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The Daughters on Fire PodcastEp 78: How to Cope with the Scary Side of DementiaIn this week's episode, Robyn and Melissa discuss some scary situations that can arise when caring for someone with dementia. What happens when your loved one doesn't recognize you and is fearful? How do you handle angry or paranoid outbursts? Listen now to find out tips and insight around these complicated and sometimes scary situations.
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www.connectionfirstcounseling.com2021-11-0420 min
The Daughters on Fire PodcastEp 77: Showtime! How to Educate Healthcare Providers to What is Really Going On with Your Loved OneIn this week's episode, Robyn and Melissa tackle the maddening aspects of Showtiming! What is showtiming? It is what happens when your loved one with dementia presents to doctors as perfectly intact and healthy. It can be so frustrating, unproductive, and downright crazy-making. You think you know things at home are dysfunctional, but this put-together gem sitting in front of you and the doctor makes you question yourself. How can you anticipate this situation and troubleshoot it? Listen now to learn more about how to navigate around showtiming.
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The Daughters on Fire PodcastEp 76: How to Advocate for Your Loved One in Healthcare SettingsIn this week's episode, Robyn and Melissa talk about the importance of advocating for your loved one in healthcare settings. This might be an obvious statement, but knowing where to turn and when to speak up can be confusing. Listen now to find out the resources and tips on how to speak up for yourself and your loved one.
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www.connectionfirstcounseling.com2021-10-0516 min
The Daughters on Fire PodcastEp 75: Is It Normal? Mom‘s Eating Habits Are ChangingIn this week's episode, Robyn and Melissa talk about issues that arise with swallowing as Alzheimer's disease progresses. Changes in eating and drinking are normal as your loved one declines. What should you look for, and when should you reach out for help? Listen now as we explore these issues.
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www.connectionfirstcounseling.com2021-09-2116 min
The Daughters on Fire PodcastEp 74: Understanding Emotions So They Don‘t Get In Your WayIn this week's episode, Robyn and Melissa dive into the emotions that accompany aging and caregiving. Are you dealing with a moody parent? Are you a moody caregiver? How can you help, and when do you ask for help? We will walk you through the emotions of aging and when it is appropriate to cheer up or when it is better just to show up.
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The Daughters on Fire PodcastEp 73: How to Deal with Family Dynamics & CaregivingIn this week's episode, Robyn and Melissa explore the tendency to revert back to our old childhood dynamics when we get together with our family. We may look like grounded and mature adults, but sometimes all of that goes out the window when we are around our loved ones. When this happens it can throw a wrench in the caregiving process. So, is this normal, and is there a way to manage this tendency in a healthy way? Join us now to learn insight and tips on navigating this caregiving dynamic.
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The Daughters on Fire PodcastEp 72: I'm Going on Vacation, Should I be Notified of an Emergency?In this week's episode, Robyn and Melissa talk about caregivers going on vacation. This is a necessary time to unwind and recuperate from the difficult job of caregiving. But what happens if there is an emergency with your loved one back home? Should you be notified, do you come home early, or are you completely unplugged and incommunicado? Navigating these considerations and having specific and open conversations with the caregivers left in charge is a critical step in planning your next trip away from home. Listen now to find out more.
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The Daughters on Fire PodcastEp 71: Why Do I Feel So Confused? I'm Not the One with Dementia!In this week's episode, Robyn and Melissa talk about the common feeling of confusion amongst dementia caregivers. On the journey of dementia, caregivers are often the ones who feel lost and dumbfounded by the weird interactions with their loved ones. How do you know when to trust yourself and when to trust your loved one? It is not easy, and it is often a very fluid process. Join us as we explore this frustrating phenomenon.
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The Daughters on Fire PodcastEp 70: How to Assist with Bills and DonationsIn this week's episode, Robyn and Melissa dive into money matters. As your loved one declines, managing their own bills can become burdensome. This can be the first and best way to start assisting them as a caregiver. In this episode we explore what that might look like and tips on how to navigate this stage of the caregiving collaboration.
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www.connectionfirstcounseling.com2021-07-1517 min
The Daughters on Fire PodcastEp 69: How to Deal with the Unanswered QuestionsIn this week's episode, Robyn and Melissa dive into the frustrating feelings that go along with the unanswered questions on your journey. You know, those circular conversations with your loved one with dementia. No matter how or how many times you ask them they just can't give you any answers. And, on a more critical level, sometimes even the professionals and experts don't have the answers you are looking for. Listen now to discover how to deal with this normal and irritating conundrum?
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The Daughters on Fire PodcastEp 68: Adjusting to a New Norm for Summer CelebrationsIn this week's episode, Robyn and Melissa tackle the emotional logistics around adjusting to celebrations. As your loved one declines, large gatherings and celebrations can become burdensome for both of you. How do you deal with the changes, and how do you deal with the grief that comes from saying goodbye to traditions? It's not easy, but Robyn and Melissa have some ideas and suggestions on how to approach the summer festivities with a new perspective.
