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Talk Your Poly OffTYPO Phone Questions Part 1Bella and Monsuta race to the TYPO Phone to answer distress calls! Listen in as these caped crusaders rush to aid others!Please help us help others by hitting that "follow" or "subscribe" button and leaving us a 5 star rating and review on whatever platform you listen on. It really helps new listeners find us. If you want some more of Bella and Monsuta head over to our Patreon page for bonus episodes and to join our Polyam Fam Facebook group! And of course you can reach out to us all over social media!For...
2021-01-1239 minTalk Your Poly OffGoodbye 2020 Hello 2021What a strange and crazy year 2020 has been but we survived. Along the way we made some changes in our lives, we helped out some people in need, built stronger closer bonds with family, and found ourselves binge watching some interesting tv shows.In our first podcast episode of 2021 we get into a bit of catch up and discuss how life has been going for us over this past year. Looking forward into the next few episodes while we shake off the dust and get back into the swing of things we will discuss what we’ve be...
2021-01-0532 minTalk Your Poly OffThe One About ChangeYou've heard that old cliche, the only constant in the universe is change. Today, we discuss change and how it affects us and our relationships. We tackle that concept of how change is bad and how, even in the toughest change, the idea of bad change is mostly a myth. We go over aspects of change, how we perceive it, and how to work through it in those times where it seems like a life ending situation.Please help us help others by hitting that "follow" or "subscribe" button and leaving us a 5 star rating and...
2020-06-0957 minTalk Your Poly OffAm I Good Enough?Today and always, we stand with the people of America and across the globe against racism and look forward to the change created as a result of these protests in hopes for a better, more equitable tomorrow for all of humanity. #blacklivesmatterWe had a chance recently to sit down and watch Louis Theroux's: Altered States - Season 1 and happen to know some people in the #lovewithoutlimits episode and realized there was a theme where he often asked something along the lines of, why isn't one partner good enough for you? And this got us thinking about...
2020-06-0244 minTalk Your Poly OffAnxiety TripWe took a trip north to visit the Semiahmoo Resort, next to Canada and had a great trip we want to share with you. While there, we encountered a few instances which caused anxiety which we had to process so we decided to discuss this topic with you this week.Come talk with us this week about how to identify, get a handle on, and support someone through anxiety. Enjoy the virtual road trip we take you on and don't forget the #clamsquirt Please help us help others by hitting that "follow" or "subscribe" button...
2020-05-2658 min
Talk Your Poly OffDeep Dive Discussion (3D)#ilovepoly3DLast week, we covered a weekly polycule check-in with our KTT. This week, we take our partner check-in to a deeper level for some serious relationship mindfulness. We talk you through our worksheet for a regular deep dive discussion on each of your relationships. This 3D worksheet is intended for partner to partner discussion but works well for anyone with whom you have a relationship. Learn more about yourself, your relationship, and what your future has in store. You get the chance to really check in with your teammate and make sure you have proper alignment...
2020-05-1958 minTalk Your Poly OffKTT: Our relationship check in tool#ilovepolyKTTOur relationships do best when we are checking in regularly with our partners, and that doesn't mean just asking "hey are things good with us?" because that can be blind siding and unnerving for the unsuspecting partner.We are talking about doing the sort of weekly check-in that takes a little more effort and forethought. We want to be able to not only discuss our relationship and what's working or not but also let's go over this weeks schedule and meal plan and budget or whatever else works for you and yours.We...
2020-05-121h 01Talk Your Poly OffPoly And The Pour MethodThe world is still in a tumultuous state and there's a lot of tough in our lives. It can become super easy to let the bad take over and for us to fall into that pit of negativity, it's easy to become the negativity we are being subjected to on a daily basis. It's this negative influence which sometimes drives us to become stressed or frustrated, to feel like our life is out of control, which is bad news. The good news is we don't have to let it take control of us.Bella and Monsuta take...
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Talk Your Poly OffAmelia Talks Your Poly OffSelf isolation and quarantining are happening everywhere and many relationships are finding new challenges or changes in dynamics. This is a strange time for the world. Polyamory in particular, is experiencing quite the shift in how relationships are maintained and how we can creatively work through unexpected problems. Starting with this episode, Talk Your Poly Off is kicking off a multi-episode series highlighting ethical non-monogamists and how they are surviving through the Coronavirus pandemic.We invited Amelia to today's discussion. In addition to Amelia's nesting partner, she's also in another long term relationship, and she is also...
