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Not For Everyone103. WHATADO: Embracing Where You Are While Pursuing More in 2025Get up to 10 FREE meals and a free high protein item for life at https://hellofresh.com/notforeveryone10fm.
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Happy New Year, kooks! This week, Jess and Caroline discuss a few listener WHATADOs that revolve around goals for 2025. Think finding the right motivation, working through emotional dysregulation, starting a side hustle, and making peace with being single.
But of course, they talk about a few pet peeves first: New Years itself, hairbands on people’s wrists, and smartphones. This episode is for you if you struggle with your “why,” need help balancing your work go...2025-01-021h 24Not For Everyone94. Love Letter: Getting Honest With Yourself, Compromising on Kids, and Ranking PotatoesVisit skims.com and let them know we sent you! Select Not For Everyone after checkout.
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This week the lover is alone in a hotel room with the sniffles, and she just needs a little bit of self care time. Away from the stressors of home ownership and work dinners, it's just her and your topic submissions tonight.
First, a WHATADO on setting boundaries with parents - which Jess decides to treat as an opportunity to challenge the listener in question. Sure sure, boundaries shmoundaries, but are you being honest with yourself? The proj...2024-10-1752 minNot For Everyone93. Not for Fireworks + What to Say to Your Friend in a Toxic RelationshipThis episode is sponsored by Zocdoc. Go to https://www.zocdoc.com/notforeveryone/ to try it today.
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This is an episode of complaints, and it starts out with a new long-titled segment about places where people are not allowed to take videos, lest they suffer Caroline’s wrath. Jess chimes in with Instagram stories that are not allowed, and then the pair wonder together why more women don’t name children after themselves.
Then, a listener WHATADO about how to work with a friend who can’t stop talking about their toxic relationship. What’s the...2024-10-101h 10Not For Everyone91. WHATADO: Workplace Woes + Corporate ChaosAnyone else feeling lost when it comes to their career? Well, lucky for you, Jess and Caroline know just WHATADO. The duo cover how much to sacrifice when trying to change careers, coworkers who don’t work and complain anyway, how to deal with a loss of passion, interview strategies, and how to know when it’s time to move on.
Plus, Jess confesses to a mistake made on Slack, and Caroline has a hot take about eating in the shower. Best of all, this recording was done in person, and there sure was an animal attack righ...2024-09-2657 minNot For Everyone90. Not For Abandoning Yourself + Mastering Emotional BoundariesVisit skims.com and let them know we sent you! Select Not For Everyone after checkout.
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People with sleep issues, raise your hands! Jess and Caroline talk all things sleep, from weird and wild Zoloft dreams to their insomniac partners to a new life-changing sleep schedule. This leads to a deeper conversation about dealing with their own discomfort when it comes to other people’s pain.
Then, a WHATADO: how do you handle a friendship breakup with someone you aren’t ac...2024-09-191h 20Not For Everyone88. Not for Internet Sleuthing + “Once a Cheater, Always a Cheater”Get up to 40% off at cozyearth.com/notforeveryone. Use code NOTFOREVERYONE.
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After the long weekend, Jess and Caroline have important business to cover. They’re circling back on the F/M/K situation from last week (with new, helpful info!), on Jess’s difficult conversation, and on Jess’s hack for saving money. But that’s not all on this assortment of matters: they also discuss weird baby names, mispronunciations, and why moving sucks so bad.
But it’s not over yet! Caroline has done some internet sleuthing and she has a report ready for...2024-09-051h 16Not For Everyone87. Not for Living in Fear + How to Have That Difficult ConversationShop now at https://skims.com/. After you place your order, be sure to let them know we sent you! Select "podcast" in the survey and be sure to select our show in the dropdown menu that follows.
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Anyone else feeling wormy? Jess and Caroline are, but that doesn’t stop them from going hard off the bat on a WHATADO about a listener’s boyfriend and best friend hanging out way too much. They discuss what setting boundaries really means, embracing anger, and knowing there will be discomfort when you say what you need.
Af...2024-08-291h 18Not For Everyone84. Not for Flirty Husbands + The Best Part About Asking for HelpThis episode is sponsored by Zocdoc. Go to https://www.zocdoc.com/notforeveryone/ to try it today.
