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The Couplespeak™ Relationship ForumCouplespeak™: The Amazing Impact of Being Intentional in Your MarriageLife, for the most part, doesn't just happen to us. We make thousands of choices, large and small, obvious and seemingly invisible, that color all our experiences. People in happy marriages didn't just happen to be "on the right line at the right time," but generally make more conscious choices about how to treat their spouses and themselves in ways which generate happiness. This is not only about having fun and pleasure together, but also about how and when to manage expectations, when to let go of grievances, when to forgive, when to be kinder and more generous. In this...
2023-06-1615 minThe Couplespeak™ Relationship ForumCouplespeak™: Dog Love in Your LifeSusan reveals how a dog generally impacts individuals and families, amplifying connection, empathy, vitality, and yes, work and cost as well. She also discusses the importance of rescue for not only dogs, but their humans as well.
2023-06-1514 min
The D SpotThe Link Between Mental Health and Home Clutter: How Your Space Affects Your MindJoin us for a conversation with Theresa Russell, the expert Intentional Organizer. In this episode, we'll learn what it means to be an Intentional Organizer and how it can help couples navigate different organization preferences. We also discuss how living space affects our mental health and how to approach the topic with your partner. We dive into the importance of language and semantics when discussing household responsibilities, and explore the emotions of guilt and shame that may arise when it comes to keeping a tidy home. Watch now to gain insight and tips on how to maintain a harmonious...
2023-05-0326 min
IM - Inspiration/Motivation5: RELATIONSHIPS - INTERVIEW WITH LIFE COACH NIRO DAYALANNiro Dayalan is a Passion, Purpose and Impact Coach/Speaker. He has spoken on stage with Kerwin Rae, culture coach for Bank of America, coached high profile executives/entrepreneurs across diverse business sectors, and is continuously training & developing coaches on their personal & leadership coaching skills.
Niro has dedicated his life to learning as much as possible about Leadership, Human Behavior, Relationships, Positive Psychology, NLP, Breathwork, Hypnosis, Transpersonal Coaching, Emotional Intelligence, Ancient Wisdom, Gestalt Therapy, & so much more. He continues using his skill set to help people in this global awakening that we are...
2021-05-281h 06The Couplespeak™ Relationship ForumCouplespeak™: Signs That You're Being Gaslighted and What You Can Do About ItGaslighting is unfortunately a fairly common abusive relationship dynamic predicated on manipulative power and control. In this brief episode Susan explores some of the underpinnings, tactics, dynamics, and strategies for coping and "holding onto oneself" for the victims, whose sense of self trust and even sanity often gets eroded in this process. If you are in a partnership with someone you think may be gaslighting you, then call into the studio live at 877-497-9046 with your concerns and questions. If you can't make the live podcast on Wednesday, 5/5 at 8:30 PM EST you can stream it anytime afterward from: www.Blog...
2021-05-0615 minThe Couplespeak™ Relationship ForumCouplespeak™: Giving Up - When It Hurts and When It HelpsIn this 20 minute episode Susan discusses the process of losing traction and determination around comittments, why it happens, when it may be a positive thing, and when it may signal some personal or relational shortcomings. At the time of this writing we're all hearing about thousands of people giving up their diligence about Covid safety measures, tired of all the constraints and hassles, going back into restaurants, gyms, and planes with resignation or denial about the possible outcome. Susan explores how this behavior may be emblematic of other forms of giving up, and in this episode invites you to look...
2021-04-0117 minThe Couplespeak™ Relationship ForumCouplespeak™: "Are We Just Too Different?" When Is your Relationship Unfixable?In this 20 minute episode Susan discusses differences and dynamics in relationships which clearly signal the probability of failure. Couples often wrestle with the issue of when efforts may be futile to reconcile or find more happiness and peace with each other. When is it time to let go, to accept that maybe you cannot get for yourselves and from each other what you need? This issue is particularly striking at this time when political stances alone often get experienced as irreconcilable differences, polarizing friends, family and couples. Join the live broadcast on Thursday, January 21st at noon by calling into...
2021-01-2119 minThe Couplespeak™ Relationship ForumCouplespeak™: (Followup) - Not Just Surviving, But Thriving Amidst Covid 19In a previous episode Susan delved into some strategies for living more fully amidst the Covid 19 pandemic. She discussed the physical and emotional challenges everyone faces, as well as the symptoms people were experiencing only a few months into the crisis. In this subsequent episode Susan goes deeper with her ideas for how to be more intentional with attitudes and behaviors which she observes are helping her friends, family, clients, and herself to stay afloat emotionally, even feel happy and connected amidst this pandemic. Tune in at 7 PM EST on Thursday, October 29th live at www.BlogTalkRadio.com/SusanLager to hea...
2020-10-3017 minThe Couplespeak™ Relationship ForumCouplespeak™: Strategies for Living More Fully Amidst the Covid 19 PandemicIn this 20 minute episode Susan explores some of the most pressing issues most of us must face "hiding from death" in the Covid19 pandemic. She discusses the seemingly mundane, like the etiquette of mask wearing in public, to the heart-wrenching choices we're all faced with regarding uncertain income, and social distancing from not only our close friends, but our most precious loved ones. Susan also helps her listeners face their coping strategies and reslilience, or lack of it, during a worlwide crisis that pushes us each to stretch beyond anything familiar. Join the podcast live with questions or comments by calli...
2020-06-1821 minThe Couplespeak™ Relationship ForumPassive ChoicesIn this 15 minute episode Susan discusses the issue of how we set the stage for certain outcomes with our inaction, avoidance, procrastination and denial in much the same way we shape outcomes with overt choices. These passive choices often accompany a "victim story" about things that people sometimes believe just happened to them through bad luck or circumstance. In this podcast Susan gives some examples of passive choices, as well as some simple tips for changing this mindset and these behaviors, and living more intentionally. If you, with any frequency, have been puzzled by how you ended up in certain sit...
2020-03-1112 minThe Couplespeak™ Relationship ForumTake the Dread Out of the Holidays with Some Simple StrategiesIn this 20 minute episode Susan shares her insights about some of the common sources of holiday related anxiety and stress, and how being proactive and intentional can transform the season. If you have a history of some really negative experiences related to the holidays, and struggle with how to make it all more managable, even magical, then this episode is for you. Susan will help you see how some simple planning, realism, and clear boundaries can make all the difference! You'll see how you alone, or you and your spouse may have the power to turn it all around to mean...
2019-11-2522 minThe Couplespeak™ Relationship ForumCouplespeak™: How Do You Cope?In this 15 minute episode Susan discusses different coping strategies, and invites listeners to look at the origins of their tools, and how well these tools serve their purpose. The episode focuses on the importance of being more conscious and intentional when dealing with frustrating or painful experiences and feelings so that coping strategies don't become part of the problem! Tune in live on Wednesday, October 23rd at 8:30 PM by calling 877-497-9046 so you can join the conversation with questions or comments. If you can't join the live episode feel free to listen to the podcast anytime at: www.BlogTalkRadio.com...
2019-10-2415 minThe Couplespeak™ Relationship ForumFinancial Equity in Marriage - A Simple Tool to Insure FairnessIn this 15 minute episode Susan shares her insights around some financial issues couples experience, how spouses can avoid criticism, control and financial unfairness, and move toward more respectful, equitable agreements in their marriages. Call 877-497-9046 to join in live with questions or comments or stream the podcast whenever you'd like at www.BlogTalkRadio.com/SusanLager. Couples who feel the need to have mediated help with this issue can contact Susan at her Portsmouth office at 603-431-7131 to schedule an appointment.