2020-04-2855 min
Talk Your Poly OffKiki Talks Your Poly OffSelf isolation and quarantining are happening everywhere and many relationships are finding new challenges or changes in dynamics. This is a strange time for the world. Polyamory in particular, is experiencing quite the shift in how relationships are maintained and how we can creatively work through unexpected problems. Starting with this episode, Talk Your Poly Off is kicking off a multi-episode series highlighting ethical non-monogamists and how they are surviving through the Coronavirus pandemic.We invited Kiki to today's discussion. Kiki is the hinge of a V type relationship who lives with both her partners. She has...
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Talk Your Poly OffLaurel Talks Your Poly OffSelf isolation and quarantining are happening everywhere and many relationships are finding new challenges or changes in dynamics. This is a strange time for the world. Polyamory in particular, is experiencing quite the shift in how relationships are maintained and how we can creatively work through unexpected problems. Starting with this episode, Talk Your Poly Off is kicking off a multi-episode series highlighting ethical non-monogamists and how they are surviving through the Coronavirus pandemic.We invited Laurel to today's discussion. She is a solo polyamorist who has spent the last few years really finding who she is...
2020-04-1451 minTalk Your Poly OffDating During COVID-19Basic human connection. We all want it, we all need it, how do we get it...in this day of the coronavirus and social distancing? Bella and Monsuta talk about how to get creative to be with friends, see some familiar faces, and hear some friendly voices. Even more than that, the discussion goes into how to date without breaking self quarantine. Talk with us and maybe find a way to explore love and dating from a distance to keep your body safe while making your heart happy.This discussion's resources:36 Questions In Love
2020-04-0757 minTalk Your Poly OffOpening Your RelationshipIn this discussion, we approach ethical non-monogamy from the viewpoint of a couple wanting to open their relationship.We mentioned we would provide links to resources for those new to and coming into polyamory so here's a list for you:The books:More Than TwoOpening UpThe Ethical SlutThe Smart Girl's Guide To PolyamoryThe Jealousy WorkbookArticles:17 Dos and Don'ts Of Open RelationshipsOpening Up The Relationship: Moving From Monogamy To Ethical Non-monogamy10 Tips For Successfully Opening Up5 Mistakes Couples Make When...
2020-03-3159 minTalk Your Poly OffGenerational PolyamoryThis episode is not only about polyamory through generations but features a special guest, DJ. DJ is Monsuta's eldest daughter and also a mother of two. She shares her experiences as a child of a practicing nonmonogamist and how it has affected both her view on relationships as well as how it has helped shape her own life. She even allows us the opportunity to learn a little bit of her polyamorous exploration.Sit and talk with us and listen to how this father and daughter work together to build on their family values, discuss how Bella...
2020-03-241h 13Talk Your Poly OffCoronavirus and Relationship ManagementThese are scary and strange times between a fear of catching or passing along a virus to stress and anxiety about being quarantined in your home on lock down without work to pay bills. We wanted to reach out to our polyam fam and tell you that you aren't alone. We are here. Bella is scared, Monsuta is prepared and always her rock and we will get through this together.How are your relationships in the middle of all of this? What are you doing to nurture each other from a distance? Or how are you staying...
2020-03-2049 minTalk Your Poly OffThe Long Division of Emotional IntelligenceEmotional Intelligence is the capacity to be aware of, control, and express one's emotions, and to handle interpersonal relationships judiciously and empathetically. This week Bella and Monsuta have a conversation about how we can improve our emotional intelligence skills to be better in our relationships at managing our own emotions and recognizing what others are feeling. Bella decides to take a bath during recording so come join us in the bubbles for a conversation with some take away info that will hopefully be helpful for you just like it was for us. Social Skills You Weren't Taught...
2020-03-101h 05Talk Your Poly OffMetrics For A Successful RelationshipWhat makes a relationship "successful"? How do you measure the success of any of your relationships? Most of us never sit down to consider these things and then when a relationship ends we feel like it "failed", but did it really? I mean do you have great memories? Did you learn a lot from each other? Did you walk away with a great friend? Was the sex fantastic while it lasted? These are all ways to reflect on a relationship and see its success without needing to use the traditional view of time as how to measure success. Monsuta...
