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The Neurodivergent ProfessorNDP Episode 163: How Neurodivergent People Can Learn Healthy BoundariesHave you ever thought about your boundaries? Maybe a therapist told you your boundaries were weak. Or maybe you read something about relationships and how some people might not respect your boundaries. I learned early on that my boundaries are weak. I tend to pay attention to other people’s needs more than my own. Some people in the world will take advantage of this. Many of us struggle to simultaneously love other people while protecting our own needs.As I learn about neurodiversity, I have been thinking a lot about how boundaries rela...2024-02-0832 minThe Neurodivergent ProfessorKEW The Are vs Should Interview Series: Gretchen WinterkornIf you are interested in therapy and coaching. Either for yourself, someone you love, or just because you think it's cool. Gretchen Winterkorn is a wonderful person for you to meet, and you can check out her short video below.I am very lucky to see some cool people doing these KEW interviews, and I really enjoyed listening TO and talking WITH Gretchen. Relevant to the Are vs Should Problem, Gretchen and her family just simplified their lives in a huge way, moving from NYC to a flower farm in upstate NY. Pretty major life s...2022-01-061h 02The Neurodivergent ProfessorKEW Episode 78: Assumptions and Core PrinciplesAre you an analytical person? Do you think science is a good way of answering questions? Do you also believe there are things science CAN'T answer?Do you struggle from a mix of pragmatic and spiritual beliefs? Do you consider yourself to be pretty smart?Do you have a strong distrust for the status quo? Have you ever felt like a non-conformist, whether by choice or just because?If you answered any of those questions I think you'll enjoy this episode and KEW in general.My goal is to share a...2021-12-3131 minThe Neurodivergent ProfessorKEW The Are vs Should Interview Series: Neil BjorklundI am extremely excited for you to meet Neil Bjorklund in this week's Are vs Should Interview Series. Unlike most KEW interviews, I knew Neil prior to having him on KEW. But probably not as well as he knows me, as he is my coach.I have worked with Neil for a little over a year, doing somatic healing work using the Internal Family Systems (IFS) model. Neil has all sorts of other training in healing past trauma, improving one's life, and personal growth, but we focus primarily on IFS.I 'discovered' Neil through a...2021-12-301h 10The Neurodivergent ProfessorKEW Episode 77: Who is KEW for?As you know, we have been exploring the Are vs Should Problem; the struggle between the people we are and the people we feel like we should be. Since Episode 50, but really since about Episode 42, and ARGUABLY since Episode 1 I have been developing the ideas and concepts that load into the Are vs Should modality.I hope you have found some value in these Episodes.And I hope you will journey with me toward the next Phase of this model developmentIn the next Episode or two, I will go through the pivot...2021-12-2429 minThe Neurodivergent ProfessorKEW The Are vs Should Interview Series: Bruce NachsinBruce Nachsin came to us through a podcaster facebook group. He has his own podcast called, 'The Fattest Fit Kid You Know'. He's super funny, a Hollywood actor, and knows a thing or two about living in your 'Are'. It was incredibly fun (and funny!) to sit and talk with Bruce for an hour or so.Besides just being super funny and entertaining, Bruce has a lot to say about podcasting, changing old habits, and helping each other out in this complicated world. Like I told him, my face was red the whole time from laughing so...2021-12-231h 24The Neurodivergent ProfessorKEW Episode 76: Why Am I?You've likely pondered the great, 'Who Am I?' question. But what about the 'Why Am I?'The 'why' is a great question no matter the situation.Of the who, what, when, where, why, and how questions the 'why' is probably the most challenging.Is there a meaning to life?Do you have a purpose?Does anything matter?Hundreds, if not thousands, of philosophers have weighed in on the great question, but I'm not sure there's any consensus.In fact, the 'Why Am I...2021-12-1731 minThe Neurodivergent ProfessorKEW The Are vs Should Interview Series: Paul Gadola (Part 2)What more can I say about Paul Gadola?I'm lucky to know him. I've interviewed him