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Own Your PleasureBuilding Community Part IIn this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', host Whitni Miller connects with Christabel Mintah-Galloway. Christabel is a writer, nurse and a relational skills teacher. In this episode Christabel shares her journey of navigating relational skills, community building, and the importance of being in touch with one's body. She discusses the impact of trauma on intuition and the significance of authenticity in relationships. The dialogue emphasizes the need for interdependence and reciprocity within communities, as well as the importance of self-discovery and patience in personal growth. Christabel encourages listeners to embrace their pleasure and connect with their bodies as a...
2026-03-0126 min
Own Your PleasureSapphic Love Empowered by BDE Moves Part IIShow Notes:In this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', host Whitni Miller engages with Vicki and Nicole, a couple who recently married after completing Whitni's signature BDE coaching program. They discuss their journey of discovering intimacy, communication, and the tools that helped them navigate their relationship. The conversation highlights the importance of prioritizing oneself, the evolution of their understanding of intimacy, and the joy of making significant life decisions together. The couple shares their experiences with emotional tools that have enhanced their connection and how they are preparing for a new chapter in their lives.
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2026-02-1531 min
Simply Sapphic19. Hands, Toys, Knees, and Toes: Get Confident in the Bedroom featuring Whitni MillerFeeling unsure in the bedroom? This episode of Simply Sapphic continues our sex education series with practical, confidence-boosting guidance for queer folks. We’re joined by Whitni Miller, queer couples intimacy coach and founder of BDE Moves, who breaks down everything you need to know about oral sex, hands, toys, and strap-on play. Whether you’re exploring your first queer experience, coming out later in life, or just looking to enhance your intimacy, this episode gives you actionable tips and insights.Whitni shares how to communicate about desires, navigate foreplay, and explore sexual roles, while debunking myths arou...
2026-02-041h 24
Own Your PleasureSapphic Love Empowered by BDE Moves Part IShow Notes:In this heartfelt episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', Whitni Miller and her guests Vicky and Nicole explore the journey of intimacy and connection in relationships, particularly within the queer community. They discuss the challenges faced in their relationship, the importance of seeking help through therapy and coaching, and the significance of communication and understanding intimacy. They share their experiences of navigating pressures around intimacy, the turning points in their relationship, and the ongoing practices that help them maintain a strong connection. The conversation emphasizes the importance of self-care and personal growth in fostering healthy relationships. Vicky...
2026-02-0124 min
Own Your PleasureNavigating Hormonal Changes & Health Part IIShow Notes:In this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', Whitni Miller and her guest, Dr. Michelle Gordon, discuss the complexities of hormonal changes in women, particularly during perimenopause and menopause. Dr. Gordon emphasizes the importance of understanding how weight impacts hormonal health and the misconceptions surrounding weight loss. The discussion also covers sexual health, the role of various hormones, and the significance of finding a supportive healthcare provider who listens to women's concerns.
Dr. Michelle Gordon is Board Certified in Obesity Medicine, Lifestyle Medicine, and General Surgery and is a Telehealth Innovator. After building and running...
2026-01-1524 min
Own Your PleasureNavigating Pleasure & Politics Part IIIn this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', Whitni Miller and Dr. Lex Brown James continue their conversation and explore the intricate dynamics of relationships, trauma, and pleasure. They discuss the importance of understanding personal values in relationships, navigating trauma, and expanding the concept of sexual pleasure. The conversation emphasizes the need for community, curiosity, and joy in the face of societal challenges, while also addressing the significance of self-care and training one's social media algorithms to foster positive connections.
Dr. Lexx Brown-James, LMFT, CSE, CSES is a premiere sexologist centering pleasure as a connective tool for shame f...
2025-12-1533 min
Own Your PleasureNavigating Hormonal Changes & Health Part IShow Notes:In this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', Whitni Miller and her guest, Dr. Michelle Gordon, discuss the complexities of menopause, hormonal changes, and the healthcare system's treatment of women's health issues. Dr. Gordon emphasizes the importance of finding a doctor who listens, the impact of the Women's Health Initiative on hormone therapy, and the cultural dismissal of women's health concerns. Dr. Gordon advocates for a holistic approach to treatment, recognizing obesity as a disease and the need for hormone optimization to improve quality of life. The discussion also touches on the importance of self-advocacy and the...
2025-12-0125 min
Own Your PleasureNavigating Pleasure & Politics Part IIn this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', Whitni Miller and Dr. Lex Brown James discuss the importance of self-care, navigating the current political climate, and how societal issues impact personal relationships. They explore the significance of intimacy, values, and community in fostering healthy connections, while also emphasizing the need to protect joy and vitality amidst challenging times. The discussion highlights the complexities of relationships in the context of differing political beliefs and the importance of understanding and supporting one another.
Dr. Lexx Brown-James, LMFT, CSE, CSES is a premiere sexologist centering pleasure as a connective tool for...
2025-12-0132 min
The Lesbian Peep ShowBDE (reprise) with Whitni MillerSend a textRevisiting my first chat with Whitni Miller. We talk about intimacy, the ways binary gender dynamics can play out in queer relationships, types of desire, orgasm cheat codes and communication. Enjoy.You can find Erin @iamerinbrownThe Sapphic Syllabus More about the podcast *CHEEX OFFER LINKuse code ERINDetails:no minimum termcan be canceled at any timechoice between monthly or annual subscriptionprice: monthly subscription: € 19.99annual subscription: € 9.90 per month
2025-12-0150 min
Cocoon After DarkPleasure is a Language: Listening to Your Body with Whitni Miller of BDE MovesSend a textIn this enriching episode, we dive deep with Whitni Miller from BDE Moves, exploring the intricate realms of desire, intimacy, and queerness. Whitni empowers women, queer folks, and anyone feeling out of sync to reclaim their erotic voice with presence rather than performance. Through candid conversations, discover how Whitni's personal and professional journeys have shaped their understanding of sexual health, legacies of trauma, and the importance of play in desire. Learn practical tips for fostering intimacy, from mirror games to maintaining eroticism in long-term relationships, and why understanding oneself is paramount to connecting with...
2025-11-271h 18
Own Your PleasureTen "Relationship Don'ts" when Libidos Differ Part IIIn this episode Whitni discusses the complexities of libido differences in relationships, emphasizing the importance of understanding intimacy, communication, and connection. She outlines her remaining key things not to do when navigating these differences as well as their counterparts. She also shares how she can help.
