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Charlie’s ToolboxHow to See the Workplace System Clearly & Stop Second-Guessing Yourself with Minda Harts300,000 Black women have been pushed out of the workforce. The system labels them "aggressive" when they speak, "not a team player" when they set boundaries, "difficult" when they advocate for themselves. These aren't random incidents; they're the deliberate mechanisms that systematically remove Black women from positions of power and influence. Minda Harts has documented this structural violence across thousands of women's experiences and built a framework to navigate it with clarity. As a bestselling author, workplace consultant, and NYU professor, she created The Seven Trust Languages®, a system that gives women the precise vocabulary to identify where a...
2025-12-0740 minCharlie’s Toolbox
Charlie’s ToolboxHow to Own Yourself Without the Self-Hatred (Tools That Actually Work)What if owning yourself had nothing to do with hating yourself into submission? In this episode, I challenge the toxic belief that you need to criticize, shame, or beat yourself up to become better. The truth is, real self-ownership comes from acceptance, not attack. I'll share practical tools for owning who you are right now, flaws, mistakes, and all, without falling into the self-hatred trap. You'll learn how to take responsibility for your life without the constant negative self-talk, how to accept yourself while still growing, and how to find genuine joy in being exactly who you...
2025-11-2314 minCharlie’s Toolbox
Charlie’s ToolboxAmerican Patriarchy Explained: What's Happening to Women Right Now and How to Survive It | Dr. Anna Malaika TubbsWe're the most educated generation of women in history. We're choosing ourselves in ways our mothers couldn't. And we're being punished for it. If you're feeling anxious, confused, or like you're being pushed back into a box you fought to get out of, you're not imagining it. There's a pattern. A system. And once you can see it, you can navigate it differently. Anna Malaika Tubbs (PhD, 2x NYT bestselling author of The Three Mothers and Erased) breaks down what we're actually up against and, more importantly, how to survive it while choosing yourself anyway...
2025-11-171h 01Charlie’s Toolbox
Charlie’s ToolboxHow 'What About the Men?' Articles Weaponize Male SufferingThere's a genre of journalism that's exploded over the last decade. On the surface, it seems reasonable, even necessary. Articles about boys falling behind in school. Men struggling with loneliness. The crisis of modern masculinity. But here's the question nobody's asking: Who benefits when we frame it this way? Today, we're pulling apart the machine. Looking at what these articles do, not just what they say. And once you see it, you can't unsee it. ----more---- Tools and stories to help you choose yourself in a world that socializes you not...
2025-11-1013 minCharlie’s Toolbox
Charlie’s ToolboxWhat Following Your Intuition Actually Looks Like With Kara Brothers I President of StarfaceWhat does it take to choose passion every single time, even when it's uncomfortable? In this episode, we sit down with Kara, a woman who has spent her life following one unwavering voice: the one that tells her when something isn't alive enough, passionate enough, worth it enough. She's left Google. She's left the presidency of Starface. She's moved her family to Italy. Not because things were falling apart, but because they weren't lit up enough. This is a conversation about living for the feeling. About refusing to settle for work, environments, or choices that...
2025-11-0253 minCharlie’s Toolbox
Charlie’s ToolboxHow to Find Your Voice When Family Expectations Drown Out Your Truth | Decentering Family for Self-DiscoveryHave you ever felt like your family's voice is so loud, you can't hear your own? In this episode, we're diving into one of the most challenging but necessary journeys of adulthood: learning to prioritize your own voice over family expectations. This isn't about abandoning the people who raised you; it's about creating the space you need to discover who you actually are beneath the layers of inherited beliefs, expectations, and advice that may not align with the life you truly want to live. Whether your family is warm and supportive or domineering and rigid...
2025-10-2619 minCharlie’s Toolbox
Charlie’s ToolboxAre You Hiding Behind Heaven? Why "God's Will" Might Be Keeping You Stuck (And What to Do Instead)What if the very beliefs meant to guide you are actually keeping you stuck? In this episode, we explore a hidden pattern that traps millions in cycles of repeated mistakes, unclear direction, and unresolved problems. You'll discover why certain phrases you've relied on your entire life might be stopping you from thinking, and what to do about it. By the end, you'll have a framework to recognize when you're giving away your power and practical steps to reclaim it. Warning: This conversation will challenge what you've always been told. ----more---- Ready to stop living life...
2025-10-1911 minCharlie’s Toolbox
Charlie’s ToolboxThe Fleabag Effect: What a Chaotic Character Taught Us About Self-AcceptanceWhat if the voice in your head didn't have to be your worst enemy? In this episode, we explore the exhausting cycle of perfectionism, why we replay our failures on loop, and what it takes to finally make peace with the messy, complicated parts of ourselves. Through the lens of one beloved TV character's journey from self-destruction to self-acceptance, we uncover what it really means to be worthy of love, flaws and all. If you've ever felt like you need to fix yourself before you deserve compassion, this conversation is for you. ----more---- Ready to...
2025-10-1216 minCharlie’s Toolbox
Charlie’s ToolboxHow to Choose Yourself Part 3: Career ArchitectureWhat if everything you were taught about career success was designed to keep you working harder while staying trapped? In this episode, we're dismantling the traditional career playbook and rebuilding it around one goal: your freedom. This is pillar five of choosing yourself: Career Architecture. We're getting strategic about money, security, and designing work that actually serves your life. We're talking about how to navigate systems that weren't built for you, why single women especially need to be ruthless about income, and the truth about what freedom actually costs. Should you climb the corporate ladder? Build multiple...
2025-10-0524 minCharlie’s Toolbox
Charlie’s ToolboxHow to Choose Yourself Part 2: The Foundation That Changes EverythingWhat if the reason you can't seem to stick to choosing yourself has nothing to do with willpower? In this episode, we dive into the two pillars that determine whether all your other self-improvement efforts actually last. I share a conversation that completely shifted how I think about relationships, plus the family dynamics that tried to keep me small (and how I broke free). We're talking about the systems that either support your sovereignty or undermine it at every turn. This is Part 2 of our series on the five pillars of choosing yourself. If you...
2025-09-2917 minCharlie’s Toolbox
Charlie’s ToolboxWhat does it really mean to "choose yourself" as a woman?Beyond the buzzwords and Instagram quotes lies a practical framework for reclaiming your power in five critical areas of life. This isn't about self-care Sunday or positive affirmations; it's about the concrete choices that determine whether you're living on your own terms or someone else's. In this episode, we dive deep into the real-world strategies that transform abstract concepts like "self-love" into actionable steps. Through powerful personal stories and sociological insights, discover why certain life decisions can be the difference between freedom and dependence, between thriving and merely surviving. If you've ever wondered how to...
2025-09-2113 minCharlie’s Toolbox
Charlie’s ToolboxWhat to Do When You've Never Been in a RelationshipHave you ever wondered what happens when romantic love just... doesn't happen? In a world obsessed with finding 'the one,' we rarely talk openly about what it's like to navigate life without ever experiencing a romantic relationship and the complex emotions that come with it. In this episode, we explore the deeper questions many are afraid to ask: Is it personal? Is it fixable? And how do you find peace when society tells you something essential is missing from your life? This isn't about dating tips or promises that love is just around the...
