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From Inside the HiveGabrielle Treanor... Conversations From Inside the Hive (S13 E8)It's not often I do this, but I just had to! I'm delighted to welcome Gabrielle Treanor back to the From Inside the Hive podcast, almost exactly a year to the day since she was last on.Since then things have changed significantly for Gabrielle and our conversation explores (TW) death grief, adult ADHD diagnosis and the value to communing with future you. Gabrielle is a coach, author, writer, podcaster and host of the Quiet ADHD Club, supporting introverted, sensitive, late-discovered ADHD women find self-acceptance and understanding, as well as calm and joyful freedom to b...
2025-03-0550 min
Creative Career ChangeS3 E1: Gabrielle TreanorI often talk about how I am inspired by the women I interview on this podcast, and this was especially the case when I had the pleasure of speaking to Gabrielle Treanor in early January. Gabrielle began her career working in publishing in the 90s and has navigated many career twists and turns since then including launching a stationery business and more recently becoming an ADHD coach supporting quiet, introverted women.We would love to continue the conversation in the comments, so do come and say hello and let us know if there was something...
2025-02-0542 min
Creative Career ChangeS3 E1: Gabrielle TreanorI often talk about how I am inspired by the women I interview on this podcast, and this was especially the case when I had the pleasure of speaking to Gabrielle Treanor in early January. Gabrielle began her career working in publishing in the 90s and has navigated many career twists and turns since then including launching a stationery business and more recently becoming an ADHD coach supporting quiet, introverted women.We would love to continue the conversation in the comments, so do come and say hello and let us know if there was something...
2025-02-0542 minFrom Inside the HiveGabrielle Treanor... Conversations From Inside the HiveGabrielle Treanor is a Calm Coach, host of the brilliant Pressing Pause podcast and author of the 1% Wellness Experiment, released in the UK in December. She is also a rather lovely human! She speaks to us today from her home in the Brecon Beacons, getting ready for the US launch of her book.
The 1% Wellness Experiment is a genius idea of a book which shows how with just 1% of your waking hours (around 10 mins a day) you can create big shifts for yourself.
Here we explore some of those...
2024-03-0851 min
Sparkle on SubstackStaying Experimental in the World of Substack with Gabrielle Treanor"If you take off 8 hours for the recommended amount of sleep we're supposed to have, 1% of your waking day is ten minutes. And so the book is filled with experiments of ideas of how you can take care of your well being and your mental and emotional well being in just ten minutes a day to make it as doable as possible."Morning Everyone!I’m back with episode 12 of the Sparkle on Substack podcast. I can’t quite believe I’ve recorded 12 episodes in 6 months but here we are. I have t...
2024-02-241h 01
The Healthy and Wealthy PodcastPeople Pleasing and the Art of Saying NO, with Gabrielle TreanorToday I am speaking with Gabrielle Treanor on the topic of "people pleasing" and the art of saying no" as a business owner and mum.She is a life and positive psychology coach, and writer, helping women who put their family, friends and work first and themselves last.It leaves them feeling tired, unappreciated, resentful and guilty for feeling that way. She helps them feel like they can breathe again by creating a non-judgemental space to gently explore what’s underneath their thoughts and behaviour, along with practical tools and actions, so they can find th...
2023-03-1826 min
Pressing PauseThe truth about joyJoy is an emotion that we think is straight forward – who doesn't want to feel joy, right? But in reality is just not that simple. There are structures and messaging we take in from the people and the world around us that mean our thinking about, and our freedom to feel, joy can get quite knotted up. In this episode I share: What gets in the way of our joy What's actually true about joy How to deal with challenging thoughts and feelings around joy Resources: Be the first to know about The Calm & Joy Catalyst her...
2022-03-0908 minPressing PauseSimplifying boundariesBoundaries can seem like a big deal that will take lots of time and effort to figure out and will mean upsetting people too. But actually that isn't necessarily the case. You will already have boundaries that you communicate and uphold and you can make use of them for the future. In this episode I share: What boundaries actually are How to recognise your existing boundaries How your current boundaries can help you create and honour new ones Resources: Get your free guides to living with more calm and joy in the free resource l...
2022-02-0907 minPressing PauseWhat I learned from The Repair Shop about our wellbeingI became a huge fan of The Repair Shop TV show during the 2020 lockdowns and it gave me more than comfort and entertainment – something that we can put to use in our everyday lives to support our own wellbeing. In this episode I share: The foundational part of the restoration process that can apply to us humans What we need before we can make changes An experiment to breathe love into your life Resources: Get your free guides to living with more calm and joy in the free resource library here If you enjoy th...
2022-01-2607 minPressing PauseFinding calm and joy while grieving with Dipti SolankiDipti Solanki is a coach guiding grieving people through the healing process. We often link grief to the death of a person but we experience grief in many ways, for example when a relationship or we lose a job. And while we can be in the absolute depths of grief it is still possible (and necessary) to find moments of calm and joy. In this episode we discuss: What makes grieving even harder to deal with How to help ourselves when we're in the thick of grief How to support someone else who's grieving What gets...
2022-01-1228 minPressing PauseTwas the night before Christmas…I'm doing something different this episode as Christmas is in a few days. I've decided to record for you a reading of a classic Christmas story – A Visit From St Nicholas but you might know it better as Twas the Night Before Christmas – by Clement Clarke Moore. So, take a moment to pause, relax and enjoy this Christmas tale… Resources: Find lots of resources to help you to bring down your overwhelm so you can feel more calm, in control, confident you can cope and happier, on my website here If you enjoy the podcast...
2021-12-2205 minPressing PauseDecluttering your life and mind with Bridget JohnsBridget Johns is a professional organiser and declutter coach who teaches women to reduce their mental load by decluttering their homes, phones, calendars and minds. Clutter isn't just about being overwhelmed by stuff taking up space in our homes, a cluttered mind can lead to mental overwhelm. In this episode we discuss: What's needed before you can start to declutter Minimalist vs maximalist living How other people affected by clutter means a knock on effect for you too How to start clearing the mental clutter Resources: Register for my FREE Calm Comfort restorative workshop...
