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Impact Ready181. The Art of Self-RegulationIn this episode, Steph talks about the concept of emotional intelligence, focusing on self-awareness and self-regulation. She emphasizes the importance of being able to name emotions in the moment and how this skill can enhance leadership and interpersonal relationships. The conversation highlights the distinction between understanding the 'why' behind feelings and the necessity of self-regulation during emotionally charged situations. Steph encourages listeners to practice naming their feelings and regulating their emotions to foster better communication and relationships.Stay connected and sign up for "The Impact Effect" newsletter at stephsaffer.com.
2026-02-0909 minImpact Ready177. The Hardest, Simplest QuestionIn this episode, Steph shares insights from a recent coaching intensive where she observed a powerful question being posed: "What do you want?" Despite its simplicity, many high-performing coaches struggled to articulate their desires, revealing a common challenge in the coaching community. Steph discusses the reasons behind this difficulty, including the tendency to prioritize others' needs over one's own, societal beliefs about deservingness, and the impact of people-pleasing tendencies. She emphasizes the importance of recognizing and articulating personal desires as a pathway to fulfillment and creativity. She introduces a practical exercise called the "100 Things List," challenging listeners to push...
2026-01-2611 minImpact Ready176. Cast Your VotesIn this episode, Steph talks about the concept of 'voting for your future self,' emphasizing the importance of embodying the identity of the person you aspire to be right now, rather than waiting for external milestones to define you. She discusses how our self-perception often hinges on future achievements, such as titles or personal goals, and argues that this mindset can hinder our growth, taking us out of the creative mode. By taking proactive steps to align our actions with our desired identities, we can prepare ourselves for the future we envision. Drawing on insights from James Clear's...
2026-01-2208 minImpact Ready175. The ScorecardIn this episode, Steph talks about the concept of the 'scorecard'—a mental tally we keep in relationships that tracks perceived wrongs and rights. This invisible scorecard can lead to resentment, frustration, and a drain on our energy, ultimately obstructing our ability to create meaningful connections and achieve our goals. Steph emphasizes that keeping score in relationships positions us as opponents rather than teammates, which can be detrimental to our emotional well-being and productivity.Steph outlines two major problems associated with the scorecard: first, that it creates a competitive dynamic where no one truly wins, and second, th...
2026-01-1909 minImpact Ready173. Deload WeekIn this episode, Steph discusses the critical importance of rest and recovery in our busy lives. She emphasizes that while many people are engaged in various activities, they often neglect the need for genuine rest. Through the concept of 'deload weeks' from bodybuilding, she illustrates how reducing intensity and volume can lead to better performance and creativity. Steph encourages listeners to apply these principles in their work and personal lives, advocating for a balanced approach to productivity and well-being.Stay connected and get more real world coaching nuggets by signing up for "The Impact...
2026-01-1211 minImpact Ready171. Higher Integrity (Do What You Say You'll Do)In this episode, Steph talks about the concept of integrity, only in a different way. She acknowledges that people set resolutions or goals because they have a desire for their life. But so many people quit or don't follow through. Steph emphasizes the importance of keeping your word with yourself and how integrity relates to personal productivity and satisfaction. By redefining integrity as the ability to do what one says they will do, Steph encourages listeners to reflect on their systems and commitments, and to actively work on enhancing their integrity to achieve their goals. And because everyone wants...
2026-01-0514 minImpact Ready168. The "Just One More Moment" TheoryIn this episode, Steph reflects on the holiday season and introduces the Just One More Moment Theory, emphasizing the importance of being present and appreciating fleeting moments with loved ones. She encourages listeners to recognize the temporary nature of life and relationships, advocating for a mindset of reverence towards the present. As the year comes to a close, Steph challenges you to bring self-awareness and gratitude for the current version of oneself and the people around you.Stay in touch for more coaching inspo and sign up for the bimonthly newsletter, "The Impact Effect,"...
2025-12-2709 minImpact Ready164. C-T-F-A-RIn this episode, Steph gets back into the concept of limiting beliefs and how they shape our thoughts and actions. She introduces the C-T-F-A-R formula, which illustrates the connection between circumstances, thoughts, feelings, actions, and results. She also talks about the "lens" through which we see our circumstances. By understanding this formula, individuals can gain awareness of their perspectives and the stories that influence their behavior. Steph emphasizes the importance of recognizing early experiences that shape our beliefs and encourages listeners to empower themselves through awareness and choice.
2025-12-1113 minImpact Ready163. 10,000 HoursIn this episode, Steph talks about the idea of 10,000 hours, Malcolm Gladwell's concept that it takes that much time to become masterful at something. Steph goes deeper and explores the journey to mastery and the importance of "deliberate practice" in achieving high performance and impactful results. She discusses the common misconception that talent alone leads to success, emphasizing that sustained, intentional effort is crucial. Through personal stories and inputs from other awesome authors who write about the idea, she encourages listeners to reflect on their own practices and consider what they are truly capable of achieving.
2025-12-0819 minImpact Ready162. Low VisibilityIn this conversation, Steph discusses the common experience of feeling lost or unclear about one's life path. She emphasizes that it's normal to have periods of uncertainty and fogginess, and encourages listeners to take action even when the path ahead is not clear. The discussion highlights the importance of persistence and the dangers of quitting too early due to distorted expectations. Steph reminds listeners that they are not alone in their struggles and that taking small steps can lead to significant progress over time.Sign up for "The Impact Effect" newsletter at stephsaffer.com.
2025-12-0413 minImpact Ready158. The Power of a "But"In this episode, Steph gives another example of the "language of your life" and discusses how the words we use influence our lives, behaviors, and beliefs. She uses the example of the word "but" in this episode, emphasizing how the words we choose can reflect our internal energy and shape our experiences. Steph talks about her personal experience of diagnosing why she was saying "but" in various statements, and what it revealed for her. By examining our language, we can uncover limiting beliefs and take ownership of our narratives. The conversation encourages listeners to be intentional with their language...
2025-11-2011 minImpact Ready156. Perfect ConditionsIn this episode, Steph talks about the common struggle of procrastination and the belief that perfect conditions are necessary for success. Through a story about her daughter's experience with high school play rehearsals, she emphasizes the importance of showing up and taking action despite challenges. The conversation highlights the concept of being 'impact ready'—the ability to perform and make a difference even when circumstances are not ideal. Steph encourages listeners to take ownership of their lives, embrace their strengths, and cultivate a mindset that allows them to thrive regardless of external conditions. That's what being ready to impact, at...