2020-03-0549 minTalk Your Poly OffThe Proof Is In The PolyHave you ever felt like you didn't seem to be polyamorous enough? Do you feel like you have to "prove your poly" in order to be accepted? Do you come across as monogamous or have you been out of the poly scene for a while and are feeling like you have a hard time stepping back in? Maybe your family and friends just talk about your lifestyle as a phase. Whatever may be making you feel like your "poly cred" is lacking, come talk your poly off with us and perhaps we can help with that struggle of needing...
2020-03-031h 03Talk Your Poly OffLet's Talk About Sex, Poly StyleSex and polyamory... they aren't always connected yet often times when someone finds out you're polyam their first thought is "oh so you have tons of orgies?!" and while that might be something you're into it isn't the default just because you're polyamorous.A healthy sex life, for people choosing to have sex as part of their dynamic, is a great way to connect on a intimate level with your partner. On this weeks episode we talk about all the important things leading up to sex including consent, boundaries, sexual health and sti prevention. All of that l...
2020-02-251h 04Talk Your Poly OffPSA - Schedule ChangeWe know you love our show and appreciate what we do and would appreciate feeling that love, so we are asking if you would show that love by hitting that "follow" or "subscribe" button and even leave us a 5 star rating and review on whatever platform you listen on. It really helps new listeners find us which helps us share the love. If you want some more of Bella and Monsuta head over to our Patreon page for bonus episodes and also join our Polyam Fam Facebook group! And of course you can reach out to us all over s...
2020-02-2303 min
Talk Your Poly OffValentine's Day & PolyamoryValentine's Day, a day of love. Isn't every day a day full of love when you're polyamorous? Some of us don't like being told by a holiday when we should love someone. Others take the day as an extra special reminder to appreciate those we love. However you look at it we all have to manage our relationships a bit differently when it comes to this time of year. Do you plan in advance to avoid Feb 14th or do you discuss your expectations at all making sure nobody is let down? We talk about all of...
2020-02-1052 minTalk Your Poly OffParenting In Polyamory, part 2Monsuta has raised three children to adulthood and has three grandchildren. He has been open about polyamory to his children early on.Lili is a mom of younger children and is navigating through poly parenting post divorce.Bella has never had children of her own but has come into relationships where her partners have children.We use our combined experiences to discuss the broad discussion of poly parenting from three unique perspectives as we work through this discussion.Find Poly writes about Polyamorous ParentingPolyamorous Parenting from Polyamorous LivingThe Surprise Benefits...
2020-02-031h 00Talk Your Poly OffParenting in Polyamory, part 1Monsuta has raised three children to adulthood and has three grandchildren. He has been open about polyamory to his children early on.Lili is a mom of younger children and is navigating through poly parenting post divorce.Bella has never had children of her own but has come into relationships where her partners have children.We use our combined experiences to discuss the broad discussion of poly parenting from three unique perspectives as we work through this discussion.Find Poly writes about Polyamorous ParentingPolyamorous Parenting from Polyamorous LivingThe Surprise Benefits...
2020-01-2752 minTalk Your Poly OffHappy Anniversary!We've had such a roller coaster ride in our first year of bringing Talk Your Poly off to our listeners and we are so glad to have taken the time to do this show! In this episode, we do a year-in-review to reflect on where we've been and take the time to discuss how we've grown because of this poly-podcast journey. We don't just point out favorite episodes, we also show how we've grown as polyamory practitioners thanks to our discussions here so you can see how we are practicing what we're preaching.Thank you all for...
2020-01-2058 min
Talk Your Poly OffSurprising Your PartnerMonsuta shares some saucy details of his birthday party, including some sexy nude oil wrestling. He shares his experience with an intimate gift created by loved ones. Bella explains how she came up with the ideas for this event and how she brought it all together.All of these scandalous and sordid stories lead directly into the topic of discussion this week on how to plan surprise parties for partners in polyamorous relationships, along with some of the obstacles poly folks encounter while making special time for lovers.(No polyamorists were harmed in the making of...
2020-01-1349 minTalk Your Poly OffGetting To Know The Person In The MirrorThe key component to your polyamorous life, even more than honesty and communication, the one thing you can't practice polyamory without...is YOU!Learning who you are, how you work, and what motivates you is a truly fundamental aspect of how you will maneuver through a life of relationships and love. Many tests exist out in the world of the internet to help you figure yourself out a little bit and we at Talk Your Poly Off have started the path of self exploration with you by taking some of the more prominent tests available (which we have...
