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Your Ni DomEmotional MaturityIn this reflection I consider my emotional maturity as relating to new information.
Supporting themes: Emotional denial; Mapping vs pairing of MBTI and the Enneagram; Nature vs nurture; Genetics; Birth order; Paternal vs maternal care; Baby mama drama; A season of heart work; The intersections of instinct and emotions (as a rational being); Cognitive, social, emotional and romantic orientations; Trust and safety; Vulnerability: Experiencing trauma and the storage of trauma.
This reflection was influenced in part by 1) Dr. Beatrice Chestnut ("The Complete Enneagram"); 2) Pastor Tom ( "Type Eight Checklist" on YouTube); and 3) Personality Path ("How Each Type Experiences the Core Three...2025-06-151h 29Your Ni DomPersonalityIn this reflection I consider personality as stable (or not) and I consider it as real (or not). In other words, it's complicated. Supporting themes: Sexual orientation; Cognitive orientation; Social orientation; Emotions; Language; Human evolution; Trauma and Subjectivity; Predatory behavior; Defensive behavior; Achievement, competition and materialism; Class and neighborhoods Special note 1: This reflection was influenced in part by Enneagram 2.0 (a podcast) and Personality Hacker (a second podcast). Special note 2: This reflection has two parts: a) In the first 30 minutes I talk about the hosts from the two podcasts mentioned above; and b) The rest of the reflection is where...2025-06-091h 29Your Ni DomHousing, Growth and Balancein this reflection I talk about personal growth as relating to housing and work life balance.
Trigger warning: I do a little crying. Listen with care.
Typology: Dominant Ni and inferior Se.2025-06-011h 29Your Ni DomBeing Both AndIn this reflection, I explore and embrace personality contradictions.
Note: This file has been reloaded (it had been removed for a few hours). It is now active.
Typology: INTJ8; Ni/Te; Ni/Si; Being a friendly Type 8
2025-05-301h 28Your Ni DomSpirit, Growth and the TunnelIn this reflection I give an update on my housing journey as a spiritual experience. Supporting themes: Priorities conflict; Childhood discomforts becoming adult discomforts; Proof of Income; House vs. apartment; Midwifing friends; A tunnel vs a birth canal. Special notes: 1. I ran out of time. Go to my YouTube account to hear what was left out. 2. It took me 50 minutes to really get into the pocket of this reflection. Typology: INTJ; Te; Fi.
2025-05-241h 30Your Ni DomThe HouseIn this reflection I process a literal and figurative battle I have had with housing.
Supporting themes: Self-actualization; Systems theory; Scapegoating; Genius, greatness and impact.
Typology: INTJ82025-05-111h 22Your Ni DomThe GameIn this reflection I explore several themes that link to us possibly being in a simulator (a video game). Supporting themes: Tertiary-Fi (deleted from last week's recording); The unconsciousness of introverted intuition; Relating to and reconciling the good and bad within our parents. My INTJ sister's dilemma of being both effective and expansive; Self actualization as achievable (or not); Kendrick Lamar and Samuel L Jackson's half time message-- "deduct one life." Typology: NI,Te; Fi; INTJ; Type 8.
2025-05-111h 29Your Ni DomObjects are Closer than They AppearIn this reflection I consider the uncontrollable aspects of tertiary-Fi. Supporting themes: Metta processing of the nail and the grenade; Imagining, pursuing and negotiating your best life;
Special Note: Only 39 minutes (of 90) were captured in the recording.
Content lost: The politics of race; The N- word; Leadership subordination and hierarchies; Rational and irrational feelings.
Typology: Ni, Te and Fi; Ni and Se; Te and Fi; Tertiary Fi and Tertiary-Fi.
2025-05-041h 29Your Ni DomNail, Tunnel, Grenade and ResurrectionIn this reflection I consider the ways schemas have kept me from my next level.
Supporting themes: Spirituality; Struggling; Faith; Entrepreneurship; Maturity; Sibling bonding.
This reflection was influenced in part by Kenneth Bordens & Irwin Horowitz ("Social Psychology").
Typology: INTJ8 and INTJ5; INFJ; Ni-domness 2025-04-271h 29Your Ni DomThree M’sI end this reflection considering three M's: Masterminding, Models, and One Minute Acts of Manifesting. However, the bulk of the reflection is me interrogating myself as a masterminder (because I gotta little bit of imposter syndrome happening). Supporting themes: Strategy; Envisioning; Ambition; Calibrating; Grief; Death of parents; Motivation; Neurodivergence. Special Note 1: This reflection was inspired in part by Isabel Briggs Meyers ("Gifts Differing"). Special Note 2: I differentiate between three levels of masterminding; lowercase, uppercase, and all caps. Typology: Ni-domness; INTJ; INFJ; Te; Enneagram 8.
2025-04-131h 30Your Ni DomLoop or LifestyleIn this reflection I consider survival, growth and impact (areas of self actualization) to understand a loop that could very well be my life.
Supporting themes: Mastermind; Ground Zero; Instinct; Possessions; Stress; Business; Grants; Employment; Being over qualified; Sex and dating; Solo living; Disrupting social norms.
This reflection was influenced in part by Dr. Beatrice Chestnut ("The Complete Enneagram").
Typology: The Eight Instincts; Sexual, Self Preservation and Social; INTJ8.
2025-04-061h 29Your Ni DomMidwifingIn this reflection I talk about midwifing as an act of intimacy. Note:
This is part of a series of events I'm calling a "pivotal moment." Supporting themes: Friendship levels; Empathy and emotional support; Type 8-Possession; Direction of care and reciprocity; Self worth and self respect.
