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Be A Better YouEpisode 191: Doing Positive Affirmations Wrong is Wasting Your TimeLeave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you.In this eye-opening episode, we unravel the intriguing complexities behind the world of positive affirmations and why they so often don’t work. We explore the profound impact of subconscious communication, emphasizing the transformative power of images, stories, and analogies that speak directly to the deeper layers of your mind.Discover why positive affirmations can actually backfire—creating cognitive dissonance and even self-gaslighting when your conscious mind repeats words your subconscious doesn’t believe. Instead of building confidence, they can de...
2025-11-2532 minBe A Better YouEpisode 190: The Truth About “Doing the Work” (and Why You’re Still Stuck)Leave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you.Have you read all the books, journaled your heart out, listened to the podcasts, and done all the work — yet still wake up anxious, triggered, or doubting your worth? You’re not broken. You’re just trying to heal with the wrong tools.In this episode, emotional healing coach Allison K. Dagney reveals the real reason survivors stay stuck even after months or years of “doing the work.” You’ll learn why conscious mindset tools don’t always reach the subconscious beliefs that d...
2025-11-1850 minBe A Better YouEpisode 189: When Healing Feels Like Betrayal & Letting Go of The GuiltLeave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you.Have you ever felt a wave of guilt the moment you finally laughed, smiled, or felt a spark of joy after abuse? You’re not alone. For many survivors, healing can feel like betrayal — especially when your kids, family, or others are still struggling.In this raw and honest episode, Allison K. Dagney, survivor, author, and subconscious reprogramming expert, breaks down why joy can feel unsafe and how subconscious beliefs keep you stuck in guilt. You’ll hear the hidden thoughts that survivors carry...
2025-11-1131 minBe A Better YouEpisode 188: The Lone Wolf Trap & Why Healing In Isolation Isn't WorkingLeave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you.After emotional abuse, solitude can feel like safety. You tell yourself, I’m fine on my own. I don’t need anyone. But what if that fierce independence—the “lone wolf” mindset—is actually what’s keeping you from healing?In this episode, author and subconscious-reprogramming coach Allison K. Dagney exposes the hidden cost of trying to heal alone. You’ll learn why isolation keeps your nervous system in survival mode, how hyper-independence is a trauma response, and what happens when you finally allo...
2025-11-0436 minBe A Better YouEpisode 187: The Hidden Costs of Emotional AbuseLeave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you.The wounds of emotional abuse aren’t always visible. Survivors often carry scars that the outside world can’t see—feelings of isolation, anxiety, self-doubt, and the deep loss of identity. These are the hidden costs of emotional abuse, and they are just as damaging as physical violence.In this final episode of the Domestic Violence Awareness Month series, Allison K. Dagney—survivor, author, and subconscious reprogramming expert—shines a light on the long-term impacts of abuse that often go unnotic...
2025-10-2815 minBe A Better YouEpisode 186: The Cycle That Keeps You Hooked: Love Bombing & Trauma BondsLeave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you.“Why didn’t you just leave?” It’s the question survivors of abuse hear the most—and the one that causes the deepest shame. The truth is, leaving an abusive relationship isn’t simple. The reason is something called the cycle of abuse and trauma bonding.In honor of Domestic Violence Awareness Month, Allison K. Dagney—survivor, author, and subconscious reprogramming expert—explains why survivors feel trapped even when they want to escape.In this episode, you...
2025-10-2119 minBe A Better YouEpisode 185: Unusual Signs of Emotional Abuse You’ve Probably Never Heard OfLeave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you.Most people think abuse has to be physical or obvious to “count.” The truth? Some of the most damaging forms of emotional abuse are subtle, confusing, and hard to explain—yet they leave deep scars.In honor of Domestic Violence Awareness Month, Allison K. Dagney—survivor, author, and subconscious reprogramming expert—exposes the lesser-known tactics of abuse that rarely get talked about:The intrusive stare that silently intimidatesNegging and backhanded compliments that chip away at yo...
2025-10-1414 minBe A Better YouEpisode 184: Gaslighting, Coercive Control and MinimizationLeave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you.October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month, and in this episode of Be A Better You Podcast, Allison K. Dagney—survivor, author, and subconscious reprogramming expert—pulls back the curtain on 3 key ways emotional abuse presents itself.Emotional abuse isn’t always screaming, yelling, or physical violence. More often, it shows up as gaslighting, coercive control, minimization, and subtle psychological manipulation that makes you question your worth, your memory, and even your sanity.In this conversation, Allison shares:Thre...
2025-10-0724 minBe A Better YouEpisode 183: Navigating High-Conflict Divorce: Strategies to Protect Your Peace & Power with Chantal ContorinesLeave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you.Going through a high-conflict divorce can feel overwhelming, isolating, and downright scary. In this rapid-fire episode of Be A Better You Podcast, host Allison K. Dagney sits down with Certified Divorce Coach Chantal Contorines to answer the toughest questions women face when divorcing a high-conflict personality.You’ll learn:How to recognize high-conflict behaviors and protect yourselfThe biggest mistakes to avoid in communication and co-parentingWhy documentation and boundaries are your survival toolsHow to respond when your ex refuses to follow your boundariesHow to...
2025-10-0252 minBe A Better YouEpisode 182: Mini Series 4: Why You Should Be Angry About ItLeave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you.Do you feel guilty for being angry about what happened to you? Survivors of emotional abuse are often told to “forgive and forget,” or they fear that expressing anger will make them just like their abuser. But here’s the truth: your anger is not only valid—it’s necessary for healing.In this episode of Be A Better You Podcast, host and subconscious reprogramming expert Allison K. Dagney explains why anger is a healthy, protective emotion and not a sign of being “stuck.” You’...
2025-09-3026 minBe A Better YouEpisode 181: Mini Series 3: Why You Shouldn't Have Left SoonerLeave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you.Do you beat yourself up with the thought, “I should’ve left sooner”? Survivors of emotional abuse often live with deep regret, believing they wasted years or failed themselves and their children by staying too long. But here’s the truth: you couldn’t have left any earlier—because your brain and nervous system were working to keep you alive.In this episode of Be A Better You Podcast, host and subconscious reprogramming expert Allison K. Dagney explains the real science behind why leaving abus...
2025-09-2329 minBe A Better YouEpisode 180: Mini Series 2: Why You Couldn't Have Known BetterLeave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you.Do you replay your past and think, “I should’ve known better”? Survivors of emotional abuse often torture themselves with regret, believing they failed by not recognizing the truth sooner. But here’s the reality: you couldn’t have known better at the time—because abuse clouds judgment, rewires the brain, and makes survival feel safer than clarity.In this episode of Be A Better You Podcast, host and subconscious reprogramming expert Allison K. Dagney explains why survivors carry the heavy burden of “I should’ve kn...
