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The Art of We125. Our Partnership Mindset For Resilience During Hard TimesIn this honest and heartfelt episode of The Art of We, Krista and Will unpack the mindset shift that’s helping them meet uncertainty and stress with strength. Instead of reacting from “life is in the way,” they explore how choosing a “this is on the way” perspective changes everything, especially in partnership. From grief to bypassing to finding meaning, they share real tools and reflections for returning to a higher set point, together.“The Art Of We” podcast with Krista Van Derveer and Dr. Will Van Derveer(00:00) Intro and relational check-in: chaos, uncertainty, & weird coping rituals...
2025-06-1219 minThe Art of We124. Date Nights, Honest Sex & Deepening Intimacy with Shana JamesIn this episode of The Art of We, Krista is joined by longtime friend and renowned relationship coach Shana James for a candid, heartfelt conversation about cultivating deeper intimacy in partnership. From redefining what sex actually means to designing date nights that create more presence, pleasure, and connection — we talk about insights and tools that might just shift how you think about intimacy, sex, and what’s possible in your relationship. This episode is full of heart-opening perspectives on what it really means to be intimate with another human being.“The Art Of We” podcast with Krista Van Derve...
2025-05-1550 minThe Art of We123. Abundant Repair: Our Agreement That Turns Conflict Into ConnectionWhen conflict arises in a relationship, do you retreat, explode, or sweep it under the rug? We unpack one of our foundational relationship agreements: to Repair Abundantly. We explore how the ability to fully and lovingly repair after conflict is the difference between surviving and thriving—and how the right kind of repair doesn’t just restore connection, it deepens it. We share personal stories, listener questions, and the real-life impact of doing this work together, especially when triggers come up again (and again). “The Art Of We” podcast with Krista Van Derveer and Dr. Will Van Derveer
2025-04-2420 minThe Art of We122. Always Find Possibility: Our Game-Changing Agreement for When Life Gets HardWhat if one agreement could shift how you move through perceived limitations, everyday stuckness, and painful patterns in your relationship? Krista and Will dive into their relationship agreement, “To Always Find Possibility.” Whether it's health issues, career crossroads, or relational tension, this simple yet powerful commitment has helped them stay connected, creative, and forward-moving—even when things seem hopeless. Tune in for real-life examples, practical insights, and an invitation to transform how you face challenges with your partner.“The Art Of We” podcast with Krista Van Derveer and Dr. Will Van Derveer(00:00) The origin of the agreem...
2025-04-1725 minThe Art of We121. Addressing Passive-Aggressive Comments (Replay)About the Episode:Addressing passive-aggressive comments like a ninja is highly satisfying. It can stop the aggressor in their shoes and wake them up to the impact they’re having. Most passive-aggressive comments are simply unskilled communications of negative feelings. By directly and neutrally addressing passive aggressiveness, we can support each other to grow as human beings. In episode 121 of the Art of We podcast, we get into the nuanced terrain of passive aggressiveness in both personal and professional relationships. Dr. Will and Krista Van Derveer discuss its subtle nature and how it can operate und...
2025-04-0327 minThe Art of We120. Turning Triggers Into Healing: Our Real-Life IFS Breakthrough at Richard Schwartz’s RetreatWhat if the parts of us we feel most ashamed of—our tender, young, vulnerable selves—were actually the doorway to greater sovereignty and connection in our partnerships? In this deeply personal episode, we share a very real moment from our recent IFS (Internal Family Systems) retreat with Richard Schwartz, where an old, exiled part of me got triggered in a big way. But instead of spiraling into conflict or disconnection, we used our agreements and IFS tools to move through it—together. If you’ve ever struggled with feeling unseen, insignificant, or overly sensitive in your relationship, this episode...
2025-03-2727 minThe Art of We119. IFS for Couples: Why Understanding Your “Parts” Changes EverythingEver feel like your emotions take over during conflict? What if there was an easier way to navigate tough conversations? In this episode, we dive into Internal Family Systems (IFS)—a powerful approach to understanding the different "parts" of ourselves and how they show up in relationships. We share how this model has transformed our ability to work through triggers, deepen our connection, and show up for each other's growth in a way that fosters security and desire. “The Art Of We” podcast with Krista Van Derveer and Dr. Will Van Derveer(00:00) – The power of how we ph...
2025-03-2023 minThe Art of We118. How Separateness Affects Desire & Discovering What Truly Keeps the Spark AliveDoes absence REALLY make the heart grow fonder? In this episode, we explore the role of separateness in fueling desire in long-term relationships and uncover the deeper factors that truly spark passion in a thriving partnership. Plus, we share a personal story about how the movie The Substance nearly led to a major rupture between us—but ultimately revealed profound insights about what really creates and sustains desire in our relationship.“The Art Of We” podcast with Krista Van Derveer and Dr. Will Van Derveer(00:00) Welcome!(00:35) Listener question: Does separateness fuel desire in long-t...
2025-03-1318 minThe Art of We117. Over-Merging & Hyper-Independence: The Path to Secure LoveIn this episode, we dive into over-merging in relationships, exploring the difference between healthy interdependence and codependency. Hear how attachment styles shape connection, balancing differing needs for contact, and prioritizing different needs for contact. We share our personal experiences of the power of co-regulation and how couples can create agreements that support both individuals and the we of their partnership. This episode offers valuable insights and practical tools to help you and your partner thrive.“The Art Of We” podcast with Krista Van Derveer and Dr. Will Van Derveer(00:00) Over-or-under merging is a path of deve...
2025-03-0626 minThe Art of We116. The Art of Money with Bari Tessler (Pt 2): Money Dates, Money & Parenting, Different Earning PowerIn part 2, Bari Tessler shares her framework for Couples Money Dates, how to navigate power imbalances when one partner earns more, financial polarization & hidden money dynamics, the mental & emotional loads of money in partnerships, how to teach kids about money (without passing down shame), somatic tools to shift your relationship with money. If you want more financial intimacy, clarity, and teamwork in your partnership, this one’s for you!“The Art Of We” podcast with Krista Van Derveer and Dr. Will Van Derveer(00:00) Power, control, and financial conditions in childhood(02:09) Money...
2025-02-2742 minThe Art of We115. The Art of Money with Bari Tessler (Pt 1): Money Shame, Financial Polarization & Enneagram TypesIn this episode, financial therapy pioneer Bari Tessler joins us to explore the deep connections between money, shame, and relationships. Hear how money stories and family lineage shape financial behaviors, why couples often polarize around money, and how the Enneagram can offer insight into financial dynamics. Bari emphasizes the power of financial therapy and somatic practices in healing and empowerment around money. “The Art Of We” podcast with Krista Van Derveer and Dr. Will Van Derveer(00:00) Money stories and lineage influences(00:23) Intro to Bari Tessler(04:27) Life phases & money decis...
2025-02-2038 minThe Art of We114. Power, Attachment & Secure Functioning with Ellen BoederRelationship therapist and couples coach Ellen Boeder joins us to explore the intersection of attachment, power dynamics, and secure functioning in partnerships. We discuss how power imbalances can emerge in relationships, the difference between secure and insecure functioning, and how couples can cultivate true mutuality. “The Art Of We” podcast with Krista Van Derveer and Dr. Will Van Derveer(00:00) Why secure functioning matters in relationships(03:26) What defines secure vs. insecure relationships? (06:22) How power struggles emerge in insecure relationships(09:37) Three key factors that shape relationship dynamics(13...