2021-12-1526 minPressing PauseNavigating a break-up with Alice McDonaldAlice Mcdonald is a Separation and Divorce Coach who helps women with older teens and adult children to navigate their break-up and create their new future. As you'd think that calm and joy are in short supply during the breakdown of a relationship it was really interesting to hear about Alice's experience and advice. In this episode we discuss: The double whammy women go through with losing their identity Giving yourself permission Rediscovering what you want and enjoy Finding pockets of joy amidst the upset and overwhelm Resources: Register for my FREE Calm Comfort r...
2021-12-0829 minPressing PauseTake a JED – Just Enough DaySome days are just hard, right? You might not know why but you wake up and all you want to do is get back under the duvet and stay there. But you can't –you have responsibilities, a long to do list, commitments. So what do you do? Take a JED… In this episode I share: What a JED is! A different way of approaching your to do list That rest is productive (yes, you read that right) The drawback of forcing yourself onwards Resources: Check out the Coping with Christmas self-paced, online course here Get y...
2021-12-0108 minPressing PauseFood, feelings, getting hangry and toxic diet culture with Rose WhiteRose White, a nutrition and intuitive eating coach, has a wonderful ethos around eating and nourishing ourselves that has absolutely nothing to do with diets. And because we can get so knotted up around what we eat and drink and how that affects how we feel and think I knew she would be great to talk with. In this episode we discuss: How what we consume affects our calm and joy Where and why our thinking around food goes astray Toxic diet culture What interception is and how it can help us to understand and nourish...
2021-11-2427 minPressing PauseWearing your happy with Karen ArthurFashion creative, sewing whizz and podcaster Karen Arthur is passionate about encouraging us all to inject more joy into our daily lives through the clothes we dress in. It's not about following trends, it's about wearing what you love. In this episode we discuss: What wearing your happy means Why Karen disagrees with saving clothes for best A reality check to celebrate each day The impact of menopause and talking about it on everyone's calm and joy Resources: Get your free goodies in the free resource library here This conversation was first aired on...
2021-11-1726 minPressing PauseRebel journalling with Sasha GlasgowA self-described professional experimenter Sasha Glasgow hosts journalling workshops and the podcast 'This is Your RemindHer'. She's showing how journalling rules can be broken to make it work for you. In this episode we discuss: What journalling is in essence Making journalling more accessible Sasha's brilliant journalling anchors How it can help you feel joy as well as work through difficult stuff Resources: Check out the self-paced, online course Rooted – Feel calm, in control and confident you can cope here This conversation was first aired on my new radio show – The Calm & Joy show on Y...
2021-11-1024 minPressing PauseWait, is that allowed?Hang on a mo, do you really think you're allowed to do what you need, to say what you want, to feel how you feel, to think those thoughts and be the real you? Says who?! In this episode we look at: How we can feel we don't have permission to think, feel, say, be or do what we want or need The impact this has on our wellbeing and our everyday lives How we can start to allow ourselves to act in the way we truly want to Resources: If you'd like to...
2021-01-2109 minPressing PauseThe waves of overwhelmOverwhelm is part of the human experience but it's within our power to deal with it, reduce it and help ourselves to feel less of it. In this episode we look at: Where we can go wrong with our thinking around overwhelm A powerful image to help us gauge how overwhelmed we are How we can start to bring down the overwhelm and feel more in control Resources: The Calm Mind Club is open to join now, check it out and join by clicking here You can email me your thoughts on the podcast a...
2021-01-1310 minPressing PauseA guiding word for the year aheadNever mind making resolutions or setting SMART goals and you can definitely forget the new year new you nonsense! There's one practice I love to do at the start of a new year that feels supportive and inspiring without any pressure. In this episode we look at: What choosing a guiding word for the year is and is not How you can find the word that will best support you What my word (or words?!) are for the coming year Resources: Rooted – the self-study, instant access course to help you feel calm, in control an...
2021-01-0610 minPressing PauseWhat would You from December 2021 say?Looking ahead to 2021 doesn't mean you have to set goals and have a 12-month plan. Thinking about how you want to feel and be as well as what you want to do can give you clarity and a steer on the direction you want to take. In this episode we look at: What you may be thinking or feeling about the coming year How to look ahead to the next year in a way that feels helpful to you 15 suggested journalling questions to explore Resources: Get the journal prompts in this week's newsletter by...
2020-12-1611 minPressing PauseHow to find gold dust in the mud pit that was 2020Whether you're happy to wave off this year or want to slam the door in its face, 2020 has been quite the year. Even with all the uncertainty, the worry, the upset and the challenges, what can we take from this year, what can we learn about ourselves that suggests this year wasn't a total bust? In this episode we look at: How we can benefit by reflecting on this past year How to take time to reflect in a way that feels right for you 15 suggested reflective journal prompts Resources: Get the journal prompts...
2020-12-0910 minPressing PauseWhen you're in a rubbish moodSome days you wake up feeling out of sorts and you may not know why. So what do you do when you feel like that? How do you deal with those feelings and change your mood? In this episode we look at: What we tell ourselves about how we're feeling The pros and cons of taking the fast mood change approach How we can help ourselves deal with our rubbish mood Resources: Get your free 7 Steps to Overcome Introvert Overwhelm guide by clicking here Come say hi to me here on Instagram, I'm @gabrielletreanor If...
2020-12-0207 minPressing PauseWhen it feels like you're not getting anywherecan't see or don't feel any difference in yourself in spite of the action you're taking to bring about change. In this episode we look at: The struggle of trusting in ourselves The power of small steps over time What creates lasting change Resources: My free workshop – 3 Steps to Start Feeling Calm and In Control – is happening on Thursday 26 November and if you can't join me live you'll get the replay. Sign up here Come say hi to me here on Instagram, I'm @gabrielletreanor If you enjoy the podcast I'd love you to leave a revi...