2025-09-1619 minBe A Better YouEpisode 179: Mini Series 1: Why You Shouldn't Have Seen The SignsLeave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you.Do you ever catch yourself thinking, “I should’ve seen the signs of abuse”? If you’ve been replaying your past and blaming yourself for not noticing the red flags, this episode will bring you relief and clarity. The truth is, you couldn’t have known—because abusers hide the warning signs on purpose.In this episode of Be A Better You Podcast, host and subconscious reprogramming expert Allison K. Dagney explains why survivors of emotional abuse aren’t meant to spot the red flags earl...
2025-09-0919 minBe A Better YouEpisode 178: Struggling With Indecision & How to Build Self TrustLeave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you.Struggling to make decisions after emotional abuse? You’re not alone. Survivors often face crippling self-doubt, fear of making the “wrong” choice, and the exhausting cycle of second-guessing themselves. In this episode of Be A Better You Podcast, host and subconscious reprogramming expert Allison K. Dagney explains why survivors get stuck in indecision, how abuse wires the brain to fear choice, and the exact steps you can take to rebuild self-trust.You’ll hear real client and listener stories about tough choices—...
2025-09-0242 minBe A Better YouEpisode 176: Why Nothing Changes When You're Trying So HardLeave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you.Are you working so hard to heal but still feel stuck in the same painful cycles? In this episode of Be A Better You Podcast, Allison breaks down why nothing changes when you’re “trying so hard.” You’ll learn why affirmations, journaling, and willpower don’t fix the root cause, and how your subconscious mind is wired to repeat old patterns — making you feel defeated, broken, or like you’ll never move forward. Allison shares real examples of the beliefs that keep women trapped a...
2025-08-2627 minBe A Better YouEpisode 174: The Hidden Impacts of Emotional Abuse — And Why You Don’t Have to Live With Them ForeverLeave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you.Are you struggling with the hidden effects of emotional abuse — like chronic fatigue, anxiety, brain fog, or constant overthinking? In this episode, Allison shares how emotional abuse impacts the body, memory, and relationships long after the abuse ends, and why it’s not your fault. You’ll learn how trauma gets stored in the nervous system, why symptoms like insomnia, headaches, and poor focus are so common for survivors, and most importantly, how you can begin to heal.This episode is for women recove...
2025-08-1928 minBe A Better YouEpisode 173: Two Women. Two Stories. One Message: You Can Heal.Leave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you.In this powerful and deeply personal conversation, Allison and Laura open up about their journeys through — and out of — narcissistic and emotional abuse.Laura Richards is an international podcaster, #1 bestselling author, and speaker dedicated to empowering women worldwide. Through her acclaimed podcast That’s Where I’m At and bestselling book Married To A “Nice” Guy: Getting Over Narcissistic Abuse, Laura shares her recovery from a 32-year marriage to a narcissist. Her mission is to shine a light on the realities of narcissistic abuse, letti...
2025-08-141h 04Be A Better YouEpisode 169: Who Am I Without My PainLeave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you.In this powerful episode of The Be A Better You Podcast, emotional healing coach Allison K. Dagney explores a question that haunts many survivors of narcissistic abuse, emotional abuse, trauma, betrayal, and divorce: Who am I without my pain?After living in survival mode for so long, it’s easy for your identity to become wrapped up in your wounds. Allison gently unpacks why we hold onto pain as part of who we are and how it can secretly keep us st...
2025-07-2246 minBe A Better YouEpisode 168: 10 Ways Defending Yourself Keeps You Trapped: When Survival is a CageLeave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you.In this insightful episode of The Be A Better You Podcast, emotional healing coach Allison K. Dagney dives deep into the hidden ways that self-defense mechanisms, developed after emotional abuse and trauma, can keep you stuck.Discover how common patterns like over-explaining, rigid control, hyper-vigilance, and seeing criticism everywhere might be sabotaging your personal growth, relationships, and your journey to emotional freedom. Allison gently unpacks how these survival strategies—so often seen in people recovering from covert narcissism and toxic relationships—can quietly beco...
2025-07-1553 minBe A Better YouEpisode 166: Healing Childhood Abandonment and Rejection WoundsLeave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you.Note: Texts sent from this platform do not share your phone number or contact info with us. If you want a response, please include your contact info.Are you tired of feeling like you’re always the one left behind in love, friendships, or even your own family? Do you wonder why certain relationships trigger deep fear, anxiety, or an aching sense of emptiness, no matter how much you know better?In this powerful episode of Be A Better You Podcast, em...
2025-07-0145 minBe A Better YouEpisode 158: From Religion to Resonance: Reclaiming Joy, Spirituality & Self with Wendy HarveyLeave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you.In this episode, I’m joined by the radiant Wendy Harvey, a trained hypnotist, certified quantum coach, and spiritual healer who helps overthinkers and people-pleasers move from stuck and drained to empowered and aligned.Wendy grew up in a Catholic household, but as she got older, she began questioning the beliefs she was raised with. Feeling misaligned, joyless, and frustrated with life, she found herself at a crossroads — and that’s when she met an energy healer who would change the course of her li...
2025-05-081h 01Be A Better YouEpisode 155: 10 Signs Your Nervous System Still Thinks You’re in That RelationshipLeave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you.You left the relationship—but your body still hasn’t.In this powerful episode, I’m walking you through 10 signs your nervous system still thinks you’re in that emotionally abusive relationship, even if it ended weeks, months, or years ago. If you’ve been struggling with overexplaining, shutdown, anxiety around texts, or people-pleasing… it’s not just your personality. It’s trauma living in your body.This episode is for the woman who’s healing from narcissistic abuse, emotional manipu...
2025-04-2243 minBe A Better YouEpisode 149: Am I The Toxic One? Understanding Your Defensive ReactionsLeave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you.Have you ever looked back on your relationship and thought, “Was I the problem?” Maybe you manipulated conversations to avoid conflict, withheld things to protect yourself, or even lost your temper—and now you’re questioning if you were just as toxic as your ex.First, let me tell you: You are not alone.In this episode, we’re unpacking:✔️ Why so many survivors of emotional abuse wonder if they were the toxic one✔️ How defensive reactions (not...