2025-09-1410 minCharlie’s Toolbox
Charlie’s ToolboxBeyond the Roles: Embracing Your Fluid Identity with Kay DavenportWhat happens when the roles that once defined you begin to shift? In this deeply personal conversation, Kay Davenport opens up about the profound journey of navigating evolving identity as a woman, mother, and entrepreneur. This episode is for any woman who has ever felt the ground shift beneath her feet as she stepped into new roles or wondered how to stay true to herself while everything around her was changing. Whether you're navigating new motherhood, a career shift, or simply feeling like your current identity no longer fits, this episode offers both practical wisdom and profound...
2025-09-0746 minCharlie’s Toolbox
Charlie’s ToolboxWhy Shame Blinds You to What's ExtraordinaryWhat if the thing you think is broken about you is actually proof of something extraordinary? There's a hidden filter that's been distorting how you see yourself, your mistakes, and your struggles. It's keeping you from recognizing the incredible strength that's been there all along, disguised as your deepest shame. In this episode, we dive into why shame doesn't just make you feel bad but literally changes what you're able to see. We explore how the stories you tell yourself about your "failures" might be missing the most important part: the extraordinary resilience it took...
2025-08-3113 minCharlie’s Toolbox
Charlie’s ToolboxThe Art of Becoming: A Conversation with Oyin EdogiWhat does it really take to discover your true calling? In this intimate conversation, I sit down with Oyin Edogi to explore the pivotal moments that shaped her journey of self-discovery. Oyin opens up about the uncertainty and exploration that defined her twenties - that crucial decade when societal expectations collide with personal truth. We dive deep into how she navigated the pressure to follow conventional paths while staying true to her evolving sense of self. This isn't just another career story. It's about the messy, beautiful process of becoming who you're meant to be. Oyin shares the mindset...
2025-08-2435 minCharlie’s Toolbox
Charlie’s ToolboxWhat Happens When Everything Falls ApartWhat if everything falling apart in your life isn't random chaos but a deliberate excavation process designed to uncover something you can't see yet? When your job disappears, relationships crumble, and your entire world feels like it's collapsing, there's a secret process happening beneath the surface that most people completely miss. In this transformative episode, we reveal why life sometimes strips away everything familiar and how to stop seeing these devastating moments as punishment. You'll discover a powerful mindset shift that turns your darkest transitions into breakthrough moments, plus get practical tools to navigate life's inevitable excavations with wisdom...
2025-08-1706 minCharlie’s Toolbox
Charlie’s ToolboxThe Liminal Space: How to Thrive in the "Messy Middle" of LifeDo you ever feel stuck in the "messy middle" that difficult space between where you were and where you want to be? This is what we call a liminal space, and it can be one of the toughest environments to navigate. But what if I told you that being in this in-between place is not a punishment, but an opportunity for immense growth? In this episode, we're diving deep into "liminal structures," a powerful concept inspired by an architect who built a home on an impenetrable quarry. ----more---- In this video, you will...
2025-08-1012 minCharlie’s Toolbox
Charlie’s ToolboxHow To Turn Limitations Into Expansion (Glenn Martens Case Study)Are you living in the "in-between"? That space where you're building the thing, applying for the role, and figuring it out in real time, all within some frustrating constraints?   In this episode of Charlie's Toolbox, we're making a devotion to those limitations. We're dissecting the creative genius of fashion titan Glenn Martens—the visionary behind Y/Project, Diesel, and Maison Margiela. Martens is a master alchemist who transforms the constraints of iconic fashion houses into his most brilliant and expressive work.   We'll uncover the powerful lessons from his approach and show you...
2025-08-0316 minCharlie’s Toolbox
Charlie’s ToolboxA Special Message: Filling My Well This SummerIn this special episode, Charlie shares a personal update with the Charlie's Toolbox community. To continue creating content from a place of genuine inspiration and abundance, I'm taking this summer to nourish myself and recharge. This means new public content and podcasts will be on pause until August. I'm so grateful for your understanding and support! Members and subscribers will still receive exclusive weekly content if you sign up for our newsletter and community at charliestoolbox.com. Listen now for all the details on this necessary break and what's to come when we're back, refreshed, in August!
2025-05-1004 minCharlie’s Toolbox
Charlie’s ToolboxOver-Owning Your Story: Choosing Resilience Over the PastWelcome to Charlie's Toolbox, the cultural studio and creative platform for visionary women, hosted by Charlie Taylor. In this episode, we tackle a powerful concept: the potential pitfalls of "over-owning your story." We explore how our past experiences, while shaping us, can sometimes become a limiting identity if we're not mindful. Drawing on insightful perspectives, this conversation delves into the fine line between acknowledging our journey and letting it define our entire being. Join Charlie as she discusses the importance of choosing how we engage with our personal narratives and the liberating power of reclaiming...
2025-05-0605 minCharlie’s Toolbox
Charlie’s ToolboxThe Remix: Charlie's Toolbox is Now a Cultural StudioReady for the next level? Charlie's Toolbox isn't just healing anymore, we're creating! Tune in as we unveil our evolution into a full-blown cultural studio, where visionary women forge sovereignty and build radical futures. Discover what this means for you, and get a first look at The Radical Atelier, our exclusive digital sanctuary for creation and assembly. This is the blueprint for a new world.   Curious about where we are going? Check out the launch of our new website charliestoolbox.com
2025-04-2906 minCharlie’s Toolbox
Charlie’s ToolboxEp. 20 Wait...Was That Happiness?This week on Charlie’s Toolbox, we’re diving into the subtle yet powerful signals that happiness leaves behind. When life gets heavy, it can feel like joy is nowhere to be found—but what if it’s been showing up in small ways, just waiting for you to notice? In this episode, we explore how identifying your personal happiness indicators can shift your mindset, sustain your joy, and remind you that you're on the right path. Tune in for a thoughtful conversation that will help you become more present, grateful, and attuned to the moments that matter. Plus...
2025-04-0906 minCharlie’s Toolbox
Charlie’s ToolboxEp. 14 Why Can’t Women Be Angry?Why Can’t Women Be Angry? | Charlie’s Toolbox In this week’s episode of Charlie’s Toolbox, we’re diving into a powerful and often taboo topic: women’s anger. Why is it that women are expected to suppress their rage, while male anger is often justified or even celebrated? From the structural roots of patriarchy to the everyday interpersonal dynamics that shape our lives, we’ll explore how societal norms force women to hide their true emotions. --- 💌**Stay Connected with Charlie's Toolbox** 💌 1️⃣ *Subscribe to My Newsletter:* Never miss an update—empower your growt...
2025-02-2505 minCharlie’s Toolbox
Charlie’s ToolboxEp. 13 Why Being Stuck is the Best Thing That Could Happen to YouHave you ever felt stuck in life, unsure of your next move? In this video, I share my personal journey of achieving my dreams only to find myself at a standstill. Being stuck can feel like a curse, but what if it’s actually a gift? Join me as I explore how surrendering, self-reflection, and embracing discomfort can transform your perspective and help you uncover your most authentic self. If you’ve ever struggled with feeling lost or uncertain, this is for you. Let’s dive in together and discover the power of being stuck. ---   💌**St...
2025-02-1812 minCharlie’s Toolbox
Charlie’s ToolboxEp. 12 Silencing the Whisper: How to Stop Self-Sabotage and Step Into Your GreatnessHave you ever felt like you’re on the brink of something amazing, only to hear that quiet, insidious voice in your head saying, “You’re not good enough” or “This is too much”? You’re not alone. That whisper—the one that convinces you to shrink, doubt, and self-sabotage—is something so many of us struggle with, even when we know we’re capable of greatness. In this episode, Charlie, founder of Charlie’s Toolbox, dives deep into why that voice shows up, how it keeps us stuck in cycles of unworthiness and unhappiness, and—most importantly—how to silence it...
