Info@dignitytogether.org (Debra S Falzoi)

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Screw the Hierarchy5 ways coaching can help you feel unstuck after psychological abuse at workWhile therapists can help you with day-to-day struggles or life patterns that you'd like to deeply examine from your childhood, coaches can help you get through present blocks to move forward. In this episode, I talk about five ways a coach can help you feel unstuck after abuse at work. If you'd like to work with me, a work healing coach, visit DignityTogether.org/targets or email me at info@dignitytogether.org. If you've been abused at work and would like to share your story anonymously, email info@dignitytogether.org. If you feel like you need more help, I have...2022-06-2014 min

Screw the HierarchyTest your knowledge of workers' rights in the U.S.How much do you know about workers' rights in the U.S.? In this episode, find out how much you know about how our culture values workers. If you've been abused at work and would like to share your story anonymously, email info@dignitytogether.org. If you feel like you need more help, I have a free guide to recovery steps at http://www.dignitytogether.org/targets and a signup for daily boosts through your inbox at the same place. Facebook: @HierarchyPodcast Twitter: @ScrewHierarchy 2022-04-2542 min

Screw the HierarchyHow to listen to targets of trauma so they can feel heard and begin to healWhen we listen to those expressing negative emotions, we tend to want to fix the situation and make our own discomfort go away. But what targets of workplace bullying and mobbing (or any type of trauma) actually need is to feel seen and heard. Advice and fixing don't help. In this episode, learn how to listen to BE with someone instead of fixing someone so you can connect with them and help them process their emotions. If you've been abused at work and would like to share your story anonymously, email info@dignitytogether.org. If you feel like you need...2022-04-1815 min

Screw the HierarchyThe freedom we gain when we give up controlAbusers typically learned to focus on power and control at a young age. When we try to control them back after they grab our personal power, we end up attempting to use control on them after control harmed us. But we know we can't control others. We can incentivize them, we can inspire them, and we can lead them, but we ultimately can't control them. In this episode, I talk about how letting go can lead to freedom — and what we CAN decide to control instead. If you've been abused at work and would like to share your story anonymously, em...2022-04-1111 min

Screw the HierarchyMy top 5 ways anti-abuse groups perpetuate abuseWriting rules as they go regardless of what their bylaws say. Not holding elections and retaining power. Removing people who disagree and positioning their behavior as bullying regardless of what outside investigators find (gaslighting). Not holding yes-people accountable. Taking on rights but not responsibilities of leadership. Allowing smearing of colleagues to happen at formal meetings. Reinforcing gender stereotypes and hierarchies. False accusations. Paying lip service to values they do not uphold. These tactics are some of the tools I've seen higher-ups in workplace anti-abuse groups use to hide their insecurities and incompetence and retain their power. Not targets themselves, these...2022-04-0426 min

Screw the HierarchyHow targets of workplace abuse found energy and healing in public actionOn the one year anniversary of the suicide of Evan Seyfried, the nearly 20-year exemplary Kroger employee who two supervisors and Kroger itself allegedly psychologically abused to death, advocates from across the country took to their State House and courthouse steps to demand an end to workplace abuse and mobbing. In Ohio where Evan worked, California, Massachusetts, Michigan, New York, Oregon, Rhode Island, Tennessee, and Wyoming, advocates came together on March 9, 2022, in a collective voice to say they've had enough. But what emerged for so many advocates was an unexpected outcome: progress with healing. In this episode, protest organizers reveal...2022-03-2851 min

Screw the HierarchyHow we can move on after abuse at workHow come we can't just let go after abuse at work? And if not, what are some ways we can begin that process so we can lead our best lives? And if we're loved ones or bystanders, how can we best support targets? Jolynn Nelson, who has a PhD in industrial and organizational psychology, explains how we can move on. If you've been abused at work and would like to share your story anonymously, email info@dignitytogether.org. If you feel like you need more help, I have a free guide to recovery steps at http://www.dignitytogether.org/targets...2022-03-2133 min

Screw the HierarchyThe negative effects of stereotyping on menWhen we look at social hierarchies and the effects of positive stereotyping, social weight, and economic freedom and the opportunities it affords those at the top of the hierarchy, we can easily see the damage of sexism, both individually and systemically. But co-founder of the men's rights movement in 1977 Fred Hayward sees men facing issues and stereotypes that have negative effects — not just positive ones. In this episode, Fred shares those issues and stereotypes, what made him start a men's rights movement, and what the early days of the movement looked like. If you've been abused at work and would li...2022-03-1453 min

Screw the HierarchyHow Kroger allegedly abused Evan Seyfried to deathOn March 9, 2021, 40-year old Evan Seyfried took his own life after workplace abuse and mobbing. He was a 20-year exemplary employee at Kroger, one of the largest grocers in the US. Hear what abuses the lawsuit outlines. According to The Washington Post, in a "wrongful death" lawsuit, Evan's family alleges his death resulted from a six-month harassment campaign by two co-workers at the Milford, Ohio, location: ➡ A supervisor allegedly harassed him for wearing a face mask during COVID and made fun of him for his political beliefs, calling him "antifa." ➡ Evan reported several unwanted sexual advances toward him, which resulted in n...2022-03-0737 min

Screw the HierarchyWe demand Justice for EvanOn March 9, 2021, 40-year old Evan Seyfried took his own life after workplace abuse and mobbing. He was a 20-year exemplary employee at Kroger, one of the largest grocers in the US. Hear from five advocates working on the Justice for Evan campaign. @JusticeForEvan According to The Washington Post, in a "wrongful death" lawsuit, Evan's family alleges his death resulted from a six-month harassment campaign by two co-workers at the Milford, Ohio, location: ➡ A supervisor allegedly harassed him for wearing a face mask during COVID and made fun of him for his political beliefs, calling him "antifa." ➡ Evan reported several unwanted sexu...2022-02-281h 18

Screw the HierarchyHow to reframe the feeling we're broken — featuring Awaken's Sophie FrabottaAfter trauma, we may believe we're broken. But according to coach, healer, and Guide Sophie Frabotta of Awaken, we're not broken — we're hurt. In this episode, Sophie walks us through her 4 Rs Method — the path to radiate when we feel stuck in the hurt. Find Sophie at AwakenWithSophie.com. If you've been abused at work and would like to share your story anonymously, email info@dignitytogether.org. If you feel like you need more help, I have a free guide to recovery steps at http://www.dignitytogether.org/targets and a signup for daily boosts through your inbox at the same...2022-02-2123 min

Screw the HierarchyWhy work-life balance is a myth for working parents — featuring LUMO's Sarah OlinLUMO's Sarah Olin believes we as a culture should shift from talking about work-life balance, which is a myth, to alignment when it comes to working parents. In this episode, Sarah reveals what working parents face and how she supports them and organizations to offer support, too. Find Sarah at LusciousMother.com/lumo. If you've been abused at work and would like to share your story anonymously, email info@dignitytogether.org. If you feel like you need more help, I have a free guide to recovery steps at http://www.dignitytogether.org/targets and a signup for daily boosts through...2022-02-1416 min

