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Reimagining LoveFacing Estrangement? Ask Yourself These QuestionsThe decision to cut off a family member is a difficult one. Estrangement is an attempt to solve a painful, systemic relationship problem. This monumental move should be deeply considered, and my collectivist approach to therapy encourages being curious about and striving to understand how the different contexts our family members—epsecially those with a generational divide—grew up and live within can impact how we show up in our relationships. Without, of course, ever dismissing the very real trauma that can precede an estrangement.In this in-depth solo episode, I explore the dynamics of cut-offs, including what...
2024-10-011h 12Reimagining LoveFamily Dynamics: How to Maintain Your Voice and Your Connection with Your Family of Origin with Julia SamuelDr. Alexandra is joined by therapist and author Julia Samuel for a wide-spanning conversation about family systems, intergenerational healing, grief, and money.Order Dr. Alexandra's new book, Love Every Day:https://bookshop.org/p/books/love-every-day-365-relational-self-awareness-practices-to-help-your-relationship-heal-grow-and-thrive-alexandra-solomon/19970421?ean=9781683736530Every Family Has a Story: How We Inherit Love and Loss by Julia Samuel:https://bookshop.org/p/books/every-family-has-a-story-how-we-inherit-love-and-loss-julia-samuel/18378436?ean=9780385684392Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Submit a Listener Question:https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274
2023-11-0753 minReimagining LoveKids & Digital Wellness: Parenting in the Age of Screens with Dr. Devorah HeitnerDr. Devorah Heitner, an author and digital wellness expert, joins Dr. Alexandra for a conversation about parenting, technology, and the internet. As our world become more and more complex for kids of all ages, Dr. Heitner empowers parents to have conversations with their kids at all ages and stages, model healthy tech usage, and more.Order Dr. Alexandra's new book, Love Every Day:https://bookshop.org/p/books/love-every-day-365-relational-self-awareness-practices-to-help-your-relationship-heal-grow-and-thrive-alexandra-solomon/19970421?ean=9781683736530Growing Up in Public: Coming of Age in a Digital World by Devorah Heitner, PhD:https://bookshop.org/p/books...
2023-10-3152 minReimagining LoveDesire Differences: What to Do When You and Your Partner Have Mismatched Libidos with Dr. Lauren Fogel Mersy & Dr. Jennifer VencillIf you and your partner have a desire difference between you, you're not alone. In this episode, Dr. Alexandra is joined by guests Dr. Lauren Fogel Mersy and Dr. Jennifer Vencill for an honest and compassionate conversation about mismatched libidos and how partners can navigate this challenge as a team.Order Dr. Alexandra's new book, Love Every Day:https://bookshop.org/p/books/love-every-day-365-relational-self-awareness-practices-to-help-your-relationship-heal-grow-and-thrive-alexandra-solomon/19970421?ean=9781683736530Desire: An Inclusive Guide to Navigating Libido Differences in Relationships by Dr. Lauren Fogel Mersy & Dr. Jennifer Vencillhttps://drlaurenfogel.com/book/Subscribe...
2023-10-241h 05Reimagining LoveLove, Acceptance, & Growth: The Insights We Glean from Couples Therapy with Dr. Tracy DalgleishDr. Alexandra is joined by Dr. Tracy Dalgleish for a rich discussion about both of their new books, as well as the growth potential for couples when they engage in therapy and Relational Self-awareness.Order Dr. Tracy's new book, I Didn't Sign Up For This:https://bookshop.org/p/books/i-didn-t-sign-up-for-this-a-couples-therapist-shares-real-life-stories-of-breaking-patterns-and-finding-joy-in-relationships-including-her-o-tracy-dal/20082816?ean=9781683736622Order Dr. Alexandra's new book, Love Every Day:https://bookshop.org/p/books/love-every-day-365-relational-self-awareness-practices-to-help-your-relationship-heal-grow-and-thrive-alexandra-solomon/19970421?ean=9781683736530Dr. Tracy's podcast, I'm Not Your Shrink:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/love-acceptance-and-therapy-with-dr-alexandra-solomon/id1452433255?i=1000631102057Subscribe...
2023-10-1759 minReimagining LoveMy 9 Favorite Resentment-Busting StrategiesResentment is one of the most common yet debilitating emotional states we can find ourselves stuck in. In this solo episode, Dr. Alexandra normalizes the feeling of resentment and offers nine strategies that can help us get unstuck and begin to honor our own feelings and offer compassion to the people we love.Order Dr. Alexandra's new book, Love Every Day, available now:https://bookshop.org/p/books/love-every-day-365-relational-self-awareness-practices-to-help-your-relationship-heal-grow-and-thrive-alexandra-solomon/19970421?ean=9781683736530Episode #24 of Reimagining Love, 10 Essential Skills for Navigating Conflict:Part 1:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/reimagining-love/id1588419386...
2023-10-1059 minReimagining LoveNavigating Open Relationships: How to Create Agreements that Foster Security and Growth with Jessica Fern & David Cooley[CW: this episode contains mentions of suicidal ideation.] Intentional boundaries and thoughtful agreements help us ensure that our intimate partnerships are vehicles for growth, mutual support, and healing, especially for individuals and couples who are looking to create relationship agreements beyond monogamy to deepen their understanding of relationship dynamics. Today Dr. Alexandra is joined by Jessica Fern and David Cooley. They are life partners, coparents, and coauthors of the new book Polywise: A Deeper Dive Into Navigating Open Relationships. In this rich and challenging episode, you will learn about loving with greater care and awareness, whether you are someone...
2023-10-0355 minReimagining LoveHelp! My Kids Don't Want Me to Date!Blending families is messy. There are no hard and fast rules. Today's solo episode is devoted to one listener's question about dating and motherhood. The question's theme of intentionality, about modeling relationships with the kids and her healing journey is far from an isolated experience. There will be nuggets in this episode to savor and work with for separate conversations between the ex, the boyfriend, and the kids.Pre-order Dr. Alexandra's new book, Love Every Day, and register to receive free gifts after you order:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/loveeverydaybook/Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s...
2023-09-2655 minReimagining LoveIf They Wanted To, They WouldA phrase we've been hearing a lot lately, especially in the dating world, and I’m sure you have as well is “If they wanted to, they would.” In today's episode, Dr Solomon will look at the kinds of fears and beliefs that lead people to stick the “if they wanted to they would” label on a relationship dynamic. You'll also lean into what might be happening in a dynamic that would lead you to declare “if they wanted to, they would” and what else you might do besides stick this label on and walk away.Pre-order Dr. Alexandra...
2023-09-191h 03Reimagining LoveLet's Talk About "Sleep Divorces"We generally assume that long-term partners sleep in the same bed together. But for some couples, sleep issues or other concerns make it hard for two people to get a good night's rest. "Sleep divorces" are more common than you might think, but the stigma about them remains. In this episode, Dr. Alexandra shares tips for how to discuss sleeping arrangements with your partner.Pre-order Dr. Alexandra's new book, Love Every Day, and register to receive free gifts after you order:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/loveeverydaybook/Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:ht...
2023-09-1243 minReimagining LoveUnlocking Pleasure: How Imagination Can Empower and Reignite Us with Gina GutierrezGina Gutierrez, co-founder of the audio platform Dipsea, joins Dr. Alexandra for a conversation about sexuality, imagination, and empowerment. They discuss how audio erotica can help people— particularly women—reconnect with their pleasure and create a safe space for exploration with storytelling.Pre-order Dr. Alexandra's new book, Love Every Day, and register to receive free gifts after you order:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/loveeverydaybook/Use code LOVEPOD for a free month of Dipsea Audio Stories:https://www.dipseastories.com/LOVEPODWatch Gina's TED talk:https://www.ted.com/talk...