This reflection was influenced in part by Dr. Beatrice Chestnut ("The Complete Enneagram").
Typology: Enneagram 4; Enneagram 2; Enneagram 8; Enneagram 5; Enneagram 3; INTJ8.
2025-03-301h 29Your Ni DomWhat? So What? Now What?In this reflection, I end with understanding the ways woundedness has impacted the way I do intimacy and the actions I plan to take as a result.
Supporting themes: Theories; Neurodivergence; Giftedness; Enneagram tritype; Intimacy; Vulnerability; Families; Inclusion and exclusion; Rejection; Solo living; Therapy; An overt no vs a covert no.
Typology: Enneagram 853; Enneagram 854; Enneagram 852; INTJ8 2025-03-231h 29Your Ni DomLipstickIn this reflection I circle back to my therapist and analyze why. I also recognize my friends' reaction.
Supporting themes: Giftedness and neurodivergency; Mama trauma; Hidden (covert) aggression; Projection.
This reflection was influenced in part by Lynne Azpeitia, M.A. and Mary Rocamora, M.A. (Misdiagnoses of the Gifted") and Beatrice Chestnut ("The Complete Enneagram").
Typology: Type 8; Type 6; Enneagram Instincts and Subtypes.
2025-03-161h 29Your Ni DomLifestyleIn this reflection I qualitatively consider lifestyle nuances to being an INTJ Social'Subtype 8.
Supporting themes: Money, Cache and Creativity (main themes); Qualitative research; Multiple selves vs a single self; Leadership; Entrepreneurship; Legal services; Emotional resources; Memory and learning; Long and short term storage.
Note 1: This reflection was inspired in part by Robert C. Bogdan and Sari Knopp Biklen ("Qualitative Research for Education" p. 43).
Note 2: There is no assignment to this reflection because I hope to record a Part 2 first.
Typology: Te; Type 8- Social; Type 8- Sex...2025-03-161h 29Your Ni DomThe ConundrumIn this reflection I confront the conundrum of living in a world in which I have been masking.
Supporting themes: Giftedness, Excitability; Sensitivity; Adultism; Student agency; Mediocrity; Neurotypical behaviors.
Typology: INTJ; Type 1; Type 82025-03-091h 29Your Ni DomBorn this WayIn this reflection I talk about who I naturally am in oppressive spaces.
Main themes: Group characteristics; Being a Social 8.
This reflection was influenced in part by Kenneth Bordens & Irwin Horowitz ("Social Psychology") and Beatrice Chestnut ("The Complete Enneagram").
Typology: INTJ8 2025-03-031h 29Your Ni DomNeurodiversity and TraumaIn this reflection I consider neurodiversity and trauma.
Main themes: Stressors for Enneagram Type 8; Intimidation; and Aggression.
Special note: I read from three articles (mainly in the last 30 minutes). Those articles will be shared on my Substack (Your Ni Dom).
Additional themes: Authenticity; Vulnerability; Intimacy; Fighting; Sibling conflict; Business development and job interviews.
Typology: Ni simulation; Te- dominance; Fi/Fe- feelings; Enneagram Type 82025-02-231h 29Your Ni DomSidewaysIn this reflection I use two events to showcase what happens when indirect emotions come out sideways. Supporting themes: Kendrick Lamar and Drake; Unmet friendship needs; Primary and secondary emotions; Super Bowl and political art; Racial diversity and divides; Biracial vs mono-racial; Rap wars (cultural vs structural); Speeding and driving tickets; Astrology and the fire signs. Typology: INTJ8; Types 8, 9 and 1 as the anger cluster.
2025-02-131h 29Your Ni DomMetaphysicsIn this reflection I consider two different realities... one governed by the material world and the other governed by my imagination.
Supporting themes: Beyonce; Grammy's; Genre; Being black and female; Business development; Entrepreneurship; Talent; Recruitment; Manipulation; Job searching; Leadership.
Typology: Ni; Te; Fi; Fe; Ti2025-02-101h 13Your Ni DomParadoxIn this reflection I talk about January as a push to recognize and reconcile the paradox of me.
Supporting themes: Being public and being private; Being connected to money and being unconnected to money; Being playful and being productive; Being scientific and being spiritual. Podcast 1 and Podcast 2; Neurodivergence giftedness autism and ADHD; Clairvoyance; Scapegoat impact; Yournidom becoming more than just a podcast.
Special note: I'm doing a lot of data dumping from January (because I was on a break). Welcome to Season 10! :)
Typology: INTJ8; Te and Fi; Fe and Ti.2025-02-021h 29Your Ni DomBecoming Consciousin this reflection I become conscious of my personal growth as relating to personal worth. I also talk about my intentions for the new year.
Typology: Enneagram 8; Te; Fi2025-01-011h 29Your Ni DomMore ScapegoatingIn this reflection I confront a continued reality about scapegoating (particularly around the next generation).
Supporting themes: Dominance; Creativity; Self discovery; Family power dynamics; Self gaslighting; Exclusion; Harm; Family values.
Typology: Enneagram Type Eight- Social/ Self- Preservation. 2024-12-311h 30Your Ni DomBeyonceIn the second half of this reflection I talk about the ways Beyonce inspires me spiritually as a fellow Enneagram 8. However, the first half finds me talking about podcasting... technical challenges and new possibilities.
Supporting themes: Cell phones; Budgeting; Speaking; Listeners; Blackbird; Tanner Adell, Reyna Roberts, Brittney Spencer and Tiera Kennedy; Christmas halftime show; White and Black country music; Symbolism.