2025-03-2532 minBe A Better YouEpisode 148: How to Feel Safe in Your Body After Emotional AbuseLeave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you.After experiencing emotional abuse, it can feel like your body is stuck in survival mode—constantly scanning for threats, even when none exist. In this episode, we’re diving deep into how to reconnect with safety in your body by addressing both nervous system regulation and subconscious healing.You’ll learn:✔️ How fight, flight, freeze, and fawn responses are shaped by subconscious programming✔️ The mind-body connection and why healing has to involve both
2025-03-1844 minBe A Better YouEpisode 147: Reclaiming Your Power: Why Seeking Validation Keeps You StuckLeave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you.Have you ever felt amazing when someone compliments you—only to feel completely crushed when they criticize you? That’s the trap of external validation. When your worth is dependent on what others think, you give away your power—allowing their words to dictate how you feel about yourself.In this episode, we’re breaking down:✔️ Why seeking validation keeps you emotionally vulnerable✔️ How love bombing hooks you into needing approval✔️ What it really means to inte...
2025-03-1126 minBe A Better YouEpisode 146: Neural Plasticity in Action: My Real Life Story and Tips to Change Your BrainLeave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you.In this special episode of the 'Be A Better You Podcast,' I share with you the fascinating world of neural plasticity, the brain's remarkable ability to reorganize itself by forming new neural connections throughout life. This concept isn't just scientific jargon; it's a hopeful reality that each of us can harness to fundamentally transform our lives.We'll start by breaking down the basics of neural plasticity, explaining how every new skill learned, every new experience absorbed, and even every thought we entertain...
2025-03-0435 minBe A Better YouEpisode 145: How to Avoid a Narcissist: Shifting Beliefs and Energetics that Make You VulnerableLeave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you.Have you ever asked yourself, “Why do I keep ending up in toxic relationships?” If you’ve experienced narcissistic abuse, emotional abuse, or felt trapped in trauma bonds, you might believe you’re somehow attracting these relationships. But here’s the truth—this is not your fault.Narcissists don’t target you because you’re weak. They’re drawn to subconscious patterns and beliefs that make them feel powerful. The good news? You can shift these patter...
2025-02-2526 minBe A Better YouEpisode 144: 3 Common Beliefs Keeping You Stuck (and ways to shift them)Leave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you.Have you ever felt like no matter how much time passes, you’re still stuck in the same emotional loops? Maybe you’re doing all the “right” things, but the past still weighs heavy, and healing feels just out of reach.The truth is, it’s not your fault. There are subconscious beliefs keeping you stuck—and today, we’re uncovering them.🚀 In this episode, I’ll walk you through:✅ The 3 most common beliefs keeping survivors trapped in emotional...
2025-02-1828 minBe A Better YouEpisode 143: What No One Tells You About the Healing JourneyLeave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you.Healing from emotional abuse isn’t as simple as “moving on.” If you’ve ever felt stuck in post-separation abuse, trapped in the cycle of rumination, or like no matter how much time passes, the pain still lingers—this episode is for you.In today’s episode, I’m sharing the hard truths about the healing journey—the things no one tells you when you’re trying to break free from the weight of your past. We’ll talk a...
2025-02-1130 minBe A Better YouEpisode 142: Radiate and Rise: Turning Pain Into PowerLeave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you.Have you ever felt like you’d never escape the emotional pain of narcissistic abuse, emotional manipulation, or post-separation abuse? Like the weight of your past will always hold you back?In this powerful episode, I share my personal journey of overcoming emotional trauma, smear campaigns, and the relentless cycle of being dragged back to court. If you've been battling coercive control, gaslighting, or the lingering wounds of a to...
2025-02-0426 minBe A Better YouEpisode 141: Smear Campaigns: How to Protect Your Peace When They Attack Your CharacterLeave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you.In this episode, I dive into the exhausting and painful reality of smear campaigns—when someone spreads lies to damage your reputation. Drawing from my own story I share what I call the “Ten Pages of Hate” from my upcoming book Radiate and Rise: Discovering Peace and Power During and After Divorce. I also share in this episode how smear campaigns can impact your relationships, career, and emotional well-being. Whether it’s lies spread to your kids, family, or even on social media, these attacks can leav...
2025-01-2822 minBe A Better YouEpisode 140: My Top Tips to Communicating with a NarcissistLeave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you.Today, we will be diving into the challenging topic of how to communicate with a narcissist. If you are dealing with a narcissistic ex-partner, family member, or co-worker, you know how stressful and draining these interactions can be. But fear not, I'm here to share my personal tips and tricks to help you navigate these challenging conversations, alleviate stress in your life, and avoid getting sucked into the drama with your ex. Dealing with a narcissist can be challenging, but with the right s...
2025-01-2129 minBe A Better YouEpisode 139: How to Deal When the Abuse Continues Post-SeparationLeave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you.Leaving an abusive relationship is supposed to bring peace, but for many, the abuse doesn’t end—it evolves and often ramps up. In this episode of The Be Better You Podcast, we tackle the reality of post-separation abuse and provide actionable steps to regain your power. I explore common tactics abusers use to maintain control, such as lying to children, launching smear campaigns, harassing you through texts or calls, weaponizing new partners, refusing to follow court orders, and financially draining you through frivolous legal moti...
2025-01-1442 minBe A Better YouEpisode 138: You Can't Love People Harder Into Loving YouLeave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you.In this episode, we dive deep into the emotional trap of believing that if you just love someone harder, they’ll finally love you back the way you deserve. Whether it’s over-giving, trying to fix someone, or sacrificing your needs to keep the peace, we unpack the patterns of codependency that often leave us feeling drained, unappreciated, and stuck in unbalanced relationships.Through relatable stories and real-life examples, we’ll explore:Why loving harder doesn’t create the connection you’re seeking.Ho...
2025-01-0733 minBe A Better YouEpisode 137: Setting Intentions for Emotional Healing in 2025Leave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you.Setting clear intentions is the foundation for effective emotional healing. Without them, you risk wandering aimlessly, unsure of your direction. In this episode, I’ll walk you through 5 simple steps to create a powerful intention that anchors your healing journey and keeps you focused on the life you want to create in 2025. Tune in and take the first step toward meaningful transformation!Support the showTo learn more about my Programs visit the websitewww.radiatenrise.com ...
2024-12-3120 minBe A Better YouEpisode 136: The "V" WordLeave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you.Were you victimized in the past? Maybe you are still being victimized. In today's episode I am sharing some very important insights with you regarding victims. You have my utmost sympathy and compassion if you are or were victimized by an abuser. It's my hope that if you experienced narcissistic abuse, emotional abuse, or any abuse whatsoever, that you have ALL the tools and abilities to move forward and heal from that. My goal is always to give you whatever I can that will help p...