2025-02-1340 minThe Art of We113. How Specific Agreements Create Deep Personal Healing in RelationshipsIn this episode, we explore how small yet intentional agreements can help heal deep relational wounds and foster secure, connected partnerships. We share our personal experiences with one of our core relationship agreements and how it has transformed our injuries from the past. Through this lens, we invite listeners to reflect on your own insecurities and explore how agreements can be a powerful tool for healing, trust, and deeper intimacy.“The Art Of We” podcast with Krista Van Derveer and Dr. Will Van Derveer(00:00) Introduction: How small agreements can heal deep relational wounds(02:23) The...
2025-02-0617 minThe Art of We112. Practicing Mutuality: Relational Agreements for Healing Cultural ConditioningIn this episode, Krista and Will Van Derveer dive into the power of relational agreements and how they help couples navigate cultural conditioning, power dynamics, and historical wounds. They share their personal journey of creating a partnership built on mutuality and responsibility—key ingredients for a thriving, purpose-driven relationship. Tune in for insights on how agreements can foster growth, repair, and deeper connection in your own relationship.“The Art Of We” podcast with Krista Van Derveer and Dr. Will Van Derveer(00:00) Introduction: Why mutuality and cultural conditioning matter in relationships(02:15) The origin of their...
2025-01-3021 minThe Art of We111. Navigating Sexual Approaches: Unspoken Gender Dynamics and Trauma TriggersIn this heartfelt episode, we explore the delicate dynamics of sexual approaches in relationships, diving into how cultural conditioning, gender roles, and personal trauma can create friction. We share our own challenges, uncovering misunderstandings and the steps we’re taking to heal and grow. If you’ve faced similar struggles or want to deepen your intimacy, this episode offers relatable insights and practical tools to foster safety, connection, and collaboration.“The Art Of We” podcast with Krista Van Derveer and Dr. Will Van Derveer(00:00) Setting the stage for an intimate and important conversation(01:58) Explorin...
2025-01-2332 minThe Art of We110. Special Announcement For Our Listeners!In this episode, Krista and Dr. Will Van Derveer announce a new series focusing on creating equitable partnerships. They discuss taking a brief break until mid-January 2025 and announce updated "Top 10 Agreements" available on their website. The episode emphasizes their commitment to exploring power dynamics, fairness, and mutual success in relationships, particularly from their perspective as a heterosexual couple. They share questions for the listeners to reflect on regarding equity in their own relationships during the holiday break.“The Art Of We” podcast with Krista Van Derveer and Dr. Will Van Derveer(0:00) - The importance of cons...
2024-12-1912 minThe Art of We109. Will: Random + UncensoredIn this unique and candid episode, Will is interviewed by Krista about the inner workings of relationship and his personal journey toward creating a thriving partnership. Through spontaneous questions and random sentence stems, Will shares vulnerably about navigating challenges – from bathroom counter disputes to deeper questions of maintaining connection – and offers practical wisdom for anyone seeking to build a more conscious and fulfilling relationship. “The Art Of We” podcast with Krista Van Derveer and Dr. Will Van Derveer(0:00) Opening reflection on how people make meaningful changes in relationships (3:22) Will shares his journey from feeling al...
2024-11-2827 minThe Art of We108. When 'Thinking Positive' Keeps You Stuck in Bad Relationship PatternsAre you an ambitious, growth-oriented person who finds yourself stuck in frustrating relationship patterns? In this episode of The Art of We podcast, we explore how positive thinking—usually an asset for high achievers—can actually become a relationship blind spot. Learn how to distinguish between healthy optimism and "false positivity" that keeps you invested in misaligned partnerships or painful relationship patterns, and discover practical ways to create the deeply fulfilling relationship you truly desire.“The Art Of We” podcast with Krista Van Derveer & Dr. Will Van Derveer(00:00) Warning signs of false positivity: Recognizing cycles of hope...
2024-11-2123 minThe Art of We107. Sacred Sexuality: More Wholeness, Healing & Connection With Amanda TestaJoin us as we dive deep into sacred sexuality with sex coach Amanda Testa, sharing our own journey of conscious intimacy alongside practical guidance for healing sexual trauma and embracing authentic pleasure. Whether single or partnered, discover how trauma-informed tantric practices can transform relationships and create more personal and interpersonal wholeness by breaking free from cultural conditioning and performative behaviors. From male performance anxiety to embodiment practices, we openly explore the challenges and breakthroughs in creating safe, conscious sexual experiences that honor both partners' wholeness.“The Art Of We” podcast with Krista Van Derveer & Dr. Will Van Derv...
2024-11-1451 minThe Art of We106. Political Differences: How To Talk About ItIn this heartfelt episode, we tackle a challenging topic facing relationships at this moment: how to keep our hearts open when political differences threaten to pull us apart. With the presidential election heightening tensions in many families in the US, we share our own journey of learning to have these difficult conversations, acknowledging the very real pain and fear that can arise when we feel fundamentally misunderstood by those closest to us.Drawing from our experience, we offer a compassionate framework that emphasizes connection over conversion. Through practical examples and vulnerable sharing, we demonstrate how curiosity about...
2024-11-0723 minThe Art of We105. Giving Hard Feedback (Real Time Example)We dive deep into the art of giving feedback in relationships. We explore how to address habits or behaviors that may cause frustration while keeping love, respect, and collaboration at the forefront. Using a real-life example, we share a step-by-step approach for delivering feedback in a way that nurtures growth, creates alignment, and fosters a deeper connection. If you're ready to elevate how you and your partner handle tough conversations, this episode is for you!“The Art Of We” podcast with Krista Van Derveer and Dr. Will Van Derveer(00:00) Introduction and Common Misconceptions About Conflict
2024-10-3132 minThe Art of We104. How To Start A Conversation About Negative Impact (Replay)If you want thriving relationships, having the harder conversations is a MUST! In this episode, Krista gives examples on how to skillfully start a conversation when either you’ve been negatively impacted, or you think you may have left a negative impact. Cleaning these impacts up are critical to the health of any relationship, and of course most importantly with the relationships that mean the most to you. This episode is part 1 of 2, where next week we will share how to skillfully give feedback, especially the kind that is hard to give and receive!“The Art Of We”...
2024-10-2419 minThe Art of We103. Making Decisions When You Want Different ThingsKrista and Will dive into the delicate dance of making decisions together when you and your partner aren't on the same page. From the lighthearted story of their mug collection clash to the bigger conversations about significant decisions, they explore how they’ve navigated differences without sacrificing connection. Compromise is not the solution – but creating a win/win is. Listen in for practical insights, light humor, and actionable steps to turn moments of tension into opportunities for deeper partnership.“The Art Of We” podcast with Krista Van Derveer and Dr. Will Van Derveer(00:00) Welcome!(00:30...
