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A Codependent MindS8 - Chapter 13: MoneyIn this chapter we discuss how the ways in which the use of money to meet emotional or interpersonal needs can cause shame, dependency, and destructive patterns. Learning to separate financial needs from emotional ones has allowed Brian to build a healthier partnership where money.
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2025-11-2517 min
What’s Cookin’ in Litigation?Resilience & Dynamism in Asbestos and Talc with Stephanie LummusWhat's Cookin' in Litigation? with Brian Wacker, Episode 12In season 1’s final episode of “What's Cookin' in Litigation?” host Brian Wacker welcomes Stephanie Lummus, a partner at The Cook Group’s St. Louis, Missouri office.Tune in to the episode to hear about: * Stephanie’s journey from serving in the Navy to becoming a formidable defense litigator * How Stephanie’s military service has equipped her to excel in the legal industry * The uniqueness of practicing law in the 'judicial hell hole' of St. Louis * The procedural nuances specific to asbe...
2025-11-1923 min
Help for Hashimotos podcastUnlocking Your Body's Healing Power with Genuine Essiac Tea – Brian PaulusJoin host Stephanie Ewals as she dives into the fascinating world of Genuine Essiac Tea with Brian Paulus, a 40-year advocate of this powerful herbal remedy. Discover the history, science, and success stories behind this Ojibwe-inspired formula, refined from 4 to 8 herbs for maximum detoxification and immune support. Learn how Essiac Tea cleanses the digestive tract, supports the body's natural healing processes, and offers hope for those with cancer and other health conditions—all at an affordable $1/day. Whether you're exploring natural remedies or seeking preventative health solutions, this episode is packed with insights to empower your wellness journey.
2025-11-181h 10
A Codependent MindS8 - Chapter 12: SexIn this chapter, Chapter Twelve we explore sex as a relational tool rather than a moral or performative act, emphasizing its capacity to foster connection, safety, and intimacy . For much of his life, Brian’s experiences with sex were shaped by shame, fear, and performance anxiety, mirroring his broader relational struggles with powerlessness and disconnection. Early relationships reinforced these wounds, turning sex into an arena for proving worth rather than sharing intimacy. His relationship with Stephanie marked a turning point—through genuine desire, emotional safety, and open communication, sex became a space for healing rather than performance.
The p...
2025-11-1217 min
A Codependent MindS8 - Chapter 11: CaretakingIn this episode, Brian discusses how for much of his life, he used the natural impulse to care for others destructively. His caretaking was largely driven by fear, shame, and a need to feel safe and valued. In his relationship with Stephanie, he had to relearn what real caretaking meant—how to receive care without shame and to give it from a place of empathy instead of obligation or fear.
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2025-10-2919 min
A Codependent MindS8: Chapter 10 - ConflictUse this link to review the book on Amazon - https://amazon.com/review/create-review?&asin=B0CYH7TMZ1
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In this chapter, we explore conflict as an inevitable and essential part of any healthy relationship between two distinct individuals. While often viewed as threatening or destructive, conflict—when approached constructively—can serve as a powerful tool for learning, connection, and growth, much like the scientific method that refines understanding through testing and revision. Brian discusses his lifelong fear of conflict, rooted in a childhood marked by anger, shame, and emotional immaturity, and how thos...
2025-10-1520 min
Build Your SuccessWhen Communication Counts with Stephanie ColonIn this episode of the Build Your Success podcast, hostBrian welcomes Stephanie Colon, a seasoned banker turned consultant with over 25 years in the financial industry. Stephanie shares her background, her transition to starting her own consulting firm, and her approach to helpingbusinesses streamline processes and achieve sustainable growth. The conversation delves deep into the importance ofleadership communication, touching on topics like standard operating procedures (SOPs), SWOT analyses, and effective communication techniques. Stephanie recounts a personal story highlighting how a lackof communication during her husband's military deployment caused significant anxiety, illustrating the critical role...
2025-10-0724 min
A Codependent MindS8: Chapter 9 - CommunicationUse this link to review the book on Amazon - https://amazon.com/review/create-review?&asin=B0CYH7TMZ1
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In this chapter, we explore communication as an essential tool that makes all other relationship tools work. We emphasize outcomes over technique; that is, clarity, connection and a stronger sense of partnership. Brian contrasts destructive communication patterns in his past relationship with J—which was marked by avoidance, appeasement, control, dishonesty, and miscommunication—with the healthier dynamic the he experiences with Stephanie, where the goal is mutual understanding rather than power or emotional management. We a...
2025-10-0118 min
A Codependent MindS8: Chapter 8 - CuriosityIn this episode, we explore curiosity as both a universal instinct and a vital relationship tool. Brian reflects on how childhood fear and threat-responses suppressed his natural curiosity, leaving him passive and disengaged in past relationships. Instead of genuine inquiry, his “curiosity-like” behaviors were rooted in anxiety, compliance, and performance. In contrast, healthy curiosity—as modelled by Stephanie early in their relationship—has proven transformative, deepening connection, sparking self-discovery, and reinforcing intimacy. By learning and relearning to ask questions and explore emotions, Brian has found that curiosity not only nurtures passion and understanding but also strengthens the shared “Us,” creating a fe...
2025-09-1719 min
A Codependent MindS8 - Chapter 7: HonestyIn this chapter, we explore honesty as a powerful relationship tool—one that builds connection, trust, and intimacy when used well, but creates distance and damage when misused or withheld. Honesty provides accurate information about ourselves, others, and the world, enabling stronger partnerships, while dishonesty erodes trust, fosters disconnection, and betrays the relationship. Brian's childhood survival strategies turned dishonesty into a habit, often expressed through pretense, omission, or appeasement rather than blatant lies. These behaviors once kept the him safe but later undermined intimacy and threatened his relationship with Stephanie. Relearning honesty meant confronting fear, shame, and self-deception, distinguishing be...
2025-09-0328 min
Life's Best Medicine PodcastEpisode 263: Stephanie MoDavisThank you for tuning in for another episode of Life's Best Medicine. Stephanie MoDavis is a passionate speaker, author, and holistic coach committed to guiding others in the process of Spiritual Awakening. Through her organization, Awakening Healthcare, she champions a heart-centered approach to healing, helping individuals and communities communicate with empathy, navigate spiritual growth, and build strong heart centered relationships. By embracing suffering and illness as initiations for spiritual transformation beyond labels and diagnoses, she empowers others to find grace amongst any challenge. In this episode, Dr. Brian and Stephanie talk about… (00:00) Intro (05:03) How Stephanie's childhood tr...
2025-08-201h 08
A Codependent MindS8 - Chapter 5: EmpathyThe FULL AUDIOBOOK is now available through Amazon and other retailers and also from our website: https://www.codependentmind.com
This chapter/episode explores empathy as a core human capacity that evolved to support connection, community, and relationship. True empathy involves a dynamic system of cognition (understanding), emotion (sharing in the feeling), and behavior (responding in a way that reflects care and connection). It is foundational to all relational work—knowing, connecting, and strengthening the partnership.
Brian reflects on his early misuse of empathy, where hyper-attunement to others' emotions was driven by fear, shame, and a...