2020-11-2506 minPressing PauseWhen you feel disappointed in yourselfWhen you feel disappointed in yourself Why is it we can be so much harder on ourselves than we are on other people? We can give others leeway and second chances but if we don't get perfection from ourselves at the first attempt we're quick to self-criticise and berate ourselves for failing. In this episode we look at: The challenge of feeling disappointed in yourself A completely different way to think about our so-called failures What we gain from falling down that helps us get back up Resources: My new online course...
2020-11-1809 minPressing PauseYou make more of an impact than you thinkWe may not realise it but how you are, what you say and do, has an impact that goes beyond those immediately around us. So not only do we affect others when we're tired, overwhelmed or stressed, but also when we're energised, relaxed and happy… In this episode we look at: Research that shows just how far-reaching an affect we can have on other people How that questions the idea that taking care of your own needs and desires is selfish I share an example of how I saw the ripple effect for myself What the ri...
2020-11-1109 minPressing PauseWhen the world and life feel like a LOTThis week is a lot, with lockdown restrictions in the UK and the election in the US it can feel overwhelming to manage and cope with. In this episode we look at: Why it's okay if you're feeling overwhelmed by it all What you can learn from the past eight months or so What is and is not going to help you during right now How you can get through whatever's coming next Resources: Sign up for my emails and get your free 7 Steps to Overcome Introvert Overwhelm guide here Come say hi to...
2020-11-0409 minPressing PauseCan too much self-awareness be a bad thing?Self-awareness – is it a way to limit and box yourself in, use the labels as an excuse to not do hard things, or is it how you can free and empower yourself to live your life to its full potential? In this episode we look at: The two arguments for and against self-knowledge The empathy scale and what an empath looks and feels like The superpower of being highly empathetic How you and others gain from your deeper understanding of your own nature Resources: Download your free 7 Steps to Overcome Introvert Overwhelm guide by cl...
2020-10-2809 minPressing PauseWhen you're not sleeping wellNot being able to fall asleep, or waking up in the night, is frustrating and makes life feel even harder than it already is. You try to make yourself go to sleep but you just get more stressed and more worn out. You need help! In this episode we look at: The simple and powerful mindset shift that changes how you feel about lying awake in bed The importance of telling your body and brain to wind down long before your head hits the pillow Two different ideas that you can try to help yourself nod...
2020-10-2108 minPressing PauseWhat does introversion have to do with feeling overwhelmed?Knowing how introverted you are (or aren't) and understanding what introversion really is (and what it isn't) empowers you to recognise what contributes to your overwhelm and so how to deal with and reduce it. In this episode we look at: The differences between introversion and extroversion What introversion is and is not How your introversion nature shows up in everyday life How being an introvert can lead to overwhelm How understanding your introversion is freeing, not limiting Resources: Download your free 7 Steps to Overcome Introvert Overwhelm guide here Susan Cain's book Quiet If y...
2020-10-1410 minPressing PauseWhat if… it went right?When we 'what if' we're usually thinking about what if it went wrong, what if I messed up, what if I can't do it, what if it's awful… but there are two sides to what ifs and there's power in allowing ourselves to imagine what if it went right. In this episode we look at: Our beliefs around what choices and power we think we have The flipside of our standard what ifs The magic in the possibility of our hopes and dreams Resources: Download your free 7 Steps to Overcome Introvert Overwhelm guide here If...
2020-10-0708 min
Pressing PauseSelf-conservation – what is it and are you doing it?It can be a real struggle to feel able to take care of our own needs and wants when we feel we should be putting others before ourselves so here we tackle it head on. In this episode we look at: The problem with self-care The story that looking after ourselves is selfish A different approach and what it looks like Resources: The Calm Mind Club is open to join until Saturday 3 October, check it out and join here Come say hi to me on Instagram, I'm @gabrielletreanor If you enjoy the podcast I'd l...
2020-09-3007 min
Pressing PauseWhat have you had enough of?During the upheaval and radical changes to our lives that the pandemic has brought about there's also been time for reflection and realisation of what hasn't been working for you in the old 'normal'. In this episode we look at: What you may have been tolerating in the past Identifying what you've had enough of now What to do next with this realisation Resources: Download your free 7 Steps to Overcome Introvert Overwhelm guide here If you'd like to find out more about coaching with me check out the info page here Come say hi t...
2020-09-2307 min
Pressing PauseI'm back with new episodesThe podcast returns after an unexpectedly long break where the world turned upside down. This is a quick catch-up and preview episode where I share about the long break and what to expect from future episodes. Resources: To find out more about how you can bring down the overwhelm and feel, calmer, more in control and happier, go to gabrielletreanor.com Come say hi to me on Instagram, I'm @gabrielletreanor If you enjoy the podcast I'd love you to leave a review on iTunes, there are instructions for how to do so here. If you value...
2020-09-2305 min
Reframe FoodS1E6 Creating a Calm Mind with Overwhelm Coach Gabrielle TreanorOvercoming the overwhelm and our overthinking tendencies.
This is one of our juiciest and jam-packed interviews yet! Certified life coach Gabrielle Treanor shares so many wonderful insights and strategies for overcoming the overwhelm and our overthinking tendencies. Helping us feel calmer and more empowered.
We hope you love this episode as much as we do.
You can learn more about working with Gabrielle, her courses, podcast and supportive Calm Mind Club at
https://gabrielletreanor.com
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2020-08-2444 min
ReframeS1E6 Creating a Calm Mind with Overwhelm Coach Gabrielle TreanorOvercoming the overwhelm and our overthinking tendencies.This is one of our juiciest and jam-packed interviews yet! Certified life coach Gabrielle Treanor shares so many wonderful insights and strategies for overcoming the overwhelm and our overthinking tendencies. Helping us feel calmer and more empowered.We hope you love this episode as much as we do.You can learn more about working with Gabrielle, her courses, podcast and supportive Calm Mind Club athttps://gabrielletreanor.comhttps://www.instagram.com/gabrielletreanor/
2020-08-2444 min
Pressing PauseHow to deal with feelings of overwhelm around CoronavirusThis is an unusually long episode because we're experiencing an unusual time in the world right now. There are a lot of feelings and thoughts about Coronavirus and all the uncertainty and the lack of feeling in control can feel overwhelming. In this episode we look at: What's fuelling the overwhelm How we can reduce our feelings of overwhelm Practical steps we can take to still feel connected with others How we can feel more calm and in control How we can allow ourselves to feel joy during this difficult time Resources: For information...