2024-10-1726 minThe Art of We102. Alcohol: Does It Help Or Hurt Your Partnership?A candid discussion about alcohol's role in relationships, including an honest conversation about how casual drinking habits subtly impact our intimacy, connection, and overall relationship satisfaction. We offer practical strategies for creating conscious conversations around alcohol and making healthier choices as a couple. Whether you're curious about moderating your drinking habits or seeking a more mindful partnership, this episode provides valuable tools and fresh perspectives.“The Art Of We” podcast with Krista Van Derveer and Dr. Will Van Derveer(00:00) The importance of explicit conversations in relationships (00:30) Exploring alcohol use in relationships & its impacts (01...
2024-10-1025 minThe Art of We101. “The Dry Cleaners Incident” (& How We Made Up)Krista and Will dive into a relatable moment that many of us have experienced—how a seemingly small disagreement can ignite big emotions. They unpack their own recent "dry cleaning incident" and share the raw and vulnerable details of what it triggered for each of them and how they repaired the rupture. You’ll learn how to navigate those frustrating ruptures in your relationship and transform them into moments of growth. This episode is packed with practical tools on how to communicate better, repair conflicts, and move from "I" to "We" in your partnership.“The Art Of We” po...
2024-10-0326 minThe Art of We100. How We Handle Money As A Couple & WhyManaging money as a couple doesn’t have to be a battle! In fact, it can be one of the most empowering & “mutually equitable” ways to grow together. This episode has insights on how to tackle tricky money conversations, turn financial stress into financial success, create money agreements & build a partnership where both of you feel valued & supported. Tune in, because leveling up your relationship starts with mastering your money game!“The Art Of We” podcast with Krista Van Derveer and Dr. Will Van Derveer.(00:00) - How financial systems can support or undermine a partnership(02:5...
2024-09-2627 minThe Art of We99. Create A Healthy Relationship With Your Ex After Divorce: Dr. Jill Carnahan & Aaron CarnahanHow do I maintain a healthy relationship with my ex after divorce? How do I forgive my ex after a difficult divorce? Listen in to hear Dr. Jill Carnahan and Aaron Carnahan’s inspiring story of how they have created a harmonious and healthy relationship after a painful divorce. You’ll hear how to have a healthy relationship with an ex after divorce with the right tools, perspectives and mindsets. “The Art Of We” podcast with Krista Van Derveer and Dr. Will Van Derveer.(00:00) - Intro to Dr. Jill Carnahan & Aaron Carnahan(00:39) - How to cr...
2024-09-1952 minThe Art of We98. Sex: How To Talk About It, Stages of Development & Getting Stuck In RoutinesWe cover a LOT in this one! Including: Creating a Safe Space for Sexual Conversations, Navigating Sensitive Sexual Conversations, Tips for Talking About Sex, Addressing Suppressed Desires and Fantasies, Getting Stuck in Sexual Routines, The Role of Sexuality in Relationships, Stages of Sexual Development, and more. Fostering an environment of trust and security using relationship agreements so partners can work through vulnerable topics without fear of disconnection.“The Art Of We” podcast with Krista Van Derveer and Dr. Will Van Derveer.(00:00) - Creating safety and security in relationships(01:56) - Addressing fears stemming from “how do...
2024-09-1237 minThe Art of We97. Q&A: Help! My Husband Keeps Bringing Up The Past (And Won't Let It Go)Is there an issue from the past that keeps coming up? Or an ongoing conflict that can’t seem to get resolved? In this episode we explore effective approaches for couples seeking to resolve long standing issues and conflicts that resurface over time. We share our advice to a couple who is struggling with an incident that happened over 20 years ago, and also share an example of where we personally got stuck in our own marriage, related to our wedding date, and how we finally came to clarity.“The Art Of We” podcast with Krista Van Derveer and Dr...
2024-09-0525 minThe Art of We96. Household Cleanliness Conflicts? This One’s For You!Do one of you like your home clean and organized but the other could care less? Does the majority of household clean up fall on one of you, while the other is mostly contributing to the mess? If you and your partner have conflicts around differences in cleanliness standards at home, this episode is for you! We share our own struggles in this area and what we’ve done to become more aligned in keeping a household environment that feels good to both of us. We offer insights to help couples navigate and resolve conflicts over cleanliness and organization in...
2024-08-2924 minThe Art of We95. How Committed Relationship Can Unlock Your Greatest PotentialHave you ever wondered how to create a partnership that’s a vehicle for your greatest potential? Or struggled to create a partnership that can grow beyond the sum parts of the traumas, challenges or wounds that you and your partner bring into the relationship? In this episode Krista and Will share how they are using their relationship to explicitly bring one another into greater sovereignty, wholeness and capacity to reach each of their potentials. “The Art Of We” podcast with Krista Van Derveer and Dr. Will Van Derveer.(00:00) - The Struggle with Authentic Self-Expression And His...
2024-08-2229 minThe Art of We94. How To Prioritize Your Sex Life (And Why You Must)Is your sex life taking a back seat due to a busy schedule? Tune in to discover how and why to prioritize physical intimacy, with our personal tips and tricks to keep it at the top of your to-do list. We'll also share the psychological, physical, and emotional benefits of prioritizing your sex life, especially for mission-driven couples. Plus, hear about our relationship agreement that keeps us on track!“The Art Of We” podcast with Krista Van Derveer and Dr. Will Van Derveer.(00:00) - Prioritizing your sex life & defining “sex life”(02:04) - The key mind...
2024-08-1535 minThe Art of We93. Our Game-Changing Connection Exercise (35 Min or Less!)Do you crave a deeper connection with your partner but don’t know how in the face of super busy lives and schedules? Listen in to hear about a transformative daily connection exercise that has significantly deepened our connection in the face of crazy-busy lives. By prioritizing emotional intimacy and mindful listening, we’ve found this short but consistent practice minimizes conflicts and strengthens bonds. Discover how to bring more depth and connection into your relationship with this practical, heartfelt tool. Tune in to learn the steps and experience the profound impact it can have on your partn...
2024-08-0823 minThe Art of We90. Relationship Ultimatum: When & How To Give OneGiving ultimatums in relationships is a serious, but sometimes necessary, decision. In this episode we explore the circumstances under which an ultimatum might be the right move, how to thoughtfully prepare for delivering one, and the importance of being clear and committed when standing up for your needs. Dr. Will shares his personal experience of giving an ultimatum in his first marriage and the transformative journey that followed. The discussion highlights the balance between supporting a partner's success and ensuring your own needs are met.00:00 - Introduction to ultimatums in relationships02:32 - Identifying when to...
2024-07-1832 minThe Art of We87. Addressing The Impact Of Tech Or Work AddictionAs mission-based people, it’s culturally acceptable to constantly be tethered to our phones, but what happens when being at the beck and call of our business gets in the way of authentic and deep connection? In this episode, we explore the impact that technology overuse has on our relationship and work on crafting a new agreement about using our phones after working hours. Since starting the Integrative Psychiatry Institute in 2018, we’ve largely been in startup mode. Now that the team is built out and there’s more operational support, it’s not solely on Will to put ou...
2024-06-2026 minThe Art of We86. Krista’s Secret Dating Strategy (That Led To Meeting Will)Krista Van Derveer shares her journey of being single and looking for a partnership before she met Will. You’ll hear her unique approach on finding love after loss, preparing for a new relationship, navigating the dating world, and her secret relationship practices that helped her weed out incompatible partners to find a partner (Will!) that had similar relationship goals and also stood for an extraordinary kind of long-term relationship. If you’re single and looking for a relationship or you want to elevate your current relationship, this episode is for you!00:00 - Unique approaches to ca...