2024-12-2420 minBe A Better YouEpisode 135: How ‘Knowing You Know Nothing’ Can Transform Your LifeLeave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you.Have you ever been so sure you knew something—only to realize later you were way off? In this episode, we dive into the timeless wisdom of Socrates and his famous quote, “The only true wisdom is in knowing you know nothing.” We’ll explore why embracing what you don’t know isn’t a weakness but a superpower that can lead to deeper growth, clarity, and transformation.I’ll share two humbling stories from my own life—one where my overconfidence in fixing something...
2024-12-1719 minBe A Better YouEpisode 134: You Are Not BrokenLeave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you.In this heartfelt episode, I share a simple yet powerful story about making Thanksgiving meals with my kids—and how a spilled pile of cheese became a lesson in self-compassion. When my daughter asked my son, "What’s wrong with you?" for spilling the cheese, I stepped in to reframe the moment, reminding them that mistakes don’t make us broken—they make us human.This idea applies to you, too. Whether you’re recovering from narcissistic abuse, struggling with emotional wounds, or feeling li...
2024-12-1017 minBe A Better YouEpisode 133: Low Self-Worth, Rumination, and Comparing Yourself to OthersLeave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you.Have you ever found yourself scrolling through your ex’s new partner’s profile, comparing every detail to yourself, and wondering why you weren’t enough? It’s not just about them moving on—it’s about the spiral of self-doubt and worthlessness that follows. In this deeply personal and transformative episode, I’m sharing my story of how I fell into that same trap when my ex moved on just a few months after our split. Even though I didn’t want him back, I couldn’t shake...
2024-12-0320 minBe A Better YouEpisode 132: Why Can't I Ever Be Good Enough - A Painful Personal Story **Listener DisclaimerLeave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you.Please Note the LISTENER DISCLAIMER!!!Episode Description: In this episode of the Be A Better You Podcast, we’re exploring the deep-seated belief that so many people carry—“Why can’t I ever be good enough?” that was shared by a listener. This thought often leads to cycles of rumination, especially for those who have experienced narcissistic or emotional abuse. If you’ve found yourself constantly replaying moments, questioning your worth, or feeling like you’re never quite “enough,” this episode is for you....
2024-11-2637 minBe A Better YouEpisode 131: You Are Not Your Ruminations: Your Thoughts Don't Define YouLeave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you.In this episode of the Be A Better You Podcast, we explore how rumination keeps us tied to painful memories and emotions, especially after experiences of narcissistic abuse and emotional abuse. If you’ve ever felt that letting go of certain thoughts would mean losing a part of yourself, you’re not alone. Many people struggle to separate from repetitive, self-defeating thoughts, fearing they may be part of their identity.Today, we’re breaking down why your thoughts don’t define you and how you...
2024-11-1920 minBe A Better YouEpisode 130: What's Keeping You Tethered to the Pain?Leave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you.In this episode of the Be A Better You Podcast, we’re uncovering the hidden beliefs that keep you tethered to emotional pain, especially after challenging experiences like narcissistic or emotional abuse. If you’ve found yourself stuck in a cycle of rumination, this episode will help you discover how deeply embedded subconscious beliefs—like feeling unworthy of love or fearing rejection—are silently holding you back.We’ll dive into how these beliefs operate below the surface, shaping your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors...
2024-11-1230 minBe A Better YouEpisode 129: Why You Can't Stop Thinking About ItLeave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you."Why You Can’t Stop Thinking About It"In this episode of the Be A Better You Podcast, we explore why so many people struggle to stop thinking about their ex, especially after experiencing narcissistic abuse, emotional abuse, or trauma bonds. If you're tired of the endless mental loops and intrusive thoughts, this episode will help you understand the science behind why your brain keeps you stuck. We'll dive into the role of unresolved emotions, subconscious attachments, and the brain's reward sy...
2024-11-0527 minBe A Better YouEpisode 128: Fantasy Ruminations that Keep You StuckLeave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you.In this episode of The Better You Podcast, we dive deep into a sneaky form of rumination that you might not even realize you’re trapped in—fantasy ruminations. These are the vivid, imaginative stories your mind creates, where your ex is living their best life without you, down to the tiniest details like the wine they drink or the clothes they wear. This is a very common behavior for survivors of domestic and narcissistic abuse. Even though these scenarios are entirely fictional, they still hold...
2024-10-2916 minBe A Better YouEpisode 127: Stop Letting Rumination Rule Your LifeLeave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you.If you’ve experienced emotional abuse, divorce, or narcissistic abuse, it can feel like your mind is constantly trapped in an exhausting cycle of rumination. Abuse survivors often find themselves replaying painful memories of their ex-partner, their toxic behaviors, or the trauma of the relationship. This mental loop doesn’t just waste time—it keeps you stuck in the past and prevents you from moving forward with your life. Whether you’re dealing with a high-conflict divorce or recovering from narcissistic abuse, these recurring thoughts can feel...
2024-10-2217 minBe A Better YouEpisode 126: How to Deal with Conflict as an Abuse SurvivorLeave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you.If you’ve ever been abused, dealing with conflict can feel super scary! In this episode, we’re going to talk about how abuse survivors can handle conflict better. We’ll look at how the mind tries to protect us after trauma and how these habits might affect how we react to conflict. By understanding these patterns, we can find ways to feel stronger, more confident, and in control. We’ll share tips and ideas to help survivors take back their power and see conflict as a cha...
2024-10-1516 minBe A Better YouEpisode 125: Unveiling Narcissistic Abuse: The Effects of Withholding on Self-EsteemLeave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you.In this podcast episode I am explaining he insidious nature of narcissistic abuse, specifically focusing on the manipulative tactic of withholding. Exploring the psychology behind withholding, we illuminate the lasting impact on survivors' self-esteem, including diminished self-worth, heightened anxiety, and struggles with trust. By raising awareness and breaking the cycle if narcissistic abuse, we aim to provide valuable insights and resources for listeners navigating the complexities of this abuse tactic so you can recovery and reclaim your life!Support the s...
2024-10-0818 minBe A Better YouEpisode 124: 17 Signs of Emotional Abuse for Domestic Abuse Awareness MonthLeave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you.Have you ever felt confused, doubted your own reality, or found yourself constantly second-guessing your emotions? You might be experiencing emotional abuse. In this episode, we’re uncovering 17 signs of emotional abuse, including gaslighting, blame-shifting, and narcissistic abuse tactics designed to manipulate and control. Whether it’s constant criticism, isolation from friends and family, or verbal put-downs disguised as “jokes,” these subtle yet destructive behaviors can leave lasting scars. We’ll also discuss how abusers use emotional blackmail, dismiss your feelings, and sabotage your relationships to keep yo...