2025-08-0617 min
A Codependent MindS8 - Chapter 4: The WorkIn this episode, Brian reads Chapter 4, which explores what it means to "do the work" in relationships, distinguishing between compulsive, performative labor rooted in childhood survival strategies and the intentional, collaborative work required for emotionally healthy partnerships. The chapter also sets the stage for the rest of the book by introducing the concept of relationship tools: emotions, behaviors and resources that can either build or erode connection depending on how they are used. Each tool will be examined for its purpose, misuse, and proper function, with a focus on outcomes rather than moral judgments.
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2025-07-2310 min
A Codependent MindS8 - Chapter 2 - Me & YouIn Chapter Two, Me & You, Brian explores the foundational role of autonomy in building emotionally healthy relationships. Using the metaphor of a three-legged stool—Me, You, and Us—he argues that a strong relationship requires each partner to be a clearly defined individual. Drawing from his own experience, Brian reflects on how childhood trauma and emotionally volatile caregivers taught him to mute his needs and perform for safety, leading to enmeshment in relationships.
As Brian begins to heal, he learns that autonomy is not just a right but a responsibility. The chapter highlights his journey toward emotional self...
2025-06-2526 min
A Codependent MindS8 - Chapter 1: A New Kind of Relationship* In honor of the new book release, get the first book (in eBook format) for FREE until June 15th. https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CYB1K31V/
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Me, You & Us
Moving Beyond Relational Trauma and Disorder (Anxious/Avoidant Attachment, Codependency, BPD) to Build a Stable, Lasting Relationship
As described in this podcast, for years, I struggled in romantic relationships—trapped in people-pleasing, conflict avoidance, and emotional disconnection. I didn’t know how to set boundaries, communicate honestly, or feel safe being myself. Like many people with...
2025-06-1118 min
They'll Be FineFrom Gripes to Grapes with Brian Housand & Stephanie Higgs In this episode of They’ll Be Fine, we're chatting with Brian Housand and Stephanie Higgs! With a Ph.D. in Gifted Education from University of Connecticut, Brian has written books and given numerous presentations focused on gifted education. As the coordinator of gifted programs at UNC Wilmington, he educates and inspires teachers to bring more creativity to the classroom for their gifted students. He is also known for integrating technology in interesting and exciting new ways. If you have been lucky enough to be a student of his or listen to one of his presentations, you kn...
2025-05-1654 min
A Codependent MindS7 - Relationship Tool #20: Being PresentFor most of his life, Brian believed that his primary challenge in relationships was mastering the tool of "being present." He thought that if he could just fully grasp this skill, everything in his life and relationships would significantly improve. However, regular listeners to this podcast will recognize that this belief was far from accurate. We discuss how he understood the tool of being present in his past relationships and how he uses it now, in the present.
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2025-04-3030 min
Courageous Leaders, Connected TeamsPurpose-Driven Entrepreneurship & Leadership Growth with Brian Smith🌟 Episode Overview In this deeply insightful episode, Stephanie Freeth welcomes longtime friend and client Brian Smith, a seasoned entrepreneur with a passion for impact. Together, they explore Brian’s personal and professional journey through leadership, conscious self-awareness, the Enneagram, and building purpose-driven ventures. Brian’s evolution from tech marketer to founder of a social enterprise employing individuals with disabilities is a powerful example of courage, clarity, and conviction in action. 🔑 Key Takeaways
The Power of Purpose-Driven Leadership Brian shares his transition from high-stakes marketing and tech to starting a bakery and chocolate shop with a mission—...
2025-04-3053 min
A Codependent MindS7 - Relationship Toolkit #17: EntitlementWe have talked about entitlement quite a bit. Mostly about how Brian's narcissistic partners have used their feelings of entitlement as fuel to abuse and mistreat him and other people. In this episode we explore how the feelings of entitlement can be used productively to strengthen a relationship rather than degrade it.
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2025-03-2043 min
A Codependent MindS7 - Relationship Toolkit #16: SexIn Season 4, we had a four part series on codependency, trauma and sex. In this episode we focus on the role sex can play in a relationship For Brian, shifting from a performance mindset to a connection mindset made all the difference.
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2025-03-0527 min
A Codependent MindS7 - Relationship Tool #15: CommunicationCommunication is vital to any relationship, but for those of us with relational trauma, it can be difficult to figure out what that means. If we aren't getting yelled at or insulted, it feels like good communication. Bad communication is when someone is disappointed or upset with us. Join us as we talk through Brian's new understanding of the role communication has played and can play in his relationships.
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2025-02-1932 min
A Codependent MindS7 - Relationship Tool #14: Attention
In this episode we discuss the relationship tool of attention. Paying attention can be difficult for people with relationship trauma and codependent habits. It was certainly challenging for Brian. Healing codependency has involved re-learning how to use the tool of attention, directing its use to building strong connections with people we care about who care about us.
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2025-02-0532 min
A Codependent MindS7 - Relationship Toolkit #13: ConflictBrian spent most of his life being 'conflict avoidant' at least that is how he understood it. Really the powerlessness and shame that underlied his codependency meant that any interpersonal conflict felt existentially threatening. In this episode we discuss how to approach conflict differently such that it functions as a tool for learning and connection rather than destruction.
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2025-01-2334 min
A Codependent MindS7 - Relationship Tool #12: ApologyCan you tell the difference between a genuine apology and apology theater? In this episode, we discuss to tool of apology - how narcissists use it, how Brian used it codependently and how to use it authentically to make long lasting repairs to relationships.
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2025-01-0829 min
A Codependent MindS7 - Relationship Toolkit #10: MoneyAs discussed in a previous episode, Brian used money to fuel his codependent habits. Healing from codependency also involved developing a new understanding of the role money plays in his life and his relationship. In this episode, we discuss what kind of tool money is and what challenges and opportunities it presents.
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2024-12-1138 min
The Reality Revolution PodcastStephanie Banks - The Intuitive ChannelThis was a fascinating interview. Stephanie is able to channel any soul as well as your guides, your higher self. In this one she also speaks with Neville Goddard and RA! Stephanie Banks is a highly sought-after intuitive channel, mentor and guide who helps people connect on the soul level. She channels from the perspective of any soul currently on the planet, souls on the other side, purely non-physical beings such as spirit guides, as well as trees, animals, and Gaia. As a conscious channel, Stephanie is both the vessel to re...
2024-11-1953 min
A Codependent MindS7 - Relationship Toolkit #8: Self Knowledge**In honor of Brian's birthday, get the e-book FREE on Amazon from Nov. 14 - Nov. 18. https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CYB1K31V**
In this episode we discuss the importance of self knowledge in relationships - what it is, what happens in its absence, how to get it and how it functions.
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2024-11-1429 min
A Codependent MindS7 - Relationship Toolkit #7: Truth**In honor of Brian's birthday, get the e-book FREE on Amazon from Nov. 14 - Nov. 18. https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CYB1K31V**
If lying forms the basis of codependency then the antidote must be telling the truth. Unfortunately it is not that simple (or that easy!) In this episode we discuss the powerful tool that is the truth and how to learn to wield it safely and effectively.
