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Why aren’t we talking about thisWhy aren't we talking about this: Other peoples opinionsEverywhere you turn there’s judgement - do less, do more, be thinner, be softer, be stronger, be quieter, be grateful, be better. Society hands women a script and calls it choice, and we follow it: staying in careers that drain us, making life decisions to avoid criticism, having children or not having them based on what will be easiest to explain. At this point, so many of our choices aren’t even ours anymore; they’re crowd-sourced, pre-approved, run past everyone else before we dare to trust them ourselves. We don’t listen to what we want; we listen t...
2026-02-2636 min
Why aren’t we talking about thisWhy aren’t we talking about this: The messiness of griefGrief. There is no one way to do it.
And yet, when you’re in the thick of it, it’s so easy to feel like you’re getting it wrong - too much, too little, too emotional, too functional. Carrying on when you think you shouldn’t. Falling apart when you think you should be coping better.
Grief is messy. Layered. Multifaceted. No two versions look the same.
And the feelings it surfaces are often not the ones you expected - sometimes not even ones you knew you were carrying.
It isn’t...
2026-02-1932 min
Why aren’t we talking about thisWhy aren’t we talking about this: Male InfertilityInfertility is a complex topic. And while conversations and support around it have come a long way in the 9 years since I went through IVF, there’s still one side that remains largely closed off. Male infertility.
It’s often framed clinically. Numbers. Tests. Procedures. Analysis.
But emotionally, it hits something much deeper.
For many men, fertility is tangled up with identity. We live in a culture shaped by toxic masculinity- one that links a man’s value to strength, competence, and legacy. Virility becomes a marker of worth. Of power. Of being “enough.”...
2026-02-1231 min
Why aren’t we talking about thisWhy aren't we talking about this: The basics of nutritionWe live in a world overflowing with health advice. Protocols. Hacks. Blueprints for the “perfect” routine. Everyone seems to have a plan, a stack, a morning routine that promises optimisation and longevity.
And yet, most of us (and I raise my hand here) are still exhausted, disconnected, inflamed, wired, under-fed, over-stimulated, under-rested.
We’re not short on information. We’re short on self-knowledge.
Somehow, the most unsexy, foundational elements of health have become the most neglected:Sleep. Hydration. Light. Movement. Food. Rest. Nervous system safety.
We know them. We talk about them. We...
2026-02-0546 min
Why aren’t we talking about thisWhy aren't we talking about this: Mid life pivotI’d guess around 70-80% of people are somewhat miserable in their jobs.
Many have done well - climbed the ladder, earned the big title, but sit there day after day, quietly hating everything about it.
Dreaming of a slower pace. Of finally exploring the hobby that makes them feel alive. Of that startup idea they can’t stop thinking about; the one they’re convinced could change everything.
But most of them won’t do anything about it. They’ll spend the next 20 years in the same roles they once thought were a good idea...
2026-01-3030 min
Why aren’t we talking about thisWhy aren't we talking about this: Death“Grieving people don’t need wise words. They need lasagna.”
Death. It happens to all of us - and to everyone we love - but no one wants to talk about it.
In Western society, death is hidden away. Out of sight. Out of polite conversation. As a result, many of us simply don’t have the language to talk about it.
Several of my dear friends have recently had loved ones die, and I find myself not knowing what to say. And then the worse thing happens, I say nothing at all.
And...
2026-01-2232 min
Why aren’t we talking about thisWhy aren't we talking about this: the BIG questionTwo weeks into 2026, the resolutions are in the bin, the fresh faced unstoppable January energy has faded, and you are now right back in the treadmill of life. Plodding on, doing the same old thing.
But, what if, instead, you paused for a second and asked yourself this important question 'will I give these people one more year of my life?'. This can apply to work, but it can also apply to friendships and relationships.
In todays conversation with Richard Robinson we talk about what happens if the answer is no, what can you...
2026-01-1534 min
Why aren’t we talking about thisWhy aren't we talking about this: Grief at XmasChristmas is supposed to be all twinkly lights and joy and chaotic family WhatsApps… but for a lot of people, it’s also the time when grief hits the hardest. The quiet moments get louder. The empty chair feels bigger.
According to YouGov research for Co-op Funeral Care, 13 million people in the UK who’ve recently lost someone are struggling with loneliness and their mental health this Christmas. Thirteen million. It’s a reminder that grief doesn’t pause just because everyone else is wearing matching pyjamas and drinking mulled wine.
So this is for any...
2025-12-1134 min
Why aren’t we talking about thisWhy aren't we talking about this: sobriety and funI’ve been sober for almost three years now- after a long, grey relationship with alcohol. One that swung between binging and self-loathing. Eventually, the morning-after anxiety just became too much, and I gave up drinking.
I don’t know what I was expecting, but it wasn’t the full-blown reckoning that followed. I hadn’t realised how much of my life was centred around alcohol. Celebrate something? Have a drink. Bad day? Have a drink. Out and about? Let’s get another bottle.
So much of my identity, my fun, my freedom, even my friendships...
2025-12-0432 min
Why aren’t we talking about thisWhy aren't we talking about this: Breast DensityA passing comment at an ultrasound, that I didn’t think anything of to sitting in a conference room years later, going into a full state of panic. Dense breasts. Not a term that I knew anything about, yet, having them increases my chance of getting breast cancer 4-6X, AND breast cancer within dense breasts is often undetectable within regular mammograms, putting women with dense breasts at even higher risk.
Breast Cancer is something that is very present in my life today, with a number of very dear friends having been diagnosed in the last few ye...
2025-11-2635 min
Why aren’t we talking about thisWhy aren't we talking about this: GLP-1sGLP-1s are everywhere- whispered at school gates, dissected on Reddit at 2am, dropped casually into brunch chat like everyone suddenly got a medical degree. A year ago most of us had never heard the term. Now it’s Hollywood’s worst-kept secret, the NHS’s newest headache, and the quiet pressure sitting behind half the conversations women have about their bodies.
But beneath the glossy “skinny reveal” culture and celebrity confessions lies a far messier truth. one nobody seems willing to say out loud.
On this week’s episode of Why Aren’t We Talking About...
2025-11-1935 min
Why aren’t we talking about thisWhy aren't we talking about this: RedundancyWhen it happened to me, coming up to 5 years ago, I was mortified. Humiliated even. How could it happen to me. I was the person who worked hard, was focused delivered, and yet the business no longer wanted me. Enter shame spiral. I had equated my self worth with my job title.
According to studies 44% of people will get made redundant at som point of their careers, yet despite the likelihood of this happening, redundancy is still shrouded in shame and embarrassment.
This weeks ‘Why aren’t we talking about this’ episode with Jarrod Cocksedge is talk...
2025-11-1244 min
Why aren’t we talking about thisWhy aren't we talking about this: IntuitionIntuition. I would say mine's pretty strong- whether I actually listen to it is another story.
In today’s episode, I talk with Sim Stevens about intuition: how it looks, how it feels, and how to tell when it’s really intuition talking.
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Why Aren’t We Talking About This? is a series of honest conversations about the stuff we rarely discuss but probably should - big feelings, weird thoughts, life, death, and all the messy, beautiful parts of being human.
Hosted by me, Carly Osman-Holme, on a quest to dodge...
2025-11-0523 min