Screw the HierarchyHow we can release trauma in the body — featuring Sharon LaFlammeUnresolved trauma festers in our nervous systems, causing conditions, disease, and illness. In this episode, Creating Serenity's Sharon LaFlamme reveals what happens when we don't release trauma from our bodies — and what we can do about it using somatic experiencing. Find Sharon at CreatingSerenityNow.com. If you've been abused at work and would like to share your story anonymously, email info@dignitytogether.org. If you feel like you need more help, I have a free guide to recovery steps at http://www.dignitytogether.org/targets and a signup for daily boosts through your inbox at the same place. Facebook: @HierarchyPodcast Tw...2022-02-0723 min

Screw the HierarchyHow betrayal trauma affects our relationships — with relationship coach Mr. JayBetrayal trauma can happen when we feel our employer does nothing to address our workplace abuse situations, and the government invalidates us in the absence of a law to protect us. This type of trauma can feel more personal than other types of trauma. And not only does it set the tone for relationships with others, but it also affects our relationships with ourselves. In this episode, Relationship Coach Mr. Jay talks about the effects of betrayal trauma and what we can do to address it. Find Mr. Jay at MrJayRelationshipCoach.com. If you've been abused at work and would...2022-01-3126 min

Screw the HierarchyHow leaders' limiting beliefs affect organizations' teams and bottom lines — featuring leadership consultant Michele MolitorLeaders often experience limiting beliefs around feeling enough that affect their ability to build high performing teams and increase bottom-line results. In this episode, leadership consultant Michele Molitor talks about how our brain wiring can play into feeling fear and anxiety, what happens when we don't address these feelings, and how her rapid rewiring approach can help leaders improve their work cultures and bottom lines. Register for Michele's upcoming Taming Your Self-Doubt Masterclass on February 7, 2022 at 12pm PT/3pm ET/8pm GMT: https://bit.ly/TamingYourSelfDoubt Or take her Self-Doubt Finder Quiz: https://bit.ly/Self-DoubtFinder Find Michele at NectarConsulting...2022-01-2824 min

Screw the HierarchyHow childhood trauma plays out in our adult lives — featuring coach Riana MilneResearch shows that ALL of us have experienced childhood trauma. But how does it show up for us later in life? In this episode, Global Life & Love Coach Riana Milne shares her top 10 Traumas from the Childhood Trauma Checklist Tool and reveals how childhood trauma plays out in adulthood — and what we can do to address it. Find Riana at RianaMilne.com. If you've been abused at work and would like to share your story anonymously, email info@dignitytogether.org. If you feel like you need more help, I have a free guide to recovery steps at http://www.dignitytogether.or...2022-01-2429 min

Screw the HierarchyThe negative stereotypes that hold back men and boys — featuring Jack KammerWhile white men hold the majority of power positions in the U.S. workforce, most white men do not. The result: resentment from the unfairness and pent up emotions from our culture's negative stereotype of men and boys expressing feelings. In this episode, Jack Kammer reveals what it's really like for most men to feel the pressure from gender stereotyping and what women can do in heterosexual relationships to share power. Find Jack at JackKammer.com. If you've been abused at work and would like to share your story anonymously, email info@dignitytogether.org. If you feel like you need...2022-01-171h 06

Screw the HierarchyHow to transform your self-limiting stories so you can live authentically and achieve your full potential — featuring Crown Yourself's Kimberly SpencerThe stories we tell ourselves can hold us back. If we define ourselves according to how others defined us in childhood, for example, there's an opportunity to un-learn those beliefs that hold us back. In this episode, Crown Yourself's Kimberly Spencer reveals how we can transform ourselves so we can live authentically and reach our full potential. Find Kimberly at CrownYourself.com. If you've been abused at work and would like to share your story anonymously, email info@dignitytogether.org. If you feel like you need more help, I have a free guide to recovery steps at http://www.dignitytogether...2022-01-1049 min

Screw the HierarchyHow Asian-American leaders can resolve conflict — featuring leadership coach Jerry FuOur ability to resolve conflict can be influenced by our cultural upbringing, including our modeling of having difficult conversations or asserting our needs. In this episode, leadership coach Jerry Fu shares his personal experiences of fearing conflict as an Asian-American that showed him a need to help others with similar upbringings conquer the same fear. Find Jerry at AdaptingLeaders.com. If you've been abused at work and would like to share your story anonymously, email info@dignitytogether.org. If you feel like you need more help, I have a free guide to recovery steps at http://www.dignitytogether.org/targets...2022-01-0330 min

Screw the HierarchyHow we can ascend Maslow's hierarchy of needs — with leadership coach Carissa KarbanWhat is Maslow's hierarchy of needs, and how can we ascend it to self-actualize? How did the pandemic bring so many of us back to the bottom of the pyramid? In this episode, leadership coach Carissa Karban shares how we can ascend Maslow's hierarchy so we can achieve the realization of our potential, despite the pandemic pulling us downward. Find Carissa at CarissaKarban.com. If you've been abused at work and would like to share your story anonymously, email info@dignitytogether.org. If you feel like you need more help, I have a free guide to recovery steps at http...2021-12-2720 min

Screw the HierarchyHow to get out of a scarcity mindset — featuring leadership coach Carissa KarbanThinking in binary terms can keep us in a scarcity mindset. So what's one simple change we can make to move to a mindset of abundance? In this episode, leadership coach Carissa Karban shares what she calls the most destructive word in the English language, what we can replace it with, and how this concept ties into Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion. Find Carissa at CarissaKarban.com. If you've been abused at work and would like to share your story anonymously, email info@dignitytogether.org. If you feel like you need more help, I have a free guide to recovery steps...2021-12-2021 min

Screw the HierarchyWhy we are not our thoughts — featuring leadership coach Carissa KarbanThe stories in our heads have impact. Thoughts lead to beliefs, and beliefs lead to action. So how do we choose the stories we tell ourselves so we can change our beliefs? In this episode, leadership coach Carissa Karban walks us through how our thoughts shape our lives — and how to change the narrative so we can live our best lives. Find Carissa at CarissaKarban.com. If you've been abused at work and would like to share your story anonymously, email info@dignitytogether.org. If you feel like you need more help, I have a free guide to recovery steps at...2021-12-1321 min

Screw the HierarchyHow we can stand in our power with work — featuring Rose KazRose Kaz set out to build is a community of women who flip the script on how we do business, sharing the wealth of knowledge and resources to shift old paradigms. The result: the LBI Backstage Pass, a community with people of "any age, any color, any gender, and at any stage of their career to co-create better ways of living for ALL." In this episode, hear Rose share a need she saw and how she's filling it to inspire everyone to stand in their power. Find Rose Kaz at lbibackstagepass.com. If you've been abused at work and would...2021-12-0614 min

Screw the HierarchyHow one songwriter navigated sexism in the music industrySongwriter Ellen Violette aspired to write music. But what she encountered was an industry full of sexist behaviors. In this episode, Ellen reveals how she coped with that music industry that didn't value her worth. If you've been abused at work and would like to share your story anonymously, email info@dignitytogether.org. If you feel like you need more help, I have a free guide to recovery steps at http://www.dignitytogether.org/targets and a signup for daily boosts through your inbox at the same place. Facebook: @HierarchyPodcast Twitter: @ScrewHierarchy 2021-11-2926 min

Screw the HierarchyWhat might happen when we continue to put profit over people — featuring author Barry WelshInspired by real events, author Barry Welsh takes readers on a journey through what could happen when greed continues to go unchecked. In his book AMERICA: Land of the Greed and Home of the Grave, the first of a three-part series, Barry imagines a scenario of two powerful former political rival families plot to overthrow the U.S. government to end democracy. In this episode, Barry reveals his political background that led him to share a potential track we could go down based on current events. Barry's book is available at https://www.amazon.com/-/es/Barry-Welsh/dp/B09...2021-11-2231 min