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The Daughters on Fire PodcastEp 67: How to Combat Anticipatory Dread in the Beginning Stages of CaregivingIn this week's episode, Robyn and Melissa talk about how fear and anxiety at the beginning of caregiving can lead to anticipatory dread. We can often get caught up in the overwhelming "what if" thoughts about the journey ahead. How can you avoid this dreadful state and learn to take caregiving one day at a time? Listen now to hear some powerful tips on how to ease your fear and anxiety as you begin your caregiving journey.
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The Daughters on Fire PodcastEp 66: Reflecting on Mother's Day and Role ReversalsIn this episode, Robyn and Melissa reflect on how caregiving changes the relationship dynamics with our parents. Often this may feel like we are becoming our parent's parent. While the responsibilities feel like a role reversal, your parents will always be your parents. How do we honor and respect our parents while we balance taking on the responsibility for their care? Join us on this week's episode as we discuss the nuances of this complicated dynamic.
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www.connectionfirstcounseling.com2021-05-1816 min
The Daughters on Fire PodcastEp 65: Checking in With Your Loved One - How to Navigate the New NormalIn This week's episode, Melissa and Robyn talk about creating balance with expectations and visits with your loved one. Oftentimes during a crisis, around the clock attention becomes necessary, but once life settles back down we don't always readjust our focused attention. Is it time to evaluate your visits and responsibilities now that the caregiving crisis has calmed? Listen now to look inside this complicated caregiving dynamic.
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The Daughters on Fire PodcastEp 64: How to Ask for Help: Overcoming the Awkwardness of Seeking HelpIn this week's episode, Melissa and Robyn explore how to ask for help on your caregiving journey. We will dive into the strategies, mindset, and resources out there that make asking for and receiving help easier.
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www.connectionfirstcounseling.com2021-04-2716 min
The Daughters on Fire PodcastEp 63: The Power of Saying No - Tips for CaregiversIn this week's episode, Melissa and Robyn talk about how to say "no" to all of the extra requests and responsibilities that bog you down on your caregiving journey. We all know setting healthy boundaries is necessary, but it can be hard to figure out the best ways to say "no" and set limits. Listen now for the strong, diplomatic, and strategic ways you can confidently say "no."
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The Daughters on Fire PodcastEp 62: Bonus Time Management Tips - Practical Tips For CaregiversIn this week's episode, Melissa and Robyn round out their series on time management with some practical and mindset tips. These simple but useful tips can save you time and headaches as you manage your caregiving journey. If you are interested in learning more about time management tendencies be sure to check out episodes 59-61.
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www.connectionfirstcounseling.com2021-04-1322 min
The Daughters on Fire PodcastEp 61: Learn How to Identify & Manage Your Time Management Style - Part 3In this week's episode, Melissa and Robyn wrap up their series on time management styles. Today we explore the tendencies of the "Analysis Paralysis" and "Second Guesser" types. As we have mentioned, these styles are not good or bad. They are just our unique way of engaging with the world around us. Each of them has strengths and weaknesses. So today you will learn tips on how to manage these two styles and how to identify and work with them on your caregiving team.
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The Daughters on Fire PodcastEp 60: Learn How to Identify & Manage Your Time Management Style - Part 2In this week's episode, Robyn and Melissa continue their deep dive into different time management tendencies and how the "McBossy" and "List Maker" styles operate. As we mentioned last week, these styles are not good or bad. They are just our unique way of engaging with the world around us. Each of them has strengths and weaknesses. So today you will learn tips on how to manage these two styles and how to identify and work with them on your caregiving team.
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The Daughters on Fire PodcastEp 59: Learn How to Identify & Manage Your Time Management Style - Part 1In this week's episode, Melissa and Robyn launch a three-part series unpacking different time management approaches. These styles or tendencies are not good or bad. They are just our unique way of engaging with the world around us. Each one of them has strengths and weaknesses. Over the next three weeks, we will look at how six different types of time management tendencies affect caregiving. Learn tips on how to manage your own style and how to identify and work with the opposite styles of your caregiving team.
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The Daughters on Fire PodcastEp 58: Encore Presentation of Is It Normal? Home Safety Risks & TipsThe Daughters on Fire team has been hard at work developing more courses and tools to help empower caregivers. So while we are away for another week we want to bring you one more popular encore episode. We will be back with you next week with brand new episodes in our Time Management series.
In today's episode, Robyn and Melissa talk about how to evaluate home safety for your loved one. From fall risks and fire safety to medication management, find out how your loved one can safely navigate staying at home longer with easy-to-implement tips and s...2021-03-1632 min
The Daughters on Fire PodcastEp 57: Encore Presentation of Interview with Christine Finnegan Exploring the Power of MusicIn this week's episode, we bring you an encore of a fan-favorite episode with Christine Finnegan. Christine is a music therapist turned mental health counselor and private practice owner. She serves young women at her practice in Nashville called Replenish Her. She has also worked in the past with aging adults in multiple areas of mental health from Alzheimer's disease to depression. Christine talks to us today about the power of music and how it can be used as a tool to help calm us down during times of stress and anxiety.