2025-11-1313 minImpact Ready149. Your Life's MastermindIn this episode, Steph Saffer discusses the importance of surrounding oneself with a supportive network, often referred to as a 'mastermind.' In a sense, we all have a life mastermind, often unconsciously, because of who we spend time with. Steph shares 5 main insights from her own experiences in a mastermind group, highlighting key lessons learned about personal growth, service, setting boundaries, taking action, and uplifting one another. The conversation emphasizes the transformative power of community and encourages listeners to consciously curate their own support systems.Chapters00:00 The Power of Masterminds
2025-10-2016 minImpact Ready146. Success Loves SpeedIn this conversation, Steph discusses the challenges of taking action and overcoming procrastination. She emphasizes the importance of shortening the time between having an idea and taking action, highlighting that success thrives on speed. The conversation also addresses common fears and the pursuit of perfection that often hinder progress. Ultimately, Steph encourages listeners to take small steps towards their goals to avoid stagnation and achieve personal growth.Chapters00:00 Overcoming Hesitation and Procrastination02:07 The Importance of Speed in Action04:23 Facing Fear of Judgment07:10 Taking Baby Steps Towards...
2025-10-0910 minImpact Ready144. You Can't See ItIn this episode, Steph Saffer talks about one of the roadblocks to having impact, which is that people quit what they do because they can't SEE their impact. Steph describes the often unseen ripple effects of our actions. She uses the the story of Billy Beane and the Oakland Athletics, and illustrates how perceived failures can lead to significant changes and influence in the long run. The conversation encourages listeners to trust in their actions and recognize the potential for their efforts to create meaningful change, even when immediate results are not visible.Chapters
2025-10-0216 minImpact Ready143. Burning Out Your ImpactIn this episode, Steph discusses the pervasive issue of burnout in the modern workforce. She emphasizing its causes, symptoms, and the critical need for boundaries to prevent it. Drawing from insights in Cal Newport's book 'Slow Productivity', she highlights the disconnect between visible activity and true productivity, and how technology exacerbates feelings of burnout. Saffer offers practical advice on self-care and the importance of setting boundaries to reclaim personal and professional well-being.Chapters00:00 Understanding Burnout: A Modern Dilemma09:08 The Importance of Boundaries in Preventing Burnout...
2025-09-2913 minImpact Ready142. Hope is the LightIn this episode, Steph explores the concept of hope, emphasizing its importance in navigating life's challenges. Some people characterize hope as "sticking your head in the sand" or thinking unrealistically. Through description of what hope is and the effects it can have, Steph makes the case that not only is hope not weakness or naivete, but it's essential for a fulfilled life. She discusses how hope can be a source of resilience and strength, helping individuals to see possibilities even in dark times. Through personal anecdotes and insights from her practice, she highlights the necessity of fostering hope in...
2025-09-2511 minImpact Ready138. We Need More AlivenessIn this conversation, Steph explores the concept of aliveness as a crucial measure of a fulfilling life. We all have that person in our life who we are drawn to, just because of the energy they put out. That's aliveness. She discusses how societal factors contribute to a decline in aliveness and the consequences of living in that kind of low frequency state. Steph emphasizes the importance of novelty, connection, and challenge as key elements to enhance aliveness and encourages listeners to take actionable steps towards feeling more alive. Chapters00:00 The Essence...
2025-09-1113 minImpact Ready135. You Can Still Show UpIn this episode, Steph discusses the underrated skill of performing well even when one doesn't feel their best. Drawing from personal experiences and examples like Michael Jordan's famous 'flu game', she emphasizes the importance of showing up and delivering results despite suboptimal conditions. The conversation explores the concept of self-efficacy, the belief in one's ability to succeed, and how it influences performance. Steph challenges listeners to recognize areas in their lives where they can step up and perform at a higher level, regardless of circumstances.Chapters00:00 Welcome and Transition into Fall
2025-09-0114 minImpact Ready134. Thank the Ones Who Hurt You MostIn this episode, Steph explores the somewhat controversial idea of feeling gratitude towards the people in our lives who have caused us pain. She gives multiple examples of what you can gain from a falling out or falling apart of a relationship. In the end, Steph emphasizes the importance of recognizing the lessons learned from difficult relationships and how they contribute to personal growth. The conversation highlights the transformative power of gratitude and forgiveness in achieving emotional healing and peace.Chapters00:00 The Journey of Forgiveness01:58 Gratitude for Painful Relationships
2025-08-2812 minImpact Ready133. What Will This Give MeIn this episode, Steph discusses one of the big struggles people go through: lack of clarity in what they want. Ever felt lost? Stuck? Searching for what's next? Welcome to the club. Steph emphasizes that many people struggle to articulate what they truly want and why they want it. By asking two critical questions, listeners can gain insight into their true motivations and align their actions with their values. The result is you feeling like the creator of a more fulfilled, joyful life.Chapters00:00 Introduction to Clarity and Desires00:50 Understanding...
2025-08-2511 minImpact Ready132. Declaring WarIn this episode, Steph explores the themes of struggle, challenge, and the common tendency to declare war on hardships in life. We have the war on drugs, the war on terror, the war on poverty, and the war on cancer. But what if there was a different approach? Drawing from personal experiences, she discusses the importance of embracing struggles rather than resisting them. The conversation emphasizes the power of language in shaping our experiences and the need for acceptance over resistance to achieve deeper peace and personal growth. Steph challenges listeners to reflect on their own approaches to hardship...
2025-08-2113 minImpact Ready127. Your Inner GPSIn this episode, Steph talks about the concept of the internal guidance system, which is essentially our intuition. She emphasizes the importance of self-trust in making decisions and living a fulfilled life. The conversation explores how many people outsource their happiness and decision-making to external sources, leading to a lack of self-trust. Steph provides practical steps to cultivate intuition, including meditation, deep work, and cutting out distractions. The episode concludes with a challenge to listeners to embrace their inner voice and trust their intuition.Chapters00:00 Understanding Your Internal Guidance System03:26...