Screw the HierarchyHow to reduce anxiety and stress using the Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) — featuring Dr. Katie NallWhen former math teacher Dr. Katie Nall saw how much anxiety her students had from taking math tests, she took action. She showed her students how to dissolve WAFFLES (worries, anxiety, fear, frustration, lethargy, exhaustion, and stress) using the Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT). In this episode, Katie shares her story and how it led her to becoming an expert in EFT. She also shares the DISC model, a framework to see others' needs to understand better ways to communicate. Today, the TedX speaker helps drained female entrepreneurs recharge to live vibrantly and sleep at night. Find Dr. Katie Nall at...2021-11-1534 min

Screw the HierarchyHow we can go from stuck to inspired — featuring healer Kristine OvsepianAfter the trauma of abuse at work, we often feel stuck. The exhaustion can feel overwhelming and debilitating. The anxiety is a feeling healer Kristine Ovsepian is familiar with. After her own journey of feeling empty and lost for years, Kristine took her power back. In this episode, Kristine shares her story along with the healing modalities that helped her feel unstuck and on her true path and the techniques she offers to help others experience the same inner peace. Find Kristine at JourneysToHeal.com. If you've been abused at work and would like to share your story anonymously, email...2021-11-0827 min

Screw the HierarchyWhat we need for emotional safety — and how we can provide it — featuring Doug NollSafety is a basic need. But so many of us don't feel emotionally safe growing up or learn skills to help others feel emotionally safe. We feel dismissed, ignored, and hurt, and so many feel the same way. But when we help others feel seen and heard emotionally, we can replace that hurt with connection — and de-escalate situations. In this episode, Doug Noll shares a de-escalation technique rooted in these ideas that's worked in prisons. The effects of this quick technique can be far-reaching, helping us connect more deeply and even address pain on a grand scale. Find Doug Noll at...2021-11-0130 min

Screw the HierarchyHow a former liquor store employee is healing from abuse at workDaniel faced years of mistreatment and dehumanizing at a liquor store run by a power-hungry boss. In this episode, hear Daniel share his experience at that job, where he is now, and what has helped him with the trauma. If you've been abused at work and would like to share your story anonymously, email info@dignitytogether.org. If you feel like you need more help, I have a free guide to recovery steps at http://www.dignitytogether.org/targets and a signup for daily boosts through your inbox at the same place. Facebook: @HierarchyPodcast Twitter: @ScrewHierarchy 2021-10-2523 min

Screw the HierarchyHow we can use mindfulness to focus on OUR goals — featuring coach Christian StrakaAbuse at work can be all-consuming. But mindfulness can help us keep our focus on OUR goals. In this episode, mindfulness coach for athletes Christian Straka talks about the five pillars of mindfulness and how we can use mindfulness techniques not only to reduce suffering but also to level up our lives. Find Christian at MindsizeSports.com. If you've been abused at work and would like to share your story anonymously, email info@dignitytogether.org. If you feel like you need more help, I have a free guide to recovery steps at http://www.dignitytogether.org/targets and a signup...2021-10-1828 min

Screw the HierarchyHow to feel un-stuck at work — featuring career coach Lindsay GordonWhen we feel stuck at work, we may not understand what WE want. What do WE value? And why might we not go for what we value? In this episode, career coach Lindsay Gordon talks about discovering our unique value and why it may be more useful to look at our purpose in life rather than our purpose with our careers to figure out what role we want our jobs to play in our lives. Find Lindsay at ALifeOfOptions.com. If you've been abused at work and would like to share your story anonymously, email info@dignitytogether.org. If you...2021-10-1126 min

Screw the HierarchyHow women can break free of the limitations of patriarchal conditioning — featuring coach Marcia MarinerPatriarchal conditioning has limitations for all of us, but when it comes to a ranking on the social hierarchy, women have different expectations and limitations than men. As women, how do we break free from our programming? And what will happen when we do? In this episode, coach Marcia Mariner reveals what it means to play into the masculine model, how we can choose a different model, and how her own journey shaped her work. If you've been abused at work and would like to share your story anonymously, email info@dignitytogether.org. If you feel like you need more...2021-10-0434 min

Screw the HierarchyHow to live in the present moment as an act of self-care — featuring author Billy MandarinoFocusing on the past or future — aside from processing trauma — can cause anxiety. But author Bill Mandarino has a solution: having present moment awareness where there are no limits. He says it's the secret sauce to creating a massively abundant lifestyle, free of fear and stress. In this episode, I talk with Billy about his approach and what it does for us. Find Billy at BillyMandarino.com. If you've been abused at work and would like to share your story anonymously, email info@dignitytogether.org. If you feel like you need more help, I have a free guide to recovery step...2021-09-2728 min

Screw the HierarchyHow to go from external expectation and validation hostage to resilient self-leader — featuring life coach Kamini WoodHigh achievers often take on the role of people-pleaser, often leading to stress, overwhelm, and anxiety. In this episode, life coach and best-selling author Kamini Wood reveals the key ingredients to go from what she calls "external expectation and validation hostage to resilient self-leader." How do self-compassion, mindfulness, shame, and guilt play a role? Find Kamini Wood at www.kaminiwood.com. If you've been abused at work and would like to share your story anonymously, email info@dignitytogether.org. If you feel like you need more help, I have a free guide to recovery steps at http://www.dignitytogether.org...2021-09-2014 min

Screw the HierarchyWhat history shows us about standing up to abuse of power — featuring former attorney Mark M. Bello, known for suing the Roman Catholic Church for sexual abuse by clergyWe see abuse of power throughout history. But we learn lessons from how to go up against abuse of power and challenge institutions. In this episode, former attorney and author Mark M. Bello reveals his experience as one of the first attorneys to sue the Roman Catholic Church for sexual abuse by clergy in the 1980s, his take on how abuse of power and corporate greed infringes on our rights, and how social justice issues inspired his love for writing fictional stories about how policies might play out in people's lives. Find Mark M. Bello at http://www.markmbello.com. ...2021-09-1354 min

Screw the HierarchyHow mobbing differs from bullying — and what to do about it — featuring author Janice HarperWhen someone in a position of power at work decides we need to go — and convinces the rest of the group we need to go — we may find ourselves the target of mobbing, a form of group aggression. But mobbing follows a predictable pattern, says cultural anthropologist Janice Harper who wrote the book Mobbed! What To Do When They Really Are Out To Get You. In this episode, Janice shares her research on animal behavior, group psychology, rumors, gossip, shunning, and false memory so you can detach from the predictable behavior and minimize the damage. If you've been abused at work...2021-09-0641 min

Screw the HierarchyHow effective sexual harassment law has been at disrupting the status quoHow effective has sexual harassment law been at disrupting (never dismantling) the social hierarchies at work? In this episode, I build on last week's episode about the history of sexual harassment law in the US and its progress to talk about what's REALLY happening with sexual harassment law now. What does it do? Who's benefited, and in what way? If you've been abused at work and would like to share your story anonymously, email info@dignitytogether.org. If you feel like you need more help, I have a free guide to recovery steps at http://www.dignitytogether.org/targets and...2021-08-3020 min