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The Daughters on Fire PodcastEp 56: How to Prepare for Bathroom Emergencies When You Are Caregiving on the GoIn this week's episode, Robyn and Melissa talk about the embarrassing but common problem of age-related incontinence. If you are taking care of your loved one on the go you may have to deal with bladder or even bowel accidents. It may sound scary and gross, but you can deal with it if you are prepared. In this episode, we will give you tips and tricks that will help you manage and maybe even avoid accidents on the go.
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The Daughters on Fire PodcastEp 55: Interventions to Help Offset Being the Designated Security BlankedIn this week's episode, Robyn and Melissa talk about how to cope with the frustration around having a clingy loved one. Whether it's anxiety or confusion, being the only person that can calm or distract your loved one can be exhausting. It may feel flattering that you are their security blanket, but that can soon turn to you feeling overwhelmed. Listen now to learn how you can change that dynamic.
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The Daughters on Fire PodcastEp 54: Is It Always Smart to Go to the Hospital? When to Consider AlternativesIn this week's episode, Robyn and Melissa discuss a situation involving a declining patient that was sent to the hospital to treat a health crisis. Was this the best intervention for quality of life? Were there other options available that would have been better? Join us as we peel through the layers of this complicated yet common healthcare dilemma. Want to be a more empowered caregiver? Check out our Empowered Caregiver Course at https://daughters-on-fire.mykajabi.com/encore www.daughtersonfire.comwww.facebook.com/Daughtersonfirepodcast/www.connectionfirstcounseling.co...2021-02-1730 min
The Daughters on Fire PodcastEp 53: Tough Conversations - Dealing with Grief and LossIn this week's episode, Robyn and Melissa talk about saying goodbye. It is an unfortunate but ultimate ending for all of us on our caregiving journey. Sometimes we experience waves of grief on the long declining path, but it doesn't take away the heartbreak when our loved one passes beyond our caring reach. Join us as we explore the pain and sorrow that comes when our loved one passes away. Want to be a more empowered caregiver? Check out our Empowered Caregiver Course at https://daughters-on-fire.mykajabi.com/encore www.daughtersonfire.co...2021-02-0921 min
The Daughters on Fire PodcastEp 52: Are You Ready? Preparing You and Your Loved Ones for an EmergencyIn this week's episode, Robyn and Melissa talk about how to be prepared for an emergency as a caregiver. With the turbulent Spring months ahead it is good to have a bad weather plan in place. You have probably thought this through a thousand times before, but have you considered what to do as a caregiver? How is your loved-one protected? Are they a part of your safety plan now that they can't take that responsibility on by themselves? Join Robyn and Melissa as they talk through these considerations and tips for getting ahead of an emergency. ...2021-02-0218 min
The Daughters on Fire PodcastEp 51: Time and Energy Are Two Different ThingsIn this week's episode, Robyn and Melissa talk about the difference between time and energy. Have you ever spent hours doing something you loved and completely lost track of time? Or on the flip side, has a ten-minute chore you hated consumed your thoughts with dread? These are some examples of the difference between time and energy. Join Melissa and Robyn as they explain why knowing the difference can make all the difference as you build your caregiving team around you. Want to be a more empowered caregiver? Check out our Empowered Caregiver Course at ht...2021-01-2617 min
The Daughters on Fire PodcastEp 50: Conversations with Robyn & Melisa - Things We Think But Do Not SayIn this week's episode, Robyn and Melissa have an honest conversation about the thoughts we struggle with as caregivers. There is an ugly side of caregiving that most of us feel embarrassed to talk about. So, we feel it is time to normalize this experience and bring the shame out of the darkness. As Brené Brown likes to say, shame can not live in the light. Join us as we destigmatize those darker thoughts of caregiving and bring them into the light. Want to be a more empowered caregiver? Check out our Empowered Caregiver Course at...2021-01-1927 min
The Daughters on Fire PodcastEp 49: Reflecting on 2020 and Looking AheadIn this week's episode, Robyn and Melissa take a look back at year one of Daughters on Fire. It has been a very exciting time for the podcast even in the midst of a hard and unpredictable year. Through all the ups and downs this new podcast and community have been dedicated to supporting the caregiving journey to make it just a little easier to navigate. We are proud of how far we have come, and we are also excited to talk about where we are going in 2021. Want to be a more empo...2021-01-1210 min
The Daughters on Fire PodcastEp 48: Holiday Encore - Melissa's Favorite Episode - How People Pleasing can Interfere with CaregivingIn this week's episode, we wrap up our Holiday Encore Series with a favorite throwback episode. Melissa and Robyn have a candid conversation about the tendency for many of us to become people pleasers. This comes from an innocent place of wanting to be liked and get along, but it can get in the way of healthy confrontation. People pleasing can impede your ability to advocate for your loved one and advocate for yourself. Caregiving is hard work and healthy confrontation is required to get the best outcomes possible. Listen now to hear how Melissa and Robyn have navigated...2021-01-0538 min