twice for my blog/podcast/YouTube channel.I look at him as someone who has been up the mountain and come back down to share his wisdom with us.I think he'd be a great whatever a pastor/preacher/rabbi is supposed to be.He has written a book you should get from him (because you can't buy one on amazon yet).He's an anti guru anti influencer. He's th...2021-12-1656 minThe Neurodivergent ProfessorKEW Episode75: How Do You Tell the Difference?Do you ever ask yourself this question?I have asked myself this question for as long as I can remember. In fact, I use this argument as a way to justify complaining. It's not a habit I am proud of and I'm working on changing it. But I often find myself getting angry because I can't find a definitive answer to whether something is good or bad or right or wrong.Do you ever get to a point where you truly don't know which option to choose? It's a little bit like Analysis Paralysis, but...2021-12-1029 minThe Neurodivergent ProfessorKEW Are vs Should Interview Series: Paul Gadola (Part 1)I told Paul Gadola recently that he had climbed the mountain and returned to share his wisdom with us. In this two part interview series you'll have a chance to see what I mean. From his background in teaching to his childhood thoughts about becoming a spiritual leader, Paul has a natural way of understanding how to help people.He has a gym to help people's bodies: https://www.ironmountain.fitnessHe and his wife have a freshly-prepared meals business to help people's health: https://www.sunmealprep.comHe has written a book...2021-12-0958 minThe Neurodivergent ProfessorKEW Episode 74: Self-CompassionIt's taken me over a decade of therapy and introspection to arrive at this Episode. I don't know what took me so long, but 'getting' self-compassion has been a real struggle for me. In the past few weeks a few things have clicked.First, some Miriam-Webster informed verbiage:Self: ha. dare we even try to define that? Even with the help of the dictionary? Hell, why not (only relevant entries included):1: an individual's typical character or behavior2: the union of elements (such as body, emotions, thoughts, and sensations) that constitute...2021-12-0329 minThe Neurodivergent ProfessorKEW Are vs Should Interview Series: Paul LevitinPaul Levitin is an ally. He can help you be better at things. Whether it is your body or your mind, Paul is trained to help improve you. And he won't try to sell you anything you don't need. He recommends that you 'interview' him by listening to his Podcast, 'The Healthy Happy Human' to see if you like his style. I like his approach. I like him.Paul answered my request to talk with people who understand The Are vs Should Problem. Paul had a lot to say about how we 'should all over ourselves' and...2021-12-0257 minThe Neurodivergent ProfessorKEW Episode 73: What is Stress?Ahh, stress, our bestest buddy. Our forever companion. The voice in our head telling us how much we suck. The ticking clock rushing us to work and home every day.Yeah, you know what stress is, but what is it REALLY? And how can it be so many DIFFERENT things?Can you define it if someone asks you? Beyond whatever it is in that particular moment that is bothering you? Like, generally, what is stress?Well, Mirriam-Webster tell us (or we tell each other) that (and these are the definitions...2021-11-2627 minThe Neurodivergent ProfessorKEW Are vs Should Interview Series: Dalton JohnsonThis was a really fun interview. I hesitate to say that, because it implies that not all the interview are fun, but I'm saying it anyway.It's kind of like when people say, 'to be honest with you . . . ', because that implies they are sometimes dishonest.But just watch Dalton Johnson talk and you'll see what I mean. His enthusiasm and sense of humor are infectious. And his story is cool. His storieS are cool. And he has a lot to say about the Are vs Should Problem. Not the least of which was how...2021-11-2558 minThe Neurodivergent ProfessorKEW Episode 72: What is Success?If you said 'money' or 'power', you are not alone. Sure, there are lots of different versions of success.Getting a good grade.Getting a raise or a better job.Being invited to a prestigious event.Being revered or treated like a celebrity.But I think we can generally boil down the status quo definition of success to be related to having a lot of money or having a lot of power.Mirriam-Webster tell us:1 : t...2021-11-1927 min