Screw the HierarchyWhat we can learn from the evolution of sexual harassment law to address the power structures that benefit white menWe know that sexual harassment law has advanced workers' rights, especially for women. But what has it done — and not done — to move the needle for women? How is it enabling those writing the rules to keep themselves in power to cling onto the status quo? Let's look to Yale Law School's Reva B. Siegel's short history of sexual harassment from her 2003 book Directions in Sexual Harassment Law to get a sense of what work was like before the Supreme Court interpreted Title VII of the Civil Rights Act of 1964 to include sexual harassment as discrimination based on sex in the...2021-08-2321 min

Screw the HierarchyHow a Kroger manager allegedly bullied employee Evan Seyfried to suicideOn March 9, 2021, Evan Seyfried, 40, took his own life due to extreme and brutal harassment from two store managers and co-workers at a Kroger location in Milford, OH, where he was employed for 19 years. Kroger failed to protect Evan. Here is his story from organizer of Justice for Evan and family friend Jana Murphy. Read the lawsuit: https://www.scribd.com/document/515480124/Lawsuit-Kroger-manager-drove-employee-to-suicide?fbclid=IwAR3B65vezIRJcX5AGMtsx2ojnWDuFBYd2n45SctjqzMGRu1nh000TygJqKI Companies Kroger owns: Baker’s City Market Dillons Food 4 Less Foods Co Fred Meyer Fry’s Gerbes Harris Teeter King Soopers Jay C Food Store Kroger Pay-Less Super Mark...2021-08-161h 30

Screw the HierarchyHow "yes" people enable serial abusers — part of the workplace abuse playbookThis week, the New York state attorney general released a 165-page report on Governor Andrew Cuomo's misdeeds, including how those misdeeds were allowed to fester: through his "yes" people, the loyalists who protected him. In this week's episode, I talk about how "yes" people enable and even embolden serial abusers and how they're part of the abuser playbook of abusing power above the rules while vilifying those who speak up. If you've been abused at work and would like to share your story anonymously, email info@dignitytogether.org. If you feel like you need more help, I have a free...2021-08-0911 min

Screw the HierarchyA federal whistleblower from the U.S. Border Patrol reveals what it's like to expose corruptionGoing to work shouldn't mean witnessing blatant violations of moral code and suffering from demeaning treatment. But that's what going to work means for thousands of workers, including former U.S. Border Patrolwoman Deliris Montanez. In this week's episode, Deliris reveals why she spoke up and what it's like to be a federal whistleblower when most ways to expose it are closed doors. If you've been abused at work and would like to share your story anonymously, email info@dignitytogether.org. If you feel like you need more help, I have a free guide to recovery steps at http://www...2021-08-0257 min

Screw the HierarchyFormer NFL cheerleader Lacy Fields reveals what it was like to go up against the NFLWhen a business owner decides to pay a worker for their time and effort, that business owner understands they will make money off that time and effort. It's part of doing business. But what happens when that business rakes in billions of dollars per year and uses some of their employees as welfare? I'm talking about the NFL exploiting its cheerleaders by paying them less than minimum wage for required gigs and practices. In this week's episode, I talk with Lacy Fields, a former Oakland Raiders cheerleader who exposed the exploitation of NFL cheerleaders nationwide that catapulted a national fight...2021-07-2632 min

Screw the HierarchyHow female minority nurses described their work cultures in hospitalsIn January 2021, researcher Ekta Srinivasa, RN, PhD revealed her findings of her study on experiences of self-reported bullying In female minority nurses within acute care hospital workplace settings. Her findings: employers channel discrimination through bullying acts and align with those willing to get rewarded to play the game, leaving patient safety on the line when competent nurses speak up. If you've been abused at work and would like to share your story anonymously, email info@dignitytogether.org. If you feel like you need more help, I have a free guide to recovery steps at http://www.dignitytogether.org/targets and...2021-07-1920 min

Screw the HierarchyHow to shift your mindset so you can put your values firstLooking at life in the long-term can help us have agency and create lives according to our own values. In this episode, I talk about how we can get altitude on our lives, as career coach Liz Ryan talks about, so we can feel fulfilled and content rather than obedient and less than. If you've been abused at work and would like to share your story anonymously, email info@dignitytogether.org. If you feel like you need more help, I have a free guide to recovery steps at http://www.dignitytogether.org/targets and a signup for daily boosts through...2021-07-1215 min

Screw the HierarchyHow employers in health care management funneled sexism through bullyingJoyce was a solid performer in health care management when she found herself suffering consequences for those who sexual harassed. But not just once. In this episode, hear how her employers in her industry funneled sexism through bully acts — and what advice she has for other targets of abuse at work. If you've been abused at work and would like to share your story anonymously, email info@dignitytogether.org. If you feel like you need more help, I have a free guide to recovery steps at http://www.dignitytogether.org/targets and a signup for daily boosts through your inbox at...2021-07-0546 min

Screw the Hierarchy38 targets of workplace abuse share their stories and insights with legislators to demand changeSpeaking out against workplace abuse can involve risk: risk of losing one's job, of losing future opportunities, and of losing relationships with those who benefit from the status quo. It can also involve finding your voice again, inspiring others to do the same, and taking your power back by sharing YOUR side of the story and your insights as to why workplace abuse is an epidemic.On June 22, 38 advocates signed up to verbally testify in front of the Massachusetts Joint Committee on Labor and Workforce Development. In this episode, I share highlights of their stories t...2021-06-2859 min

Screw the HierarchyWhy training isn't the ultimate solution to mistreatment and diversity problemsDiscovering bullying at work can follow a familiar pattern: 1. Employer mistreats employee or allows for a co-worker to mistreat another co-worker. 2. Employee sees the discriminatory impact of the mistreatment. 3. Employer and employee agree that training on these issues is the solution. The fact is though that studies show employers don't actually try to solve the problem when employees report mistreatment — illegal or not. Damage only increases when employers convince their employees through training of values they don't actually uphold in practice. In this episode, I talk about what one reporter says (and is a common belief) about the solution for mi...2021-06-2112 min

Screw the HierarchyHow far behind the U.S. is when it comes to legislating workplace abuseThe U.S. is one of the last industrialized nations to address workplace bullying legally. But we're hoping to change that. On June 22, 2021, the Massachusetts Joint Committee on Labor and Workforce Development will hear testimony on the Dignity at Work Act (DAWA). Here are three ways that you can take action TODAY: 1. Sign the petition: bit.ly/passDAWA 2. Get action alerts: bit.ly/DAWAalerts 3. Testify on behalf of DAWA in Massachusetts on Tuesday, June 22, 10:30am ET. Sign-up to testify at bit.ly/DAWAtestifyMA (sign-up deadline: Wednesday, June 16 at 1:00pm ET). Get ready by joining our testimony training on Tuesday, June 15...2021-06-1417 min

Screw the HierarchyMy 3 big takeaways about how to approach work and life from a high school graduationWhat can we learn from a high school graduation decades later? Well, it turns out a whole lot about approaching life from our unique viewpoint. In this episode, I talk about my three inspiring takeaways from a recent high school graduation and how they ring true decades later. If you've been abused at work and would like to share your story anonymously, email info@dignitytogether.org. If you feel like you need more help, I have a free guide to recovery steps at dignitytogether.org/targets and a signup for daily boosts through your inbox at the same place. Facebook...2021-06-0707 min