Learn More From Whitni:https://www.bde-moves.com
Follow Whitni at:IG - @bde.movesFB - groups/bdemovesYouTube - Podcast Channel = @BDE-Moves Old Channel = @BdeTalksTikTok - @bdemoves
2025-11-1520 min
Living OUT Loud PodcastWhitni MillerIn this episode of Living OUT Loud, Michele sits down with intimacy coach Whitni Miller, founder of BDE Moves, to explore how queer couples can reconnect, communicate, and rediscover pleasure in deeper, more embodied ways.
Whitni opens up about her journey from corporate life to coaching, what true self-acceptance looks like inside relationships, and why safety and communication are the real foundations of intimacy. Together, we unpack shame, desire, and the myths that keep us from fully inhabiting our pleasure.
Whether you’re in a relationship, healing from one, or learning to feel at home in...
2025-11-0541 min
Own Your PleasureTen "Relationship Don'ts" when Libidos Differ Part IIn this episode Whitni discusses the complexities of libido differences in relationships, emphasizing the importance of understanding intimacy, communication, and connection. She outlines the first few of her key things not to do when navigating these differences.
Learn More From Whitni: https://www.bde-moves.com
Follow Whitni at: IG - @bde.moves FB - groups/bdemoves YouTube - Podcast Channel = @BDE-Moves Old Channel = @BdeTalks TikTok - @bdemoves
2025-11-0119 min
Sex Ed with DB: smart, science-backed sex educationBEST OF: PLEASUREThis best-of episode is all about PLEASURE! Taken from some of our favorite episodes in Season 12, our first season all about pleasure, you'll get tips and ruminations on how to get the most pleasure out of your life. Listen in for talks on multiple orgasms, different types of orgasms, and how to initiate intimacy with confidence! Episodes featured: How can I have multiple orgasms? 20 Types of Orgasms with Goody Howard Initiating Sex with Confidence with Whitni Miller ABOUT SEASON 12 Season 12 of Sex Ed with DB is ALL ABOUT PLEASURE! Solo pleasure. Partnered pleasure. Orgasms...
2025-10-2241 min
Own Your PleasureExploring Lesbian Identity & Sexuality Part IIIn this episode Whitni continues her conversation with Erin Brown. They continue to explore various themes surrounding kink, pleasure, and sexual identity, particularly within the lesbian community. They discuss the misconceptions of 'lesbian bed death,” the importance of emotional intimacy, and the creative ways in which queer relationships navigate sexual satisfaction. The dialogue emphasizes the significance of energetic connections and vulnerability in intimate relationships, while also challenging societal norms around sex and attraction.
Learn More about The Lesbian Peep Show Podcast: https://thelesbianpeepshow.com
Follow Erin Brown: ALL Platforms - @iamerinbrown
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2025-10-1543 min
Own Your PleasureExploring Lesbian Identity & Sexuality Part IThis month Whitni talks with Erin Brown, a public sociologist and host of the Lesbian Peep Show podcast. They explore the complexities of lesbian identity, the stigma surrounding lesbian sex, and the cultural narratives that shape perceptions of pleasure. They discuss the importance of representation in media, the role of kink and consent in sexual exploration, and the empowerment that comes from self-discovery. The dialogue emphasizes the need for authentic representation of queer experiences and the liberation that comes from embracing one's desires.
Learn More about The Lesbian Peep Show Podcast:https://thelesbianpeepshow.com
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2025-10-0130 min
Own Your PleasurePerimenopause & Affirming Care Part IIShow Notes:In this month’s second episode, the conversation continues between Whitni Miller and Aleece Fosnight as they delve into the complexities of libido, hormones, and sexual health, emphasizing the importance of understanding the biopsychosocial model. They discuss the role of mental health in sexual desire, the impact of medical trauma on patient care, and the necessity for inclusive and trauma-informed healthcare environments. The conversation also highlights the need for comprehensive sex education and the challenges faced by queer individuals in accessing appropriate care. Finally, they explore future innovations in hormonal treatments and the importance of patient ad...
2025-09-1534 min
Vagina Whispering#18 Part 2-Queer, Kink and Conversation with Big Dick Energy's Whitni Miller (TW)Whitni Miller is a Queer Couples Intimacy Coach and Sex Educator. Whitni shares stories and examples and tips of how to increase communication, safety, security, related to intimacy and connection. She reminds us that we own ourselves and that "pleasure is the fuel for your productivity." She brings in BDSM principles, conscious kink, TAG (trauma informed training) and much much more. Whitni hosts the Podcast 🌈 "Own Your Pleasure." She shares tips and ideas on her various platforms such as Instagram (bde.moves) and TikTok. Whitni offers many resources on her website and through: Patreon.com/bdemoves (self-guided inti...
2025-09-1526 min
mach's mitGrenzen - immer noch herausfordernd?!In sexuell-sinnlichen Begegnungen nur das zu machen, was ein "hell yes" ist? Immer noch herausfordernd für mich at times. „Ich kann nicht confident sagen, dass ich jederzeit meine Grenzen super klar ziehe – und bin mir ziemlich sicher, dass es vielen weiblich sozialisierten Menschen auch so geht."Also lass mich das hier mal normalisieren. (was aber nicht heißt, dass wir das so lassen)Dahinter steht etwas, was oft als "unsexy" und (auch von mir in der Vergangenheit) mit "Kann ich im Grunde" oder "keine Lust, mich damit intensiver auseinanderzusetzen" abgetan wird: Die Fähigkeit, Grenzen zu setzen...
2025-09-0135 min
Own Your PleasurePerimenopause & Affirming Care Part IShow Notes:In this month’s first episode, Whitni Miller, founder of BDE Moves, sits down with the founder of The Fosnight Center, Aleece Fosnight. They explore the multifaceted aspects of health, particularly focusing on sexual health, perimenopause, and the biopsychosocial model of care. They discuss the importance of recognizing women's worth beyond reproductive capabilities, the complexities of hormonal changes during perimenopause, and the need for inclusivity in healthcare for non-binary and trans individuals. They emphasize the significance of listening to patients and the necessity for more research in these areas.