Typology: Ni-domness; Te; INTJ8. 2024-12-311h 28Your Ni DomThe Creative MeIn this reflection I explore my creativity as an essential and spiritual part of me. Supporting themes: Perspectives; SMART Goals, resolutions and intentions; The pandemic; Extroversion and introversion; Respect; Credibility; Credit score and the credit game; Employment and entrepreneurship; Vulnerability and dominance. Typology: Ni and Te; INTJ; ENTP
2024-12-301h 29Your Ni DomPerspectivesSpecial note: There are a few technical challenges. The episode abruptly ends around Minute 41.
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In this reflection I explore "perspectives" as a theme as I discuss "loss" and "discovery." Supporting themes: Space and Voyager 1; Beyoncé, half-time performance, Blackbird and justice; Leadership; Student discipline; Calibrating Ground Zero; Analyzing emotions; Interviewing; Faith and Spirituality. Typology: INTJ; Enneagram Eight; Fe; Si
2024-12-271h 29Your Ni DomUnexpected GrowthIn this episode I contend with two areas of unexpected growth: liking myself and trusting myself. Supporting themes: Parents and our sense of self; Parents and our sense of love; Loyalty; Guilt; the Death of my person; Broken love narratives and intimacy; Therapy; Employment and entrepreneurship; Yournidom and being in community. Special note: Three sources were referenced in this reflection: Social Psychology; The Complete Enneagram; and Personality Hacker. Typology: Ni-domness; Te and Fi; Traits of Enneagram Eight.
2024-12-221h 29Your Ni DomThe High-RiseIn this reflection I calibrate my vision of me-the-individual and me-the-institution.
Supporting themes: Employment and entrepreneurship; Executive leadership; Goal setting and strategizing; Structural security; Social- friends and social- romance; Choices and divine intervention.
Typology; INTJ and Enneagram Eight2024-12-081h 24Your Ni DomAuthenticity, Likeability, Vulnerability and IntimacyIn this reflection I start connecting the dots of my journey with authenticity, likeability, vulnerability and intimacy. Supporting themes: Therapy; Co- worker; Red Hat (and the Six Thinking Hats); Intellectual honesty; Passion; Patterns and meaning making; Social power and the matrix. Typology; INTJ8; NiTe; Healthy and unhealthy eight; Healthy and two.
2024-12-081h 29Your Ni DomIntimacy and the TeFi AxisIn this reflection I explore the intimate me as relating to my judging functions. I called this episode "Breathing" because I'm learning how to relax in the process of growing.
Supporting themes: Personality Hacker; Content engagement; Therapy; Race; Thanksgiving; Family; Six Thinking Hats; Introversion and intimacy.
Typology: INTJ; TeFi Axis; 2024-12-011h 29Your Ni DomAttachmentIn this reflection I consider two events as two sides of the same coin. In a hurried ending (because I ran out of time), I consider attachment as the unifying factor.
Supporting themes: Therapy; Family; Employment; Entrepreneurship; College; Thinking; Integrity.
Older episode reference: "The Abyss" (June 20, 2022).
Typology: Ni2024-11-201h 29Your Ni DomTeFi Maturity2024-11-171h 29Your Ni DomAmbivalenceIn this reflection I explore different areas in my life in which I'm ambivalent.
Supporting themes: NPR; Leadership; Power; Questioning and authority; Dating; Intimacy; Gender and Race; Ethnicity and nationality; Theories; Election2024; MAGA Republicans; Donald Trump; Kamala Harris; America and Black women; Foresight; Confidence and dominance.
Typology: INTP/ENTP; Enneagram 8; INTJ; Te/Fi conflict2024-11-111h 29Your Ni DomAuthenticity and StrengthIn this reflection I discover that my authenticity is tied to my strength (and my courage to be honest).
Supporting themes: Employment: Therapy; Family; Romance; Friendship; Entrepreneurship; Leadership; Conflict; Bodily freedom.
Typology: INTJ; Te and Fi.
2024-11-021h 29Your Ni DomThe Difficult but Right Thing to DoIn this reflection I finally accept the end of an era.
Supporting themes: Logical- mathematical intelligence; Being a thinker woman; Autism and Neurodivergency; Therapy; Pathologizing; Thinking and feeling; Directness, strategy and impact; Intellectual foreplay and compatibility.
Typology: INTJ and INFJ; Te vs. Fe; Ni. 2024-11-011h 29Your Ni DomIntimacy and VulnerabilityIn this reflection I discover cognition as being a key feature of my ability to be intimate and vulnerable.
Supporting themes: Thinking and analysis; Deep learning; Therapy; Facing; Work; Trust; Respect; Power; Harm; Maternal energy; White supremacy culture; Race; Hip Hop and Black suffering; Performing country music; Sex.
Typology: INTJ; Enneagram 8; Ni; Te; Fi.2024-10-201h 29Your Ni DomAuthentic GiftednessIn this reflection I consider the intersectional nature of giftedness, ni-domness, trauma, and education/ training.
Supporting Themes: Domestic Violence; Friendship; Work; Family; and Being social.
Typology: INTJ8
Note: This reflection was influenced in part by Howard Gardner ("The Theory of Multiple Intelligence.")2024-10-141h 29Your Ni DomMicro- Macro2024-10-061h 29Your Ni DomAn IllusionIn this reflection I question this thing called life as a possible distortion of something else (an illusion).
2024-10-021h 29Your Ni DomUnfixedIn this reflection I explore the self as situational (not stable) and consider where I want to land as the full me.