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2024-10-3133 min
A Codependent MindS7 - Relationship Tool #5: Lying, Resentment and DefensivenessIn honor of Brian's birthday, get the e-book FREE on Amazon from Nov. 14 - Nov. 18. https://www.amazon.com/Making-Re-Making-Codependent-Mind-Codependency-ebook/dp/B0CYB1K31V
Relationship tools are neither good nor bad on their own. In this episode we talk about three tools that are pervasive in relationships marked by codependency - lying, resentment and defensiveness. These were Brian's go-to tools in Brian's relationship toolbox. He learned how to use them very early in childhood in order to neutralize relationship threats. As an adult, however, they have not served him well and using them in our relationship...
2024-10-0339 min
Ignite: Conversations on Startups, Venture Capital, Tech, Future, and SocietyIgnite VC: How to Choose the Right Funding Path for Your Startup with Stephanie Rieben | Ep100In this milestone episode of The Ignite Podcast, host Brian Bell sits down with Stephanie Rieben, Co-Founder & CEO of Diadem Capital, to discuss her journey from Wall Street to the venture capital space. Stephanie reflects on her early career in banking, including stints at major institutions like Goldman Sachs and Citibank, and how her transition to fintech helped shape her path to founding Diadem Capital. She shares insights into the creation of the firm, a marketplace platform that connects startups with both equity and debt funding, and the evolution of their offerings over the past two and a half years.
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2024-09-2344 min
Joust About Careers PodcastEp. 82 - Computer Science/Workplace Data, Apps & Workflow Lead - Avanade - Stephanie (Boyd) DonahueWelcome back to the Joust About Careers podcast! This episode features a conversation with Stephanie (Boyd) Donahue, a 1997 Van Buren High School graduate who works in the computer science field and is the Americas Workplace Data, Apps, and Workflow Lead for Avanade. In this episode, Stephanie shares how a typical day looks in her position, how there is much more to computer science than coding, what it was like to start her own business, and much more. Whether you are interested in a computer science or business career or are still exploring your options, I hope that what Stephanie...
2024-09-2320 min
A Codependent MindS7 - Relationship Tool #4: CuriosityCuriosity is an important tool for doing the relationship work of fostering understanding and deepening connection. In this episode we discuss the transformative power of curiosity, drawing on philosophical insights and evolutionary psychology. We explore how Brian's curiosity was stifled—both by external influences, like critical relationships, and internal struggles, such as fear and disassociation. By recognizing these patterns, he has learned to shift from a defensive posture to an active pursuit of knowledge and emotional exploration which has been critical for our relationship.
In this episode:
00:01:44 What is Curiosity and Where Does it Come Fro...
2024-09-1944 min
A Codependent MindS7 - Relationship Tool #3: The WorkHave you've been told or have you told yourself that 'relationships take work' as a reason to accept behaviours or a relationship that is not serving your needs? This season is about relationship tools, but we shouldn't use these tools to make a relationship work that isn't serving us. So what does 'work' mean in the to the context of a loving, healthy relationship? Brian and Stephanie discuss in the to the context of their relationship.
In this episode:
00:01:56 Relationship Work in Childhood
00:06:53 Conscious Attachment - Autonomy and Mutuality
00:13:14 Mutuality
00:17:25 Categories of R...
2024-09-0525 min
A Codependent MindS7 - Relationship Tool #2: EmpathyExperiencing relational trauma and subsequent relationship disorders, whether codependency, anxious attachment, avoidant attachment, BPD can make empathy challenging. Not that the feelings aren't there, but often the empathetic system is so wounded that it is difficult to stay in a place of empathetic responsiveness. But empathy is a critical tool in forming and maintaining intimate relationships. In this episode we discuss the role of empathy in our relationship, Brian's experience with empathetic woundedness and how he overcame them.
00:00:37 What are we calling 'empathy'
00:01:46 The empathetic system
00:05:12 Empathy and interpersonal disorders
00:09:33 Empathetic system malfunctions
00:17:43 E...
2024-08-2227 min
A Codependent MindS7 - Relationship Tool #1: Lean Start MethodologyIn honor of Brian's birthday, get the e-book FREE on Amazon from Nov. 14 - Nov. 18. https://www.amazon.com/Making-Re-Making-Codependent-Mind-Codependency-ebook/dp/B0CYB1K31V
In Season 7, we return to the theme of Season 4 with episodes that focus on relationships. What are some of the tools, concepts and practices that we feel keep our connection strong and loving? In this episode, we discuss a tool that is not generally applied to relationships - the Lean Startup Methodology (https://theleanstartup.com/principles). People with codependent habits often get in to relationships very quickly and then spend an enormous...
2024-08-0835 min
A Codependent MindS6 - The Book: Final ThoughtsBrian and Stephanie discuss what they learned in writing the book including the role of Brian's mother, the similarities between narcissism and codependency, the power of re-writing stories and the intrangency of the codependent habits.
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2024-07-2542 min
A Codependent MindS6 - #9 Chapter 9: Breaking the Codependency HabitIn this chapter, Brian describes tackling the core codependent behaviors—feeling responsible for others' emotions, compliance, caretaking, people pleasing, compromising boundaries—that had been his default since childhood. Even after healing from the trauma and emotional wounds, he needed a new way of relating to people, seeing and valuing himself as an individual, and embracing an active role in his life. Identifying these codependent behaviors and their underlying motivations, like people pleasing out of fear rather than empathy, was essential. Recognizing signs of powerlessness, such as resentment, defensiveness, and dishonesty, helped him shift to personal agency. Awareness of his emot...
2024-07-1123 minA Codependent MindS6 - #8 Chapter Eight: Rewriting StoriesIn this chapter, Brian reflects on the complex interplay between memory, emotion, and narrative. Reflecting on various pivotal experiences, he realizes that many of the stories he told himself were crafted not to reveal truth but to evade uncomfortable emotions like shame. These narratives, often based on partial truths or outright fabrications, served as shields against facing his true feelings and the realities of his past. Through introspection and external guidance, he begins to unravel these tales, revisiting each with a critical eye to uncover buried emotions and reassess his behaviors. This painstaking process, though painful and destabilizing, gradually...
2024-06-2723 min
A Codependent MindS6 - #7 Chapter Seven: Healing Trauma and Emotional WoundsThe full audiobook can be purchased on Amazon (https://www.amazon.com/Making-Re-Making-Codependent-Mind-Codependency/dp/B0D2LYSJC3/) and Spotify (https://open.spotify.com/show/4fzyWWfGTv34T5Hev7DsOP) and other platforms.
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In this Chapter, Brian chronicles the arduous and emotionally challenging process of healing from trauma. He recounts his realization that his conditioned freeze and fawn responses to perceived threats, stemming from childhood experiences with his parents a...
2024-06-1321 min
A Codependent MindS6 - #6 Chapter Six: Getting StartedThe full audiobook can be purchased on Amazon (https://www.amazon.com/Making-Re-Making-Codependent-Mind-Codependency/dp/B0D2LYSJC3/) and Spotify (https://open.spotify.com/show/4fzyWWfGTv34T5Hev7DsOP) and other platforms.
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In this episode/chapter Brian reflects on the journey of overcoming codependency, a set of learned behaviors initially meant to ensure safety but which eventually became dysfunctional habits. He discusses how these behaviors can be unlearned a...