2023-09-0550 minReimagining LoveNavigating Life Transitions As a Couple: A Conversation With My Husband, ToddLife transitions are inevitable. For couples and families, these chapters offer unique challenges and opportunities. This fall, Dr. Alexandra and her husband, Todd, are experiencing a major change of their own, as they launch their youngest off to college and become "empty-nesters." They sat down together in the studio for a candid conversation about what this time is bringing up for them and how they plan to process and celebrate the beginning of this new chapter together.Pre-order Dr. Alexandra's new book, Love Every Day, and register to receive free gifts after you order:https...
2023-08-291h 05Reimagining LoveI Love Them, But I'm Not In Love With Them (Re-release)Has someone every said this phrase to you? Have you ever said it to someone else? In this re-release of a foundational episode, Dr. Alexandra explores why the statement "I love you, but I'm not in love with you" is so complicated and what might actually be lying beneath these words in the context of an intimate relationship.Pre-order Dr. Alexandra's new book, Love Every Day: 365 Relational Self-Awareness Practices To Help Your Relationship Heal, Grow, and Thrive:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/loveeverydaybook/Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/...
2023-08-2246 minReimagining LoveInviting a Reluctant Partner into Relationship Work (Re-release)Working to improve your relationship is hard enough, and when your partner is resistant to the idea of reflecting together, it can feel like you're doomed. In this re-release of a foundational episode, Dr. Alexandra explores this common conundrum and shares reminders for the enthusiastic partner who is ready to dive into Relational Self-Awareness work, as well as for the partner who may be feeling more reluctant for a number of reasons.A note: The podcast will be taking a break for the next two weeks and will return on August 22nd with another re-release episode!
2023-08-0148 minReimagining LoveFinding Your People: Navigating Friendships in Adulthood with Lane MooreLane Moore, the Author of "You Will Find Your People," joins Dr. Alexandra for a discussion about the joys and heartbreaks of friendship. Lane shares her impetus to write this thoughtful book, and the two discuss why some people might struggle more with friendship due to their upbringing or past experiences, and how they can create a community of people they love as adults.You Will Find Your People: How to Make Meaningful Friendships As an Adult by Lane Moore:https://bookshop.org/p/books/you-will-find-your-people-how-to-make-meaningful-friendships-as-an-adult-lane-moore/18699308?ean=9781419762567Pre-order Dr. Alexandra's new book, Love...
2023-07-2557 minReimagining LoveShould You Be Friends With Your Ex?When a relationship comes to a close, how do we decide for ourselves what kind of connection, if any, should remain between us and our former partner? In this episode, Dr. Alexandra explores the topic of friendship with exes and shares some helpful musings and questions for anyone who is hoping to gain clarity about what might serve them and their former partner best in this new uncharted chapter.Pre-order Dr. Alexandra's brand-new book, Love Every Day: 365 Relational Self-Awareness Practices To Help Your Relationship Heal, Grow, and Thrive:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/loveeverydaybook/Subscribe...
2023-07-1853 minReimagining LoveHealing from Collective Trauma: Marking the Anniversary of the Highland Park Shooting with Audrey GrunstDr. Alexandra sits down with Audrey Grunst, a therapist and crisis response expert, to honor the memory of the victims and survivors of the Highland Park Shooting, and to paint a picture of the circles of impact that devastating tragedies such as this one have on communities. Content warning: this episode contains discussions about gun violence, mass shootings, trauma, and recovery. If you're looking for ways to take action, please refer to the resources below as places to start:Moms Demand Action:https://momsdemandaction.org/act/Brady: United Against Gun Violence:...
2023-07-0456 minReimagining LoveEmbracing the Bittersweet: The Beauty of Longing and Impermanence with Susan CainSusan Cain, author of the world-renowned bestsellers "Bittersweet" and "Quiet," joins Dr. Alexandra for a conversation about how to honor the poignancy found in the transitional periods of our lives, whether we're launching our kids off into the world, grieving the end of a relationship, or growing old. They also discuss the ways in which the bittersweet impacts and enhances our intimate relationships.Bittersweet: How Sorrow and Longing Make Us Whole by Susan Cain:https://bookshop.org/p/books/bittersweet-how-sorrow-and-longing-make-us-whole-susan-cain/17375002?ean=9780451499783Take the "Bittersweet" Quiz:https://susancain.net/susans-bittersweet-quiz/...
2023-06-2752 minReimagining LoveBreaking Patterns & Moving Forward: The Science of Stuck with Britt FrankBritt Frank joins Dr. Alexandra for a conversation about "stuckness" in all its forms. We're all familiar with this feeling in some way or another, and in this episode, Britt offers listeners tools and takeaways to confront stuckness head on, so that we can face ourselves with honesty and learn the skills to carve healthier paths for ourselves in the future.The Science of Stuck: Breaking Through Inertia to Find Your Path Forward by Britt Frank:https://bookshop.org/p/books/the-science-of-stuck-breaking-through-inertia-to-find-your-path-forward-britt-frank/17210414?ean=9780593419441Get the brand new REIMAGINING LOVE WORKBOOK:https...
2023-06-2054 minReimagining LoveHow to Stop Overthinking Your Relationship: Tools for Progress & Peace with Alicia MuñozCycles of rumination and overthinking can be hard to break free from, and they can negatively impact us and our relationships. In this episode, therapist Alicia Muñoz joins Dr. Alexandra to address this common thought pattern and shares tools for how to slow down and release ourselves from this headspace.Stop Overthinking Your Relationship: Break the Cycle of Anxious Rumination to Nurture Love, Trust, and Connection with Your Partner by Alicia Muñoz:https://bookshop.org/p/books/stop-overthinking-your-relationship-break-the-cycle-of-anxious-rumination-to-nurture-love-trust-and-connection-with-your-partner-alicia-munoz/18078243?ean=9781648480034Alicia's website:https://aliciamunoz.com/Get the brand ne...
2023-06-1357 minReimagining LoveCultivating Contemplation: How Wonder Helps us Heal with Cole Arthur RileyDr. Alexandra is joined by the visionary writer and poet Cole Arthur Riley on this episode. They discuss Cole's book, "This Here Flesh: Spirituality, Liberation, and the Stories That Make Us," and explore topics of wonder, contemplation, disability, childhood, and much more.This Here Flesh: Spirituality, Liberation, and the Stories That Make Us by Cole Arthur Riley:https://bookshop.org/p/books/this-here-flesh-spirituality-liberation-and-the-stories-that-make-us-cole-arthur-riley/17122524?ean=9780593239797Black Liturgies, a project that integrates spiritual practice with Black emotion, Black literature, and the Black body:https://www.instagram.com/blackliturgies/Get the brand...
2023-06-0644 minReimagining LoveModern Family Values: How to Be the Parents We Want to Be in a Busy World with Dr Yael SchonbrunDr. Alexandra is joined by psychologist and author Dr. Yael Schonbrun for a hopeful and inspiring conversation about working parenthood. They discuss the challenges of balancing family and work life as well as strategies to help busy parents structure their lives in a way that works for their family and aligns with their values.Work, Parent, Thrive: 12 Science-Backed Strategies to Ditch Guilt, Manage Overwhelm, and Grow Connection by Dr. Yael Schonbrun:https://bookshop.org/p/books/work-parent-thrive-12-science-backed-strategies-to-ditch-guilt-manage-overwhelm-and-grow-connecti-on-when-everything-feels-like-too-mu-yael-schonbrun/18162992Get the brand new REIMAGINING LOVE WORKBOOK:https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/reimagining-love-workbook-0c34...
