving her beloved husband, and in the depths of loneliness and despair, she found comfort and community at a communal table in Italy and has brought this healing opportunity to one of the loneliest cities in the US. Listen to her story.Born in a small Bulgarian village, educated in Russia, and a long-time resident of both Italy and the United States, she...2024-03-121h 06We're Not FineHook Up Horror Stories & Deviant Diaries with guest Demi WyldeIn this episode, Doug and Dr. Talia talk to author and sex educator, Demi Wilde about hook up horror stories (Talia won worst story! Woot woot!) We discuss stigma, down low online exploration of sexuality, which apps produce which kind of connections, all the kinks and fetishes, and pitfalls and dangers of modern dating! As you can imagine, the middle aged straight lady asks a lot of embarrassing questions and the two gay men humor her while also sharing a lot of awkward pauses and nervous laughter, it was the absolute best! Join us!Find Demi: 2024-03-051h 07We're Not FineWhen I’m Sorry isn't enough; 5 ways to deepen your apology after an affair with guest Dr. Deb MillerIn this episode, Dr. Talia and Doug have a lively conversation with Dr. Deb about how to deepen your apology after an affair. We explore the lack of resources available to the cheater, as most therapy, books and videos are geared towards helping the betrayed heal. Dr. Deb Miller's book More Than Sorry: 5 Steps to Deepen Your Apology After You Have Committed Infidelity helps those that have cheated to take an honest look at themselves, their relationship, own their choices and start their journey of insight and willingness to do their work. It's a must listen! Share this episode...2024-02-271h 12We're Not FineWhere did your joy and passion go? What to do when apathy overcomes youIn this episode Doug and Dr Talia tackle the scariest of all emotions; the contagious, heavy, and unmotivated wave of apathy. How to know if it’s a bad day or a bad decade, and how to infuse joy, motivation and passion back into your life. We’ve got your back!We're Not Finehttps://werenotfine.comShop the Pod: https://werenotfine.com/shopInstagram: @werenotfinepod Doug JensenProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: contact@werenotfine.comIG: douglasljensenTw...2024-02-2059 minWe're Not FineTantric Loving in the Suburbs with our guest Hannah Spanke; Somatic, Sexology, and Tantra CoachIn this episode, Dr Talia and Doug speak with the enigmatic Hannah Spanke, who shares with us her rocky road from a toxic family into stripping and sex work by the age of 16. She wanted agency over her sexuality and thought of pursuing sex work as a sexual entrepreneur but ended up in a dark scary place ready to face her truth. And here she is, a truly enlightened young woman turning her pain to purpose and not only does she share her understanding of life’s purpose and sexuality as the portal to the divine, but she also te...2024-02-131h 21We're Not FineAnger gets a bad rap; how to manage, regulate and express your anger in an adaptive wayFight, flight or freeze; what is your go to coping strategy? In this episode, Doug and Dr Talia tackle Anger vs Rage. We talk about our family of origin as the source of how we learn to regulate and express our emotions, and we teach you practical tips to express yourself without pushing people away. Don’t swallow it down, because rage turned inward becomes depression. Tune in to this week's episode to learn a different way of being in relation to your negative emotions!We're Not Finehttps://werenotfine.comShop the Po...2024-02-061h 04We're Not FineBirth, Death and Everything in Between with Sister Doulas Sarah Longacre and Wendy Longacre-BrownIn this second live recording of our We’re Not Fine, Dr Talia and Doug dive deep into the experience of letting others in to the most vulnerable moments in our lives with Birth Doula Sarah Longacre and End of Life Doula Wendy Longacre-Brown. What if we did birth and death differently? What if we invited in skilled and compassionate navigators to be by our sides in these unfamiliar lands so the unknown doesn’t paralyze us with fear? What if instead of “I’m sorry for your loss” we said “I hope they lived a kick ass life”? Wendy and Sara...2024-01-301h 29We're Not FineJealousy is not a good look for youIn this episode, Doug and Dr. Talia talk to Shanenn Bryant, host of the podcast Top Self, Jealousy and Insecurity expert and coach, and leader of the Facebook group Jealousy Junkies. We dive into how insecure attachment develops into unhealthy behavior patterns that threaten to destroy your relationships. Shanenn shares with us how to differentiate between trusting your gut versus acting out old trauma and creating the abandonment or betrayal you fear the most. Tune in to find out how to take back control over the insecurity and jealousy that might be hijacking the trust in your relationship.2024-01-231h 07We're Not FineDivision of labor; the most relatable relationship woe of our modern day.In this episode, Dr Talia and Doug take on a listener mailbag about division of labor in a household. Who does more? Why are they resentful? What exactly is invisible labor? Why does one person naturally step up while the other waits for the “honey-do” list? Inquiring minds want to know! We have so much to say, per usual, and let us give you the tips and tricks to manage your household with equality and love!https://amzn.to/48t6tdQhttps://amzn.to/3NZjgwvWe're Not Fine...2024-01-161h 05We're Not FineBecoming Kiki; The Freedom of Being Who You Are & The Power of Making Meaning of Your PainIn this episode, Kiki Joy Latham shares with us her incredible journey