2025-02-1214 minCharlie’s Toolbox
Charlie’s ToolboxEp. 11: Are You Living Someone Else’s Story? Breaking Free from Inherited NarrativesWelcome to Charlie’s Toolbox! In this week’s episode, we explore the stories we inherit from our parents and how they shape our lives, decisions, and worldviews. Join us as we explore the emotional burdens and patterns we unconsciously adopt and how these inherited narratives can keep us from living fully in the present. Charlie shares a journey of breaking free from a mindset of fear and disappointment rooted in a story that wasn’t theirs. Through introspection and self-discovery, they uncovered how their parents’ experiences had become their own and how they learned to rewrite their na...
2025-01-3116 minCharlie’s Toolbox
Charlie’s ToolboxEp. 10 Breaking Free from Religious GuiltIn this episode of Charlie’s Toolbox, we’re diving deep into breaking free from religious guilt—especially for those who feel called to live outside societal expectations. Growing up in a deeply religious family, where church was a weekly ritual and faith was woven into every aspect of life, I quickly realized that my relationship with religion and God needed to evolve to embrace the freedom and identity I desired. But walking away from deeply ingrained beliefs isn’t easy. The guilt lingers, the overthinking creeps in, and the pressure to be perfect can feel overwhelming. Jo...
2025-01-2812 minCharlie’s Toolbox
Charlie’s ToolboxEp.9 How To Be Likable At WorkIn this week’s episode of Charlie’s Toolbox, Charlie Taylor discusses the importance of being likable at work—a topic near and dear to her heart. Reflecting on her experiences creating tension and chaos in the workplace, Charlie shares how a pivotal moment led her to reassess her approach. She emphasizes the importance of navigating work relationships, especially in today’s economy, where being liked can be crucial to job security. Tune in as Charlie offers valuable skills and strategies to help you thrive at work and build stronger connections with your colleagues. This episode is a must-l...
2025-01-2121 minCharlie’s Toolbox
Charlie’s ToolboxEp. 8 Discipline Gets You What You WantWhenever I heard “discipline,” my stomach would knot up. It felt like punishment or a chore I didn’t want to face. For years, I saw discipline as a cage. But over time, I realized the truth: discipline is freeing. It’s the trait of winners. In this episode, I get real about my journey with discipline. I share how my mindset shifted from doing “just enough” to truly committing to the practices that align with my goals. I’ll reflect on how B- effort gave me B- results—jobs I didn’t want, roles I outgrew, and a version of m...
2025-01-1412 minCharlie’s Toolbox
Charlie’s ToolboxEp. 7 It's OK To Be A B*tchIt's OK to Be a B*tch | Charlie's Toolbox In this episode of Charlie's Toolbox, we explore the liberation that comes with embracing your inner voice, even when society labels it as being a "b*tch." Women who refuse to be governed by societal norms often face both subtle and overt forms of punishment—being excluded from opportunities, mischaracterized as unprofessional, or even subjected to outright hostility.   But what does it mean to be a "b*tch"? It's about unapologetically prioritizing your truth, setting boundaries, and confronting challenges head-on. It’s about releasing the emotional and p...
2025-01-0712 minCharlie’s Toolbox
Charlie’s ToolboxEp. 6 How Grief, ADHD & 'Wild' with Reese Witherspoon Inspired My Journey to SobrietyIn this episode, I share how the movie Wild with Reese Witherspoon resonated deeply with me, highlighting the link between grief, unhealthy coping mechanisms, and the healing power of nature. I open up about my personal journey with ADHD, grief, and how life challenges led me to rely on weed as a way to cope. This is a story of self-discovery, confronting hard truths, and finding a path to sobriety. Join me as I reflect on addiction, mental health, and the steps I’m taking to reclaim my life and thrive.   Music: https://soundcloud.com/gua...
2024-12-1018 minCharlie’s Toolbox
Charlie’s ToolboxEp. 5 Financial Lifelines: How Money Can Rescue YouWelcome to Charlie’s Toolbox! In this week’s episode, we’re diving deep into the topic of money and its profound impact on our choices, behavior, and life trajectory. With the rise of tradwife content, it’s more important than ever to discuss what money means for women and the limitations that can arise when financial independence is out of reach. I’ll also share a personal story from my college days—a summer spent with my grandma, who opened up about her experiences as a young woman and the freedoms she wished she’d had. It’s a heartfe...
2024-12-0310 minCharlie’s Toolbox
Charlie’s ToolboxEp. 4 Don’t Allow Your Critical Inner Voice to Control Your DestinyDon’t Allow Your Critical Inner Voice to Control Your Destiny In this episode of Charlie’s Toolbox, we dive into the relentless critical inner voice (CIV) that shapes how we dream, act, and perceive ourselves. Where does this voice come from? Why does it show up, and how can we stop it from sabotaging our goals? Join me as I share my journey with the CIV, its roots in psychology, trauma, and social conditioning, and explore the coping mechanisms that can transform its impact. Learn how to challenge this voice, embrace new habits like sens...
2024-11-2618 minCharlie’s Toolbox
Charlie’s ToolboxEp. 3 Trusting Your PathIn this episode of Charlie’s Toolbox, we dive deep into what it means to trust your path truly. It’s not about blindly accepting every experience or glamorizing pain; rather, it's about using the situations you encounter to learn, grow, and gain valuable insights. We explore how each challenge, each twist, and turn, reveals something unique about you and your journey. Tune in to discover how trusting your path can help you gain clarity, build resilience, and align more closely with your true self. Plus, we start with a powerful mantra to center yourself in self-acceptance. Join...
2024-11-1008 minCharlie’s Toolbox
Charlie’s ToolboxEp. 2 From Self-Abandonment to Self-Love: Redefining Love Without SacrificeWelcome to this week’s episode of Charlie’s Toolbox! In this episode, we explore the path from self-abandonment to self-love. Here’s what you’ll gain: Recognize Self-Abandonment: Understand how self-sacrifice often masquerades as love and compassion in relationships. Redefine Love: Learn what love should look like—without the need to give up parts of yourself to keep it alive. Understand Consequences: See how putting others’ needs above your own leads to lower self-esteem, lowered standards, and unhappiness over time. Set Boundaries: Discover practical ways to create boundaries that honor your needs a...
2024-11-0322 minCharlie’s Toolbox
Charlie’s ToolboxSeason 2. Ep. 1 A Relationship Will Not Save YouWelcome to Season 2 of Charlie’s Toolbox! In this episode, we dive into how people relinquish control over their lives, hoping relationships will fulfill them. Join me as we explore how to reclaim autonomy, nurture self-trust, and avoid the pitfalls of giving up power. Let's start with a mantra of self-acceptance, honoring the inner voice we often ignore. Together, we’ll break down why you should never surrender your autonomy for the illusion that a relationship can solve everything. What You'll Get Out of This Episode: Recognize why relationships can’t substitute for self-fulfillment. Understand the conseq...