2020-03-1517 minPressing PauseFind some calm this festive seasonFor the first time in the podcast's history I reshare seven ideas for how you can bring down the overwhelm and create some calm, and even feel a little more joy, during Christmas and the New Year. In this episode we look at: How your expectations impact your enjoyment of Christmas What small, practical actions you can take to ease the stress What to do if you don't feel full of festive spirit How to make the most of the good stuff Resources Episode 14: The damaging word every overthinker uses Episode 18: How to deal...
2019-12-1812 minPressing PauseI'm so overwhelmed I don't know where to startWhen you have too much to do and too little time to do it, it feels impossible to do it all. We get tense, stressed and feel overwhelmed by the pressure and expectation. But there is something we do have control over that helps us to deal with the overwhelm. In this episode we look at: Why feeling overwhelmed is not your fault The three common reactions to feeling overwhelmed How your thoughts and feelings play a part in the overwhelm What you can do to put yourself back in control Resources Check out...
2019-12-0411 minPressing PauseThe surprising benefits of everyday celebrationsThink celebrating is only for big occasions? You're doing yourself a disservice and the chance to build your resilience, feel stronger and experience more joy, comfort and hope. In this episode we look at: A different way to look at what's celebration-worthy How and why the voice in your head stops you celebrating What we're really doing when we celebrate How to gain the benefits from celebrating everyday moments Resources The Calm Mind Club is closing to new members on 3 December and the price will rise when it reopens February 2020. Find out more and...
2019-11-2011 minPressing PauseHow can I stop comparing myself to others?Comparison is something we all do in everyday life but when comparing yourself to others makes you feel bad it's time to do something about it. In this episode we look at: How we compare What is confirmation bias and its role in comparison What our judgements about others tells us about ourselves What you can do when you get into comparison Resources Break the Overthinking Loop online workshop is taking place on Thursday 12 November at 8pm UK time, join here and get the recording if you can't make it live Get the workshop fo...
2019-11-0611 minPressing PauseHelp! My life and mind are on a hamster wheel that never stops!If you feel like you're not in charge of your own life, or mind, that there's always so much to do, people to please, expectations to meet, your mind never stops whirring with all the things to remember and worrying what people think of you, you're not alone. In this episode we look at: What the voice in your head is telling you when you feel this way Why your inner critic is shouting so loudly How to deal with it What you can do to start taking back control of your own life Resources Episode 55...
2019-10-2311 minPressing PauseWhat do you believe?"Whether you think you can or you think you can't – you're right" – do you believe that? What we believe is possible for us, what we think we're capable of can see us making progress or keep us feeling stuck. In this episode we look at: The power our beliefs have over us How our beliefs create our world The antidote to a lack of belief What you can do when you only believe a little bit Resources If you believe, even only a tiny amount, that it could be possible for you to be free...
2019-10-0910 minPressing PauseDo you have a choice?The feeling of being backed into a corner and having little say in our own lives has been coming up in coaching conversations so I'm focusing on the topic of choice in this episode. Do you feel like you have a choice? In this episode we look at: What we don't have any control over in life Where we can fail to recognise we have a choice The power in making micro choices in everyday life How to feel more in control of life through the choices you make Resources Join The Calm Mind...
2019-09-2510 minPressing PauseBut what if I'd done things differently?As an overthinker it's all too easy to get stuck replaying a conversation or a situation and thinking up all the different ways you could have handled it and how that could have changed things. So what do you do with all these thoughts? In this episode we look at: What continuing to go over and over something in the past is doing for us When rehashing the past is helpful and when it is not What you can do to help yourself get out of this loop and move forward Resources Find out...
2019-09-1109 minPressing PauseIs it really possible to stop being an overthinker?When you've spent years, decades, worrying and overthinking it can feel like you're stuck that way and you're destined to always be an overthinker. So is it really possible for you to learn how to overthink less? In this episode we look at: What the label 'overthinker' means What overthinking is and what it's not What positive psychology research has discovered that impacts how possible it is to learn how to overthink less Why having tried and failed to worry less doesn't mean you've failed Resources Book your free 30mins Jumpstart Coaching Call (numbers...
2019-08-2812 minPressing PauseDealing with the 'What if something bad happens?' thoughtIn our first new-style episode where I answer listener questions we have a brilliant one to start us off with. In this episode we look at: How to treat ourselves when we're what if-ing Different ways to deal with this particular worry When distraction is helpful and when it is not Resources Find out about The Calm Mind Club where overthinkers find calm, confidence and community, and join, at thecalmmindclub.com Send me your questions for me to answer in a podcast episode to gabrielle@gabrielletreanor.com Find out about working 1:1 with me and...
2019-08-1410 minPressing PauseThe podcast is back! Where I've been and what's happening nextThe break was a lot longer than I anticipated but finally the podcast is back and I have plans… In this episode we look at: What's been happening that caused the break to be almost four months long The (over)thinking that I was doing during that time The new project I've been working on that is now at the heart of what I do to help you worry less and enjoy life more How I want you to be involved in the podcast going forward Resources Find out about The Calm Mind Club wh...
2019-07-3111 minPressing Pause10 Ways you can benefit from pressing pause in your own lifeBy taking just a few seconds or minutes to hit the pause button in your daily life you can calm your overthinking, tend to your own needs, be more intentional and so much more. In this episode we look at: What pressing pause in your own life can look like How it can help you mentally and physically Ten different ways you can gain by taking a moment to be still Resources: There are lots more resources and ways to work with me on my website gabrielletreanor.com Connect with me on Instagram, I'm...
2019-04-0308 minPressing PauseAre you getting in your own way (aka self-sabotaging)?Stopping ourselves from doing what we want, being successful and happy, doesn't make sense and yet we all do it. Overthinkers are particularly good at self-sabotaging as we overthink and talk ourselves out of so much. But when we pay attention to ourselves we can start to address it. In this episode we look at: How self-sabotage shows up in life What impact it has on our lives How we can start to address it and curb our inner saboteur Resources: Doors close for the online course Worry Less for Life – how to calm you...