2024-10-011h 01Be A Better YouEpisode 123: Your Brain as a Healing Tool: Why It’s Time to Use ItLeave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you.In this episode, we explore the incredible power of the brain in healing emotional wounds and trauma responses from emotional and narcissistic abuse. With insights from science, we'll discuss why we often overlook this resource and how we can consciously use our minds to transform unwanted emotions into healing and growth. If you've tried countless methods without success, this episode might just hold the key to unlocking your healing journey.Support the showTo learn more about my Programs visit...
2024-09-2410 minBe A Better YouEpisode 122: Breaking Free: How to Truly Stick to No ContactLeave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you.In the realm of toxic relationships, the decision to go 'no contact' is often misunderstood, plagued by misconceptions that fail to capture its emotional complexity. When dealing with individuals entrenched in narcissism and emotional abuse, severing ties is far from a simple task. Contrary to popular belief, it's not merely about physical distance; it entails a multifaceted process of disentangling oneself emotionally and mentally. The idea that going no contact erases all feelings towards the abuser oversimplifies the depth of emotional attachment that often exists...
2024-09-1722 minBe A Better YouEpisode 121: Shifting Self-Blame with the Power of the Subconscious MindLeave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you.Today we are getting into the intricate web of self-blame that survivors of emotional abuse often find themselves entangled in. Join me as we unravel the common phrases and beliefs survivors of emotional and narcissistic abuse have while exploring the roots of self-blame and the insidious impact of emotional manipulation.Let me help you illuminate the path toward healing, helping you rewrite your narrative from victim to survivor. Tune in to learn how to break free from the chains of self-blame, embracing self-compassion...
2024-09-1026 minBe A Better YouEpisode 120: Calm the Storm: Regaining Control After Emotional AbuseLeave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you.In this episode of the Be A Better You Podcast, we dive deep into the aftermath of narcissistic abuse and explore how it leaves survivors feeling emotionally dysregulated and out of control. If you’ve ever felt like your emotions are running the show—causing you to lash out, burst into tears, or freeze up—you’re not alone. This episode sheds light on why it's so challenging to regulate your emotions during and after enduring emotional abuse.I'll discuss...
2024-09-0318 minBe A Better YouEpisode 119: The Real Reason Letting Go Feels so HardLeave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you.In this episode of the Be a Better You Podcast, host Allison K. Dagney, a best-selling author and subconscious reprogramming coach, dives into the deep-rooted challenges that make letting go feel almost impossible. Whether you're struggling to stop thinking about your ex, wishing you could move on from the past, or feeling stuck in a cycle of rumination, this episode is for you.Allison explores common behaviors like overthinking, idealizing the past, and seeking closure, all of which can keep you anchored to...
2024-08-2723 minBe A Better YouEpisode 118: Managing and Removing Your TriggersLeave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you.In today's episode, we dive into the complex world of emotional triggers, especially those stemming from experiences with a narcissist or enduring emotional abuse. Understanding these triggers is the first step toward profound healing and reclaiming your peace of mind.Emotional triggers are not just mere reminders of past traumas; they are intense, often painful reactions that can catapult you back into the emotions you felt during periods of emotional abuse. For many, these triggers involve interactions or memories associated with a narcissist—a...
2024-08-2042 minBe A Better YouEpisode 117: Rewiring Your Brain Isn’t as Hard as You ThinkLeave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you.In this episode, we're tackling a common misconception: that rewiring your brain after emotional and narcissistic abuse is difficult, if not impossible. Many people believe that changing their thoughts, behaviors, and emotional patterns requires endless struggle and years of hard work. But what if I told you that it doesn’t have to be that way? In today’s episode, we’re diving deep into the power of language and beliefs—how what we say to ourselves shapes our reality, and how shifting those words can make...
2024-08-1335 minBe A Better YouEpisode 116: Breaking the Cycle of Trauma BondsLeave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you.In this episode of the "Be A Better You Podcast," we get into the intricate topic of breaking the cycle of trauma bonds. Many survivors of abusive or narcissistic relationships struggle to let go of their abusers, often believing they are tied to them on a soul level. These deeply ingrained beliefs create a false sense of connection, making it incredibly challenging to move forward. We explore how these beliefs manifest in behaviors such as rumination, social media stalking, and seeking validation from mutual acquaintances...
2024-08-0627 minBe A Better YouEpisode 115: How to Reduce and Prevent AnxietyLeave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you.In today's episode I am sharing tips on how to reduce and prevent anxiety. This episode will give you actionable steps to take to help you regulate your nervous system first and foremost, followed up by ways to use your subconscious mind to prevent anxiety from occurring, even if you've been experiencing it for a lifetime! After emotional and narcissistic abuse, anxiety and panic attacks are extremely common because we are in a heightened state of emotion driven by our nervous system, which is designed...
2024-07-3041 minBe A Better YouEpisode 114: The Hidden Side of CodependencyLeave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you.In this episode of the Be A Better You Podcast, I dive into a fresh perspective on codependency that you won’t hear from other coaches and podcasters. While many discussions about focus on the surface-level symptoms, we’re going deeper to uncover a crucial but often overlooked aspect. You’ll discover how codependency can lead to a reversal of energy, where the focus shifts away from oneself and onto everyone else, leading to an imbalance that affects overall well-being.I explore how constan...
2024-07-2332 minBe A Better YouEpisode 113: How to Stop Giving Your Power Away After AbuseLeave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you.In this episode of the Be A Better You Podcast, we explore the critical issue of deferring power to others, a common coping mechanism for many emotional abuse survivors. This habit often leads to a lack of boundaries, constant exhaustion, and hidden anger. I explore why this happens and how it can affect your life, touching on the importance of recognizing and shifting out of this state.Through the powerful story of a former client, I'm talking about the journey from feeling disempowered...
2024-07-1629 minBe A Better YouEpisode 112: The Healing Power of Community: Why You Don’t Have to Do It AloneLeave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you.In this special episode of the Be A Better You Podcast, we explore the transformative power of community in the healing journey, especially for those recovering from emotional abuse. Inspired by the recent episode with Sheryn Senn, we delve into how being part of a supportive community can accelerate your healing and provide a sense of belonging and understanding.Many people believe that healing from emotional abuse requires years of therapy, but this belief can often keep them stuck and unable to find...
2024-07-0928 minBe A Better YouEpisode 111: Easy Ways to Begin Healing through Action and CelebrationLeave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you.In this powerful episode of the Be A Better You Podcast, we are honored to welcome Sheryn Senn, an inspiring best-selling author, podcaster, and mentor. Sheryn bravely shares her journey as a child abuse survivor and survivor of emotional abuse, highlighting the transformative power of taking action and celebrating oneself.Sheryn dives into the depths of her experience, revealing the darkness and level of confusion that many people don’t realize can be pivotal for healing. She recounts how participating in my one-on-one co...