2024-10-2713 minCharlie’s Toolbox
Charlie’s ToolboxWoo Yourself: The Romance of Self-DisciplineWelcome back, Toolies! This episode is all about embracing self-discipline as an act of self-love. We’ll discuss how building disciplined habits can lead to the life you truly want, focusing on your career, health, and finances. Plus, I’m excited to share that I’ve launched a YouTube membership channel where you can get more personal insights and behind-the-scenes content. And don’t forget to join me on September 5th for a webinar on leveraging these skills to climb the corporate ladder. Takeaways: How to view discipline as a form of self-care. The importan...
2024-09-0215 minCharlie’s Toolbox
Charlie’s ToolboxReviving Your Sparkle In this episode of Charlie’s Toolbox, we delve into the journey of rediscovering your inner sparkle. We explore what it means to feel disconnected from your true self and how various life experiences can dim your light. Join us as we discuss practical steps to reconnect with your essence and reignite your passion for life. Plus, hear about our exciting new workshops and book releases designed to support you on your path to self-discovery and empowerment. Tune in for a heartfelt conversation on reclaiming your magic and living a life full of joy and curiosity. ...
2024-07-2310 minCharlie’s Toolbox
Charlie’s ToolboxOvercoming Your Past to Achieve Your GoalsWelcome to this week’s episode of Charlie’s Toolbox! In this empowering discussion, we tackle the misconception that one must be fully healed or confident to achieve their dreams. By sharing insights and practical steps, we explore how your past, while influential, doesn't have to dictate your future. Learn how to harness the power of choice, break free from self-limiting beliefs, and embrace your journey with courage and determination. Tune in for an inspiring conversation that will motivate you to take control of your narrative and pursue your goals with unwavering passion. Takeaways: Your past does...
2024-06-2807 minCharlie’s Toolbox
Charlie’s ToolboxThe Fine Line Between Support and Self-Preservation in FriendshipsWelcome to this week's episode of Charlie's Toolbox. Last week, we discussed setting boundaries with friends in toxic and unhealthy relationships. This week, in Part 2, we dive deeper into the delicate balance of being there for your friends while keeping your peace. Episode Description: In this episode, we explore the challenging dynamics of supporting friends who are in toxic relationships. How do you maintain your well-being while trying to help a friend in need? We discuss the importance of community and the need to be cautious about who we call friends. Sometimes, changing the conversation or setting...
2024-06-2006 minCharlie’s Toolbox
Charlie’s ToolboxTired of Hearing About Your Friend's Toxic Relationship? Here's What to DoSummary: Welcome to this week's episode of Charlie's Toolbox! Today, we discuss a topic that many of us struggle with: setting and defining emotional boundaries with friends who are in unhappy or toxic relationships. This can be challenging because we care deeply about our friends and want the best for them. However, sometimes, this can lead to blurred boundaries, which ultimately benefit no one. In this episode, we'll discuss recognizing the "enough" moment and establishing clear boundaries to protect your emotional well-being while supporting your friends. We'll also explore how to handle conversations about their relationships and...
2024-06-1210 minCharlie’s Toolbox
Charlie’s ToolboxWalking While Female: The Constant Battle Against Street HarassmentIn this episode, we explore the insidious ways in which patriarchy is entrenched in our society, particularly when it comes to women navigating the streets. Our host shares a personal experience of being yelled at by two men while walking her dog and how it reminded her of the constant labor and energy women are forced to give to men subtly and blatantly every day. From being harassed on the street to navigating men's emotional minefields, women are expected to abide by unspoken rules or face the consequences. Join us as we break down these small interactions and explore...
2024-05-0812 minCharlie’s Toolbox
Charlie’s ToolboxEp. 85 Defining My Own Womanhood: Accountability, Joy, Spirituality, and UnconventionalityThis episode explores what womanhood means to many of us and how we can redefine it for ourselves. For many of us, womanhood has been defined by our mothers and grandmothers' experiences, and we have been conditioned to believe that men are the only way to find true fulfillment in life. However, we challenge this notion and redefine womanhood to mean accountability, joy, spirituality, and unconventionality. We believe that by shifting our focus away from men and our parents, we can discover what truly brings us joy and fulfillment. We dive into what it means...
2024-05-0813 minCharlie’s Toolbox
Charlie’s ToolboxEp. 84 How to Use Emotional Intelligence Effectively at WorkWelcome to Workplace Wisdom, where we explore the power of emotional intelligence in professional settings. In this episode, "Maximizing Emotional Intelligence at Work," we uncover how this crucial skill can serve as your secret weapon, especially for those facing structural barriers like women, women of color, and trans individuals. Join us as we discover actionable strategies to navigate the corporate landscape, positioning yourself strategically for growth and forming meaningful alliances. Before we delve into our discussion, remember to like, subscribe, and follow us on social media @charliestoolbox. And if you haven't already, sign up for our newsletter to participate...
2024-04-2513 minThe Boudoir
The BoudoirDecenter Men vs Pick Me: Let's Unpack | Ep. 10send some fan mail I'm sure you know what a pick me girl is, but have you ever thought about decentering men? today we are going to talk about some of the arguments for and against decentering men and gain more understanding on both sides of the argument. please let me know your thoughts about this conversation. don't forget to subscribe and rate me 5 stars! Follow us on social media!instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theboudoirshow?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet&igsh=ZDNlZDc0MzIxNw==my personal instagram: https://www.instagram.com/h...
2024-04-1048 minCharlie’s Toolbox
Charlie’s ToolboxEp. 83 What Does it Mean to Choose Happiness?Welcome to this episode of Charlie's Toolbox titled "What Does It Mean to Choose Happiness?" In this episode, host Charlie Taylor explores the concept of choosing happiness and shares strategies and tactics for incorporating happiness into your daily life. Charlie emphasizes the importance of affirming your emotions, avoiding self-criticism, actively engaging with life, expecting goodness, and believing in your power. By choosing happiness, you can create a more fulfilling and joyful life. Key themes discussed in this episode include the effort required to choose happiness, the importance of affirming emotions, the power of self-belief, and the need...
2024-04-0415 minCharlie’s Toolbox
Charlie’s ToolboxEp. 82 The Consequences of Devaluing Non-Romantic LoveIn this episode of Charlie's Toolbox, we delve into the significance of nonromantic love and the repercussions of undervaluing it. Join us as we explore the conditions that lead women to accept deceitful behavior in pursuit of romantic fulfillment. - The impact of loneliness on craving love and affection - The problem with not valuing nonromantic relationships - The danger of believing that romantic love is necessary for fulfillment - How devaluing nonromantic relationships can lead to vulnerability - The importance of recognizing and appreciating nonromantic love  
2024-02-2006 minCharlie’s Toolbox
Charlie’s ToolboxEp. 80 How Recovering from Codependency Helps You Decenter MenWelcome to a special episode of Charlie's Toolbox where we dive deep into the powerful journey of recovering from codependency and its profound impact on decentering men in our lives. In this episode, we explore the intricacies of breaking free from unhealthy relationship dynamics and reclaiming our autonomy. Join us for an insightful conversation as we share personal stories, expert insights, and practical tips to navigate the transformative process of overcoming codependency. This episode is a compass for those seeking to foster healthier connections, prioritize well-being, and embark on a journey of self-discovery.   ...
2024-02-0507 minCharlie’s Toolbox
Charlie’s ToolboxEp. 78 Why Do You Hesitate to Decenter Men?Welcome to another thought-provoking episode of Charlie's Toolbox! In this week's installment, we delve into the intriguing topic of decentering men and the palpable hesitation that often accompanies such discussions. Our host has been immersing herself in the pages of "The Courage to be Disliked," exploring the concept of teleology. This philosophy interprets actions and behaviors based on the purpose they serve rather than the causes that trigger them. As we apply this lens to the theme of decentering men, our host reflects on the hesitations many women experience and asks the pivotal question: What purpose does...