through physical and emotional abuse in her family of origin, betrayal after betrayal, from abandonment and heartbreak to the most profound love story. Not just with her partner, Jodi, but with herself. Kiki found herself/himself, and loves herself/himself with not just acceptance but with a deep appreciation of all of the intricacies. We talk sexuality, gender identity, and what it really takes to be at peace and love after abuse. As you can imagine, this vulnerable content might be disturbing to those of our viewers...2024-01-091h 15We're Not FineSlow Productivity is this New Year’s Revolutionary Approach to Success with guest Dr Kate HenryIn this episode Doug and Dr Talia speak with Dr Kate Henry about Slow Productivity; a holistic, sustainable and well-being oriented approach to success. Who knew that was even possible? WNF family, this approach is for you if you are burnt out, exhausted, think of yourself as unmotivated, lazy, or if you struggle with chronic health issues. This approach is also for you if you are a workaholic and subscribe to the unwritten rules of capitalism and productivity culture, and would like to learn a more mindful way to keep pursuing your goals. If you want to be successful...2024-01-021h 10We're Not FineWhy oh why do my New Year’s Resolutions Fizzle Out? Strategies for outsmarting the hidden obstaclesIn this episode, Doug and Dr Talia take on New Year’s Resolutions. Why do so many of us struggle to keep our commitments to ourselves? Why is will power not enough? We tell you all the secrets to setting yourselves up for success and teach you science backed strategies to make your resolutions stick!We're Not Finehttps://werenotfine.comShop the Pod: https://werenotfine.com/shopInstagram: @werenotfinepod Doug JensenProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: contact@we...2023-12-261h 16We're Not FineWhat is happiness and where can you find some?In this episode, Doug and Dr Talia Jackson discuss the concept of happiness; the hedonic treadmill, dopamine chasing, whether it is an absence of pain or existence of fulfillment, and we answer the question you have asked yourself “Can money buy happiness?”We're Not Finehttps://werenotfine.comShop the Pod: https://werenotfine.com/shopInstagram: @werenotfinepod Doug JensenProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: contact@werenotfine.comIG: douglasljensenTwitter: dougjensen4Cs2023-12-191h 03We're Not FineNarcissism and the Enneagram With guest Dr Sterlin MosleyIn this bonus episode, Dr Talia Jackson and Dr Sterlin Mosley talk about narcissism as it relates to the enneagram.We're Not Finehttps://werenotfine.comShop the Pod: https://werenotfine.com/shopInstagram: @werenotfinepod Doug JensenProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: contact@werenotfine.comIG: douglasljensenTwitter: dougjensen4CsDr. Talia JacksonProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: contact@werenotfine.com2023-12-1445 minWe're Not FineTwo Parts! Dr Talia on Boosting Emotional Intelligence & Doug's Complicated Familial GriefIn Part One of our Two Part Guest Spot episode, Dr Talia shares her Summit from the Unlock Your Child’s Full Potential podcast with Billy Ivanova, and breaks down how to foster an emotionally intelligent home. Dr Talia also gives practical tips about boosting your own emotional intelligence and that of your children.In Part Two of this episode, Doug shares his amazing conversation with Kelly Grosklags on her podcast, See My Grief. Doug opens up about his experience of complicated grief when his mother passed. We hope you find both of these episodes to be in...2023-12-121h 21We're Not FineDeep Dive into Narcissism With guest Dr Sterlin Mosley- Bread Crumbing, Love Bombing and GaslightingIn this episode, Dr Talia and Doug can’t get enough of Professor and Narcissism researcher and author, Dr Sterlin Mosley. Be enlightened, shocked and validate. You will not believe all of the nooks and crannies of the narcissistic experience, nature vs nurture, and that’s not all… learn to spot signature narcissist moves you might not have recognized until now.https://amzn.to/47I90AmWe're Not Finehttps://werenotfine.comShop the Pod: https://werenotfine.com/shopInstagram: @werenotfinepod 2023-12-0556 minWe're Not FineManaging Holiday Stress even if your family is perfect, you have lots of money, and live in sunshineIn this episode, Doug and Dr Talia tackle the most common stressors of the season with humor and one or two harsh slaps of seasonal realism. We offer some suggestions about creating your new holiday traditions. HAPPY HOLIDAYS, WNF Family!We're Not Finehttps://werenotfine.comShop the Pod: https://werenotfine.com/shopInstagram: @werenotfinepod Doug JensenProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: contact@werenotfine.comIG: douglasljensenTwitter: dougjensen4Cs2023-11-2841 minWe're Not FineA Turkey Day PSA; To Accept That You Are a Disappointment is the first step towards Thanksgiving JoyIn this episode, Dr Talia and Doug respond to some Thanksgiving mail bags. Whether the holidays are a time of great heart warming joy and anticipation for you , or dread, loneliness and obligation, we embrace you and want to share it with you. Gobble Gobble, WNF Family!We're Not Finehttps://werenotfine.comShop the Pod: https://werenotfine.com/shopInstagram: @werenotfinepod Doug JensenProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: contact@werenotfine.comIG: douglasljensenTwitter: dougjensen4Cs2023-11-2147 minWe're Not FineTruth Empowered Relationships with guests Heather and MarshallIn this episode Dr Talia and Doug have a conversation with Heather and Marshall, a couple that