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Your fav duo is back and more upset about things than ever. A WHATADO about a husband being too flirty with friends leads Jess and Caroline to discussions about gray areas in asking people out, partners hanging out with people of the opposite sex, and the difference between conversations and ultimatums. They might even rethink their initial stances on this one.
Plus, a new fable, “How the Mean Man at the Gym Became a Sweetie Pie,” has...2024-08-081h 18Not For Everyone80. Not for Eye Contact + Stop Chasing the First Date SparkIn today’s episode, we’ve got just about every Segment™ in the book for you. Jess and Caroline’s scientific minds put together a theory on attractiveness, a reason we say “you know?” so much, and a realistic take on disappointing people. Also, there’s a NEW segment, folks: Lady Snapple Facts, the first of which brings an often forgotten revelation about wearing skirts in public.
Plus, a WHATADO: let’s say the first date was great, sparks flying, humor matching, conversation flowing...and then the second feels like a big swing and a miss. Jess and Caroline hav...2024-07-041h 06Not For Everyone79. Hater Hour: Deep Friendship Betrayal, Manipulative People, and Getting ClosureThis episode is sponsored by Zocdoc. Go to zocdoc.com/notforeveryone/ to try it today.
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It’s Hater Hour, kooks—and Caroline is ready to bear it all. She jumps into a WHATADO about a deep friend betrayal: can they make it right? Or do you have to cut your losses? Caroline shares first hand examples of similar situations, offers some ideas for helping friends who are in manipulative situations, and tells us how to identify signs that yo...2024-06-271h 16Not For Everyone77. WHATADO: Flaky Friends + The Lie We Tell About Work/Life BalanceWe know you’ve been wondering what to do lately, and we’re here to deliver. Get ready to dive into some friendship-related WHATADOS: how to handle that flaky bff, what it means to cling to the idea of someone, tips for hosting old friends, and strategies for helping a friend stop talking about their ex.
But first, let’s talk work troubles. What does it mean to actually like your job, and to want to put effort into it? And how can you give yourself a break when you’re aiming to be the best at what y...2024-06-131h 12Not For Everyone76. Not for Chafing + Perfectionism is Making Your Relationship HarderIt’s summer, ya kooks! Except…is it? Caroline and Jess debate when summer actually begins before launching into a WHATADO: how to dress for summer when you’re a curvy honey. Personal style is the conundrum that will never die. They cover wearing color, anti-chafing tips, and their mother’s thoughts on their changing bodies.
Plus, Jess has a relationship realization worth a deep dive: how to handle the emotional onslaught you feel after getting critical feedback from a very steady, rational partner. The two decipher the difference between feeling disconnected and feeling out of sync, and follo...2024-06-061h 10Not For Everyone73. Beauty Hot Takes + Reframing Your Professional Path with YouTuber Alexandra AneleThis week Jess and Caroline sit down to record together live in LA, where they are joined in studio by a very special guest: Alexandra Anele! Alex is a talented makeup artist, content creator, dedicated NFE listener, and Caroline’s first YouTube friend – so it was a delight to have her on to share tips and hot takes on all things beauty and personal style.
But it’s not all makeup and beauty; the crew also ruminates together on if you can have a career in social media without losing your mind. Naturally. Plus, we’ve got a complai...2024-05-161h 29Not For Everyone61. Hater Hour: How to Survive Your Anxiety + WHATADO One-Sided FriendshipsIn a solo recording, Caroline opens up about the big thing she has been avoiding talking about on the podcast - including the tips and tools for surviving the worst of your anxiety.
She also responds to a listener WHATADO about what to do when you find yourself stuck in a one-sided friendship, with major boundary violations and messy complications.
Various Trader Joes reflections included.
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[Book] The Power of Off: The...2024-02-221h 05Not For Everyone60. WHATADO: Friends with Benefits, Boundaries with Your Boss, and Wedding SeasonIt’s everybody’s favorite time: when Jess and Caroline give non-expert advice on a wide array of topics. This time, listeners wrote in with a friends-with-benefits conundrum, workplace boundary issues, and the problem with an influx of wedding invitations.