2019-07-1814 minThe Couplespeak™ Relationship ForumCouplespeak™: The Pitfalls of All or Nothing in Marriage and LifeIn this 15 minute episode Susan explores the issue of a perfectionistic "all or nothing" attitude in marriage and life, and how it limits possibilities for connection, conflict resolution, and productivity, among other things. Tune into this brief episode for some insights and ideas about how practicing "Grey" and "Some" can relieve pressure, and help you and your partner get to the things most important to you both. Susan will be sharing some examples from her own life, so you'll know you're not alone with this challenge! Call into the studio live with questions or comments at 877-497-9046 at 8:30 PM...
2019-05-3015 minThe Couplespeak™ Relationship ForumCouplespeak™: Being a Grownup When You Must - 6 Practical ToolsHow do you get yourself to honor your legitimate "Shoulds"? How do you motivate yourself to do the right thing, taking care of the not-so-fun parts of your life which require attention? How do you attend to your connections and responsibilities to your friends and family when doing so may be tiring, and not very glamorous or convenient? In this 15 minute podcast Susan shares some useful tips to avoid avoidance! These tried and true tactics have not only been instrumental in helping Susan get the tough stuff done herself, but also for countless clients who have suffered shame and damaged self...
2019-04-0414 minThe Couplespeak™ Relationship ForumCouplespeak™: 4 Communication Styles That Can Ruin Marriage & Some Key FixesIn this 30 minute episode Susan explores the effects of 4 particular ways of handling conflict in marriage which tend to destroy respect and trust, and often lead to divorce. She also discusses alternative communication strategies which open up more positive results.
2019-03-0722 minThe Couplespeak™ Relationship ForumCouplespeak™: How to Interrupt Frustrating Impasses and Standoffs w Your SpouseIn this 30 minute episode Susan explores the frequently experienced issue of standoffs or impasses in marriage - those times when couples get "locked in" to a negative sequence when nobody feels heard or acknowledged, and nothing gets resolved. These "lock-in's" can be about critical issues of importance or minor things, but the feelings of frustration, anger, and helplessness generally feel quite awful for each spouse. Tune in to get some handy tools this couples therapist can teach you to interrupt the impasses, manage yourself more calmly, and move forward with your spouse in a more conciliatory manner. Join Susan and hav...
2019-01-3125 minThe Couplespeak™ Relationship ForumCouplespeak™: Quieting the Noise in Your Head - Some Useful Insights and Tools"You'll never finish that project!" "You're a loser!" "You're too fat and nobody will find you attractive!" "Nothing Will Ever Work Out for You!" "You're mean and selfish!" Chances are, at one point or another in time you've heard that noise in your head - the oppressive voices of self doubt and self denigration. You've probably also experienced the toxic impact this self talk can have, stopping you from effective action, isolating you, exhausting or overwhelming you. If you relate to this, then I'd recommend that you tune into this next half hour BlogTalk Radio podcast on Wednesday, November 28th at 8...
2018-11-2928 minThe Couplespeak™ Relationship ForumCouplespeak™: Are You Addicted to Your Cell Phone? Take the Test & Make ChangesIn this 30 minute episode Susan sheds light on the growing epidemic of cell phone addiction. She shares with listeners key signs and symptoms of addiction, and offers a self-test for those questioning if their own use is problematic. Susan also discusses some useful strategies to cope with the problem for anyone concerned about their own, or a loved one's phone behavior. Call into the studio at 8:30 PM EST to have the option of coming onto the air with questions or comments. Call toll-free: 877-497-9046. If you can't tune in live, catch the show on www.BlogTalkRadio.com/SusanLager anytime.
2018-06-2126 minThe Couplespeak™ Relationship ForumCouplespeak™: What's in Your Personal Minefield?In this twenty minute episode Susan reveals the issues around our "minefields" - areas of vulnerability created by past experiences and relationships. The podcast will help you learn to identify the nature of your "mines," how to manage yourself more effectively around them, and how to best bring your spouse or partner into the loop of empathy and responsiveness around those triggers. Call 877-497-9046 to hear the podcast live and be able to join in with questions or comments. Or, you can stream the episode live from BlogTalk Radio. If you can't make the live episode you can listen to t...
2018-04-1924 min
The Couplespeak™ Relationship ForumCouplespeak™: Facing Divorce? How a Divorce Coach Could Make All the Difference!In this 45 minute Couplespeak™ podcast Susan meets with Lisa McNally, a mother of three who has 20+ years of experience working with divorcing individuals, couples and families in all aspects of family law matters including divorce, separation, child custody, co-parenting and parental rights. Lisa is also a co-author of the Amazon best selling book Divorce: Taking the High Road: Simple Strategies for Creating a Healthy Divorce As a Divorce Coach, Lisa supports and guides individuals experiencing divorce one-on-one, helping them navigate the often lengthy, stressful and convoluted process in a dignified way. Her clients benefit by having her by their side to he...
2018-03-0147 minThe Couplespeak™ Relationship ForumCouplespeak™: How Good a Partner Are You? Take the TestIn this half hour episode Susan explores the issues involved with being either a clueless spouse / partner, or one who has healthy, loving partnership skills. This episode taps into emotional intelligence, how highly you would rate yourself when examining your attitudes, knowledge and practices in your primary relationship, and identifying areas where you may need to improve to avoid misery, and to create more satisfaction for you and your partner / spouse. Tune in and take the 20 question test to get a better read on how the experts might score you, also to get a better sense of where you might be...
2018-01-1829 minThe Couplespeak™ Relationship ForumCouplespeak™: 5 Easy Ways to Build Couple Connection During the HolidaysIn this 20 minute Couplespeak™ episode Susan Lager shares some connection tools from her many years of working with couples. In this bried podcast you will learn how you can, with minimal time and energy amidst what is often a whirlwind of busyness, build in a fun sense of "we-ness" with your spouse or partner. Join in live at 8:30 PM EST with your questions, comments, or your own ideas at 877-497-9046. If you can't make the live podcast you can hear the recording anytime afterward at: www.BlogTalkRadio.com/SusanLager
2017-12-1419 minThe Couplespeak™ Relationship ForumCouplespeak™: Cheap ForgivenessIn this 15 minute Couplespeak™ podcast Susan Lager shares her insights and experiences with the issue of cheap forgiveness - what it is, and how and when it may be adaptive as the best possible "solution" to emotional injury, vs. what the costs may be to the person bestowing it and to the relationship. Lager gives a mini "life lesson" on the larger issue of forgiveness and what the options may be when an offender isn't repentant or available to a process of true repair around an emotional injury. To join the episode live call 877-497-9046 to come on the air w...
2017-11-0915 minThe Couplespeak™ Relationship ForumCouplespeak™: Letting Go of An Adult ChildIn my work as a psychotherapist and in my private life I have encountered an issue which generally causes a great deal of anguish and uncertainty. It’s the process of an adult child who has married, often now has a child of his or her own, and is attempting to form a new family separate from the family of origin. This is a normal developmental stage of growth and maturity all around, but often comes with a lot of pain, conflict and confusion for not only the adult child, but also his or her parents. In this 20 minute episode I ...