The Daughters on Fire PodcastEp 47: Holiday Encore - Robyn's Favorite Episode - Can Lying Be a Good Thing?In this week's episode, we present an encore presentation of Robyn's favorite episode. Can lying be a good thing? Melissa and Robyn explore the concept of therapeutic lying. Is lying always bad? Are there times when lying or protecting your loved one's dignity becomes more important than the truth? Listen now to see how you can navigate the pros and cons of therapeutic lying. Want to be a more empowered caregiver? Check out our Empowered Caregiver Course at https://daughters-on-fire.mykajabi.com/encore www.daughtersonfire.comwww.facebook.com/Daug...2020-12-2928 min
The Daughters on Fire PodcastEp 46: The Emotional Toll of Isolation During the HolidaysIn this week's episode, Robyn and Melissa talk about how isolation can take a toll on caregivers and our loved ones during the holidays. Yes, this year we are feeling the impact of physical separation, but there is also the painful impact of emotional isolation. This is when you feel disconnected from shared experiences, beliefs, and priorities. Join Melissa and Robyn as they explore what it feels like when you don't feel like you are on the same page with your friends and family during difficult times. Want to be a more empowered caregiver? Check ou...2020-12-2317 min
The Daughters on Fire PodcastEp 45: It's Not Self Care It's Critical Care - The Importance of SleepIn this week's episode, Robyn and Melissa talk about the importance of sleep for caregivers. Often times caregivers (especially women) put sleep on the back burner in order to power through the mountain of responsibilities on their shoulders. This habit can backfire on your health and on your ability to take care of those same responsibilities. Join Robyn and Melissa as they put a new spin on sleep and give you tips on getting those much needed zzz's. Want to be a more empowered caregiver? Check out our Empowered Caregiver Course at https://daughters-on-fire.mykajabi.c...2020-12-1519 min
The Daughters on Fire PodcastEp 44: What to Do When You Are Sick AND Caregiving?In this week's episode, Robyn and Melissa discuss what it feels like, and how to manage, when you find yourself sick in the middle of caregiving. This very stressful situation can take a toll, both physically and emotionally. Find out what this can look like and how to be mindful if it is happening to your parents. Often older adults find themselves dealing with chronic issues and an ailing spouse. There are many complicated nuances to this topic and Melissa and Robyn dive right into this meaty conversation. Want to be a more empowered caregiver? Che...2020-12-0916 min
The Daughters on Fire PodcastEp 43: Deck the Halls Covid Style! Tips on Decorating for the HolidaysIn this week's episode, Robyn and Melissa talk about decorating for the holidays. What will that look like for your family? Are you going to pare down or go all out? Are you grappling with how to balance caregiving, decorating, and Covid stress? This year looks different for everyone, but caregivers have an added layer of preparing for the holidays and keeping the safety of their fragile loved-one in mind. Safety with from both Covid and decorating hazards. Join Robyn and Melissa as they provide tips and ideas on how to make this season festive and safe for everyone. 2020-12-0121 min
The Daughters on Fire PodcastEp 42: BIG NEWS!! & Some Holiday CheerIn this week's episode, Robyn and Melissa have some very exciting news and a special gift to share with you. In addition to this big surprise, they want to spread some holiday cheer with fond memories and funny stories from seasons past. This is a weird and difficult time for all of us in 2020, and for caregivers, it is doubly hard. So, let's take a moment to think about the joy of the past and create hope for the future. Check out the big surprise at: https://daughters-on-fire.mykajabi.com/encore www...2020-11-2419 min
The Daughters on Fire PodcastEp 41 - Thanksgiving 2020 - What in the World Will it Be Like?In this week's episode, Robyn and Melissa tackle the complicated discussion around Thanksgiving and coronavirus. Caregiving is hard enough and when you add the virus to the mix, who knows what to expect! We are all dealing with the uncertainty of the season and longing for family connection, but it looks like surging virus numbers and tightening restrictions could jeopardize Thanksgiving Day plans. Join Robyn and Melissa as they talk about how to deal with the pain and uncertainty of this confusing holiday season. www.daughtersonfire.comwww.facebook.com/Daughtersonfirepodcast/2020-11-1718 min
The Daughters on Fire PodcastEp 40: Trust Goes Both Ways - How to Establish a Healthy Relationship with ProvidersIn today's episode, Robyn and Melissa tackle an often overlooked aspect of relationship building - our own trustworthiness. Sometimes we can get singularly focused on an objective or opinion and forget that we are dealing with humans who have feelings and their own perspectives. It is crucial to remember that as we build the best care team for our loved-ones, relationships matter. Join Melissa and Robyn as they navigate what trust-building looks like from the other side. www.daughtersonfire.comwww.facebook.com/Daughtersonfirepodcast/www.connectionfirstcounseling.com2020-11-1018 min