2020-01-061h 06Talk Your Poly OffResolutions For 2020Bella, Monsuta, and Lili come together to discuss that magical thing which happens at the beginning of each new year....the resolution! Whether you enjoy them or turn a nose up at them, resolutions play a big part in our society. Sure, not everyone sticks to them and many fall to the wayside but there's so many which do take hold and so many people make changes for the better! We are open to change and committing to a fun way of change, like resolutions can be a good time! We talk about how to increase success in...
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Talk Your Poly OffPoly HolidaysThe holiday season is tough for everyone in different ways and even in a monogamous life there are challenges, how do those challenges differ for those of us in the polyamorous life? The holidays are such a special and magical time for Bella so this episode was extra fun to make for all of you, our polyam fam
2019-12-231h 05Talk Your Poly OffYear End Performance ReviewsReviews are an aspect of measuring team members in the workplace. When done properly, they provide insight on areas where team members have improved, where the business relationship needs work, and provide marker points for conscious development. Goals and benchmarks help enhance the success of the company.When it comes to romantic relationships, just like the workplace, people want to see and measure the success of the relationship which is a lot of the reason why relationship escalators are common, but how many people actively evaluate aspects of their relationship beyond the escalator? What happens when you...
2019-12-1635 minTalk Your Poly OffFresh Eyes on PolyamoryOne aspect of the polyamory world, especially in our technology age, is how much more ethical nonmonogamy has become and how much it has grown to be more accepted thanks to a more open minded society and tools like the internet. Because of this, people new to the nonmonogamy culture join our communities on a daily basis. Today, Monsuta interviews Lili, a mom recently out of a fifteen year marriage who has found polyamory. In our discussion, we take a look at how this subculture of sexual and romantic openness looks from someone just walking in.Our...
2019-12-091h 03Talk Your Poly OffLet's Spend The Night TogetherOne of the daily practices of managing polyamory is where we sleep in a world of multiple partners. Who gets to sleep together and when is alone time essential? We discuss the benefits and pitfalls of sleeping alone versus sleeping with a partner. We also try to piece together how to successfully sleep in a bed with multiple partners and basic overall logistics behind multiple bedroom arrangements.As with many of our episodes, this week gives food for thought, not just for a polyamorous home but also for monogamous couples.We are also providing some additional...
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Talk Your Poly OffThankfulnessSurprise! Happy thankfulness day! Bella and Monsuta are both so thankful for the community which has grown from this podcast that they had to get out a surprise episode on the subject of gratefulness.For additional episodes and content, come join our Patreon! Follow our Facebook page called Polyamory: Get Your Heart On.Find the link to our episode and share your comments about the show.For the kinkier polyamorists, cum join our TYPO Kinkster Fetlife GroupAlso, check out our Twitter, I Love Poly.Our Instagram is I Love Poly...
2019-11-2744 minTalk Your Poly OffJust A Small Town PolySmall towns and cities are vastly different environments, both physically and culturally. These differences are especially prevalent when it comes to polyamory. We take a moment to examine some of these differences and how a polyamorist might navigate through each environment.For additional episodes and content, come join our Patreon! Follow our Facebook page called Polyamory: Get Your Heart On.Find the link to our episode and share your comments about the show.Also, check out our Twitter, I Love Poly.Our Instagram is I Love Poly Cares.We even have a...
2019-11-2550 min
Talk Your Poly OffOn Loss And GriefThis show is dedicated with love to Tatianna Gwynne, a wonderful girl with a shiny soul who has left this world too soon. You are missed every day.We are never prepared for loss and, despite what schedule we prefer to keep, the unexpected does happen and when it does, you find your life turning upside down. We take this episode to help figure out how to process the loss of a close friend and discuss how grief affects a polyamory life.Our resources for you this week:The Five Stages Of Grief: An...
2019-11-181h 05Talk Your Poly OffTips for Direct Intentional CommunicationLet's talk DIC, Direct Intentional Communication and how it affects our relationships. Monsuta and Bella role play some scenarios you might find yourself in when it comes to relationships, especially polyamorous relationships, and how we mess them up with vague communication and how to better them with DIRECT communication. We talk about a few take away tips to improve your communication and talk about some common pitfalls we've all done. Join in the conversation about how we can all improve our DIC.Don't forget to check out our new Patreon page if you're interested in those bonus...