2023-05-3054 minReimagining LoveGetting Real About Pleasure: Reclaiming Desire with Dr Laurie MintzDr. Laurie Mintz joins Dr. Alexandra for a conversation about all things pleasure, from the orgasm gap to sexual myths to vibrators, offering inspiration and encouragement to both individuals and couples as they seek to reignite and reconnect with their desire and sexual identity.Becoming Cliterate: Why Orgasm Equality Matters--And How to Get It by Dr. Laurie Mintz:https://bookshop.org/p/books/becoming-cliterate-why-orgasm-equality-matters-and-how-to-get-it-laurie-mintz/6438079?ean=9780062664556A Tired Woman's Guide to Passionate Sex: Reclaim Your Desire and Reignite Your Relationship by Dr. Laurie Mintz:https://bookshop.org/p/books/a-tired-woman-s-guide-to-passionate-sex-reclaim-your-desire-and-reignite-your-relationship-laurie-b-mintz/19853981?ean=9781605501079
2023-05-2351 minReimagining LoveHow to Bring Relational Self-Awareness to a First DateWhether you've been on dozens of first dates or are brand new to the experience, this episode will provide tools and tips to help you approach the daunting and exciting task of meeting someone new with Relational Self-Awareness. You can find the First Date Data worksheet in your inbox today if you're a newsletter subscriber. If you're not, click the link below to be added to the mailing list, and you'll receive the worksheet next week.Subscribe to the newsletter to get the "First Date Data" worksheet in your inbox next week:https://dralexandrasolomon.c...
2023-05-1649 minReimagining Love12 Strategies for Swiping with Relational Self-AwarenessIn this episode, Dr. Alexandra offers 12 practical strategies for navigating dating apps with self-compassion and success. These strategies will help you tune into the emotions that are coming up inside you as you swipe so you can bring more Relational Self-Awareness to your dating journey.Get the brand new REIMAGINING LOVE WORKBOOK:https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/reimagining-love-workbook-0c34cba5-a457-4253-b7d7-9ca051dc0326Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Submit a Listener Question:https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274Take Dr...
2023-05-0940 minReimagining LoveWhy You're Frustrated with Dating AppsFeeling burnt out and frustrated with dating apps? You're not alone. In this episode, Dr. Alexandra unpacks why so many people feel this way, offering explanation and validation for daters who are feeling stuck and disillusioned. Tune in next week to hear Dr. Alexandra's 12 Relational Self-Awareness strategies for using dating apps.Get the brand new REIMAGINING LOVE WORKBOOK:https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/reimagining-love-workbook-0c34cba5-a457-4253-b7d7-9ca051dc0326Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Submit a Listener Question:https://fo...
2023-05-0242 minReimagining LoveFinding Yourself Again: The Truth About Codependency with Melody BeattieDr. Alexandra is joined by Melody Beattie, a legendary self-help author. A revised edition of Melody's 1986 book "Codependent No More" was recently published, and she and Dr. Alexandra discuss the topics it delves into and answer a listener question about losing oneself in relationships.Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself by Melody Beattie:https://bookshop.org/p/books/codependent-no-more-how-to-stop-controlling-others-and-start-caring-for-yourself-melody-beattie/9158976?ean=9781954118157Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Submit a Listener Question:https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274Ta...
2023-04-2551 minReimagining LoveIdentifying Patterns & Getting Curious: Dating Mindfully with Jordana Abraham & Dr. Naomi BernsteinDr. Alexandra is joined by sisters and co-hosts of the "Oversharing" podcast, Jordana Abraham and Dr. Naomi Bernstein. They have a candid conversation about modern dating, gender scripts, and practical tools for how to stay centered and present on a date.Oversharing Podcast:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/oversharing/id1620971837U up? Podcast:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/u-up/id1313996383Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Submit a Listener Question:https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274Take Dr...
2023-04-1858 minReimagining Love"I'm Thinking About Getting Back Together With My Ex." (Part Two)If you are thinking about getting back together with an ex, there's a lot to consider. In this two-part series, Dr. Alexandra guides listeners through 12 Relational Self-Awareness questions that will help them gain clarity about their situation and create version 2.0 of their relationship with confidence, if they make the choice to reconcile with their former partner. Find the link below to listen to Part I of this series if you missed it.Get the companion worksheet for this episode:www.dralexandrasolomon.com/secondchancesPart I of this series (previous week's episode):...
2023-04-1147 minReimagining Love"I'm Thinking About Getting Back Together With My Ex." (Part One)If you are thinking about getting back together with an ex, there's a lot to consider. In this two-part series, Dr. Alexandra guides listeners through 12 Relational Self-Awareness questions that will help them gain clarity about their situation and create version 2.0 of their relationship with confidence, if they make the choice to reconcile with their former partner. In next week's episode, Dr. Alexandra will share an accompanying worksheet for this series.Episode 67: Dealing with Breakup Regret:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/reimagining-love/id1588419386?i=1000604088930Episode 66: How to Get Closure After a Breakup:
2023-04-0444 minReimagining LoveGender, Family, & the Home: Why "Fair Play" Helps Our Relationships Thrive with Eve RodskyGuest Eve Rodsky is the author of the bestselling book "Fair Play," a gamified life-management system that helps partners rebalance their domestic workload and reimagine their relationship. In this episode, Dr. Alexandra and Eve discuss the problem of invisible domestic labor, especially for women and mothers, and explore how we can reimagine family life to create a more equitable and healthy future for all.Fair Play: A Game-Changing Solution for When You Have Too Much to Do (and More Life to Live) by Eve Rodsky:https://bookshop.org/p/books/fair-play-a-game-changing-solution-for-when-you-have-too-much-to-do-and-more-life-to-live-eve-rodsky/12084091?ean=9780525541943Fair...
2023-03-2851 minReimagining LoveThe Neuroscience of Pleasure: Why Good Sex Matters with Dr. Nan WiseDr. Nan Wise, a neuroscientist researcher and certified sex therapist, joins Dr. Alexandra for a discussion about the importance of prioritizing healthy pleasure. Dr. Nan shares some of the most fascinating findings from her team's research, especially pertaining to female pleasure.Why Good Sex Matters: Understanding the Neuroscience of Pleasure for a Smarter, Happier, and More Purpose-Filled Life by Dr. Nan Wise:https://bookshop.org/p/books/why-good-sex-matters-understanding-the-neuroscience-of-pleasure-for-a-smarter-happier-and-more-purpose-filled-life-nan-wise/6960664?ean=9781328451309Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Submit a Listener Question:https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274...
2023-03-2155 minReimagining LoveDealing with Breakup RegretIn this episode, Dr. Alexandra explores common feelings that can follow a breakup, including regret, grief, and loneliness, even for the partner who initiated the breakup. She explains where these emotions come from and what they can signal to us about our healing journey ahead.Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Submit a Listener Question:https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274Take Dr. Alexandra's "Relationship Superpower" Quiz:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/rsa-quiz/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for mo...
2023-03-1447 minReimagining LoveHow to Get Closure After a BreakupThe end of a relationship can feel disorienting and earth-shattering, so it's only natural for us to yearn for the ever-elusive feeling of "closure." In this episode, Dr. Alexandra posits that we often look for closure in the wrong places after a breakup, and she offers an empowering reframe for anyone who's grieving the end of a partnership.Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Submit a Listener Question:https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274Take Dr. Alexandra's "Relationship Superpower" Quiz:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/rsa-quiz/
2023-03-0750 minReimagining LoveBuilding a Home Within Ourselves: From Surviving to Thriving with Tara SchusterDr. Alexandra's guest on this episode is Tara Schuster, an accomplished entertainment executive turned mental health advocate and best-selling author. In this touching conversation, Tara shares her inspiration for her new book, Glow in the F*cking Dark, and how she has lived the mission of building a nurturing home within herself, even when life presents challenges.Glow in the F*cking Dark: Simple Practices to Heal Your Soul, from Someone Who Learned the Hard Way by Tara Schuster:https://bookshop.org/p/books/glow-in-the-f-cking-dark-simple-practices-to-heal-your-soul-from-someone-who-learned-the-hard-way-tara-schuster/18679351?ean=9780593243091Tara's website:http://www.taraschuster...