The Daughters on Fire PodcastEp 39: What is Your Biggest Caregiving Obstacle? YOU - Tips on How to Stop Self SabotagingIn this week's episode, Robyn and Melissa talk about how caregivers often are their own biggest stressor. It's an uncomfortable truth, but necessary to face. We often get in our way when we lose focus on our caregiving goals. But don't worry, if you are the problem you are also the solution. Join Robyn and Melissa as they share their own experiences and tips on how to get out of your own way and become an empowered caregiver. www.daughtersonfire.comwww.facebook.com/Daughtersonfirepodcast/www.connectionfirstcounseling.com2020-11-0321 min
The Daughters on Fire PodcastEp 38: How to Apply the Fish Tank Rule When Picking Out a Facility for Your Loved OneIn this week's episode, Robyn and Melissa discuss insider tips on how to pick the best facility for your loved one. Hear Melissa's Fish Tank Rule and other tips the gals have learned from decades of working in and around facilities. Have you ever wanted to know how industry professionals evaluate facilities? Well now is your chance. Learn how to see beyond the enticing sales brochure and pick the best fit for your loved one! www.daughtersonfire.comwww.facebook.com/Daughtersonfirepodcast/www.connectionfirstcounseling.com2020-10-2736 min
The Daughters on Fire PodcastEp 37: Tough Conversation Around the Sticker Shock of Growing OldIn this week's episode, Robyn and Melissa talk about the sticker shock of aging. If you haven't taken the opportunity ahead of time to prepare for the cost of senior care the cost can feel like a slap in the face. It is not cheap, this much is true. BUT, the good news is it can be manageable. Melissa and Robyn will break down the different costs involved and give you tips on how to be strategic in getting the biggest bang for your buck. www.daughtersonfire.comwww.facebook.com/Daughtersonfirepodcast/2020-10-2030 min
The Daughters on Fire PodcastEp 36: COVID 19 October Update - Regulation Changes and Advocating for Facility Based Loved OnesIn this week's episode, Robyn and Melissa update you on the regulation and mandate changes related to COVID 19 and senior living communities. It has been a very long and difficult 6 months for our older, vulnerable population. In an abundance of caution, senior living communities have placed strict limitations on visitors and outings. This has taken a severe toll on our seniors and their families. In some cases, the precautions have proven more devastating than the virus. Finally, with policy leaders listening and improvements on the virus front, restrictions are beginning to ease. Visitation in these communities is opening up...2020-10-1426 min
The Daughters on Fire PodcastEp 35 - Managing Emotions - The Difference Between Venting and ComplainingIn this week's episode, Robyn and Melissa talk about the difference between venting and complaining. We have all been stressed out, overwhelmed, and even downright over it when it comes to caregiving. In those tough times, it helps to reach out to a supportive ear, whether that is family or friends. However, those sessions of healthy venting can sometimes turn toxic and become unproductive complaining. So, how do you know the difference and stay focused on the healthier track? Find out as Melissa and Robyn dive deep on how to navigate these emotional land mines. w...2020-10-0622 min
The Daughters on Fire PodcastEp 34: Is Mom Having Sex? How to Handle Intimacy Issues with Your Loved OneIn this week's episode, Robyn and Melissa talk about the taboo topic of sex and the elderly. No use is avoiding these issues, because our loved ones want and still need intimacy in their lives as they age. How can we as caregivers be prepared to handle the issues around intimacy? Robyn and Melissa explore how you can lovingly protect your loved ones from harm and preserve their right and need for intimate connection at the same time. Yes, this can get awkward and a little embarrassing, but being prepared to deal with it is a necessary responsibility of a...2020-10-0221 min
The Daughters on Fire PodcastEp 33: How to Make the Memory Care Move a Dream and Not a NightmareIn today's episode, Melissa and Robyn tackle the tough conversation around how to move your loved one to a memory care facility. The dreaded day has arrived and now you are scared to death that it will all blow up in your face and your loved one will be bitter and angry with you not to mention your family. Sound about right? Don't worry it doesn't have to go down like this. Robyn and Melissa have walked hundreds of families through this process and they will share their tips and tricks for making this a more peaceful transition. 2020-09-2500 min
The Daughters on Fire PodcastEp 32: Deep Dive with Kelsey Williams from the Alzheimer's AssociationIn this week's episode, Melissa interviews Kelsey Williams from the Middle Tennessee Alzheimer's Association. Kelsey shares her knowledge and experience supporting caregivers on their journey through the ups and downs of Alzheimer's disease. From support groups to fundraising and advocacy, there are many ways the Alzheimer's Association is stepping up to provide care and services to those families in need. Resources:alz.org/crfAlzheimer's Association Help Line 1800 272-3900 www.daughtersonfire.comwww.facebook.com/Daughtersonfirepodcast/www.connectionfirstcounseling.com 2020-09-1900 min
The Daughters on Fire PodcastEp 31 - How to Prepare for When the Going Gets ToughIn this week's episode, Robyn and Melissa tackle another tough conversation. Literally, they are talking about how to cope when the going gets tough. Melissa and Robyn find themselves in two different places on the caregiving journey, and they dive into a personal conversation about their experiences. If you are in the middle of caregiving and are wondering what is ahead, or how you are going to make it through, tune in now to get sage advice and compassion from someone who has been on this road before. www.daughtersonfire.comwww.facebook.com...2020-09-1100 min