2024-01-0812 minHot Mess-Terpiece Theatre
Hot Mess-Terpiece TheatreThe Great DivorceOn this episode of How to Be Fine, Kristen and Jolenta talk about a looming feminist movement called “The Great Divorce”. Plus, they offer up advice on how to manage a shifting friendship dynamic, and how to avoid keeping track of family gift ideas. Do you have any advice question for us? Email us at kristenandjolenta@gmail.com, or follow us on Instagram @howtobefinepod. And if you haven't already, please join our How to Be Fine (formerly By the Book) Facebook community! https://www.facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta Sources:The gr...
2023-11-3046 minCharlie’s Toolbox
Charlie’s ToolboxEp. 74 Me-Supremacy: The Cost and Benefits of Prioritizing Yourself.Welcome to this week's episode of our podcast! Today, we will be discussing the topic of prioritizing yourself and what it entails. In this episode, we'll explore the advantages and disadvantages of putting yourself first, allowing you to make informed decisions about how to best take care of yourself. By the end of this episode, you'll have a better understanding of what you can expect when you prioritize yourself and how it can positively impact your life. So, sit back, relax, and let's dive in!   Link to the transcript: https://www.charliestoolbox.com/post/me-supremacy-the-benefits-and-cost-of-prioritizing-yourself
2023-10-1615 minCharlie’s Toolbox
Charlie’s ToolboxEp. 64 Why Performing for Men Will Hurt YouIn today's episode, we delve into the topic of performing for men and the detrimental effects it can have on one's mental health. Join us as we explore the pressures placed on women to constantly please men and the toll it takes on their well-being. We'll also discuss ways to break free from this cycle and prioritize self-care. Tune in for a thought-provoking and insightful discussion.   For more tools on dating and centering yourself on: https://www.charliestoolbox.com/ Twitter: https://www.charliestoolbox.com/ Facebook: h...
2023-05-0314 minCharlie’s Toolbox
Charlie’s ToolboxEp. 62 How to Build an Emergency Emotional KitIn this episode, I will guide you on how to create a plan to be kind to yourself when you are feeling down. It's common to not naturally engage in healthy, loving, or affirming actions when feeling low, so we will develop an emergency kit that outlines step-by-step actions to take during those times. Think of it as creating notes for yourself, like a parent providing instructions for a babysitter on how to handle a child's emotions. I want to teach you how to develop your own self-care plan. For additional resources on dating and finding inner peace, stay...
2023-05-0317 minCharlie’s Toolbox
Charlie’s ToolboxEp. 62 How to Have a Healthy Relationship With RejectionIn this episode, we delve into the profound realm of rejection, acknowledging its excruciatingly painful nature. Join us as we explore the insights of psychologist Sheila Robinson-Kiss, who reveals that rejection activates the same neural pathways associated with physical and emotional agony. No wonder we instinctively avoid it—nobody wants to face that level of pain or contend with the negative narratives our minds concoct to torment us. However, we're not here to dwell on the despair. Instead, we aim to empower you with strategies to emerge stronger after facing rejection. Learn how to navigate through the st...
2023-04-2608 minCharlie’s Toolbox
Charlie’s ToolboxEp. 61 How to Stop Seeking Male Validation Part 2.Male validation makes us feel special, worthy, beautiful, desired, and like a full person because it was designed that way. Part 1. I discussed some of the reasons why we seek male validation. Part 2. I will some easy lifts to help you decrease your need for male validation.   For more tools on dating and centering yourself on: https://www.charliestoolbox.com/ Twitter: https://www.charliestoolbox.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/charliestool... Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/charliestoo... #decentermen 
2023-04-1825 minCharlie’s Toolbox
Charlie’s ToolboxEp. 60 How To Stop Seeking Male Validation Part 1.In this episode, I investigate why we seek male validation.   In Part 2, I discuss options and exercises to help you stop seeking male validation. For more tools on dating and centering yourself on: https://www.charliestoolbox.com/  Twitter:  https://www.charliestoolbox.com/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/charliestool... Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/charliestoo...  #decentermen #dating #selfhelp. Listen to Charlie's Toolbox on:  Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7cQHIKl... Apple Podcast:  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast...  Google Podcasts: https...
2023-04-1318 minMis/educate
Mis/educate23. Excuse Me Your Emotional IQ Is Showing (feat. Charlie Taylor)In this episode, Sarah is joined by Charlie Taylor, host and founder of the Charlie's Toolbox podcast and online community, as they discuss emotional intelligence. Sarah and Charlie discuss recognise the need for emotional growth, doing the hard work to improve our emotional intelligence but also finding a balance and room for self-compassion.Keep up to date with all things Mis/educate:Twitter: @mis_educate Instagram: @mis.educate Site: miseducateblog.com Follow The Host, Sarah:Twitter: @bysarahg_Instagram: @bysarahg_Fol...
2023-04-041h 21Charlie’s Toolbox
Charlie’s ToolboxEp. 53 Setting Emotional Boundaries in Dating: A Must-Hear Podcast for Healthy RelationshipsFor those who are hyper-vigilant and tend to bolt at the slightest discomfort, and for those who go all-in on the dating process and take it to heart, this episode is for you. Both of these groups share a common problem: they suffer from past relationships or childhood traumas that leave them without the emotional boundaries necessary to cope with the anxieties that come with dating. If you find yourself constantly on edge, ready to flee at the first sign of trouble, or if you invest heavily in every aspect of dating and take every rejection to...
2023-02-2232 minCharlie’s Toolbox
Charlie’s ToolboxEp. 52 Unlocking Your True Potential: Discover How to Boost Your Self-Worth with These Expert TipsImproving your self-worth is a topic that many of us can relate to, as it's something we all struggle with from time to time. With that being said, in this episode, we will be discussing a few steps that can help you build your self-worth.  I encourage you to take note of these steps and add them to your life toolbox. By doing so, you're taking an important step towards improving your self-esteem and becoming the best version of yourself. So, let's dive in and explore the ways to boost your self-worth.   For mo...
2023-02-1528 minCharlie’s Toolbox
Charlie’s ToolboxEp. 50 Managing Setbacks: Life Hacks to Help You SurviveThere has been so much that people have gone through these past couple of years. People have experienced death, isolation, disruption to their everyday life, heartbreak, political unrest, failure, and the loss of their job. These moments are earth-shattering and have a profound effect on every one of us. Though I cannot make these situations easier, with less grief, and sadness, I can help you process them and move forward in a hopeful and optimistic way. You should leave this episode understanding that life is hard, but to keep your joy, you must find ways to process losses, learn...
2023-02-0324 minCharlie’s Toolbox
Charlie’s ToolboxEp. 49 Discovering How to Love and Value Your Own BodyAs we welcome the new year, many of us have weight and body goals in mind. However, these goals can often lead to negative self-talk and self-criticism. In this episode, our aim is to offer helpful tips and tools to encourage body positivity and appreciation.   For more tools on dating and centering yourself on: https://www.charliestoolbox.com/ Twitter: https://www.charliestoolbox.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/charliestool... Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/charliestoo...   #decentermen #dating #se...