2023-02-2857 minReimagining LoveBreaking Family Patterns & Healing Wounds: The Origins of You with Vienna PharaonVienna Pharaon returns to Reimagining Love for a profound conversation about her new book, which focuses on the impacts of our family of origin and how we can understand our past to improve our relationships in the present.The Origins of You: How Breaking Family Patterns Can Liberate the Way We Live and Love by Vienna Pharaon:https://bookshop.org/p/books/the-origins-of-you-how-breaking-family-patterns-can-liberate-the-way-we-live-and-love-vienna-pharaon/18612766?ean=9780593539910What's Your Origin Wound? Quiz:https://1wsm6geg69z.typeform.com/to/d981R7Cl?typeform-medium=newtab-linktree&typeform-source=linktr.eeSubscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Ne...
2023-02-2154 minReimagining Love"Right Person, Wrong Time"The timing of how things play out in our lives is often out of our control. How do we decide whether to pursue a budding relationship, even when "the time isn't right," or whether to accept circumstances and let things go? Dr. Alexandra discusses all of this in more in this episode.Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Submit a Listener Question:https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274Take Dr. Alexandra's "Relationship Superpower" Quiz:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/rsa-quiz/
2023-02-1452 minReimagining LoveIs Your "Situationship" Working?Casual and/or circumstantial relationships can be fun, but they also pose unique challenges and often bring up complex emotions. In this episode, Dr. Alexandra shares her thoughts on "situationships" and provides prompts and questions to assess whether your particular relationship is continuing to be enriching, respectful, and clear for both partners—or whether it may be time to move on.Shop Organifi products and get 20% off as a Reimagining Love listener:https://www.organifishop.com/pages/lovepodGet the companion worksheet for this episode:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/situationship/NP...
2023-02-0744 minReimagining LoveLessons from the Longest Study on Happiness: The Connection Between Thriving Relationships and A Fulfilling Life with Dr. Marc SchulzDr. Marc Schulz, co-author of the book "The Good Life: Lessons from the World's Longest Scientific Study of Happiness" joins Dr. Alexandra for a fascinating overview of the longitudinal research that he and his colleague Dr. Robert Waldinger synthesized in their new book. Dr. Schulz discusses some of the biggest takeaways from this study with Dr. Alexandra, including hopeful and exciting insights about the connection between thriving relationships and a fulfilling life.Shop Organifi products and get 20% off as a Reimagining Love listener:https://www.organifishop.com/pages/lovepodThe Good Life: Lessons...
2023-01-3152 minReimagining LoveMasculinity & Vulnerability: How Men's Healing Helps All of Us with Connor BeatonDr. Alexandra's guest on this episode is Connor Beaton, a coach, speaker, and author of the new book "Men's Work." Their conversation focuses on men’s work and healing and touches on universally relevant topics including breaking free from shame and self-isolation, owning our emotions, and connecting with a kind of inner-strength that comes from courage and humility, rather than domination.Shop Organifi products and get 20% off as a Reimagining Love listener:https://www.organifishop.com/pages/lovepodMen's Work: A Practical Guide to Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, and Find Freedom by Co...
2023-01-2453 minReimagining LoveEvolving Together: Updating Our Relationships with Our Parents with Daniel MatéDaniel Maté joins Dr. Alexandra for a discussion centering on parent-child relationships, with a focus on how to cultivate and update this relationship once both parties are adults. They discuss the "Hello Again" workshops that Daniel and his father, Gabor Maté, facilitate for people to work on this specific relationship, and explore the challenges and possibilities of the parent-child bond.Shop Organifi products and get 20% off as a Reimagining Love listener:https://www.organifishop.com/pages/lovepodHello Again: A Fresh Start For Parents And Their Adult Children:https://www.helloagainproject.co...
2023-01-171h 27Reimagining LovePeople-Pleasing vs. Brutal Honesty: When & How to Share Feedback with Your PartnerOpen communication is a key component of a healthy intimate partnership. But discerning what to share with our partner, as well as when and how to share it, is a common challenge. In this episode, Dr. Alexandra teases out this issue, offering ideas for how we can be both candid AND compassionate towards those we love.Get the companion worksheet for this episode:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/nofilter/Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Submit a Listener Question:https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274Ta...
2023-01-1054 minReimagining LoveWhen Having "No Filter" Hurts A RelationshipOpen communication is a key component of a healthy intimate partnership. But discerning what to share with our partner, as well as when and how to share it, is a common challenge. In this episode, Dr. Alexandra teases out this issue, offering ideas for how we can be both candid AND compassionate towards those we love.Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Submit a Listener Question:https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274Take Dr. Alexandra's "Relationship Superpower" Quiz:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/rsa-quiz/
2023-01-0338 min
Redefining MovementCultivating Relational Self-Awareness with Therapist, Author, and Professor, Dr. Alexandra Solomon"The research is clear. Our relationships are the biggest determinant of our happiness, yet we're never taught how to do them."Dr. Alexandra Solomon is a teacher, therapist, and author of two books. She has become one of today's most trusted voices in the world of relationships, and her work on relational self awareness has reached millions of people around the world.In this episode, Dr. Solomon talks with Lara about the importance of relational self-awareness and how it is the key to happiness in relationships. She explains that it is important to...
2022-12-2346 minReimagining LoveMoving Through Our Emotions: Cultivating Joy & Resilience with Erica HornthalDance movement therapist Erica Hornthal joins Dr. Alexandra for an enriching conversation about how movement and dance can have a transformative positive impact on our mental health. They also answer a listener question about regulating one's emotions during difficult conversations with a partner.Body Aware: Rediscover Your Mind-Body Connection, Stop Feeling Stuck, and Improve Your Mental Health with Simple Movement Practice by Erica Hornthal:https://bookshop.org/p/books/body-aware-rediscover-your-mind-body-connection-stop-feeling-stuck-and-improve-your-mental-health-with-simple-movement-practice-erica-hornthal/17771314?ean=9781623176891Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Submit a Listener Question:https://form.jo...
2022-12-1351 minReimagining LoveIs Work Stress Taking a Toll on Your Relationship?Stressing about our jobs is inevitable, and it can take a real toll on our intimate partnerships. In this episode, Dr. Alexandra explores what happens when we take work home with us, and how it may create challenging dynamics with those we love. She provides tools and strategies to manage work stress in healthier ways, have empathetic conversations with our partners, and foster compassion for ourselves.Get the Work Stress companion worksheet:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/workstress/Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Submit a Listener Qu...
2022-12-0657 minReimagining LoveLove Stories: My Best Friend AliDr. Alexandra sits down with her lifelong best friend, Ali, for a heartfelt conversation about their four decades of friendship and everything they've learned about each other and themselves along the way.Ali's book, "The Heirloom"https://bookshop.org/p/books/the-heirloom-alexandra-folz/11612835?ean=9780998276908Ali's intuitive counseling website:https://alexandrafolz.com/Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Submit a Listener Question:https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274Take Dr. Alexandra's "Relationship Superpower" Quiz:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/rsa-quiz/
2022-11-2946 minReimagining LoveWe All Deserve Support: Making Therapy Accessible & Healing from Heartbreak with Dr. Joy Harden BradfordDr. Joy Harden Bradford, founder & CEO of Therapy for Black Girls, joins Dr. Alexandra to discuss her mission to make mental health topics more relevant and accessible for Black women. They also discuss what to look for in a new therapist, the personal growth that comes from breakups and new beginnings, and a listener question from a single mom who's struggling with FOMO.Therapy for Black Girls (including the online therapist directory):https://therapyforblackgirls.com/Dr. Joy's website:https://hellodrjoy.com/Therapy for Black Girls Podcast:https...
2022-11-2248 minReimagining LoveThe Sweetness of Self-Care: Baking by Feel with Becca Rea-TuckerBecca Rea-Tucker is a cookbook author and Instagram sensation who bakes with a purpose, and she joins Dr. Alexandra for a sweet discussion about her new cookbook, Baking by Feel, and her cakes with feminist messages that inspire people to use their voice.Baking by Feel: Recipes to Sort Out Your Emotions (Whatever They Are Today!) by Becca Rea-Tuckerhttps://bookshop.org/p/books/baking-by-feel-recipes-to-sort-out-your-emotions-whatever-they-are-today-becca-rea-tucker/18321498?ean=9780063160040Becca's Instagram (@thesweetfeminist)https://www.instagram.com/thesweetfeminist/Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Submit a...