2019-03-2709 min
Trailblazer FM: WordPress without the dramaHow to deal with feeling overwhelmed - Gabrielle Treanor - S26-E02Overwhelm, stress, worry, anxiety can be the everyday experience of an agency owner. We talk with Gabrielle Treanor, and unpack tools we can use to improve our mental health and better handle the day to day. The questions we ask Gabrielle are all from our Agency Trailblazer community from business owners that are looking for help to work through the daily struggles they have. The most common questions revolve around overwhelm or stem from it and Gabrielle shares wonderfully clear and actionable answers to help us deal with our emotions, feelings and thoughts.
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2019-03-2555 minPressing PauseGabrielle TreanorWe can lose the sense of awe and wonder we had as children as we get bogged down with the responsibilities and worries of grown-up life. But feeling awe brings us out of ourselves, it reminds us that we're not the centre of the universe and helps us to get perspective on life. And it feels good too. In this episode we look at: The surprising benefits of spending more time in awe How to take a wonder walk in nature and in a built-up urban area Where else you can find awe in everyday life
2019-03-2009 minPressing PauseThe most valuable skill we can developFeeling like you couldn't cope if things went wrong, if life became super challenging, is a fear overthinkers share. It's behind a lot of the What If-ing and the need to overplan and be in control at all times. There's a skill we can all develop and strengthen to help us feel able to cope – resilience. In this episode we look at: How the fear of not being able to deal with life keeps us scared of life What resilience is How being resilient reduces overthinking Different ways we can build and strengthen our own resilience R...
2019-03-1308 minPressing PauseAre you a people-pleaser?Wanting to please people, to be kind or helpful, isn't in itself a bad thing. But when your desire to please others, make them happy and life you interferes with how you live your life, it's no longer kind or helpful to yourself. In this episode we look at: What's behind people-pleasing What it looks like Why it doesn't have to be pleasing everybody or nobody How to be compassionate and supportive to others AND to yourself too Resources: My new course is open to join now with an Early Bird special offer, check...
2019-03-0612 minPressing PauseBeing afraid to feel truly happyTo some the idea that you'd be afraid to feel happy sounds absurd but not to the overthinker. The fear of being utterly content and joy-filled is real because it's accompanied by the thought of what if this all goes away? In this episode we look at: Why we feel so scared to be happy How we think we're protecting ourselves by reining in how joyful we feel What foreboding joy is really doing What we can do to allow ourselves to release the fear and feel the joy we want to Resources: Join...
2019-02-2709 minPressing PauseDealing with changeWe all experience change throughout our lives but that may not stop us overthinking and resisting it. How can we cope with change better so that it causes us less upset, grief and stress? In this episode we look at: When we can influence imminent change and when it's out of our control What we can learn from changes we've already experienced How we can take care of ourselves when change feels challenging Five actions we can take to make change feel less stressful Resources: Episode 43: Build self-belief with the messages you give yourself...
2019-02-2009 minPressing PauseBuild self-belief with the messages you give yourselfWe give ourselves messages all the time, often negative ones, through our internal monologue so why not harness these powerful messages to help ourselves build self-belief? In this episode we look at: The belief statements or affirmations you already use, even if you haven't realised it How to create new powerful, positive belief statements What affirmations can and can't do for you How to use affirmations or belief statements in daily life Resources: Episode 14: The damaging word every overthinker uses Episode 19: Why you don't need to apologise for everything (including your existence) Episode 35: The...
2019-02-1311 minPressing PauseWhat's really going on with our busy livesBeing busy has become our default but why are we so busy? What does it mean for our self-worth if we're busy or, if we're not? What impact does our busyness have on us and what can we do to reduce our busyness and increase the joy we feel? In this episode we look at: What fears lie behind our busyness The 'little' ways we make our lives busier The difference between real work and busy work Five steps we can take to be less busy and enjoy life more Resources: Episode 14: The damaging...
2019-02-0610 minPressing PauseHow fear of failure shows up and what to do about itA fear of failure can take on different disguises including perfectionism and procrastination, it can stop us from doing what we want and realising our full potential, and knowing how to deal with it can be incredibly tricky. In this episode we look at: Why being scared of failure feeling different to when we fail How it can show up for each of us My own fear of failure (this makes me feel pretty vulnerable!) The process we can work through to help ourselves Resources: Feel confident, calm and capable, and live the life...
2019-01-3011 minPressing PauseHow your body can help boost your confidenceMy overthinking coaching clients often talk about their lack of confidence. It's a big topic to cover so in this episode I focus on how our body language can help us to feel more confident. In this episode we look at: How our posture affects how we feel Social psychologist Amy Cuddy's research on the effects of dominance and stress hormones What you can try in two minutes to boost your confidence How finding your own musical anthem can bump up your confidence levels Resources: Amy Cuddy's TED Talk Feel confident, calm and capable...
2019-01-2308 minPressing PauseAre you feeling peaceful or pressured at the start of this year?It can feel like you're being bombarded with suggestions on how to make this your best year yet so what you can do to deal with the pressure of January-itis? In this episode we look at: What you're telling yourself about these new year new you messages The role of that pesky 'should' word The idea behind choosing a word for the year How to make it helpful and supportive, not a pressure or source of guilt Resources: Goodbye 2018, Hello 2019 journal by Project Love Susannah Conway's Find Your Word Ali Edwards' One Little Word My...
2019-01-1611 minPressing Pause7 Tips for a calmer festive seasonThe festive season can be fun and joyous and it can also be messy and stressful. In this episode I suggest seven ideas for creating a calmer Christmas and New Year. In this episode we look at: How your expectations impact your enjoyment of Christmas What small, practical actions you can take to ease the stress What to do if you don't feel full of Christmas spirit How to make the most of the good stuff Resources Ease into the new year with less pressure and stress and more calm and kindness for yourself...