Plus, find out who has the softest butt around, if going to therapy equals enlightenment, and why the heck we wash our towels. Hope this helps guide you in your life—and if not, we can’t be held liable. Kisses!
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This episode was produced by none other than our prince, Abi Newhouse. DM her for your a...2024-02-151h 15Not For Everyone55. Jess Thots: Ins and Outs for 2024 + Less Mothering More MommyingJoin a sick Jess on the couch as she cozies up to our first episode recorded in the new year. She kicks off with her list of ins and outs for 2024, which turns into an aspirational sort of roast that points blame at everyone except her.
Next, she takes on a couple listener-submitted questions: first, Whatado when you feel like a mother to your partner, and then a question that only felt right to answer with a special guest - her boyfriend.
This edition of Jess Thots ends with her best attempt at a speed...2024-01-1152 minNot For Everyone54. WHATADO: Breakups, Hookups, and Burning It All DownIt’s Whatado time—and this time Jess and Caroline host an unexpected theme: all things dating. They discuss how to let him down easy, how to hook up when you’re living alone, and what to do when it seems like everyone except you is finding love.
Plus, a Hot Take turned Whatado: when should you burn it all down? Get a peak into what Jess and Caroline talk about off the pod, too, with a fun conversation about the perils and disappearances of beloved YouTubers, leading into a conversation about why we love other people’s slow na...2024-01-041h 10Not For Everyone45. WHATADO: Overcoming Creative Fear, Fixing Your Partner, and Dirty TalkThe creative well has been dry as ever lately, but that's where you kooks come in, with another episode of listener-submitted questions or WHATADOs. We don't know what you should do, but we're not apologizing for this potentially bad advice either.
First, how to deal with a partner who can't stop complaining about their job but doesn't want to do anything about it. Misery loves company and your energy is probably better spent not enabling this endless loop. Then, a quick comment on how to handle feelings of spite, and a deep dive into the world of...2023-10-201h 08Not For Everyone33. WHATADO: Spicing Up Your Relationship, Being the Single Friend, and Texting the Ex HBDWHATADOS are back, and though Jess and Caroline are physically falling apart and can't agree about hair removal strategies, their non-advice to the kooks is ready to rage.
First up, keeping the fire alive in a long-term relationship - including asking for what you want (both directly and indirectly) and evaluating your sex life for signs of disconnection. Speaking of sex life, "whatado: eye contact giving head" is one of the best questions (if it can be considered a question) that we've ever received. Plus, why texting your ex happy birthday is always self-serving, and how to...2023-07-271h 00Not For Everyone20. WHATADO: Vanity, Trust Issues, and Spreading 'EmThis week Caroline and Jess are recording TOGETHER IN THE FLESH, and you'll hear our excitement right away. Yes, we know the sound quality suffered our first time with an in-person setup, but that's why 1) we're constantly saying we're not professionals and 2) our full episodes are posted on YouTube. If you stick around here though, we appreciate you, and we recommend you listen without headphones this week. Take in the chaos while driving or showering or cleaning the house. Force your roommate or partner to listen with you. Or kick out your kids for some solo NFE time.
2023-04-201h 02Not For Everyone11. WHATADO: Draining Friendships and Lukewarm AttractionIt's the moment we've all been waiting for - the return of the WHATADO. This time, Jess and Caroline spend nearly an entire episode responding to listener submitted scenarios, from "whatado when your friend treats you like their therapist" to "whatado when you're not sexually attracted to the great guy you're dating" and more. We talk about setting boundaries, the elusive spark, then go into a rapid fire segment where Jess asks Caroline to respond to a few more whatados that she hadn't seen prior (spoiler: this was in no way rapid, but boy was it fiery).
W...2023-02-161h 00Not For Everyone7. Not for Matching EnergiesJess and Caroline show up to this recording with different energies, so we turn to a listener DM and strike gold when Jess fumbles her words into a new segment called WHATADO. Whatado when you don't like your friend's partner? We don't know *what to do* but we certainly can list all the options of ~whatado~
Caroline also poses a genuine question, "what is DJ?" Jess talks about a recent #fleetingfixation that she'll be bored of next week, Caroline gives an update on "stupid ways she's growing" (hint: it has to do with her hatred of texting...2023-01-191h 06
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