2024-06-1335 minThe Art of We85. How Will “Called In” Our RelationshipWill shares his journey of waking up on his 40th birthday realizing he didn’t have the kind of relationship he really wanted, and what he uniquely did to eventually call-in his next partner (Krista!) and co-create the kind of partnership they have today. Whether you're single and searching or looking to elevate your current relationship, this episode offers valuable insights and useful advice.Topics Covered:Getting Honest: Will's 40th birthday epiphany about wanting a secure-functioning, interdependent relationship.Defining Your Ideal Relationship: Will shares how he clarified and envisioned the specific kind of partnership he wanted.Do...
2024-06-0631 minThe Art of We83. Why You Shouldn’t Love Your Partner Exactly The Way They AreDr. Will and Krista Van Derveer discuss why loving a partner exactly the way they are may not be compatible with growth and support in a relationship. They argue that unconditional love can become a cop-out for not truly supporting one another to step into their greatest potential, and that growth as a couple requires the willingness to acknowledge and address blind spots together. Listen in to hear about:The importance of challenging each other to grow and expandWhere couples get stuck in their partnershipCreating the context in relationship to support each other to see blind s...
2024-05-2324 minThe Art of We82. Questions From Oprah – Candid Q&A For CouplesJoin us as we explore Oprah's '110 Relationship-Boosting Questions for Couples,' asking each other spontaneous questions that not only led to unexpected insights for us as a couple but also highlighted areas where we need to gain deeper clarity in our intimate partnership.We get into topics such as:Is there such a thing as a “harmless” lie?How organized glasses in cupboards helps our relationshipLearning to speak more straight and maintain positive impactVampires vs werewolvesDoes commitment lead to more or less freedom?This relationship podcast episode with Krista Van Derveer and Dr. Will...
2024-05-1629 minThe Art of We80. When Couples Can’t Stop ArguingDo you ever get stuck arguing a TON? Or “processing” issues all the time as a couple? If so, this episode is for you! Listen in for strategies to break the cycle of conflict, hear Krista and Will’s personal experiences, and learn practical tools and techniques to disrupt the arguing and to foster better communication and understanding.[0:00] - Conflict “quality” in relationships[0:55] - Hosts personal experiences[1:07] - Pain points in conflicts and advanced communication skills[6:12] - Relationship agreements for successful outcomes[7:23] - Strategies for dealing with emotional hijacking[10:2...
2024-05-0232 minThe Art of We79. Duplicitous Lives? Our Take on “Dr. Death” & Andrew Huberman - Pt 2In Part 2/2 of this series, we dive into the shadows cast by public figures accused of leading double lives, including the likes of "Dr. Death" Paulo Macchiarini and podcaster Andrew Huberman. This episode unpacks the intricate dance of deceit and the personal ramifications of their alleged duplicity.In this episode, we explore:Our immediate reactions and predictions following recent revelations about Andrew Huberman’s personal affairsThe often unrealistic standards of perfection imposed on public figuresOur collective human curiosity about the private lives of celebritiesThe debate over the level of responsibility public figures should bearThe balance between re...
2024-04-2522 min
Shrink Rap Radio#889 Will Van Derveer MD on the future of psychedelic-assisted psychotherapyBio
Will Van Derveer, MD is co-founder of the Integrative Psychiatry Institute, which offers comprehensive training for mental health professionals in psychedelic-assisted psychotherapy and other continuing education programs. He is medical director of Integrative Psychiatry Center of Boulder, CO, providing integrative psychiatry for a broad range of conditions and ketamine-assisted psychotherapy for treatment-resistant depression and PTSD. In addition to his clinical practice and teaching, he has been involved with several studies sponsored by MAPS, investigating MDMA-assisted psychotherapy for chronic, treatment-resistant PTSD, a breakthrough treatment which could be approved in late 2024 by FDA. Dr. Van Derveer earned his M.D. from...
2024-04-2400 minThe Art of We77. Sleep In Separate Bedrooms?To sleep or not to sleep together? Celebrity couples like Cameron Diaz, and supposedly the Beckhams, are coming out about sleeping in separate bedrooms. On this episode of “The Art of We” we share our take on the benefits and drawbacks of both scenarios, and address the narrative that there’s something wrong in the relationship if couples are sleeping separately.Given the importance of sleep for our health, wellbeing, and capacity to connect with others, we take sleep very seriously over here in the Van Derveer household. You’ll hear how we’ve navigated our sleeping arrangemen...
2024-04-1125 minThe Art of We76. A "We" Definition That's A Relationship Game ChangerThis definition of the “We” elevates partnership beyond the conventional. Listen in to hear a conversation between us, Krista and Dr. Will, that frames how we view our relationship such that we more quickly can make decisions, work as a team, and operate at higher levels of functioning. In episode 76 we revisit a fundamental concept of “The Art Of We.” You’ll hear personal anecdotes and professional insights to illustrate the power of embracing the 'We' in relationships. We dive into the creation of a third entity (the “We”) that emerges from the union of two individuals, a concept that...
2024-04-0426 minThe Art of We75. Example Of Us Working Through Conflict (In Real Time)In this episode, Dr. Will and Krista Van Derveer work through a challenge in real-time, sharing a raw and unscripted exploration of navigating work-from-home challenges. Without the safety net of rehearsals or preparations, listeners are granted an intimate glimpse into the dynamics of how they work through conflict while standing for both individual needs and collective harmony.Faced with the adjustments of working from home more frequently due to their business partner’s paternity leave, Will and Krista confront the complexities of sharing their suddenly all-too-close quarters. Their candid discussion revolves around an innovative agreement aimed at gr...
2024-03-2827 minThe Art of We74. Addressing Passive-Aggressive CommentsAddressing passive-aggressive comments like a ninja is highly satisfying. It can stop the aggressor in their shoes and wake them up to the impact they’re having. Most passive aggressive comments are simply unskilled communications of negative feelings. By directly and neutrally addressing passive aggressiveness, we can support each other to grow as human beings. In episode 74 of the Art of We podcast, we get into the nuanced terrain of passive aggressiveness, in both personal and professional relationships. Dr. Will and Krista Van Derveer discuss its subtle nature and how it can operate under a veneer of pol...
2024-03-2127 minThe Art of We73. The Crucial Role of Your Relationship in Achieving Personal SuccessIn episode 73 of "The Art of We" podcast, hosts Krista and Dr. Will Van Derveer explore the concept that when individuals are genuinely supported within their partnerships, they unlock a unique level of potential that can be a pivotal foundation for personal growth and achieving one's greatest successes, and that transcends an individual’s mere high-functioning ability. They illuminate how the patterns and beliefs instilled in us from childhood carry over into our adult lives, influencing our intimate relationships. By challenging and supporting each other to confront and heal from past relational injuries, partners can achieve a lev...