2024-07-021h 12Be A Better YouEpisode 110: 3 Ways to Decrease Physical, Mental and Emotional ExhaustionLeave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you.Physical, Mental and Emotional Exhaustion individually can have major impacts on us...but what if we are experiencing two or even three at a time?! In this episode I am explaining how the nervous system responds when we are physically, emotionally and/or mentally drained and why it's so important to get our nervous systems regulated for optimal health. I am sharing a personal story of mine as well so you know that you are not alone and that this stuff takes practice a...
2024-06-2526 minBe A Better YouEpisode 109: Navigating Isolation After Emotional and Narcissistic AbuseLeave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you.Navigating the aftermath of narcissism and emotional abuse can be an overwhelming journey, particularly for women who find themselves isolated from family, friends, and even their children. This podcast episode, "Navigating Isolation After Emotional and Narcissistic Abuse," explores the profound feelings of isolation that often follow such traumatic experiences. We'll explore why these isolating effects occur, from intentional manipulation by the abuser to self-imposed isolation due to shame and embarrassment. By acknowledging and processing emotions, finding support from those who truly...
2024-06-1828 minBe A Better YouEpisode 108: Escaping the Swamp of Emotional Abuse RecoveryLeave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you.In this powerful episode, I am diving into the often overlooked but crucial phase of emotional abuse recovery. Using the swamp analogy, we explore the deep, murky waters of despair that many survivors find themselves in even after escaping an abusive relationship. I discuss common feelings of isolation, relationship turmoil, and the fear of losing one's identity. These struggles are real and valid, but there is hope for healing.I uncover practical steps to shift out of the swamp and into the light...
2024-06-1144 minBe A Better YouEpisode 107: A Peek Inside a Personal Conversation with My Friend Riessa MoniqueLeave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you.Today I am offering something a little different, yet no doubt insightful. I am speaking with my friend Riessa Monique and we are opening up our conversation with YOU. We are talking about a lot of different things so you get a peek into how our personal chats go when we get together. Riessa is a life coach who helps women in technology and she is one of the wisest people I know! She is full of life and deep insight and has helped me...
2024-06-0442 minBe A Better YouEpisode 106: Clearing Subconscious Blocks to Achieve Your GoalsLeave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you.Last week the Premium Subscribers got this episode ahead of everyone else! Today, You get it as well. I realized after publishing it that it was too good not to share with everyone! **Today I am sharing the difference between a subconscious belief and a subconscious block and why it's important to identify and clear them out. I give you 12 indicators that you might have a subconscious block limiting you and keeping you from the life of your dreams. Whether you have been i...
2024-05-2835 minBe A Better YouEpisode 105: Embracing Your Worth: A Journey to Self-Love with Elizabeth FosterLeave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you.Join us in this enlightening episode of 'The Be A Better You' Podcast as we explore the transformative power of self-love with Elizabeth Foster, the Founder of 'For the Love of Self' Coaching. Elizabeth, a passionate advocate for empowerment, shares her journey as a Transformative Self-Love Coach, helping individuals silence their inner critics and embrace their true worth. Elizabeth's insights reflect her mission to empower women, fostering personal growth and contributing to a more equitable world where women learn the power of Self Love. Tune i...
2024-05-2144 minBe A Better YouEpisode 104: Do You Know Your Soul's Blueprint? Decoding Human Design CentersLeave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you.In this episode of I dive into the intricate world of Human Design Centers, uncovering how these centers shape our personalities and interactions with the world around us. Understanding your unique Human Design is like having a personalized roadmap to navigate life's complexities with clarity and purpose. Each center, from the Head to the Root, plays a crucial role in defining our traits, decision-making processes, and overall well-being.***I no longer offer a free personalized Human Design report on my website but you...
2024-05-1427 minBe A Better YouEpisode 103: A Lesson on Chakras: A Key Piece to Your Well-BeingLeave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you.Through her own healing journey, Luisa Anderson discovered the power of pain as a transformative force and realized her innate gift of understanding beyond surface appearances. Her intuition, honed through years of navigating personal darkness, now serves as a beacon of empathy and compassion for others seeking to shed their masks and embrace their true selves. Luisa is a sanctuary for those on a quest for healing, self-discovery, and reconnection with intuition using the Chakra system as a pivotal and crucial tool for self-help, healing...
2024-05-0749 minBe A Better YouEpisode 102: Mind - Body - Spirit Alignment: A Pop Up ConversationLeave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you.Today I decided to have a pop up conversation with my friend Gigi Winans "The Spirwitchal Gangsta," aka a Spirwitchal Mentor & Healer who guides women through their spiritual awakenings. Her mission is to reprogram limiting beliefs, integrate the shadow self, and foster mind-body-soul balance for personal growth and self-awareness.Gigi is a certified Reiki Master and Intuitive Reader with a vision of creating a vast virtual and physical space for holistic healing. Her journey began in July 2020 during a transformative retreat in Sedona...
2024-04-3058 minBe A Better YouEpisode 101: Beyond the Surface: Healing Your Relationship with FoodLeave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you.In this episode of the Be A Better You Podcast, we dive deep into the challenges of weight loss and wellness journeys with Laura Folkes, a certified health coach specializing in helping individuals break free from the cycle of dieting and self-sabotage. Laura understands the frustration of knowing what steps to take for a healthy lifestyle yet struggling to maintain consistency. She shares her own journey of overcoming a cycle of weight loss and gain while feeling consumed by thoughts of food. Through her experience...
2024-04-2351 minBe A Better YouEpisode 100: An Eye Opening Discussion on Religious DeconstructionLeave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you.If you've been brought up in religion this discussion could be an eye opening discovery into the parallels of emotional and narcissistic abuse. I am interviewing coach Terina Maldonado about her experience with religious deconstruction to finally break free from limiting beliefs she was programmed with from a very young age with her church. We explore how things like purity culture, societal expectations and some religions impart deep psychological conditioning on people to keep a power status. Listen in to this very important and eye-opening...
2024-04-1643 minBe A Better YouEpisode 99: Why You Can't Stick to Something Long Term & What do to About itLeave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you.In this episode of the Be A Better You Podcast, Allison K Dagney uncovers the transformative power of commitment and how it shapes our journey towards personal growth and success. She starts by addressing common struggles with commitment, such as unfulfilled promises to ourselves and recurring patterns of falling off track with goals. She uncovers the underlying challenges rooted in subconscious blocks and limiting beliefs that hinder your commitment. Exploring practical strategies and insights, she offers listeners actionable steps to break through these barriers, fostering...
