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Artful LovingEpisode 19 - Getting KinkyI think we've all got a little kinky side to us that sometimes gets locked away in the dark corners of our private fantasies, but for some people getting kinky is a very important part of their life and individual sexual expression.
Kink and BDSM has definitely become much more mainstream in recent years thanks to a certain series of books and films. While I think thats a great thing it is super important to dispel any of the myths and misinterpretations that can come from the media, so our experiences are safe, consensual and of course, d...2022-08-2935 minArtful LovingEpisode 18 - Spotting the Red FlagsI'm sure we've all had the experience of coming across traits, behaviours, values or beliefs in a person we're in relationship with that just don't feel good to us, and sometimes these can be enough to make or break a relationship. But sometimes these "red flags" can be hard to spot, or easy to dismiss, to our own detriment.
Of course we're all different and we value different things, and thats a good thing, except when it isn't! We can save ourselves a whole lot of pain and hardship by recognising the red flags early and then d...2022-08-2229 minArtful LovingEpisode 16 - Trauma in Relationships, Part 1Part 1 in this conversation on Trauma in relationships.
This is a biggy! Not only in time but in content ;)
Trauma is such a big deal these days, and thats a really good thing! We've learnt a lot about trauma in recent years through advances in psychology, neurology and medical imaging, we've really come a long way!
And of course, there's no where in life that the symptoms of trauma show up more than in intimate relationships.
In this episode I talk about my understanding of trauma, how to understand it in our...2022-08-0742 minArtful LovingEpisode 14 - Bringing Back the PassionOne of the most common challenges that I hear about from many couples in long term relationships is the reduction of sexual desire and passion within the relationship compared to how things were in the early days, and of course I've had my own experiences of this too!
This is such a common and very natural part of being in a long term relationship, and definitely doesn't automatically mean that there is something "WRONG" with the relationship or either of you!
It stands to reason that the sense of excitement, novelty and adventure that exists...2022-07-2531 minArtful LovingEpisode 13 - Consensual Non-MonogamyAlternative relationship styles to the standard monogamy paradigm aren't exactly new but they have gained a lot of mainstream attention and appeal recently.
In this episode I discuss some of the options we have when it comes to consensual non-monogamy, the potential challenges and pitfalls that can arise and how to deal with them.
Non-monogamy is definitely not an easy lifestyle choice and definitely isn't for everyone, but in my view, if the old paradigm isn't working for us, its worth exploring our options in a way that is safe, consensual and mutually agreed upon.
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Artful LovingEpisode 11 - The Initiation of FatherhoodFatherhood is one of, if not THE most powerful initiations a man can go through, yet some miss out on the full impact and responsibility that this offers.
In this episode I share a lot of my own experience of being a father, the gifts and the challenges. I also discuss some of the really important issues I see in the world when it comes to fathers, the importance of their role and how we all could support them more.
There is definitely some potential for this episode to bring up some emotions for some pe...2022-07-0444 minArtful LovingEpisode 10 - Porn, the good the bad and the uglyPorn has of course been around for a very long time, but never has it been so readily available as today.
In this episode I discuss my views on porn and its problems, and how we can engage with porn in a healthy way, as individuals and couples. Please let me know your thoughts with a comment below the video.
If anything in this episode touches a nerve please reach out to have a chat at nic@nictovey.com2022-06-2635 minArtful LovingEpisode 09 - Emotional Mastery in RelationshipsThere is no area of life where emotions are at play as much as they are in intimate relationships. And most of us are woefully ill-equipped to effectively deal with them. So of course, this becomes the route of the majority of relationship disconnect.
In this episode I try (and fail) to offer a short but in-depth discourse on my view of emotions, their purpose, what to do with them and how we can create a healthy relationship to both our own emotions and our partner's.
This is SUCH a big topic and so I ca...2022-06-1937 minArtful LovingEpisode 05 - Navigating Desire DiscrepancyEvery relationship will go through periods where the sexual desire of each partner does not match and this can often become a point of contention in the relationship.
Desire discrepancy is a very normal experience for most couples from time to time and in this video I discus some important factors for us to consider and some ways we can help each other to come together in mutuality.
If you would like to engage in the conversation as part of a community of like minded people then please consider supporting my work and becoming a...2022-05-1622 minArtful LovingEpisode 03 - Getting Relationship ReadyHave you ever told yourself that you're not "ready for a relationship"? But how do you know when you are ready? What does "ready" even mean??