2017-10-0522 minThe Couplespeak™ Relationship ForumCouplespeak™: 3 Key Signs of Unfairness in Relationships and How to Fix ThemIn this 20 minute Couplespeak™ episode Susan Lager, a psychotherapist and relationship coach, discusses 3 major manifestations of unfairness in close relationships which come up with some regularity in her work with individuals and couples. Unfairness acts like a cancer in relationships, so Susan provides tools to notice it's presence, and how to correct the problem. Call into the studio live with your questions or comments at 877-497-9046 and join the conversation! Then enjoy happier relationships
2017-08-2523 min
The Couplespeak™ Relationship ForumCouplespeak™: 5 Communication Pitfalls and How to Avoid ThemIn this 20 to 30 minute episode Susan Lager shares her experiences as a psychotherapist witnessing common communication blunders clients often make. Whether you're trying to communicate with a spouse, partner, friend or family member there are predictable and avoidable pitfalls you need to know about. You'll learn about simple techniques to avoid these communication problems, be clearer about your message, and be heard and understood in a way which greatly improves relationships. Using her popular book "I'm Talking! Are You Listening?" as a guide, Susan will empower listeners to communicate with almost anyone more effectively about anything. Call 877-497-9046 to join...
2017-07-2030 min
The Couplespeak™ Relationship ForumCouplespeak™: Avoid the 3 Mistakes Many Women Make That Repel LoveIn this 30-40 minute episode Susan co-hosts with a unique relationship mentor, Valerie Greene, at www.CoachValerieGreene.com, who help couples to stop fighting and fall in love again, and who helps women inspire their husbands or partners into deeper love and intimacy. Providing a highly successful alternative to relationship therapy, Valerie helps women and couples move beyond problem-solving and communication skills to create a secure emotional CONNECTION. Tune into this special episode to learn more from Valerie about how to transform relationship conflict into deeper intimacy. Join us live with your questions or comments by calling into the studio at: 8...
2017-06-1445 min
The Couplespeak™ Relationship ForumCouplespeak™: Misplaced Financial Trust Before and During a DivorceWhether you're in your 30's or 40's and have recently been married, or are in your 50's or 60's, and have been married for many years, you may have been in a traditional marriage where your spouse has provided and controlled the income, and you have managed the household and children. If you haven't been part of decision making or knowledge about financial matters, but have blindly entrusted them to your spouse, then you may be in a very vulnerable situation of misplaced financial trust as you face a divorce. Tune into this next 40 minute BlogTalk Radio episode on Wednesday, Ma...
2017-05-1843 minThe Couplespeak™ Relationship ForumThe Amazing Power of Repetition - The Good and the BadIn this 20 minute episode Susan Lager shares her knowledge and clinical experience regarding the effects of repetition, not only for individuals in solidifying good or bad habits, but also in fostering skill proficiency. What many people don't realize is that repetition can also be the driver of either good will or deep resentments and feelings of despair, particularly in close relationships. Tune into this brief episode on Wednesday, April 19th at 8:30 PM EST and learn how you can make repetition an ally in your life, not a liability! Call 877-497-9046 to join Susan on the air with your questions o...
2017-04-2024 min
The Couplespeak™ Relationship ForumBuild a Problem-Solving Mindset with 7 Critical ToolsIn this 45 minute episode join my guest, Carthage Buckley and me for an important lesson on the seven aspects of developing a problem-solving mindset, something vital in everyone's life challenges. Carthage Buckley is an experienced and enthusiastic learning and development professional with extensive coaching, mentoring and motivational skills, and a proven ability to empower others, enabling them to achieve their full potential. He has worked in Training & Development and Coaching in numerous countries including Ireland, Australia, New Zealand and the United Kingdom. No matter what the problem may be that you're trying to solve you'll need the right attitude and ski...
2017-03-1554 min
The Couplespeak™ Relationship ForumHow 'Noticing' Can Change Your LifeIn this 45 minute episode Susan co-hosts with Cindy Giovagnoli, a photographer and writer who believes in curiosity, enthusiasm, meditation and mistakes, and who is constantly delighted by the never-ending lessons offered by the varied people and experiences of this world. She shares that delight through her writing and images as well as through workshops and retreats focused on developing the art of noticing in our lives. Listeners will gain an understanding of what real 'noticing' is, how it can be practiced, and how that practice can be a transformative force for more centeredness, calm, presence, and joy. Call into the show...
2017-02-1646 minThe Couplespeak™ Relationship ForumCouplespeak™: Discernment Counseling Update for Couples on the Brink of DivorceIn this brief episode, Susan Lager gives an update on her "Discernment Counseling" work, a special form of treatment for couples who are on the brink of a divorce, where one spouse has lost hope for a better marriage and is not particularly motivated to try to work on reconciling, while the other spouse feels more hopeful, and wants to stay married. In this 15 minute episode Susan shares her perspective gained from more than two years of practice about how this form of treatment is uniquely geared toward couples in this situation, and how this type of counseling may be the b...
2017-01-2622 minThe Couplespeak™ Relationship Forum5 Foolproof Ways to Ruin Your HolidaysDon't miss my next 25 minute BlogTalk Radio episode on Wednesday, December 14th at 8:30 PM EST If you've been telling yourself a story about all the stresses, expenses, difficult relatives, ridiculous gifts, cards to send, the hassles of putting up and decorating the tree, Chanukah forgotten, cleaning the house, making flights on time, too much eating and drinking, getting too fat, cleaning up the house, no time for anything, then this episode is for you! I'll give you 5 sure methods to make all the negative spin come true, individually, and as a couple. Enough chirpy info about how to do better! Le...
2016-12-1527 min
The Couplespeak™ Relationship ForumHow Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), Can Transform Your MarriageIn this 45 minute episode Susan Lager co-hosts with Jill Fischer,of www.PositiveCouples.com, a top New England EFT trainer, and Naomi Rather, a therapist at www.RatherCounseling.com doing this work with amazing success. The three couples therapists discuss what EFT is, how it's different from traditional forms of couples work, how and why it's been so effective, and what kinds of couples issues can be dealt with in a transformational way through this brief treatment. Call 877-497-9046 on Wednesday, November 16th at 8:30 PM EDT to join the live conversation with questions or comments, which are welcomed!
2016-11-1746 min
The Couplespeak™ Relationship ForumMarital Peace After An AffairIn this thirty minute episode Susan Lager co-hosts with Dr. Laura Louis, author of the popular book, "Marital Peace," which is a valuable resource for supporting couples throughout the challenges of marriage. Dr. Louis has specialized in helping distant couples heal after infidelity, and in the program discusses some of the ways she recommends rebuilding trust, rekindling intimacy and enhancing communication. Her therapeutic approach has been influenced through trainings in Brazil, Mexice, London and Haiti, as well as hundreds of transformative seminars all over the world. Don't miss this vital program if you and your spouse have endured or feel at...
2016-07-2831 minThe Couplespeak™ Relationship ForumHow Curiosity Can Save Your MarriageIn this 30 minute episode Susan Lager shares tips from her popular book "Become Relationship Smart Without a Lifetime of Therapy" about the key role of curiosity as a connector in all meaningful relationships, especially in marriage. For people not familiar with this concept, Lager reveals some key conversation openers demonstrating curiosity and interest in a partner, facilitating empathy, sharing and feeling "seen," a shot in the arm especially for marriages suffering from boredom or disconnection. To join the live conversation with questions or comments call toll-free 877-497-9046 at 8:30 PM EST. If you can't make the live show you can lis...
2016-06-0928 minThe Couplespeak™ Relationship ForumEight Practices Essential to a Happy, Fulfilled LifeIn this 30 minute episode Susan Lager discusses an important frame for how to live with more joy and meaning. She shares what she's learned from her many years as a psychotherapist about the eight key practices conducive to the pursuit of happiness and fulfillment. You will find out about why and how these basic practices and attitudes can maximize your potential for a more joyful, connected life. At the end of the episode Susan offers listeners a free download for daily reminders about these "joy" practices. Join the program live with questions or comments by calling in Wednesday, 4/13/16 at 8:30 PM EDT...