2019-11-111h 02Talk Your Poly OffEgo in RelationshipsCheck out these awesome resources!Ego and Pride: How Does It Really Affect Our Lives25 Ways To Kill The Toxic Ego That Will Ruin Your LifeHow To Kill Your EgoFollow our Facebook page called Polyamory: Get Your Heart On.Find the link to our episode and share your comments about the show.Also, check out our Twitter, I Love Poly.Our Instagram is I Love Poly Cares.We even have a Tumblr.Join our shiny new Fetlife group.And a LinkedIn page.You can...
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Talk Your Poly OffPolyween!Direct links to the podcasts we enjoy:LOREMy Favorite MurderAnd That's Why We DrinkMonstrosityThe Creeping HourTwo Girls One GhostSword And ScaleFollow our Facebook page called Polyamory: Get Your Heart On.Find the link to our episode and share your comments about the show.Also, check out our Twitter, I Love Poly.Our Instagram is I Love Poly Cares.We even have a Tumblr.Join our shiny new Fetlife group.And a LinkedIn page.You can also...
2019-10-281h 08Talk Your Poly OffCompassion Is Action with HeartComing from a place of compassion when it comes to relationships and the world around us, is a powerful tool. Learn how to improve your communication by adding more compassion. In this weeks episode we approach communication from a compassionate place. Where would our relationships be if we could remember to put ourselves in their shoes and listen to understand? We cover the differences between sympathy, empathy, and compassion and give you 8 tips for improving your compassionate communication.Here are our resources or sites we found useful during our research:Tips To Master Compassionate...
2019-10-211h 01Talk Your Poly OffAccountabilityBella and Monsuta take accountability on this episode. They discuss how taking accountability improves not just your relationships with partners but also how it helps you grow as a person. Resources for our polyam fam.How To Improve Accountability by InsperityResponsibility Vs Accountability from Partners In LeadershipThe Importance of Accountability In Your Relationships by Flourish CounselingIs Your Partner Holding You Accountable or Just Taking Inventory by Vicki Tidwell PalmerFollow our Facebook page called Polyamory: Get Your Heart On.Find the link to our episode and share...
2019-10-1437 min
Talk Your Poly OffWalk The Walk With Your Self TalkThey say we are our own worst critic, they say we are our own worst judge, they're right. But what if we could actually flip the script on our inner dialogue and change the way we treat ourselves? How could our life change if we talked to ourselves like we talked to a loved one, a friend, or someone else in need of support? In this episode, Bella and Monsuta dig into the aspects of internal monologue and the effects of how we speak to ourselves in an attempt to understand how the spectrum from negative to positive self...
2019-09-301h 08Talk Your Poly OffPolyamory Camping BreakThis time around, we take a break from discussing big topics and instead, share some great experiences we made over the weekend on a camping trip with folks in our polyamory community, including some fun and cheeky shenanigans.This episode is dedicated to George the Salamander, our unofficial mascot of the Raab campgrounds and to his friend, the Blue Jay and the Chipmunk. Check out the Bagby Hot SpringsAlso, here's a couple games for you if they aren't in your collection yet:FluxxRed FlagsFollow our Facebook page...
2019-09-1625 minTalk Your Poly OffSelf Care In Your UnderwearEpisode 23 falls on a special day for Monsuta as this is the 30th birthday from his shooting (sure, call it an anniversary if you feel so inclined). For his 30th birthday, we will celebrate with a full and in-depth conversation about self-care and making sure you're writing the best story for the main character of your life (spoiler warning....it's YOU).*Happy birthday Monsuta!*Taking care of yourself is a crucial aspect of polyamory. This is the first step for taking care of partners, metas, or anyone close to you. With a positive self care program...
2019-09-091h 00Talk Your Poly OffProcessing Emotions and FeelingsBella and Monsuta ride some great feels and intimate lows (but not a new motorcycle, there is no new motorcycle) to playfully discuss the serious business of processing emotions and feelings.Processing can be extremely difficult and doing it alone may not always be the best option. If you would like to find a therapist to help you work through some of the difficulties of your life, you can search your local phone directory, get a referral from a loved one, do a web search, or even try finding one here.As promised in the...
2019-09-021h 03Talk Your Poly OffMy Guilt And My ShameMonsuta and Bella dive deeper into their personal experiences with guilt and shame as well as how each emotion affects their ability to operate within relationships and with life, in general. Guilt is one of the difficult emotions to feel and to process in any relationship so we really dissect this emotion in ways to understand how it works and how it is a guiding factor in life.As promised in the episode, here are some links to help each of our polyam fam understand and accept guilt in order to help each of us learn this tricky...