2022-11-1540 minReimagining LoveCaring For Ourselves & Each Other: How We Heal with Alex ElleDr. Alexandra is joined by Alex Elle, author of the new book "How We Heal." They discuss healing through personal writing, how we can re-parent ourselves, and how we can build a life full of individual and relational growth amidst challenges and change.Register for Dr. Alexandra's E-Courses before the price increases on 11/11/22:https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/How We Heal: Uncover Your Power and Set Yourself Free by Alexandra Ellehttps://bookshop.org/p/books/how-we-heal-uncover-your-power-and-set-yourself-free-alexandra-elle/18265479?ean=9781797216263Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/...
2022-11-0850 minReimagining LoveTending to "Little You" & Exploring Your Family of OriginDr. Alexandra guides listeners through an exploration of their "Original Love Classroom"—the family system they grew up in—and explains why the roles we were cast in as children impact the way we relate to those we love in the present.Register for Dr. Alexandra's E-Courses before the price increases on 11/11/22:https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/Download the worksheet for this episode:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/roles/Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Submit a Listener Question:https://form.jotform.com/21...
2022-11-011h 06Reimagining LoveLove Stories: Building a Life Together with Elise & SuzIn this Love Stories episode, Dr. Alexandra sits down with Elise & Suz, a young and recently married couple, for a thoughtful conversation about queerness, modern marriage, and building a life together. Elise & Suz share the story of how they met, their relationships with their own queerness and identity, and how they reimagined traditions for their wedding. They also reflect on some of the challenges, and the joys, of the post-marriage chapter.Sessions Live Conference with Esther Perel (use code "ALEXANDRA" at checkout for 10% off):estherperel.com/alexandraSubscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s...
2022-10-2554 minReimagining LoveGetting Present: Tuning Into Your Body with Dr. Hillary McBrideDr. Hillary McBride joins Dr. Alexandra to discuss her work on embodiment and presence. They talk about why and how to listen to what your body is telling you, and Dr. Hillary guides listeners through a body meditation that can help you come back to the present moment and feel more at ease.Sessions Live Conference with Esther Perel (use code "ALEXANDRA" at checkout for 10% off):estherperel.com/alexandraThe Wisdom of Your Body: Finding Healing, Wholeness, and Connection Through Embodied Living by Dr. Hillary McBride:https://bookshop.org/p/books...
2022-10-1849 minReimagining Love"I Love My Partner, But Their Family is Toxic!" (Part Two)In-law dynamics are complicated. What do you do when your partner's family is particularly challenging, or you're the one in the relationship with the family drama? Dr. Alexandra addresses all of this and more in today's episode.Sessions Live Conference with Esther Perel (use code "ALEXANDRA" at checkout for 10% off):estherperel.com/alexandraGet the In-Laws worksheet:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/inlaws/Listen to Part 1 of this episode:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/reimagining-love/id1588419386?i=1000581520129Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dr...
2022-10-1143 minReimagining Love"I Love My Partner, But Their Family is Toxic!" (Part One)In-law dynamics are complicated. What do you do when your partner's family is particularly challenging, or you're the one in the relationship with the family drama? Dr. Alexandra addresses all of this and more in today's episode.Sessions Live Conference with Esther Perel (use code "ALEXANDRA" at checkout for 10% off):estherperel.com/alexandraSubscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Submit a Listener Question:https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274
2022-10-0444 minReimagining LoveLove Stories: Leading with Purpose with Julie Lythcott-HaimsJulie Lythcott-Haims, bestselling author of the books "How to Raise an Adult," "Real American," and "Your Turn: How to Be an Adult," joins Dr. Alexandra on the show to discuss her career, groundbreaking writing, and the challenges she's decided to take on along the way. Listen to feel inspired by Julie and her mission to bring attention to the issues that matter most.How to Raise an Adult: Break Free of the Overparenting Trap and Prepare Your Kid for Success by Julie Lythcott-Haims:https://bookshop.org/books/how-to-raise-an-adult-break-free-of-the-overparenting-trap-and-prepare-your-kid-for-success/9781250093639How to Be an Adult...
2022-09-2743 minReimagining LoveComing Home to Ourselves: The Path to Thriving with Dr. Thema BryantDr. Thema Bryant, president-elect of the American Psychological Association, joins Dr. Alexandra for a rich conversation about how we can heal, grow, and thrive, both on the individual and community level. They also answer a listener question about how and when to speak up in difficult family arguments about religious beliefs.Homecoming: Overcome Fear and Trauma to Reclaim Your Whole, Authentic Self by Dr. Thema Bryant:https://bookshop.org/books/homecoming-overcome-fear-and-trauma-to-reclaim-your-whole-authentic-self/9780593418314The Antiracism Handbook by Dr. Thema Bryant and Dr. Edith G Arrington:https://bookshop.org/books/the-antiracism-handbook-practical-tools-to-shift-your-mindset-and-uproot-racism-in-your-life-and-community/9781684039104The...
2022-09-1348 minReimagining LoveTalking About the Future: Navigating a Pace DiscrepancyOn this solo episode, Dr. Alexandra dives into a topic that all of us have grappled with at some point or another: talking about the future with our partner. If you're struggling with a pace discrepancy with your partner, whether it's about becoming exclusive, moving in together, getting married, or starting any kind of new chapter, this conversation is for you.Get the Talking About the Future worksheet:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/futureSubscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Submit a Listener Question:https://fo...
2022-09-061h 03Reimagining LoveLove Stories: Partnership & Parenthood with Cathy & Todd AdamsOn this special Love Stories episode, Dr. Alexandra is joined by Cathy and Todd Adams. They're husband and wife, co-hosts of the popular podcast Zen Parenting Radio, and so much more. Cathy and Todd open up about all aspects of their relationship, discuss how it's grown and changed over time, and explore how it connects with their work around parenting and personal growth.Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World by Cathy Cassani Adamshttps://bookshop.org/books/zen-parenting-caring-for-ourselves-and-our-children-in-an-unpredictable-world/9780306925207?gclid=CjwKCAjwx7GYBhB7EiwA0d8oe0Uh6rkzzhTRl6xTwMGtdHg26Uyp3BGgOsQW9...
2022-08-301h 07Reimagining LoveLoving and Loving Again: Personal Evolution in Relationships with Mark GrovesMark Groves joins Dr. Alexandra to answer a listener question about getting back together with an ex, and they discuss the personal growth and expansion that's possible when we allow ourselves to get honest and vulnerable with the people we love most, and with ourselves.Check out Dr. Alexandra's community on the Peanut App:peanut.app.link/ReimaginingLoveSubscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Take Dr. Alexandra's E-Course, Intimate Relationships 101 (use code LOVEPOD for 10% off at checkout):https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/intimate-relationships-101...
2022-08-2347 minReimagining LoveTuning into You: How Self-Reflection Creates Healthy Relationships with Emmalee Bierly & Jennifer ChaikenThe Shrink Chicks—therapists Emmalee Bierly and Jennifer Chaiken—join Dr. Alexandra for a vibrant conversation about cultivating self-understanding in the context of relationships and family. They tackle two wonderful listener questions and share lots of laughs along the way.Check out Dr. Alexandra's community on the Peanut App:peanut.app.link/ReimaginingLoveSubscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Take Dr. Alexandra's E-Course, Intimate Relationships 101 (use code LOVEPOD for 10% off at checkout):https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/intimate-relationships-101Get the Relational Ambivalence worksh...