2024-05-3015 min
A Codependent MindS6 - #5 Chapter 5: The Fully Made Codependent MindThe full audiobook can be purchased on Amazon (https://www.amazon.com/Making-Re-Making-Codependent-Mind-Codependency/dp/B0D2LYSJC3/) and Spotify (https://open.spotify.com/show/4fzyWWfGTv34T5Hev7DsOP) and other platforms.
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In this chapter, Brian describes his mental and emotional state at the end of his relationship with J when he met Stephanie. As their relationship develops, he gets a glimpse of the kind of intimacy he a...
2024-05-1627 min
A Codependent MindS6 - #4 Chapter 4: Toxic RelationshipsIf you are enjoying listening to the book, please leave a review on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/review/create-review/?ie=UTF8&channel=glance-detail&asin=B0CYH7TMZ1
In this episode, Brian reads chapter 4, which details his back to back relationships with abusive narcissists. He describes the lovebombing that began both of those relationships, the trauma bonds that kept him stuck and the powerless way the relationships ended. Sex, power and shame were all at play, contributing to the dysfunction and despair he experienced during those two marriages.
In this episode:
00:02:17 Relationship Beginnings...
2024-05-0226 min
Your Longevity Blueprint180: How to Detect Mold in your House Part 2 with Brian KarrBrian Karr, the Co-founder of We Inspect and an expert in identifying mold, joins me to continue our two-part series on mold. Today, in Part 2, he dives into the signs of hidden mold growth in your home and shares his opinions on air filtration and fogging.Five signs of water damage indicating potential mold problems:
Staining
Bubbling
Warping
Bowing
Separating
Brian Karr's Bio:Brian Karr is a second-generation indoor environmental consultant who specializes in working with hypersensitive individuals with complex chronic medical conditions. He helps individuals and families u...
2024-04-2441 min
Gospel Spice | Awaken Delight in God through faith in Jesus ChristThe wood between the worlds | theopoetics of the Cross with Brian ZahndBonjour! Stephanie here. Obviously, I love every single guest I welcome on the show because otherwise, I wouldn't welcome them. And I read every single book. But once in a while, there's one that makes you pause, take a deep breath, and ponder deeply. This is what happened when I read “The Wood Between the Worlds” by Brian Zahnd. Just take a moment and ponder the title itself – I know I keep coming back to its profound poetry. It's about the Cross: Jesus and the Cross, the meanings of the Cross.Brian opens his book with these words...
2024-04-2356 min
What Happens in VagusThe Healing Power of Saunas with the Founder of SaunaSpace® Brian RichardsIn this episode, Dr. Stephanie sits down with Brian Richards, the innovative mind behind Sauna Space. Brian's journey into the realm of natural health was sparked by the contrasting medical approaches of his parents—both MDs. This familial duality inspired Brian to explore alternative paths when faced with his own health challenges.Upon his mother's suggestion, Brian delved into the world of saunas to address his health issues. What began as a personal quest for wellness led him to uncover the transformative potential of the Electro-light path. Through meticulous research and experimentation, Brian developed his own Electro-light ba...
2024-04-1958 min
A Codependent MindS6 - #3 Chapter Three: Human ConnectionIf you are enjoying listening to the book, please leave a review on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/review/create-review/?ie=UTF8&channel=glance-detail&asin=B0CYH7TMZ1
In this chapter, Brian reflects on his struggles with codependency, which hindered his ability to form genuine connections with others. As a child, he learned to prioritize others' needs over his own, leading to a fragmented sense of self and difficulty understanding his emotions. As he navigated adolescence, he experienced sexual shame and a sense of unworthiness, further isolating him socially. He ended up passively accepting relationships with individuals...
2024-04-1823 min
Your Longevity Blueprint179: How to Detect Mold in your House Part 1 with Brian KarrWe are talking about mold today. Brian Karr, the Co-founder of We Inspect, is an expert at identifying mold, and joins me for a two-part series. Today, in Part 1, he dives into the best way to test for mold. He breaks down how air testing misses mold and mycotoxins and explains why dust testing is best.Symptoms of mold toxicity:
Brain fog
Mood issues
Migraines
Fatigue
Disequilibrium
Cardiac issues, like palpitations
Vision problems
Bruising
Swelling
Frequent illness
Sleep issues
Bowel problems
Dermatologic issues
Tingling sensation
Allergies
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2024-04-1751 min
A Codependent MindS6 - #2 Chapter Two: TraumaGet your copy on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CYH7TMZ1
In this chapter, Brian discusses the connection between trauma and his codependent habits. His experiences, including childhood dynamics and an early, abusive friendship are explored as sources of trauma, shaping his behaviors and triggering ingrained responses to threats - specifically freeze and fawn.
Brian’s journey of navigating trauma extended beyond physical safety to encompass emotional survival strategies. Amidst consistent fear and shame at home and with his childhood friend, emotional avoidance developed as a coping mechanism. Through dissociation and compartmentalization, painful emot...
2024-04-0419 min
A Codependent MindS6 - #1 Chapter One: Codependent BeginningsIn honor of Brian's birthday, get the e-book FREE on Amazon from Nov. 14 - Nov. 18. https://www.amazon.com/Making-Re-Making-Codependent-Mind-Codependency-ebook/dp/B0CYB1K31V
This episode, Brian reads Chapter One from the book, The Making and the Re-Making of a Codependent Mind.
The full audiobook can be purchased on Amazon (https://www.amazon.com/Making-Re-Making-Codependent-Mind-Codependency/dp/B0D2LYSJC3/) and Spotify (https://open.spotify.com/show/4fzyWWfGTv34T5Hev7DsOP) and other platforms.
Buy now in paperback or eBook form: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CYH7TMZ1/
Chapter One f...
2024-03-2125 min
A Codependent MindS5 - #11 Codependency Voices: Money TalksMoney talks, as they say, and in this episode we hear about the financial dimensions of Brian's codependency. For most of his life, money was not a tool for Brian to express his values and achieve his life goals; instead, it was fuel for his codependent habits - people pleasing, caretaking, lack of boundaries. His financial codependency, not surprisingly, did not lead to financial health; it lead to debt, stress and shame. Recovering from codependency also involved a recovery from financial codependency and we explore what it took for Brian to form a new relationship to money, one that...
2024-03-0733 min
A Codependent MindS5 - #10 Codependency Voices: PetsWe have described codependency as an interpersonal relationship dynamic, but in doing so, we may have inadvertently left out a whole category of relationships in which codependency can manifest - relationships with our pets. In this episode, we discuss the pets that Brian has had (dogs and cats) and the ways in which his codependent behavior habits showed up in those relationships. We also reflect on possible connections between narcissism and pet ownership.
00:00:45 Dogs and Cats
00:03:53 Codependent Behaviors with Pets
00:14:02 Boundary setting
00:16:18 Narcissists and Pets
00:22:52 Genuine caretaking vs codependent c...
2024-02-2225 min
A Codependent MindS5-#8 Codependency Voices: Rebecca on Self-DiscoveryThe paperback, eBook and audiobook version of the first two seasons of this podcast are now available on Amazon - https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CYB1K31V
In this episode, Brian and Stephanie talk with Rebecca about the emotional complexities of self-discovery and growth within the context of codependency. We discuss Rebecca's relationships, her struggle with being vulnerability, and the challenge of being authentic with others.