2025-08-0415 minImpact Ready125. Stronger In Here, So You're Stronger Out ThereIn this episode, Steph shares the meaning of a phrase she used to say to spin clients when she was teaching: "stronger in here, so you're stronger out there". She describes how we are meant to purposefully push our edge, in all ways, to prepare for what life will hand you along the way. Steph emphasizes the importance of practicing hard things to build mental and physical strength, drawing parallels between her experiences in fitness and life challenges. She encourages listeners to consciously choose their challenges and develop daily practices that prepare them for adversity, ultimately leading to personal...
2025-07-2811 minImpact Ready124. 4 Mental MythsIn this episode, Steph tackles four common myths surrounding personal growth and change. These are some of the most common things people say when it comes to our ability to shift our mindset. She emphasizes that change is possible for everyone, challenges the belief that all thoughts are true, and critiques the notion of toxic positivity. Steph encourages listeners to make decisive choices for personal transformation and to debunk their own limiting beliefs.Chapters00:00 Debunking Myths for Personal Growth01:25 Myth 1: I Can't Change04:20 Myth 2: All My Thoughts Are...
2025-07-2419 minImpact Ready123. Don't Drink the PoisonIn this episode, Steph talks about forgiveness, exploring its significance in personal growth and emotional healing. She shares her struggles with self-forgiveness and the impact that resentment can have on your life. Steph suggests that forgiveness is not about the other person deserving it, but about finding peace for oneself. She highlights the importance of compassion, understanding our imperfections, and recognizing that forgiveness leads to freedom from negative emotions. Steph challenges listeners to reflect on their own experiences with forgiveness and encourages them to let go of past hurts to reclaim their power and peace.
2025-07-2116 minImpact Ready122. Your Words Have PowerIn this episode, Steph discusses the profound impact of language on our lives, emphasizing how our words shape our reality and influence our mindset. Through personal anecdotes and insights from conversations with friends, she explores the concept of limiting beliefs and the importance of transforming negative self-talk into empowering language. Steph encourages listeners to be mindful of their words and to recognize the energy behind their statements, ultimately highlighting the power of language in how you impact your sphere and become the creator of your life. Chapters00:00 The Power of Language in...
2025-07-1713 minImpact Ready119. The Butterfly EffectIn this episode, Steph explores the concepts of the ripple effect, the butterfly effect, and chaos theory, emphasizing how small actions can lead to significant, unforeseen consequences in our personal and professional lives. Have you ever wondered if your actions or contributions matter? In this episode, Steph explores how much they really do. She discusses the interconnectedness of our actions and the importance of personal responsibility in creating positive change. Through various examples, she illustrates how our energy and choices can influence others and contribute to a larger system, encouraging listeners to embrace their impact and recognize their power...
2025-07-0717 minImpact Ready118. Make Great DecisionsIn this episode, Steph discusses the critical skill of decision-making in life, business, and relationships. She talks about 4 different kinds of decisions you can make: Empowered Action, Empowered Waiting, Disempowered Action and Disempowered Waiting. She describes how to distinguish between the different categories and how to check yourself so you don't get stuck. Steph highlights the importance of self-trust and empowerment in making high-quality decisions, whether you are taking action or waiting. The conversation explores the consequences of decisions, the difference between empowered and disempowered choices, and provides practical questions to help listeners navigate their decision-making processes effectively.
2025-07-0310 minImpact Ready117. Wired to Work HardIn this episode, Steph goes deeper into the concept of bringing more ease into our lives. We can acknowledge that hard work creates a lot of opportunity, but it can become unhealthy if we get too far down the spectrum. Steph questions the societal norm that hard work is the only path to success. And the key might be our perspective. She shares personal experiences and insights on how to shift from a mindset of struggle to one of ease, emphasizing the importance of alignment, connection, and play. Through her journey, she encourages listeners to practice inviting ease into...
2025-06-3010 minImpact Ready116. Making That Identity ShiftIn this episode, Steph asks the question, "how can we get better get to our next level?" She discusses the concept of identity shifts as a crucial element in reaching one's potential and achieving personal and professional growth. Steph emphasizes the importance of transforming one's perceived identity to align with desired goals, whether in career advancement or personal development. Essentially, you have to start embodying that new identity before you get there. The conversation explores the challenges individuals face in making these shifts, including fear and self-doubt, and provides practical steps to claim and embody a new identity. This...
2025-06-2624 minImpact Ready113. Stay High Frequency (Your One Job)In this episode, Steph shares a piece of advice given to her by one of her old coaches: "Your one job is to stay high." She was referring to maintaining a high frequency in life, and it's taken a few years for that lesson to truly sink in. Drawing from personal experiences and coaching insights, she explains how emotions can be measured on a frequency scale, with higher frequencies associated with positive emotions like joy and gratitude. Steph emphasizes that staying high frequency not only enhances personal fulfillment but also accelerates progress and attracts positive outcomes. She concludes with...
2025-06-1612 minImpact Ready109. Getting UncomfortableIn this episode, Steph explores the theme of getting uncomfortable in order to create change in life, emphasizing the importance of stepping out of one's comfort zone. She discusses how comfort can hinder personal growth and transformation, while discomfort can lead to resilience and courage. She talks about the role of mirror neurons in modeling behavior, as well as the balance between intention and surrender in the pursuit of personal goals. Ultimately, the episode encourages listeners to embrace discomfort as a catalyst for growth and meaningful change.Chapters00:00 The Quest for Change
2025-06-0213 minImpact Ready104. Take Back Your TimeIn this episode, Steph calls out the importance of time management in a world filled with distractions. With a quick breakdown of how much time people spend on screens, she addresses the pushup she often gets from clients about how they "don't have enough time." She emphasizes the need for individuals to take ownership of their schedules, set boundaries, and recognize their 'magic hour' for productivity. Steph also highlights the significance of planning ahead and honoring one's time to create a balanced and fulfilling life.Chapters00:00 Introduction to Time Management Challenges
2025-05-1514 minImpact Ready103. Stop Playing SmallIn this episode, Steph talks about the idea of 'playing small' in life, exploring its roots in fear and limiting beliefs. She shares the first time someone asked her that questions, and what it spurred on as a result. This conversation is about the importance of recognizing where we hold back and challenging ourselves to step into our full potential. Ask yourself these questions: "Where am I playing small?" And "what would it look like to play big right now?" Throughout, Steph encourages you to embrace your power and take bold actions towards your dreams and the life you...
