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Midnight MamaLearning to let some light into the "Sacred Window" of Postpartum with Christine Eck.Women can experience 3 sacred windows in their lives: menarche, postpartum, and menopause, and today we open the window to postpartum through a different lens, the Ayurvedic and Universal Mother principles of care. In this episode, I explore these principles and approaches with Christine Eck, the founder of Sacred Window Studies. We explore the importance of understanding our bodies, what it means to "nourish" them, specifically in the postpartum period, and how her organization is prioritizing moms' recovery through the Conscious Care Giver Training program. Our conversation was uplifting and inspiring, reminding me how special and valuable this transformative experience of...
2025-09-1859 minMidnight MamaFrom Grief to Advocacy: One Family's Experience With Perinatal Suicide. With Andrea's Wish Founder, Kyra VocciTrigger Warning: This episode follows Andrea Kolbe's journey through pregnancy, postpartum, and the devastating loss of her life to perinatal suicide. In this episode, I sit down with Andrea's sister, Kyra Vocci, who was willing to share Andrea's story with The Whole Mom, in an effort to raise awareness and talk as openly as possible about the risks of perinatal suicide in our country. Since the loss of her sister, Kyra has made it her mission to raise awareness and advocacy about perinatal mental health, inspiring everyone in her path. She joined Postpartum Support International's MD Chapter, where I have...
2025-09-101h 00Midnight MamaTheir postpartum performance shouldn't be your blueprint. How to avoid the social media comparison and create your on mapSocial media can be a useful tool for many things. It can also be detrimental for postpartum moms who are navigating unfamiliar and vulnerable spaces. I get down to business in this episode, validating the desire for connectivity and motivation while also reminding you that social media is performative, much like the movies. This powerful episode explores the dichotomy of "enjoying the newborn phase" and rushing our development and evolution as moms, and how that shapes our emotional constructs. You are NOT going to want to miss this episode, no matter what stage of postpartum you are in.
2025-08-0829 minMidnight MamaHelping Moms "Latch On" to feeding supports and education with Latchline Founder, Abigail Miles.Breastfeeding is a lot of things, and underdiscussed and underprepared for are some of them. Moms leave the hospital with their baby, diapers, and handouts, but retain little information about feeding their babies. Instead of encouraging moms to "put the baby to the breast", let's normalize getting education around nursing and baby feeding practices. Tune into this week's episode where I chat with Abigail Miles, RN, IBCLC, Founder of Latchline, and talk about the impact of nursing/pumping on maternal mental health, and how Latchline is helping moms within the comfort of their homes.
With over a decade of...
2025-07-1544 minMidnight MamaMilk Matching in the Modern Age: Inside Share the Drop’s Mission with CEO/Founder Kelly CoxWhen I talk to you about prepping for postpartum, it goes deeper than your physical and mental health. It should include all aspects of your baby's life, especially a feeding plan. You know my motto is that it's better to have a plan and never use it than to need one and not have it, and that goes for feeding too. In this weeks episode I sit down with Share The Drop Founder, Kelly Cox, and learn about her mission to match moms with milk and resources all across the country. You can imagine that we had a lot in c...
2025-07-0836 minMidnight MamaPlaying Fair isn't just for the kids anymore. Exploring the connection between the mental load and maternal mental health with Lucinda Gibbons.Have you ever felt like you carry all of the responsibilities of parenting and your household? Have you ever wondered how this happened and if this is just how it's "supposed to be?" Then you are in the right place. I had the pleasure of speaking with Lucinda Gibbons, founder of Lake House Collective, who specializes in men's mental health, as well as perinatal mental health for all family members. We explored why this is the current situation for American moms and how to break through this. We explore the Fair Play Method and what moms are responsible for vs w...
2025-07-011h 09Midnight MamaIntroducing the Stages of Postpartum: Understanding where you are, to get where you want to beWe measure our growth and progress in the postpartum period by months rather than spaces. In this episode, I share a new concept I developed called the Postpartum Stages, and explore what each stage looks like, what to expect from yourself, and how long these should last (reference guides). I use this with my 1:1 clients to help give them a framework to navigate rather than an arbitrary deadline of 6 months, 9 months, or 12 months pp. The stages help you accurately measure your progress based on outcomes, not deadlines. I will walk you through the 4 stages that cover two years postpartum and...
2025-06-2440 minMidnight MamaThe Mother Wound Decoded: Generational Patterns in Parenthood with Dr. Moya O'LearyI had the distinct honor to sit down with Dr. Moya O'Leary, a psychologist and LPC, to open a large can of worms related to the "Mother wound" and generational influences. We had a candid conversation about our pasts, and Dr O'Leary simplified the ideation of the mother wound, how our bodies keep score, and how we can still choose to mother the way we intend.
Dr. Moya O'Leary is a psychologist and licensed professional counselor, currently licensed in Connecticut, Florida, and Pennsylvania. She’s a proud mother of two, Wyatt and Olive, and a lovi...
2025-06-1747 minMidnight MamaGrief Education for Birth Workers: Why It’s Non-Negotiable. With Ashely InclimaI had the honor today to sit down with Tides of Life Doula and Perinatal Bereavement Services, CEO, Ashley Inclima, for an in-depth discussion about the importance of perinatal grief and loss education for birth workers.