In this episode I dive into this complex and gritty subject. I explore some of the reason's we reach for relationship or are repelled from it and how to examine our motivations.
If you haven't already please subscribe to the podcast to get notified when a new episode is released. And if you'd like to become part of the Artful Loving community and engage with the content with myself a...2022-05-0116 minArtful LovingEpisode 02 - Co-creating an Amazing RelationshipIn this episode I share my vision for what I call the (R)Evolutionary Relationship - a relationship built with intention to be a container for the evolution of each partner. I present the 4 Pillars of the (R)Evolutionary Relationship and what I believe are the key ingredients we need to successfully co-create and maintain an AMAZING relationship.
I mention my couples program which is built on the vision for the (R)Evolutionary Relationship. If you are a couple that would like to dive deep together then this may be of interest to you http://www.nictovey...2022-04-2425 minArtful LovingEpisode 01 - Introducing MeIn this first episode I want to introduce myself to you, who I am, where I came from and how I got to be the man I am doing the work I do today. I also wanted to talk about my vision for the podcast and my greater vision for human relationships.
I also mention that if you would like to go a little deeper with me and become a part of a community you may want to become a Petron. Head over to Patreon here to sign up for Patron only content and benefits. https://www.pat...2022-04-1734 min
Artful LovingTrailerA HUGE welcome to the Artful Loving podcast!
Subscribe to receive weekly episodes packed full of quality tips, tricks and resources, and of course plenty of personal experiences, to help you master your world of LOVE, SEX and RELATIONSHIPS!
You can learn more about me and my work here http://www.nictovey.com/
If you have any questions or topics you'd like me to discuss on the podcast please email me here info@nictovey.com
I'm excited to be on this journey with you!2022-04-1201 min
The New MasculineNic Tovey- Father, Leader, LoverTo connect with Nic Tovey:Website: http://www.nictovey.comFacebook: Nic ToveyIG: @nictovey To connect with Travis:Website: http://www.travisstock.com/IG: @travers03Email: travisstock03@gmail.comPatreon: https://www.patreon.com/thenewmasculine
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Mojo for the Modern ManNic Tovey, (R)Evolutionary Man, on Healing and Finding Center - Part 2Part 2 of Nic Tovey’s story opens with the process he went through that led him to making a clear choice about how to see his circumstances, then choosing to take charge of his own healing.That decision put him on a trajectory of studies of consciousness, psychology, philosophy and personal reflection, mining for “important bits of gold… that get to benefit me – and that get to benefit others.”Nic shares his perspective on men, emotions and vulnerability as well as the wave of cultural changes currently afoot.There’s an inescapably...2021-06-0826 minMojo for the Modern ManNic Tovey, (R)Evolutionary Man, on Healing and Finding Center - Part 1Author, Relationship and Intimacy Coach and Psychotherapist Nic Tovey tells his life story of growing up as a sensitive, empathetic kid in a late ‘70’s Margaret Thatcher-era UK industrial town. An explorer by nature, he shares his early preferences for female companionship, the world of journeying through consciousness via a wide range of substances and joining the British Navy just a week after his 16th birthday.After leaving the Navy, Nic traveled the world, making his way to Australia, then back to the UK where, out for a night on the town, he was brutally assau...2021-06-0134 min
Between the Sheets with Nic & StephEpisode 11 - Polarity in Relationships. The Dance of the Masculine and FeminineIn this episode we discuss the importance of polarity in a relationship and how polarity helps to maintain passion. We focus on the polarity of masculine and feminine and how that plays out in our relational dynamics and the deeply ingrained patters that can cause us problems.2021-05-1053 min
My Aligned Purpose Podcast (MAP Podcast)Season 2: Episode 14 - A Year in review for the Aligned Purpose PodcastIn today's episode Nicole and Kaila reflect back on the first year of the Aligned Purpose Podcast! Listen in to hear the top 5 rated episodes over the year, as well as a highlight reel of all of the incredible guests that Nicole has interviewed! You'll hear how the podcast came to be and what to look forward to for year two!
Nicole and Kaila want to thank each and every one of you for following along on the journey with them!