2025-05-1212 minImpact Ready101. The Same 6 MonthsIn this episode, Steph explores the concept of stagnation, discussing its various forms and how it manifests in people's lives. She emphasizes the importance of recognizing stagnation in areas such as health, relationships, finances, and personal growth. The conversation highlights the pain of feeling stuck and the necessity of taking action to break free from these patterns. Steph provides insights into how to differentiate between true stagnation and temporary transitions, encouraging listeners to create momentum in their lives to foster growth and change.Chapters00:00 Understanding Stagnation03:01 The Impact of Stagnation...
2025-05-0511 minImpact Ready91. The Power of Moments (and MRIs)In this episode, Steph discusses the power of moments. She reflects on the concept of 'pit moments' and how they can be transformed into more positive experiences. Through the story from a book by Dan Heath about a GE designer Doug Dietz and his innovative approach to redesigning MRI experiences for children, she emphasizes how we as humans have the ability to reimagine difficult situations and change someone's entire experience. Steph talks candidly about how it can be challenging to accept help from other during low times, but encourages listeners to embrace both giving and receiving support, highlighting the...
2025-03-3112 minImpact Ready89. The One About Fear - A Breast Cancer DiagnosisIn this heartfelt episode, Steph shares her recent personal process of being diagnosed with breast cancer and talks about the profound impact of fear on her life. She discusses the emotional challenges of facing a health crisis, the importance of vulnerability, and the necessity of addressing and managing fear. Through her experiences, she emphasizes "action over anxiety" and the significance of maintaining mental strength even in the face of something truly hard. Steph encourages listeners to observe and acknowledge their fears, rather than pushing them back down. She challenges you to find empowerment in the struggles, and recognize that...
2025-03-2426 minImpact Ready88. Take Back Your PowerIn this episode, Steph discusses the idea of stepping into your personal power. Many people struggle to have the impact they want due to a lack of personal power. Steph describes 3 main ways people lose it: Fear, low energy and lack of community. She also describes 3 things that can help you step into it: Coaching, strength training and solo/quiet time. There's so many ways we can show up in the world, but it's time to stop short changing yourself. Identify what steals your personal power and create strategies to combat those things. Committing to play big can lead...
2025-03-2016 minImpact Ready87. Physical Energy vs. Heart EnergyWe all know how important it is to have great energy in life. It's the gateway to getting what we want and having great impact. In this conversation, Steph discusses the critical role of energy, emphasizing the distinction between physical energy and heart energy. She explains how heart energy, which is linked to our emotional and spiritual well-being, can significantly impact our vitality and overall life experience. Steph describes how to be aware of heart energy and when it gets blocked. The challenge is to practice keeping the heart open to enhance your creativity, motivation, and connections with others.
2025-03-1711 minImpact Ready85. The Ripple Effects of YouIn this episode, Steph addresses the enormous amount of small impacts people can have in the world though their actions and simply their presence. Many people forget that what they do and how they show up matters, and it can have lasting effects on the people around them. We call these the "ripple effects" and many of them you will never know about in your life. These ripples can be profound and often unnoticed by you. Steph illustrates how small gestures of kindness and authenticity can create significant influence. She also highlights the need for consistency in the energy...
2025-03-1013 minImpact Ready84. Harness Your Leader WithinIn this episode, Steph talks about how to tackle one of the big roadblocks to impact: self-doubt and discouragement. She introduces a technique to rediscover the 'leader within'—the best version of oneself—encouraging listeners to tap into their true essence to overcome obstacles and live a fulfilling life. Steph shares how she got to know her own leader within and how she uses it today. The conversation highlights the significance of managing external inputs to lessen the impact of fear. Overall, when we get to know these different facets of self, it allows us to be in choice abou...
2025-03-0615 minImpact Ready83. Release the Struggle: More on ExpectationsIn this episode, Steph explores the pervasive issue of expectations and the less-than-desirable effects on personal and professional relationships. We all want less conflict in life, more peace, and more fulfillment...not more stress. Expectations are a recipe for failure, and Steph emphasizes the importance of acceptance and the need to shift from expectations to agreements to foster better communication and collaboration. By creating mutual commitments, people can reduce frustration and resentment, leading to more impactful interactions. The conversation highlights the significance of radical ownership in relationships and the power of engaging in meaningful discussions to build trust and...
2025-03-0321 minImpact Ready82. Defensive PessimismIn this episode, Steph addresses the way people talk to themselves. She uses the example of her stepdaughter talking down to herself after she tried out for a solo performance. Steph breaks down the concept of defensive pessimism, its psychological effects, and the distinction between being prepared and simply being pessimistic. The conversation emphasizes the significance of high-frequency emotions in achieving success and the power of perspective in shaping our experiences.Chapters00:00 Celebrating Achievements: Upcoming Carnegie Hall Performance02:25 The Challenge of Self-Belief in Adolescence04:48 Understanding Defensive Pessimism: A...
2025-02-2712 minImpact Ready75. Break Apart the ArmorIn this episode, Steph reflects on her recent experience at a live event with her mastermind group, where speakers shared deeply personal and vulnerable stories. She describes how the power in their storytelling was in their vulnerability. Ironically, this kind of vulnerability is the stalemate for so many people. Steph discusses the misconception that failures and hardships disqualify us from sharing our messages, arguing instead that they enhance our credibility. She shares her journey from being guarded to embracing authenticity, highlighting how this shift has positively impacted her relationships and professional life. The episode concludes with the idea that...
2025-02-0315 minImpact Ready73. The Novelty PhaseIn this episode, Steph discusses the 'novelty phase' that often accompanies new endeavors, highlighting the initial excitement and motivation that can fade after a few months. Have you ever started something you were super excited about, and then about three months in, you seem to lose your motivation? That's the novelty phase. Steph emphasizes the importance of pushing through this phase to achieve lasting transformation and growth. By combining insights with consistent action, individuals can overcome the challenges of maintaining motivation and ultimately reach their goals.
Takeaways
The novelty phase brings initial excitement...
2025-01-2710 minImpact Ready72. How Much Do You Give?In this episode, Steph explores the complexities of giving and helping others, particularly in relationships where the recipient may not be ready or willing to accept help. This topic comes up a lot for people because relationships are nuanced, complex and we are often invested in the outcomes of the people we love! Steph discusses the importance of understanding one's limits in providing support, the necessity of intentional giving without control, and the significance of taking ownership of one's energy in relationships. The conversation centers around the recognition that everyone has their own path to walk, which may include...