2018-12-1911 min
YarnStories PodcastEpisode 203 | Gabrielle Treanor
In this episode I talk to Gabrielle Treanor, a mindfulness coach, author, and podcaster about being present, self care, being kind to yourself, and how those topics intersect with making.
Gabrielle and her puppy
Interview Notes:
Gabrielle’s Website & her Instagram
Pressing Pause
Gabrielle’s dog
Positive Psychology
Kate O’Sullivan (of A Playful Day)’s Conversations From Our Days.Autonomic Nervous System Dysfunction
Sympathetic Magic
Bullet Journaling (I use a Plus Sized Baron Fig Confidant and colored pens, I very rarely decorate it, don’t let all the aspirational bullet journals on instagram throw you off!)
Morning Pages
Free...
2018-12-1250 minPressing PauseHow to feel more at ease when you're away from homeBeing away from home, however lovely a place you're staying in or however lovely the people are, it can bring up feelings of vulnerability, stress and worry. Creating a sense of home from home can help you to feel more relaxed and comfortable. In this episode we look at: Why we can struggle when we're away from home Why this is not about where you're staying or with whom The practical action we can take, whatever the circumstances, to help ourselves feel more calm, secure and present I share how I create my own sense of...
2018-12-1209 minPressing PauseMoney can buy happinessAs Christmas is only a couple of weeks away, and it's a time when we can be spending money more than usual, I look at the relationship between money and happiness. In this episode we look at: How much money is enough to make you happy How we can spend it to increase the joy we feel Who and what we spend our money on will have a longer lasting impact on our happiness Resources Download your free Do you want a life of Less Worry & More Joy workbook here Episode 21: Why overthinkers are s...
2018-12-0508 minPressing PauseThe one little word that can change how we think and feelThe mindset with which we approach challenges or difficulties in life can make us feel stuck or like a failure, or it can open us up to possibilities. While some of us may begin life with a predominantly fixed mindset there is one little word that can help us move to a growth mindset. In this episode we look at: What fixed and growth mindsets are from the leading authority on them How focusing on our ability or effort affects our mindset The one little word that can make all the difference and how to make...
2018-11-2810 minPressing PauseHow to cultivate optimism and boost your positivity in seven stepsHow you feel about the expectations you have of life, yourself, other people, challenges, affects how positive or negative your reality is. Even if you feel you're naturally pessimistic there are actions you can take to cultivate optimism and improve the reality of your day to day life. In this episode we look at: A study that shows how your expectations impact how you feel and behave How your optimistic or pessimistic attitude changes how you see the world but not reality itself Seven actions you can take to cultivate optimism Resources Episode 21: Why...
2018-11-2109 minPressing PauseWhen you're trying to make everyone happy at ChristmasThere's one particular time of year when it feels like we're not allowed to feel what we're feeling, to take care of our own needs as well as everyone else's, and to suggest that things could be done differently and break with tradition. In this episode we look at: The lack of permission we can feel at Christmas How others could be feeling as we do but also think they're not allowed to speak up Why your feelings, needs and opinions matter as much as anyone else's How to start voicing your opinion and factoring in...
2018-11-1410 minPressing PauseWhen the dark and cold months feel difficult to deal withWhen you're the overthinking, worrying kind the dark and cold months stretching ahead of us can feel challenging to our wellbeing. It's harder to feel hopeful and positive and the world can feel a more unkind and scarier place. In this episode we look at: Where we can find inspiration from those who deal well with the cold and dark How dropping 'should' will help The simple actions we can take to help ourselves embrace rather than fight the season Resources Join Coping with Christmas and navigate the festive season with less stress and...
2018-11-0708 minPressing PauseThe questions to ask yourself when you're overthinking, part 2This is the second of a two-parter where I share with you five powerful questions that you can ask yourself when your brain is spiralling off into overthinking and you want to calm the thought whirlwind. In this episode we look at: How asking yourself powerful questions can help you to challenge your overthinking How a question can spark an idea to help yourself Why sometimes looking ahead can give you perspective right now What to ask yourself to pull yourself out of a panicky overthinking spiral Resources Episode 22: How to make your own...
2018-10-3109 minPressing PauseThe questions to ask yourself when you're overthinking, part 1This is the first of a two-parter where I share with you five powerful questions that you can ask yourself when your brain is spiralling off into overthinking and you want to calm the thought whirlwind. In this episode we look at: How you can challenge your overthinking through asking yourself powerful questions How the stories you tell yourself keeps you stuck in overthinking My favourite question to give yourself a different perspective Resources Join the 5 Days of Christmas Clarity free challenge here, we begin on Monday 29 October You can now work with me o...
2018-10-2407 minPressing PauseHow to help someone who's strugglingOverthinkers can spend a lot of time lost in their own thoughts. Giving your attention to how you can support someone else who's having a difficult time helps you too because it brings you out of your head and gives you a different point of focus. In this episode we look at: Sharing your experience without giving out a list of shoulds What to say when you don't know what to say The frustration felt when you want to fix someone's life The most valuable thing you can do to help someone who's struggling Resources
2018-10-1709 minPressing PauseWho's on your team?How can a group of people who we may never meet because they're famous, been dead hundreds of years or are fictional characters be a source of inspiration and support? By creating your own imaginary advisory board. In this episode we look at: What is an imaginary inspirational advisory board How it can help when you're feeling stuck, challenged or low How to choose who belongs on your board Who's on my own cheerleading team Resources Episode 14: The damaging word every overthinker uses Join the Worry Less and Enjoy Life More Facebook Group
2018-10-1008 minPressing PauseWe all want to be happy, or do we?You'd think happiness is a straight forward topic to talk about but the word itself can mean very different things to different people. In this episode we look at: Two different kinds of happiness How much influence we have over how happy we are How it relates to negative emotions The fear we feel about being happy Resources Episode 3: The life-changing power of feeling grateful Episode 7: How noticing ghte little things creates calm and joy Episode 21: Why overthinkers are so good at striving (and why that's not such a good thing) Join the Worry...