Aleece Fosnight obtained a Master of...
2025-09-0134 min
Sex for SaintsThe Difference Between Safety and Security in the Sexual RelationshipIn this episode, we're unpacking a powerful insight that could completely transform the way you experience intimacy in your marriage. It's all about the surprising difference between safety and security in your sexual relationship and why understanding it might be the missing piece to reigniting the passion you've been longing for. Most people think they're the same thing, but once you see the distinction, it can change everything about the way you connect with your spouse. Sources: Safety vs. Security concept credit: Whitni Miller (BDEmoves on Instagram) on "You Are Not Broken" podcast with D...
2025-08-2914 min
Own Your PleasureHow Kink Benefits ALL Relationships Part IIShow Notes:In this month’s second episode, the conversation continues between licensed sex therapist Claire Perelman and Whitni Miller. They explore the themes of pleasure, self-acceptance, and the importance of aftercare in sexual relationships. The speakers discuss how embracing pleasure can serve as a form of resistance against societal norms, the significance of aftercare in ensuring emotional safety, and the role of self-acceptance in enhancing sexual enjoyment. They emphasize the need for open communication and negotiation in intimate relationships, the power of playfulness in rekindling desire, and the importance of building a shared language around sexual preferences. Ul...
2025-08-1534 min
Own Your PleasureHow Kink Benefits ALL Relationships Part IShow Notes:In this month’s first episode, licensed sex therapist Claire Perelman and Whitni Miller discuss the principles of kink and how they can enhance any sexual relationship. The discussion covers the importance of negotiation, checking in during intimacy, and the playful aspects of sex. They emphasize that kink is not just about BDSM but can be a tool for self-acceptance and deeper connection in all types of relationships. They also highlight the need for intentionality in creating a sexual context that fosters desire and pleasure.
Claire Perelman (she/her) is a Queer, Jewish, Certified Se...
2025-08-0126 min
Own Your PleasureBreaking the Silence on Menopause Part IIIn this continuation of the enlightening conversation Dr. Kelly Casperson and host Whitni Miller are having, the discussion addresses the significant impact of hormones on women's health, particularly during menopause. They emphasize the importance of understanding and utilizing hormones like DHEA and estrogen for maintaining sexual health and overall well-being. The discussion also continues to address more common misconceptions about hormone replacement therapy and the societal stigma surrounding it, advocating for a more informed and empowered approach to women's health.
Dr. Kelly Casperson is a board-certified urologic surgeon,CEO and founder of The Casperson Clinic, a modern...
2025-07-1535 min
Sex Ed with DB: smart, science-backed sex educationWhat do I do if my partner and I have mismatched libidos?Coping with mismatched libidos in your partnership? You are sooo not alone! DB breaks down why desire isn't just a switch you can flip, how stress and hormones play a role, and offers some evidence-based advice about what to do when you and your partner aren't in sync. Mentioned in this episode: Initiating Sex with Confidence with Whitni Miller ABOUT SEASON 12 Season 12 of Sex Ed with DB is ALL ABOUT PLEASURE! Solo pleasure. Partnered pleasure. Orgasms. Porn. Queer joy. Kinks, sex toys, fantasies—you name it. We're here to help you feel more inf...
2025-07-0913 min
You Are Not Broken325. Sex, Safety and Embodied IntimacyThis week, I sat down with the radiant Whitni Miller, also known as BDEmoves on Instagram, a queer sex educator and pleasure coach who’s changing the game when it comes to how we talk about sex, desire, and embodiment, especially in the queer community.
Together, we explored what it really means to be embodied in midlife and why so many of us still struggle to feel sexually safe—not just physically, but emotionally and relationally. Whitni brings a trauma-informed lens to her work, helping people unpack shame, regulate their nervous systems, and come back home to them...
2025-07-0649 min
Sex Ed with DB: smart, science-backed sex educationInitiating Sex with Confidence with Whitni MillerInitiating sex can feel vulnerable, awkward, or even downright scary—especially if you were socialized to anticipate everyone else's needs before your own. This week, DB is joined by the one and only Whitni Miller (aka BDE Moves), queer couples intimacy coach, to break down what gets in the way, how to build confidence, and why getting turned down doesn't have to be a bad thing. We're talking perfectionism, eroticism, pleasure, and how to get out of your head and into your body. Let's get into it! GUEST DETAILSWhitni Miller is a queer co...
2025-07-0246 min
Own Your PleasureBreaking the Silence on Menopause Part IIn this enlightening conversation, Dr. Kelly Casperson and host Whitni Miller delve into the often misunderstood topics of perimenopause and menopause. They explore the definitions, symptoms, and societal stigmas surrounding these life stages, emphasizing the importance of hormone health and the potential benefits of hormone replacement therapy. The discussion highlights the need for better education and awareness regarding women's health, intimacy, and the impact of aging on overall well-being.
Dr. Kelly Casperson is a board-certified urologic surgeon,CEO and founder of The Casperson Clinic, a modern practice dedicated to hormones and sex medicine, renowned public speaker, sex...
2025-07-0132 min
Vagina Whispering#18 Part 1 - Queer, Kink and Conversation with Big Dick Energy's Whitni Miller (TW)Whitni Miller is a Queer Couples Intimacy Coach and Sex Educator. Whitni shares stories and examples and tips of how to increase communication, safety, security, related to intimacy and connection. She reminds us that we own ourselves and that "pleasure is the fuel for your productivity." She brings in BDSM principles, conscious kink, TAG (trauma informed training) and much much more. Whitni hosts the Podcast 🌈 "Own Your Pleasure." She shares tips and ideas on her various platforms such as Instagram (bde.moves) and TikTok. Whitni offers many resources on her website and through: Patreon.com/bdemoves (self-guided inti...