2019-08-2650 minTalk Your Poly OffAn Episode Of ListsBella and Monsuta each take time to discuss five skills they've developed to better their relationships, from direct communication to guilt management. They both also share three skills they are seeking to improve. Is there anything on heir lists which struck home for you? Let your hosts know by email (address is below).Follow our Facebook page called Polyamory: Get Your Heart On.Find the link to our episode and share your comments about the show.Also, check out our Twitter, I Love Poly.Our Instagram is I Love Poly Cares.We even...
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Talk Your Poly OffChatting Over CheeseThis week is a special, 'cozy up to your hosts' kind of week where you get to learn a little about us. We talk about the things we like, share some feelings about polyamory, and even walk down memory lane a time or two.Take the opportunity to connect back through our Facebook page, specifically the post where you get to share a song with meaning to you.Speaking of songs, we talk about the time we met with the band HAIL SAGAN and how cool they are. You can hit up their Facebook Page here.
2019-08-1242 min
Talk Your Poly OffSolo Polyamory With KatieAn aspect of Polyamory is solo practice, polyamory which doesn't necessarily ride the relationship escalator. Another polyamory practice is relationship anarchy in which a person doesn't subscribe to traditional labels and standards of what a relationship "should" be. Today, Katie, a practicing soloist and anarchist, discusses polyamory with us from a different perspective.Today's definition of a relationship anarchist came in part from THE CUT's article on the topic, written by Katie Heaney.Our definition of solo polyamory was quoted from a portion of the Psychology Today article written by Elizabeth A. Sheff Ph.D...
2019-08-0542 min
Hot Tub Poly TalkDreaming Of A FinaleBella and Monsuta laugh about dreams, talk about strange stories, and announce the end of Hot Tub Poly Talk. Summer is drawing to a close and the hot tub isn't going to see another winter so getting wet with these episodes has sadly run its course but we do plan on getting our listeners wet with a whole new podcast! Stay tuned in with our social media so you don't miss a beat when our new podcast arrives and, while you're waiting, you can always find our other polyamory podcast titled Talk Your Poly Off where we discuss...
2019-08-0122 min
Talk Your Poly OffUnpacking Emotional BaggageEmotional baggage, we've all got it, we don't always want it, so what do we do with it? This week, Bella and Monsuta take some time to give your life luggage the Marie Kondo treatment. We share how to be aware of the excess and what to do with it, as well as what to get rid of.Some of the resources we utilized while packing this episode:Dr. Seth Myers and the 3 basic signs of emotional baggageChris Hart and the Five StepsThe Emotional Baggage Check websiteFollow our Facebook...
2019-07-2956 min
Hot Tub Poly TalkMy Meta Is A ZombieWhat does your poly pod do in the event of a zombie apocalypse? Are the people in your pod ideal post-apocalypse partners? Will your polycule survive? ....or are you zombie food? These questions and more will be addressed today in the tub!Follow our Facebook page called Polyamory: Get Your Heart On.Find the link to our episode and share your comments about the show.Also, check out our Twitter, I Love Poly.Our Instagram is I Love Poly Cares.We even have a Tumblr.Join our Fetlife group.And a...
2019-07-2536 minTalk Your Poly OffRiding The Relationship EscalatorThis week is a rollercoaster of relationship discussion as Bella and Monsuta talk our poly off about the infamous relationship escalator and what it means. We bring up milestones of a partnership, mindfulness in navigating this deepness of connection, what it all means for your future and even take the time to look back on it all.www.polysingleish.com“Stepping Off the Relationship Escalator: Uncommon Love and Life” by Amy GahranFollow our Facebook page called Polyamory: Get Your Heart On.Find the link to our episode and share your comments about the...
2019-07-2252 min
Hot Tub Poly TalkLet's Go CampingWhen there's no topic planned, we wing it like a boss which quickly takes us....well, camping. We even learn the differences between California camping and Wyoming camping.Also, where do you sit on SPAM? Is it good? Is it bad? Email us and let us know.Follow our Facebook page called Polyamory: Get Your Heart On.Find the link to our episode and share your comments about the show.Also, check out our Twitter, I Love Poly.Our Instagram is I Love Poly Cares.We even have a Tumblr.Join...
2019-07-1836 minTalk Your Poly OffThe New Relationship Energy FactorYou know those feelings you get when you first start dating someone and everything about them is perfect and you just can't get enough time with them? That's new relationship energy and it is not only a big factor in your non-monogamous journey but also a widely common phenomenon. So we take some time to try understanding this addictive experience in an attempt to build healthily from it.Check out these bonus links to get a feel for these feels.Thoughts on NRE from Zhahai Stewartand7 Tips to Making NRE Last...