2016-04-1430 minThe Couplespeak™ Relationship ForumDigital Infidelity: Is Your Spouse Just Texting or Cheating?Modern technology has brought us all a mixed bag of useful tools as well as potentially boundary and trust violating capability through smartphones, iPads and laptops. The practice of creating or maintaining independent, private outside relationships via texting has become a hugh challenge to spouses wanting to balance the "we" and the "me" in their marriages. In this 30 minute episode Susan Lager explores the issues related to boundaries, trust, intimacy and independence, which can get very blurred in this arena. She invites listeners to define where they may draw the line between "personal space" and "cheating" regarding outside relationships maintained through t...
2016-03-1732 min
The Couplespeak™ Relationship ForumThe ABC's of Financial Goal Setting: What You Need to Know NOWIn this 45 minute episode, Susan's guest, Heather Brountas CFP, a popular financial advisor at Ameriprise Financial Services, shares key information about how we all need to manage the four major aspects of our financial lives. Heather is returning for another episode after her "Divorce and Money" show last year got such a huge listenership, so you don't want to miss this one! People generally expect to pay big bucks for this kind of professional advice, so tune in and get 45 minutes of it for FREE and you'll be on your way to realizing your goals for financial health and peace of min...
2016-02-1846 min
The Couplespeak™ Relationship Forum"Living with Loss" - A Conversation with Ashley Davis BushIn this 45 minute episode Susan Lager and Ashley Davis Bush discuss the process of grieving - the realities and the myths, as well as tools for coping, from her latest book, "Hope and Healing for Transcending Loss." Ashley's book is filled with small lifelines and glimpses of hope for coping with the death of a loved one. Included are daily meditations offering comfort and tools for how to move on, living with gratitude, compassion and meaning. Ashley Davis Bush LCSW, is the internationally bestselling author of six self-help books, including the classic "Transcending Loss." She is a compelling and wise pre...
2016-01-1946 minThe Couplespeak™ Relationship ForumAre You a Shopaholic? Take the Test Before the Holidays; Get 7 Tips for HelpIf you've ever wondered if you're a shopaholic, then the holidays could be very difficult, even disastrous for you! Don't go it alone without help! Tune into this 30 minute spisode, "Are You a Shopaholic? Take the Test Before the Holidays" on Wednesday, November 18th at 8:30 PM EST. Get vital information about this issue, take the test to see if you just really like to shop or if you may have Compulsive Buying Disorder, a serious problem needing attention. Get key tips for how to manage around the holidays. Call toll-free 877-497-9046 to join me on the air with questions or comments. If you can't make the live show, then you can l...
2015-11-1929 minThe Couplespeak™ Relationship ForumI'm Talking! Are You Listening?: A Couplespeak Exercise For Better CommunicationIn this 30 minute episode Susan Lager teaches you a simple but very effective exercise which will help you to communicate better with anyone about important issues, especially loaded subjects which might involve or create conflict. In 30 minutes you'll have a new tool in your toolbox for better communication, better listening, better clarity and better understanding, all key ingredients in feeling closer with people who matter to you, moving you toward better solutions with them. Learn a critical couples therapy technique you can use anywhere, anytime! Tune in Wednesday, October 21st at 8:30 PM EST. Call toll-free 877-497-9046 to come on the...
2015-10-2227 min
The Couplespeak™ Relationship ForumWorkplace Relationships: Dealing with Dreaded Drama of Conflict (Rescheduled)In this 45 minute episode Susan Lager, a psychotherapist and coach at The Couples Center and Couplespeak™ in Portsmouth, NH, talks with Pattie Porter, The Texas Conflict Coach, about workplace conflict, why people are so frightened by it, how employees and managers avoid dealing with it, the consequences of avoidance, and tips for managing conflicts on the job more effectively. Pattie Porter LCSW, is a subject-matter expert in the field of conflict resolution, having worked as a senior mediator, team facilitator, senior trainer, and conflict management and abrasive leader coach in companies large and small throughout the United States. She has been the h...
2015-09-2447 min
The Couplespeak™ Relationship ForumThe Complications of Coupling: One Man's Controversial ViewsIn this 45 minute episode Susan Lager, a psychotherapist specializing in couples work, co-hosts with Dr. Charles Rawlings, outspoked author of "It Really Is That Complicated - The Myths That Exist About Male-Female Relationships," a book about his views regarding the challenges of coupling in modern times. Together they explore some of his controversial stances about relationships, and how, in his opinion, they center around control, manipulation and bartering. Lager, a strong proponent of the power of collaboration, mutual healing and growth, looks for the hope in his message. Call 877-497-9046 to join in the conversation with questions or comments, or...
2015-08-0646 min
The Couplespeak™ Relationship Forum"Life Your Way" - A Talk with Author, Amy WoodIn this episode Susan Lager co-hosts with psychologist Amy Wood, author of this prize-winning, vital book which provides a compelling approach on how to manage the constant "Go! Do! Be Better" stresses of 21st century American life. Get some important insights on how you can use your instincts and intuition to find balance and confidence, and how to move more intentionally toward a happier, more fulfilling life. Call toll-free 877-497-9046 to come on the air with questions or comments, or to just listen and benefit from the conversation about such an important topic. Can't make the live podcast? Catch the rec...
2015-06-0447 min
The Couplespeak™ Relationship ForumLow Sex Drive in Women - What You Need to Know if You're Over 40When one partner in a couple lacks much interest or desire for sex it can wreak havoc on the partnership. Often, women over 40 experience a significant loss of libido related to not only hormonal changes, but also circumstances surrounding their relationships. Husbands tend to feel rejected, frutrated, and controlled by their wives' sexual indifference. Wives experience a great deal of pressure, resulting in much stress on the marriage, disconnection, and sometimes divorce. In this 45 minute episode Susan Lager co-hosts with Dr. Terri Vanderlinde, a Board Certified OB-GYN for more than 25 years, and the owner of a solo integrative GYN and sex co...
2015-04-2350 minThe Couplespeak™ Relationship ForumThe Art of a Good Apology in Couplespeak™In this half hour episode Susan Lager draws on her observations on remorse and forgivessness (or lack of it), from many years of working with thousands of couples. Tune in to learn about the four key parts to an effective apology, the importance of timing, and the predictable impact of a good apology on one's own self esteem, on a partner's heart, and on the relationship. Call toll-free 877-497-9046 to join the conversation live with questions or comments. If you can't make the live show go to www.BlogTalkRadio.com/SusanLager to listen to the recorded show at your conve...
2015-03-2630 min
The Couplespeak™ Relationship ForumAre You Blind to Your Own Blind Spots? Take the Couplespeak™ Test!In this thirty minute episode Susan Lager co-hosts with Meredith Richardson, a mediator and conflict coach who knows all too well how people, especially when in conflict, can be totally blind to their own emotional blind spots. When we refuse to acknowledge aspects of our personalities or behavior which may be obvious to others we live in a state of denial, ultimately cutting ourselves off from better choices in life. Tune into this episode to learn about a simple test which can tell you whether you may have blind spots running the show, and to develop some strategies for "seeing the...