Ashley Inclima is a birth and bereavement doula, certified grief educator, and founder of Tides of Life Doula & Perinatal Bereavement Services LLC. Her passion for this work began after the loss of her son Adrian, whose fatal diagnosis in 2011 led to a termination for medical reasons. She later experienced a 5-week pregnancy loss, which further highlighted how often families navigating loss are...
2025-06-1037 minMidnight MamaComing up for air after 6 months of survival modeIn this deeply personal episode, I share the story of a recent traumatic experience involving my son and how it forced me to stop, feel, and breathe again.
I talk about what it’s like to go underwater emotionally, the guilt and grief that followed, and the clarity that only challenges can bring. More importantly, I reflect on what this experience taught me about motherhood, mental health, and the importance of choosing yourself, even when everything around you feels heavy.
This is a conversation about honoring the hard moments, taking a breath, and deciding how to...
2025-06-0228 minMidnight MamaAt the intersection of Postpartum and Perimenopause with "Hot or Just Me?" Founder, Carin Luna-OstaseskiIf it's not one thing it's another, and I am referring to the hurdles and life event's of mothers and women. Today I had the privilege of sitting down with Hot or Just Me founder, Carin Luna-Ostaseski to talk about the intersection of postpartum and perimenopause, and how we don't have to simply accept this stage in life. We openly explore the most common symptoms of perimenopause, the frequency and duration of this timeframe, and what you can do to educate yourself on perimenopause and make yourself more comfortable. You will NOT want to miss this discussion or getting to...
2025-02-2052 minMidnight MamaCORRECTED:"Motherhood: An Ever-Evolving Journey"In this episode, we explore the multifaceted and continuously changing nature of motherhood. Far from being a static role, motherhood evolves with time, personal growth, and shifting dynamics within the family. From the early days of infancy, through the toddler years, adolescence, and into adulthood, the journey of being a mother is marked by constant adaptation, learning, and transformation. We discuss how motherhood isn't defined by a single set of rules, but rather, is shaped by an individual’s experiences, cultural influences, and personal values and that is why we don't have a rule book. Tune in as I sha...
2025-01-2128 minMidnight MamaRecognizing and Recovering from Burnout; Motherhood edition.What happens when you get burned out at your job? Most people can recognize this and then take action, such as taking a vacation or a sick day, which can help you step away and get recentered. What happens when moms get burned out and can't plan a holiday away from their family, or call in sick? The 2024 moms have more responsibilities than ever, contributing to overstimulation and burnout in more than one area of their lives. These experiences impact how we show up for ourselves, our children, and our careers, and get mislabeled resulting in a few layers of...
2024-12-2128 minMidnight MamaI wasn't emotionally present during postpartum. Now what?When we encounter difficult or challenging times (hello postpartum) our brains attempt to protect us, shielding us from any type of harm, emotionally or physically and it looks different for everyone. I share my experience with emotional removal from the postpartum period, what it looked like, why I think it happened, and how it presented for me years down the road. Whether you are a new mom, expecting mom, or seasoned, this has valid points an reassurance for YOU. Learning to stay present through the challenges can bring rewards later down the road and leave you open for less "wha...
2024-12-0927 minMidnight MamaWhy throwing out the Christmas Tree was a necessary choice for my postpartum recoveryYou might be wondering how these two intertwine and if you tune in I promise you will learn very quickly. I recognize that we put so much emphasis on the physical aspect of postpartum recovery without much mention of the mental health component. It takes work, insight, and choice to be able to overcome some significant challenges that occurred throughout the postpartum period. Sometimes you need a clean slate to build upon to recover successfully, and other times you need to do nothing so you can survive. Learning which season you are in can help determine the intervention, and som...
2024-11-2629 minMidnight MamaIt's beginning to look a lot like...Stress, Anxiety, and the Holiday Season. Prioritizing your mental health and protecting your peace during the Holiday SeasonI'm so excited to be back after some short time away and to be as transparent as possible, life has been kicking me around a bit, mentally. I decided to share with you what I have been doing to protect my peace and mental health during this time, and how I plan to carry that through to the holiday season. The world around us might be a bit chaotic and feel unsafe, but I want you to know that you are always welcome here, and I am available if you need assistance now, or at any point in the fu...
2024-11-0628 minMidnight MamaTo the Mom who lost her shit recentlyHave you ever had a moment with your kids or spouse where you could feeling yourself unwinding but you cannot stop? Yep, that was me this week, dealing with stress and sick kiddos, and eventually losing my shit on my daughter. I experienced all of the emotions and guilt that came along with not being able to hold it together. I share that experience with you in this episode, as well as how I bounced back from it, future expectations, and I give you permission to lose your shit once in a while so you can experience the wide arr...
2024-10-0420 minMidnight MamaThe postpartum spiral and losing controlOne of the hardest parts of motherhood is the loss of control in the postpartum period. Without the proper education and information about the realities of the postpartum period, moms are left to figure many things out on their own, often leading to a decline in their mental health. I share my journey around losing control and how attempting to protect my mental health put me at risk for late-onset postpartum depression. Tune in as I talk about this process and how I eventually intervened, implementing systems that would help me recover.