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Hot Tub Poly TalkBirthdaysBella celebrates another year around the sun which ignites an episode length discussion on birthdays, parties, and how to coordinate with metas to help celebrate your birthday person.Follow our Facebook page called Polyamory: Get Your Heart On.Find the link to our episode and share your comments about the show.Also, check out our Twitter, I Love Poly.Our Instagram is I Love Poly Cares.We even have a Tumblr.Join our Fetlife group.And a LinkedIn page.You can also hit up our website and bookmark it so...
2019-07-1126 minTalk Your Poly OffWe Crush Your HeadA common phenomenon which happens in the polyamory circles is developing and feeling crushes. The harmless little feels you catch when someone new comes into your world. We dig deep into them to help get an understanding of why we have them and what impact even these little feels can have on our world.Follow our Facebook page called Polyamory: Get Your Heart On.Find the link to our episode and share your comments about the show.Also, check out our Twitter, I Love Poly.Our Instagram is I Love Poly Cares.We...
2019-07-0840 min
Hot Tub Poly TalkGeocaching and MilkshakesWe start the show out with our adventures to local parks in search of geocaches, then transition into ice cream and milk shakes, then to seeing polyamory in public.Follow our Facebook page called Polyamory: Get Your Heart On.Find the link to our episode and share your comments about the show.Also, check out our Twitter, I Love Poly.Our Instagram is I Love Poly Cares.We even have a Tumblr.Join our Fetlife group.And a LinkedIn page.You can also hit up our website and bookmark it...
2019-07-0440 min
Talk Your Poly OffThe Good, The Bad, And The Ugly- A Dinner DiscussionBella and Monsuta take advantage of a lightning storm to discuss the best....and worst...personality traits they bring to a relationship while Monsuta makes dinner in the dark. In this episode, we look into the abyss of what a person brings to the relationship table, both good and bad, and how to handle these traits in one's self and with one's partner.Follow our Facebook page called Polyamory: Get Your Heart On.Find the link to our episode and share your comments about the show.Also, check out our Twitter, I Love Poly.
2019-07-0138 min
Hot Tub Poly TalkPolyam Diets and Spider LoveAs the summer continues, we switch from the hot tub to the pool but we still provide the same brand of discuss you've grown to know us for.This episode's discussion starts out with discussion on navigating the potential for multiple dietary needs of a polycule and quickly shifts gears with the sudden arrival of a spider. From there, things get chaotic.We mentioned Lucas the Spider and, because he is so darned adorable, we want to make sure you give this little eight legged cutie some love, so please check out the Lucas home with...
2019-06-2726 min
Talk Your Poly OffSelf Care and PolyamoryMonsuta is knee deep in comic books while he and Bella delve into the subject of self care. Each host shares different methods of self care.We even get a surprise guest appearance from the son of Monsuta who engages fully into this episode.Follow our Facebook page called Polyamory: Get Your Heart On.Find the link to our episode and share your comments about the show.Also, check out our Twitter, I Love Poly.Our Instagram is I Love Poly Cares.We even have a Tumblr.Join our shiny new...
2019-06-2438 min
Talk Your Poly OffLong Distance RelationshipsWe welcome our guest host Peaches so we can all talk our poly off about long distance relationships. Peaches and Monsuta are long distance partners who bring real world experience to this episode and Bella provides insights from the outside, looking in.We realized toward the end of this recording, we could not capture enough of the LDR relationship dynamic in one episode so we will be airing periodic updates to this episode as the three of us are together.Follow our Facebook page called Polyamory: Get Your Heart On.Find the link to our...
2019-04-2953 min
Talk Your Poly OffDeeper Relationship Connections#NormalizeLove This episode, we decide to get into bed to record this episode. The bed is a more intimate environment which helps us discuss the vulnerable topics of deepening our connections with people we care about for stronger emotional bonds. We share our love languages and discuss how to use the five languages to know your loved ones better. We also highlight how sexuality or sensuality can bring more profound aspects of relationship to light and even get a little mushy while doing it, because emotional intimacy is a beautiful thing.Follow our Facebook page...