2024-04-0932 minBe A Better YouEpisode 98: Empowerment through Accountability: Embracing Change for a Better YouLeave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you.Welcome to the latest episode of the Be a Better You podcast, your go-to resource for self-help, self-discovery, and self-development strategies. In today's insightful discussion, we're diving deep into the transformative power of accountability. Whether you're seeking personal growth, striving for greater success in your career, or longing for stronger relationships, accountability is the key to unlocking your true potential. Join us as we explore actionable tips and empowering insights to help you break free from excuses, embrace responsibility, and embark on a journey of...
2024-04-0225 minBe A Better YouEpisode 97: 4 Tips to Cultivate a Positive MindsetLeave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you.In this episode, I explore practical strategies for maintaining positivity and resilience in the face of life's challenges. I start by defining positivity and resilience and discussing their importance in everyday life. I then identify common obstacles to maintaining a positive mindset, such as negative self-talk and external stressors, before diving into actionable strategies for cultivating positivity. These include practices like gratitude, and self-care activities. Additionally, I explore strategies for building resilience, such as embracing change and seeking support when needed. Throughout the episode, I...
2024-03-2640 minBe A Better YouEpisode 96: Navigating Overwhelm: Empowering Women to Thrive in Today's DemandsLeave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you.In this episode, we explore the often overwhelming reality faced by women who juggle myriad roles and responsibilities in today's world. We explored how overwhelm is not just a byproduct of our circumstances but rather a mental construct shaped by our perceptions and conditioning. By understanding the role of our subconscious mind and societal expectations, we unveiled the root causes of overwhelm and identified the ways in which it can manifest as a storm in our minds, disconnected from reality. Offering actionable strategies, we discussed...
2024-03-1935 minBe A Better YouEpisode 95: Beyond the Bubble: Unleashing Growth Outside Your Comfort ZoneLeave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you.In this empowering episode of The Be a Better You Podcast, Allison K. Dagney, your emotional empowerment coach, explores the captivating realm of breaking free from the comfort zone. Titled "Beyond the Bubble: Unleashing Growth Outside Your Comfort Zone," Allison navigates the hazardous territory of staying safe and stagnant versus venturing into the unknown for unparalleled personal growth.The episode kicks off by dissecting the comfort zone, shedding light on its deceptive allure and its potential to become a silent killer. Allison explores...
2024-03-1239 minBe A Better YouEpisode 94: Unlocking Your Potential - An Introduction to Human DesignLeave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you.In this episode of the Be A Better You Podcast, host Allison K Dagney introduces her audience to the transformative world of Human Design. Sharing her personal journey and positive experiences with this unique system, Allison breaks down the fundamentals of Human Design, exploring energy types, individual charts, and the practical benefits of understanding one's design. With a focus on self-discovery, the episode guides listeners through the process of generating their own personalized Human Design charts, encouraging them to visit Allison's website at www.whentearsleavescars...
2024-03-0544 minBe A Better YouEpisode 93: Uncovering Your Self-Sabotage to Bring You To SuccessLeave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you.In this empowering episode of The Be A Better You Podcast, we delve into the intricate web of self-sabotage that often impedes women from reaching their full potential. By unraveling the concept of self-sabotage, we explore common behaviors and limiting beliefs deeply ingrained in the subconscious mind that create a comfort cocoon, hindering personal and professional growth. Using the metaphor of a protective shell, we illustrate how self-sabotage can become a barrier to achieving dreams. The episode provides tangible tips for breaking free from this...
2024-02-2739 minBe A Better YouEpisode 92: How Removing Subconscious Blocks Can Build Your DreamsLeave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you.In today's episode I am sharing a personal story of one of my dreams come true! And how removing subconscious blocks was the crux of making this happen! You can make your dreams a reality too, if you are willing to explore your personal limiting beliefs and are dedicated to personal growth. No one can do this except for you, so what are you waiting for? Dive in with me as I share my own inspiring story and explain how you can achieve the best...
2024-02-2026 minBe A Better YouEpisode 91: 3 Simple Tips to Be a Better You!Leave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you.In this transformative episode of the Be A Better You Podcast (formerly The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast), I am taking you on a journey to elevate yourself and embrace the path to becoming a better version of who you are. Titled "3 Steps to Be a Better You," we explore practical and empowering steps to catalyze personal growth and self-discovery. Unveiling the secrets of undivided self-attention, intentional questioning, & visualization for clarity listeners are guided through actionable strategies to uncover aspirations, recognize strengths, and foster a deeper c...
2024-02-1328 minBe A Better YouEpisode 90: From Darkness to Light: A Discussion of Parental Narcissistic AbuseLeave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you.In this powerful episode, we dive deep into the complex and often overlooked realm of parental narcissistic abuse, featuring the inspiring story of Lily Haven, a survivor who has not only triumphed over toxic relationships but has risen from the shadows of a tumultuous childhood with a narcissistic mother.Lily candidly shares her harrowing experiences, shedding light on the pervasive impact of narcissistic abuse that extends beyond romantic relationships to the very foundation of one's family. Through her personal journey of healing, Lily...
2024-02-0656 minBe A Better YouEpisode 83: Breaking Chains: From Stripper to Psychologist - A Woman's Journey of Resilience and TransformationLeave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you.In this empowering episode of the Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast, our host Allison K. Dagney is joined by a remarkable guest, Nella Mrazic, also known as Nella Mx. Nella shares her extraordinary journey from working in a gentleman's club, battling alcohol addiction, to undergoing a profound spiritual transformation that ultimately led to her escape from the abusive male entertainment industry saturated with drugs and alcohol. Her story of survival draws striking parallels to those enduring abusive relationships.Nella Mx, an exotic dancer turned...
2023-12-2650 minBe A Better YouEpisode 82: How to Stop Catering to the Abuser After DivorceLeave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you.In this poignant episode of "The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast," prompted by a thoughtful listener's inquiry, Allison K. Dagney delves into a crucial and often overlooked aspect of the survivor experience—the tendency to cater to abusers even after breaking free from toxic relationships.The episode unravels the multifaceted reasons behind this survivor behavior, exploring the lingering fear of reprisals and the deep-seated guilt that often persists post-escape. Through candid discussions, Allison sheds light on the complexities survivors face as they navigate the af...