2015-02-2632 min
The Couplespeak™ Relationship ForumHealing Trauma Through Yoga - Hope for SurvivorsIn this 45 minute episode Susan Lager hosts a special guest, Lisa Boldin, a graduate of the Kripalu School of Ayurveda, and specialist in Trauma Sensitive Yoga. Together they discuss the unique advantages of this form of Yoga for anyone who is struggling with anxiety, emotional stress, or trauma related to experiences such as sexual assault, military combat, or domestic violence. Call in toll-free at 877-497-9046 to share comments or ask questions about this form of Yoga. Or, listen, live streaming, or afterward to the recorded episode where you will learn more about how and why this practice offers unique benefi...
2015-02-0647 minThe Couplespeak™ Relationship ForumHow To Avoid Some Really Bad Decisions in 2015Susan Lager, a psychotherapist and relationship coach at The Couples Center in Portsmouth, NH, explores the difference between making a mistake and making a bad decision, and why people make bad decisions which can ruin their lives. In this episode she discusses key behaviors and attitudes which either help to create or avoid bad decisions, including one simple exercise anyone can use to make better decisions in 2015. Call toll-free 877-497-9046 to join the show live with questions or comments!
2014-12-1129 minThe Couplespeak™ Relationship ForumCouplespeak™ : Dealing With Toxic Relatives During The HolidaysIn this half hour episode, Susan Lager addresses an issue so common to millions of people. Tune in and find out about key tools you can use to protect yourself from the "emotional vampires" who have the potential to undermine your feelings of peace and joy during the holiday season. Learn some key strategies to ward off negative social energy, be true to yourself, and be freed up to focus on all the other people who bring love to your life. Why get caught without a plan? Be smart, and have wonderful holidays in spite of the difficult people who will be si...
2014-11-1330 min
The Couplespeak™ Relationship ForumSex Therapy Online - Is It Right For You?In this half hour episode Susan Lager discusses the ins and outs of online sex therapy with her guest, Rhiannon Beauregard MA, LMFT, CST, a licensed marraige and family therapist and certified sex therapist. Tune in, and you will learn more about what sex therapy is all about, when you might be a candidate for it, instead of, or in addition to regular couples therapy, what it can do for you, and how it works in an entirely online format. Call in toll-free at 877-497-9046, or if the lines are busy, call the regular number, 760-542-4114, and join in...
2014-10-1632 minThe Couplespeak™ Relationship ForumWhen Things Fall Apart - A Couplespeak™ PerspectiveIn this half hour episode Susan Lager returns after a long Summer break to explore the issue of managing the chaos and uncertainty which are present when things fall apart - whether it's the result of an accident, a job loss, a family crisis or some other difficult change. Learn about some key attitudes and behaviors which can move pain and suffering into a transformative experience of learning, growth and connection. Tune in to listen to the discussion or call in with your own experience. Call toll-free 877-497-9046, or if the lines are busy, call 760-542-4114. If you can...
2014-09-1829 minThe Couplespeak™ Relationship ForumDo You Or Does Anyone You Love Have a Drinking Problem?In this half hour episode Susan Lager, a psychotherapist and relationship coach, explores the issue of problem drinking. With summer celebrations at full swing, many people are at risk for getting "social permission" to drink excessively and dangerously, and be in denial about how much they can responsibly handle. Lager shares the Michigan Alcohol Screening Test, an established standard for self-assessment related to drinking habits and effects. She also shares some insights from her private practice working with couples around this issue, as well as discussing a BAC level calculator tool which can be very illuminating. If you've wondered if y...
2014-07-0326 minThe Couplespeak™ Relationship ForumWhat's Your Conflict Style? How's It Working For You?In this 45 minutes episode, Susan Lager co-hosts with Meredith Richardson, a collaborative lawyer, mediator and conflict coach on the Southern New England coast. Hosting other events together, such as couples retreats, the two women bring their own spin to the issue of conflict in marriage as well as in friendships and in the workplace. Lager and Richardson explore the different conflict styles, and explore how each of us learns to manage conflict based on earlier experiences and adaptations to those environments. Learn about the most common sources of conflictTake one of the recommended Conflict Quizes to find out more about y...
2014-05-2948 minThe Couplespeak™ Relationship ForumThe Five Love Languages - Are You Speaking The Right One To Your Partner?In this half hour episode, Susan Lager, a psychotherapist and relationship coach explores the five key ways people experience being valued and loved - the five "love languages" cited in Gary Chapman's bestselling book of that name. Lager discusses the issue of tuning into your partner's "language" so that your loving intentions will resonate. As Lager says, "When you're in France, don't talk Spanish, speak French!" Call in toll-free at 877-497-9046 to listen in, or to come on the air with questions or comments. Don't be shy!
2014-05-1528 min
The Couplespeak™ Relationship ForumCouplespeak™: "Why Are You So Angry?" (Re- rescheduled!)Due to technical difficulties with the 3/26 BTR episode, and other technical problems on 4/16 (!), this episode has once AGAIN been rescheduled, so join us please on Wednesday, April 30th at 8:30 PM EST for an episode you won't regret being diligent enough to attend. The "bugs" have been fixed, so the show will air. In this 45 minute episode, I will co-host with Meredith Richardson, Esq., a collaborative lawyer and conflict coach in New Hampshire and Maine. Together we'll explore anger, and how it plays out in healthy vs. unhealthy ways in relationships. Tune in and get a better perspective on the markers of u...
2014-05-0147 min
The Couplespeak™ Relationship ForumDivorce And Money: What Couples On The Brink Of Divorce Need To KnowIn this episode, Susan Lager co-hosts with Heather Brountas, a certified financial planner with Ameriprise. Together they discuss the loaded topic of divorce, some of the myths surrounding the financial process, and the financial do's and don'ts anyone considering a divorce should know, including the ten most common mistakes divorcing partners make. Tune in by calling toll-free 877-497-9046, and join the conversation with questions or comments. No question on this subject is a "bad" one! If you can't make the live show, go to www.BlogTalkRadio.com/SusanLager to hear the recording.
2014-04-1038 minThe Couplespeak™ Relationship ForumCouples On The Brink: A Couplespeak™ PerspectiveIn this episode, Susan Lager discusses "Discernment Counseling," a special form of treatment for couples who are on the brink of a divorce. When one or both spouses have lost hope for a better marriage, and are not particularly motivated to try to work on reconciling, then traditional marriage counseling may not be appropriate or helpful. In this thirty minute episode Susan explores how this form of treatment is uniquely geared toward couples in this situation, how it differs from regular couples therapy, and how, for couples who have "one foot out the door" individually or together, this may be the ...
2014-03-1329 min
The Couplespeak™ Relationship ForumCouplespeak™ : Marriage and Money - A Love Story?In this 45 minute episode, Susan Lager co-hosts with Meredith Richardson, a talented and feisty lawyer, mediator, and conflict coach. Together they focus on the central issues and some common pattterns couples play out related to finances during their marriages, or in their divorces. * Learn about some key behaviors which are often indicators of marital strength and collaboration, or not. * Find out about 4 new behaviors which can help you and your spouse to do better in this area. * Learn about some critical legal issues you need to know about filing taxes jointly. To listen in, or to join us live on the ai...
2014-02-2747 minThe Couplespeak™ Relationship ForumMove On Without An Apology: A Couplespeak™ Tool To Heal Your HeartIn this episode, Susan Lager, a psychotherapist and relationship coach, discusses the dilemma of healing from emotional injury or violation when the person who hurt you hasn't earned your forgiveness. When there has been no expressed remorse or apology you do not have to be enslaved by bitterness. You also don't need to bestow "cheap forgiveness," on that person, letting them off the hook, and dishonoring yourself. If you've been ignored or left alone around some hurtful experience, tune into this vital episode to learn about how to move on and heal without the benefit of a genuine apology. It is...