Supporting themes:Dr. Dario Nardi (64 subtypes); Dominance; Creativity; Normalizing; Harmonizing; Housing; Business; Masterminding; Safety and Control.
Typology: INTJ8 2024-09-151h 29Your Ni DomLove and PowerIn this reflection I consider love and power.
Supporting themes: Existential integration (relating to self actualization and this project); Sex; Trauma; Going no contact or low contact; Rebellion and revenge; Masculine and feminine energy; Family dynamics.
Supporting note: This reflection was influenced in part by Patrick Teahan and his community (adults recovering from childhood trauma).
Typology: Enneagram Type 8, 2 and 1; INTJ.2024-09-071h 29Your Ni DomIntimacy and the SelfIn this reflection I try to understand my personality in intimate spaces.
Supporting themes: Trauma; Sex; Gender; Work; Friendship; Masculinity and Femininity.
Typology: INTJ; INFP; INTP; Enneagram Types 8,5,3, 2 and 1.2024-09-071h 29Your Ni DomDominance and VulnerabilityIn this reflection I consider dominance and vulnerability.
Supporting themes: Self Preservation; Structural survival; Financial and medical wellness; Friendships; Family; Energy levels; Domestic violence; Entrepreneurship and employment.
Typology: Ni; Fi; Te; Enneagram Type 8.2024-08-261h 21Your Ni DomA Coconut TreeIn this reflection I consider my construction of love and being loveable within context.
Supporting themes: Survival; Prosperity; Being solo; Aging solo; Romance; Finance; Business; Home and hearth; Childhood and family trauma; Sisterhood; Donald Trump; Kamala Harris and her late mother.
Other episodes referenced: "Likeability;" and "The Spiral."
Typology: Enneagram Type 8; INTJ2024-08-251h 15Your Ni DomThe SpiralIn this reflection I use spiral curriculum principles to confront a major life decision.
Supporting themes: Location; Bloom's Taxonomy; teaching and learning; housing; employment; resignation; dating and romance; friends and social; leadership; survival; prosperity; low income learners; family divorce; self actualization.
This reflection was inspired in part by Alan Ornstein and Francis Hunkins ("Curriculum: Foundations; Principles; and Issues").
Typology: INTJ8 2024-08-171h 29Your Ni DomLikeabilityIn this reflection I contend with likeability as relating to friendliness, agreeableness and gender.
Supporting themes: Gender penalty; support groups; therapy; Intergenerational and childhood trauma.
This reflection was influenced in part by 1) Beatrice Chestnut ("The Complete Enneagram"); and 2) Leadership Mindset (Are you agreeable and likeable?").
Special note: There is a short segment of silence (90 seconds). I was trying to read from another app and my voice was cut off).
Typology: Enneagram Type 8 and 2; INTJ; ENTJ; INFP; ESFP; ISFP2024-08-131h 26Your Ni DomIn and BeyondI'm back from break and July was a pivotal month. I start Season 9 with some story telling about being in conflict and beyond.
Supporting themes: aweness; being social; inclusion and exclusion; conflict, communicating and fighting; expectations and accountability; trust and confidentiality; perception and the mind.
Typology; INTJ8; Te and Fi; Ni-domness.2024-08-031h 29Your Ni DomThe EclipseI close out the season (Season 8) by returning to shadow work. Supporting themes: Season 8 and growth; Support of my followers as I begin the grief process; Dating and vulnerability; Being invincible and resilient; Holiday blues; Wilful loneliness; Group care and group threats; Sibling rivalry; Self love and acceptance. This reflection was inspired in part by 1) Beatrice Chestnut ("The Complete Enneagram"); and 2) Your Ni Dom - "Shadow Work" (December 9, 2023). Typology: Type 8 Shadows; Type 5 Shadows; INTJ Extroversion via Te and Se.
2024-07-051h 29Your Ni DomDissociationIn this reflection I try to confront what my mind won't say.
Supporting themes: The body keeps score; BFF and friendships; Structures, business and social as three key pillars; Pathologies; Pain by proxy; Cults and narcissistic family structures; Outgrowing yourself and your old connections.
This reflection was influenced in part by WebMD ("What is Dissociation?").
Typology; INTJ; Type 82024-06-301h 29Your Ni DomDealing with Trauma in Your Cognitive FunctionsIn this reflection I process an episode published by Personality Hacker (the Husband and Wife Team): "Dealing with Trauma in Your Auxiliary Co-pilot."
Supporting themes: Personality theory; Cognitive functions; Typing and typology; MBTI and the Enneagram; Abnormal Psychology; Depression; Religion and Spirituality; Social Institutions and socialization; Race, gender and the socio-political world; Physical abuse; Trapped grief; Systems thinking; Education.
This reflection was also influenced by Isabel Briggs Meyers with Peter B. Meyers ("Gifts Differing").
Special Note: The first half of the reflection was about my journey with and acceptance of Personality Hacker. I offer critiques but I am truly thankful...2024-06-301h 30Your Ni DomI am a MaximizerI this reflection I contend with a single pursuit.
Supporting themes: Organizing and regulating the outer world; Self Preservation; Masterminding; Taking risks and calibrating; LinkedIn and a professional identity; Family and staying connected (or not); (Re) locating.
This reflection was influenced in part by Isabel Briggs Meyers with Peter B. Meyers ("Gifts Differing"); Dr. Charles Chaffin ("Choice Overload: I Can't Decide"); and Personality Hacker (I referenced them frequently in this reflection).