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2024-09-2424 minMidnight MamaGetting your "pink" back postpartum.You may have heard about flamingos losing their pink during pregnancy and the postpartum period. It's an interesting phenomenon that many moms can relate to, once you learn how to apply it to your current situation. Tune into this episode where I transparently share with you that I have finally gotten my pink back, four years postpartum, and what I learned about this process. Just a reminder to you, your story and journey are YOURS. Let no one invalidate "how long" it takes for your pink to come back, or suggest it "should" be back by now. You take your...
2024-09-0633 minMidnight MamaBorn into Silence. One mother's story of perinatal grief, loss, strength and resilience.Perinatal grief and loss continues to be a topic I am highlighting on my platform, and in this episode I interview Sadija A. Smiley as she courageously walks us through her journey of becoming a young mother and experiencing a stillbirth. Her openness and vulnerability allows for a light to be shone in one of the darkest areas of maternal health, giving hope and encouragement to so many more. Grab your tissues before tuning into this episode and please feel free to share this with someone you think could use some support.
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2024-08-1659 minMidnight MamaPerinatal Loss and Grief. The most difficult decision of one mother's life.This week I began recording for a new series focusing on perinatal grief and loss. This topic can be triggering for some people, so I caution you to check in with yourself before listening:
This week, Kate joined me to share her story about becoming pregnant and then receiving some information about her pregnancy that would ultimately have her make one of the most difficult decisions of her life. Kate opens her heart to us and shares her incredible story about TFMR, the stigma and shame that can be associated with this, and how she has found he...
2024-08-0947 minMidnight MamaHow to get everything you need without asking for it.Effective communication is the most essential tool moms can carry in their toolbox (or purse). Someone once told me that I steer my words like a Ferrari, and I took that compliment and ran with it. I have learned how to get my needs met without asking, and in this episode I share the "How to" with you. For those of you who are worrying, or have worried about losing the "masculine energy" you've so proudly created in your life; the energy that has catapulted you into high paying and highly respectable positions, well, let's say it's still there. Once...
2024-07-1128 minMidnight MamaOutgrowing your environment in motherhood, and finding a safe spaceWe put so much focus on supporting our children and their growth that we forget we are growing alongside of them, and this might mean "outgrowing" environments. As you grow and evolve as a mother it is natural for you to feel uncomfortable in places you once enjoyed or found comfort in. Your circle will change, and sometimes it becomes clear that you need a better, or stronger community to support this new version of you. Like most jobs, there comes a point where a change is necessary, and sometimes motherhood can put that into perspective for us. My ques...
2024-06-2518 minMidnight MamaExploring the Mother Wound and ways to potentially heal from it. A deep dive into this concept with Marene Burke; my mother.As I close out the series of Birthing Her I thought it was important for me to highlight the most influential woman in my life, who also happened to have given birth to me. I sat down with my mother to talk a bit about what her life was like, becoming a mother 40 years ago to see what has changed in the world of maternal mental health. We got vulnerable talking about the mother wound, the one wound we don't realize we have until we become mothers, and ways to recover or triage that wound so we don't bleed on...
2024-06-071h 17Midnight MamaFrom the NICU to helping you with Dr. Jess Daigle, pediatrician and life coach for NICU moms.I sat down today with board-certified pediatrician/life coach, Dr. Jessica Daigle and talked in depth about her experience with the NICU from a provider and parent standpoint. Dr. Jess shares her challenges navigating pregnancy loss, postpartum, and the NICU from the perspective of a mother, and what she is doing to contribute to education, awareness, and support of NICU families.
Dr. Jessica Daigle is a board-certified pediatrician, neonatal/pediatric hospitalist, and Founder/CEO of Mom & Me MD. She is the proud mother of 2 kids both born prematurely, with 1 staying in the NICU for 5 weeks.
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2024-05-2857 minMidnight MamaBringing new life into this world one baby, and mother at a time with Dr. Stephanie HackWhat happens when you see an OBGYN on the evening news and she is talking about maternal mental health? You find her and immediately connect. This was the evolution of our friendship and today we talk about how some connections are just meant to be, and how motherhood has allowed for that space to be present in our lives today. Sometimes, the OBGYNs get a bad rap for not being "informed" about mental health, but Stephanie is anything but uninformed. She believes so strongly in educating the "Whole Mom" that she has since shifted in her career. She might not b...
2024-05-211h 00Midnight MamaWhat happens when moms are too "busy" to address their mental and physical health? From lingering anxiety, to root canals with Jenna Urban.There is something to be said about women who play competitive sports entering motherhood, and Jenna and I dive right into that pool of discussion in this episode. We used to channel our thoughts and anxiety into competitive sports, so what happens when the sports are removed and we have babies? Tune in to find out the answer to that, and how using those emotions to pivot in motherhood and build business after business while figuring out just who you want to be wearing this new hat.
Jenna Urban once immersed in suits, now thrives in sweatpants. As...