2014-02-0632 minThe Couplespeak™ Relationship ForumCouplespeak™: Beat The January Blues in 2014In this episode, Susan Lager, a psychotherapist and relationship coach, discusses some simple but effective strategies to counteract the post-holiday let-down so many of us experience. Get a peek at some therapeutic secrets! Start the new year in the driver's seat and be proactive! To join the conversation live on the air, call toll-free 877-497-9046 with your questions, comments or ideas.
2014-01-0932 minThe Couplespeak™ Relationship ForumCouplespeak™ : Hot Tips For A Cold MarriageIn this episode, Susan Lager, a Couples Therapist and Relationship Coach, co-hosts with Meredith Richardson, a highly sought New England conflict management specialist who works as a Mediator, Facilitator, Trainer, Conflict Coach, and Collaborative Lawyer in Maine and New Hampshire. Meredith is also a motivational speaker, Midlife Coach, and the creator of popular, transformative retreats. Coming from very different fields, the two colleagues deal with the issues of connection, communication and conflict in marriage. They discuss how some simple shifts in perspective and behavior can can help to change a cold, distant marriage into a much warmer, fulfilling partnership. Don't miss th...
2013-12-131h 00
The Couplespeak™ Relationship ForumWhen You Hate Your Job - Tips For You And Your SpouseHate your job and can't quit it right now? Then on Wednesday, 11/6/13 at 8:30 PM, tune into this one hour episode, featuring dynamic Portsmouth, NH Career Counselor, Andrea St. Jean as Susan Lager's co-host. We'll be discussing vital tips for how you can manage the situation without driving your spouse crazy. Andrea St. Jean specializes in working with mid-career adults in her private practice. She helps clients to choose and change careers, address areas of career dissatisfaction, land a more satisfying job, achieve better life/work balance, and transition to retirement. Andrea also conducts compelling career development workshops throughout New England. Do...
2013-11-071h 06The Couplespeak™ Relationship Forum75 Habits For A Happy Marriage With Ashley Davis BushIn this episode, Susan Lager co-hosts again with Ashley Davis Bush LCSW, a well known psychotherapist in southern NH who specializes in grief counseling and couples work. She is a frequent Huffington Post blogger, and the author of the popular "Transcending Loss" and "Shortcuts To Inner Peace." Ashley's most recent book, "75 Habits For A Happy Marriage" is the timely topic for this episode. Listeners will be part of a discussion about the many small ways couples can keep their love and happiness fresh, and avoid toxic patterns of marital disconnection, reactivity and resentment. Tune in for these hot-off-the-press, proven strategies for...
2013-09-241h 01The Couplespeak™ Relationship ForumCouplespeak™ 6 Cures For A Really Bad MoodIn this half hour episode Susan Lager discusses some useful techniques to manage a bad mood and not let it ruin the day. The episode is part cognitive therapy, part mindfulness, part behavioral therapy, part neuroscience and part plain old good therapeutic sense. Tune in toll-free at 877-497-9046 at 8:30 PM EDT on Wednesday, July 31, 2013 for a spirited conversation about something we all experience at one time or another.
2013-08-0129 minThe Couplespeak™ Relationship ForumCouplespeak™ : Have A Good Summer With Or Without A PartnerIn this episode, Susan Lager, a psychotherapist and relationship coach, explores the key attitudes and behaviors for enjoying your summer, regardless of you "partnered" status. On the agenda will be Ideas for solo or partnered activities, as well as the most useful mindset to adopt in the process. Tune in toll-free at 877-497-9046 to just listen, or come on the air with any of your own strategies to make this one of the best summers yet!
2013-06-2729 minThe Couplespeak™ Relationship ForumCouplespeak™ : Marriage Fitness TestIn this episode, Susan Lager, a psychotherapist and relationship coach shares with listeners a twenty question evaluation which is designed to determine the strengths and weaknesses in any marriage. Professional marriage counselors and mental health professionals have indentified twenty symptoms as being most indicative of stress in marriages. Call in to take the test with your spouse and see how healthy your marriage is!
2013-05-3029 minThe Couplespeak™ Relationship ForumCouplespeak™ : Open CommunicationIn this half hour episode, Susan Lager explores the different aspects of open communication, or conversations which encourage and allow emotional safety, curiosity and connection, as compared with communication which fosters defensiveness and discomfort. Drawing from her popular book, "I'm Talking! Are You Listening?" Fix Communication Problems In No Time Flat! Susan illustrates some key communication strategies. Tune in to learn about important tools and skills you'll be able to use in conversations with anyone. Call in live at 877-497-9046, and come on the air with questions or comments!
2013-04-2530 minThe Couplespeak™ Relationship ForumCouplespeak™ : The Power Of An ApologyIn this half hour episode, Susan Lager explores the benefits of an apology on both the wrongdoer as well as the impact on the wronged person in a hurtful situation or event. She also touches upon the "How To" of an effective, heartfelt and impactful apology, drawing from her new book, "Become Relationship Smart Without A Lifetime of Therapy." Tune in, or you may be sorry!
2013-03-2830 min
The Couplespeak™ Relationship ForumCouplespeak™ : Thriving After Trauma With Partner SupportSusan Lager co-hosts this episode with Michele Rosenthal, a post-trauma coach, keynote speaker, award-winning blogger, and author of the critically acclaimed PTSD recovery book, Before The World Intruded. Together they explore the issues around integrating trauma into one's life, rather than being defined or continuously victimized by it. Rosenthal reveals some of her strategies for overcoming traumatic events, and going on to live a full, meaningful life. If you, or anyone you know has struggled in this arena, don't miss this compelling and informative episode!
2013-02-281h 02The Couplespeak™ Relationship ForumCouplespeak: Be A Better Partner With Self AwarenessIn this episode Susan Lager, a New England psychotherapist and relationship coach, explores the issue of how knowing one's own hangups can vastly improve any relationship. Using some key tools from her newest workbook "Become Relationship Smart Without A Lifetime Of Therapy," she shares some vital questions we all must ask ourselves in order to be more conscious and loving in our partnerships. To get the book as a guide, go to: http://amzn.to/WBK83q Don't miss this episode if you want to get a first peek at some of the simple, but very important questions you must st...
2013-01-3133 minThe Couplespeak™ Relationship Forum2012 Year In Review; Options For Looking Back; Then ForwardIn this episode, Susan Lager, a New England psychotherapist and relationship coach, discusses the usual ways people reflect upon the past year, and how looking back can be more productive when using some new markers of change. Using her insights and experience as a therapist and coach, she explores how focusing on emotional and relational events can not only be more self affirming, but also more energizing and motivating for changes needed in the new year. Don't miss this short show! It may help you change the frequency in your brain as you move into 2013!
2013-01-0333 minThe Couplespeak™ Relationship ForumCouplespeak: Plan To Survive And Thrive During The HolidaysIn this rescheduled episode, Susan Lager, a New England psychotherapist and relationship coach, shares her key strategies for not only managing the holiday stressors likely to create depressive and anxious feelings, but also how to set things up to maximize joy, gratitude, connection and meaning with family and friends. Isn't that what the holidays are supposed to be about? In this open mic show, listeners are encouraged to call in and share their dilemmas, ideas and stories, to make this episode an interactive experience. To prepare, for less than the price of a latte, callers can get a copy of...