Typology: Te vs Ti, INTJ and Self Preservation- Eight 2024-06-291h 29Your Ni DomSomething Was WrongIn this reflection I respond to a podcast series, "Something Was Wrong," about a woman in a psychologically abusive relationship. In it, I confront my own personal experiences with romance and abuse and the ways I agree AND disagree with the messages in that series.
Supporting themes: Psychological abuse; Physical abuse; Emotional abuse; Feminism, Narcissism Religion, Family, Culture, Race and intersectionality; Relationship escalator.
Typology: Ni and Type 8
2024-06-211h 30Your Ni DomQuestioning the PhysicalIn this reflection I process the existence of the physical as relating to life and death.
Supporting themes: Plants; My Person; Quantum Physics; Dying; Pain; Heaven and an after life; Grief; Abraham Maslow and self actualization; Behaviors; Moods and motivation; MBTI and theoretical soundness.
Typology: Ni2024-06-201h 15Your Ni DomRealizing and FosteringIn this reflection I process my journey of realizing and fostering my inner ideal. Supporting themes: Cognitive functions; Bar talk; Entrepreneurship and Employment; Freedom and Autonomy. This reflection was influenced in part by Isabel Briggs Meyers with Peter B. Meyers ("Gifts Differing "). Typology: Fi, INTJ8
2024-06-171h 30Your Ni DomInfluence and OstracizingIn this reflection I try to explore "connected tissue" as a theme by way of two, social-psychological concepts: social influence (informational/ normative) and social ostracizing.
Supporting themes: Family, friends and lovers; Presidential politics and indictments; Black liberation and black diversity; Exclusionary behaviors; Prosecutors and judges; Felons and guns; Marketing and special interest groups; Sisterhood.
This reflection was influenced in part by Kenneth Bordens & Irwin Horowitz ("Social Psychology").
Typology: Ni, Te, Fe, Fi2024-06-151h 29Your Ni DomMultiplesIn this reflection I use new information to loop back and reinforce old convictions. "Multiples" was a reoccurring theme throughout.
Supporting themes: The 8- hour work day; Goal setting; Intimidation: Business; Writing and messaging; Group challenges; Aggression.
Typology: INTJ; ESFJ; ENFP; FeTi; TeFi; Enneagram 8 and 6.2024-05-311h 29Your Ni DomTraveling Solo as a Change AgentIn this reflection I confront some unconscious realities about my solo orientation within a capitalistic, monogamous world.
Supporting themes: Classism, racism and sexism; Social change agentry and education; Entrepreneurship; Employment; Dating and Dating Agendas; Self care, cleaning and structural maps.
Typology: INTJ8 2024-05-251h 29Your Ni DomRooftop FriendsIn this reflection I talk about friendship utility and my ideal social life.
Typology: INTJ8; Enneagram 2, 3 and 4.2024-05-201h 19Your Ni DomFriends and Low PlacesIn this reflection I talk about being in low frequency, the challenges of getting to higher frequencies and the friends along the way. Supporting themes: Solo living; Invisible trauma; Parenting; Psychological umbilical cord; and Making remarkable friends. Note: This reflection was influenced in part By Peter McGraw from the Solo Podcast ("Making Remarkable Friends"); and Garth Brooks ("Friends in Low Spaces."). Typology: Sexual and Self-presentation subtypes.
2024-05-201h 28Your Ni DomPhysiological Arousal (Triggering)In this reflection I talk about two events that caused a triggering that a text calls "physiological arousal."
Supporting themes : Nuanced and varied grief; Stress and Se coping; Intuition and tasks; Language and liberty; Executive leadership; Love restricted to words; TeFi dynamic; Power as related to race, gender, cognitive functions and maternal energy; Trauma wounds.
Note 1: This reflection was influenced in part by Kenneth Bordens & Irwin Horowitz ("Social Psychology"). Also, Just Call Me Jon was referenced.
Note 2: This is a type- heavy discussion (there is a lot of MBTI jargon).
Note 3: I swear a lot in this reflection. Do not...2024-05-041h 29Your Ni DomThe Heritability FactorIn this reflection I process traits l inherited from my parents and consider their desirability.
Supporting themes: Rational and irrational behavior; City and rural living; Pathologies and Therapy; Communication and the 7-38-55 rule; Conventional and non-conventional living: Abuse and Intergenerational trauma.
This reflection was influenced in part by 1. Kenneth Bordens & Irwin Horowitz ("Social Psychology"); and 2. Alexis Kingsley (YouTube: "Introverted Intuition vs. Introverted Sensing").
Typology: Ni, Si, Te; Fi; Social-Eight 2024-04-291h 29Your Ni DomGrowth and GrowingThis reflection is about growth and growing. I use a diamond as a four-point framework (for the week) to show that I've grown or that I'm still growing.
Related themes: The people tax of an introvert; Being loved but not liked; Relating to "My Person;" Being unlocalized: Responding to complaints; Teaching, learning and leadership; Ground Zero; Loving vs being fulfilled; Emotional maturity and emotional immaturity; Care work as an entitlement or an exchange.
Typology: Enneagram INTJ8; Type 7, 8, 9 and 1 2024-04-211h 29Your Ni DomThe Coin the Tax and the Pinch2024-04-071h 30Your Ni DomComplex and ComplicatedIn this reflection I contend with serenity and fulfillment. as complex and complicated conditions for me as an INTJ8.
Note: There was a lot of house keeping that related to the complicity and complication. However, the formal part of the reflection begins around Minute 40.2024-03-311h 30Your Ni DomStressIn this reflection I use MBTI and the Enneagram to show my relationship to stress (particularly as relating to unhealthy coping strategies).