2018-10-0309 minPressing PauseHow can mindfulness really help in everyday life?Mindfulness is everywhere, isn't it? Is it just a fad or is it something that can really make a difference to overthinkers and worriers? In this episode we look at: How mindfulness is backed up by research and the NHS How mindfulness reduces rumination, what if-ing and stress How it strengthens your resilience, benefits those around you as well as yourself and allows you to experience more joy The reality of what it's like to practice mindfulness Resources Be Here Now, my practical guide to living mindfully course, starts on Friday 28 September. Find out...
2018-09-2608 minPressing PauseWho gave you permission?Looking for approval and permission from our families, friends, workmates and even strangers on social media, to do what we want, to feel however we feel or to be who we want to be, can get us tangled up in overthinking and stuck in our lives. So what we can do about it? In this episode we look at: How we look outside of ourselves for permission Why we seek approval from other people The key areas in life where it's holding us back How we can start to give ourselves permission Resources Be H...
2018-09-1910 minPressing PauseWhen real life lets you downSometimes life doesn't go to plan, it fails to live up to our expectations and the result can really suck. And yet we continue to will it to be different which keeps us stuck in the frustration and upset. So what can we do? In this episode we look at: How life not living up to our expectations ramps up overthinking and stress levels How our response and reaction play a key role What we do and don't have control over in these situations The four steps we can take to deal with life letting us...
2018-09-1209 minPressing PauseWhy I won't tell you to stop worryingIt's an odd topic for a podcast for overthinkers but there's good reason why I focus on helping you to worry less, not stop worrying In this episode we look at: The damaging message behind a well intended 'just stop worrying' Why denying worry or pushing it away does more damage than good How facing up to your worry lessens its power over you What you can do with worry that will help you to focus on the joy in life Resources Episode 18: How to deal with difficult emotions Join the Worry Less and...
2018-09-0507 minPressing PauseHow to make your own mental health first aid kitMost of us have a first aid kit for when we have a cut or bump but what about when we're feeling mentally bashed and bruised? A mental health first aid kit is what's need to provide comfort, support and relief when we feel emotionally beaten down. In this episode we look at: Why we need a mental health first aid kit What digital and physical elements to include in your kit Making it personal and specific to you How to use your mental health first aid kit when you're struggling Resources: Epiosde 6: How t...
2018-07-2510 minPressing PauseWhy overthinkers are so good at striving (and why that's not such a good thing)As overthinkers we spend a lot of time fast forwarding into the future and as soon as we've reached a goal or made it through a difficulty we're straight onto thinking about what's next. Constantly striving forward means that we're missing out on the joy and contentment in our lives right now. In this episode we look at: How we move the goalposts so we're always looking to what's going to happen next What is destination addiction and hedonic adaptation What we can do to combat striving and feel more joy in the everyday How mindfulness...
2018-07-1811 minPressing PauseWhat are your non-negotiables?We each have something in our lives that supports our mental or physical health and gives us the chance to be the best version of ourselves so we're better able to take care of those around us too. You may not think of this habit or action as an act of self-care but you know that it would really impact you if it vanished from your daily life. In this episode we look at: What a non-negotiable is How it supports your wellbeing Why having non-negotiables isn't selfish Examples of how you could already have non-negotiables in your...
2018-07-1108 minPressing PauseWhy you don't need to apologise for everything (including your existence)Saying 'sorry' can become a go-to word we use whenever we want to get someone's attention or ask a question, when we have nothing to apologise for. Using sorry is about more than using one word instead of another, it's about apologising for taking up space in the world. In this episode we look at: The different ways we use sorry when we've nothing to apologise for Why it matters that we say sorry when it's unnecessary How you're misrepresenting yourself by using sorry even when you know you're not apologising What words to use instead...
2018-07-0410 minPressing PauseHow to deal with difficult emotionsWhen someone is having a tough time and struggling with difficult emotions, we give them compassion. Yet we find it so hard to do the same for ourselves. By practising self-compassion we drop shame and criticism and give ourselves a break. In this episode we look at: What self-compassion is and its three key components Why it's essential to give ourselves compassion and how it benefits us How to recognise when we need self-compassion and what to do Resources: Episode 11: How overthinkers can take care of themselves Kristin Neff's book Self Compassion and her w...
2018-06-2710 minPressing PauseHow to get back to sleep when you wake up worryingWaking up in the early hours with worrisome thoughts racing around your mind is frustrating, scary and feels very lonely. Knowing you have to be up soon only adds to your stress. But you're not alone in how you feel and there are ways you can help yourself back to sleep. In this episode we look at: Why getting frustrated with yourself and trying to empty your mind doesn't help How being kind to yourself with self-compassionate phrases is a more effective calming technique Why it's more helpful to acknowledge rather than ignore your thoughts An...
2018-06-2009 minPressing PauseHow to quiet your mind to fall asleep more quicklyIt's frustrating when you're worn out from a busy day but when you collapse into bed your mind won't stop whirring long enough for you to go to sleep. The more you will yourself to sleep the more elusive it becomes, and the more stressed you get. In this episode we look at: Why sleep is a priority not a luxury What we can learn from children's bedtime routines 6 ways to calm your overthinking mind before you get into bed Resources: The session I gave at The Mindful Living Show on the power of...
2018-06-1309 minPressing PauseHow to start your day feeling calmWhether you're a morning person or not (I'm not) you can often feel frazzled and rushed from the start, which then sets the tone for the rest of the day. Without getting up any earlier or finding more time in your morning, you can begin your day on a more positive, nourishing and calm note. In this episode we look at: How to create positive feelings for yourself and others before you even get out of bed Incorporating supportive actions into everyday activities like getting washed and dressed Setting intentions, using affirmations and mantras to keep...
2018-06-0608 minPressing PauseThe damaging word every overthinker usesThere's one little word that we use all the time and by doing so we make ourselves feel bad in so many ways. That word is 'should'. You should do this, you should be that, you shouldn't feel this. It's laden with obligation, shame and an absence of choice, whether we use it in our self-talk or when someone uses the word in conversation with us. In this episode we look at: How we use 'should' in everyday life What messages we're giving ourselves when we use it Why we think it can help us but...