00:01:24 Little 't' and capital 'T' trauma
00:08:58 Lack of safety
00:11:10 Choosing between relationships
00:18:03 Setting boundaries
00:25:00 Asserting the self in a relationship
00:35:45 Parental models
2024-01-2540 min
A Codependent MindS5-#7 Codependency Voices: Chris on Happy EndingsChris shares with us his story of codependency recovery. From a lonely, difficult childhood, through two marriages to disordered partners, through isolation, depression and despair, Chris found his way out of codependency and in to a loving, transformational relationship. His story, like as our other guests, offers both inspiration and hope.
Mentioned in this episode:
Podcast: Not I - Not Isolated Anymore: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/not-i
Book: The Body Keeps the Score: Brian, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Truma
Podcast: Esther Perel's Where Should We Begin?...
2024-01-111h 05
A Codependent MindS5-#6 Codependency Voices: Bea on IsolationIn this episode, we talk with Stephanie's friend Bea, who has struggled with codependent behaviors her whole life. Her last relationship ended when she realized that it was not a relationship in which she felt seen or safe - her role in the relationship was to be the person her partner needed and wanted her to be and left no room for her authentic self. Since leaving that relationship, she has been in place of isolation. She very much wants to leave that state but is concerned about getting in to a relationship, whether a friendship or romance, where...
2023-12-2835 min
A Codependent MindS5-#5 Codependency Voices - Narcissism and CodependencyIn this episode we ‘hear’ from narcissists as Brian shares his hardwon insight into narcissistic behaviors coming from decades of friendships and relationships with narcissistic people. Building on conversations from previous episodes, we discuss the ways in which codependent behaviors and narcissistic behaviors overlap before reviewing the ways in which they form a toxic complementarity. And if you are still having difficulty spotting a narcissist, Brian offers examples from his past that illustrate the grandiosity, lack of accountability and entitlement that forms the backbone of narcissism.
Mentioned in this episode:
Codependency and Relationships: Dependency, Codependency and Int...
2023-12-1439 min
Real Faith Stories177: The Undeniable Presence of God - Stephanie BradyStephanie was 29 weeks pregnant when the unthinkable happened: On a family excursion, her husband died right in front of her. The overwhelm she experienced was beyond comprehension. Yet, during this unthinkable pain, God’s undeniable presence was like fortified pillars that supernaturally held her up. Stephanie shares how she experienced the truth of God’s promise that His presence is more than enough all the time for everything in your life. Special Guest: Stephanie Brady.Links:Meet StephanieFacebook | Stephanie BradyInstagram | Stephanie Brady (@bradybunch_7) More about the Real Faith Stories PodcastConnect with Brian Robinson
2023-11-0930 min
A Codependent MindS4 - #12 Codependency and Relationships - GenderThe paperback and eBook version of the first two seasons of this podcast are now available on Amazon - https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CYB1K31V
In this episode we discuss the intersection of gender with codependency. We explore how gender roles and expectations can be sources of trauma, leading individuals to internalize shame and feel pressure to conform. Gendered expectations can also reinforce codependent behaviors, as certain traits align with cultural norms associated with femininity, such as kindness and caretaking.
Additionally, we discuss on how gender can mask abusive dynamics, as it d...
2023-10-0531 min
A Codependent MindS4 - #10 Codependency and Relationships - Sex (part 4) - Sexual HealingThe paperback and eBook version of the first two seasons of this podcast are now available on Amazon - https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CYB1K31V
In this episode, the final one in our 'mini-series' about sex and codependency, we discuss Brian's past experiences of sexual trauma and how they had led to codependent behaviors in his relationships.
We highlight three key elements that contributed to his current healing sexual relationship:
Safety: Unlike his previous relationships, he felt safe with Stephanie right from the beginning. This safety allowed him to open u...
2023-09-0734 min
A Codependent MindS4 - #9 Codependency and Relationships - Sex (part 3) - Sexual TraumaThe paperback and eBook version of the first two seasons of this podcast are now available on Amazon - https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CYB1K31V
In this episode, we continue the discussion about the way that trauma Brian experienced and the codependent behaviors that developed in response to it affected his sexual relationships and his relationship to sex. We broke this episode in to two parts (part 2 and part 3). This is part 3 which covers the sexual trauma Brian experienced in his relationship with J and then the end of that relationship.
00:02:01 Lovebombing
2023-08-2437 min
A Codependent MindS4 - #8 Codependency and Relationships - Sex (part 2) - Sexual TraumaThe paperback and eBook version of the first two seasons of this podcast are now available on Amazon - https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CYB1K31V
In this episode, we continue the discussion about the way that the trauma Brian experienced and the codependent behaviors that developed in response to it affected his sexual relationships and his relationship to sex. We broke this episode in to two parts (part 2 and part 3). This episode covers the sexual trauma Brian experienced in his relationship with R.
In this episode:
00:00:37 Sexual Trauma
00:02:35 Shame an...
2023-08-2437 min
A Codependent MindS4 - #7 Codependency and Relationships - Sex (part 1)The paperback and eBook version of the first two seasons of this podcast are now available on Amazon - https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CYB1K31V
One subject that we have not discussed with much depth is sex, even though it is an important component of human relationships and it played a central role in Brian's struggle with shame and fear of intimacy. In this episode, we put sex front and center, talk through the reasons we haven't done so up until now and start to explore the role sex played in Brian's codependency.
...
2023-08-1035 min
Wantrepreneur to Entrepreneur | Start and Grow Your Own Business641: Finding CALM within the CHAOS and clutter w/ Stephanie ShalofskyOn this episode of The Wantrepreneur to Entrepreneur Podcast, host Brian Lofrumento is joined by guest Stephanie Shalofsky, founder of The Organizing Zone, to discuss effective organization and its importance in achieving personal and professional goals. Drawing on her 15 years of experience, Stephanie emphasizes understanding client challenges and developing appropriate systems for workflow management. She shares about virtual organizing sessions using Zoom, where clients are coached on decision-making and clutter reduction. A particular focus of this episode is managing digital clutter, such as messy desktops or overflowing inboxes, with Stephanie advising against using inboxes as a to-do list. She...
2023-08-0433 min
Wantrepreneur to Entrepreneur | Start and Grow Your Own Business641: Finding CALM within the CHAOS and clutter w/ Stephanie ShalofskyOn this episode of The Wantrepreneur to Entrepreneur Podcast, host Brian Lofrumento is joined by guest Stephanie Shalofsky, founder of The Organizing Zone, to discuss effective organization and its importance in achieving personal and professional goals. Drawing on her 15 years of experience, Stephanie emphasizes understanding client challenges and developing appropriate systems for workflow management. She shares about virtual organizing sessions using Zoom, where clients are coached on decision-making and clutter reduction. A particular focus of this episode is managing digital clutter, such as messy desktops or overflowing inboxes, with Stephanie advising against using inboxes as a to-do list. She...