2024-05-1450 minMidnight MamaRedefining Motherhood One Hustle at a time with Dr. Lara O.I had the pleasure of chatting with my longtime sister/friend, Dr. Lara today as we explored a topic minimally discussed "transparently" as it relates to motherhood. Can I still have my career after babies? I sat down with Lara today as she shared her experiences with becoming a mom, navigating postpartum, both at home and in her career, and staying true to herself even when it went against the "standard." From psych hospitals to prisons, and outpatient programs to weddings, Dr. Lara is doing it all, one hustle at a time, and kicking down any door that stands in...
2024-05-0750 minMidnight MamaGiving birth to a baby AND a new business. How Zandra Bonick is proving she can successfully blend all things motherhood.Meet Zandra, a seasoned finance professional with over a decade of experience in luxury hotels. Her journey took a transformative turn with the arrival of motherhood, inspiring her to blend expertise with entrepreneurship.
Driven by purpose, Zandra founded her online business to offer essential support to entrepreneurs navigating today's complex business landscape. With a focus on empowering individuals to understand their financial numbers and lead with strategic prowess, she's had the privilege of training numerous professionals and guiding them toward holistic success—all while embracing the joys of motherhood.
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2024-04-301h 00Midnight MamaClapping back on bounceback culture and learning to have a healthy relationship with your postpartum body with LevelTEN CEO, Joelle CavagnaroThere are enough pressures on moms during pregnancy and postpartum, but what happens when we are the ones applying those pressures, especially when it comes to the expectation of "bouncing back?" Tune into this week's episode where I sit down with LevelTEN CEO, Joelle Cavagnaro and talk about all the things postpartum. As the owner of a fitness company, and newly postpartum with her second daughter, there might have been a few challenges to "show" up and meet everyone's expectations. Joelle and I talked a bit about what that looks like, developing a healthy relationship with your WHOLE self, and...
2024-04-231h 18Midnight MamaPre-eclampsia, pandemic, and post-partum. Not the ideal "mocktail" for a new mama.This week on the Birthing Her series I had the honor of sitting down with the CEO of Melanated Vibes, Billie J. Billie and I first bonded in our neighborhood where our first babies were growing and playing with one another; right before I moved out of the neighborhood. We re-connected during COVID, having our second children close together. Then the universe continually brought us together at the local 711, CVS, and local school, so were finally able to have a sit-down, catch up, and cheer one another one in this new endeavor.
Billie shares her experience with pr...
2024-04-091h 07Midnight MamaPregnant while Postpartum. Navigating hormones, mental health, and a career with Julia BatmanExpanding your family is a blessing, filled with the challenges of balancing it all. What makes it more challenging is when you are starting to see the light in the postpartum period and find yourself navigating motherhood all over again. Tune into this episode with my girl Julia Batman as she transparently shares her current journey of being pregnant while postpartum and how things have been different for her this time around. From returning to work and the challenges associated with pumping, to transitioning into a remote position just in time to experience morning sickness again, she bares it all...
2024-04-031h 08Midnight MamaJust because you "could" doesn't mean you "should." How this mentality can lead to exhaustion and burnout.I love feeling unstoppable, especially as a mother. There have been times when I felt like I could do it all and thrived in that space at one point. I could pump while I was working, send emails while I rocked my babies to sleep, and even snuck in a workout on my lunchbreak when sleeping in was more important for my health. The same things that made me feel unstoppable also contributed to my exhaustion and negatively impacted my mental health at one point in my journey. Today I share my experience with feeling like I "should" do thin...
2024-03-1226 minMidnight MamaAre your walls keeping someone out, or something in? Learning to lower my walls so that my daughter can see me clearly.This was a tough episode to record, and ironically, I had intended to go a whole other direction. One thing about me is that I go based on my feelings and flow, and something about this current season of struggle I am in was necessary to share for a few reasons.
I am a product of my coaching services and believe strongly in the power of speaking up and out about what is truly going on in my life to validate or encourage another mother, and more importantly, my daughter.
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2024-03-0429 minMidnight MamaIt's lonely over here. How paternal mental health is being impacted by the fourth trimester.As we scratch the surface related to maternal mental health and the importance of adequate and accessible education and resources for moms, I can't help but think about our dads who have yet to enter the conversation. I recognize it is one slow step at a time, and my work with moms highlights the need for MORE work with dads, creating that same space that allows them to be vulnerable and get some assistance with the postpartum process too. Tune in as I discuss my thoughts around this and what I am personally doing to help dads that are "ne...
2024-02-2125 minMidnight MamaThe hardest part about motherhood was the "birth", and not the one you might think.Learning to become a mother all while BEING a mother was a wild concept for me to wrap my head around. There was a conflict occurring internally everyday for almost two years as I was trying to figure out what was happening. I have never been the same since I became a mom, and I am thankful for that because who I became was the right person for the job and I am glad I recognized that she needed to be let out in order to perform. Tune in as I share my experience and some helpful tips for mom...
2024-02-1630 minMidnight MamaThe real reason why moms are so tired and what to do about it."I'm tired" is one of the most used phrases in motherhood, and its common use tends to distract people from the real reason behind why moms are tired. It's not motherhood or our children, it goes much deeper than that and I explore all of that in this episode as well as solutions for it. As noted in the show, I am inviting each listener to join my new community for moms, The Nest, for just 1$ for an entire YEAR. Follow the link below to join, or email me with any questions.