2024-03-2451 minYour Ni DomQuestioning Ground ZeroIn this reflection I question the caliber of my "ground zero" and what I would need in order to upgrade it.
Supporting themes: Business possibilities and YourNiDom podcast; Masterminding and strategizing; Analysis paralysis and perseverating; Dating people similar to the self and conditions of compatibility; Turnaround leadership vs administrative leadership; Teaching and learning; Being creative and solo- ish.
Typology: The INTJ Mastermind; Fi Drama2024-03-181h 30Your Ni DomLabor and BelongingIn this reflection I contend with belonging when it feels like labor.
Supporting themes: Group membership, Belonging friendship, family or work; Survival instincts.
Typology: Enneagram instincts (social. self- Preservation and sexual); INTJ Te/Fi deciding; Type Eight.2024-03-121h 08Your Ni DomUnaccessedIn this reflection I talk about emotions that are unaccessed or inaccessible.
Supporting themes: Friendship; Emotional intelligence/ emotional wellness; Triggered parents; First born (rights and responsibilities?).
IMPORTANT NOTE: This reflection abruptly ends. Go to YouTube for the closing.
Typology: INTJ childhood; Eights and vulnerability.
2024-03-021h 26Your Ni DomThe Truth Shall Set You FreeIn this reflection I reconsider truth and authenticity.
Supporting themes: My tribute to my person at her funeral; Two sides of empowerment (people and systems); Spiritual callings; Relationship conflicts associated with healing.
This reflection was inspired in part by a follower who gently challenged me on being authentic.
Typology: Type 8 and INTJness.2024-02-251h 29Your Ni DomThe Pareto RuleIn this reflection I consider the Pareto Principle which is a rule that says 80% of outputs is controlled by 20% of inputs. Supporting themes: Sibling dynamics; relocation; Lifestyle design/ design living; Solo living; Impostered self vs authentic self; Practicing authenticity; Therapy; Confronting transphobia; Living in a new world after someone dies. This reflection was influenced in part by The Investopedia Team ("What Is the Pareto Principle—aka the Pareto Rule or 80/20 Rule?). Typology: Sensing versus intuition
2024-02-101h 23Your Ni DomPosthumous JumbalayaIn this reflection I process my person in a new way.
Supporting themes: Spirit soul and flesh; The measurability of an afterlife; Sibling rivalry; Intimacy; Hubris; Conscious, subconscious and unconscious; Therapy; Thinking and feeling extroversion.
Typology: Ni, Te, Fi.2024-02-101h 30Your Ni DomBeginning and EndingIn this reflection I contend with beginnings and endings.
Supporting themes: Pain Management and end of life; Indescribable and inaccessible grief; Unobservable data; Mental and emotional wellness; Lifestyle design; Bare minimum in singledom versus in coupledom; Ground zero structures; Employment vs entrepreneurship; Lifestyle design.
Typology: Ni, Te, Fi, and Type 82024-02-041h 29Your Ni DomThe Need to Analyze2024-01-161h 18Your Ni DomHeart WorkIn this reflection I explore relationship building through the Enneagram heart cluster (two, three and four).
Supporting themes: Romantic and platonic relationships; Gender and femininity; Solo- poly and the solo community; Privilege and opportunity; Self-advocacy; Ghosting; The silent breakup.
Typology: Enneagram (all nine numbers); Instincts and subtypes; MBTI-Te and Fi.2023-12-311h 25Your Ni DomThe Green, the Needle, and the Hell YesIn this reflection I contend with building a social life more in alignment with my true self.
Typology: Fi, Fe, Ni, Se, Ti, Te.2023-12-311h 29Your Ni DomIdentity, Authenticity, and GrowthIn this reflection I talk about the second half of life as a place of liberation. Supporting themes: Maturing; Self- actualization; Social science and social change; Typology; Spirituality; Trans- sensory experiences; Ego; Therapy and Anger. This reflection was influenced in part by Father Richard Rohr ("Two Halves of Life"). Typology: Cognitive orientation (MBTI) and socioemotional orientation (the Enneagram); INTJ8
2023-12-281h 29Your Ni DomDiscriminating HarmIn this reflection I am challenged by the notion of being sensitive to harm, trying to decide if all harm is equal, and confronting my truth about what harm (if at all) I will tolerate.
Supporting themes: Caring and uncaring; Intimacy; Daughtering when parents are at their end of life; Generational strategies for surviving harm; Social; Healing, self care, and self actualization; Emotional numbness; Inaccessible feelings.
Typology: Fi vs Fe2023-12-211h 29Your Ni DomShadow WorkIn this reflection I confront who I am when I linger and love in the shadows.
Supporting themes: Family dynamics; Social environment; Solo work; Repression; Subjectivity; Entrepreneurship and employment; and Spirituality.
This reflection was inspired in part by 1) DK Findout ("Shadows"); and 2) Beatrice Chestnut ("The Complete Enneagram").
Typology; Type Eight instincts; Type 8 Shadows; INTJ Extroversion; Tertiary-Fi.2023-12-101h 24Your Ni DomAll Dressed UpIn this reflection I process a current mood and whether or not I will go to an event.
Supporting themes: Sadness; Intimacy; General love; Parental love; Sibling love.
Typology: INTJ8
2023-12-1035 minYour Ni DomThe Sexual Me2023-12-0342 minYour Ni DomIn BetweenIn this reflection I talk about growth and needed growth as related to social intimacy.
Supporting themes: Overt and covert agendas; Manipulation; Passion and lust; Acting to feel good vs feeling good to act; Family drama scripts; Darkness and suffering.