2025-01-2312 minImpact Ready70. The Complaining CrisisIn this episode, Steph talks about the "crisis of complaining" and how it affects us and the people around us. She references Wayne Dyer's famous quote, "When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change." This discussion addresses the pervasive issue of complaining and the three hard truths that go along with it. She emphasizes the importance of personal responsibility, ownership, and the story we tell. Steph encourages listeners to take responsibility for their lives and break the cycle of negativity.
Takeaways
Complaining is a habit...
2025-01-1618 minImpact Ready69. The 7-38-55 RuleIn this episode, Steph talks about a famous rule around communication called the 7-38-55 rule. She emphasizes that effective communication goes beyond words, highlighting the significance of tone and body language. The conversation illustrates how much of our communication is nonverbal and how many people aren't intentional about the way they take up space in a room. Steph shares personal anecdotes and insights on how to improve communication skills to enhance influence and connection with others.
Chapters
00:00 The Power of Communication
02:06 Understanding the 7-38-55 Rule
08:37 The...
2025-01-1315 minImpact Ready67. I Am the BottleneckIn this episode, Steph discusses the concept of personal bottlenecks, drawing from a coaching client's experience. The conversation explores how individuals often become the obstacles to their own success, emphasizing the importance of personal responsibility, effective communication, and taking action. Steph provides practical strategies for overcoming procrastination, creating routines, and maintaining accountability to oneself, ultimately asking the simple question, "What is the bottleneck in my life?"
Chapters
00:00 The Bottleneck Revelation
05:29 Identifying Personal Roadblocks
08:45 Strategies to Overcome Bottlenecks
2025-01-0612 minImpact Ready65. The Most Controversial Episode of 2024In this episode, and in honor of the coming new year, Steph discusses the most controversial episode of the last year for the Impact Ready podcast. It was Ep.6 "Stress is a Choice". She breaks down the different reactions people have to this sentiment, "stress is a choice", and talks more about what it means in practice. Steph emphasizes how this idea is about perspective and the story we tell about our life. The result of embracing this idea? More personal freedom, ownership, and fulfillment each day.
Episode 6: Stress is a Choice
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2024-12-3012 minImpact Ready62. Anticipation is JoyIn this episode, Steph examines the sentiment, “So much of our joy comes from anticipation of an event, not the event itself.” This came as a result of acknowledging that many people today report feeling very little joy in their lives. Steph talks about the practice of anticipation as a way of creating excitement in your life, and therefore increasing your baseline level of joy. Through a client story, she describes how you can make this practice even better by adding appreciation into the formula. The more excitement we feel, the more joy we experience, and the better impact we h...
2024-12-1915 minImpact Ready60. Start/Stop EnergyIn this episode, Steph discusses the concept of 'start-stop energy,' a frustrating cycle where individuals experience momentum in their goals or projects, only to have it abruptly halted. She shares personal anecdotes and insights on how this pattern affects various aspects of life, emphasizing the importance of being intentional with time and preparing for life's inevitable challenges. Steph outlines practical steps to break the cycle, including taking action, expecting life to happen, and being prepared, ultimately advocating for a balanced approach to productivity and rest.
2024-12-1215 minImpact Ready59. The Power of Your WhyIn this episode, Steph discusses the absolute power of understanding your personal why and how it influences your ability to create a fulfilling life. She describes your "why" as the big reasons behind your actions and as your foundations when things get hard in your pursuits. Your "why" can serve as motivation and your tether to the ground when things get stormy. Steph shares the clinical experiences that first illustrated how a strong personal why can lead to resilience and success in various aspects of life, including health and personal development.
2024-12-0915 minImpact Ready56. The Appreciation Filter (A Different Take on Gratitude)In this episode, Steph talks about appreciation and gratitude from a different angle. She discusses the strange cynicism surrounding gratitude, the contrast between gratitude and the messaging we get from mainstream, and the innate ability to apply an "appreciation filter" to anything. Steph relates to feeling gratitude even in challenging times and encourages listeners to practice appreciation as a daily habit. This Thanksgiving episode is a reminder that we have access to gratitude anytime, and it's our choice to choose our perspective every day.
2024-11-2815 minImpact Ready55. Growth is Exhausting - Debunking the MythIn this episode, Steph discusses a common sentiment from clients: "Growth can feel exhausting!" This is regarding the process of practicing personal growth and self-development. Steph describes how this feeling often stems from unrealistic expectations and the way individuals approach their growth journey. By shifting perspectives, being mindful of input, and recognizing the importance of repetition, individuals can navigate their growth more effectively and find it less exhausting. The conversation encourages listeners to view personal development as an investment in themselves, leading to positive outcomes and fulfillment.
2024-11-2511 minImpact Ready52. Navigating the HolidaysIn this episode, Steph discusses the complexities of navigating the holiday season, addressing both the joy and stress that can accompany this time of year. The biggest struggle during this season? EXPECTATIONS. So how do we manage those? Steph shares personal experiences and insights on how different family backgrounds can shape holiday expectations and stresses the importance of understanding and managing these emotions. The conversation offers practical strategies for creating a more peaceful and joyful holiday experience: Let people be who they are, say what you need, and slow down.
2024-11-1418 minImpact Ready49. The Power of Being PreparedIn this episode, Steph discusses one of the key pillars to being able to have significant impact in life: being PREPARED. She describes how preparation consists of both planning ahead and emotional readiness, which are essential for high performance. Steph shares personal anecdotes and practical strategies for enhancing preparation, including mental visualization and energy management. She also describes the mental attitude of "life preparing you" and how this means viewing challenges as opportunities for growth and to adopt a mindset that sees the universe as supportive rather than adversarial. Ultimately, the episode serves as a motivational call to action...
2024-11-0419 minImpact Ready48. The 4 Levels of Learning (and Our Unrealistic Expectations)One of the biggest sources of struggle for people is their unrealistic expectations. In this conversation, Steph describes the "levels of learning", a series of steps every person goes through when learning anything. We all want less struggle in life, and Steph emphasizes how setting realistic expectations can alleviate struggles in personal growth. The levels of learning illustrate how mastery is achieved through a non-linear process of growth, mistakes, and perseverance. Ultimately, the conversation encourages listeners to embrace their learning journey with grace and patience.