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2024-02-0731 minMidnight MamaPostpartum is not a diagnosis. It's a period of timeWe tend to put every mother who is struggling with her transition into motherhood, into the same box and label it as "postpartum" without realizing that is incorrect. I get down to the specifics related to the postpartum timeframe and how the appropriate language and diagnosis is crucial as it relates to supporting moms with their mental health. Every mother goes through the "postpartum period" and not every mother will experienced perinatal mood and anxiety disorders...learn the difference so you can be helpful.
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2024-01-3026 minMidnight MamaWhat happens when everything falls apart and you CHOOSE to rise.What happens when you experience a set back or feel like everything has fallen apart? How do you stay positive and protect your mental health? It can be easy to fall into a depressed state choosing to isolate and allow your frustrations consume you, and I am feeling that lately. Tune in as I share my recent setback, how I am choosing to tackle it and why it is important that you pay attention to the warning signs. Sometimes you're exceeding the speed limit and you're not even aware; that's an issue.
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2024-01-1629 minMidnight MamaProtecting your mental health during the ”danger zone.”With the holiday season behind us, it can be attractive to settle into a minimalist role as it relates to your physical and mental health. The period between January and March can be considered the "danger zone" as it relates to mental health, primarily maternal mental health. You may have been riding the holiday wave for a while, not noticing everything that has been happening around you, and now that the dust has cleared you recognize you have some work to do. Tune in and listen to my explanation of this "season" and some tips you can utilize to ens...
2024-01-0919 minMidnight MamaMust Be Nice. Why having a strong partner can get you ”mom shamed” and how to manage itYou would think that having a strong spouse/partner would be the type of flex that would get you a high five in your social circles or mom's groups. Ironically, a lot of moms are now getting "shamed" for this and it recently happened to me. Tune in to hear about how I managed it, how to avoid doing it (unintentionally of course), and a few other tips to take with you into the Holiday season.
Bonus: I am hosting a FREE webinar in January on the power of transitions and understanding the process of beha...
2023-12-1926 minMidnight MamaLearning to lower the bar and how to be ok with itIf there is one thing I know for sure about moms, it's that we expect more from ourselves than anyone else does. This is also the reason we find ourselves sick, frustrated, overwhelmed, and sometimes even angry with life and the people around us. Tune in while I talk about the process of lowering the bar, why it is necessary, and how it will actually contribute to your growth and success much sooner.
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2023-11-2929 minMidnight MamaGetting stuck between two versions of yourself and what to do about itChange is hard, and understanding the process and foundation of change can make a positive impact on your situation. Typically, when we are making changes or evolving we can start to feel overwhelmed and frustrated when things seem stagnant or not going in the direction we want them to. Tune into my perspective on this, and learn a few tips about the process of behavior change and what you can do when you find yourself between versions of yourself, similar to an elevator stuck between floors.
Remember, you don't have to figure it all out on...
2023-11-2121 minMidnight MamaThis might not be your winning season as a mother. But what is?We get wrapped up in the idea of the "winning season" and can find ourselves frustrated when things aren't going our way, or we aren't winning at this season of motherhood. Have you ever considered that you aren't meant to show up and compete in each season? Have you reflected upon what season you thrive in and how you can lean into those? Tune in to hear my position on the seasons of motherhood and how normalizing sitting out for a season might be better than always trying to show up and exhausting yourself in the process.
2023-11-1424 minMidnight MamaThe biggest thief of the holiday season and what you can do about itWhenever I hear people say, "Tis the season" I am reminded of all of the things they could be referring to, but none more so than the biggest thief of joy there is...Holiday Stress. That's right, it has its own seasonal box because it is different than regular stress. The holiday stress is like the one family member who we KNOW is coming to dinner, but somehow we don't fully prepare for it and are left picking up the pieces of the tornado once they are gone. It shows up differently, manifests differently, and typically robs moms of exp...
2023-11-0727 minMidnight MamaHow you can physically spot the status of your mental health and why moms recover much slowerYou may have heard me talk before about how your physical health is directly related to your mental health status, and why it is important to understand this. In this episode I share my recent struggle with this, how I knew it wasn't the "stomach bug" and what I plan to do moving forward. If you are a mom who seems to be sick more often than your friends, or other people in your home, you will find some helpful tips here in understanding why this is happening to you, and what you can do about it. Remember, the phy...
2023-10-3130 minMidnight MamaWhere ”mom guilt” originated and how you can learn to intercept itWe have all been there, or are there, at some point in our lives. EVERY mother has experienced some form of "mom guilt" without fully understanding why it happens, what we are really feeling, and how to reduce its frequency in your life. The less experiences you have to this "guilt" the more likely you will be to engage in healthy practices that promote self-growth, awareness, and insight, that will indirectly benefit your entire family. Tune in to learn my theory on mom guilt, how I intercept it, and how you can do the same.
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2023-10-1725 minMidnight MamaLearning to ask for help AND being ok with how it shows upLearning to ask for help has somehow become a sign of weakness when it comes to motherhood. We used to rely on our community, our supports, our villages, to help us ease into this new role and find our footing. With the development of social media and more and more moms "flexing" about "doing it all" themselves, it has created the illusion that if we ask for help, we are incapable of being a good mom...when quite the opposite is true. The hardest part about asking for help is actually ASKING for help. The second part of that chal...