This reflection was influenced in part by Kelsea Ballerini ("In Between:); Beatrice Chestnut ("The Complete Enneagram "); and PsychCentral ("How to Spot Manipulation Tactics").
Typology: INTJ and Types 8, 5, 3, 4 and 2. 2023-11-251h 29Your Ni DomBeing A Grown A$$ WomanIn this reflection I talk about two events this week that made me realize that I'm functioning authentically, responsibly and purposefully.
Supporting themes: Parental role models and personal identities; Power; Leadership; Entrepreneurship; Race; Contracts and contracting; Psychological harm and wellness; access Self- care; Designed living; America's schools.
Typology: INTJ, Type 8, and Type 1.
2023-11-131h 29Your Ni DomBuilding the Social MapIn this reflection I talk about mindfully building a social life based on my most authentic, social self.
Supporting themes: Entrepreneurship; Friendship; Social conflict; Scope of intimacy; Spirituality; Supervisors and subordination; Conflict and dominance.
Typology: Ni, Se, Te, Fi, INTJ, Self- Preservation 8.2023-11-051h 29Your Ni DomThe SelfIn this reflection I contend with different versions of the self.
Supporting themes: Individuation; The individual self, The social self; The collective Self; Dating; Isms; Culture; Enneagram and MBTI subtypes.
This reflection was influenced in part by: 1) Beatrice Chestnut (Enneagram subtypes); and) Kenneth Bordens and Irwin Horowitz ("Social Psychology").
Typology: INTJ and Enneagram Social 5-8-2.2023-10-291h 28Your Ni DomUppercase ”S”In this reflection I fully explain RICO as a framework to invisible (psychological) harm ... as the sum-total to smaller, more isolated events. Uppercase "S" represents significance that is pronounced (or criminal) as juxtaposed to lowercase "s" that is isolated and seemingly insignificant.
Supporting themes: Donald Trump; Georgia; Co- Defendants; Enterprising; Toxic parenting; Self care; Boundaries; Mothers and daughters; Individuation.
This reflection was influenced, in part, by: 1) New York Times ("Trump and Allies in Georgia Face RICO Charges..."); 2) Susan Forward, PhD ("Mothers Who Can't Love "); 3) Very Well Mind ("What is Individuation?").
Typology: INTJ and Type 82023-10-221h 29Your Ni DomThe Social DilemmaIn this reflection I explore facets of the social world that make it difficult for me to connect with others.
Supporting themes: Power; Comfort; Status; Friendship; Intimacy; Privilege; Money; Spirituality; Contracts; Negotiating.
This reflection was influenced in part by James Henslin ("Essentials of Sociology") and Jeanne Ormod ("Human Learning").
Brief references: Paulo Freire ("The Pedagogy of the Oppressed") and Beatrice Chestnut (Enneagram subtypes).
Typology; Type 8; Social, Sexual and Self- Presentation; INTJ.2023-10-161h 29Your Ni DomConfronting the HiddenIn this reflection I try to confront psychological harm that is hard to prove. Political warning: I use the Georgia RICO indictments as a framework to this discussion.
Supporting themes: Gaslighting; Stonewalling; Projecting; Physical Abuse; Law and politics; Identity work; Healing work; Romance and friendships; Fighting and self protection; Shame; Intergenerational trauma and targeted abuse.
This reflection was influenced in part by Jerry Wise, MA.,MS ("Narcissistic Parent Tactics that Cause Childhood Trauma and CPTSD"). I also reference "Just Call Me Jon".
Typology: Ni, Te, Fi, Se, and Type 8.2023-10-081h 29Your Ni DomStructural ViolenceIn this reflection, I talk about business, education and therapy to unpack structural violence as a concept and my relationship to it.
Supporting themes: Consulting and closing the sale; Solo-preneurship and organizational leadership; Student behaviors as communication; Knowledge as an entitlement vs knowledge as a gift; Power and powerlessness related to therapy; Social needs vs social expectations.
This reflection was influenced in part by: 1) Rudolph Alexander, Jr. ("Human Behavior in the Social Environment"); and 2) Beatrice Chestnut, PhD ("The Complete Enneagram").
Typology: INTJ, EnneagramSocial-8 and the Enneagram Social-5.2023-10-011h 29Your Ni DomNext Level GrowthIn this reflection I talk about getting to the growth level of Maslow's hierarchy of self- actualization and the sacrifices that are required.
Supporting themes: Ground Zero (foundations and systems for greatness); Imagining, planning and calibrating (a dance between Ni and Se); Different growth points (physical. financial, and social); Intimacy and stress (fight, flight, freeze or fawn); Loving that is hurtful; Romance and childhood trauma; ISFJ-leadership; Teaching versus subbing; Dignity and pleasure.
This episode was influenced in part by Jeanne Ellis Omrod ("Human Learning," pgs. 405 & 406).
Typology: ISFJ, INTJ, Ni, Te, Fi. and Se2023-09-241h 25Your Ni DomGround ZeroIn this reflection I contend with the concept of prosperity (as in self-actualization) and the structures needed to not just be great-- but to walk in automated and continuous greatness! Supporting themes: Emotional intelligence (four elements); Emotional wellness; Spiritual wellness; Maslow's theory of self-actualization; Structural security; Sisterhood; Belonging; Intergenerational trauma; Loss, grief and acceptance; Partnership, romance and singlehood; Being a good citizen/ neighbor; and Racism, capitalism and culture. This reflection was inspired in part by Maren Morris ("The Bones") and Peter McGraw's solo podcast ("Emotional Intelligence"). Typology: INTJ, Ni- domness; and Type 8
2023-09-171h 29Your Ni DomSpiritual Self- AcceptanceIn this reflection, I explore the self as a spiritual entity and the complications associated with accepting it as a core truth of being.