2022-08-1647 minReimagining LoveRelational Ambivalence: Should I Stay or Should I Go? (Part Two)In the second part of the "Should I Stay or Should I Go?" series, Dr. Alexandra continues the conversation about Relational Ambivalence and offers listeners eight things they can do to help them move from stuckness to clarity.Listen to Part 1 of this series:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/reimagining-love/id1588419386?i=1000574755271Get the Relational Ambivalence worksheet:www.dralexandrasolomon.com/ambivalence"Should I Stay or Should I Go?" article by Dr. Alexandra:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/should-i-stay-or-should-i-go-relational-uncertainty/E-course for therapists & coaches: “Loving Bravely: Helping Clients wh...
2022-08-0944 minReimagining LoveRelational Ambivalence: Should I Stay or Should I Go? (Part One)Welcome back to Reimagining Love! On today's episode, Dr. Alexandra explores the complicated question that many of us have faced at some point in our lives: Should I stay in this relationship, or should I leave? If you're unsure of what the wisest path forward is, and you're hoping to proceed with compassion for your partner and yourself, this episode is for you.Check out Dr. Alexandra's community on the Peanut App:peanut.app.link/ReimaginingLoveGet the Relational Ambivalence worksheet:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/ambivalence/Take Dr. Alexandra's E-Course...
2022-08-0238 minReimagining LoveLove Stories: ToddcastDr. Alexandra's husband Todd joins her in the studio for a special and personal episode about their decades-long love story and marriage, sharing joyful moments and the lessons they've learned along the way.Check out Dr. Alexandra's community on the Peanut App:peanut.app.link/ReimaginingLoveSubscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Take Dr. Alexandra's E-Course, Intimate Relationships 101 (use code LOVEPOD for 10% off at checkout):https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/intimate-relationships-101Submit your question to Dr. Alexandra:https://form.jotform.co...
2022-06-281h 10Reimagining LoveGetting to Zero: Conflict & Repair with Jayson GaddisDr. Alexandra is joined by Jayson Gaddis, founder of The Relationship School and the book "Getting to Zero: How to Work Through Conflict in Your High-Stakes Relationships." They discuss Jayson's approach to conflict-repair, which focuses on calming the nervous system and bringing both partners to their baseline, where the potential for positive change is highest. Jayson and Dr. Alexandra answer a great listener question as well about broaching difficult topics in the context of an intimate partnership.The Family Institute at Northwestern University:https://www.family-institute.org/Getting to Zero: How to Work...
2022-06-2150 minReimagining LoveLearning to Cherish: From "You & Me" to "Us" with Terry RealWorld-renowned author and therapist Terry Real joins Dr. Alexandra for a discussion about his career, his new book (Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship), men in relationships, conflict resolution, and more.The Family Institute at Northwestern University:https://www.family-institute.org/Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship by Terry Real:https://bookshop.org/books/us-getting-past-you-and-me-to-build-a-more-loving-relationship/9780593233672Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Take Dr. Alexandra's E-Course, Intimate Relationships 101 (use code LO...
2022-06-1447 minReimagining LoveDisrupting the Underfunctioning/Overfunctioning DynamicDr. Alexandra explores the common underfunctioning/overfunctioning dynamic in long-term partnerships. She talks about why many couples fall prey to these roles, including cultural messaging and family-of-origin scripts, and she shares strategies for breaking free from this dance so that the relationship can feel more balanced.Get the companion worksheet for this episode:www.dralexandrasolomon.com/dynamicThe Family Institute at Northwestern University:https://www.family-institute.org/Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Take Dr. Alexandra's E-Course, Intimate Relationships 101 (use code LO...
2022-06-0759 minReimagining LoveLove Stories: Permission for Pleasure with Al Fine, Co-Founder & CEO of Dame ProductsOn this Love Stories episode, Dr. Alexandra is joined Alexandra Fine, the co-founder and CEO of Dame Products, an innovative company that designs pleasure-enhancing products for people with vulvas. This episode is all about Dame the brand, but more importantly, it’s about Al, the very special person behind Dame's groundbreaking products, who had a radical vision she followed to fruition.Take Dr. Alexandra's E-Course, Intimate Relationships 101 (use code LOVEPOD for 10% off at checkout)https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/intimate-relationships-101Shop Dame Products (use code LOVEPOD for a discount at checkout):https://ww...
2022-05-3147 minReimagining LoveUnderstanding Ourselves: The Challenge & Gift of Therapy with Lori GottliebLori Gottlieb, Atlantic columnist and bestselling author of “Maybe You Should Talk to Someone,” joins Dr. Alexandra for a conversation about her book and the role of therapy in modern life. They also answer two listener questions together.Take Dr. Alexandra's E-Course, Intimate Relationships 101 (use code LOVEPOD for 10% off at checkout)https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/intimate-relationships-101Maybe You Should Talk to Someone by Lori Gottlieb:https://bookshop.org/books/maybe-you-should-talk-to-someone-a-therapist-her-therapist-and-our-lives-revealed/9781328662057"Dear Therapist" Column in The Atlantic:https://www.theatlantic.com/projects/dear-therapist/Dear Therapists with Lori...
2022-05-2451 minReimagining LoveSelf-Advocacy in Action: Finding Your Voice in Relationships with Nedra TawwabDr. Alexandra is joined by Nedra Tawwab to talk about relational boundaries, self-advocacy, and communication. Nedra offers a whole host of wonderful questions we can ask ourselves when we are feeling drained or annoyed by our partner, as well as suggestions for a listener with a depressed partner who is struggling to establish caretaking boundaries in her relationship.Take Dr. Alexandra's E-Course, Intimate Relationships 101 (use code LOVEPOD for 10% off at checkout)https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/intimate-relationships-101Shop Dame Products (use code LOVEPOD for 10% off at checkout)https://www.dameproducts.com/?gclid...
2022-05-1751 minReimagining LoveReaching the Summit: The Challenges & Possibilities of Modern Love with Dr. Eli FinkelDr. Eli Finkel, a social psychology professor at Northwestern University, joins Dr. Alexandra for an in-depth discussion about the state of marriage and long-term partnership today, in an ever-changing and ever-complicated world. They also discuss Eli's book, The All-Or-Nothing Marriage, and answer a listener question together about a new relationship.The Family Institute at Northwestern University:https://www.family-institute.org/The All-Or-Nothing Marriage by Eli J. Finkel:https://bookshop.org/books/the-all-or-nothing-marriage-how-the-best-marriages-work/9781101984345Dr. Eli Finkel's Website:https://elifinkel.com/Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:...
2022-05-1049 minReimagining LoveWe Need to Talk About GhostingHave you ever been ghosted? Dr. Alexandra dives into the cultural weight of this term, and why the experience of being left in the lurch can feel so incredibly painful. Rather than fixating on the unanswerable question of why someone ghosted us, wondering if we did something wrong, or minimizing the pain, Dr. Alexandra encourages us to sit in the grief of a confusing ending and find strength amid the disappointment.Shop Dame Products (use code LOVEPOD for 10% off at checkout)https://www.dameproducts.com/?gclid=Cj0KCQjw3IqSBhCoARIsAMBkTb0r5_iBQR_NRXogKj6fneSiDWl64rULQK1kh0...
2022-05-0359 minReimagining LoveLove Stories: Writing Relationships with Novelist Monica AliIn celebration of her new novel, Love Marriage, acclaimed writer Monica Ali joins Dr. Alexandra for a vibrant discussion about writing love stories, exploring themes of sexuality and culture in fiction, and the things that creative writing and therapy may have in common. Love Marriage is a beautiful book that follows two cultures, two families and the secrets they keep, and is available for pre-order now (see below).Pre-order Love Marriage by Monica Ali:https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Love-Marriage/Monica-Ali/9781982181475Share your feedback in the Reimagining Love Listener Survey:https...
2022-04-2655 minReimagining LoveSomatic Abolitionism: Understanding Racialized Trauma Through the Body with Resmaa MenakemDr. Alexandra is joined by Resmaa Menakem, a therapist and licensed clinical social worker who specializes in the healing of racialized trauma, for a truly transformative conversation about the somatic impacts of racism and how we can move towards reckoning and healing.Share your feedback in the Reimagining Love Listener Survey:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/survey/Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Submit your question to Dr. Alexandra:https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274Resmaa's website:https://www.resmaa.com/Th...