The Daughters on Fire PodcastEp 30: Is it Normal? Do I Need to Take Away the Keys?In today's episode, Melissa and Robyn talk about driving concerns with our loved ones. This touchy subject is a common problem when our loved ones lose their mental and physical abilities to drive safely. All too often they do not make the decision to stop driving on their own and interventions from caregivers are necessary for their safety and the safety of the community. How do you intervene and preserve dignity and connection? Listen now to get great tips and insight. www.daughtersonfire.comwww.facebook.com/Daughtersonfirepodcast/www.connectionfirstcounseling.com2020-09-0300 min
The Daughters on Fire PodcastEp 29: Special Guest Kayse Martin talks about How Employers are Adapting to the Needs of CaregiversIn this week's episode, Melissa interviews Kayse Martin with the Council on Aging of Middle Tennessee. Kayse's career spans many decades of work in the world of geriatrics and aging. In her current role, she has been collaborating with employers and human resource departments. In this role, she has seen and heard first hand how caregiving is impacting companies and what proactive steps they are starting to take to meet the needs of working caregivers. It is an interesting deep dive into one perspective on the future of caregiving and employment. https://www.coamidtn.org/...2020-08-2700 min
The Daughters on Fire PodcastEp 28: How People Pleasing Can Interfere with Effective CaregivingIn this week's episode, Melissa and Robyn have a candid conversation about the tendency for many of us to become people pleasers. This comes from an innocent place of wanting to be liked and get along, but it can get in the way of healthy confrontation. People pleasing can impede your ability to advocate for your loved one and advocate for yourself. Caregiving is hard work and healthy confrontation is required to get the best outcomes possible. Listen now to hear how Melissa and Robyn have navigated this tough topic and tips to implement on your own journey. 2020-08-1800 min
The Daughters on Fire PodcastEp: 27 Can Lying be a Good Thing?In this week's episode, Melissa and Robyn explore the concept of therapeutic lying. Is lying always bad? Are there times when lying or protecting your loved one's dignity becomes more important than the truth? Listen now to see how you can navigate the pros and cons of therapeutic lying. You can also join us on Facebook to continue the conversation. www.daughtersonfire.comwww.facebook.com/Daughtersonfirepodcast/2020-08-1100 min
The Daughters on Fire PodcastEp: 26 The Calming Power of Music with Special Guest Christine FinneganIn today's episode, Melissa interviews Christine Finnegan. Christine is a music therapist turned mental health counselor and private practice owner. She serves young women at her practice in Nashville called Replenish Her. She has also worked in the past with aging adults in multiple areas of mental health from Alzheimer's disease to depression. Christine talks to us today about the power of music and how it can be used as a tool to help calm us down during times of stress and anxiety. https://replenishher.com/ www.daughtersonfire.comwww...2020-08-0400 min
The Daughters on Fire PodcastEp 25: Melissa & Robyn Discuss the Dangers of Heat & the ElderlyIn this week's episode, Melissa and Robyn talk about how exposure to heat in these hot summer months can pose a serious danger to the elderly. There are some unexpected risk factors that caregivers need to be aware of as your aging loved one soaks up the sun this summer. We will also offer tips on how to avoid the dangers. www.daughtersonfire.comwww.facebook.com/Daughtersonfirepodcast/2020-07-2900 min
The Daughters on Fire PodcastEp 24: Is It Normal? Robyn and Melissa discuss Home Safety Risks and TipsIn today's episode, Robyn and Melissa talk about how to evaluate home safety for your loved one. From fall risks and fire safety to medication management, find out how your loved one can safely navigate staying at home longer with easy to implement tips and suggestions. www.daughtersonfire.comwww.facebook.com/Daughtersonfirepodcast/2020-07-2100 min
The Daughters on Fire PodcastEp 23: Overcoming Insomnia with Special Guest Bethany ThomsonIn this week's episode, Melissa interviews Bethany Thomson, a Registered Dietitian Nutritionist (a real-deal food and nutrition expert) with extensive education and training in nutrition and wellness and a background in clinical dietetics. Bethany is going to dive deep into how we can combat insomnia. Many caregivers suffer from insomnia but think that it is just par for the course without much to do about it. It turns out that insomnia is very dangerous to our health and there are simple steps we can take to improve our sleep. What is even better is that these steps can improve o...2020-07-1400 min
The Daughters on Fire PodcastEp 22: How To Be a Detective When Visiting Mom & DadThis time of year often brings trips home to see mom and dad. As they age you may find each trip uncovers changes in how they are managing their lives and their home. In this episode, Robyn and Melissa discuss the red flags to look for when someone is starting to struggle with living independently. You will also get tips on how to be a detective and how to know when it is time to intervene. www.daughtersonfire.comwww.facebook.com/Daughtersonfirepodcast/2020-07-0700 min