2023-10-1128 minMidnight MamaMaking a wrong turn in motherhoodLosing yourself and getting lost in motherhood are two different concepts, and for the most part, we tend to focus on the former. In this episode, I share with you how that is a difficult concept for me to get behind, and I prefer to put my energy and focus into getting lost in motherhood. It might sound silly, or like a wild concept, but taking the wrong turn has led to the most remarkable outcomes for me, and could for you if you learn to recognize the difference. Tune in as I explore the power of motherhood and how...
2023-09-2520 minMidnight MamaThere is no timetable on PostpartumI cannot tell you how many times in the last two weeks I have heard someone say something along the lines of, "you're not even postpartum." It had me thinking about all of the mothers who may be struggling to cope with anxiety, depression, panic attacks, etc. but are afraid to speak up about them because someone will judge them for being "out of the postpartum period." What does that even mean? We have to stop putting a finite end to "postpartum" and start recognizing that unresolved stressors, trauma, and emotions that occurred during the "postpartum period" can, and typ...
2023-09-1125 minMidnight MamaEmotional LonelinessI wanted to share with you the meaning behind Midnight Mama, and why I felt so called to provide moms with this space and place. I talk openly about what midnights used to look like for me and how emotional loneliness crept its way into my life at one of the darkest hours. I wanted to give moms and partners some suggestions as it relates to being helpful and informed about this loneliness, how to spot it, and what you can do. There is so much power in this episode as it relates to the "survival period" (postpartum), and how...
2023-09-0732 minMidnight MamaThe 2023 DadsWe have recognized that this generation of mothers is operating a bit differently than those before. They are running businesses and their homes. Showing up on social media and talking openly about their journeys to normalize it for the women who will come behind them. They are showing everyone that becoming a mother can be hard, and the most amazing thing in this world at the same time. What you might not be seeing is the dads who are a part of this movement, stepping in as willing, active, and able partners to support moms as they continue on this...
2023-08-2225 minMidnight MamaFinding your frequencyI'm back with some deep value for you today. Join me as I talk to you about finding your frequency as it relates to how you are functioning and showing up in this world. Developing a deeper sense of self-awareness, and insight, will allow you to operate at a high frequency where you will see and experience things in a much different light. The only thing you need to do...is change. I know how difficult that can be, especially with all of the seasons of motherhood in full effect. I also know what it feels like to avoid chang...
2023-08-1621 minMidnight MamaRelease the GuiltHave you ever heard of "mom guilt?" It's an amazing phenomenon that we experience countless times in motherhood, and when you stop and really think about it, you are the ONLY one bothered by it. Sometimes the best thing we can do is acknowledge it's presence and then take a few steps to release it. When we carry this around we cannot be fully present, therefore contributing to the guilt. Tune in and listen to how I recognized this was interfering in my life, and what I chose to do about it.
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2023-07-3125 minMidnight MamaThe Mother’s BirthOne area that we need to focus on more in the maternal mental health space is the simultaneous birth of the mother during childbirth. We focus our intentions on bringing the baby into the world in the least traumatic way, but somehow thrust our mothers into chaos and havoc in the process. In this episode, I break down the process of birthing the mother and share what I am doing to assist in this process.
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2023-07-2423 minMidnight MamaMothering YourselfIn this episode, I talk about where I was and what I was doing last week instead of recording an episode for YOU. This episode is near and dear to my heart because it is all about learning to mother yourself, regulate your emotions, and feed those raw emotions with what they are craving. So many times we are caught in the middle of a storm, or tidal wave, and just keep going under, and no one coming to help us. It can be so difficult to take care of everyone else, ask for your own help, and then tel...
2023-07-1727 minMidnight MamaAre you Overpacking?Sometimes we overpack when we go on vacation, an overnight trip, or somewhere else, and that is ok, if we realize WHY we are doing it. I like to be prepared, but sometimes that preparation can be debilitating to my growth and ability to fit into spaces I want to go. Take a listen as I process what this looks like, why we do it, and the theoretical component associated with carrying extra things in "your bag."
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2023-07-0317 minMidnight MamaMaking EggsWe continue to overcomplicate aspects of motherhood because they are hard, when in reality its a series of steps we follow every single day that sometimes yield a different outcome. Everytime you make eggs do you get the same finished product? Probably not. You might add seasoning, burn your eggs, or scramble them up. When we shift our perspective and look at the monotony of motherhood it can feel less overwhelming and allow us to work through the transitional phases of the day with more energy and smoothly. Take a listen as I draw these comparisons and offer suggestions for t...
2023-06-2720 minMidnight MamaI woke Up DifferentlyIt's so easy for us to get caught up in the little storms that present themselves in our lives from time to time. As moms, we find ourselves pulled into the storms of our spouses, children, friends, and more, and it can create instability within us that leads to self-sabotage and negative experiences. I talk about my recent storms and how necessary it is to evaluate the residual damage from them in order to "decide" how to rebuild and sustain the changes. Choosing to wake up differently has been serving its purpose in my life, and I want to sha...