2022-04-1946 minReimagining LoveRelational Authenticity: How Boundaries Protect Us, and Connect Us with Terri ColeBoundaries are front and center in this episode with guest expert Terri Cole, author of the book “Boundary Boss: The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen, and (Finally) Live Free.” Dr. Alexandra and Terri talk about how the skill of setting boundaries is essential in relationships, and they answer two listener questions together that relate to this issue.Shop Dame Products (use code LOVEPOD for 10% off at checkout)https://www.dameproducts.com/?gclid=Cj0KCQjw3IqSBhCoARIsAMBkTb0r5_iBQR_NRXogKj6fneSiDWl64rULQK1kh0RbSp-HWfzT9_dPZbgaAlRwEALw_wcB&gclsrc=aw.dsShare your feedback in the...
2022-04-1249 minReimagining LoveTen Essential Skills for Navigating Conflict (Part Two)In this two-part series, Dr. Alexandra shares ten essential skills for couples struggling with routine conflict in their relationship. Offering strategies from her couples therapy practice, Dr. Alexandra provides new language and ways of thinking about arguments that promote empathy and care, shifting couples into a "we" perspective so that they can move through hard times as a team.Listen to Part I of the Conflict series:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/reimagining-love/id1588419386?i=1000555568444Get the companion worksheet for this episode:www.dralexandrasolomon.com/skillsSubscribe to...
2022-04-051h 09Reimagining LoveTen Essential Skills for Navigating Conflict (Part One)In this two-part series, Dr. Alexandra shares ten essential skills for couples struggling with routine conflict in their relationship. Offering strategies from her couples therapy practice, Dr. Alexandra provides new language and ways of thinking about arguments that promote empathy and care, shifting couples into a "we" perspective so that they can move through hard times as a team.Shop Dame Products (use code LOVEPOD for 10% off at checkout)https://www.dameproducts.com/?gclid=Cj0KCQjw3IqSBhCoARIsAMBkTb0r5_iBQR_NRXogKj6fneSiDWl64rULQK1kh0RbSp-HWfzT9_dPZbgaAlRwEALw_wcB&gclsrc=aw.dsGet the companion worksheet...
2022-03-2940 minReimagining LoveRelational Health: Loving with the Brain in Mind with Dr. Mona FishbaneDr. Alexandra is joined by renowned guest Dr. Mona Fishbane for a deep-dive into healthy relational habits, conflict resolution, and aging alongside one's partner.Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Submit your question to Dr. Alexandra:https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274Loving with the Brain in Mind: Neurobiology and Couple Therapy by Mona Fishbane, Ph.D.https://bookshop.org/books/loving-with-the-brain-in-mind-neurobiology-and-couple-therapy/9780393706536Keep Sharp: Build a Better Brain At Any Age by Sanjay Gupta, MDhttps://bookshop.org/books/keep-sharp-build-a-better-brain-at-any-age/9781501166730...
2022-03-2250 minReimagining LoveTending to Loss: What We Get Wrong About Grief with Megan DevineToday's episode is all about grief, featuring guest expert Megan Devine. Megan is a grief advocate, dedicated to helping us live through the things we never thought we’d face. Dr. Alexandra and Megan discuss what we all get wrong about grief, and they address a question from a well-meaning listener who wants to learn how to better support a friend who has suffered a painful loss.Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Submit your question to Dr. Alexandra:https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274It's Ok That...
2022-03-1549 minReimagining LoveWhat Women Lose in Marriage: The Case for a Radical Awakening with Dr Shefali TsabaryDr. Shefali Tsabary, New York Times bestselling author and parenting expert, joins Dr. Alexandra for a rich discussion about her new book, A Radical Awakening: Turn Pain into Power, Embrace Your Truth, Live Free, which explores the ways in which our patriarchal culture traps women into cycles and arrangements that keep them from living their fullest lives.Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Submit your question to Dr. Alexandra:https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274A Radical Awakening: Turn Pain into Power, Embrace Your Truth, Live Free by...
2022-03-0850 minReimagining Love"I Love Them, But I'm Not in Love With Them"This solo episode focuses on the phrase “I love them, but I’m not in love with them.” Have you heard it in your own life? Dr. Alexandra unpacks what can lie beneath the surface of this phrase and explores the feelings, ideas, and commitments that the world “love” captures for different people.Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Submit your question to Dr. Alexandra:https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274The Brain in Love (Helen Fisher, TED):https://www.ted.com/talks/helen_fisher_the_brain_in...
2022-03-0142 minReimagining LoveFrom Performance to Pleasure: A New Vision for Sexuality with Dr. Emily NagoskiDr. Emily Nagoski comes on the show to talk all things sexuality and pleasure with Dr. Alexandra. They answer two listener questions together and discuss Dr. Emily's work and research around female pleasure as well as burnout and the stress cycle.Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Come as You Are: Revised and Updated: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski, Ph.D.https://bookshop.org/books/come-as-you-are-revised-and-updated-the-surprising-new-science-that-will-transform-your-sex-life-9781982165314/9781982165314Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle by Emily Nagoski, Ph...
2022-02-2247 minReimagining LoveFrom the Inside Out: Attachment Theory & Mindful Parenting with Dr. Dan SiegelDr. Dan Siegel joins Dr. Alexandra to talk about attachment theory, parenting, and healing intergenerational trauma. Dr. Siegel's work looms large in the worlds of psychology, psychotherapy, and interpersonal neurobiology, and he has published many bestselling books, linked below.Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Links to a selection of Dr. Dan Siegel's books:The Whole-Brain ChildThe Mindful TherapistAwareMentioned in this episode:Caste by Isabel WilkersonHow to Be an Antiracist by Ibram X. Ke...
2022-02-1552 minReimagining LoveValues & Communication: The Next Sexual Revolution with Cindy GallopDr. Alexandra is joined by tech entrepreneur Cindy Gallop, who has made waves in the business world. She's the founder of Make Love Not Porn, the world’s first user-generated, human-curated social sex video-sharing platform, socializing and normalizing sex in order to make it easier to talk about sex, and to promote consent, communication, good sexual values and good sexual behavior. Cindy tells the story of MLNP and discusses a listener question with Dr. Alexandra.Dr. Alexandra’s E-Course: Can I Trust You Again? Rebuilding After Betrayal or Deceit:https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/can-i-trust-you-again-rebuilding-after-betrayal-or-deceitMa...
2022-02-0846 minReimagining LoveCan We Rebuild After Infidelity?Deciding whether to stay or leave a relationship in the aftermath of infidelity is not easy, and in this episode, Dr. Alexandra walks through the factors to consider when reeling from this crisis. She poses reflection questions for both partners and situates the crisis of infidelity in research and our cultural context. Dr. Alexandra also announces the launch of her new e-course, Can I Trust You Again? Rebuilding After Betrayal or Deceit, which can be found below.Get the companion worksheet for this episode:www.dralexandrasolomon.com/trustDr. Alexandra’s E-Course: Can I...
2022-02-0144 minReimagining LoveLove Stories: Recovering from Infidelity with Kristi Born & Rainier WyldeOn this Love Stories episode, Dr. Alexandra welcomes on a couple with a stunning story of rebuilding their marriage in the aftermath of infidelity: Kristi Born & Rainier Wylde. Together, they explore the story of their relationship, starting from the day they first met, to the early years of their marriage, to the moment of rupture, and the incredible journey of repair that they continue today. Their story gives us the opportunity to empathize with the pain of infidelity, as well as providing insights about what rebuilding trust can look when both partners are committed to walking forward together.