2024-03-1425 minThe Art of We72. Conscious Relationship EndingsIn episode 72 of the Art of We podcast, Dr. Will and Krista Van Derveer explore the value of conscious relationship endings, offering a transformative perspective on closure. This conversation not only equips listeners with strategies for achieving closure but also highlights the significance of embracing endings as a gateway to greater alignment with one’s true path.The hosts share their personal experiences with relationship endings, including uncommon conversations and reflective questions, acknowledging the gifts and lessons learned, and the power of ritual for emotional release and letting go. Listeners are encouraged to see the end of a...
2024-03-0733 minThe Art of We71. Navigating An Introvert-Extrovert PartnershipIn episode 71 of The Art of We podcast, Dr. Will and Krista Van Derveer share the challenges they encounter in their partnership with one person being an introvert and one being an extrovert. The differences in social needs can be a source of hardship when left unaddressed, however when there’s deeper understanding and collaboration, these differences can turn into a solid source of connection.Listen in to learn about the nuances of introverted and extroverted behaviors, including how to navigate as a couple, the tendency for introverts to need more alone time to recharge and process ex...
2024-02-2928 minThe Art of We70. Relational Trauma From Past RelationshipsIn episode 70 of the Art of We podcast, Dr. Will and Krista Van Derveer dive into the nuanced world of relational trauma, exploring how past traumas from previous relationships can manifest and affect current relationships. This episode offers deep insights into the nature of relational trauma, the impact of unhealed scars on one's sense of self, and the patterns that emerge as a cry for attention and healing.The Van Derveers discuss the spectrum of relational traumas, from minor misunderstandings to severe cases of abuse, emphasizing the significance of a compassionate and curious approach towards these patterns...
2024-02-2222 minThe Art of We69. Codependency Vs InterdependencyIn episode 69 of the Art of We podcast, hosts Krista and Dr. Will Van Derveer focus on the critical distinctions between codependency and interdependency. The conversation highlights how codependency often stems from good intentions but leads to disempowerment and stuckness within relationships, especially when one partner enables the other.By contrast, interdependency is presented as a healthier model that fosters mutual responsibility, freedom, and empowerment, supporting a more evolved partnership. Through personal anecdotes and theoretical insights, the hosts explore how individuals can inadvertently fall into patterns of distorted masculine and feminine energies, which contribute to the cycle...
2024-02-1530 minThe Art of We68. Fights About Driving StylesIn episode 68 of the Art of We podcast, hosts Krista and Dr. Will Van Derveer explore the complexities of driving together as a couple, a topic that brings challenges for many couples. They share their own personal challenges together, including how driving styles and passenger experiences can reveal deeper dynamics in relationships, highlighting the importance of communication and understanding. The Van Derveers share their concept of "we driving," a collaborative approach aimed at making both the driver and passenger comfortable. They stress the significance of signaling intentions and adjustments in driving habits to accommodate each other's comfort l...
2024-02-0829 minThe Art of We67. Relationship Values vs AgreementsIn episode 67 of "The Art of We" podcast, hosts Krista and Dr. Will Van Derveer address a listener’s question about the difference between values and agreements in relationships. The hosts get into defining how values are used in different ways, and how to “operationalize” the values by turning them into agreements so they can actively live inside the partnership.The conversation extends to the broader theme of supporting each other's individual values within a relationship, such as differing interests in fitness or financial responsibility, and the potential for polarization and arguments in partnerships. The hosts share exampl...
2024-02-0117 minThe Art of We66. When A Partner Doesn't Keep Their AgreementsIn "The Art of We" Episode 66, hosts Dr. Will Van Derveer and Krista Van Derveer take a deep dive into the essence of relationship agreements. Building on the momentum from Episode 65, this discussion explores how couples can effectively create, sustain, and evolve their agreements, and specifically what happens when you make the agreements but then one or both of the partners don’t keep them. Navigating the complexities of commitments within a relationship, Dr. Will and Krista address common challenges couples face when agreements are broken or disregarded. They emphasize the importance of trust, learning, open communication, and...
2024-01-2524 minThe Art of We65. How To Create Your Own Relationship Agreements (For Intimate Partnerships)In episode 65 of "The Art of the Podcast," hosts Dr. Will Van Derveer and Krista Van Derveer share how to form relationship agreements in intimate partnerships, and the extraordinary kind of partnership that becomes possible when we move away from assumptions of how each other will behave and into mutually aligned agreements about how we do relationship together. The episode dives into specific examples of agreements and practices that the hosts have found beneficial in their own relationship. The hosts share three different types of agreements couples should consider for a healthy and secure relationship, including agreements t...
2024-01-1833 minThe Art of We64. Getting Real With Jayson Gaddis + Ellen BoederIn episode 64 of "The Art of We" podcast, hosts Dr. Will Van Derveer and Krista Van Derveer explore the intricate dynamics of conscious adult partnership with their dear friends and relationship experts Jayson Gaddis and Ellen Boeder. This deeply personal episode is a dialogue about viewing relationships as a growth path and the nuanced complexities of practicing secure functioning together.The discussion highlights the balance of individual needs within family dynamics, particularly the prioritization of partnership in the midst of parenting challenges. You’ll hear personal experiences and strategies in maintaining a healthy relationship and effective collaboration, bo...
2024-01-1147 minThe Art of We63. Setting A New Year “Partnership Theme”In episode 63 of “The Art of We Podcast”, hosts Krista and Dr. Will Van Derveer invite listeners to set a theme for their partnership this new year. Their second year creating a theme, they share the power behind a mutually agreed upon, fully aligned, “North Star” that’s different than goal setting but that sets the stage for the quality of life their “We” most needs in the coming year. You’ll hear how Krista and Dr. Will came up with their partnership theme for the year as well as how they plan to implement it. Unlike individual intent...
2024-01-0419 minThe Art of We62. Our “We” Goal Setting Process For The New YearWelcome to Episode 62 of "The Art of We" Podcast – a special episode marking the completion of our commitment to a full year of weekly episodes in 2023. In this episode we share how we will be reviewing this past year and our new and unique way of setting “We” Goals for this coming year. We introduce how we are tweaking our annual review process, which involves examining Demartini’s seven key areas of life – spiritual, health, financial, relationship, family, intellectual, and career. This reflective process helps us assess how well we met our goals, what lessons we learned, and identif...
2023-12-2824 minThe Art of We61. How To Love Your Partner Through The Holiday SeasonWelcome to Episode 61 of The Art of the Podcast! In this second-to-last episode of the year, Krista and Will delve into practical practices that can provide support to our partners during family gatherings and social events, especially during the darker time of the year. Released on the solstice, this episode aims to bring more light into your relationships during the festive season.You’ll hear specific practices that Krista and Will have found effective in navigating stress and triggers during the holiday season. From pre-planning for events to understanding our partner’s subtle stress signals, their practical tips...
2023-12-2131 minThe Art of We60. Purpose + Purposeful ActionIn this podcast episode, Dr. Will Van Derveer and Krista Van Derveer engage in a thoughtful discussion on the topics of purpose and purposeful action. Driven by their experiences, they highlight the energetic difference between purposeful action, where one consciously moves toward significant goals, and non-purposeful action, characterized by a sense of tension, anxiety, and purposelessness. They draw parallels between their insights in a business context and the dynamics within their relationship, emphasizing the role of purpose in fostering a sense of order and fulfillment .As they reflect on the end of the year, they explore the i...