2023-06-1924 minMidnight MamaReflection and ReinventionThere is so much power in the ability to reflect on your past and use it as motivation for continuous improvement in your life. We are all afforded opportunities to recreate, or reinvent ourselves yet so little of the population recognizes those moments, and even less know what skills are necessary to begin this transformation. Sometimes, it is someone else's journey that prompts us to make these changes in an effort to assist them in their next season of life, and that is what I talk about in this episode. Join me and listen in to how the battle my...
2023-06-0632 minMidnight MamaHealing from ResentmentA moms there are many topics we shy away from, and another one of my favorites to discuss is resentment. I talk about my experience with resentment and how I decided to heal from it and grow through this experience enhancing my family and adding more value to my life.
2023-06-0125 minMidnight MamaLosing my ME TimeComing down off the highs of our girl's trip, mother's day celebrations and busy life smacked me right in the mouth this weekend. I pride myself on structure and routine in order to survive motherhood and this week I was reminded of what it feels like to neglect spending time with myself. I typically practice what I preach because if I didn't, then how would anyone think it was wise to listen to me? It's a humbling experience when the advice you give others is not something you follow, and then everything around you suffers. Yes, I fell off my w...
2023-05-2224 minMidnight MamaI feel like I’m suffocatingI couldn't find the right word to explain how I felt recently with routines and bedtime especially. SUFFOCATED seemed to sum it up fairly well, and I know I am not alone. More importantly, learn what I did once I recognized it, and why that strategy is going to be effective for a long time to come.
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2023-05-0924 minMidnight MamaIt’s our MonthMay is Maternal Mental Health Month and I am here for it!! I have created a new, FREE offer that is available for anyone on my email list, so join here https://www.kumitraininganddevelopment.com/
Also, the physician I reference in this podcast is Dr. Stephanie Staples-Hack, OBGYN
2023-05-0415 minMidnight MamaKeeping ScoreAre you keeping score in your house? If you're not doing it then who is? What are you keeping score of? Join me here as I chat about the negative impact this behavior has on our marriages, relationships, and overall self-efficacy and how to reduce this "desire" to do so.
2023-04-2725 minMidnight MamaBeing authentic is a FlexSocial media has glorified the idea that being a "struggling" mom who doesn't shower, eat, or care for herself is the epitome of motherhood. It has also encouraged us to not show who we TRULY are, and glorify the moms who bounce back and jump right back to work after giving birth without so much of a hiccup. Join me in the conversation about why this is damaging to YOU and other moms, and why being authentic will increase the likelihood that we might get more support and services.
2023-04-2021 minMidnight MamaOvercomplicating MotherhoodWe need to recognize that the symptoms are not always the problem when it comes to our experiences in motherhood. We tend to overcomplicate motherhood and that prevents us from being present in our children's lives. Join me in the discussion about reducing the complications by working on ONE area that will indirectly benefit every other area of your life.
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2023-04-1315 minMidnight MamaTaking care of them begins with taking care of YOUWe've all bullshitted ourselves about not having the time or drive to take care of ourselves but will quicky drop everything and do something for our kids or our spouse. I am calling you out on your bullshit here and reminding you that when you take care of yourself and find time for yourself, it allows you to give 100% to everyone else that needs you. You will walk away from this episode with a different mindset and perspective on why pouring into yourself is non-negotiable.
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2023-04-0418 minMidnight MamaThe infamous ”B” wordYep, I'm talking about burnout. It's one thing to get burned out, and it's another thing to learn how to identify the early onset and how to effectively recover from it. Join me here and listen how burnout recently knocked me out, and how I chose to get up from the blow.
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2023-03-2829 minMidnight MamaYour CommunityAs mothers, one thing we can't seem to get enough of (other than sleep) is a community of helpful and willing moms. I know the struggle I faced when looking outside of my immediate family and support network for those individuals who were walking the same path as me, so I went ahead and created that community. I'm inviting you to join me, wherever you are in your journey as a mother, and help build a strong, safe, solid community of moms who can and will support, value, guide, and uplift one another.
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2023-03-2119 minMidnight MamaPrivacy Party ofZEROOne could assume with the onset of motherhood you would sacrifice some level of privacy. However, getting that privacy back will take far more work than you may have anticipated, or are prepared to do. How are other mothers having this conversation? Are you having it, do you even care anymore, or are you fighting the good fight? I am on the struggle bus currently and looking for some feedback.
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2023-03-1412 minMidnight MamaNot my BodyAfter becoming a mother I lost a lot of control over things in my life and was ready for some of them, but not all. The hardest thing for me to come to terms with was the loss of my personal space, and my body belongs to me. From breastfeeding to sex, to kids touching all over me, I feel as though nothing belongs to me. Join me as I share my experience and normalize this for so many others.
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2023-03-0718 minMidnight MamaThe Power SourceWe recognize that moms appear to be tired each day regardless of how much rest they get, or how much of their load someone could decrease. I spend time in this episode talking about the power moms possess in their homes and the lives of all of those around them, and how being tasked with providing power to others can significantly impact our mental and emotional well-being.