met in an unexpected online connection and show us how they are working on their individual traumas together in real time. Discussion of abuse from about the 10 to 20 minute mark for those that want to skip. They touch on imposter syndrome, parenting, intimacy, and how they show up with honesty and benevolence in their interactions. Listen to a couple doing their work!https://linktr.ee/marshallzweig?fbclid=PAAaYVP2AFueGeNkiC6ihLB_6d0Jhbu-KtVps2avLDC3i-7ZFdZVkyYk3G-Fg_aem_AfktUiBeu5usptN1ODz1...2023-11-141h 03We're Not FineWhose fault is this break up? It’s yours.In this episode, Doug and Dr Talia ask the controversial question “Does it always take two to tango” in every relationship, every problem, every fight, every break up? And the answer is a resounding YES… but with one big caveat. Tune in to hear our mail bag episode and if you are watching on YouTube, check out our new lighting. We are feeling ourselves!Want to start having juicy conversations with your partner? Take the Enneagram Personality Test together. https://www.truity.com/af/dr.taliajackson_4698679We're Not Finehttps://werenotfine.com2023-11-0749 minWe're Not FineChallenging the stigma of mental health in the skilled trades with Lia Lamella on The Sparky LifeIn this episode, we speak with Lia Lamella, previous guest (see our 07/25/23 episode), talented electrician and thought leader, who is single handedly changing the culture in and around the skilled trades. In this collaborative episode we elevate the conversation around the stigma of mental health, the narratives around the stereotypes both genders have to battle in the industry, as well as creating empowered narratives in any field that impact our identities, sense of pride, self esteem and relationships.2023-10-311h 24We're Not FinePsychic Secrets: Navigating the Universe and Occasional Plant Slaying with guest Kaya JIn this episode, Dr Talia and Doug have another mind blowing conversation with their favorite psychic and medium, Kaya Jelani. She answers more of their thousands of questions; what actually is our purpose on this planet, what is deja vous, how do you manifest your next great thing, what do full body chills mean, do your pets find you in the afterlife, and learn a shocking truth about how the universe tells you to keep going or pivot.http://www.livinglifeluminously.com/my-story.htmlhttps://instagram.com/livingluminously_official?igshid=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==2023-10-241h 16We're Not FineHow to Cope and Comfort when the World is Too MuchIn today’s episode, Doug and Dr. Talia acknowledge the traumatic stress impacting all of us after the terrorist attack on Israel and the cascade of horror that has unfolded since. Global crises cause peripheral traumatic stress to those directly affected, of course, as well as those at every level of caring. We talk about the symptoms of traumatic stress, we give you strategies to care for yourself and comfort others, (diagram of of the concentric circles of caring below).Tune in for community love, support, and psycho-education. And remember, We’re Not Fine, but we are bett...2023-10-171h 04We're Not FineLoneliness, gaming and porn; Dr. Agam Dhawan shines a light on the men's mental health epidemicWhen does joyful and adaptive fun turn into an addiction? Psychiatrist Dr. Agam Dhawan talks to us about men's mental health and the epidemic of loneliness, gaming and porn addiction. When we lean in to our vices too hard, we might be the last to know. Spot the signs and learn how to regulate ourselves without depending too much on will-power so we ensure our relationships with our vices stay healthy.Www.agamdhawanmd.comInstagram: @agamdhawanmdYouTube: Agam DhawanTikTok: agamdhawanmdWe're Not Finehttps://werenotfine.com2023-10-1051 minWe're Not FineHaunting beauty comes from grief; artist Nick Harper shares his experience as a creativeNick shares how his experience of grief and feeling like an outsider has in fact been a gift of heightened observation, a unique perspective, and an unmistakable style of magical realism. We talk introversion, creativity, relationships, finding inner peace. Prepare to be blown away. “We find a part of ourselves we didn't know existed, a soul mate. Souls touching Souls, that is the power of art."@nicholasharperfineart@roguebuddha_official2023-10-031h 08We're Not FineLet’s Talk about Sex & Intimacy; Conversations with Dr. AprilIn this episode, Doug and Dr Talia talk to Dr April Brown about intimacy; why it is crucial and how to improve it in all areas of our lives to enrich our experience, and not just in the bedroom!https://www.draprilbrown.com/?fbclid=PAAaZBePrNHrQBSLs5Gw--M-WHNEUUx8WgUysVtJIRzCHuFzWo3t4vaV5X4VE_aem_AQrBKLtQiAomm-IWDtsD4lgpH8epAYX7tzBDE3HayWvYD0vu6tXhlOSG7kziAvBRLSYWe're Not Finehttps://werenotfine.comShop the Pod: https://werenotfine.com/shopInstagram: @werenotfinepod Doug Jensen2023-09-2657 minWe're Not FineHow to Break Toxic Transgenerational Patterns with Susan GoldIn this episode, Doug and Dr Talia talk to Susan Gold, endurance athlete, A-List Talent Agent, and Author of Toxic Family: Transforming Childhood Trauma into Adult Freedom. As Susan shares her journey through childhood abuse, navigating a marriage and divorce from a narcissist, as well as deep diving into her own healing work and leaning in to a brutally honest life, we offer a trigger warning. Listener discretion is advised. Her wisdom will astound you and her narrative will inspire.https://www.susangold.ushttps://amzn.to/46cqa8cWe're...2023-09-1952 minWe're Not FineMoney Memories and Financial Infidelity; Have the Tough Conversations with Jennifer Rogers MarkwellWhy is talking