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the virgin & the beesShould you stay or should you go?What are some common dating dealbreakers? Signs of a toxic and/or abusive relationship? How do you know whether to commit to a relationship or let go of it?
These are some core questions this episode revolves around and my ~attempt~ to answer them with help from some of the sources listed below :)
**Domestic Violence Hotline/Resources: www.thehotline.org**
Dealbreakers research study: https://phys.org/news/2022-03-partners-relationship-dealbreakers.html
When Is It Time to Leave a Relationship? (blog post by a LCSW): https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog...2023-06-2737 minthe virgin & the beesWhat Makes a Healthy Relationship?It's a big question! To get started, I polled listeners via the pod's Instagram asking what they think is key to healthy relationships. In this episode, I share these answers, as well as discuss some research and a healthy relationship model from world-renowned psychologists and researchers, the Gottmans.
Check us out on IG :) @thevirginandthebeespodcast
RESOURCES:
The Gottman Institute & The Sound House Relationship Model: https://www.gottman.com/about/the-gottman-method/
Sharing Fondness & Admiration: https://www.gottman.com/blog/share-fondness-and-admiration/
Turning Towards Bids: https://www.g...2023-05-2225 minthe virgin & the beesLooks Aren't Everything... Right?Hello lovely bees! This month's episode is about ~being perceived~ and how social media and the pandemic have impacted the way we view our bodies.
Thanks for tuning in and keep on buzzing!2023-04-1320 minthe virgin & the bees500 Days of Summer (Part 2): A Realistic Look at Love & Heartbreak We're back with Part 2 of our revisit of (500) Days of Summer.
This time, guest Sophia and I discuss:
how (and even if) the characters grow throughout the film
our thoughts on the film's take on love & rom-coms
the manic pixie dream girl
does Tom actually love Summer?
the villainization of people who want casual relationships
the bench scene
the ending
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You can watch a video version of this podcast on YouTube.
Sophia's YouTube: youtu.be/Hk9l7ta2hgY
Sophia's plant IG & TikTok: @sophiasgreengarden
We're on the 'gram too! @thevi...2023-01-1257 minthe virgin & the bees500 Days of Summer (Part 1): Relationships, Rejection, and the "Nice Guy" TropeMy childhood bestie Sophia and I revisit the thought-provoking movie (500) Days of Summer and discuss....
the roadblocks in Summer & Tom's relationship
the problem with the "nice guy" trope & how toxic masculinity presents in Tom
situations in which we reminded ourselves of Tom
situations in which we felt like Summer
rejection (and some of our experiences with it, on both sides)
the best character of the whole film... Tom's little sister!
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You can watch a video version of this podcast on YouTube (channel name: Zareena Evelina).
Sophia's YouTube: youtu.be/Hk9l7ta2hgY
Sophia's...2022-11-2650 minthe virgin & the beesRoe v Wade Overturned — What You Can DoLINKS/RESOURCES
Letter to Congress template
More info on the effects of overturning Roe v Wade
Resources for those seeking abortion
Donation Funds & Action Item Resources
The Judiciary Act of 2021
More info on reasons for the impeachment of Clarence Thomas & more on the political history of Clarence and Ginni Thomas2022-07-2412 min
the virgin & the beesThe Valentine's Day EpisodeHAPPY VALENTINE'S DAY! ❤️
Join us for a fun lil chat as guest Darcy and I reflect on Valentine's Day and share ideas of what to do if you're single, mindful reminders if you're in a relationship, and some of our previous Valentine's Day experiences.
Find the podcast on IG: @thevirginandthebeespodcast
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Find the podcast on IG ❤️ @thevirginandthebeespodcast
GETTING OVER SOMEONE PLAYLIST: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/4nblICaAYnje5nW2XCbaJL?si=0c9cc67fe64948ba2021-12-181h 02the virgin & the beespodcast tunes 🎶I made a playlist curated with songs that fit the vibe of the podcast!
Available on Spotify here2021-11-2001 minthe virgin & the beesDoes being ~bisexual~ impact your body image and the way you see yourself?In what ways can your body image shift when being intimate with different genders? What does it mean to "dress queer"? What are some pros and cons of labeling your sexual orientation? How can you respond to the question "who is the spoon and who is the fork?" when asked about a same-sex relationship? Tune in for a conversation exploring the intricate nature of these topics, as guest Bella and I dive into how our bisexuality has impacted our self perception and expression.
Thank you to Bella for joining us on today's episode! You...2021-11-0458 minthe virgin & the beesHookup Culture: The Good, The Bad, and Lessons LearnedWhat are people's honest thoughts about hookups? I separately interviewed six guests to find out! Listen in to hear about their experiences and lessons learned in navigating hookup culture.
🌻QUESTIONS
Q1: What has your experience been like navigating hookup culture? (2:37)
Q2: What have you learned about yourself? (13:33)
Q3: What advice do you have for others? (28:24)
Bonus Question: How has the pandemic affected dating for you and how have you handled it? (38:09)
🌸GUESTS (in order of appearance)
- Lauren (IG & YouTube...2021-10-2251 minthe virgin & the beesa little update (new episode coming soon)I took an unplanned hiatus but we're back baby! Stay tuned for a special episode coming out next week :)
Find the pod on IG & Pinterest: @thevirginandthebeespodcast 2021-10-1502 minthe virgin & the beesCan We Maybe Talk About People Pleasing If That's Alright With You?How does people pleasing affect dating, sex and relationships? How can you assert your boundaries in a way that’s comfortable for you? How can you find a healthy balance if you’re a people pleaser?