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2023-02-2822 minMidnight MamaIt’s TIMETIME is a word that is widely used across many facets of life. We either don't have enough of it, make poor use of it, or use it as our excuse as to why we haven't improved our lives or our situations. Learn here how to take advantage of time, and apply this code to a DEEP DIVE intensive session with me
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2023-02-2130 minMidnight MamaUnprotectedThis episode was heavy on my heart and could be triggering for some individuals. Talk about suicide and homicide relative to the postpartum period for moms in response to the woman in Boston who allegedly strangled her children. The podcast focuses on enhanced services, an angry mother, and our failure to protect one another.
IF YOU FIND YOURSELF IN CRISIS, here are some resources
Text 988 to connect with the National Suicide Hotline
Call 1-800-273-TALK (8255)
800-944-4773Text Postpartum support international
2023-02-1327 minMidnight MamaStuck in the MudMotherhood has its moments when we can feel like we are stuck in the mud. No matter how fast we spin our tires we aren't moving forward and we're becoming exhausted. What if we were able to use these moments to our advantage and be able to spot the mud ahead of time? Tune in and find out what I mean.
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2023-02-0615 minMidnight MamaI’m BrokenI cannot tell you how many times I have felt this way, or worked with individuals who felt like this. We often look at the breaking as something bad or limiting. I challenge you to shift that train of thought using positive language to shape the way you look at these events. The breaks HAVE to happen, and when they do, you can put yourself back together however you want.
2023-01-3122 minMidnight MamaThe Wrong DirectionsWe are all guilty of seeking advice and direction from the wrong people at some point in life. In motherhood, we always want to hear about a mom's experience before we embark on the journey, but we are selective in who we seek it from. In this episode I talk to you about getting the right directions from the right people, and why that matters more than where you are headed.
2023-01-2428 minMidnight MamaThe Mental LoadWe understand that becoming a mother requires a lot of work. It is going to physically exhaust us several times on our journey. However, a little preparation for the mental load would have been much appreciated. The unseen challenges and weight that we carry mentally, each day requires their own level of strength. I will no longer justify WHY I am so tired at the end of each day and encourage you to follow suit.
2023-01-1723 minMidnight MamaSelf-AwarenessAs women, it seems we are always on the go. Whether we are career-driven, family-focused, or something else, we rarely stop to rest, reflect, and recalibrate when needed. In this episode I talk about possessing self-awareness and the ability to recognize where I am, both physically and mentally, to ensure I am getting the most out of myself.
2023-01-1024 minMidnight MamaHow They See YouIn all of the seasons of life, we get wrapped up in wondering if we are doing a good job if our boss is happy if our kids are happy if our spouse is happy. We lose sight of the fact that they don't see us the way we perceive, and if we started to recognize that sooner, we would put less pressure on ourselves to show up in ways that challenge us.
2023-01-0330 minMidnight MamaGoing Towards itWe have become conditioned to wait for opportunities or change to come to us, and in doing so we risk missing these chances or having them taken from us. What if we learned to move towards what was coming to us in an effort to secure it sooner with more motivation? Listen here and find out.
2022-12-2716 minMidnight MamaI was robbedHave you ever felt like the experience you had with something wasn't what you thought it would be? Did it make you feel as though you were robbed of something? Yea, me too. Listen here to get the full story and some ways to offset those feelings and turn it into a well learned lesson.
2022-12-2022 minMidnight MamaAre you the challenge?When things become frustrating or challenging, our knee-jerk reaction is to point blame and find who is at fault for our current situation. In this episode, I talk about the possibility that you are the challenge that is preventing you from excelling. Join along and learn how to identify this, and what you can put in place to maneuver out of the way of your happiness and success.
2022-12-1216 minMidnight MamaSeeing the SignsWe tend to look for signs when we are dealing with some type of internal conflict or faced with a big decision. In this episode I talk about removing all expectations associated with "what" type of sign you WANT to see, and acknowledging all of the signs that present themselves to you.
2022-12-0523 minMidnight MamaThe ShaftWe prioritize taking care of mom and offering her services that we could inadvertently be giving the partner the shaft. This episode focuses on my expansion of services to include prepping the the partner so that they can be the best supports as possible.
2022-11-2815 minMidnight MamaWho Are you?In this episode, I share with you the guilt associated with not mentioning I am a mom when someone asks me "who are you?" and how I choose to handle those feelings. You are ALWAYS a mom, but it doesn't have to be your identity.
2022-11-2120 minMidnight MamaA Different Kind of LoveIt is amazing how much love we have in our hearts, and the variety of love that we decide to tap into at any given time. From our friends to our children, to pets, and beyond, there is always love to give. Sometimes, it is a different kind of love that shows up
2022-10-2416 minMidnight MamaForgiving HerI talk about recognizing all of the different versions you have had to become throughout life, and forgiving the ones who did not show up as their best self. We are so quick to beat ourselves up without ever realizing how much we expect of ourselves. Each situation and stage of our lives requires a different version of ourselves in order to prevail. Once we recognize that, we can and will evolve.
2022-10-1417 minMidnight MamaThe ChairWelcome to my first episode, titled the Chair. I share with you my reasoning for the decisions I make and how something that once plagued you could be the same thing that helps you kick yourself into high gear as it relates to making changes or important decisions. Sometimes, you need to find the right chair.
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