2025-06-2533 min
KOKO'S WORLDEP 12 | Pleasure is Your BirthrightSend a text💋🎧💦 In this episode of KoKo's World, sex expert Whitni Miller joins us to talk all things intimacy, empowerment, and why pleasure isn’t just a want—it’s your birthright. We dive into sexual wellness, breaking shame, and reclaiming your power through self-love.Tap in for a bold, beautiful conversation you don’t want to miss.#KoKosWorld #PleasureIsPower #WhitniMiller #SexualWellness #PodcastThis Episode and Season is sponsored by MJW Photo
2025-06-191h 06
Own Your PleasureFlow State Sex... How do we find it?! Part IIShow Notes:In this episode of Own Your Pleasure, Dr. Emily Jamea and Whitni explore the complexities of sexual relationships, emphasizing the importance of communication, vulnerability, and playfulness. They discuss how to navigate awkwardness in conversations about sex, the significance of transition rituals, and the difference between attunement and enmeshment. The discussion also touches on the paradox of control and surrender, the role of mirror neurons in connection, and the need for courage in overcoming self-consciousness. Ultimately, they highlight that sex can be a nourishing part of life at any stage and encourage listeners to embrace their desires...
2025-06-1528 min
Own Your PleasureFlow State Sex... How do we find it?! Part IShow Notes:In this episode of Own Your Pleasure, your host Whitni Miller and this month’s esteemed guest, Dr. Emily Jamea discuss the concept of flow state sex, exploring how individuals can enhance their sexual experiences by fostering mindfulness, presence, and connection with their partners. The discussion delves into the differences between 'good enough' sex and flow state sex, emphasizing the importance of trust, security, and communication in relationships. Dr. Jamea shares insights on how to cultivate a fulfilling sexual experience by balancing challenge and skill, setting goals, and reconnecting with one's sensuality and curiosity.
Dr...
2025-06-0130 min
Own Your PleasureUnlocking Curiosity in Secure Relationships Part IIIn this continued conversation, Whitni, Ash, and Dawn explore the intricate dynamics of pleasure, intimacy, and emotional safety within queer relationships. They delve into the concept of flow state, emphasizing its importance in enhancing connection and intimacy. The discussion highlights the significance of understanding desire, whether responsive or spontaneous, and the necessity of communication and consent in fostering a satisfying sexual experience. The conversation culminates in the idea that pleasure is not only a personal journey but also a form of liberation, encouraging couples to embrace their desires and build secure, fulfilling relationships.
Ash and Dawn Noble...
2025-05-1542 minThe Lesbian Peep ShowBad (perimenopausal) bitches with Whitni MillerSend a textBody changes, better sex, clearer boundaries, and mostly the joys of being older. You can find Whitni here.*The movie I was trying to remember was Go Fish and Guinevere Turner-- icon.*CHEEX OFFER LINKuse code ERINDetails:no minimum termcan be canceled at any timechoice between monthly or annual subscriptionprice: monthly subscription: € 19.99annual subscription: € 9.90 per monthYou can find Erin @iamerinbrownThe Sapphic Syllabus More a...
2025-05-111h 02
Own Your PleasureUnlocking Curiosity in Secure Relationships Part IIn this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', Whitni engages with queer couples experts Ash and Dawn Noble to explore the intricate relationship between emotional safety and sexual intimacy in queer relationships. They discuss the importance of curiosity, vulnerability, and communication in fostering deeper connections, as well as the challenges posed by societal norms and assumptions. The conversation highlights the significance of daily rituals, aftercare, and the messiness of relationships, ultimately emphasizing that security in a relationship can lead to greater exploration and fulfillment in the bedroom.
Ash and Dawn Noble collided in 2020 when brought together by a...
2025-05-0142 min
Own Your PleasureFinding Kindness in Love: Enita's Story Part IVIn this engaging conversation, Whitni Miller and her guest Enita explore the multifaceted nature of pleasure, intimacy, and self-advocacy in healthcare. They discuss the importance of communicating desires and needs, especially in the context of sexual satisfaction as one ages. The dialogue emphasizes the significance of self-worth and the journey of discovering pleasure throughout life, highlighting that intimacy and eroticism can evolve and deepen over time. The speakers encourage listeners to embrace their desires and advocate for their pleasure, regardless of age or past experiences.
Enita is a 66-yr old retired queer woman. She experienced an early...
2025-04-1532 min
Queer Conscious PodcastCreating Intimacy: From Protection to Connection | Whitni Miller | Ep. 10If we are being completely honest, before we even understand the concept of love, most of us have probably learned how to protect ourselves. We’ve got rules, we’ve got exit strategies, we’ve got brick walls… each brick represents a different story from our past about how we were hurt, betrayed, or let down by someone we love … but do we still have room for intimacy? Eh, some of us do.But if you’ve ever found yourself craving closeness while simultaneously self-sabotaging the hell out of it—this episode is for you.Today, I’m joi...
2025-04-0950 min
Own Your PleasureFinding Kindness in Love: Enita's Story Part IIIIn this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', Whitni Miller and Enita discuss the complexities of pleasure and intimacy as one ages. They explore the physical and psychological changes that come with aging, including menopause, body image issues, and the importance of self-advocacy in healthcare. The conversation emphasizes the need for open communication in relationships, setting boundaries, and finding creative solutions to enhance sexual enjoyment. They also touch on the significance of using lubrication, sex toys, and embracing vulnerability to maintain a fulfilling sex life. Ultimately, the episode encourages listeners to break societal taboos surrounding aging and sexuality, promoting a...
2025-04-0127 min
Own Your PleasureFinding Kindness in Love: Enita's Story Part IIIn this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', Whitni Miller and Enita Torres explore the multifaceted aspects of menopause, sexual wellness, and the importance of body positivity. They discuss the societal norms surrounding aging and sexuality, the connection between overall health and sexual pleasure, and the journey of self-discovery that comes with embracing one's desires. The dialogue emphasizes the need for open conversations about sex, the impact of performance pressure, and the liberation found in choosing pleasure as a path to selflessness.
Enita is a 66-yr old retired queer woman. She experienced an early menopause (age 46) and has...
2025-03-1531 min
Own Your PleasureFinding Kindness in Love: Enita's Story Part IIn this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', Whitni Miller engages in a heartfelt conversation with Enita Torres, a 66-year-old queer woman who shares her journey of self-discovery, love, and the challenges of navigating her queer identity in a challenging environment. The discussion covers Enita's experiences with custody battles, societal norms surrounding queerness, the importance of intimacy and trust in relationships, and the impact of menopause on sexuality. The episode emphasizes the significance of owning one's pleasure and celebrating personal transitions.
Enita is a 66-yr old retired queer woman. She experienced an early menopause (age 46) and has dealt...