2024-10-3117 minImpact Ready47. The Impact of Phones on the Brain, Sleep and TimeWe all know how pervasive our phone use is, right? In this episode, Steph discusses the significant impact of phone usage, particularly at night, on well-being, productivity, and emotional health. She emphasizes the importance of reducing screen time before bed to improve sleep quality and emotional resilience. By exploring the neuroscience behind screen time, she highlights how excessive use can disrupt circadian rhythms and lead to negative emotional states. Steph also shares some shocking math around screen time, as well as practical insights on reclaiming time lost to screens.
2024-10-2814 minImpact Ready45. Getting Out of "Stuck"In this episode, Steph discusses the common feeling of being stuck in life, often described as being on a hamster wheel. She explores the core human needs for certainty and uncertainty, emphasizing the importance of variety and excitement in our lives. Steph outlines three actionable steps to overcome feelings of stagnation: gaining clarity on personal dreams, raising ambitions, and believing in one's worthiness to achieve more. The conversation encourages listeners to take small steps towards a more fulfilling life, highlighting the power of mindset and action.
2024-10-2112 minImpact Ready42. It's Difficult to Find a Strong Person with an Easy LifeIn this conversation, Steph shares a sentiment we've all heard before: It's difficult to find a strong person with an easy life. She describes how the mistakes, failures, or hardship you've been through might just be the things that qualify you to be a great leader in your life. Steph explores the broader themes of resilience, strength, and the importance of embracing one's imperfections as a leader. We know that true strength often comes from overcoming hardships and that our struggles can qualify us to lead and inspire others.
2024-10-1012 minImpact Ready37. Lessons on Impact from Urgent CareIn this episode, Steph shares a poignant story from her teenage years about a time when her mom demonstrated the power of personal impact during a visit to urgent care. She illustrates how small acts of kindness can create significant ripples in the lives of others. The conversation emphasizes the importance of being aware of one's influence and the courage it takes to act on it, regardless of societal expectations. Steph encourages listeners to reflect on their own potential to make a difference, no matter how subtle or quiet that impact may be.
2024-09-2309 minImpact Ready36. How Good Do You Want to Feel on a Scale of 1 to 10?In this episode, Steph discusses the significance of understanding one's personal motivations, or 'whys', in achieving goals and maintaining engagement in life. She emphasizes the importance of knowing your personal why. She describes her "why": feeling 10/10. We talk about striving for a '10 out of 10' feeling in various aspects of life, including energy, relationships, and work, and the continuous process of self-improvement and consistency in achieving these goals.
2024-09-1912 minImpact Ready35. Choosing Small Rewards Over Big RewardsIn this episode, Steph discusses how we often choose small, immediate rewards over significant, long-term achievements and explores the psychological comfort these habits provide. She describes it as choosing "pennies over dollars" and dives into what motivates people to forego the big rewards. Through self-reflection and awareness, listeners are encouraged to identify their habits and the small rewards they offer, ultimately challenging them to prioritize their bigger aspirations for personal growth and fulfillment.
2024-09-1614 minImpact Ready34. The Roles We Perform in LifeIn this episode, Steph explores the concept of performing in our lives and the impact it has on our well-being and fulfillment. She discusses the gap between our inner selves and the outer version we present to the world, highlighting the struggle and dissatisfaction that arises when this gap is large. The focus is on the kind of performance that feels out of alignment and drains us. She encourages listeners to examine where they may be performing in their lives and take steps to close the gap.
2024-09-1209 minImpact Ready33. Nobody's Coming to Save YouIn this episode, Steph asks the question "where are you hiding and where are you playing small." She describes a time in her life where she felt these very things and how one statement from a coach at a seminar shook her awake to the reality of her life and what she needed to do. If you play small, you get small results. And we know you're here for the big fulfilled life.
2024-09-0912 minImpact Ready32. You're a LeaderIn this episode, Steph discusses the concept of leadership and how everyone has the potential to be a leader in their own lives. It's not about your work role or title, it's about the way you show up. She talks about the qualities to embody as a leader and how you have it in you already. The truth is, someone in your world needs you to step up as the leader you were meant to be.
2024-09-0518 minImpact Ready31. Time to Start Taking ActionIn this episode, Steph discusses the importance of taking action and provides insights on how to beat the action paralysis. She describes three reasons why we get stuck and procrastinate things. This short and sweet episode will give you some inspo to get things moving this week. Let's go!
2024-09-0207 minImpact Ready30. The Gap to CloseIn this episode, Steph describes the "gap to close"... closing the gap between our current reality and the life we desire. This gap exists in two forms: the gap between our current reality and our dream life, and the gap between who we are on the inside and who we present to the outside world. The gap is filled with beliefs, programming, feelings, and lack of clarity. Closing the gap requires addressing these internal factors and aligning our inner and outer selves. If you want to have a different life, or a different sense of fulfillment, this conversation is...
2024-08-2913 minImpact Ready29. Coaching...I Won't Tell You What To DoIn this episode, Steph explains coaching...what it is and what it isn't. Coaching is becoming popular worldwide as people recognize the power of a strong resilient mind. It helps manage the inner game and improves mental and emotional health, leadership, relationships, and performance. Steph explains the differences between coaching, therapy and consulting. This conversation helps you understand some of the gateways to improving your impact and becoming the person you want to be.
2024-08-2614 minImpact Ready28. This is Your Greatest Asset...Your HealthIn this episode, Steph talks about your greatest asset in your life...your health. She shares her personal journey and experiences with health crises, highlighting the mental and emotional impact of physical limitations. Steph encourages listeners to take action now, not just in terms of physical health but also mental and emotional well-being. She describes some of the foundational ways to prioritize mental and emotional health. Steph reminds us that health is true wealth and challenges listeners to assess their current health and make improvements.
2024-08-2216 minImpact Ready27. The When/Then Trap You Fall IntoThis episode discusses the 'when then' trap, which is the tendency to believe that achieving a certain goal will bring the desired feelings. It's one of the most common things we do as humans. The trap is twofold: it procrastinates beneficial actions and it often doesn't deliver the expected feelings. The root motivation behind our actions is to achieve certain feelings. Steph talks about importance of practicing and cultivating these feelings along the way, rather than relying solely on the end goal. She offers ways to help you avoid falling into the trap in your own life.