about money so terrifying to most people? Emmy nominated TV journalist and President of Platinum Wealth Management, Jennifer Rogers Markwell, teaches us about the connection between our money memories and our unresolved issues around money as adults. She walks us through a mindset shift around facing our own finances and how to have these once fraught conversations with our partners with honesty and compassion. Jennifer replaces all of the shame and avoidance around our money mindset and replaces it with curiosity and reconnecting with your individual and couples’ money goals.Show Notes: https://werenotfine.co...2023-09-121h 05We're Not FineOpposites Attract, but Only Some Last and We Tell You WhyIn this episode, Dr. Talia and Doug look at all angles of the theory that opposites attract but don't last. Some qualities need to be aligned, or at least complimentary, for a couple to thrive and not wear on each other’s last nerve. And they might not be what you think!We're Not Finehttps://werenotfine.comShop the Pod: https://werenotfine.com/shopInstagram: @werenotfinepod Doug JensenProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: contact@werenotfine.comIG: douglasljensen...2023-09-051h 01We're Not FineThe Spark Is Gone; Practical Tips for Reigniting and Spicing up Any RelationshipIn this episode, Doug and Dr. Talia take on a mail-bag from a young man who has found that the change to domestic life and adulting together has sucked all of the sexiness and spark from their three year relationship. We share the tricks of the trade to reigniting interest in each other, spicing up your conversations, turning up the spark in the bedroom and reconnecting to your initial reasons for falling in love.We're Not Finehttps://werenotfine.comShop the Pod: https://werenotfine.com/shopInstagram: @werenotfinepod 2023-08-2951 minWe're Not FineMy Story May Begin in a Cult, but I Decide How the Narrative Continues, With Guest Shana Francesca Ethical leadership coach and public speaker, Shana Francesca, shares her powerful story of growing up in an alt right Evangelical Christian cult, in an abusive family and an abusive community. She opens up about using her inner resources of curiosity and creativity to take ownership of her life and create an empowered narrative. Be amazed and inspired with us as Shana tells us about her lived experience, her discovery of her own neurodivergence, and how she has created a very unique path for herself. Trigger warning: honor your own trauma and tender spots by skipping as much of this...2023-08-221h 09We're Not FineYour friend wonders why they are still single. Do you tell them?Show notes: https://werenotfine.com/episode-54/In this week’s episode, Dr. Talia and Doug cut to the chase with a handful of mailbags from friends who know exactly why their friends are still single but don’t know how to break it to them. We can all learn from these cautionary tales and course correct before our best friend tells us their opinion of our toxic traits. There is nothing better than the type of self-awareness that comes from other peoples’ lack thereof! Enjoy!We're Not Finehttps://werenotfine.com2023-08-151h 01We're Not FineHaving Trouble Bouncing Back? Boost Your Resilience with Holistic Psychiatrist Dr. Henry EmmonsView the show notes here: https://werenotfine.com/episode-53/In this episode, Dr. Talia and Doug talk to Dr. Henry Emmons, a Holistic Psychiatrist blending soul with science, about how to boost your resilience, become more disappointment proof and learn to sit with your internal chaos long enough to make a more mindful next step.We're Not Finehttps://werenotfine.comShop the Pod: https://werenotfine.com/shopInstagram: @werenotfinepod Doug JensenProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/...2023-08-081h 03We're Not FineYou Hate Your Friend’s Partner; To Tell or Not to Tell?You hate your friend’s partner or even worse, your friends hate your partner! In this episode, Doug and Dr. Talia help a few listeners navigate this treacherous situation as the hater, the hated, or as the one in the middle. Tune in to weigh all of your options, ask yourself some challenging questions, and show up in ways that feel good to you regardless of the role you might be playing in this dilemma.We're Not Finehttps://werenotfine.comShop the Pod: https://werenotfine.com/shopInstagram: @we...2023-08-0157 minWe're Not FineNever Give Up Your Light, With Lia Lamela; Hear Her Powerful Story of Escaping Domestic ViolenceIn this episode, Dr. Talia and Doug talk to Lia Lamela, a spunky and incredibly resilient woman who shares with them her harrowing story of falling in love and having the illusion of a loving marriage chipped away day by day until it became a matter of life and death. Hear how she turned her fear into urgent action even when there seemed to be no way out. We’re Not Fine Family, we want you to be aware of the intensity of this episode and give you a trigger warning. If domestic violence is a trauma that hits to...2023-07-251h 21We're Not FineAnniversary disappointments; are your expectations too high or was the effort too low?In this episode Doug and Dr. Talia hear from two different people who have had opposite but equally miserable anniversaries. One is hurt by his girlfriend’s lack of effort, and the other is devastated that her boyfriend is disappointed in her gift. Who needs to step up? This episode tackles how to deal with disappointment, how to level set your expectations and clearly communicate them, and how to be a more thoughtful gift giver.Connect with us:We're Not Finehttps://werenotfine.comShop th...2023-07-181h 03We're Not FineHow to Read Their Body Language