Screw the HierarchyHow to cope with — and feel valued in — an oppressive cultureIf you're wondering how to cope with a culture in which you you don't feel valued — and I'm talking not just about your toxic work culture but also the overall culture in which some carry more social weight than others based solely on demographics — then join us for the second Re-Define Virtual Summit. This summit is all about coping in an oppressive culture when others can get away with diminishing our voices and abilities. It's all happening Saturday, June 26. Grab your free ticket at http://www.redefineourselves.com. If you've been abused at work and would like to share your stor...2021-05-3117 min

Screw the HierarchyThe top 3 reasons to virtually testify in support of workplace anti-abuse legislationOur voices matter. And we can use them to help pass historic legislation to protect worker dignity. On Tuesday, June 22, you can virtually testify in support of the Dignity At Work Act in Massachusetts — no matter what state you live in. In this episode, I talk about my top 3 reasons to testify. For more information, sign up for action alerts at DignityAtWorkAct.org. We will send you more information on signing up to testify around Tuesday, June 8. If you've been abused at work and would like to share your story anonymously, email info@dignitytogether.org. If you feel like you ne...2021-05-2425 min

Screw the HierarchyOpinion: I worry about the ability to inspire with demands for in-person workControl doesn't breed trust or inspire. In fact. it reinforces a hierarchy and creates a culture of fear. Insisting on in-person work when it's not required for the job is one means of control. In this episode, I talk about a Washington Post opinion piece from a CEO who threatens her employees' status for not coming into the office. Luckily, her employees spoke up. If you've been abused at work and would like to share your story anonymously, email info@dignitytogether.org. If you feel like you need more help, I have a free guide to recovery steps at dignitytogether...2021-05-1711 min

Screw the HierarchyHazing: one major sign of a toxic workplace or industryWhen those who operate on ego look to build their base of followers, they often resort to looking for obedience. It's all about power and control for them. In this episode, I talk about grooming and hazing — tactics designed to test obedience — based on a target's story in the entertainment industry. If you've been abused at work related to your race, gender, disability, age, or other demographic and would like to share your story anonymously, email info@dignitytogether.org. If you feel like you need more help, I have a free guide to recovery steps at dignitytogether.org/targets and a si...2021-05-1013 min

Screw the Hierarchy4 red flags of bullying at work to look out forWhen we miss the red flags that a boss or co-worker is high conflict, we may find ourselves in a downward spiral of loss: health, finances, relationships, confidence, self-worth, and more. But it's never too late to see a toxic work situation with more clarity and take action to change course. We reveal the four red flags of bullying at work — and tools we can use to address the bullying. Join me with Susan Forster, an expert in workplace communication, leadership, and cultural change. She's sought after by organizations to create healthy, thriving, resilient workplaces. She focuses on Internal Family Sy...2021-04-301h 08

Screw the HierarchyWill Hollywood producer Scott Rudin finally be held accountable for his abusive behavior?Hollywood producer Scott Rudin — known for The Social Network and No Country for Old Men — is under fire for workplace abuse — both the illegal and legal kind. Throwing things, making racist remarks, overworking people, silencing workers, smearing workers when they leave — those are just some of the abusive behaviors he's gotten away with over the years. He stepped down, but will he finally be held accountable? If you've been abused at work related to your race, gender, disability, age, or other demographic and would like to share your story anonymously, email info@dignitytogether.org. If you feel like you need more hel...2021-04-2616 min

Screw the HierarchyGet support with healing from workplace abuse at the Re-Define Virtual SummitRe-define your life at the Re-Define Virtual Summit on Saturday, April 17 and Sunday, April 18 from 10am-4pmET. Workplace abuse left you feeling angry, bitter, betrayed, and depressed. Find support and understanding in this two-day event so you can recover and live the life you deserve. The result: a life of purpose defined by you — and no one else. In this episode, I talk about day 3: healing from abuse at work and talk about the six sessions from our expert speakers. Learn more at http://www.redefineourselves.com. If you've been abused at work related to your race, gender, disability, age, or...2021-04-1216 min

Screw the HierarchyLearn how to navigate workplace abuse at day 1 of the Re-Define Virtual SummitRe-define your life at the Re-Define Virtual Summit on Saturday, April 17 and Sunday, April 18 from 10am-4pmET. Workplace abuse left you feeling angry, bitter, betrayed, and depressed. Find support and understanding in this two-day event so you can recover and live the life you deserve. The result: a life of purpose defined by you — and no one else. In this episode, I talk about day 1: navigating abuse at work and talk about the five sessions from our expert speakers. Learn more at http://www.redefineourselves.com. If you've been abused at work related to your race, gender, disability, age, or ot...2021-04-0516 min

Screw the HierarchyHow 13 junior financial analysts exposed abuse at Goldman Sachs — and the debate that followedA group of first-year analysts at Goldman Sachs pulled back the curtain to show what's REALLY going on at the investment banking firm. And the way they did it went viral on social and garnered the attention of The New York Times. In this episode, I talk about the two sides of the debate on whether or not it's workplace abuse (we don't need to guess which side I'm on). I also touch on the common overlap of incompetence and abuse. Read the analysts' presentation: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1jyeu-wvS3Z10xQ0BlMIDOkh_INoP_Nnb/view If you've...2021-03-2915 min

Screw the HierarchyWe can give unions more power to fight for us through the PRO Act. But will we?Targets of workplace abuse report that their unions don't generally do to bat for them when it comes to going up against the abuse of power. But collective action is a key tool for targeted employees, and unions provide for that collective action. The PRO Act would give unions more power to help the employees they're designed to serve. In this episode, I talk about what the PRO Act will do if the Senate passes it and President Biden signs it. If you've been abused at work related to your race, gender, disability, age, or other demographic and would like...2021-03-2206 min

Screw the HierarchyShould we expect a rise in workplace bullying as more workers get the COVID vaccine?The COVID-19 vaccine will present challenges for employers: can they require employees to get vaccinated? If not, what happens when employees isolate an employee who isn't vaccinated? In this episode, I talk about what challenges some employees may face when remote employees head back into offices — and what employers should do about those challenges. If you've been abused at work related to your race, gender, disability, age, or other demographic and would like to share your story anonymously, email info@dignitytogether.org. If you feel like you need more help, I have a free guide to recovery steps at dignitytogether.or...2021-03-1505 min

Screw the HierarchyHow to introduce workplace anti-abuse legislation — the Dignity At Work Act — in your stateGetting legislation passed can be a long haul. But the process doesn't have to be overwhelming, The National Workplace Bullying Coalition is forming state teams across the country to introduce the anti-abuse Dignity At Work Act. In this episode, I walk you through the process to introduce legislation. We have a fantastic team of state team directors who can help with the rest of the process monthly. If you've been abused at work related to your race, gender, disability, age, or other demographic and would like to share your story anonymously, email info@dignitytogether.org. If you feel like you...2021-03-0812 min

Screw the HierarchyThe truth behind healthcare violence — and how we can stop itRN Sheila Wilson started Stop Healthcare Violence (https://stophealthcareviolence.org/) to provide safer workplaces for nurses and other healthcare workers. In this episode, I talk with Sheila about this problem that affects far too many healthcare workers — and what we can do about it. If you've been abused at work related to your race, gender, disability, age, or other demographic and would like to share your story anonymously, email info@dignitytogether.org. If you feel like you need more help, I have a free guide to recovery steps at dignitytogether.org/targets and a signup for daily boosts through your in...2021-02-2237 min