2025-03-0126 min
Boss Bitch Radio w/IFBB Pro, Diane FloresWhat Nobody Tells You About Healthy Relationships — with Whitni MillerIn this candid episode, intimacy expert Whitni Miller joins me for a girlfriend-style chat on improving communication with your partner—especially when it feels uncomfortable. We dive deep into how to keep your connection strong during tough conversations and the role of curiosity in solving issues. Whitni shares her insights on rebuilding after infidelity and explains why sex often highlights deeper issues in your relationship. If you're ready to improve how you relate to your partner and find new tools for better intimacy, this episode is for you! KEY TAKEAWAYS: 00:00 Introduction to Relationship Co...
2025-02-2149 min
Own Your PleasureQ & A Part II00:00 Introduction to Owning Your Pleasure 01:59 Navigating Kinks and Open-Mindedness in Relationships 04:28 Understanding Anxiety and Performance in Sexual Dynamics 12:07 Exploring Submission and Dominance in Kink 15:38 Desiring More Intensity in BDSM Relationships 22:30 Normalizing Sexual Thoughts and Desires 25:04 Overcoming Orgasm Challenges in Partnered Sex 30:44 Navigating Intimacy and Communication in Relationships
In this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', host Whitni Miller addresses various questions related to sexual pleasure, kinks, and intimacy. The conversation covers topics such as the importance of open communication in relationships, navigating anxiety and performance issues in sexual dynamics, exploring submission a...
2025-01-3033 minThe Lesbian Peep ShowBDE with Whitni MillerSend a textWe talk about intimacy, the ways binary gender dynamics can play out in queer relationships, types of desire, orgasm cheat codes and communication. Enjoy.You can find Whitni here. You can find Erin @iamerinbrownThe Sapphic Syllabus More about the podcast *CHEEX OFFER LINKuse code ERINDetails:no minimum termcan be canceled at any timechoice between monthly or annual subscriptionprice: monthly subscription: € 19.99annual subscription: € 9.90 per month
2025-01-2650 min
Own Your PleasureQ & A Part IIn this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', host Whitney Miller addresses various questions related to intimacy, sexual desires, and relationship dynamics. The conversation emphasizes the importance of prioritizing quality time in relationships, navigating differences in libido, and the significance of open communication about sexual needs. Additionally, the discussion explores the introduction of kink and BDSM dynamics, as well as strategies for initiating intimacy in a way that respects both partners' comfort levels.
Learn More From Whitni:https://www.bde-moves.com
Follow Whitni at:YouTube - Podcast Channel = @BDE-Moves Old Channel = @BdeTalksIG...
2025-01-1933 min
Own Your PleasureCultivating Freedom & Accessing PleasureIn this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', host Whitni Miller engages in a deep conversation with Dr. Uchenna Ossai about the multifaceted nature of pleasure, intimacy, and self-discovery, particularly within marginalized communities. They explore the concept of freedom in relation to pleasure, the importance of understanding one's own body, and the journey of navigating pain and joy. Dr. Ossai emphasizes the significance of awareness, self-advocacy, and the need to create space for joy in our lives. The discussion also touches on the challenges of receiving pleasure and the impact of societal pressures on personal experiences of joy and intimacy.
2024-12-1956 min
The Open Bedroom PodcastEP174 Top 3 Reasons Couples Stop Having Sex with Whitni Miller.mp4Whitney's Background (00:01:38)
Whitney shares her role as a sex educator and pleasure coach, highlighting her work and retreats.
Top Reasons Couples Stop Having Sex (00:02:02)
Whitney introduces Todd Barish's study on the main reasons couples cease sexual activity.
Unwanted Pain During Sex (00:02:11)
Whitney explains how pain during sex, like vaginismus, can deter sexual activity and emphasizes communication.
Addressing Pain (00:03:15)
The importance of addressing unwanted pain and using lubrication to enhance sexual pleasure is discussed.
2024-12-0829 min
Own Your PleasureNon-Binary & Trans Experience Navigating PleasureIn this conversation, Whitni Miller and Tuesday Feral discuss the challenges and strategies for non-binary and trans individuals in navigating pleasure and intimacy. They explore the impact of dysphoria on sexual experiences and the importance of finding ways to feel comfortable in one's body. They also discuss the use of accessories and clothing to affirm one's gender identity during sexual encounters. Communication and consent are emphasized as crucial in creating positive experiences, and the importance of individual preferences and authenticity in defining pleasure is highlighted. They also discuss the concept of gender dysphoria and how it can impact sexual...
2024-11-1949 min
Own Your PleasurePolyamory, Relationship Anarchy, & Decolonizing Love00:00:00 Welcome & Introduction to Adelina Adler 00:04:16 Introduction to Ethical Non-Monogamy (ENM) 00:05:12 Hard Truths before starting in an ENM relationship 00:09:26 Self-Reflection and Considerations in ENM 00:12:54 Debunking Misconceptions & Defining Poly & ENM Styles 00:23:05 Polyamory: Emotional Attachment and Multiple Loves 00:26:07 Is Polyamory an Orientation? & Navigating Jealousy and Envy in Poly Relationships 00:43:10 Maintaining the Ethical Aspect of Polyamory 00:46:35 Unicorn Hunting: Approaching Ethically and Avoiding Power Dynamics 00:49:16 Challenging Hierarchical Polyamory 00:51:10 Recovering from Heartbreak 00:55:38 Managing Time in Multiple Relationships 00:59:30 Questioning Societal Norms
In this episode, Whitni Miller and Adelina Adler discuss ethical non-monogamy...
2024-10-191h 08
Dating Intentionally106. Navigating mismatched libidos & keeping your sex life spicy w/ Whitni Miller (@bde.moves)In this episode, you’ll hear from Whitni Miller, a couples’ intimacy coach and sex educator. We talk about desire discrepancy, speaking up during sex, and keeping it spicy in the bedroom. You’ll hear about how Whitni helps clients with different levels of desire start the conversation and work through it together. And Whitni provides a ton of tips for people pleasers who don’t want to fake orgasms anymore. At the end, we answer a dating dilemma about differing kinks and sexual likes early on. Follow Whitni on IG: https://www.instag...