2023-08-0433 min
The Living Legacy PodcastCreating Impact Through Your Story With Stephanie PierucciStephanie Pierucci is the Founder and CEO of Pierucci Publishing, a marketing and book publishing company helping authors reach their target audience by designing book manuscripts, providing ghostwriting services, creating bestselling authors, and engineering collaborative book projects. As an accomplished bestselling author, speaker, creator, and marketer, Stephanie has taught several academic courses and coached students in book-writing for 11 years. She is also the Founder of other entrepreneurial brands, including Moms Wear Capes, Aspen Entrepreneur, and Brain Flow Yoga. In this episode… Everyone has a story to tell. Personal experiences create a narrative, weaving together the le...
2023-08-0129 min
A Codependent MindS4 -#6 Codependency and Relationships: VulnerabilityVulnerability, a key ingredient for emotionally intimate relationships, can be difficult for people struggling with codependency. Brian developed codependent behaviors in order to try to protect himself from emotional harm, so deliberately being vulnerable with another person felt very scary and almost unnatural. In this episode we discuss the role of vulnerability in intimacy and the challenges we have faced in our relationship creating safe spaces for each other.
The Still Face Experiment on YouTube.
00:00:23 Definition
00:01:43 Codependency and vulnerability
00:13:15 Vulnerability in relationships
00:20:07 Our relationship
The paperback and eBook version of...
2023-07-2734 min
A Codependent MindS4 - #5 Codependency and Relationships - Anniversary EpisodeThe paperback and eBook version of the first two seasons of this podcast are now available on Amazon - https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CYB1K31V
This episode we celebrate one year of doing the podcast! It has been a tremendous learning experience for both of us, we have each learned a lot about ourselves and it has strengthened and deepened our connection to each other. We have also learned so much from the listeners who have contacted us with questions and insights. We list our major takeaways from this year which include the role o...
2023-07-1338 min
A Codependent MindS4 -#4 Codependency and Relationships: TrustThe paperback and eBook version of the first two seasons of this podcast are now available on Amazon - https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CYB1K31V
Trust has been a major issue in our relationship. Brian's codependent habits, which included people pleasing and reflexive lying, made it difficult to for him to trust himself and consequently, difficult for Stephanie to place her trust in him and in the relationship. In this episode we explore the different dimensions of trust and the ways in which it was violated and then repaired in our relationship.
00:02:43 H...
2023-06-2941 minA Codependent MindS4 - #3 Codependency and Relationships: Emotional RegulationLearning how to regulate your emotions is a critical to be able to go on to develop healthy, stable relationships. Unfortunately, that learning is interrupted and/or distorted for many people; it was for Brian. We discuss how what emotional regulation (or, more accurately, emotional dysregulation) looked like in Brian's family and how that fed in to the codependent relationships he formed throughout his life. We also discuss what self regulation and co-regulation looks like in our relationship.
00:01:36 Social learning
00:05:05 Early trauma
00:11:19 Emotional dysregulation vs emotional regulation strategies
00:17:20 Emotional dysregulation in relationships
00:24:34 Co-regulation
2023-06-1531 min
A Codependent MindS4 - #1 Codependency and Relationships: IntimacyIn this season, we investigate core concepts about relationships and the ways in which codependent behaviors can make it difficult to form and sustain loving, intimate relationships. In this episode, we start with a discussion of intimacy itself - what are the different forms of intimacy? what are some ways intimacy is challenging, especially with people struggling with codependency? what kinds of intimacy difficulties have we dealt with as a couple and how are we addressing them?
In this episode:
00:02:57 Definition of intimacy
00:04:50 Emotional intimacy
00:06:01 Intimacy and codependency
00:09:49 Brian and Stephanie meet
00:11:07 L...
2023-05-1834 minA Codependent MindTrailerRooting out codependency involves going back to the source, to where the codependent habits and behaviors first formed. This is a clip from Season 3, episode 5 where Brian discusses the effect his dad's anger had on him as a child.
The paperback and eBook version of the first two seasons of this podcast are now available on Amazon - https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CYB1K31V
2023-05-1700 min
A Codependent MindS3 - #12 Beyond Codependency - 12 StepsIn "The Big Book" of Alcoholics Anonymous, 12 steps are suggested as a program of recovery. Those 12 steps have been adopted, with minimal changes, by Co-dependents Anonymous. Brian did not find the CoDA or the AA steps helpful in his efforts to understand and change his codependent behaviors, but the act of writing out his own 12 steps was a helpful exercise.
In this episode we discuss 12 step programs and outline the steps (listed below) that Brian felt he went through in kicking the codependent habits. These are offered not as a 'program of recovery' but as inspiration for...
2023-04-201h 41
A Codependent MindS3 - #11 Beyond Codependency - Anger and ResentmentAlong with shame and fear, anger and resentment are two challenging emotions for people with codependent habits to deal with. That was certainly the case for Brian. In this episode we explore the differences between anger and resentment, where they come from, how Brian dealt with them in the past and what his approach is now.
In this episode:
00:01:39 Anger as a 'bad' emotion'
00:02:30 Aristotle on emotion
00:04:24 Emotions as information
00:07:32 Buddha's 'second arrow'
00:08:24 Origins of problems with anger
00:11:52 Role of anger
00:13:05 Codependents, narcissists and anger
00:17:50 Anger and resentment
00:23:24 M...
2023-04-0639 min
A Codependent MindS3 - #8 Beyond Codependency - Listener QuestionsIn this episode, we answer listener questions.
00:00:52 Question 1
00:14:04 Question 2
00:22:43 Question 3
1. Was there ever a time you felt like the investment in helping Brian break through his trauma was too much for you or not healthy for you?
2. How do you take the power back from the other side of a trigger? How do you stand against those negative feelings?
3. What kind of resource did you use/would you recommend?
Mentioned:
Esther Perel's podcast "Where Should We Begin"
The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Min...
2023-02-2434 minA Codependent MindS3 - #7 Beyond Codependency - The Serenity PrayerThe Serenity Prayer is often said at 12-step meetings like Alcoholic Anonymous and even Codependent Anonymous. But it can challenging to enact, especially if you were caught in codependency's web as Brian was. Now that he has recognized and recovered from a lot of his codependent habits, he has a new understanding of and appreciation for it.
Serenity Prayer - God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.
Get even more guidance in healing from codependency. The...
2023-02-0828 minA Codependent MindS3 - #6 Beyond Codependency - Shame VentingIf shame is not resolved, it can just build up and up until the pressure of trying to suppress it gets to be too much. Then what do you do with it? One way Brian attempted to relieve the pressure from his pent up shame was 'shame-venting' or over-sharing. We discuss how shame-venting works as well as other, unsuccessful ways that Brian attempted to manage his unresolved shame.
Get even more guidance in healing from codependency. The paperback, audiobook and eBook is now available on Amazon - https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CYB1K31V
E...
2023-01-2632 min
A Codependent MindS3 - #5 Beyond Codependency - Family of OriginIn this episode we take the opportunity to talk more about Brian's 'family of origin' and how it had more of an effect on the development of his codependent behaviors than either of us realized. Brian discusses his father's anger issues, his mother's emotional immaturity, and the impact these had on his childhood and later relationships. He also expresses a newfound understanding and empathy for his parents' limitations and a sense of empowerment in how he can navigate his family relationships moving forward.
Get even more guidance in healing from codependency. The paperback, audiobook and eBook is...