Screw the Hierarchy15 workers' rights worth fighting for across the countryAbuse at work can come in many forms: Discrimination against independent contractors, volunteers, interns, fellows, and trainees Retaliation against workers who share wage information Employers interfering in union elections Constructive discharge (pushing workers out) Tying your healthcare to your job Paying you a non-livable wage Requiring you to stay silent when an employer pays you for their wrongdoings through a settlement Not treating you like a human by granting you bereavement leave Requiring you to waive your rights to accept the job Paying you below the minimum wage just because you make tips Giving you fewer than 14 days notice to...2021-02-1524 min

Screw the Hierarchy5 ways the film The Assistant shows how abuse at work stays hiddenIf you've been bullied at work, you know how subtle and hidden toxic behaviors can be. The 2019 film The Assistant (now on Hulu) accurately shows signs of a toxic work culture, including what it feels like to experience one. In this episode, I talk about five ways this film shows how abuse at work stays hidden. If you've been abused at work related to your race, gender, disability, age, or other demographic and would like to share your story anonymously, email info@dignitytogether.org. If you feel like you need more help, I have a free guide to recovery steps...2021-02-0810 min

Screw the HierarchyThe 1970s Boston women's movement that inspired the hit film 9 to 5If you worked in Boston in the 1970s, you may have known that a group of women clerical workers mobilized for better pay, advancement opportunities, and an end to sexual harassment. After organizing, they eventually formed the organization 9to5, which still exists today in several U.S. cities and inspired the hit film 9 to 5 starring Dolly Parton, Jane Fonda, and Lily Tomlin. In this episode, I talk about what's still happening today and the lessons we can take from those inspiring women clerical workers of Boston, including the importance of forming unions. Read more about the new film: https://www...2021-02-0112 min

Screw the HierarchyMy top 3 signs of a toxic work cultureResearch shows the difference between healthy and toxic work cultures. In this episode, I share my top three signs based on my own experience in multiple jobs — and what we can do to navigate or heal from these toxic workplaces. If you've been abused at work related to your race, gender, disability, age, or other demographic and would like to share your story anonymously, email info@dignitytogether.org. If you feel like you need more help, I have a free guide to recovery steps at dignitytogether.org/targets and a signup for daily boosts through your inbox at the same pl...2021-01-2509 min

Screw the Hierarchy3 textbook workplace abuse aspects of the Anita Hill storyIn 1991, Anita Hill became a household name when she shared her story of sexual harassment by Supreme Court Justice nominee Clarence Thomas. Sexual harassment is a form of abuse of power and control at work, making it a common tactic for workplace abuse. In this episode, I talk about three aspects of Anita's story that follow the workplace bullying playbook as shown in the documentary ANITA on Apple TV Movies. If you've been abused at work related to your race, gender, disability, age, or other demographic and would like to share your story anonymously, email info@dignitytogether.org. If you...2021-01-1809 min

Screw the HierarchyThree common limiting beliefs after workplace bullyingOften defined by our bullies, limiting beliefs can make us feel stuck after workplace abuse. In this episode, I talk about three common limiting beliefs after the trauma of workplace bullying — and what you can do about them. If you've been abused at work related to your race, gender, disability, age, or other demographic and would like to share your story anonymously, email info@dignitytogether.org. If you feel like you need more help, I have a free guide to recovery steps at dignitytogether.org/targets and a signup for daily boosts through your inbox at the same place. Facebook: @Hi...2021-01-1109 min

Screw the HierarchyHow workplace abuse can trigger childhood traumaAbuse at work can trigger feelings of shame from authoritarian or passive parenting. Once we process the pain from childhood that we deserved to feel seen and heard, we can detach from shame pushed onto us and reinforce our own moral codes. In this episode. I talk about these parallels and more resources to help you heal from workplace abuse. If you've been abused at work related to your race, gender, disability, age, or other demographic and would like to share your story anonymously, email info@dignitytogether.org. If you feel like you need more help, I have a free...2020-12-2107 min

Screw the HierarchyThe why and how of the Dignity At Work ActThe Dignity At Work Act is THE strongest piece of legislation I've seen to hold employers accountable for abusing workers. And to change the status quo, we need a bill with teeth. In this episode, bill author and professor Jerry Carbo and I explain the need for the bill and how it fills gaps in the law — especially for those who suffer from discrimination but can't prove it. Learn more at DignityAtWorkAct.org. If you've been abused at work related to your race, gender, disability, age, or other demographic and would like to share your story anonymously, email info@dignitytogether.or...2020-11-3047 min

Screw the HierarchyHow three recent stories of workplace bullying follow the playbookThis week alone, I read or saw three stories in the media detailing workplace bullying (one in the form of discrimination and the other in the form of alleged sexual assault and worse). While the third story didn't use the term "workplace abuse" or "workplace bullying," I was glad to see the media give attention to this hidden epidemic. In this episode, I describe the stories as reported, talk about which aspects are textbook abuse, and share how you can get involved in holding employers accountable. If you've been abused at work related to your race, gender, disability, age, or...2020-11-2318 min

Screw the HierarchyHow to know if you're bullied at work — and what to expect in the aftermathHow do you know if you've been through workplace bullying? What does it look like? And what's normal in the healing process that surprises targets of workplace abuse? In this episode, I walk you through both interpersonal and organizational bullying tactics designed to break you down — plus two unexpected steps of the healing process and what you can do to take your power back. If you've been abused at work related to your race, gender, disability, age, or other demographic and would like to share your story anonymously, email info@dignitytogether.org. If you feel like you need more help, I...2020-11-1627 min

Screw the Hierarchy3 major abuse tactics we've seen around this week's electionWe know politics on both sides of the aisle is full of toxic behavior. But during this week's events around the election, we saw blatant abuse tactics. In this episode, I talk about some of the more obvious tactics and how they compare to workplace bullying. They're tactics so obvious that they show the bully playbook in a simple form — and that we're not the problem. If you've been abused at work related to your race, gender, disability, age, or other demographic and would like to share your story anonymously, email info@dignitytogether.org. If you feel like you need mo...2020-11-0919 min

Screw the HierarchyThe top ten things that suck the most about workplace abuse recoveryWorkplace abuse recovery can feel like a hopeless roller coaster of grief, mistrust, and despair that often eventually lead to hope and purpose. In this episode, I spoke with blogger Janice White of The Empowered Employee (https://theempoweredemployee.com/) about the top ten things that sucked the most about workplace abuse recovery, based on her blog post of the same name: https://theempoweredemployee.com/2020/04/11/3903/ If you've been abused at work related to your race, gender, disability, age, or other demographic and would like to share your story anonymously, email info@dignitytogether.org. If you feel like you need more help...2020-11-0233 min

Screw the HierarchyThere's one group most like to get bullied at workIn the U.S., we're in a culture where white, straight men still dominate the vast majority of power positions in the U.S. workforce. In other words, white, straight men are most likely to have power to abuse in the first place, leave everyone else more likely to suffer on this receiving end. In this episode, I talk about the group MOST likely get bullied at work — and why. If you've been abused at work related to your race, gender, disability, age, or other demographic and would like to share your story anonymously, email info@dignitytogether.org. If you fe...2020-10-2608 min