2019-04-2246 min
Talk Your Poly OffPoly KinkeryToday's (slightly longer) episode is about kink, what kink is, safety practices for getting your kink on, and how kink and polyamory co-exist. We will talk about sexy stuff like power exchange dynamics and fetishes and will discuss responsible things like safety and negotiation. So, pull up a seat and let's get sexy.Follow our Facebook page called Polyamory: Get Your Heart On.Find the link to our episode and share your comments about the show.Also, check out our Twitter, I Love Poly.Our Instagram is I Love Poly Cares.We...
2019-04-1549 min
Talk Your Poly Off3 Tips For Deeper ConnectionsBella's struggles in flirting helps us discuss how to improve our communication skills for stronger connections and more security within ourselves so we can provide ourselves and each other a healthier, more confident life.We talk through three steps of personal growth:1. Live like birds2. Active thought awareness3. Tearing down (and keeping down) the walls.This episode is dedicated in loving memory to Monsuta's dear friend and brother, Garth Brinson, a true practitioner of these three steps and a loving friend.08/09/1966 to 04/06/2019I love you brother and you will be...
2019-04-0837 min
Talk Your Poly OffChoosing Whether Or Not To Be Out With PolyamoryLevels of being outTotal secret (100% closed doors)Partial out (maybe in friend circles but generally not family or work)Totally out (shouting from the rooftops)How open are you?Social media - relationship status, tagging, sharing picturesPublic outings - Running into friends, family, co-workers, and the likeFamily eventsDeciding when, how and whom to come out to is quite the challenge and there are a lot of resources for you out there. Here are our 4 basic tips to help get you started...Bring your partners around your family/friends early. Introduce...
2019-04-0237 min
Talk Your Poly OffJealousy, The Green Eyed MonsterJealousy & envy are both feelings most of us have at some point or another. J is the fear of losing something you already have while envy is wanting something you don't have. Both of these feelings are similar to to other universal feelings.Throughout our research, studies suggest there are 5 universal feelings across cultures (fear, happiness, anger, shame, sadness) and all the extra feelings we have can typically be put into one of these categories.There are 3 levels to jealousy which explains why we go so franticWe believe we need something external to be happyWe can't guarantee keeping w...
2019-03-2550 min
Talk Your Poly OffThe Meta Game Of DatingWe have made it to the date, let's talk about how to move through the first date.Are you going to date alone? Are you looking to date with a partner as a couple?What do each of these look like?How soon do you discuss poly, how much do you discuss poly or your other partners?If the date goes into building some kind of relationship, how much do you date before potentially introducing the new person to your polycule?Providing you do poly from an involved standpoint...
2019-03-1831 min
Talk Your Poly OffTips On Getting Out ThereYou've decided to open yourself up for relationships but, where to start? Bella and Monsuta take some time to discuss options and provide tips on how to get out there, whether you're trying to meet in person or have a chance to meet online. From bar hopping to meetups, social events to dating apps- we help wingman for connection.Follow our Facebook page called Polyamory: Get Your Heart On.Find the link to our episode and share your comments about the show.Also, check out our Twitter, I Love Poly.Our Instagram is I...
2019-03-1030 min
Talk Your Poly OffJust What The Doctor OrderedOur dear friend JJ joins Bella and Monsuta as we discuss physical and mental health and how it affects how we poly. WE go in depth on obstacles we face with health issues, how we get support from partners and friends, and what these issues do to our schedules and time.Follow our Facebook page called Polyamory: Get Your Heart On.Find the link to our episode and share your comments about the show.Also, check out our Twitter, I Love Poly.Our Instagram is I Love Poly Cares.We even have a...
2019-03-0237 min
Talk Your Poly OffI Have QuestionsFollow our facebook page.Find the link to our episode and share your comments about the show.Also, check out our Twitter page.Our Instagram is here.We even have a Tumblr.You can also hit up our website and bookmark it so you can watch us as we grow. ;)Finally, we welcome listener input, feel free to send us an email with your thoughts at podcast@ilovepoly.org
2019-02-0330 min
Talk Your Poly OffWelcome To PolyamoryWelcome all of our polyam fam to the premiere episode of our discussion podcast, Talk Your Poly off.Meet your hostess with the mostest, Bella, along with her partner who has a face made for radio, Monsuta! In this first discussion, we will jump into what polyamory is and how we got into it. Pull up a chair, take a load off, and talk your poly off with us.Follow our Facebook page called Polyamory: Get Your Heart On.Find the link to our episode and share your comments about the show.Also...
2019-01-2033 min