2024-09-2052 min
Dating Intentionally106. Navigating mismatched libidos & keeping your sex life spicy w/ Whitni Miller (@bde.moves)In this episode, you’ll hear from Whitni Miller, a couples’ intimacy coach and sex educator. We talk about desire discrepancy, speaking up during sex, and keeping it spicy in the bedroom. You’ll hear about how Whitni helps clients with different levels of desire start the conversation and work through it together. And Whitni provides a ton of tips for people pleasers who don’t want to fake orgasms anymore. At the end, we answer a dating dilemma about differing kinks and sexual likes early on. Follow Whitni on IG: https://www.instag...
2024-09-2056 min
Own Your PleasureConflict as a Pathway to ConnectionIn this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', host Whitni Miller engages with Ash and Dawn Noble, founders of Queer Couples Academy, to explore the intricacies of queer intimacy and relationship dynamics. They discuss the PACT model of therapy, the importance of understanding attachment styles, and how vulnerability plays a crucial role in building secure connections. The conversation delves into the impact of technology on relationships, the difference between interdependence and codependency, and the significance of aftercare and open communication in maintaining healthy partnerships. Through their insights, Ash and Dawna emphasize the importance of co-regulation and navigating power dynamics to...
2024-09-191h 01
Own Your PleasureLesbians F*ck!00:00:00 Introduction: Celebrating Queer Pleasure00:01:28 Breaking Stereotypes: Queer Women and Pleasure00:05:36 Challenging Internalized Misogyny in the Queer Community00:19:50 Embracing Pleasure-Centered Sex00:27:53 The Need for Authentic Representation in Porn00:33:46 Debunking the Myth of 'Lesbian Bed Death'00:37:27 The Lack of Open Conversations Among Women00:41:53 Consent and Abuse00:43:51 Pleasure as Medicine00:47:51 Being Your Own Lover00:50:35 The Harmful Effects of People-Pleasing00:52:11 Embracing Self-Love for Personal and Collective Growth00:54:03 Join Us for the Empowerment Retreat in Costa Rica
In this episode, Whitni and Coach Khanyi challenge the stereotypes and assumptions about...
2024-08-1955 min
Own Your PleasureThe Path From Pelvic Floor Therapy to Writing Erotica00:00:00:00 Welcome & Introductions 00:01:23:01 Heather's Journey into Pelvic Floor Therapy & Sex Counseling00:05:19:15 The Intersection of Pelvic Floor Therapy and Sex Counseling00:08:24:12 Addressing the Bio Psychosocial Aspects of Sexual Health 00:10:23:07 What is Pelvic Floor Therapy and Who is it for?00:16:30:20 Passive Tightness vs Having Control of the Pelvic Floor Muscles00:19:27:21 Pelvic Floor to Sex Counseling00:28:09:27 Creating Realistic & Emotionally Honest Representations of Sexuality in Fiction00:36:07:26 The Importance of Vulnerability and Communication00:41:02:22 Expanding the Definition of Sex & The Power of Consent00:49:22:27 Writing and Reading Authentically Realistic Erotica00:54:18:20 Affirming Masculinity & Gender Identity00:58:19:22 Queering Sex...
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Own Your PleasureThe Transformative Power of Kink & BDSM in Personal Growth00:00:00 Welcome & Introductions 02:06:21 What is Kink? 03:49:17 Conscious Kink 06:39:04 Communication 07:59:11 Exploring Power Dynamics in Kink Relationships 12:18:25 Creating a Safe and Expansive Kink Experience 26:20:23 Attunement & the Importance of Slowing Down & Being Present 37:24:26 The Healing Power of Kink 45:06:01 The Psychedelic Experience of Kink 53:46:19 Creating a Soft Landing: Aftercare & Debriefing 01:31:02 Mastery: Being a Master of Yourself
In this conversation, Whitni Miller interviews Kimi Inch, a renowned expert in intimacy and conscious kink. They discuss the meaning of kink and conscious kink, the importance of intention and negotiation in kink play, and the power dyna...
2024-06-191h 07
Own Your PleasureQueering Sex, Surrogate Partnering, & much more!In this conversation, Whitni Miller interviews Cooper Stone, a queer non-binary somatic sex educator and certified sexological body worker. Cooper specializes in working with individuals exploring their sexual orientation, gender identity, and recovering from religious shame around physical intimacy. They discuss the concept of pleasure and how it can be found in various ways, not just through sexual experiences. Cooper explains the role of a somatic sex educator and the importance of savoring and integrating pleasurable experiences. They also delve into the work of deprogramming shame and the process of surrogate partner therapy, which involves building relational skills in...
2024-05-191h 00
Own Your PleasureDeep Dive into Desire DiscrepanciesIn this episode, Whitni interviews Dr. Vencill & Dr Lauren Fogel Mersy diving deeply into desire discrepancies & pulling on pieces from their phenomenal book, Desire: An inclusive guide to navigating libido differences in relationships. You can reach out to Whitni through her website bde-moves.com where you can book a call, grab her socials, & so much more.
Below please read about each of the authors more specifically: Dr. Vencill (she/her) is an assistant professor, board certified clinical health psychologist, and AASECT-certified sex therapist at the Mayo Clinic, where she spends the bulk of her time p...
2024-04-1958 min
Coming Out LateEp. #124: Sex, Pleasure & Relationship w/Whitni Miller, Part 2Robin picks up the conversation from last week with Sex & Pleasure specialist, Whitni Miller, in this Part 2 episode of Coming Out Late. Please Rate & Review the podcast and share this episode with a friend. Enjoy!In this episode, you will learn…The #1 question that Whitni gets asked, A LOT! (Hint: it’s about sex!)What is “sexual desire discrepancy”?Be upfront about how important sex is to you w/potential new partners, ASAP. Know yourself and the depth of your sexual appetite/desire. Don’t think that...
2024-03-3146 minComing Out LateEp. #123: Sex, Pleasure & Relationship w/Whitni Miller, Part 1In this Part 1 episode of Coming Out Late, Robin talks with Whitni Miller about sex, pleasure and reducing our inner shame as we navigate our tender coming out late journeys!In this episode, you will learn…Who is Whitni Miller and what does she do for our community?What is Intentional monogamy? And poly-saturated?Not paying attention to the physical & emotional signs of our queerness IS detrimental to our health! What is “pleasure coaching”? According to Whitni, pleasure is, “...that only the person in the body perc...