2018-05-3008 minPressing PauseWhat to do when the news feels overwhelmingWhile it's important to stay up to date and informed on what's happening locally and across the globe, overthinkers can become overwhelmed by news reports and feel a mixture of guilt, upset and helplessness. In this episode we look at: The difference between being informed and overwhelmed How staying glued to the news doesn't necessarily help you or those involved in the reports The positive action you can take motivated by the news to feel less helpless What you can do to reduce your overthinking and upset when you feel overwhelmed by news reports Resources:
2018-05-2309 minPressing PauseHow meditation can help you as an overthinkerMeditation isn't about emptying your head, sitting cross-legged in silence or spending hours chanting, and your mind wandering means you're doing it right, not wrong! If you get lost in a spiral of thoughts and what ifs, taking a few minutes a day to meditate can really help you. In this episode we look at: What the point is in meditating How overthinkers can benefit from it The science behind how meditation calms and soothes us Clearing up common confusions that are stopping you from meditating Resources: Exhale, a beginners' guide to meditation...
2018-05-1609 minPressing PauseHow overthinkers can take care of themselvesThere's a lot of confusion over self-care – it's about much more than bubble baths, it isn't being selfish and it's not about putting yourself first. Taking care of your needs as well as taking care of everyone else makes you better able to spend less time lost in raking over the past and what if-ing the future. In this episode we look at: What self-care is And what self-care is not Where you may already be practising self-care The benefits of practising self-care to you as an overthinker, and to those around you Resources: ...
2018-05-0908 minPressing PauseWhat to do when you feel overwhelmedOverwhelm likes to take on different guises so it can get a firm hold on you without you even realising. It shows up as a lack of focus, an inability to know what to do next, as a lack of patience, as pessimism, lethargy and apathy along with plenty of other feelings that make you want to hide under the duvet. In this episode we look at: The sneaky signs that you're in overwhelm What are the common causes What you can do to help yourself feel better How you can reduce its impact on you...
2018-05-0210 minPressing PauseThe truth about controlling worryOverthinkers often believe that if you can have everything in life planned out and organised, know what's happening where, when, how and with whom, then you'll be able to stop worrying. If only it was really true. Trying to keep control of everything doesn't stop you worrying so it's time we took a different approach. In this episode we look at: What wanting to be in total control looks like The role of What If How trying to keep control won't make worrying disappear How to recognise when you're in controlling mode What to do to...
2018-04-2509 minPressing PauseCalm your mind and open your eyes with a mindful walkThere are times when thinking over a problem or formulating a plan while you're walking works well and other times when you get stuck in overthinking, going over and over the same thoughts without getting anywhere. That's when applying mindfulness while you're in the great outdoors, whether you're in a crowded city or a quiet forest, can calm your whirring mind, reduce your stress and open your eyes to the world around you. In this episode we look at: What is mindful walking How it can benefit you, not just when you're overthinking My experience of...
2018-04-1710 minPressing PauseHow noticing the little things creates calm and joyWhen you think of what makes you feel content, what gives you bumps of joy in your daily life, more often than not it's the little things rather than the big events. And why is that? It's because we notice these so-called little things and we savour them. The benefits of savouring the ordinary stuff of life are far-reaching. In this episode we look at: What is savouring What are the benefits to our wellbeing The four strands of savouring Why money doesn't help What we can do to increase our opportunities to savour Resources:
2018-04-1009 minPressing PauseHow to disrupt the overthinking cycleWhile you're replaying the same thoughts over and over and over again you're lost in your head ruminating and what if-ing and worrying and overthinking. It's exhausting and stressful and it can feel really hard to break free of this overthinking vortex. But it is possible. Not by trying not to think but by directing your attention elsewhere. In this episode we look at: What is rumination How it feels to be stuck in overthinking and overworrying Why trying not to think doesn't work How to disrupt the cycle of overthinking with one simple technique that...
2018-04-0310 min
Pressing PauseDealing with the social media comparison trapAs we scroll through social media we can find ourselves making up stories about what we see in other people's posts. This can lead us into the comparison trap and to feeling dissatisfied, irritated, tense, sad and question ourselves and how we live our lives. Being mindful of how you feel before you open the apps, and checking in with yourself while you scroll can help you to notice what impact social media is having on you. In this episode we look at: The kinds of stories we tell ourselves about other people's social media posts...
2018-03-2709 min
Pressing PauseHow to take micro mindful moments in your dayThere's a lot of talk about mindfulness and with good reason. Mindfulness helps us to slow down our overthinking brains, to let go of rehashing what's already happened or imagining what could or could not happen next. To just be here, in this moment, in what's real in our lives right now without judging it or trying to change it. In this episode we look at: What mindfulness is What the benefits are of practising mindfulness How mindfulness reduces how stressed we feel and gets us out of worrying mode How to take a micro mindful...
2018-03-1907 min
Pressing PauseThe life-changing power of feeling gratefulSavouring the good stuff and making a point every day to appreciate the little things in life can have a real and powerful positive impact on your life. In this episode we look at: What being thankful, grateful and appreciative is and what it is not What gratitude practice is and how you can do it The benefits of regular gratitude practice as shown by positive psychology research How I've made thankfulness part of daily life and the difference it's made to me Resources Books on gratitude: Gratitude Works! By Robert Emmons and The...
2018-03-1710 min
Pressing PauseHow to worry less about what others think of youIt's a typical trait of the overthinker – worrying about what other people think of us. It's exhausting and stressful giving so much time, energy and brainspace to thinking about how other people, from our family, friends and workmates to complete strangers on the street and on social media are judging us. In this episode we look at: how to challenge these thoughts why others don't think about us as much as we think they do how to handle the idea that someone may not like us what to do when we feel ourselves worrying about other pe...
2018-02-1510 min
Pressing PauseOverthinkers are welcome hereWelcome to the first episode of Pressing Pause, the podcast for overthinkers. In this episode you'll discover what overthinking looks like, how it impacts your participation in and enjoyment of daily life, and what Gabrielle will share with you in the coming shows to empower you to free yourself from the chains of overworrying and live the lighter, more content and joyful life you want.
2018-01-2507 min