2023-01-1714 minCharlie’s Toolbox
Charlie’s ToolboxEp. 47 Coping with Betrayal from a Friend: Strategies for Moving ForwardIn this week's episode, we will be discussing an important topic that relates to the pain of losing a friend due to betrayal. With recent videos highlighting the hurt caused by these situations, it's important to address ways to deal with this type of emotional pain.  By the end of the episode, you will have practical tips to help you cope with the loss of a dear friend. From understanding the stages of grief to finding healthy ways to express your emotions, we hope to provide helpful insights that can guide you through this difficult time. Remember, y...
2023-01-0334 minThe Hey, Girlfriend Podcast
The Hey, Girlfriend Podcast13. De-centering Men Changed My Life!A new challenge for you moving into 2023: Make YOU the center of your universe. Prioritize yourself and your life and stop stressing so hard about what men want or when you're gonna get one. I did and it changed my life. Terminology & concept of “De-Centering Men” credit goes to @charliestoolbox For YouTube, 1:1 mindset & intuitive coaching & books: www.ivebeenthatgirl.net
2022-12-2942 minCharlie’s Toolbox
Charlie’s ToolboxEp. 45 Joy Has No Age Limit, So Stop Prohibiting It!In this episode, we explore the topic of aging. We delve into the various models that shape our perception of aging and how it can be particularly challenging for women. By the end of the episode, you'll have gained a fresh perspective on aging, a better understanding of why we fear it, and practical advice on how to maintain a positive outlook and joy as you age gracefully. Time Stamps: Intro:22 About Me:51 Song of the Week: 2:21 Main topic 3:30 Tips 12:24 For more tools on dating and centering yourself on...
2022-11-0519 minCharlie’s Toolbox
Charlie’s ToolboxEp. 43 Unlocking Authentic Connections: Reevaluating the Role of Usefulness in Building RelationshipsJoin us in this enlightening episode as we challenge the notion of using usefulness as a healthy strategy for building meaningful relationships. Gain a deeper understanding of the thought process behind this approach and how it impacts your relationship skills. We explore two parenting frameworks and their profound influence on shaping your relationship dynamics. Through insightful examples, we shed light on how these frameworks manifest in adults and their subsequent impact on relationships. Furthermore, we provide practical tips to help you rewrite this thought process, empowering you to cultivate more authentic and fulfilling connections. By...
2022-10-1433 minCharlie’s Toolbox
Charlie’s ToolboxEp. 40 The Importance of Honoring Your FeelingsJoin us in this thought-provoking episode as we explore the profound significance of your emotions, even when they may make you feel uncomfortable. Discover the transformative truth that emotions are not separate entities to be managed but rather valuable signals that provide insights into your preferences, joys, dislikes, and boundaries. We dive deep into the impact of honoring or ignoring these emotional signposts. Gain a greater understanding of how disregarding your emotions can affect your choices in friendships, communities, and hobbies. Through introspective discussions, we shed light on the consequences of neglecting your authentic emotional...
2022-09-0923 minCharlie’s Toolbox
Charlie’s ToolboxEp. 39 How Men Exploit Others By Using Self-HelpIn this thought-provoking episode, we discuss how men often use self-help language and concepts to manipulate and deceive women. We explore the ways in which men use these terms to mask their true intentions, and how they use them to appear empathetic and caring while still pursuing their own interests. Through real-life examples and in-depth analysis, we provide valuable insights into how to spot these tactics and protect yourself from being taken advantage of. Join us for a stimulating conversation that will leave you with a greater understanding of the dynamics at play in modern relationships.  
2022-08-2617 minCharlie’s Toolbox
Charlie’s ToolboxEp. 38 Confidence: Cozy With Who I AmIn this episode, I discuss the elements of confidence, steps I took, the experiences that shaped me, the steps I suggest, and the results of the work.    For more tools on dating and centering yourself on: https://www.charliestoolbox.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/charliestoolbox Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/charliestoolboxx Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/charliestoolbox/   Listen to Charlie's Toolbox on: Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7cQHIKl... Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast... Google Podcasts: htt...
2022-08-1224 minCharlie’s Toolbox
Charlie’s ToolboxEp. 37 Reclaiming Your Authenticity: Subverting Beauty Standards and Embracing Self-AcceptanceJoin us in this thought-provoking episode as we delve into the societal pressure of constantly beautifying ourselves. Discover the detrimental effects of these standards and expectations on our well-being. We explore powerful ways to subvert these norms and empower ourselves to feel truly comfortable in our own skin, embracing our natural beauty. Gain practical insights and strategies to break free from the cycle of external validation and cultivate a deep sense of self-acceptance. Tune in to this inspiring discussion as we embark on a journey towards reclaiming your authenticity and finding genuine contentment in being...
2022-08-0823 minCharlie’s Toolbox
Charlie’s ToolboxEp. 36 Unveiling Sexual Empowerment: Embracing Pleasure Beyond the Male-Centric PerspectiveJoin us in this captivating episode as we delve into the multifaceted, delightful, and empowering world of sex. Prepare for an engaging discussion on the transformative effects of decentering men in sexual desire and exploration. Discover the exhilarating journey of embracing your own desires and pleasure, free from societal expectations and male-centric perspectives. We delve into the nuances of what unfolds when you prioritize your own satisfaction and reclaim agency over your sexual experiences. Get ready for an enlightening conversation that challenges conventional norms, celebrates self-expression, and empowers you to navigate the complexities of sexual...
2022-07-2244 minCharlie’s Toolbox
Charlie’s ToolboxEp.35 Unveiling the Hidden Struggles: The Journey of High-Functioning Women Confronting DepressionJoin us in this empowering episode as we dive into the world of high-functioning women and the transformative moment when they recognize their own battle with depression. Discover the profound insights and practical guidance on navigating the complex emotions that arise after this realization. We explore the powerful journey of self-discovery, providing valuable tools and strategies to help high-functioning women harness their inner strength. Learn how to manage and navigate the emotional landscape effectively, embracing the path to healing and empowerment. Get ready to embark on an empowering discussion that will inspire and guide you...
2022-07-1526 minCharlie’s Toolbox
Charlie’s ToolboxEp. 34 Self-Discovery and Empowerment: The Gift of Choosing YourselfJoin us in this captivating episode as we delve into the thought-provoking article, 'Confessions Of A Perpetually Single Woman,' penned by the insightful Morgan Parker. Discover the profound reasons why choosing yourself is an essential act of empowerment. Gain a deeper understanding of the impact of honoring yourself versus dishonoring your own needs and desires. Furthermore, we explore the transformative journey of framing and accepting the gift of choosing yourself. Uncover valuable insights and practical advice on how to embrace this gift and unlock a path to self-discovery and fulfillment. Get ready to embark on a...
2022-07-0730 minCharlie’s Toolbox
Charlie’s ToolboxEp. 33 Breaking Free: Conquering the Three Types of SettlingDiscover the captivating world of settling in this enlightening episode as we explore its three distinct types. Delve into a profound understanding of what settling truly entails, gaining clarity on its impact. Join us as we equip you with invaluable tips and strategies to break free from this limiting habit. Empower yourself to embrace a life filled with fulfillment, authenticity, and the realization of your true potential. Get ready to unlock the doors to a brighter future!     For more tools on dating and centering yourself on: https://www.charliestoolbox.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.co...