2024-08-1917 minImpact Ready26. Why You Don't Want to Set GoalsIn this episode, Steph discusses the fear of setting goals and the resistance that comes with it. It's all about the voice in our head that says "I don't want to set goals." The conversation is inspired by a client who expressed her fear of setting goals due to the possibility of failure. We talk about the discomfort with failure and the unknown, as well as the reduced tolerance for extremity in today's convenient world. We also discuss the difference between making a decision to do something versus just hoping it will work out. It's a new look at...
2024-08-1509 minImpact Ready25. The One About BodybuildingIn this episode, Steph shares her perspective on her wife's bodybuilding journey and the insights she gained from witnessing the dedication, discipline, and consistency required in the sport. She highlights the importance of preparation and consistency in achieving goals and discusses behaviors such as time management, research, finding mentors, creating systems, and setting mini goals. Steph reflects on the parallels between bodybuilding and other pursuits and encourages listeners to approach their own goals with dedication and consistency.
2024-08-1220 minImpact Ready24. Build Your Scaffolding for ResilienceIn this episode, Steph discusses the concept of scaffolding as a support network that helps you feel more supported in your life. She explores the importance of community and mentorship as key elements of scaffolding. She also emphasizes the role of health habits, such as exercise, nutrition, sleep, and stress management, in building a strong foundation. Additionally, she highlights the significance of personal needs, such as alone time and connection with nature, and being intentional about the information we allow into our lives. The conversation encourages listeners to reflect on their own scaffolding and consider what they need to...
2024-08-0812 minImpact Ready23. Choose Your "Hard"In this episode, Steph discusses the common sentiment of 'it's too hard' and the emotions behind it. But if everything is some kind of hard, why wouldn't you choose the "hard" that is going to take you to your desires and your best life? Steph shares her personal experience of coming out as gay and the internal struggle she faced. What hard are you choosing?
2024-08-0509 minImpact Ready22. It's Not Too Late For You To Make ChangeIn this episode, Steph debunks the idea that it is too late for you to make changes in life. One of the most common fears for people is that they won't be able to change things like their health, their mindset, or their circumstances. Don't fall into that trap! You are more than capable of change. Steph lists three truths that she leans on to remember that we are all capable of growth and overcoming challenges. It's not too late to pursue your desires and dreams.
2024-08-0115 minImpact Ready21. Problem Energy vs. Solution EnergyIn this episode, Steph discusses the concept of problem energy versus solution energy. The game-changing insight for her? It is impossible to find a solution from a place of problem energy. Problem energy is being focused on the problem, venting, criticizing, complaining, and getting stuck in the details of a challenge or struggle. It is characterized by low-frequency emotions such as anger, frustration, resentment, and hopelessness. On the other hand, solution energy is focused on finding a solution and is characterized by high-frequency emotions such as curiosity, open-mindedness, hopefulness, and joy. To shift from problem energy to solution energy...
2024-07-2916 minImpact Ready20. Remember..."I Asked For This"In this conversation, Steph Saffer discusses the feeling of overwhelm and stress that many people experience in their lives. How one phrase, "I asked for this," changed her perspective. She describes a time when she was feeling overwhelmed and how she realized that she had asked for every single thing she was managing. She emphasizes the importance of taking ownership of our circumstances and choosing to love and enjoy them.
2024-07-2508 minImpact Ready19. I Stopped Saying "Busy"This episode builds on the previous episode "The Language of your Life" and refers to how you talk about your life and the words you use. Steph shares how she stopped using the word 'busy' and the impact it's had on her life and relationships. Choosing language with intention can lead to more positive and energizing interactions. It's sends a message and begs the question, what's the story I want to be telling about my life?
2024-07-2208 minImpact Ready18. My Top 5 Health HacksSteph discusses her top five health habits that have helped her maintain great vitality and energy consistently. She emphasizes the importance of focusing on foundational health habits rather than getting lost in trendy health hacks. The five habits she highlights are exercise, eating in a way that's healthy for her, prioritizing high-quality sleep, practicing meditation, and having a supplement regimen. She is passionate that we as a society need a solid health foundation. We don't need more hacks, we need better habits.
2024-07-1823 minImpact Ready17. Discover Your SaboteursThis episode explores the topic of saboteurs, which are the inner critics and negative self-talk that can sabotage us. Saboteurs are learned stories that we create in our heads as a result of our lived experiences, and they can influence our thoughts, behaviors, and emotions. Everyone has saboteurs, and it's important to become aware of them in order to change our behavior and feel more empowered. Some common saboteur personas include the perfectionist, people pleaser, martyr, controller, victim, and judge. Saboteurs are rooted in fear and the belief that our needs won't be met. Steph talks about how to...
2024-07-1516 minImpact Ready16. Bring Big Energy for Big OutcomesIn this episode, Steph discusses the importance of bringing extraordinary energy to achieve extraordinary outcomes in life. She highlights the disconnect between wanting big dreams and goals but bringing lackluster or inconsistent energy to the process. Steph emphasizes the need for self-awareness, intention, and consistency in cultivating and maintaining high energy levels. She describes doing an energy audit to assess the energy you bring to your daily life. By being aware and intentional about their energy, we can align it with our desired outcomes and have a greater impact.
2024-07-1115 minImpact Ready15. W.A.I.T.This conversation is about effective communication and the importance of listening. Steph shares a helpful acronym, W.A.I.T. (Why Am I Talking), as a reminder to be mindful of your intention in conversation and prioritize listening. The majority of people are terrible listeners, often just waiting for their turn to talk. To be an impactful person, listening needs to be a top skill. Active listening involves being curious, open-minded, and setting aside ego. It's one of the keys to being a person of impact.
2024-07-0806 minImpact Ready14. What Are Your Top Desires?Steph explores the concept of desires and how they contribute to a fulfilling life. She discusses the when-then trap, where people believe that achieving certain goals will bring them fulfillment, but often find that it doesn't. Steph emphasizes that desires are the root feelings that make life meaningful and suggests focusing on the motivation behind tasks and goals. She identifies some of the core desires that many people share and encourages listeners to identify their own desires and align their actions with them to experience more fulfillment.