2012-12-0659 minThe Couplespeak™ Relationship ForumCouplespeak: Staying Positive While Looking For WorkIn this episode, Susan Lager, a New England psychotherapist and relationship coach, co-hosts with Laura Rivchun, CPC, Principal and Founder of Chrysalis Career Coaching in New York City. Laura is a dynamic, highly sought career coach, mentor, and former recruiter, who works with people in career transition. With many years of experience in very tough job markets, she is someone who fully understands the many challenges of looking for work. This episode explores the ups and downs of the job search process, and provides insights and tools for not only maintaining the best posssible attitude, but also strategies for "staying i...
2012-10-181h 00The Couplespeak™ Relationship Forum'Fix Communication Problems' Workbook; More Couplespeak NewsIn this episode Susan Lager, a New England psychotherapist and relationship coach, shares exciting information about her newly published workbook,"I'm Talking! Are You Listening?" Fix Communication Problems With Your Partner In No Time Flat! Listeners will also hear about some interesting upcoming episodes with guest experts. Tune in! It's a short show packed with useful information!
2012-09-2007 minThe Couplespeak™ Relationship ForumCouplespeak; Love Isn't Enough; 6 Vital Factors To EvaluateSusan Lager, a New England psychotherapist, relationship coach, and author of the in vital new workbook, "I'm Talking! Are You Listening?" Fix Communication Problems With Your Partner In No Time Flat! shares her insights from many years of specializing in working with couples, about the essential ingredients for a loving partnership. This episode explores and explodes the myth of romantic love as the important "glue" necessary in long-term intimate partnerships. Take the relationship test and see how strong and healthy your partnership looks through the eyes of an expert in the field. Your call-in participation with comments and questions are thor...
2012-08-1659 minThe Couplespeak™ Relationship ForumNegative Thoughts? Amazing Change With Mindfulness Based CBTSusan Lager, a psychotherapist and relationship coach, co-hosts this episode with Louise Beck, LICSW, a renowned specialist in the field of Mindfulness Based Cognitive Therapy. Beck has travelled widely, providing training and inspiration for people all over the world who suffer from distorted, negative, or intrusive thinking and all its effects. This episode deals with the relationship between thoughts, feelings, and behaviors, and how some simple strategies taken from CBT and the Mindfulness movement can radically change the negative cycle, and free people up to have happier, more fulfilling lives.
2012-07-191h 00
The Couplespeak™ Relationship ForumMen, Women, & Weight; An Exploration of Body PoliticsIn this episode, Susan Lager, a psychotherapist and relationship coach, co-hosts with Mary Jo Martin, Ph.D., a clinical psychologist who specializes in the diagnosis and treatment of eating disorders at Associates In Psychology in Dover, New Hampshire. The episode focuses on weight and body issues as experienced by both men and women, the contributing factors, and how our culture magnifies the problem. Most importantly, Dr. Martin shares her insights about the latest developments in treatment - what seems to work, and what doesn't. Tune into this compelling episode, and benefit from the experience and wisdom of this expert who ha...
2012-06-0753 min
The Couplespeak™ Relationship ForumWomen Loving Women - A Couplespeak ExplorationSusan Lager, a Portsmouth, N.H. psychotherapist and coach, co-hosts this episode with Leanne Tigert, a Licensed Pastoral Psychotherapist and a Fellow in the American Association of Pastoral Counselors, a US and Canadian organization within which she has provided workshop leadership and trainings. Dr. Tigert is a Senior Lecturer in Pastoral Care and Counseling at Andover Newton Theological School in Newton Centre, MA., and an ordained minister in the United Church of Christ. She is also a prolific writer, having authored a number of articles and books about homosexuality and religion, homophobia, resources for same-gender couples, spirituality and transgender issues, a...
2012-04-1259 minThe Couplespeak™ Relationship ForumCouplespeak: The Big four: Compassion, Unity, Fairness, FunSusan Lager, a psychotherapist and relationship coach, spends this episode thinking out load about various compelling issues which come up in marriage, as well as other forms of partnership. She opens up a discussion about how the issues of compassion, unity, fairness and fun manifest in many relationships, the challenges, and the possibilities for change with certain attitudinal and behavioral shifts which most people are capable of making, if they value the realtionship, and are willing to do the work. This is an "open microphone" episode, so anyone wanting to share their thoughts and ideas is welcome to call in...
2012-03-081h 01The Couplespeak™ Relationship ForumGrowing Through Grief. A Couplespeak ExplorationLoss and the subsequent grieving process is perhaps the most universal psychological experience on the planet. And yet, it is still a journey that frightens and confuses many of us. In this episode, Susan Lager, a psychotherapist and relationship coach, co-hosts with Ashley Davis Bush LCSW, a well known psychotherapist in southern NH, and author of the best-selling books, "Transcending Loss", and "Shortcuts To Inner Peace". Together they explore the nature of loss and healthy grieving, and how the experience can go beyond pain to “transcendence”. They discuss the “transcending loss model” developed by Bush, with useful tools to help grievers...
2012-02-231h 00
The Couplespeak™ Relationship ForumEffective Trauma Treatment And Its Impact On RelationshipsSusan Lager, a psychotherapist and relationship coach, co-hosts this episode with Phil Harford, LICSW, a seasoned specialist in the use of EMDR and clinical hypnosis. Phil has developed a reputation in this region for his work with clients who have survived childhood abuse and neglect. This episode explores the effects of early interpersonal trauma on adult relationships, and how EMDR and clinical hypnosis can be used effectively to not only resolve the "ghosts from the past" which plague thousands of people, but also to change current dysfunctional relationship patterns tied to past history. Tune in for an interesting and informative sho...
2012-02-091h 00The Couplespeak™ Relationship ForumSisters: The Good, The Bad, & The In-Between, 1 Year LaterSusan Lager, a psychotherapist, relationship coach, and the middle of three sisters, reconvenes with her two outspoken, irrepressible siblings one year after their wildly popular 2011 show. The three women look back on the year, and the changes they have experienced, individually and together as family. As the "baby" sister turns 61, the three sibs mull over the prospect of old age looming around the bend, and what it means to each of them. Don't miss the fun! Call in live, toll-free at 877-497-9046 at 9 PM EST to join the party! If you can't make it, don't miss the archived show...
2012-01-121h 00
The Couplespeak™ Relationship ForumAD/HD Couples And Decision Fatigue. A Couplespeak Talk(Note: **Rescheduled from 10/5/11 to 11/02/11 at 9PM) How come some couples can be so together at work, but cannot remember to close the refrigerator at home? This topic is for everyone, AD/HD or not, but it is especially useful for couples where one or both are ADD adults. These people are often creative, insightful, inventive, "out-of-the-box" thinkers, however their attentional differences can be a real challenge for partners who are "wired differently". Listen in to learn how new research is taking a look at how "decision fatigue" effects couples, ADD and non-ADD, and explains inconsistent behaviors and traits! Susan Lager me...
2011-11-031h 00
The Couplespeak™ Relationship ForumCommunication Problems Gone With Simple 5-Minute Fixes!In this episode, Susan Lager deals with the seven most common mistakes couples make when trying to have productive conversations, especially about emotionally loaded topics. Based on her many years of experience as a couples therapist, she teaches listeners (in an "open microphone" format), some key 5-minute remedies for better clarity about intentions, improved listening, enhanced mutual understanding, and better problem solving. Callers are encouraged to share specific communication dilemmas they have with their partners, and will be guided through role-play "fixes". Call in and join the conversation with your own communication problem - you'll see you're not alone!