2022-06-3034 minCharlie’s Toolbox
Charlie’s ToolboxEp. 32 Getting Back to You: The Art of Remembering Your Spark (Part 2.)In part 1, we discussed the art of getting back to yourself. I asked you to acknowledge you are in a pandemic because that plays a role in your discontent or not feeling like you. I asked you to love your routine but also make space for spontaneity. Sometimes patterns can make your life feel dull. Finally, win small! Winning small feels like a jolt, and sometimes you need that jolt to make you feel good. To feel like you! Part 2. We will discuss your thoughts and your environment. There are particular ways they hinder you from feeling and being...
2022-04-2848 minCharlie’s Toolbox
Charlie’s ToolboxEp. 31 Getting Back to You: The Art of Remembering Your Spark (Part 1.)The pandemic has not only impacted many of us physically, but we've all experienced extreme grief that has caused many of us to lose the spark, the hunger, and the joy that once fueled us. This episode will discuss ways to navigate this feeling and tips to help spark some pleasure.      For more tools on dating and centering yourself on: https://www.charliestoolbox.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/charliestoolbox Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/charliestool... Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/charliestoo...     Listen to Charlie's Toolbox on: Spotify: https://op...
2022-04-0731 minCharlie’s Toolbox
Charlie’s ToolboxEp. 29 The Art of Choosing YourselfIn this episode, Charlie discusses the art of choosing yourself. Choosing yourself is an art that no one discusses. They do not tell you the how or the why. This episode will break down the steps to help you choose yourself.  I will also show you the benefit of that choice.    For more tools on dating and centering yourself on: https://www.charliestoolbox.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/charliestoolbox Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/charliestool... Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/charliestoo...     Listen to Charlie's Toolbox on: Spotify: https://open.spotify.co...
2022-01-0522 minCharlie’s Toolbox
Charlie’s Toolbox6 Types of Friendships That Can Make or Break YouNo one talks about friendships or their dynamics, but friendships are not a one size fit all thing. Some fit a certain role. Some are worth keeping and Some friendships you have to close the door on it. So, how do you figure out which is which?   For more tools on dating and centering yourself on: https://www.charliestoolbox.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/charliestoolbox Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/charliestool... Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/charliestoo... Listen to Charlie's Toolbox on: Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/s...
2021-10-2220 minCharlie’s Toolbox
Charlie’s ToolboxEp. 28 How to Decenter MenWant to learn how to Decenter Men? PURCHASE THE BOOK HERE: https://www.charliestoolbox.com/product-page/decentering-men Look deep into the societal constructs that prioritize men and learn how to break free from these norms to empower yourself truly. This video challenges the traditional narrative that women's lives should revolve around men and offers insightful strategies for decentering men from your life goals. Please visit my website to get more information: https://www.charliestoolbox.com/ Discover why achieving the roles of wife or mother isn't the only path to fulfillment and how to cultivate a...
2021-10-1313 minCharlie’s Toolbox
Charlie’s ToolboxEp. 27 Unveiling My Journey: Breaking Free from Settling in RelationshipsIn this week, I discuss my past relationship. Every relationship we leave we find out how to strengthen a muscle that was weak or was never there. My last relationship was created for me to learn how to fully and truly honor myself. Listen here to find out what I learned....   Youtube and podcasts Description box   For more tools on dating and centering yourself on: https://www.charliestoolbox.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/charliestoolbox Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/charliestoolboxx Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ch...
2021-10-0614 minCharlie’s Toolbox
Charlie’s ToolboxEp. 26 Liberating Yourself from Approval Seeking: Strategies for Being Okay with Not Being LikedWelcome to this empowering episode of "Charlie's Conversations" where Charlie dives into the topic of embracing your true self and breaking free from the opinions of others. In a world filled with judgment and social pressures, it can be challenging to stay true to who you are. Join Charlie as they share insightful tips, personal experiences, and practical strategies on how to confidently be yourself and prioritize your own happiness over external validation. Tune in and discover the liberating path to living authentically and embracing your uniqueness, regardless of what others may think.   For more t...
2021-09-2909 minCharlie’s Toolbox
Charlie’s ToolboxEp. 25 Why Compassion Matters: How It Transforms Relationships and Self-PerceptionIn this episode, Charlie discusses the aftermath of a painful event and how compassion can aid in healing.    For more tools on dating and centering yourself on: https://www.charliestoolbox.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/charliestoolbox Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/charliestool... Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/charliestoo...     Listen to Charlie's Toolbox on: Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7cQHIKl... Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast... Google Podcasts: https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0...          
2021-09-2212 minCharlie’s Toolbox
Charlie’s ToolboxEp. 24 Four Categories Of Women Who Love Men Too MuchIn this episode, Charlie discusses women who love men too much and why they aren't good friends to have. She outlines four categories that you may have interacted with. She discusses what being their friend looks like. She also discusses why they won't be good friends to you. We may love women who love men too much, but those women don't always love you back.    For more tools on dating and centering yourself on: https://www.charliestoolbox.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/charliestoolbox Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/charliestool... Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/charliestoo...     Listen to C...
2021-09-1610 minCharlie’s Toolbox
Charlie’s ToolboxEp. 22 Embracing Self-Discovery: How Being Clear About Who You Are Enhances Your LifeI realized that sometimes, life gets the best of you. Sometimes there are big disruptive events that ruin your light or small mini-events that chip away at you. Sometimes you find yourself waking up in the morning dreading the day.  OR you wake up and replaying all the ways people have hurt you. Sometimes those things cause you to skew your vision of yourself and your future yourself. During those times you have to be clear about who you are, and use strategies to keep that person in tact.  For more tools on dating and centering yourself on: htt...
2021-08-1121 minCharlie’s Toolbox
Charlie’s ToolboxEp. 20 I Don’t Feel Like It: Strategies To Rest When You Are BurnoutPushing yourself to the limit is unhealthy. It does not mean anything to work till you have no energy. There is no beauty nor virtue in it. The only thing that is happening is that your body and mind are getting beat up. To stop that from happening, I've created an episode with handy tips to help you rest.  For more tools on dating and centering yourself on: https://www.charliestoolbox.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/charliestoolbox Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/charliestool... Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/charliestoo...     Listen to Charlie's Toolbox on: Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show...
2021-07-2820 minCharlie’s Toolbox
Charlie’s ToolboxEp. 19 Feeling Peace but Expecting the WorstThis week, I would like to talk about the concept of embracing peace and the challenges that come with it. I was prompted to think about this topic based on my personal life experiences. Currently, everything in my life is going great, and I am at peace. I am discovering my passion through my work with Charlie's Toolbox - my podcast, writing, and the stories I share empower me. My dating life is harmonious, and my relationships with friends and family are mostly peaceful. Yet, despite this, I have this nagging feeling that things will change. That I will...
2021-07-1421 minCharlie’s Toolbox
Charlie’s ToolboxEp. 18 Dear Over-Liker: Setting Healthy Boundaries While DatingDear Over-Liker why is liking someone such a bad thing? If you have self-respect, can you also give love freely? Can you feel excited about a new prospect and still live your life and not compromise your values? If you want to learn how, please listen to my podcasts...    For more tools on dating and centering yourself on: https://www.charliestoolbox.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/charliestoolbox Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/charliestool... Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/charliestoo...     Listen to Charlie's Toolbox on: Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7cQHIKl... Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/pod...