Supporting themes: The arc of personality and its relatedness with character and temperament; Virtues and values; Personhood and the origins of one's person- state; Emotions, moods and motivations; Spirituality, God and religion; Education (the industry); Rational and irrational thinking; Thoughts, words and emotions; Building community based on virtues or based on trauma; and Recognizing and removing barriers that denies access to our own spirit.
Trigger warning; Abortion is discussed briefly (about 2-3 minutes).
This reflection was...2023-09-101h 29Your Ni DomNegotiating and NavigatingIn this reflecting I talk about negotiating several experiences when they are not enough (or not to my liking) and navigating my way through those negotiations (especially when others are [and their ego/ feelings] are involved).
Supporting themes: Personal interest and situational interest; Beyonce and lemonade; Relationship design (per Solo.com); Psychology, therapy and power; Self-care and self-advocacy; Motivation and regenerative energy (which I really struggled with pronouncing); Aggression; Education and schooling; and Employment, self- employment and enterprising.
Typology: INTJ; Ni; Si; J (judging); Type 8.2023-09-031h 28Your Ni DomSubtype, Just Right, Let’s Fight, AlrightIn this reflection I explore four separate themes to help me contend with one problem I have yet to solve (even though I have been seriously trying!).
Supporting themes: Solo people; Hierarchies, pyramid people and power; Normalizing, harmonizing, dominant and creative subtypes; Building your people (i.e. team, squad or forest); Content generators and the life they give; Leadership and entrepreneurship; Trauma, abuse and love; and Race and gender.
Special note: This reflection was influenced in part by Personality Hacker and Dario Nardi.
Typology: INTJ8; Enneagram Subtypes2023-08-261h 29Your Ni DomTruthIn this reflection I confront a difficult truth about abuse and "my person."
Trigger warning: For anyone who has experienced childhood abuse, please listen with care.
Critical notes: 1) I use the F- bomb (don't listen around children); and 2) I talk briefly about the indictments of Donald Trump (using it as a metaphor to something else).
Typology: Type 8, INTJ, and ENFP2023-08-161h 27Your Ni DomGoing SoloIn this reflection I explore my readiness to go solo (as in solo-polyish).
Supporting themes: Highly Sensitive Person (HSP); Typology and the solo community; Power and hierarchies; Attachment theory; Body storage of trauma; Intergenerational trauma; Dying and the breakdown of the body; and Sibling rivalry.
Typology: Introverted intuition and INTJ2023-08-131h 29Your Ni DomBelongingThis reflection is about domains of belonging and types of shifts when it's time to grow.
Supporting themes: Solo- poly; Sex; Work; Family; Culture; Politics; Geography; Social conflict; Schooling: African-Americans; and MAGA-Republicans.
Typology: Introverted intuition; INTJs and INFJs; Fi and Se; Type 8s.
Note 1: This reflection was influenced in part by an article published by the National Library of Medicine (go to my Twitter account to access the link: YourNiDom1).
Note 2: This episode marks the official start of Season 7.2023-08-051h 28Your Ni DomBeing a Social EightIn this reflection, I talk about the Social Eight as social, anti- social and uncover new discovery points for growth.
Supporting themes: Personality theories; Theory convergence and divergence; Social as emotional versus social as structural; Social hierarchies; The privileging of dominant groups and pathologizing of subordinate groups; Solo- polyamory; Romance and sex; and Self awareness and self-acceptance.
Special note: Text about the Social Eight was read from "The Complete Enneagram" by Dr. Beatrice Chestnut.
Typology; INTJ; Type 8; Te and Fe; Three intelligent centers in the Enneagram; Three subtypes for the Eight; Intuition; and Feeling.2023-07-011h 27Your Ni DomSolo- PolyamoryThis reflection is a Part 2 to my lifestyle conversation where I focus on relationships. I talk substantially about the ways solo- polyamory speaks to some of my core values and commitments.
Supporting themes: Identity; Sex; Relationship- tax; Self- Partnering; Singlehood; Monogamy; Patriarchy; Scripts and stereotypes for women (including black women within the historical context of slavery); Self- care; and Trauma.
Special note: This reflection was inspired in part by "Single, Self- partnered, or Solo Polyamory?" written by Amanda Pakutz.
Typology: INTJ- Masterminding; Type 8- Intensity; Enneagram subtypes (particularly Sexual and Self- Preservation).2023-07-011h 29Your Ni DomLifestyle and WorkI start this reflection with three separate but related topics on the brain: Three blobs; Anti- Social; and Business. I moved throughout the reflection linking all three until I concluded with a very important question about lifestyle and work.
Supporting themes: Masterminding (with a Capital M); Aims, Goals and Objectives (AGOs); Balanced living; Being visionary; Planning vs taking action; Entrepreneurship; Employment as a strategy; Automating the job searching process.
Social Note: This reflection was inspired in part by the book "Pivot and Pursue It" (by Pamela Mitchell).
Typology: Type 8; Subtypes and counter-types; and INTJ (planning and calibrating).2023-06-251h 24Your Ni DomThe Ruber BandIn this reflection I finally talk about the "rubber band" as a metaphor to explain my social-antisocial relationship with the outer world.
Typology: Enneagram Types 8, 5 and 1; Instinctual stack; Social and self-preservation. 2023-06-131h 08