2011-07-141h 00
The Couplespeak™ Relationship ForumCouplespeak: Are Sex And Marriage Compatible Long-Term?Susan Lager, a psychotherapist and relationship coach, co-hosts this episode with Judith Rowan, PhD., a couples therapist, and highly sought certified sex therapist from Exeter, New Hampshire. With all the buzz in the media lately about Anthony Weiner's marital infidelity via "cyber sex", Arnold Schwarzenegger's "love child" with the housekeeper, (and the long, sad list of secret sexual escapades), one could be quite cynical about the possibility of marital and sexual bliss coexisting beyond the first few feverish months. The two therapists share their stories and insights about the prognosis for satisfying sex in marriage, given the predictable problems couples...
2011-06-161h 00The Couplespeak™ Relationship ForumOut Of Work, Not Out Of Options! A Couplespeak ViewSusan Lager, a psychotherapist and relationship coach, co-hosts this episode with David Gray, a career consultant, recruiter, and former HR director for companies such as Lindt Chocolate and Lonza Biologics. Together they explore the unemployment dilemma faced by hundreds of thousands of Americans, how to stay afloat, and be smart about generating opportunities daily. Also addressed is the issue of impact on family, and how the loss of a job, particularly in midlife, can wreak havoc on one's self esteem. Strategies for maintaining work options, as well as hope and healthy identity are explored. This show is a must for...
2011-06-021h 00
The Couplespeak™ Relationship ForumSane Divorce - Yes, You Do Have Choices!Susan Lager, a psychotherapist and relationship coach, co-hosts this episode with Honey Hastings, an innovative attorney, mediator, and co-founder of the Collaborative Law Alliance of New Hampshire. Hastings, who no longer does litigation, is the author of The NewHampshire Divorce Handbook, http://www.nhdivorcehandbook.com/, and has been a key figure in the movement to facilitate more conciliatory divorces, helping partners to avoid the potential wreckage of ending their marriages contentiously. The show focuses on the unique aspects and benefits of the collaborative approach, and the choices partners have as they move toward a split. Anyone facing a divorce would do...
2011-05-191h 00
The Couplespeak™ Relationship ForumThe Couplespeak Top 10 Marital Copouts Of All TimeSusan Lager, a psychotherapist and relationship coach, talks about the creative and convincing excuses spouses use to let themselves off the hook in their marriages. Extracted from many years of working with couples, she elaborates on "the big ten" outrageous and often comical things partners say to each other, as code for not wanting to be held responsible. Anyone in a marriage or committed partnership will surely recognize the "game", and the "moves" played out in their own living room!
2011-05-0545 min
The Couplespeak™ Relationship ForumCouplespeak: Create The Life You LoveSusan Lager, a psychotherapist and relationship coach, co-hosts this episode with Barbara Hofmeister, renowned international motivational speaker, and author of the bestselling book, "To Be Or Not To Be - The Choice Is Yours". (ASIN# 3941164023) Together they discuss the issue of personal responsibility in making dreams come true, exploring how and why people move toward happier, more meaningful lives, or not. They share insights and stories about this topic from their professional, as well as their personal experiences, living worlds apart in different cultures. Tune in to laugh a lot, and learn a lot from these two women who have...
2011-04-2059 minThe Couplespeak™ Relationship ForumTuneup And Oil Change - Keeping Marriages HealthySusan Lager, a psychotherapist and relationship coach co-hosts this episode with Sergio Pirrotta, Ed.D., a charismatic Massachusetts psychologist who works his magic with couples whose problems often seem unresolvable to other therapists. Pirrotta, who has trained many therapists in the Northeast, shares his insights and compelling stories about the attitudes and behaviors which foster happier, more vibrant partnerships. Stay tuned for tools to make your relationship a "well oiled machine", not a clunker!
2011-04-071h 00The Couplespeak™ Relationship ForumCouples In Business: What's Love Got To Do With It?Susan Lager, a psychotherapist and relationship coach, co-hosts this show with Everett Moitoza, Ed.D., MBA, an irrepressible psychologist / business consultant who specializes in working with couples and families in business together. The unique benefits, as well as the hair-raising challenges of balancing the demands of the "cash cow" with family ties, are explored in this show. The intrepid Moitoza shares his compelling stories, and sheds light on a specialty practice not suited for the faint of heart. Stay tuned!
2011-03-241h 01The Couplespeak™ Relationship ForumCouplespeak: Don't Worry Be Happy With Positive Psychology!Susan Lager, a psychotherapist and relationship coach, co-hosts this show with Kirke Olson, Psy.D., and Sher Kamman, Psy.D., two talented psychologists, who are partners at The Positivity Company, where they have teamed up in earnest, to apply the science of positive psychology, interpersonal neurobiology and mindfulness, to empower clients to "live their passions and strengths." This dynamic duo sheds light on the principles and tools useful in moving away from a "problem" orientation, so prevalent in various cultures, to one of happiness. Mission Possible: one by one, the creation of a more positive world! Stand by.................
2011-03-101h 00The Couplespeak™ Relationship ForumChill Out! Easy Mind-Body Tools To Beat StressSusan Lager, a psychotherapist and relationship coach, co-hosts this show with Katherine Frick, LICSW, a gifted, and unconventional psychotherapist in Portsmouth, New Hampshire, specializing in Mind-body therapy to manage stress and anxiety. Together they discuss the unique benefits of these therapeutic tools, along with the use of humor, to calm the brain, and enhance the relaxation response. Individuals and couples will learn how to use these techniques to make daily life a less harrowing, lighter ride.
2011-02-241h 00The Couplespeak™ Relationship ForumUncover The Truth - Hire A Private Investigator......Susan Lager, a psychotherapist and relationship coach, co-hosts this show with Frank Santin, a private investigator who has been a key resource for spouses, and high profile attorneys in major criminal and family law cases in New Hampshire for many years. The show focuses on: When and why it might be considered reasonable to use an investigator to get underneath a partner's secrets? How do P.I's get their information? What are the dangers and drawbacks in resorting to this measure? Can relationships survive discovering "the truth" this way? This episode should be VERY interesting!............
2011-02-101h 00The Couplespeak™ Relationship ForumAvoid Money Wars In Your Marriage. A Couplespeak ExplorationSusan Lager, a psychotherapist and relationship coach, co-hosts this show with Gene Leone, CPA, a partner in a prominent accounting firm in Wolfeboro, New Hampshire. Together they discuss how money, either lots of it, or a lack of it, can color marriages. Leone shares his insights about how he has seen the different ways couples team up in managing money either productively or disastrously. The psychotherapist and the accountant explore the power issues that often get played out, not only within lasting marriages, but also in the process of divorce, and how the "almighty buck" can be the source of...
2011-01-2745 minThe Couplespeak™ Relationship ForumSisters - The Good, The Bad, And The In- BetweenSusan Lager, a psychotherapist and relationship coach, explores the issues sisters deal with, as she co-hosts with her own two sisters, all three, very lively and outspoken women living world's apart in NYC, Florida, and Maine. The show focuses on the ups and downs sisters often face, including competition for attention, very different choices in life, secrets, and sometimes contradictory experiences of the same two parents. These funny, often irreverent sisters also discuss the issue of birth order and family scripts, and the effect on each of their lives. Anyone with a sister or two, or three will find this...
2011-01-131h 00The Couplespeak™ Relationship ForumCouplespeak: Radically Raise Your Relationship IQ In 2011Are you having communication problems in your marriage? Don't know how to avoid showdowns with your closest friend? Are you feeling taken for granted by your lover? Do you want to know how to have much better relationships? Using tools derived from concepts of couples therapy and relationship coaching, learn about key attitudes and behaviors which will help you get along better in your marriage with your husband or your wife, with your lover, your friends, your coworkers, and your neurotic family members. Start the new year off with a bang, and get "smarter" in all your key relationships.
2010-12-3130 min