2023-12-1421 minThe Art of We59. Gambling Everything For Love (Marriage Vow)In Episode 59 of The Art of We Podcast, hosts Dr. Will and Krista Van Derveer delve into the theme of "Gambling Everything for Love." In this podcast episode, the hosts explore how this commitment (which they turned into a wedding vow) represents the fullest expression of limitless possibilities in a relationship. By risking old survival strategies that may hinder genuine connection, the hosts emphasize the importance of taking bold steps for the type of love they aspire to. The hosts reflect on their individual journeys towards seeking secure functioning partnerships, and the concept of not knowing what k...
2023-12-0728 minThe Art of We58. Supporting Each Other’s Greatest Expression (Marriage Vow)In Episode 58 of the Art of We podcast, Dr. Will and Krista Van Derveer delve into another foundational agreement turned vow in their relationship. Join them as they explore the nuances of supporting each other's greatest expression and the pivotal role it plays in their partnership. The hosts share personal experiences, emphasizing the necessity of a secure home base for authentic expression and the impact of mutual support on their professional endeavors.Dr. Will and Krista underscore the value of recognizing and addressing blind spots together, fostering growth and finding possibility, especially when it’s hard. They di...
2023-11-3029 minThe Art of We57. Facing Loneliness This Time Of YearIn episode 57 of the "Art of We" podcast, hosts Krista and Dr. Will Van Derveer discuss the epidemic of loneliness and isolation, particularly during the darker and colder days of the year. They emphasize the importance of normalizing these feelings and acknowledge that even individuals in strong partnerships or with supportive communities often experience a version of loneliness. Dr. Will speculates on the biological and societal factors contributing to seasonal loneliness. Krista shares statistics from the US Surgeon General of 2023, highlighting the significant health risks associated with social isolation.The hosts explore various strategies to c...
2023-11-2328 minThe Art of We56. WeOS: Optimizing Relationships At WorkIn episode 56 of the "Art of We" podcast, hosts Krista and Dr. Will Van Derveer delve into the intricate relationship between personal and professional growth and what can be possible inside professional relationships that have varying hierarchical structures or power dynamics. They revisit Stan Taktin’s concept of "secure functioning" and introduce their We Operating System (WeOS), a framework influenced by neuroscience, The Collaborative Way, and growth mindsets. The hosts unpack three crucial elements for fostering optimal relationships in hierarchical settings, emphasizing the integration of personal and professional development, establishing collaborative agreements, and embracing a progress-over-perfection mindset.
2023-11-1623 minThe Art of We55. Will’s “Me to We” Transition As A Business LeaderIn this episode of "The Art of We," Dr. Will Van Derveer and Krista Van Derveer delve into the fascinating journey of transitioning from a "me-first" mindset to a "we-focused" perspective in both personal and professional leadership. Dr. Will shares his evolution from a solo psychiatrist to a leader in a large organization, highlighting the challenges and insights gained along the way.Episode Highlights:Introduction (0:00 - 0:57)Interviewing Dr. Will and the episode's focus on his journey from a solo practitioner to a leader in a large organization.Evolution from Solo Practitioner (0:57 - 6:27)
2023-11-0928 minThe Art of We54. Why You Need Relationship Agreements At Home + At WorkWelcome to Episode 54 of "The Art of We" podcast. In this episode, we explore two essential aspects why agreements are vital for the success of relationships, both at home and in the workplace. Too often, we only focus on what we need to “do” to accomplish our goals, rather than understanding the security of our relationships is an essential part to accomplishing our goals. Relationship agreements help build this security and create a very strong competitive advantage. Picture a treacherous, winding mountain road without guardrails. A relationship without agreements can be similar. It's a journey with many unkno...
2023-11-0215 minThe Art of We53. Choosing The Right Business PartnerIn episode 53, Dr. Will Van Derveer and Krista Van Derveer dive deep into the complexities of selecting the right business partner. They embark on a journey through the early stages of forming a business partnership or co-founder relationship, offering valuable insights and wisdom that go beyond conventional advice found online.The episode begins by likening the initial partnership discussions to a dating experience. Dr. Will and Krista share essential questions to ask potential partners, such as inquiring about past partnership experiences, conflict resolution methods, and the reasons behind not being in previous partnerships. They underscore the importance...
2023-10-2631 minThe Art of We52. Why You Want A "Secure Functioning" Business PartnershipIn Episode 52 of "The Art of We Podcast," Krista and Dr. Will Van Derveer delve into the vital concept of secure functioning within the realm of business partnerships. Listen in to explore how secure functioning applies not only to personal relationships but also to the world of business. The key assertion is that the health, security and success of the business partnership is directly correlated with the health, security and success of the business. Secure functioning comprises three crucial phases in any relationship: feeling connected, navigating ruptures or disconnections, and actively repairing these disconnections. Krista and Will e...
2023-10-1926 minThe Art of We51. Secure Attachment vs Secure Functioning In PartnershipsWelcome to The Art of We podcast, Episode 51, where we delve into the intricacies of adult relationships, exploring the concept of attachment styles and adult functioning. Dr. Will Van Derveer and Krista Van Derveer, your hosts, embark on a journey to clarify these terms and provide valuable insights to help you navigate your relationships.Attachment styles, often linked to our early childhood experiences with caregivers, can shape how we relate to others as adults. There are two primary categories: secure and insecure attachment patterns. Secure functioning, on the other hand, pertains to how adults interact with each...
2023-10-1219 minThe Art of We50. When Partners Have Different Approaches To AgingWelcome to episode 50! In line with Krista turning 50 next year, we are exploring divergent perspectives around big life experiences, such as aging, and the importance of these conversations in order to stay deeply connected and aligned as a couple. Using Peter Attia’s work to guide our exploration of health, we share the conscious and subconscious perspectives that we hold onto as we age. Krista illustrates how being inspired by Will’s commitment to health has revealed potential discrepancies about how we hold aging and what that can indicate for the future of our “We.” Unaddressed...
2023-10-0529 minThe Art of We49. Staying Connected While ApartSomething that we continue to learn about trips spent away from the other partner is how to stay connected and improve transitions. In line with this episode, Krista is hosting solo (while Will is traveling) and explores what she and Will are learning about each other when time is spent apart, and how to really care for each other when they come back together to avoid potential rupture. Krista shares three agreements she and Will have created for comings & goings (shorter travel) and longer forms of separation to help them stay connected, secure, and present in both t...
2023-09-2819 minThe Art of We48. Harnessing The Gifts Of Loss + DeathTrigger Warning: Discussion of death at 5:41–8:09This is a special edition podcast episode: Eight years ago — on the exact day we recorded this episode — Krista’s previous partner to Will suddenly died. While we tend to think about loss and grief as negative experiences, we don’t always think about the richness or gifts that can be relieved through the process. In this episode, we explore Krista’s loss and lessons from eight years of distance, but also, how grief can serve as an unexpected doorway to our next greatest calling. Krista shares how a deep loss and...