The Daughters on Fire PodcastEp 21: Story of Strength with Laurel Burton - Caregiver ProfileIn this episode, Melissa interviews Laurel Burton on her relatable and inspiring caregiver journey. Often caregiving can feel like a lonely and overwhelming experience. So, Daughters on Fire wants to bring you our new segment, Stories of Strength, to introduce you to other caregivers who are also on this difficult journey. We will learn, laugh, cry, inspire, and support each other as we share in this experience of caregiving. Learn more about Laurel at https://www.laurelburton.com/ www.daughtersonfire.comwww.facebook.com/Daughtersonfirepodcast/ 2020-06-2600 min
The Daughters on Fire PodcastEp 20: Robyn and Melissa Pay Tribute to Father's DayIn today's episode, Robyn and Melissa celebrate Father's Day with a special tribute episode. Today is the day to reminisce and honor the men in our lives who have shaped who we are today. We will also be discussing what it looks like when you become the caregiver for your dad. How can you navigate this sometimes complicated dynamic and role reversal? www.daughtersonfire.comwww.facebook.com/Daughtersonfirepodcast/2020-06-2100 min
The Daughters on Fire PodcastEp 19: Is It Normal? Robyn and Melissa Discuss How Help Your Loved Ones Deal with Lost FriendshipsIn today's episode, Melissa and Robyn talk about aging and lost friendships. Losing friends as you age is normal. Whether it's due to a move, decline, or death, losing friends is hard. It can be further complicated when dementia tears apart a friendship and the hobbies and routines you share. In today's episode, we will explore this issue and provide tips on how you as a caregiver can navigate this difficult scenario. www.daughtersonfire.comwww.facebook.com/Daughtersonfirepodcast/2020-06-1600 min
The Daughters on Fire PodcastEp 18: Be Well Mel Discusses the Powerful Tool of JournalingIn today's episode we welcome back Be Well Mel and she dives deep on the power of journaling. You might be thinking journaling is just one more item on your to-do list, but it doesn't have to be that hard. In fact, journaling can actually bring you stress relief and clarity. Listen now to find out how you can incorporate this tool into your life in a transformative way. www.daughtersonfire.comwww.bewellmel.com2020-06-1100 min
The Daughters on Fire PodcastEp 17: Special Guest James Vandiver on Navigating Aging Part 2In this week's episode, Melissa Burton interviews octogenarian James Vandiver in a 2 part series on caregiving topics including aging, gender, and the future of caregiving. Born and raised in Nashville, James has many connections and influences in our communities. Although retired, he continues to serve families on their caregiving journeys. James has worked with Resource Center on Aging, been a Sage Award recipient, and contributed to healthcare legislation as it impacts older adults. We are excited to share with you the powerful insight James has learned over his life in both the personal and professional realm. ...2020-06-0300 min
The Daughters on Fire PodcastEp 16: Special Guest James Vandiver on Navigating Aging Part 1In this week's episode, Melissa Burton interviews octogenarian James Vandiver in a 2 part series on caregiving topics including aging, gender, and the future of caregiving. Born and raised in Nashville, James has many connections and influences in our communities. Although retired, he continues to serve families on their caregiving journeys. James has worked with Resource Center on Aging, been a Sage Award recipient, and contributed to healthcare legislation as it impacts older adults. We are excited to share with you the powerful insight James has learned over his life in both the personal and professional realm. h...2020-06-0200 min
The Daughters on Fire PodcastEp 15: Vacations & Caregiving - Can the Two Coexist? with Robyn and MelissaIn today's episode of Daughters on Fire, Melissa and Robyn explore the tricky process of taking a vacation as a caregiver. Sometimes caregivers forego this much-needed break because the planning and implementing seem like a big hassle. The problem is, caregiving without a break can lead to burnout and potentially even health problems. Melissa and Robyn talk about both the obstacles and opportunities that go along with vacations and respite. www.daughtersonfire.comwww.facebook.com/Daughtersonfirepodcast/2020-05-2600 min
The Daughters on Fire PodcastEp 14: Mom Forgot My Birthday & I'm Crushed! with Robyn & MelissaIn today's episode, Robyn and Melissa explore how dementia can impact holidays and celebrations. When your loved-one forgets the precious milestones you shared together like anniversaries, birthdays, and special occasions it can feel devastating. How do you cope with your emotions and navigate the logistical issues that arise when dementia crashes the party? Listen now to find get some important insight and tips on managing this difficult situation. www.daughtersonfire.comwww.facebook.com/Daughtersonfirepodcast/2020-05-2000 min
The Daughters on Fire PodcastEp 13: Jodi Jackson Returns to Discuss How COVID 19 is Changing CaregivingMelissa Burton welcomes back Jodi Jackson, RN, and president of LifeLinks Care Management. This time Jodi and Melissa talk about how COVID 19 is completely disrupting how families and facilities are caring for our frail and aging loved-ones. How has the industry adapted to our new norms? Are these changes temporary, or are we seeing a complete shift in the way care is and will continue to be provided? These questions and more addressed in this week's episode. www.lifelinks.carewww.daughtersonfire.comhttps://www.facebook.com/groups/daughtersonfire/?ref=group_he...2020-05-1300 min
The Daughters on Fire PodcastEp 12: Melissa and Robyn Pay Tribute to Mom'sOn this special Mother's Day tribute, Melissa and Robyn share fond memories of their mothers and talk about the amazing role mom's play in our lives. As caregivers, we often find ourselves in the reverse role of taking care of our parents. Today, we want to remind you to look back on the amazing job your mom did raising you to become the powerful and compassionate caregiver you are today. www.daughtersonfire.comwww.facebook.com/Daughtersonfirepodcast/2020-05-0900 min