2024-03-2645 min
Own Your PleasureLesbian Bed Death & SO Much MoreDr. Lynda Spann is the founder of the Lesbian Couples Institute (LCI). Lynda and her wife, Lisa Yaeger, live in the Denver, Colorado area. LCI, which she founded in 2018, offers personal in person therapy and online coaching to lesbian couples by a lesbian couple. Lynda’s parents were Baptist missionaries from Texas, however she was born and raised in Uruguay, South America. She spent her childhood and teen years living in Uruguay much of the time and in Texas some of the time. Dr. Spann has a BA in Psychology from Baylor University. Her MA in Family Studies & PhD Ma...
2024-03-1941 min
Own Your PleasureThe Winding Road to SelfIn this episode Whitni interviews Brittany Shultz about her experience discovering her sexuality & the winding road that lead to her stepping into her full authentic self. A little about Brittany: Brittany is a bright light in the world with so much vibrance, energy, & love that she exuberantly shares with everyone around her. She's done a ton of hard work on herself over the years and came to the realization "later in life" that she is a lesbian. This is her brilliant winding road to self-realization and actualization where she admittedly likes to stick her toes in the dirt and...
2024-02-1944 min
Own Your PleasureTalking Sex & Relationships w/Dr. NikkiWelcome to our very first Episode of Own Your Pleasure Podcast with BDE Moves, aka Whitni Miller. In this episode we talk to Dr. Nikki about sex & relationships. ABOUT Dr Nikki: She is a licensed psychologist with a diverse set of talents. Her expertise includes being a diversity, equity, and inclusion consultant and trainer; writer; podcaster; public speaker; and therapist. She is a Black woman, feminist, social justice advocate, sex-positive advocate, intellectual, mother, scholar, and mentor. When you meet her you’re likely to find a transparent, witty, irreverent, charming, genuine, and relatable human being. Her many intersecting identities un...
2024-01-1951 min
Queer ConnectionsEmbracing Intimacy: A Candid Conversation with Queer Sex & Pleasure Coach Whitni MillerJoin us in this enlightening episode as we dive deep into the world of intimacy and pleasure with renowned Queer Sex and Pleasure Coach, Whitni Miller. Together, we explore the elusive "spark" in dating and how to navigate it, empowering you to foster genuine connections. Whitni shares her expert insights on how to openly communicate your sexual needs with a new partner, ensuring a fulfilling and respectful relationship. But that's not all! We also discuss the transformative power of embracing pleasure over orgasms, redefining what sexual satisfaction means. Whether you're in a new relationship or looking to enhance your...
2023-12-2150 minBoss Bitch Radio w/IFBB Pro, Diane Flores#200 - After Dark: How to Ask For What You Want in the Bedroom Feat. Whitni MillerSummary: Today's episode is fun and spicy! Diane chats with Pleasure Coach and Sex Educator, Whitni Miller, to talk all about how to have fun in the bedroom. Whitni shares why it's so important to demystify sex talk and communicate what you want with your partner, and she breaks down step-by-step how to do so. This conversation is all about pleasure, women's bodies, sex, how to communicate, body shame and so much more! Key Takeaways: 01:41 - Meet Whitni and how she got her start as a pleasure coach 08:03...
2023-11-171h 02
Relatable | Relationships UnfilteredForeplay and Intimacy with Whitni MillerDr. Liz hangs out with Whitni Miller, Pleasure Coach, to break down the five types of intimacy. Dr. Liz and Whitni discuss emotional, physical, intellectual, experiential, and spiritual intimacy, including what each type of intimacy consists of and different ideas about how to engage in each. They explore the importance of having various types of intimacy in your relationship to create the highest levels of closeness and connection. Dr. Liz and Whitni also get very relatable by sharing about their own favorite types of intimacy.
Connect with Dr. Liz: https://linktr.ee/drelizabethfedrick Instagram: https://www.instagram...
2023-08-0849 minComing Out LateEp. #95: Sapphic Sex Talk w/Whitni Miller, Part 2In this Part 2 episode of the Coming Out Late podcast, Robin continues the conversation with Pleasure Education sexpert Whitni Miller. Casting aside timidness and insecurities around the topic of sapphic sex, members of Robin’s weekly “Not Straight Support Group” participated in a thoughtful, compassionate and consented conversation about pleasure, sex and intimacy for the purposes of this podcast.In this episode you will learn… The difference between “performative based sex” and “pleasure based sex”.What’s ‘spontaneous desire’ versus ‘responsive desire’.What impacts your sexual temperament?Why do we have limiting beliefs around sex & ask ourselves, “Where did that...
2023-07-1747 minComing Out LateEp. #94: Sexy Talk w/Whitni Miller in the Not Straight Support Group, Part 1In this Part 1 episode of the Coming Out Late podcast, Robin invites the infamous social media sexpert Whitni Miller to be a Special Guest at the weekly “Not Straight” Support Group. Casting aside timidness and insecurities regarding talking about sex, all the members of the support group participated in a thoughtful, compassionate conversation about pleasure, sex and intimacy.In this episode you will learn… How do we flirt & let them know we’re interested in them? People-pleasing and the patriarchal society.“I hope they like me”, is a scarcity min...
2023-07-1055 min
The Open Bedroom PodcastEp#91: Sex Ed Censorship: Where to Find Amazing How-To Videos with Whitni MillerMeet the amazing Whitni Miller, queer sex educator, intimacy coach, & TikTok star.
Whitney's knowledge and expertise in sex ed shines through as she discusses the importance of understanding both the biological and psychological aspects of sex.
One thing that impressed me was how Whitni manages to deliver her content in a way that never feels uncomfortable or overly sexual.
Her calm and safe manner of delivery stems from her background in yoga and working in stressful environments.
It's truly refr...
2023-07-0919 min
Neuroinclusion#21 "Neuroqueering Heteronormativity, Attraction, and Kink" with Whitni MillerWhitni Miller (she/her), CEO of BDEMoves, sex educator and pleasure coach joins me for a spicy conversation! We talk about heteronormativity and share our personal coming out (and coming in) stories. Whitni shares fascinating new perspectives on attraction, attachment styles, monogamy, and trauma. We end with a conversation that made me BLUSH as we neuroqueered BDSM, kink, dungeons, and munches. You'll have to listen to find out what all that means. Enjoy! To reach Whitni, visit https://bde-moves.com/ or follow her @bde.moves on IG and TTSupport th...