2023-09-2126 minThe Art of We47. When One Partner Has Low Grade DepressionWhen one partner shows signs of low grade depression, it can sometimes be hard to know how to effectively provide support. If left unaddressed, not only is there an “elephant in the room” but it also can leave unintended negative impacts on the relationship. Often, depression can be viewed as a “problem” that’s usually left up to the person who is experiencing the depression to figure out how to overcome it. Our view is that this approach is ineffective. In this episode we share a myriad of perspectives, causes, and solutions to support the couple to effectively navigate when one p...
2023-09-1436 minThe Art of We46. This Simple Shift Expands Our Access To PleasureGetting external support helps to take our connection and intimacy to the next level. In this episode, we recap our session with Somatic Sex Educator and Certified Sexological Bodyworker, Alyssa Morin. We share why we decided to book a session with Alyssa and disclose a key takeaway that’s created a big positive shift in our physical connection. We discuss our relationship to certain aspects of touch, as well as shared and individual challenges we face around pleasure, touch, and cultural and gender programming. Plus, Krista details takeaways from an experience with The Verdant Collective, a sex edu...
2023-09-0731 minThe Art of We42. When One Partner Has An Exit RouteIn a relationship, one partner may have an exit route, an external or internal dialogue that creates a one-sided connection. In our past relationships, backdoor exits were unilateral and not navigated together — instead, insecurity, blaming, and a dysregulated nervous system led the way. Everyone’s situation is different, but for us, making the choice to have each other’s backs and take a leap of faith to show vulnerable parts of ourselves allows a deeper sense of security in our relationship to form. In this episode, we discuss backdoor exit routes and how they can show up implici...
2023-08-1023 minThe Art of We41. When To Have Difficult Conversations With Your Family Of OriginFor some of us, deciding when to address unresolved issues with our family of origin can be confusing. Many people choose not to directly address issues so as to not stir the pot. Other people go as far as doing family therapy as adults with their aging parents and other family members. For us, we find it helpful to get clear about the purpose or what we want to accomplish with our family members to help us decide which topics to address and which to leave as water under the bridge, so to speak.When navigating the...
2023-08-0326 minThe Art of We32. Celebrating Birthdays: 3 Lessons For SuccessThere are a lot of complexities for many people when it comes to birthdays, most of which don’t have anything to do with getting older. In this solo episode, Krista shares how she and Will approach birthdays as a couple and support each other in having meaningful celebrations. Childhood imprinting can deeply impact your birthday experience if those unconscious filters and perspectives go unchecked. You might not realize you’re carrying around disappointment from decades ago, but there are three key ways to discover and articulate what makes you feel loved on your birthday. Nothin...
2023-06-0114 minThe Art of We26. What Makes A "Power Couple"A power couple is fueled by two things: their love for each other and their internal drive to make a difference in the world. In this episode, we unpack our interpretation of what a power couple is, share questions that can help you determine whether you’re in a power partnership, and also explore ideas about how to get there. We've created the kind of partnership that we both dreamed was possible, but that doesn’t mean we’re standing on a power couple podium with a trophy in our hands. It requires a recommitment to the practic...
2023-04-2025 minThe Art of We25. Should I Stay Or Should I Go? Navigating This Hard QuestionWhen you’re asking yourself if you should stay in a relationship or leave it behind, it can feel painful and confusing, even heartbreaking. In our previous relationships, we grappled with this dilemma a lot and dealt with it in different ways. There are various scenarios that might lead you to question the future of your partnership, and in this episode, we share how we navigated that period of our lives and questions to help guide you through it if you find yourself there now. Maybe you’re in a situation where abuse is present, or infidelity, or pe...
2023-04-1328 minThe Art of We22. Tech Addiction: When Your Partner Can't Put It DownAs mission-based people, it’s culturally acceptable to constantly be tethered to our phones, but what happens when being at the beck and call of our business gets in the way of authentic and deep connection? In this episode, we explore the impact that technology overuse has on our relationship and work on crafting a new agreement about using our phones after working hours. Since starting the Integrative Psychiatry Institute in 2018, we’ve largely been in startup mode. Now that the team is built out and there’s more operational support, it’s not solely on Will to put ou...
2023-03-2326 minThe Art of We18. Psychedelic Therapy + CouplesThe rise of psychedelic-assisted therapy marks a new phase in mental health care, but the modality is wrapped up in layers of misinformation and stigma. After Will joined the Multidisciplinary Association for Psychedelic Studies as a study physician, our understanding of psychedelic therapy completely shifted. In this episode, we discuss the impactful results of key clinical trials and what the future of psychedelic therapy looks like based on where we are today, particularly as it relates to FDA approval. We also dig into how psychedelic therapy for couples can open up the possibility for resolving conflict, increasing i...
2023-02-2329 minThe Art of We16. "How To Build A Sex Room" Netflix Series ReviewThe Netflix series called “How to Build a Sex Room” is sparking conversations for us around sex, sensuality, and pleasure. In this episode, we share our review of the series and unpack topics including deprogramming cultural norms, why a sex room could be supportive in a partnership, the conversations many couples don’t have, and personal shares of what we’re doing to expand our expression of authentic desire in the bedroom. “How to Build a Sex Room” features couples who turn to interior designer Melanie Rose to co-create a sacred sex space in their home. On the show, you...
2023-02-0933 minThe Art of We15. How We Protect Each Other (Even From Ourselves)Our agreement to “protect each other in public and in private, even from ourselves,” helps us experience higher levels of trust and security in our partnership. This commitment requires that we examine less conscious behaviors and patterns that can easily slip under the radar and create undesirable impacts on our “We.” In this episode, we discuss what this looks like in practice and why it’s so important for us. Have you ever heard someone complaining or putting their partner down, even if in a joking way? Not only is it uncomfortable to witness, but it also reveals wher...
2023-02-0228 minThe Art of We14. Handling External Distractions + Shiny ObjectsWhen outside situations or people become a source of distraction to one of the partners in a relationship, or poses a threat to the connection of the two partners, we often refer to this as an ‘unmanaged third.’ When left unattended, it can be a major catalyst for causing rupture and disconnection. In our conversation, we illustrate some examples of unmanaged thirds in our dynamic and how we deal with them together as a team so that we can build more security in our partnership.With unmanaged thirds, it’s all about coming back into sovereignty, rather than l...
2023-01-2631 minThe Art of We13. The Power of Assuming Positive Intent (When Negatively Impacted)When someone says or does something that negatively impacts you, what’s your default assumption about their intention? It’s hard to assume positive intent when you feel triggered, but committing to that as a practice is an opportunity for taking greater leadership in relationship.We’ve made it a vow to practice getting into each other’s worlds around impact and intention, and in today's episode, we explore what that looks like for us and how you can apply it to your relationships. We break down a couple of scenarios to illustrate how we gain stre...
2023-01-1926 minThe Art of We12. How We Align When We Don't AgreeIt’s essential to find true alignment in decision making when operating from ‘the We’ perspective, whether it's intimate or business, to help us accomplish our goals, stay on track with our mission, and develop a deeper connection with each other. And, it’s not always easy!In this episode, we discuss our agreement to put ‘the We’ first when making decisions and work through an example of what we do when we aren’t in agreement about how to move forward. There’s an elevated level of autonomy when we’re making decisions together. By operating in “th...