In the pod's 9th episode, sexpert (former UCSC SHOP educator) and Associate Marriage and Family Therapist, Carly Shaul, joins in again to continue our conversation from our previous episode "The Virginity Myth". In that episode, we discussed the complicated social construct of “virginity” and Carly shared how she coped with negative sexual experiences, which were intricately tied to people pleasing. This time, we...2021-05-2742 minthe virgin & the beesThe Virginity MythSociety places so much pressure on young people when it comes to "losing their v card" — but how much of this is helpful versus harmful? What even is virginity? Do we place too much importance on it? Do we have unrealistic expectations? What if your first time isn't a good time?
In this episode, I chat with sexpert (former UCSC SHOP educator) and Associate Marriage and Family Therapist, Carly Shaul, about how we define virginity and the impacts of purity culture. Carly also shares her "first time" experiences — reflecting on the intricate, complicated nature of teenage sex and...2021-05-141h 04the virgin & the beesBisexual Struggles (and the complexities of labeling yourself)In today's episode, I'm joined by fellow bisexual Lauren Van for a discussion on the complexities of labeling yourself and your sexual orientation, as well as some of the experiences and issues we've faced as bisexuals — including external & internalized biphobia, changing ratios, common misconceptions and more!
You can watch a video version of this podcast on YouTube (channel name: Zareena Evelina) and find studies/surveys mentioned in the video description.
Thank you Lauren for joining us today! You can find her on Instagram (@laurenvan_), TikTok (@caliherdaddy) and YouTube (@laurenvan_).
RELATED EP...2021-03-311h 12the virgin & the beesMindful Masturbation Part 2How can you bring mindful masturbation into your partnered sex life? What are some ways you can explore virtual intimacy if you can't physically be with your partner? What are some tips for mindfully consuming porn and making sure it plays a healthy role in your life?
We're back with PART 2 of "Mindful Masturbation" with Corinne Guichard, yoga instructor and sexpert (former editor-in-chief of UC Santa Barbara's SexInfoOnline), as we tackle the more external factors of mindful masturbation... porn and your partnered sex life.
You can watch a video version of this podcast on YouTube...2021-03-1152 minthe virgin & the beesMindful Masturbation Part 1Stronger orgasms, learning more about yourself, and developing a stronger sense of connectedness to your body, sexuality and spirit — these are just a few benefits of mindful masturbation! But how can you begin to incorporate mindfulness and yoga principles into your masturbation practices? What does that look like? Corinne Guichard, yoga instructor and sexpert (former editor-in-chief of UC Santa Barbara's SexInfoOnline), joins today's episode as we explore these questions!
PART 2 focuses on the more external factors of mindful masturbation... porn and your partnered sex life. You can listen here or find after this episode wherever you are lis...2021-02-251h 14the virgin & the beesTips for Navigating Dating AppsHow does dating even work during a pandemic? What are some best practices when it comes to dating apps like Tinder, Bumble and Hinge? Why do you sometimes have chemistry over text but not in real life?
Chelsea and I have spent 6+ years on dating apps and Chelsea is now engaged to a partner she met on Hinge. Together we share some of the good (and the bad) we've experienced on dating apps as we go through what makes a good profile, what photos you should use, messaging tips and tricks, how to secure a first date...2021-02-091h 15the virgin & the beesFiguring Out Your Sexuality for YourselfDo you actually like him or is it just aesthetic attraction? Are half of young people actually bi? In this episode, we take a look at some of the research on (as well as our own experiences of) compulsory heterosexuality and bi erasure. Today's guest, Darcy Bate, first shares her story of how she came to know she was a lesbian after years of navigating comp het. We then discuss what it means to be bisexual, the erasure of sexual identities, different types of attraction, and more!
You can watch a video version of this podcast on...2021-01-291h 19the virgin & the beesConsent in Relationships, Hookups, and Everything In BetweenWhat does healthy consent look like? What is its role in a committed, established relationship? In a hookup? In something in between? How does our society view and interpret consent and how can we move towards better understanding? Sexpert Nick Kludjian, former editor-in-chief of UCSB's SexInfoOnline, joins today's episode as we explore these questions!
DISCLAIMER/TW: We know that consent is closely tied to sexual harassment and rape culture. While we do not go into detail with these topics, we do briefly discuss them throughout as they are closely tied to consent.
You can watch a...2021-01-1551 minthe virgin & the beesBeing a Late Bloomer: What You Should Know Before Having SexWhat even is virginity? In this first episode of the virgin & the bees, we cover a lot of topics — from discussing what it's like to be a virgin in college amidst hookup culture (and having sex "late") — to some things you should know before sex like proper condom use, hymen facts, healthy mentalities, the myth that it's supposed to hurt the first time and more!
You can watch a video version of this podcast on YouTube (channel name: Zareena Evelina) and find sources for stats discussed in the video description.
Thank you to Lauren Van for jo...2020-12-291h 03the virgin & the beestrailer: introducing the virgin & the beesComing soon! Whether it be tackling the concept of virginity, navigating hookup culture, working on self-love, learning the ins-and-outs of female and male genitalia, chatting about dating and intimacy, discussing LGBTQ+ topics, or picking apart the culture of sl*t-shaming, we're sure to talk about it :)2020-11-2301 min