2023-05-2555 min
Sexually Speaking with ShannonPleasure for ALL Humans with Whitni MillerAfter a couple of years of feeling like a fan girl trying to connect with Whitni Miller, aka BDE.Moves, I finally got to talk with her! Whitni is an amazing human who is creating sexy content with tangible tools for all people to implement! Whitni Miller is a Pleasure Coach and Sex Educator. She loves to create direct, assuring, shame-free sex education content on TikTok, Instagram, and Patreon. She also works with clients 1:1 and in couples setting to help them obtain their pleasure goals.She is very passionate a...
2023-04-1338 min
Talk Sex with Annette🔒 XXX I Tried Swinging And...Subscriber-only episodeSend us a textThis XXX Locker Room Talk & Shots Podcast episode follows up on the last with Locker Room Talk host Annette Benedetti telling all about her first date with swingers. Did she nail the foreplay tips and tricks that lesbian sex coach Whitni Miller of BDE Moves gave her in the last XXX episode? What happened after dinner and would she do it again.Annette tells all. Here's what you need to know about swinging.Use code EXPLORES15 for 15% off all Womanizer Products at Womanizer.com.
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Talk Sex with Annette🔒 XXX Foreplay Tips Turned Personal: Annette Gets SchooledSubscriber-only episodeSend us a textLesbian pleasure coach and sex educator Whitni Miller dishes out her hottest foreplay tips and tricks while helping Locker Room Talk & Shots Podcast Host prepare for a new experience. This is your chance to hear how you can apply everything you learned from the Foreplay: Your Questions Answered episode in a real-life situation.Use code EXPLORES15 for 15% off all Womanizer Products at Womanizer.com. Get 30% Off Sex Toys & Lube with code EXPLORES30 at thethruster.com: https://bit.ly/3Xsj5wY Get your...
2023-03-3027 min
Talk Sex with AnnetteForeplay: Your Questions AnsweredSend a textWhat is foreplay? Do you think you know the answer to this very common question. I'm willing to bet, your answer is wrong...at least a little. Locker Room Talk & Shots Podcast Host Annette Benedetti sits down to talk to Lesbian Pleasure Coach and Sex Educator Whitni Miller about foreplay. The two answer questions sent in by listeners of all sexual orientations and gender identities. This episode offers insights into some of the barriers to pleasure and orgasm-filled intimacy that exist in a variety of relationships, as well as a new perspective on what f...
2023-03-2958 minTalk Sex with Annette🔒 XXX How I'm Turning My Sex Fantasies Into Reality (And You Can Too)Subscriber-only episodeSend us a textLocker Room Talk & Shots Podcast Host Annette Benedetti chats with Lesbian pleasure coach Whitni Miller about how she's been turning her sexual fantasies into reality and what some of the challenges are. In return, Whitni gives her some expert guidance AND shares a sexy secret of her own.Take note listeners, you are the very first to get the inside scoop on some seriously hot stuff. Use code EXPLORES15 for 15% off all Womanizer Products at Womanizer.com. Get 30% Off Sex Toys & L...
2023-03-0933 minTalk Sex with AnnetteBDSM Tips & Tricks that will Set Your Vanilla Sex Life on FIRE!Send a textDo you prefer Vanilla Sex? Or are you curious about BDSM, but have zero interest in going 50 shades? Listen, you don't have to wade clit deep in bondage and paddle practices to benefit from the world of BDSM. Locker Room Talk & Shots Podcast Hostess Annette Benedetti sits down with Lesbian Pleasure Coach and Sex Educator Whitni Miller to talk about BDSM practices, tips & tricks that can be used to make Vanilla sex more orgasmic.This podcast episode is packed FULL of quick takeaways that will have you banging better tonight!...
2023-03-0851 min
Sex Ed with DB: smart, science-backed sex educationDesire and Pleasure with Whitni MillerThis week, Danielle chats with fellow sex educator and TikToker Whitni Miller, aka @BDE.moves. They discuss intimacy in relationships, desire, and about Whitni's work as a pleasure coach. They also talk about the difficulties of promoting sex positive content on TikTok and social media. --- Sex Ed with DB, Season 7 is Sponsored by: Lion's Den, Uberlube, Magic Wand, Future Method, and Freya. Get discounts on all of DB's favorite things here! --- Follow Sex Ed with DB on: Instagram: @sexedwithdbpodcast TikTok: @sexedwithdb
2022-12-1444 min
Make Some Noise with Andrea OwenIntimacy, Sex, and Relationships with Whitni MillerSex educator and pleasure coach Whitni Miller joins me for a conversation about intimacy, relationships, and sex. When I decided to create a theme around women’s health, Whitni was one of the several guests I was hoping would say yes to being a guest. And, she did! Whitni focuses on maximizing female pleasure through self-work and relational communication, which you’ll hear about in this episode. We also discuss:
The biggest reason heterosexual couples stop having sex (5:33)
Where to start if you and your partner know you’re having intimacy issues (10:17)
Top 3 reasons why women lose the...
2022-11-3046 minTalk Sex with AnnetteDesire Styles: How to Get Your Partner Hot, Wet & Ready to BangSend a textLocker Room Talk & Shots Podcast host Annette Benedetti chats with pleasure coach Whitni Miller from BDE Moves about spontaneous and responsive desire styles. Do you ever get frustrated when your partner grabs your pussy out of the blue expecting instant arousal and open access to the sex? You might be a responsive desire style. This information will help you stoke passion in your relationship whether you and your partner have the same desire styles or different.But this conversation covered so much more. From the woman's prostate to what squirting actually is...
2022-09-141h 15
The Electric FeminineSexual HealingIn this episode we speak with sex educator and pleasure coach, Whitni Miller, about her work, the female orgasm and how we can be more in control of our pleasure. Whitni introduces us to the importance of breathing during sex, specifically belly breathing, a technique that focuses on relaxing the pelvic and belly area while allowing the rest of the bodies muscles to engage. The results are a deeper longer orgasm.Whitni's education empowers us to take our orgasm experience into our own hands. As she spoke she dispelled popular myths about orgasm, vulva's and sex that h...
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