The Daughters on Fire PodcastEp 11: Special Guest Sheila Uselton Talking About Transitions & Celebrating MomsOn today's episode, Melissa Burton interviews senior resource consultant and guru Sheila Uselton. Sheila has a unique career that includes music, speaking, and teaching to young children and senior adults alike. She expanded her career to include senior living transitions which gave her a voice to express the struggles that she and her siblings experienced with their mother’s Alzheimer’s disease. Her insight and understanding have helped many families as they face the daily challenges of this journey in eldercare and aging. Be sure to check out Sheila's inspiring song "Remember Me Too" on youtub...2020-05-0600 min
The Daughters on Fire PodcastEp 10: Why Is Mom So Mean? with Melissa and RobynIn today's episode, Melissa and Robyn explore the sometimes difficult issues around caring for someone who is mean to you. Is this normal? Is it personal? And most importantly, how can you navigate around it without making it worse? www.daughtersonfire.comhttps://www.facebook.com/Daughtersonfirepodcast/ 2020-05-0300 min
The Daughters on Fire PodcastEp 9: Empowered Thinking with Melissa BurtonIn today's episode of Daughters on Fire, Melissa shares some heartfelt insight on how can you live well and cultivate a mindset that benefits you not only as a caregiver but personally as well. It is simple but not easy. Listen now to learn how you can start to become more grounded and empowered. www.daugthersonfire.comhttps://www.facebook.com/Daughtersonfirepodcast/www.connectionfirstcounseling.comhttps://www.facebook.com/connectionfirstcounseling/ 2020-04-2700 min
The Daughters on Fire PodcastEp 8: Zoom Effect and Caregiving with Robyn and MelissaIn this episode, Melissa Burton and Robyn Arab answer the question: Is it normal that our loved one acts perfectly normal around friends and healthcare providers when WE know something is NOT right? 2020-04-2000 min
The Daughters on Fire PodcastEp 7: How to Care for Your Relationship During a CrisisKatherine Phifer from the Happy Love Project and podcast joins Melissa Burton to discuss love in a crisis. Caregiving can cause stress and disruption that ripples throughout your life, and sometimes what we love can get pushed to the back burner. Unfortunately, for our relationships, this can lead to resentment and possible rejection. Katherine shares some tips on how to avoid this relationship pitfall.Learn more about Katherine at https://www.katherinephifer.com/Find more content and resources at https://www.daughtersonfire.com/Join the Daughters on Fire Facebook community at https://www.fa...2020-04-1400 min
The Daughters on Fire PodcastEp 6: COVID 19 and How to Manage a CrisisCOVID 19 is still disrupting our lives and forcing us into crisis management, but for caregivers, crisis management is nothing new. Robyn and Melissa share tips on how to navigate a crisis, and how to use this crazy time as a reminder to be better prepared for a future crisis. www.daughtersonfire.comhttps://www.facebook.com/groups/daughtersonfire/ 2020-04-0800 min
The Daughters on Fire PodcastEP 5: COVID 19 Tips on Managing Anxiety with Be Well MelCOVID 19 is shutting down the world and causing anxiety for all. Be Well Mel shares her own experience with the virus fallout and gives us a simple strategy on how to handle our collective anxiety right now. www.daughtersonfire.comwww.bewellmel.com 2020-03-2700 min
The Daughters on Fire PodcastEp 4: COVID 19 Special guest Jodi Jackson, RN - How to advocate for your loved oneJodi Jackson, RN and president of LifeLinks Care Management and Advocacy talks to us about how facilities are managing this COVID 19, and she offers tips on how families can advocate from afar. www.daughtersonfire.comwww.lifelinks.care 2020-03-2700 min
The Daughters on Fire PodcastEp 3: Meet Be Well Mel and Learn How Consitency Can Improve WellbeingIn today's episode you will meet certified holistic nutrition coach and yoga teacher Melissa Mooney Lopez otherwise known as Be Well Mel. Learn more about Mel's background and caregiving story that includes balancing many different roles including parenting, running a business and caring for a parent. We will also learn more about the symptoms of a Daughter on Fire and Mel gives us tips and steps we can take to ease our stress specifically the power of consistency. www.daughtersonfire.comwww.bewellmel.com 2020-03-2700 min
The Daughters on Fire PodcastEp 2: Dive deep with Robyn Arab - Senior Resource GuruGo on a deep dive with Robyn Arab, Social Worker, resource guru, and caregiving expert. Robyn will share her story of caregiving for her mom, and we will discuss tips and takeaways for your own caregiving journey. Find more resources at www.daughtersonfire.com 2020-03-2700 min
The Daughters on Fire PodcastEp 1: Welcome to Empowered CaregivingCaregiving is hard enough! Balancing caregiving with ALL of your other responsibilities can feel downright impossible! But it is not impossible, and there can be a better way. Go from feeling burned out and burned up to calm and empowered. Join other caregiving warriors and heroes in a community of support and solutions. Learn inside tips to navigating healthcare & relationships, what to expect and prepare for, where to find support and love, and most importantly how to prioritize your own needs in order to sustain the journey ahead. Together we will laugh, cry, inform and...2020-03-2700 min