2023-01-1230 minThe Art of We11. Stopping Repetitive Patterns From ChildhoodWe’ve found that getting stuck in our familiar victim mindset patterns often stops us from achieving the goals and desires that we deeply hold in our hearts. So, what can we do from a psychological perspective to get out of our own way? In this episode, we share the different tools and modalities that we personally use to address challenging imprints from childhood that can cause unwanted results. We’ve found that doing this victim mentality healing inside of a partnership is especially helpful for discovering blindspots and unconscious behaviors. We all hold core stories about who w...
2023-01-0536 minThe Art of We10. Having Faith + Trusting DesireWhat do you do when your core connection and trust in your desire is called into question? We’ve all had experiences that have rocked our foundations, perhaps the loss of a loved one, an unwelcome career change, or in our case recently, the unexpected damage and demolition of our dream home. In this episode, we explore the idea of faith in the spiritual context and discuss what we do when we’re feeling disconnected from that higher power. In previous episodes, we’ve mentioned the lengthy remodel we did on our house this past year. The whole p...
2022-12-2926 minThe Art of We9. Creating Meaningful Visions TogetherOne of the foundational elements for us as individuals and within our relationship is to take a stand for our mission and vision. In this episode, we explore the long-term goals that we have for our careers and marriage. There’s a deep emotional commitment required for making your dreams come true. That drive often directs your action, communication, and mindset. Since we opened the Integrative Psychiatry Institute four years ago, we’ve been focused on scaling in a way that doesn't sacrifice quality. Within our personal lives, our anchor has been the vision for our securely-attached, missi...
2022-12-2227 minThe Art of We8. Top-Shelf Listening (+ Our Edgy Example)One of the greatest gifts we can give somebody is to generously listen to them. When we tune in for the contribution, value, or lesson of what someone is saying, we create a new level of commitment and presence.So often, people compose their responses while the other person is talking. Instead of listening with curiosity and intention, we put up unconscious filters and get distracted. By practicing generous listening, you can open up more possibilities and deeper understanding in your conversations. In this episode, we work through a live example of an emotionally-charged topic to demonstrate...
2022-12-1532 minThe Art of We7. "Skin Time" + Our Routines For ConnectionOur comings and goings were some of the most challenging moments in our relationship, so it's really important for us to have a moment of actual contact and presence with each other before we leave each other. And when we come together, when we re-dock, we intentionally have a moment of actual presence, setting everything else aside. In this episode, we talk with you about things that help us stay connected and move things forward in our lives. We discuss how we achieve and maintain this depth of connection that we're accustomed to and that we have come to e...
2022-12-0930 minThe Art of We6. A Unique Definition of "We"In the episode, we break down our interpretation of “the We” and how we hold it. This concept really helps us show up as better partners, stay grounded in our vows, and bring things forward that we might not expect. We share what it looks like to take mutual responsibility for the health of our connection and provide examples of how we use “the We” perspective in other relationships besides our marriage and business partnership. This practice gives us the chance to look at situations from a bird’s eye view, especially when we get caught up in...
2022-12-0122 minThe Art of We5. Being For Each Other's SuccessThe framework of our vows keeps us grounded and willing to engage in conversations that can be challenging or uncomfortable. In this episode, we explore our vow to live from the knowing that we both win from each other’s successes. We dive into the essence of being for each other's success, how we challenge and support each other to grow, and describe what this practice could look like in the workplace. The foundation of being for each other’s success requires really knowing your partner, their life goals, and your collaborative aspirations. We define what success means...
2022-11-2428 minThe Art of We4. Anxiety, Attachment Styles + BHAGsEverybody has attachment styles, and if we're not conscious of what they are, it can be really challenging to navigate relationships. In this episode, we break down the most common attachment styles and discuss some tools that can help reduce the root causes of anxiety. The ambivalent attached person is more concerned about abandonment, and the avoidant person typically is more concerned about too much contact or invasion. We explore how we’ve created a sense of understanding and compassion around these very deep patterns that we experience. We share tools for how to come back together whe...
2022-11-1731 minThe Art of We3. When It's Hard to See PossibilityIn this episode, we discuss another agreement in our marriage that has had a profound impact on our partnership: commitment to always finding possibility. We dive into what it means to see possibility, examples of how we’ve navigated this agreement together, and ways to start exploring new solutions. Our early experiences often define our limitations and what we see as possible for our lives. We have a much harder time seeing our blinspots on our own or when we don’t have a commitment with another person to get out of that victim mindset. We illustrate what...
2022-11-1030 minThe Art of We2. Our Agreement About ConflictIt’s essential that we really slow down and take the time to care for the impact that we're having with each other, and care for the impact that people have on us. In this episode, we discuss how we practice abundant repair and share tools that help us fully resolve conflicts. In our relationship, we can count on each other that repair is going to happen when a rupture occurs. We describe what it’s like to feel held and supported while we work through periods of disconnection, and explain why these difficult moments are actually an op...
2022-11-1037 minThe Art of We1. This ONE Question Turned Our Partnership Into a Catalyst for ChangeWe’re Dr. Will and Krista Van Derveer, hosts of The Art of We. Thank you for joining us on our first episode as we share why we’re launching this show, a bit about our background, and what you can expect from future episodes. Since we went on our first date five years ago, we've started four businesses, one of them among the fastest-growing companies in the US. Together, we’re impacting thousands of lives through advanced educational programs and integrative medicine for mental health and psychedelic-assisted therapy. In today’s episode, we revisit the conver...
2022-11-1021 minThe Art of WeIntroducing The Art of WeAs a leader who deeply cares about your contribution and impact on the world, what if you were told that achieving the next level of success with your team, business and family won't be found through signing up for yet another training, expensive mastermind, or who's-who networking event. What if the key to your potential sits across from you at your breakfast table every morning?Krista Van Derveer and Dr. Will Van Derveer are husband and wife, business partners, and hosts of The Art of We, a podcast that explores how committed partnerships can be potent vehicles...
2022-10-1902 min
Podcast van Lot#25 Interview met Will van IwaardenIn deze aflevering kun je het interview terugluisteren van een onwijze powervrouw, die luistert naar de naam Will van Iwaarden.Will heeft een onwijs bijzonder verhaal mbt haar gezondheid. Een onwijs inspirerend verhaal, waarvan ik echt zou willen dat iedereen haar verhaal zou horen en zich laat inspireren door dit mooie verhaal!De oude Will was alleen maar bezig met haar eigen bedrijf, altijd maar aan het werk. Ze vergat hierbij om zichzelf op één te zetten, at hierdoor niet gezond, weinig beweging, veel stress, weinig slaap... tot ze op een dag getroffen werd door ee...
2021-06-3034 min
Evolving Earth Podcast#19 Dr. Will Van Derveer on Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy, Integrative Psychiatry & A Revolution in Mental Healthcare (Treating Depression & Anxiety with MDMA & Psychedelics)This week I interview Dr. Will Van Derveer, a groundbreaking physician who is rewriting our understanding of mental health and wellbeing.Dr. Will is the founder of Integrative Psychiatry Centers where he and his team use the most innovative treatments, including ketamine, to identify and address the root causes of mental illness. Dr. Will also runs the integrative Integrative Psychiatry Institute whose goal is to create and sustain a revolution in mental health and combat our mental health crisis by training physicians in an integrative approach. The Institute is currently training hundreds of psychiatrists in i...
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