2023-12-1923 minBe A Better YouEpisode 70: BONUS - Shift Happens: Feeling Differently with FUN!Leave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you.This episode is going to be a little different. But change is good right? I guess that depends on your beliefs!!! ha!Seriously though - let's make some shifts happen. If you feel down in the dumps or stuck, how can we make some shifts for you? What can we explore? What needs inspection in our thoughts? And - Let's add in some FUN and lightness to it all. Wouldn't you love to make space for more joy, love, happiness and...
2023-10-0522 minBe A Better YouEpisode 67: How Do You Know if You're on the Right Path?Leave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you.Welcome to a spontaneous and deeply introspective episode of The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast where we explore the complex, messy, and beautiful journey of personal growth and self-discovery. I'm your host, Allison K. Dagney and today's episode is a raw and unscripted conversation that emerged from a place of deep inspiration and authenticity that I want to share with you.In this impromptu episode, titled "Are You On the Right Path?" I explore the profound struggle many of us face after experiencing narcissistic...
2023-09-2617 minBe A Better YouEpisode 66: Empowering the Family Through the Subconscious MindLeave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you.Welcome to another enlightening episode of The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast, the podcast where we get deep into the fascinating world of the human mind and explore innovative techniques for personal growth and transformation. I'm your host, Allison K. Dagney and today, we have a truly special guest joining us!Meet Carli Saber, a remarkable individual with a passion for helping parents and families unlock their full potential through the power of the subconscious mind. Carli is not only a seasoned Psych-K facilitator...
2023-09-191h 04Be A Better YouEpisode 64: Simple Steps to Uncovering the Real You After Emotional AbuseLeave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you.In this episode, I'm going into what happens to our sense of self after divorce, breakup, or emotional and narcissistic abuse. These things can really affect how you feel about yourself. They can make you feel confused and unsure of who you really are.People around you can also change the way you think about yourself. They might want you to be a certain way, and that can make you act like someone you're not. This makes it hard to know who y...
2023-09-0549 minBe A Better YouEpisode 49: Achieving the Life of Your Dreams After Emotional AbuseLeave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you.To work with Allison in her 1:1 Coaching Program, schedule a FREE Callhttps://app.squarespacescheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=25254715Today I am interviewing a special guest and friend of mine, Anna Nichols. Anna is a Mindset Coach, Confidence Expert and Subconscious Magician! She helps people transform their mind to transform their business.The reason I wanted to have this conversation is because I realize that after emotional abuse (whether in our personal or professional lives) we often...
2023-05-3054 minBe A Better YouEpisode 39: Is it Really Your Ex You're Missing?Leave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you.When you are feeling a longing for a person who hurt you, it can be very confusing. In the situations of abuse, emotional, physical and narcissistic, we may often leave the relationship feeling a sense of longing or missing the person who hurt us. This is normal! But, it probably isn't your ex that you miss. It's something else. To get to the root of this, we have to do some personal reflection. So in today's episode I'll be asking you some questions t...
2023-03-2125 minBe A Better YouEpisode 36: Is it Really Possible to Forget The Past?Leave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you.Some people tell you just to forget this past...but is this really possible?And if you can't forget the past and erase your memories, what can you do to lessen the pain?In today's episode I'll be sharing some important information on forgetting the past and lessening the painful memories. So, if you've experienced narcissistic abuse, a toxic relationship, emotional abuse or emotional trauma, you're not going to want to miss this!Link to Sign Up for FREE MASTERCLASS:
2023-02-2821 minBe A Better YouEpisode 35: Want to Jump Start Your Healing? Here are 4 Quick TipsLeave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you.Healing is a process. We all know that. And there isn't a finish line. Healing happens in waves and comes and goes. It's very complex at times and easy at others. But one thing is for sure, sometimes we need a little kick in the pants to get started. In today's episode I am sharing 4 quick tips so you can jump start your healing. Even if you've already began, you might need a little boost and that is what I'm going to cover...
2023-02-2813 minBe A Better YouEpisode 17: When Tears Leave Scars Chapter 1 ReadingLeave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you.Today I bring to you CHAPTER 1 of my memoir When Tears Leave Scars by Allison K. Dagney - Read By Madeline Starr**Trigger Warning**If you have experienced Domestic Abuse of any kind this could be triggering for you. The book is now available on Audible so I wanted to share the first chapter with you here on the Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast. If you would like to hear the remaining chapters, you can access the full audiobook on Audible. L...
2022-11-0118 minBe A Better YouEpisode 15: How to Tame the Triggers After Emotional AbuseLeave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you.Triggers are very common after experiencing trauma from emotional and narcissistic abuse. They come out of what seems like nowhere and can send us into a complete downward spiral of despair. Triggers create unwanted emotions in us and can cause panic attacks and lengthy emotional upset and exhaustion. So, in today's episode, I want to help you with my absolute favorite way to heal using a four step process created by Dianah Johnson, the CEO of The Thought Work Institute. Thi...
2022-10-1824 minBe A Better YouEpisode 8: Unraveling the Trauma Bond with Eve BradleyLeave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you.Do you feel like you are experiencing a Trauma Bond? Do you think maybe you were once Trauma Bonded and are still struggling to let go?You're not alone...so many of us who have experienced emotional abuse get stuck in the cycle of being love bombed, devalued and then discarded by our abusers. It creates a dependency on the other person so much that we feel we cannot escape or we cannot let go. Today, I'll be talking with Th...
2022-08-3052 minBe A Better YouEpisode 6: How Your Subconscious Could be Sabotaging Your HealingLeave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you.You might not realize it, but your subconscious could be sabotaging your healing journey. Most people try so hard to move forward and heal. They try everything they can think of and wait for time to ease the pain. The problem is, with narcissistic abuse, emotional trauma and toxic relationships, the programming in our subconscious minds can be so deeply embedded that we have no idea it's even happening. So, if you’re doing your best to heal, yet not getting your des...
2022-08-1620 minBe A Better YouEpisode 5: How to Undo the Narcissistic ConditioningLeave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you.If you are someone who has experienced emotional abuse, you know the awful feeling of losing yourself. When someone is conditioned by a narcissist or toxic person, they begin to doubt themselves. They can no longer think independently. They rely on the person doing the conditioning as a source of truth and reality. This is very scary because it is intended to control you. The other person starts forcing or manipulating their beliefs on you to get you to do what they want. T...
2022-08-0915 minBe A Better YouEpisode 1: Wanna Know the Secret to Getting Unstuck?Leave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you.If you’re anything like me or other survivors of narcissistic and emotional abuse, you’ve no doubt experienced the pains of feeling stuck. You’ve probably thought…Why can’t I just move on?Will this suffering ever end?This is too unbearable.I’ll never heal.If this sounds familiar to you, you’re not alone. Feelings of being stuck and unable to push forwar...
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