2021-07-0714 minCharlie’s Toolbox
Charlie’s ToolboxEp. 17 Finding Stability in Dating: Is It Possible and How to Achieve ItAnxiety is natural. Anxiety about dating is natural. Everyone has it, but the difference between a person enjoying their date while being slightly anxious and the other who lets her anxiety ruin her dating experience is how they manage it. For more tools on dating and centering yourself on: https://www.charliestoolbox.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/charliestoolbox Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/charliestool... Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/charliestoo...     Listen to Charlie's Toolbox on: Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7cQHIKl... Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast... Google Podcasts: https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0...          
2021-06-3017 minCharlie’s Toolbox
Charlie’s ToolboxEp.13 The Best Approach to Understanding and Learning from MistakesThis episode is dedicated to women who can’t quite make peace with their mistakes. In the next few minutes, I will go through tactics on how to better understand your mistakes. I will discuss the best ways to reframe them, find the lesson, and make peace with them.   For more tools on dating and centering yourself on: https://www.charliestoolbox.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/charliestoolbox Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/charliestool... Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/charliestoo...     Listen to Charlie's Toolbox on: Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7cQHIKl... Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podc...
2021-05-2716 minCharlie’s Toolbox
Charlie’s ToolboxEp. 12 Finding Fulfillment at 3030-year-old settling is subtle. Often only you know. Or your friends know, but love you too much to tell you this is not the best you can do. 30-year-old settling is not fully committing to mediocre, but sort of embracing it. Now, I understand that sometimes you just don’t have the fight in you, and good enough is well… good! But for those of you who want excellent, I have some tips to keep you going for when you just want to give up and settle.   For more tools on dating and centering yourself on: https...
2021-05-1813 minCharlie’s Toolbox
Charlie’s ToolboxEp.11 Mastering Healthy Boundaries: Essential Tips for Building a Fulfilling Life of Balance and HappinessThis week we discuss boundaries. I thought this was a great topic to dive into because it’s one of those topics that you have to constantly reflect on and readjust. In this episode, I will provide a couple of gentle guidelines that will help you get started with enacting strong boundaries. For more tools on dating and centering yourself on: https://www.charliestoolbox.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/charliestoolbox Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/charliestool... Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/charliestoo...     Listen to Charlie's Toolbox on: Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7cQHIKl... Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com...
2021-05-1210 minCharlie’s Toolbox
Charlie’s ToolboxEp. 10 Embracing the Present: How to Find Love and Contentment in Your Current Life SituationHow do you own your life, accept it, and even go so far as to find pleasure and joy in it? In this episode, I provide tools for you to own your life.    For more tools on dating and centering yourself on: https://www.charliestoolbox.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/charliestoolbox Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/charliestool... Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/charliestoo...     Listen to Charlie's Toolbox on: Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7cQHIKl... Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast... Google Podcasts: https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0...          
2021-05-0412 minCharlie’s Toolbox
Charlie’s ToolboxEp. 9 Embracing Self-Centeredness: Unlocking the Power of Self-Care and Personal FulfillmentA while ago I wrote a tweet that stated, “Girls, please be self-absorbed. I beg of you. It saves you from a lot of pain & heartbreak.” I had many women retweet, share on Instagram, and message me agreeing but asking how? In this episode, I will break down the contours of a self-centered life and by the end, you should have a full picture of what that looks like for you   For more tools on dating and centering yourself on: https://www.charliestoolbox.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/charliestoolbox Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/charliestool... Instagram: https://w...
2021-04-3020 minCharlie’s Toolbox
Charlie’s ToolboxEp: 8 Embracing Fearlessness: Overcoming Challenges and Pursuing Your DreamsFear is a powerful force. It is a response that warns or protects you from danger. Basically, its sole purpose is to help you survive. Fear is something we are supposed to have and it is extremely helpful. However, when exhausted and perverted, fear can be the very thing that stops you from enjoying life. In this episode, we will discuss methods to attack and confront fear.    For more tools on dating and centering yourself on: https://www.charliestoolbox.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/charliestoolbox Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/charliestool... Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/charli...
2021-04-0911 minCharlie’s Toolbox
Charlie’s ToolboxEp: 7 Rising Above Hardship: Embracing Resilience and Finding StrengthSo many of us fail, but we don’t openly talk about it due to shame and embarrassment. A failure can have your stomach in knots. It can zap your energy and have you in a sunken place where you ask yourself “Why bother?” So, the question begs to be asked how do you get up when you have no life force? In this episode, I hope to give you some strategies so that you can gain the energy back to be yourself or to be a better version of yourself.   For more tools on dating and cen...
2021-03-2322 minCharlie’s Toolbox
Charlie’s ToolboxEp: 6 Carefrontation: A Compassionate Approach to Confrontation and Personal GrowthIn this episode, we discuss the topic of Carefrontation. We discuss its definition. When to use it and why to use it... Carefrontation is another way to understand confrontation. It is from a place of love. You love yourself so much that with every interaction and space you enter in, you notify those around you of how you want to be treated. For more tools on dating and centering yourself on: https://www.charliestoolbox.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/charliestoolbox Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/charliestool... Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/charliestoo...     Listen to Charlie's Toolbox on: Sp...
2021-03-1617 minCharlie’s Toolbox
Charlie’s ToolboxEp: 5 The Power of Saying No: Setting Boundaries for Personal EmpowermentWhen we learn about the power of no, we often do so by having it removed from us. We are either told it is unladylike to say no (aka boys won’t like you), or we are abused by the people closest to us and feel as if we have no choice (aka do this to keep the family functioning). As a result, we go along with things we hate. Date people we don’t like. Develop no boundaries and allow people to impede on the things we need. In this episode, we will address some of these fears, teach...
2021-03-0817 minCharlie’s Toolbox
Charlie’s ToolboxEp: 4 Choosing an Authentic Life: Embracing Your True SelfAre you hiding who you are because you think people will not like you? Do you think the mask you put on is more likable? Why do you think that? Why do you think you are not worthy of being seen? Why must you wear a mask to be liked, cared for, or interested? This episode discusses the benefits of living an authentic life and the tools to take you there.  --- 💌**Stay Connected with Charlie's Toolbox** 💌 1️⃣ **Join My Substack Community:** Get exclusive insights, resources, and in-depth conversations delivered directly to your inbox. https://subs...
2021-03-0229 minCharlie’s Toolbox
Charlie’s ToolboxEp: 3 Navigating Jealousy and Envy: Finding Inspiration InsteadIn this episode, we discuss two emotions we are often ashamed of: Jealousy and Envy. We look at the source and break down why. Finally, we will solve this dilemma and teach you to draw inspiration instead.  --- 💌**Stay Connected with Charlie's Toolbox** 💌 1️⃣ **Join My Substack Community:** Get exclusive insights, resources, and in-depth conversations delivered directly to your inbox. https://substack.com/@charliestoolbox 2️⃣ **Subscribe to My Newsletter:** Never miss an update—empower your growth and stay inspired with tools to elevate your personal and professional life. https://www.charliestoolbox.com/ 3️⃣ **Follow My Podcast:** Tune in t...
2021-02-2424 minCharlie’s Toolbox
Charlie’s ToolboxEp: 1 Processing MistakesWelcome to another enlightening episode of Charlie's Wellness Toolbox! In this thought-provoking installment, we delve into the intriguing topic of processing mistakes and explore its profound impact on personal growth. Join me as we unravel the origins of our ingrained patterns for handling mistakes and examine how this framework manifests in various aspects of our lives. Discover the detrimental effects it can have on our development and why it's crucial to break free from its limitations. But fear not! We won't leave you empty-handed. This episode offers a beacon of hope by introducing a healthier...
2021-02-0910 min