Screw the HierarchyHow to craft your workplace bullying storySharing your workplace bullying doesn't just help other targets understand they're not alone when it's published. It helps you heal, even if you burn it afterwards. In this episode, I talk about why writing out your story helps you and other targets and how to construct your story for bloggers or reporters in 1-2 pages, including: Where’d you work? What did you do? How did the bullying begin? What tactics were used? How’d it escalate? How did you feel? How did your employer react (or not react)? What was the impact on you? What was the impact on the...2020-10-1913 min

Screw the HierarchyHow to move out of victim, rescuer, or bully modeThe Karpman Drama Triangle is a tool for healthy communication. It can take you from persecutor/bully to challenger, victim to survivor/thriver, and rescuer/savior to coach. In this episode, I take you through the points of the triangle what you can do to move into healthy communication in each one. If you've been abused at work related to your race, gender, disability, age, or other demographic and would like to share your story anonymously, email info@dignitytogether.org. If you feel like you need more help, I have a free guide to recovery steps at dignitytogether.org/targets...2020-10-1208 min

Screw the HierarchyWhat you can do for National Bullying Prevention MonthOctober is National Bullying Prevention Month! Find out what campaigns organizations are running across the country and what the National Workplace Bullying Coalition is doing for workers: http://www.workplacebullyingcoalition.org If you've been abused at work related to your race, gender, disability, age, or other demographic and would like to share your story anonymously, email info@dignitytogether.org. If you feel like you need more help, I have a free guide to recovery steps at dignitytogether.org/targets and a signup for daily boosts through your inbox at the same place. Facebook: @HierarchyPodcast Twitter: @ScrewHierarchy 2020-10-0508 min

Screw the Hierarchy3 major ways to advocate for social change when it comes to workplace bullyingIf the Dignity At Work Act is the solution to moving the needle on creating safer workplaces, how do we pass it? In this episode, I reveal three major ways you can take a stand to pass workplace bullying legislation — and take it at any level of commitment either publicly or behind-the-scenes. If you've been abused at work related to your race, gender, disability, age, or other demographic and would like to share your story anonymously, email info@dignitytogether.org. If you feel like you need more help, I have a free guide to recovery steps at dignitytogether.org/targets an...2020-09-2809 min

Screw the HierarchyWhat justice looks like for targets of workplace bullyingWhat's your idea of justice after you've been bullied at work? In this episode, I'll break down what justice looks like in discrimination cases — and what justice can look like for targets of workplace bullying in a rigged game. If you've been abused at work related to your race, gender, disability, age, or other demographic and would like to share your story anonymously, email info@dignitytogether.org. If you feel like you need more help, I have a free guide to recovery steps at dignitytogether.org/targets and a signup for daily boosts through your inbox at the same place. Fa...2020-09-2113 min

Screw the HierarchyHow to have a healthy mindsetLife is all about relationships, and int his episode, Leadership Coach Lynelle Trigalet talks about how to put yourself in a healthy mindset. Lynelle works with individuals and organizations and can be reached at lynelle@lynelletrigalet.com. If you've been abused at work related to your race, gender, disability, age, or other demographic and would like to share your story anonymously, email info@dignitytogether.org. If you feel like you need more help, I have a free guide to recovery steps at dignitytogether.org/targets and a signup for daily boosts through your inbox at the same place. Facebook: @HierarchyPodcast ...2020-09-1428 min

Screw the HierarchyWhen blame can help you heal from workplace bullyingWhen is blame toxic and when is it useful in helping you heal from a toxic environment at work? In this episode, I talk about Dr. Karin Huffer's 8 steps for avoiding the traumatic stress caused by the justice system and how those steps translate to traumatic stress caused by a workplace. If you've been abused at work related to your race, gender, disability, age, or other demographic and would like to share your story anonymously, email info@dignitytogether.org. If you feel like you need more help, I have a free guide to recovery steps at dignitytogether.org/targets and...2020-09-0722 min

Screw the Hierarchy8 major signs a toxic boss is subtly trying to destroy your lifeSometimes the nuances of workplace bullying are hard to see. If it's not yelling, lying, or some other obvious form of abuse, the subtleties can leave you feeling confused. In this episode, I'll crack the code with 8 major signs your toxic boss is trying to wreak havoc on your life. If you've been abused at work related to your race, gender, disability, age, or other demographic and would like to share your story anonymously, email info@dignitytogether.org. If you feel like you need more help, I have a free guide to recovery steps at dignitytogether.org/targets and a...2020-08-3107 min

Screw the Hierarchy8 ways we can disrupt the social hierarchies at workEmployers say they uphold values, but when push comes to shove, they often do what it takes to avoid liability. We're talking abuse of power, and it undermines rights, gives the law not much teeth, and reinforces the very hierarchy that led to the claim in the first place. In this episode, I'll walk you through eight ways the authors of Rights on Trial say we can fix the "re-inscription of ascribed hierarchies." If you've been abused at work related to your race, gender, disability, age, or other demographic and would like to share your story anonymously, email info@dignitytogether...2020-08-2420 min

Screw the HierarchyHow three Black employees fared after reporting discrimination at workMarty, Thomas, and Malika are three Black workers who felt they were on the receiving end of racist and other discriminatory behavior at work. In this episode, they reveal the details of their versions of the mistreatment — and what's happened (or hasn't happened) in the aftermath. If you've been abused at work related to your race, gender, disability, age, or other demographic and would like to share your story anonymously, email info@dignitytogether.org. If you feel like you need more help, I have a free guide to recovery steps at dignitytogether.org/targets and a signup for daily boosts th...2020-08-171h 00

Screw the HierarchyAfter her boss put her life in danger with zero accountability, why has this Black female police officer been fighting for a decade? Part 2Abuse of power didn't end for Boston police officer Brenda James on June 8, 2012 when her supervisor wrangled a loaded firearm from her retention holster, putting her life on the line according to Brenda. Members of the police department allegedly sabotaged Brenda through a series of errors and omissions over the course of eight years and counting. The worst part: not a single authority stepped in to hold those white officers accountable. Not one. Learn more: https://www.dignitytogether.org/blog/police-officer-endured-series-of-abuses-for-eight-years-after-management-error If you've been abused at work related to your race, gender, disability, age, or other demographic and would like...2020-08-1040 min

Screw the HierarchyAfter her boss put her life in danger with zero accountability, why has this Black female police officer been fighting for a decade? Part 1Boston police officer Brenda James began her career in the male-dominated, dangerous field in 1994. Her district was changing, becoming more inclusive and diverse. The police department adopted a different model of policing — “community policing” — developing partnerships and relationships with community members. Officer James was assigned to help carry out that mission. She was recognized for the work she did as a community service officer and then became a juvenile officer, a liaison between the police department and community – school officials, clergy, business-owners, social service agencies, and programs. She was involved in roundtable discussions, interventions, mediation, individual educational plans for students at risk, c...2020-08-0348 min

Screw the HierarchyThe stereotypes that keep most of us out of power at workThere's one MAJOR factor that keeps mostly white men in power and the rest of us out of it: stereotypes. And they're not just reinforced at work. They're reinforced in the courts, rendering discrimination law not powerful enough to disrupt social hierarchies at work. That power results in a distinct hierarchy along demographics and income — aka how we as a culture value work as it relates to racial and gender stereotypes and how much comfort groups can experience with their incomes. Authors of the book Rights on Trial report this hierarchy of median incomes by demographic in 2014: Asian American men, $59,766 Whi...2020-07-2718 min