2023-01-1240 min
A Codependent MindS3 - #4 Beyond Codependency - RelationshipsIn this episode, we talk about the different kinds of relationships Brian has had in his life - with abusive people, with other 'codependent's, and with 'healthy' people. Stephanie and Brian discuss how they connected even though Brian was still struggling with codependent behaviors, some of the challenges they faced and how they worked through them.
Get even more guidance in healing from codependency. The paperback, audiobook and eBook is now available on Amazon - https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CYB1K31V
00:01:09 'Healthy' people
00:04:16 Relationships with narcissists/abusive people
00:11:25 Relationships with ot...
2023-01-0152 minA Codependent MindS3 - #1 Beyond Codependency - BoundariesThere is a lot of talk about personal boundaries these days - having them, respecting them, enforcing them. But what exactly are personal boundaries? Brian and Stephanie do a deep dive into the concept of boundaries.
Get even more guidance in healing from codependency. The paperback, audiobook and eBook is now available on Amazon - https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CYB1K31V
00:04:53 Back to the boundary basics
00:10:22 Boundary violations
00:14:20 Misuse of boundaries
00:17:29 Boundaries vs wants, needs and expectations
00:25:54 Monogamy
00:29:12 Boundaries and codependency
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2022-11-2039 min
You Must Be Some Kind of Therapist30. Surviving Gender Malpractice: Brian’s Detransition StoryTen years ago, at the tender age of 21, Brian needed professional help. He’d been severely bullied as a child, and the messages his father modeled about masculinity didn’t help Brian understand himself or accept his homosexuality. As a tormented young adult, Brian turned to drugs and pornography in futile efforts to escape his depression. A good therapist would have recognized that Brian had a lot to unpack, and made it a priority to help him get off of the drugs that were clearly wreaking havoc on his health and mental clarity. Unfortunately, Brian didn’t have a good t...
2022-11-071h 41A Codependent MindS2 - #5 Healing Codependency - Loving a Codependent MindIn this episode, we flip the script and Stephanie discusses her experiences loving, and trying to form a relationship with, someone who engages in codependent behaviors.
Get even more guidance in healing from codependency. The paperback, audiobook and eBook is now available on Amazon - https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CYB1K31V
00:03:03 Stephanie's past
00:04:35 Jekyll and Hyde
00:08:39 Inauthentic caretaking
00:11:49 Dishonesty
00:14:16 Shame
00:17:35 Learning about codependency
Find us on Instagram @codependentmind
2022-11-0626 minA Codependent MindS2 - #4 Healing from Codependency - Breaking the Powerlessness HabitEven after largely healing from the trauma that started Brian down the path of codependency, he was still left with the behaviors that formed in response to that trauma. So although the source of the codependency had been removed, the symptoms, the habituated behaviors, lingered and kept showing up in his relationships in the form of a default sense of powerlessness. In this episode, we discuss what he is doing to finally kick the powerlessness habit.
Get even more guidance in healing from codependency. The paperback, audiobook and eBook is now available on Amazon - https://www...
2022-10-2339 min
A Codependent MindS2 - #3 Healing Codependency - Re-Writing StoriesStories are powerful tools to help us understand ourselves and our lives. Unfortunately for Brian, many of the stories he adopted or told did just the opposite - served to further cloud and obfuscate what was happening in his internal and external life. In this episode we discuss how he uncovered the true stories of who he was and what had happened to him.
Get even more guidance in healing from codependency. The paperback, audiobook and eBook is now available on Amazon - https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CYB1K31V
00:02:01 The role of st...
2022-10-0837 min
A Codependent MindS2-#2 Healing Codependency - Emotional DevelopmentIn honor of Brian's birthday, get the e-book FREE on Amazon from Nov. 14 - Nov. 18. https://www.amazon.com/Making-Re-Making-Codependent-Mind-Codependency-ebook/dp/B0CYB1K31V
In this episode we discuss the steps that Brian took to repair the damage done to his emotional system by abuse and trauma. From capacity building through understanding and now working on mastery, Brian has been able to tame the chaos that has dominated his inner emotional life and learn to trust himself and his emotions.
Get even more guidance in healing from codependency. The paperback, audiobook and eBook is n...
2022-09-2345 min
A Codependent MindS2 - #1 Healing Codependency - Getting StartedIn honor of Brian's birthday, get the e-book FREE on Amazon from Nov. 14 - Nov. 18. https://www.amazon.com/Making-Re-Making-Codependent-Mind-Codependency-ebook/dp/B0CYB1K31V
NOW AVAILABLE - Get your copy of the book today for more guidance on getting started: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CYH7TMZ1/
This season explores how Brian worked to 're-make' his codependent mind. In this episode we discuss the challenges that Brian faced in getting started on that process and what was needed for him to begin to heal both the trauma and the codependency.
00:01:55 Background o...
2022-09-1042 min
A Codependent MindS1 - #7 Codependency and Emotional ImmaturityThe process of learning what emotions are and how manage them was interrupted for Brian at a very early age by abuse and trauma. Because of that, he never really learned how to identify his emotions or what to do with them. This amounted to emotional immaturity and made it difficult for him to form healthy, intimate relationships and left him vulnerable to further abuse and trauma.
Get even more guidance in healing from codependency. The paperback, audiobook and eBook is now available on Amazon - https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CYB1K31V
In...
2022-08-2730 min
A Codependent MindS1 - #6 Codependency and ShameShame evolved to give us information about the world. But trauma induced shame can be overwhelming and crippling, even life-threatening. Understanding the role shame played in his life and fueled his codependent behaviors, was key to Brian's healing process.
Get even more guidance in healing from codependency. The paperback, audiobook and eBook is now available on Amazon - https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CYB1K31V
In this episode:
00:01:32 Shame vs Guilt and Embarrassment
00:05:32 Why does shame exist?
00:10:07 How narcissists use shame
00:12:20 Freezing and avoiding
...
2022-08-1530 min
A Codependent MindS1 - #5 Codependency and Lack of AgencyWhat is involved in the concept of 'personal agency'? How is agency or its lack connected to codependent behaviors? We explore Brian's experience with those questions in mind.
Get even more guidance in healing from codependency. The paperback, audiobook and eBook is now available on Amazon - https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CYB1K31V
In this episode:
00:02:44 Personal agency defined
00:04:51 How it develops/gets interrupted
00:07:41 Lack of agency and vulnerability to abuse
00:11:45 Codependent behaviors as an expression of powerlessness
00:14:13 Codependency and chronic victimhood
00:15:45 Moral agency and shame
2022-07-3025 min
A Codependent MindS1 - #4 Codependency and NarcissismIn honor of Brian's birthday, get the e-book FREE on Amazon from Nov. 14 - Nov. 18. https://www.amazon.com/Making-Re-Making-Codependent-Mind-Codependency-ebook/dp/B0CYB1K31V
Narcissists are an especially dangerous and toxic pairing for people with codependent behaviors, due to the way each person’s maladaptive behaviors work together. In this episode we discuss the general characteristics of narcissism and then detail Brian's two, back-to-back, romantic relationships with abusive narcissists.
Get even more guidance in healing from codependency. The paperback, audiobook and eBook is now available on Amazon - https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CYB...