and Improve Your OwnIn this episode, Doug and Talia crack each other up while taking a look at body language on dates. Are they into you? Are you accurately portraying your internal experience? Tune in to better read your date, and improve your open and friendly vibe!Connect with us:We're Not Finehttps://werenotfine.comShop the Pod: https://werenotfine.com/shopInstagram: @werenotfinepod Doug JensenProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: contact...2023-07-1157 minWe're Not FineNavigate jealousy, agreements and relationship resources; ENM Part 2 with expert Angela Callais.In this episode Doug, Dr. Talia and special guest Angela Callais dig in deeper to the nooks and crannies of how to manage complicated relationships, open or closed; jealousy, sharing emotional resources, and creating agreements that work.Connect with us:We're Not Finehttps://werenotfine.comShop the Pod: https://werenotfine.com/shopInstagram: @werenotfinepod Doug JensenProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: contact@werenotfine.com...2023-07-0458 minWe're Not FineHow to Have Open Conversations with Your Closed Off Teen with Dr. Talia Jackson and host of Your Child’s Full Potential, Billy IvanovaBilly Ivanova, host of the Unlock Your Child's Full Potential podcast, joins Dr. Talia to discuss how to have a healthy, loving, and lasting relationship with your teens. Hear these two certified "cool moms" discuss how you can both influence and guide your children, how to be the kind of mom that their friends seek advice from, and how to approach conversations around intimate relationships and more of the juicy stuff. Subscribe to Billy's podcast on your favorite platform for more insightful lessons on preparing children for real life. She also has a free resource available for do...2023-06-2945 minWe're Not FineEthical Non-Monogamy; we know you are curious!In this episode, Doug and Dr. Talia ask all of the questions burning holes in your brain about ethical non-monogamy; how to begin, tips and tricks for healthy boundaries and communication, and checking your jealousy. Join us behind the scenes of a whole new world of relationships with Angela Callais, a therapist and coach, as she shares her personal and professional expertise with us. Regardless of the type of relationship you are in or interested in having, this episode will bring you so much value as we examine our own fear, insecurity, jealousy, need for rules and control together.2023-06-271h 18We're Not FineLet’s F*#%ing Date with Matchmaker Melissa RogersHave you ever wondered about matchmaking services? Do you have app fatigue? Unrealistic expectations? Old trauma or low self-esteem getting in the way of your “yes mindset” in dating? Tune in to our conversation with Melissa Rogers, a professional Matchmaker, as she walks us through different ways to change your outlook to enhance your dating experience whether or not you choose to outsource this important part of your journey. 2023-06-2051 minWe're Not FineDating Pet Peeves; it’s not me, it’s youIn this episode, Doug and Talia reach into the mailbag to take a look at dating behaviors that some find a red flag at best or, at worst, a deal breaker from which there is no turning back. Let’s take a look in the mirror and self asses, how stellar is your datability?2023-06-1357 minWe're Not FineWhy Can Letting Go Feel Like Letting Yourself Down?This episode tackles a delicate and complicated story close to Doug’s heart. A story of a woman diagnosed with an aggressive form of cancer whose family all but abandoned her in her time of need. How should she proceed?Connect with us:We're Not Finehttps://werenotfine.comShop the Pod: https://werenotfine.com/shopInstagram: @werenotfinepod Doug JensenProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: contact@werenotfine.comIG...2023-06-0653 minWe're Not FineSecond Chances After Addiction Featuring Erik MortimerToday we talk to Erik Mortimer about his long and painful journey through divorce, addiction, and how he found himself again on the other side. We address substance use, relationships, self-awareness, parenting regrets and successes, and highlight the gift of second chances!Connect with us:We're Not Finehttps://werenotfine.comShop the Pod: https://werenotfine.com/shopInstagram: @werenotfinepod Doug JensenProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: contact@werenotfine.com2023-05-301h 05We're Not FineI Want Action Tonight, Olfactory Satisfaction All RightConnect with us:We're Not Finehttps://werenotfine.comShop the Pod: https://werenotfine.com/shopInstagram: @werenotfinepod Doug JensenProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: contact@werenotfine.comIG: douglasljensenTwitter: dougjensen4CsDr. Talia JacksonProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: contact@werenotfine.comIG: @drtaliajacksonTwitter: @Talia.Jackson772023-05-2354 minWe're Not FineIt's Manic Season with Gracie CanaanConnect with us:We're Not Finehttps://werenotfine.comShop the Pod: https://werenotfine.com/shopInstagram: @werenotfinepod Doug JensenProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: contact@werenotfine.comIG: douglasljensenTwitter: dougjensen4CsDr. Talia JacksonProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: contact@werenotfine.comIG: @drtaliajacksonTwitter: @Talia.Jackson772023-05-1657 minWe're Not FineAsk me about the Enneagram! What is your deepest fear? Your core motivation ? Part 2https://www.truity.com/af/dr.taliajackson_4698679Connect with us:We're Not Finehttps://werenotfine.comShop the Pod: https://werenotfine.com/shopInstagram: @werenotfinepod Doug JensenProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: contact@werenotfine.comIG: douglasljensenTwitter: dougjensen4CsDr. Talia JacksonProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: contact@werenotfine.comIG: @drtaliajackson2023-05-091h 02We're Not FineThe Enneagram; Your Core Wiring Revealed! Learn how to be the healthiest version of your typehttps://www.truity.com/af/dr.taliajackson_4698679Connect with us:We're Not Finehttps://werenotfine.comShop the Pod: https://werenotfine.com/shopInstagram: @werenotfinepod Doug JensenProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: contact@werenotfine.comIG: douglasljensenTwitter: dougjensen4CsDr. Talia JacksonProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: contact@werenotfine.comIG: @drtaliajacksonTwitter: @Talia.Jackson772023-05-0246 minWe're Not FineLarger than Life; Welcome to Histrionic Personality DisorderIn this video, we explore part 4 of our series on Cluster B personality disorders. Whether you're dealing with this yourself, know someone who is going through it, or simply want to learn more, this video provides insight.Make sure to Like, Subscribe, and click the notification bell to be notified every Tuesday when a new video comes out.Connect with us:We're Not Finehttps://werenotfine.comShop the Pod: https://werenotfine.com/shopInstagram: @werenotfinepod Doug Jensen2023-04-2550 minWe're Not FineThe making of a sociopath; welcome to antisocial personality disorderIn this podcast, we explore part 3 of our series on Cluster B personality disorders. Whether you're dealing with this yourself, know someone who is going through it, or simply want to learn more, this podcast provides insight.Connect with us:We're Not Finehttps://werenotfine.comShop the Pod: https://werenotfine.com/shopInstagram: @werenotfinepod Doug JensenProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: business@werenotfine.comIG: douglasljensenTwitter: dougjensen4Cs2023-04-1851 minWe're Not FineI hate you, don't leave me; Borderline Personality Disorder ExplainedIn this podcast, we explore part 2 of our series on Cluster B personality disorders. Whether you're dealing with this yourself, know someone who is going through it, or simply want to learn more, this episode provides insight. Connect with us:We're Not Finehttps://werenotfine.comShop the Pod: https://werenotfine.com/shopInstagram: @werenotfinepod Email us at business@werenotfine.comDoug JensenIG: douglasljensenTwitter: dougjensen4CsDr. Talia Jackson...2023-04-1147 minWe're Not FineI bet you think this song is about you; Welcome to Narcissistic Personality DisorderThrough Doug and Talia's insightful conversation, they explore the traits and behaviors associated with NPD, how it impacts individuals and their relationships, and the challenges of finding a way forward.Whether you're a mental health professional or someone looking to better understand this challenging disorder, this podcast will provide valuable insights and actionable steps for navigating the complex landscape of narcissistic personality disorder.Don't forget to subscribe to our channel and hit the notification bell to stay updated on our latest episodes!2023-04-0432 minWe're Not FineBreak Ups, Picking up the pieces and finding your silver liningDoug and Talia tell you what REALLY just happened in the we’re not fine journey, and explore how to feel all the feels but not get stuck in them, pick up the pieces with your self-esteem intact, and move forward into greener pastures.2023-03-2840 minWe're Not FineTo Tell or Not To Tell? Secrets, Lies and Affair Resolution-We're Not Fine MailbagDan cheated on his girlfriend with his best friend's sister and feels deep regret. We always talk to the cheated upon, and now we get a chance to talk to the cheater. He teaches us how to be a stand up person after a regrettable decision. And meet a guy angry at his wife for an affair she had in his dream....premonition or delusion?2023-03-2140 minWe're Not FineManaging Mean Girls in the Office & Your Relationship to Work - We're Not Fine MailbagHow do you manage mean girls in the office and what is the most professional way to switch jobs? What do you owe your employer? We're Not Finehttps://werenotfine.comInstagram: @werenotfinepod Doug JensenProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: business@werenotfine.comIG: douglasljensenTwitter: dougjensen4CsDr. Talia JacksonProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: business@werenotfine.comIG: @drtaliajacksonTwitter: @Talia.Jackson772023-03-1440 minWe're Not FineIs it OK to Hold a Grudge or How Can I Forgive and Forget? - We're Not Fine MailbagHow can you avoid carrying anger or rage and forgive but not forget? Is it ok to hold a grudge or is it possible to move past a grudge when you can not get an apology or closure?Questions or comments on the podcast? Email questions@werenotfine.comWe're Not Finehttps://werenotfine.comShop the Pod: https://werenotfine.com/shopInstagram: @werenotfinepod Doug JensenProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: business@werenotfine.comIG: douglasljensenTwitter: dougjensen4Cs2023-03-0738 minWe're Not FineThe Alphabet Mafia & When Dating is a Family Affair, the BIGGEST Debate Ever - We're Not Fine MailbagThe mailbag is back! We're responding to someone who is taking a break from a boyfriend that doesn't recognize her sexuality and have the BIGGEST debate ever on whether you can date both the mother AND her daughter and still make a relationship work. Questions or comments on the podcast? Email questions@werenotfine.comWe're Not Finehttps://werenotfine.comShop the Pod: https://werenotfine.com/shopInstagram: @werenotfinepod Doug JensenProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: business@werenotfine.comIG...2023-02-2855 minWe're Not FineWhat's App With That? Dating Apps and CoachingToday we review some new up-and-coming apps as well as dating app updates (Candid, Hinge, Tinder, Ditto, IRLY, Fluid) and debate the benefits and pitfalls of dating surrogacy and coaching.Questions or comments on the podcast? Email questions@werenotfine.comWe're Not Finehttps://werenotfine.comShop the Pod: https://werenotfine.com/shopInstagram: @werenotfinepod Doug JensenProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: business@werenotfine.comIG: douglasljensenTwitter: dougjensen4CsDr. Talia JacksonProfile...2023-02-2148 minWe're Not FineValentine's Day - When Is Love For The Ex Wrong & The Valentine's Breakup - We're Not Fine MailbagIs it wrong to still love the Ex and be there for them in their time of need? Or does a new relationship take priority? We're also responding to a Valentine's breakup. When is it time to throw in the towel and walk away? It's another mailbag episode exploring your questions!Questions or comments on the podcast? Email questions@werenotfine.comWe're Not Finehttps://werenotfine.comShop the Pod: https://werenotfine.com/shopInstagram: @werenotfinepod Doug JensenProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/...2023-02-1441 minWe're Not FineWhen Relationships Are Over & It's Time to Pivot (Office Romance) - We're Not Fine Mailbag"I love you more than anything, but I'm thinking about my co-worker at least once an hour." When are relationships over? When is it time to Pivot? This mailbag is a heartbreaker examining the end of a relationship and the next steps beyond.Questions or comments on the podcast? Email questions@werenotfine.comWe're Not Finehttps://werenotfine.comShop the Pod: https://werenotfine.com/shopInstagram: @werenotfinepod Doug JensenProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: business@werenotfine.comIG: douglasljensen2023-02-0733 minWe're Not FineCareer Advice for Strippers on Tinder & Cheating by Sexting - We're Not Fine MailbagAre we cancelled yet? We tackle the important dating questions about stripping careers, determining if sexting is cheating and how horny are women in general? Questions or comments on the podcast? Email questions@werenotfine.comWe're Not Finehttps://werenotfine.comShop the Pod: https://werenotfine.com/shopInstagram: @werenotfinepod Doug JensenProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: business@werenotfine.comIG: douglasljensenTwitter: dougjensen4CsDr. Talia JacksonProfile: https://werenotfine...2023-01-3139 minWe're Not FinePut Yourself Out There But Don't Play Games - We're Not Fine MailbagDo you find "The One" by being intentional? Or does it happen when you least expect it? Should you qualify dates with tests? How do you screen people out? It's another mailbag episode exploring your questions!Questions or comments on the podcast? Email questions@werenotfine.comWe're Not Finehttps://werenotfine.comShop the Pod: https://werenotfine.com/shopInstagram: @werenotfinepod Doug JensenProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: business@werenotfine.comIG: douglasljensenTwitter: dougjensen4...2023-01-2450 minWe're Not FineThe Partner Material Girl Seeking Boyfriend Material - We're Not Fine MailbagDoes having sex too soon ruin the dating experience? What's the difference between boyfriend material and partner material? This week's mailbag covers someone who is concerned the vibes aren't right for continuing the relationship. Did sex too early ruin it?Questions or comments on the podcast? Email questions@werenotfine.comWe're Not Finehttps://werenotfine.comShop the Pod: https://werenotfine.com/shopInstagram: @werenotfinepod Doug...2023-01-1732 minWe're Not FineWe're Not Fine Dating Series - Dating Sunday - What's App With That?Dating Apps. What's App With That? This is the first in our dating series examining the best way to use apps and uncovering why you may not be getting liked or swiped. Join us for a discussion on the best way to approach dating apps!Questions or comments on the podcast? Email questions@werenotfine.comWe're Not Finehttps://werenotfine.comShop the Pod: https://werenotfine.com/shopInstagram: @werenotfinepod Doug JensenProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: business@werenotfine...2023-01-1051 minWe're Not FineHappy New Year! Time for a New Year & New You - Developing Goals that Stick (Guest Lesley Pereira)Should auld acquaintance be forgot and never brought to mind? Or, is it time for a new beginning. Guest Lesley Pereira joins us to discuss healthy habits and goals for a reset in 2023.Questions or comments on the podcast? Email questions@werenotfine.comWe're Not Finehttps://werenotfine.comShop the Pod: https://werenotfine.com/shopInstagram: @werenotfinepod Doug JensenProfile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/Email: business@werenotfine.comIG: douglasljensenTwitter: dougjensen4...2023-01-0346 minWe're Not FineA-sexual problem in a Christian world - We're Not Fine MailbagCan a lasting relationship happen in an asexual relationship? Find out with our new Mailbag episode featuring a question about a young man who needs sex and an asexual partner who is managing trauma. 2022-12-2733 minWe're Not FineIs it OK to NOT be Ready for Marriage? - We're Not Fine MailbagWe're back unpacking the need for marriage between co-workers with one desperate to get married and the other wanting to wait and take some time.2022-12-2030 minWe're Not FineTell Me What You Want, What You Really, Really Want...and NeedThe gang is back discussing the 4 C's of relationships and communication wants vs. needs. 