2022-01-251h 36Reimagining LoveDiscernment in Dating: Cutting Through the Noise with Dr. Sara NasserzadehDating is hard enough, and with so many voices offering advice, opinions, and hot takes, it can be challenging to tune in with yourself and how you really feel about a new prospect. Dr. Alexandra invites Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh on the show to answer a question from a listener who is having this exact challenge, and they discuss ways to regulate the nervous system and tune in with the body before, during, and after a date.Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel Va...
2022-01-1845 minReimagining LoveReclaiming Pleasure: Trauma, Healing, & Communicating Boundaries with Holly RichmondDr. Holly Richmond joins Dr. Alexandra for a rich discussion about her book, Reclaiming Pleasure: A Sex-Positive Guide for Moving Past Sexual Trauma and Living a Passionate Life. They also answer a listener question about communicating sexual boundaries in dating situations. (CW: sexual trauma) Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Dr. Holly Richmond’s book, Reclaiming Pleasure: A Sex-Positive Guide for Moving Past Sexual Trauma and Living a Passionate Life:https://bookshop.org/books/reclaiming-pleasure-a-sex-positive-guide-for-moving-past-sexual-trauma-and-living-a-passionate-life/9781684038428Dr. Holly Richmond’s free mini-course, “Grounding Exercise...
2022-01-1146 minReimagining LoveWorking Through Jealousy as a CoupleIn this solo episode, Dr. Alexandra gets into the nitty gritty of a common relational challenge: jealousy. Addressing both the jealous individual and their partner, Dr. Alexandra illustrates how jealousy can manifest, what it says about a relationship and how couples can move through the emotion as a team.Dr. Alexandra’s E-Course: Can I Trust You Again? Rebuilding After Betrayal or Deceithttps://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/can-i-trust-you-again-rebuilding-after-betrayal-or-deceitGet the companion worksheet for this episode:www.dralexandrasolomon.com/jealousySubscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com...
2022-01-0448 minReimagining LoveLove Stories: Embodied Sisterhood with Drs. Lindsay & Lexie KiteFor this special Love Stories episode, Dr. Alexandra welcomes identical twins Dr. Lindsay Kite and Dr. Lexie Kite to Reimagining Love. Lindsay and Lexie received PhDs in the study of women’s body image and have become leading experts in body image resilience and media literacy. Dr. Alexandra dives deep with the Kites to hear about their childhood growing up as identical twins, tracing how the challenges and joys of their sisterhood led them to the important work they do today and how their relationship has evolved through every stage of life.Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s News...
2021-12-281h 16Reimagining LoveRelocating for Love: Finding Agency in Accommodation with Vienna PharaonHow do we know when we are too accommodating in relationships, or not accommodating enough? Dr. Alexandra invites therapist and friend Vienna Pharaon on the show to talk about major life transitions and how they can impact our intimate partnerships. Together, they answer a question from a listener who is struggling to adjust to a new city and lifestyle, after having moved where her partner is doing his med school residency.Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Vienna Pharaon’s e-course, “The Origins of You”:http://www.newyorkc...
2021-12-2151 minReimagining LoveDating Again: Healing the Past, Embracing the Present with Elizabeth EarnshawA listener question about dating after divorce spurs a fascinating discussion between Dr. Alexandra and guest expert Liz Earnshaw, a marriage and family therapist and author of the new book I Want This To Work. Liz and Dr. Alexandra offer encouragement and possibilities to this listener as he considers looking for love in this new chapter.Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Referenced in this episode:Liz Earnshaw's book: I Want This to Work: An Inclusive Guide to Navigating the Most Difficult Relationship Issues We Face in th...
2021-12-1448 minReimagining Love(Re)Gathering for the HolidaysThe holidays are upon us. How do we want to do things differently this year? Dr. Alexandra discusses how to make the most of gatherings with loved ones, from having compassionate conversations, to taking breaks, to connecting over shared memories.Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Games to spark connection and conversation:Table Topics:https://www.tabletopics.com/Heads Up:https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.wb.headsup&hl=en_US&gl=USWhere Should We Be...
2021-12-0755 minReimagining LoveLove Stories: Unconditional Love with Moe Ari & Sandra BrownIn this first “Love Stories” episode, Dr. Alexandra sits down in the studio with Moe Ari and his mother, Sandra Brown. Originally assigned female at birth, Moe has used his own gender transition story to help many others discover their authentic voice and navigate the difficult journey of alignment, as a therapist and mindset coach. Moe and Sandra discuss their respective experiences of Moe’s transition, sharing the moments of realization, layers of grief, and unconditional love that allowed them to deepen their relationship through this major transformation.Subscribe to the newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscr...
2021-11-301h 28Reimagining LoveGetting Your Needs Met: Relationship Boundaries with Shadeen FrancisTherapist Shadeen Francis joins Dr. Alexandra to respond to a listener who is interested in opening up her marriage, but is facing resistance from her partner. They use this question as a springboard to explore the topic of disclosed non-monogamy, unmet needs, mental health and communication in a long-term partnership.Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Shadeen’s Website:https://shadeenfrancis.com/Shadeen’s Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/shadeenfrancis/Terry Real's book, "I Don't Want to Talk About It":http...
2021-11-2348 minReimagining LoveDating & Dealbreakers: Lessons from Reality TV with Nick ViallNick Viall starred on the 21st season of ABC’s The Bachelor and hosts the popular podcast The Viall Files, where he discusses all things Bachelor Nation. On this episode, Dr. Alexandra chats with Nick about the national conversations that The Bachelor franchise spurs about relationships, gender, and dating, and how these conversations can be both productive and divisive. Nick shares experiences and tools from his own relationship and helps Dr. Alexandra answer a listener question about defensiveness. (CW: brief mention of sexual harassment & abuse)Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/
2021-11-1648 minReimagining LoveDifference as a Bridge: Cross-Cultural Love with Dr. Adia GoodenDr. Alexandra is joined by guest expert Dr. Adia Gooden for an in-depth discussion about loving across a cultural difference. Together they answer a listener question and then broaden out to discuss racial, ethnic, religious, and political differences in intimate partnerships. Dr. Alexandra and Dr. Gooden validate the challenges these couples will likely face while also highlighting the beautiful possibilities for growth, richness, and respect between two individuals with different origin stories. This episode also explores the ways that cross-cultural relationships have the potential to send positive reverberations through families, communities, and beyond.Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s...
2021-11-0943 minReimagining LoveInviting a Reluctant Partner Into Relationship WorkWhen one partner is ready and committed to doing the deep emotional work of improving a relationship, and the other partner is not quite there yet, it can feel like a difference that is impossible to bridge. In this solo episode, Dr. Alexandra explores “Relational Self-Awareness Discrepancies,” sharing tools and ideas that couples can use to generate empathy and move to a place of understanding and growth when faced with this common issue.Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Mentioned in this episode:Dr. Gabor Mate: https://drgabo...
2021-11-0245 minReimagining LoveLoving Through Crisis: How We Reconnect with Esther PerelHow do we reconnect with our loved ones, and ourselves, during times of global crisis? On this episode, Dr. Alexandra is joined by renowned psychotherapist and author Esther Perel to puzzle through this pressing question. You may recognize Esther’s voice from her celebrated TED talks, which have garnered more than 30 million views. Her bestselling books delve into topics of desire, infidelity, and sustaining mystery and excitement in long-term relationships. Together, Esther and Alexandra address a nuanced listener question about whether to move forward with a relationship that has fallen flat during the COVID-19 lockdown. They also sha...
2021-10-2649 minReimagining LoveTrailer - Reimagining LoveReimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra Solomon is your destination for profound, enlightening discussions about love, family, intimacy, and everything in between — a podcast that gives us the opportunity to reimagine ourselves, our relationships, and our world. Hosted by renowned clinical psychologist, professor, and award-winning author Dr. Alexandra Solomon, featuring conversations with notable guests from the worlds of therapy, academia, and pop-culture.To join our conversation about the relationships that matter most, subscribe or follow the podcast today.(Guest voices include: Esther Perel, Nick Viall, Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh, Dr. Adia Gooden, Shadeen Francis)Subscribe to...
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