2022-07-1634 min
A Codependent MindS1 - #3 Codependency and Trauma BondingIn this episode, Stephanie and Brian discuss the concept of trauma bonding within codependent relationships, particularly focusing on two of Brian's past romantic relationships characterized by abuse and narcissistic behavior. They highlight the two key ingredients necessary for trauma bonding: a power imbalance and intermittent abuse.
Get even more guidance in healing from codependency. The paperback, audiobook and eBook is now available on Amazon - https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CYB1K31V
Brian describes his first partner, referred to as "R," as a successful narcissist who engaged in narcissistic abuse and gaslighting. The a...
2022-07-0838 min
A Codependent MindS1 - #2 Codependency and TraumaIn honor of Brian's birthday, get the e-book FREE on Amazon from Nov. 14 - Nov. 18. https://www.amazon.com/Making-Re-Making-Codependent-Mind-Codependency-ebook/dp/B0CYB1K31V
Often codependence behaviors emerge as a response to trauma. What is trauma? How is it different then other stressful, even violent, events? What is it like to live with unhealed trauma? This is Brian's story.
Get even more guidance in healing from codependency. The paperback, audiobook and eBook is now available on Amazon - https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CYB1K31V
In this episode:
00:00:55 Wh...
2022-07-0828 min
A Codependent MindS1 - #1 Codependency - OriginsIn honor of Brian's birthday, get the e-book FREE on Amazon from Nov. 14 - Nov. 18. https://www.amazon.com/Making-Re-Making-Codependent-Mind-Codependency-ebook/dp/B0CYB1K31V
What is codependency? And from where do codependent behaviors emerge? Every 'codependent' has an origin story. This is Brian's.
The paperback, eBook and audiobook version of the first two seasons of this podcast are now available on Amazon - https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CYB1K31V
* We have learned a lot as we have done this podcast. One thing Brian realized is that he underestimated the...
2022-07-0832 min
Do Hard Things Podcast: Forge Your Mind & BodyIntimacy Truth with Stephanie CostelloSend us a textIn this episode, I have a great conversation with Stephanie Costello where we talk about intimacy in relationships. Relationships can be challenging. We have a great conversation on how to effectively communicate with your partner with the intention to improve communication and strategies to improve intimacy. Stephanie’s Bio: Stephanie has over 10 years of experience in the Mental Health Field working with individuals ranging from 6 years to 50 years old. Attending school for Criminal Justice, Human Services, and Psychology, Stephanie has learned the essential skills to r...
2022-06-081h 34
BETTER! Muscle, Mobility, Metabolism & (Peri) Menopause with Dr. StephanieFood Lies & The Secrets to Longevity with Brian SandersDr. Stephanie sits down with Brian Sanders, the filmmaker behind Food Lies, host of the Peak Human podcast, and international speaker to bust some common myths around our diet and evolution history. The two will dive into the great misconceptions about our ancestors and our diet, including the role meat, played in our brain development, fasting, and the average age of mortality. They will trace the evolution of the Modern Diet through Ancel Keys, and comment on the effects of smoking and convenience foods. Brian Sanders and Dr. Stephanie will discuss the propaganda surrounding the vegan diet and the...
2022-01-031h 38
Brian Breaks Character#27 Stephanie drops the target list and finds the perfect bicoastal agentAfter five incredible meetings, Stephanie signed with a bicoastal agent and has been collaborating with them ever since! But things didn't start that way! Teacher, do-er, and champion of the arts Stephanie Weeks knew she was a powerful creative. But translating that to agent emails never fit. She was often left feeling unseen and fearful. By trusting her intuition and worthiness she was able to find her footing, pinpoint exactly what she offers (and whom she wanted to offer it to), and most importantly, how to do it her way.
2021-08-2150 min
The Dharma ProjectBest of 2020: Mediation and The Reality Revolution with Brian ScottAs an end to 2020, we’re re-releasing three of Stephanie’s favorite episodes as our Best of 2020!This week we have Stephanie’s interview with Brian Scott a self-proclaimed “information junkie”, entrepreneur, podcast host, and best-selling author of The Reality Revolution. A lifelong lover of learning and avid speed reader, Brian shares how he had accumulated a vast amount of knowledge, yet he found himself at a place where he felt trapped in a terrible reality with no hope. Through mediation and connecting with his higher self, he was able to transform his life. It was then af...
2020-12-1145 min
Music Production PodcastStephanie Merchak - No Fear of FailingStephanie Merchak is a composer, sound designer, improviser and performer from Lebanon. Stephanie has a deep academic background in music and loves to explore and experiment with sound. Stephanie and I had a great conversation about her willingness to take chances and try new things with her art. She isn't afraid of experiments that might not work, and this attitude and philosophy has helped her break new grounds musically. Listen on iTunes or Stitcher or Google Play or Spotify; watch on YouTube Show Notes: Bandcamp - Stephanie's music on Bandcamp. Mixcloud - M...
2020-05-0158 min
SOVRYNZomia ONE Underground Ep. 0150: "Stephanie and Brian Go To A Wrestling Show"WOOOO! The lovely and hyper-intelligent Dr. Stephanie Murphy and the Golden Stallion go to...a wrestling pay-per-view event! "WWE: Clash of Champions" was held on Sunday, December 17th, 2017...and the two of them were their in the audience LIVE! This episode covers Stephanie's thoughts on the event, and on wrestling in general, along with Brian's full review and coverage as only the Man of Tomorrow can provide!This carcast episode will shock you, rock you, and entice you! Did Stephanie become a wrestling fan? You have to hear it to find out! WOOOO!
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2019-03-0700 min
Just Get StartedStephanie Newcomb (Ep.34) - Founder, Unleashed HFHad a fun time speaking to Stephanie and understanding the path to her success and what keeps her ticking day in and day out. This gal has a great head on her shoulders and is head down in health and nutrition not only for herself but for her family and clients as well. Excited to see how she continues to push the envelope with her business and help people get in the best shape of their lives!About StephanieStephanie is a personal trainer and health coach based in Little Rock, AR. She...
2018-12-2634 min
Test & Code36: Stephanie Hurlburt - Mentoring and Open Office HoursStephanie is a co-founder and graphics engineer at Binomial.
She works on Basis, an image compressor, and has customers in games, video, mapping, and any application that has lots of image data.
Stephanie has also been encouraging experienced engineers to open up their twitter DMs to questions from anyone, to help mentor people not only in technical questions, but in career questions as well.
She also sets aside some time to mentor people through skype when written form just doesn't cut it.
That's the primary reason I have Stephanie on today...
2018-02-1331 min
Sailing in the Mediterranean and BeyondSailing in the Mediterranean Episode 101 Brian and Stephanie of Sailing DetourBrian and Stephanie of Sailing Detour
This week I interview Brian and Stephanie, two young Americans who quit their jobs and are now living the dream. In this discussion we talked about their travels through the European canals to arrive at their current location in Denmark. Brian and Stephanie kept a great blog, here are links to their blogs
http://blog.sailingdetour.com/
http://sailingdetour.com/
http://rodetrip.net/
In the conversation they mentioned a source of great information for sailing the European canals this is a series of online publications by Tom Sommers I plan on interviewing Tom in...
2016-04-2851 min