Here are the contact links for all of the names mentioned in the episode:2021-03-2828 min
The Vulnerable ManTVM Ep 018 - Nic Tovey InterviewNic is a Relationship & Intimacy Coach and Psychotherapist and an author. In our conversation we talk about balancing love and tough love in men’s work, Nic’s PTSD journey, tantra, rites of passage and plenty more. Website: http://www.nictovey.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/nictovey/ Amazon book: https://amzn.to/30EZeyj2021-03-1558 min
Between the Sheets with Nic & StephEpisode 10 - Sovereignty vs Synergy. The Dance of Freedom and ConnectionIn this episode we talk about one of the greatest causes of tension in a relationship, the need for freedom vs the need for connection.2021-02-1548 min
Between the Sheets with Nic & StephEpisode 9 - The Challenges Men Face in RelationshipsIn this episode we dive into an often controversial discussion on men and the common challenges men face in relationship. There are some very specific challenges that men, and of course the partners of men, have to contend with within relationship and with this we offer some insights from a male and female perspective.2021-02-0154 min
Between the Sheets with Nic & StephEpisode 8 - Navigating Trauma in RelationshipIn this episode we go a bit deep and dark and discuss the complexities of how trauma can show up in our intimate relationships. We share some of our own experiences and how we have learned to deal with them, and offer some tips to be with your own and each other’s trauma.2021-01-1554 min
The Dad TrainUnleashing Your Warrior Archetype, with Nic Tovey“The warrior archetype is a strong, powerful, masculine archetype. He’s a great archetype for just getting shit done!”Archetypes are universal, inborn personality traits that have been referenced throughout human history.They were introduced to the field of psychology by Carl Jung, who identified twelve major archetypes, but also believed there was an infinite number of potential archetypes that could exist. An example of a masculine archetype is ‘The Warrior’ archetype, which is particularly useful when you need to take action.In this interview, Nic Tovey explains why the warrior archetype i...2021-01-1234 min
My Aligned Purpose Podcast (MAP Podcast)The (R)Evolutionary Man - A conversation with Author Nic ToveySeason 2 Episode 2:
Tune into this incredibly inspiring conversation, with Amazon Best Selling Author Nic Tovey.
Nic lives in Byron Bay, Australia and has just written his story titled the (R)Evolutionary Man. Nic shares on this episode his inspiration from Brene Brown on how to live a more vulnerable life.
Nic drops a lot of wisdom in this call and breaks the old paradigm of what it means to "Man Up", "Be a Man" etc.
Nic Tovey works with Men and Couples to help them experience life from a place of freedom. 2021-01-1247 min
Between the Sheets with Nic & StephEpisode 7 - Relationship Endings and New BeginningsAfter quite a lengthy break from the podcast, in this episode we go deep into a vulnerable sharing of our relationship journey over the last year. As 2020 has been a strange and challenging year for so many, for us this year has been a long, sometimes painful yet growth filled process of dismantling our relationship to make way for something new to emerge.2020-12-1349 minBetween the Sheets with Nic & StephEpisode 6 - Sexual Co-dependanceIn this episode we discuss a trap that we can all fall into and which occurs in most relationships at one time or another, sexual co-dependance. We also discuss compulsive sexual behaviour and addiction. This is a spicy one!2019-08-1300 minBetween the Sheets with Nic & StephEpisode 5: Designing a Conscious RelationshipMany of us today are seeking a relationship that has it all; that provides, fulfillment, companionship, safety, mutuality, passion and amazing sex. That's a BIG ask! And it is possible. We CAN have it all, but it takes a willingness to do the work, both individually and as a couple, to co-create the relationship you desire. In this episode we give our suggestions of what works for us and what we suggest to our clients. 2019-07-3000 minBetween the Sheets with Nic & StephEpisode 4: Desire Discrepancy in RelationshipIn this episode Nic & Stephanie discuss a very common issue that many couples experience, a discrepancy in the level of sexual desire. They offer some of their own experiences with this and some solutions also.2019-07-1500 minBetween the Sheets with Nic & StephEpisode 3: Periods, PMS & RelationshipIn this episode Nic and Stephanie delve into a topic that is not often explored publicly - menstruation. The conversation meanders through all things being a woman and being in relationship with a woman through her cycle.2019-07-0100 minBetween the Sheets with Nic & StephEpisode 2: Healthy Communication in RelationshipsIn this Nic and Stephanie discuss the all too crucial foundation of healthy and happy relationships; communication. 2019-06-1800 minBetween the Sheets with Nic & StephEpisode 1: An Introduction to us, Nic & StephIn this first episode you get to meet your hosts, Nic Tovey and Stephanie Curtis, to learn a bit about who they are, what they do and why they do it.2019-06-1200 min