2022-12-1339 minWe're Not FineWho is the Bigger Dick? - We're Not Fine MailbagThe gang is back tackling grief of an abusive parent and how to nicely tell your boyfriend he has a small penis when he's being a dick. Oof. 2022-12-0632 minWe're Not FineYour Child is Cordially Not Invited - We're Not Fine MailbagThe gang is back tackling the sticky issue of disallowing kid at an engagement party and how to nicely tell friends their child is out of control. 2022-11-2923 minWe're Not FineBlindsided by Love & On The Prowl - We're Not Fine MailbagToday the crew examines an abrupt end to a relationship. Is it possible to save it? Can you convince someone to change their mind? 2022-11-2238 minWe're Not FineWe're Triggered & Talking Turkey About Cancelling ThanksgivingTis the season for holiday gatherings, emotional manipulation and family! The crew talks turkey about how to manage difficult conversations, encounters and family obligations during the stressful holiday season. 2022-11-1533 minWe're Not FineWhy Does Dating Suck? - We're Not Fine MailbagWhy does dating suck? The team explores the dynamics with ghosting, being vulnerable and recognizing what you need in a relationship.2022-11-0847 minWe're Not FineDo You Hear Dead People?For our Halloween episode, Doug and Talia welcome Kaya, a psychic to explain what happens on the other side!Website: www.LivingLifeLuminously.comIG: @LivingLifeLuminouFacebook: www.facebook.com/ThisLuminousLady2022-11-0152 minWe're Not FineBeing Ghosted & Other Tales of Halloween - We're Not Fine MailbagDoug and Talia tackle questions about invitations, the changing dynamics of friend groups and trust with adults and teenagers in this special Halloween episode!2022-10-2545 minWe're Not FineDon't Be Late to Your Funeral...Or Your Wedding - We're Not Fine MailbagDoug and Talia tackle questions about etiquette for attending funerals and how to manage anxiety for attending weddings.2022-10-1829 minWe're Not FineWorld Mental Health Day, Origin Stories and How to Recognize IssuesIn celebration of World Mental Health Day on October 10, Talia and Doug share their mental health origin stories and how important it is to recognize when others may need help as well as checking in on those we love. https://www.who.int/campaigns/world-mental-health-day2022-10-1158 minWe're Not FineRed Flags, Ghosts and Disagreements - We're Not Fine MailbagDoug and Talia answer mailbag questions with red flags galore.2022-10-0452 minWe're Not FineMy Wife Gained Weight & Three's a Crowd - We're Not Fine MailbagDoug and Talia dive into more of your mailbag questions!2022-09-2738 minWe're Not FineGood Grief! How We Grieve For Those We Love And Hate - Guest Kelly GrosklagsToday Kelly Grosklags joins podcast! Today, Kelly joins the podcast to discuss how to handle the many facets of grief in our lives and how we all define and live through grief differently. 2022-09-2045 minWe're Not FineSpeak Softly and Carry a Big Stick: Our Relationship with Politics - Guest Brian SimsToday Brian Sims joins the podcast! He has been a democratic member of the Pennsylvania House since 2012. He's also an attorney, an advocate for LGBT civil rights and the first openly-gay elected state legislator in Pennsylvania. Brian discusses his relationships with colleagues, his community and his family. 2022-09-1344 minWe're Not FineHow Do I Know When It's Over? - We're Not Fine MailbagCan long distance relationships work? How do we know when it's over? Doug and Talia dive into more of your mailbag questions!2022-09-0624 minWe're Not FineBack to School Time! - We're Not Fine MailbagIt's back to school time! 3 couples present questions to Doug and Talia about school and their relationship. Do men even have a say in having kids? Is a degree needed for a career? Is hockey important in the Winter? Tune in to find out!2022-08-3040 minWe're Not FineAn Indecent Proposal - We're Not Fine MailbagWhen Neil finds out he's about to die, he reaches out to the love of his life to finally declare his feelings and request a night with her before he passes. The only catch is that she's married -and she's considering it! Her husband, Chuck, provides an overview and wants to know how to approach this situation. Doug and Talia dive right into yet another impossible conversation!2022-08-2329 minWe're Not FineHaving Difficult Conversations: Abortion, Religion, Politics, Race and moreDoug and Talia tackle the big scary topics of the day: abortion, race, religion, politics and more. How do we cope with those who disagree with us on these topics? How should you approach difficult conversations with loved ones or those that hold strong opposing opinions? Is there even an answer? 2022-08-1637 minWe're Not FineWe're NOT Fine!Renowned relationship therapists, Doug Jensen and Dr. Talia Jackson explore the ins and outs of relationships in the new podcast, We’re Not Fine. Exploring relationship boundaries beyond dating, the podcast will also examine relationships with our community, friends, family, marriage and even within oneself. No topic is off limits and our audience is encouraged to submit their own questions to challenge the team and their guests. Join us weekly every Tuesday!https://werenotfine.comHost: Doug JensenHost: Dr. Talia JacksonCo-Host & Producer: Greg Gerik2022-08-0902 minWe're Not FineIt's Getting Hot: Cooking with ChemistryDoug and Talia break open the conversation on chemistry from new relationship energy, polyamory, penguins with beaks, bees, tight abs and more. What is chemistry and how important is it? Does it make you compatible?https://werenotfine.comHost: Doug JensenHost: Dr. Talia JacksonCo-Host & Producer: Greg Gerik2022-08-0927 min