2024-07-0417 minImpact Ready13. Celebrate the Wins (You Need to Do This)In this conversation, Steph discusses the importance of celebrating wins and the negative impact of constantly striving for the next goal without recognizing the achievements. She introduces the concept of 'the gap' and 'the gain', where the gap represents always looking ahead and feeling like you're falling short, while the gain is about looking back and acknowledging your progress. Steph emphasizes the need to integrate the wins to upgrade your self-identity. She challenges listeners to audit their big wins and encourages them to celebrate and level up their self-perception. By doing so, they can become more confident, capable, and...
2024-07-0108 minImpact Ready12. Expectations vs. Agreements - How to Win In RelationshipsIn this episode, Steph discusses the importance of using agreements instead of expectations in relationships. She explains how expectations can lead to resistance and conflict, while agreements create mutual understanding and trust. Steph shares how she applied this concept in her relationships with her stepdaughters and how it transformed their interactions. She also highlights the benefits of using agreements in work, marriage and friendships. The challenge to you? Let go of your expectations to live a more stress-free life.
2024-06-2712 minImpact Ready11. You're Doing a Good JobIn this episode, Steph emphasizes the importance of validating and acknowledging others by telling them 'You're doing a good job.' She discusses how the need for true quality connection is stronger than ever in today's world, where people feel isolated and lonely despite being more connected through the internet. Steph shares a personal story about her wife's battle with breast cancer and how she realized the power of acknowledging and encouraging each other. She encourages listeners to spread this simple message of acknowledgement and support to the people in their lives.
2024-06-2407 minImpact Ready10. Discipline: One Who Follows a PlanDiscipline is essential for having a powerful impact in the world. However, the word discipline often carries negative connotations and can lead to feelings of shame and guilt. One way to reframe discipline? Think of it simply as one who follows a plan that you set for yourself. When assessing your own self-discipline, consider if you lack energy, if you haven't taken ownership of your plan, or if you're not willing to be uncomfortable. Steph breaks down these 3 key questions you might ask yourself, and how to get honest about your self-discipline game.
2024-06-2011 minImpact Ready9. Know Your Input: How to Keep a Killer MindsetThis episode discusses the impact of external influences on our mindset and suggests monitoring and controlling our input to have a positive output. When we are aware of what's coming in, we can be more intentional about what's coming out energetically. Steph describes various actions that can contribute to positive output. Consistency and practice are highlighted as key factors in maintaining a positive mindset.
2024-06-1708 minImpact Ready7. Bring The Best of Who You AreSteph talks about the importance of bringing the best of who you are in order to have a positive impact on others. Many people pursue self-development and growth for the sake of improving their relationships with others or being a better role model for their family. There's a need to prioritize self-care and personal growth in order to show up as the best version of oneself. Someone in your life needs you to bring your best self and to take action this year.
2024-06-1008 minImpact Ready5. The Language of Your LifeThe conversation explores the power of language and how it shapes our experiences and impacts our well-being. Steph emphasizes the importance of being conscious of the words we use to describe our lives and the story we tell about ourselves. The language we use has energy and influences our thoughts, feelings, and even our physical health. It also affects our ability to have a positive impact on others and shapes our perspectives and the way we see the world. Is the language you're using a reflection of the story you want to tell about your life?
2024-06-0314 minImpact Ready4. How You Face ChallengeIn this conversation, Steph explores the different perspectives people have on challenge and how it affects their experience of life. She shares her personal experience of growing up with a single mom and witnessing her resilience in the face of adversity. Steph discusses two paths people can take when faced with challenges: viewing them as afflictions or as assets. She emphasizes the importance of consciously choosing the path of seeing challenges as opportunities for growth and learning. Steph also highlights the power of mindset and the ability to choose one's attitude in any given circumstance.
2024-05-2312 minImpact Ready3. Radical Ownership (Will Change Your Life)In this conversation, Steph discusses the concept of radical ownership and its importance in having a powerful impact on one's life. Radical ownership involves taking responsibility for every aspect of one's life, including thoughts, feelings, actions, past experiences, and present circumstances. It is about accepting and owning everything that is within one's sphere of influence, regardless of fault or intention. Radical ownership leads to self-awareness and empowers individuals to find solutions and make intentional choices. It frees them from being beholden to other people's reactions and emotions and allows them to focus on personal growth and positive impact.
2024-05-2313 minImpact Ready1. Ready for Impact? IntroductionThe first episode of Impact Ready focuses on the concept of impact and the influence we have on others. The host, Steph Saffer, shares her personal journey and experiences that have shaped her understanding of impact. She emphasizes the importance of preparation and consistency in creating powerful impact. The show aims to help listeners become more aware of their influence and increase their satisfaction and fulfillment in life.
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OptimizeYou PodcastComing Out, Perfectionism, and the Power of Story ft. Steph SafferIn this podcast, you hear from Steph Saffer, cofounder of OptimizeYou, as she gives insight into some of the big events that shaped her throughout her life. She describes herself as a "recovering perfectionist" and talks about how losing a parent at a young age and growing up questioning her sexuality were some of the origins of that perfectionism. She also discusses the power of story...her "coming out" story...and how visibility and the retelling of experiences can help others in their own lives and struggles. Both Sarah and Steph believe that one of the fundamental...
2020-09-1627 min
OptimizeYou PodcastHow to Create Big Impact with Small Changes Sarah Hayes X Steph Saffer In today's episode we talk about how we decided on the name "OptimizeYou." We all to want to feel better. And often times, we don't have to change our whole life to achieve that. Even small changes, if made into a practice, can add up to big impact. We might not be able to control all of our circumstances, but there is always room to optimize our health.
2019-11-0805 minOptimizeYou PodcastHow Struggle Can Serve You Sarah Hayes X Steph Saffer In this episode we discuss doing vs. being and the struggles we all encounter as we strive to "be." We can do hard things. Struggle can serve us. Not only can we learn through struggle but we can learn vicariously from someone else's struggles. There is no road map and we are all learning as we navigate the twists and turns in life. We hope you enjoy today's episode.
2019-10-3106 minOptimizeYou PodcastWhy Meditation Gets Easier Sarah Hayes X Steph Saffer In this episode we discuss our own struggles with practicing mindfulness and how, despite those difficulties, we have come to view meditation as essential for our well-being. Sitting down and getting our busy minds to quiet down can be a challenge, but like all things, with practice mindfulness becomes as easy as breathing.
2019-10-2213 min