Screw the HierarchyWhat it means to take radical responsibility for our lives after abuse at workIf we look at the word "responsibility," we see it literally means ability to respond. That ability to respond to situations that serve or don't serve us is where our power lies. And if we take 100% radical responsibility for that power, we more clearly see our choices where we once had tunnel vision, focused on the injustice and the grief. In this episode, I talk about what it means to take radical responsibility for our lives. If you've been abused at work related to COVID-19 and would like to share your story anonymously, email info@dignitytogether.org. If you feel...2020-07-2010 min

Screw the HierarchyWhat justice looks like for those whose abuse falls under illegal discriminationWhat does justice mean, even for those whose abuse falls under illegal discrimination? The authors of Rights on Trial took a deep dive into the wide variety of outcomes for plaintiffs and defendants in discrimination cases — and how the legal system is rigged to keep hierarchies at work intact. If you've been abused at work related to COVID-19 and would like to share your story anonymously, email info@dignitytogether.org. If you feel like you need more help, I have a free guide to recovery steps at dignitytogether.org/targets and a signup for daily boosts through your inbox at th...2020-07-1307 min

Screw the HierarchyHow to take control of your career — and your lifeIf we took passive approaches to our careers and lives, we'd look at job postings and see what we fit into. But if we took assertive approaches, we'd ask ourselves what we want to accomplish in life, where we want to be, what we want work to look like for us, and what first step we can take to get there. In her book Reinvention Roadmap, author Liz Ryan calls this step "getting altitude" — and it's a key step in taking back your life. If you've been abused at work related to COVID-19 and would like to share your story an...2020-07-0608 min

Screw the HierarchyHow to prevent nastiness from affecting youHow do we re-train our brains to process an attack? What root belief systems and thoughts can we shift to deflect mean comments? Emotional Intelligence Specialist and Founder of Positive EQ Kirsti Gwynn reveals the inner work we can do to not internalize others' projections. http://www.positiveeq.com Kirsti leads the Unlocking Inner Strength: 3 Practices to Build Emotional Resilience mini-course in the six-month Healing Speaker Series: https://redefineourselves.com/healing-speaker-series/ Kirsti is dedicated to helping caring people to overcome anxious thinking so they can feel calm and content. She holds a masters in applied positive psychology and coaching psychology...2020-06-2913 min

Screw the HierarchyDiscrimination happens — just not hereToxic employers pile manipulation onto manipulation. If they allow abuse to happen, they say they're against it but then vilify the target as soon as they know the details of the complaint. And they know courts will eat up this common and awful tactic. It's a disgusting way of getting rid of liability. If you've been abused at work related to COVID-19 and would like to share your story anonymously, email info@dignitytogether.org. If you feel like you need more help, I have a free guide to recovery steps at dignitytogether.org/targets and a signup for daily boosts...2020-06-2309 min

Screw the HierarchyHow Daniel Stone fought abuse of power at Dollar General amid COVID-19When Dollar General marketing planning analyst Daniel Stone questioned the needs of frontline workers amid COVID-19, he found a target on his back. His speaking up ultimately led to his firing, but Daniel continues to mobilize workers to fight for their basic fundamental rights to dignity. In this episode, Daniel shares his story and his views on the cultural shift that's happening across the nation. If you've been abused at work related to COVID-19 and would like to share your story anonymously, email info@dignitytogether.org. If you feel like you need more help, I have a free guide to...2020-06-1519 min

Screw the HierarchyHow those in power use "othering" to retain power in our hierarchical systemWhen one demographic occupies the majority of power positions in the U.S. workforce, abuse of power through "othering people" becomes a tactic for retaining that power. In this episode, I talked about the culture of abuse of power with Dr. Tonisha Pinckney. Dr. Toni shares her experiences at work as a Black woman and her views on how race, gender, and other ways of "othering" play out in a hierarchical system. If you've been abused at work related to COVID-19 and would like to share your story anonymously, email info@dignitytogether.org. If you feel like you need more...2020-06-0832 min

Screw the HierarchyHow to voice what's right to turn anger into action — while taking your power back and healingOne way of healing from workplace abuse is advocating for what we value. Advocacy around the Dignity At Work Act (http://www.DignityAtWorkAct.org), workers' rights in general, and any issue that fires you up around abuse of power helps us heal from it. Legislation isn't about eradicating an issue (though that would be nice). I mean, murder still happens. It's about moving the needle on our work cultures. Ask a woman who worked before 1980, when the Supreme Court finally recognized sexual harassment as a form of sex discrimination, what workplaces were like. She'll likely describe an environment where groping...2020-06-0127 min

Screw the HierarchyWhat self-care is truly all about (probably not what you think)Self-care isn't just about bubble baths and massages. So what exactly is it, and why is it so important? Expert Ellen Rondina guides us through what it REALLY is and why we need it. Take her self-care assessment to see where you stand with self-care: http://www.ellenrondina.com/ Find out more with her free e-book: https://www.amazon.com/SELF-CARE-REVOLUTION-Sustainable-Resilience-Professionals-ebook/dp/B07D3LFHRG/ref=sr_1_3?crid=MJ7LJT1RBIKW&dchild=1&keywords=the+self+care+revolution&qid=1589470426&sprefix=self-care+revol%2Caps%2C164&sr=8-3 If you've been abused at work related to COVID-19 and would like to share your...2020-05-2516 min

Screw the HierarchyThe thinking behind the Dignity At Work Act, aimed to give workers protections from abuse at workDignity At Work Act author, president of the National Workplace Bullying Coalition, and university professor Jerry Carbo has spent years researching workplace abuse and what laws abroad help protect worker dignity. On this episode, Jerry shares insights into what his vast experience taught him and how he's bringing that knowledge to fight for psychological safety for workers. Advocates in more than 15 U.S. states hope to introduce this bill in 2021. If you'd like to introduce the bill in your state, email info@dignityatworkact.org to be part of the growing movement. You'll will receive support every step of the way. ...2020-05-1829 min

Screw the HierarchyWe're all in this together? Doesn't look like Amazon isAmazon higher-ups fired Staten Island warehouse supervisor Chris Smalls after he spoke up about lack of protections for workers amid COVID-19. According to Smalls, higher-ups required all workers to report to work without PPE or take unpaid sick leave — leaving them to choose between a paycheck and their health. Infected workers risked infecting others, and healthy workers risked getting infected and spreading the virus. Amazon's decisions beg the question: WHO exactly is standing together to flatten the curve? In this episode, Chris shares his version of the story, despite Amazon higher-ups trying to make him look badly since the firing. Re...2020-05-1128 min

Screw the HierarchyHow COVID-19 exposes workplace abuseTermination for wearing personal protective equipment in hallways. Lip service about protections in grocery stores. Lack of paid family leave, sick leave, or hazard pay. These tactics are just some of the ways employers ignore the well-being of their front-line workers amid the global pandemic. The sad part is that these views were always there. They're not simply exposed on a grand scale that's creating a class war. If you've been abused at work related to COVID-19 and would like to share your story anonymously, email info@dignitytogether.org. If you feel like you need more help, I have a...2020-05-0422 min